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It appears to be a purple day

Today is purple 💜

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Met up with my sister-in-law and lo, we both have new shoes

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One thing that has made me a much more well-adjusted person is a clip I once saw of Hank Green saying that anyone can be in amazing shape as long as being in amazing shape is one of their top three priorities.

(This is obviously a generalization that isn't true for everyone. But it is true for most people and I'm proceeding from there.)

This "top three priorities" framing has genuinely reduced my tendency toward jealousy and self-comparison a lot. Now when I feel envious of someone’s spotless, aesthetic home, I think to myself, “Having a spotless, aesthetic home is probably one of their top three priorities. It’s definitely not one of mine, so I shouldn’t expect my home to look like that.”

Or when I see an influencer with a body that takes a ton of work to maintain: “Maintaining that body is obviously one of her top three priorities, because it’s her livelihood. My livelihood is my brain, so I’m never going to prioritize my body like that.”

It also helps me to identify areas that I actually DO want to prioritize more. I realized in recent years that my envy for my friends who prioritized writing more than I did was NOT going away, so I started to prioritize writing more. (Not top three, but higher priority than it has been in the past.)

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You should be starting a recipe book. I don't give a shit if you're only 20-years-old. The modern web is rotting away bit by bit before our very eyes. You have no idea when that indie mom blog is going down or when Pinterest will remove that recipe. Copy it down in a notebook, physically or digitally. Save it somewhere only you can remove it. Trust me, looking for a recipe only to find out it's been wiped off the internet is so fucking sad. I've learned my lesson one too many times.

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Do you ever write out a multi-paragraph rebuttal to something and then think "actually I do not want to get involved in this" and close it

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My supervisor is looking stern.

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they should make a pill that makes people in their 20s feel good about where their lives are going

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I found my Moomin postcards ❤️❤️❤️

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Shimmering light

marie_skoven

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What if we gave universal healthcare to everyone who wanted it and everyone else who didn't can just keep getting scammed by these companies for some reason

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my least favourite turn based strategy game is email

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There’s a handy but rather expensive book called The Maudsley Deprescribing Guidelines that can help with this. Every GP surgery should really invest in a copy.

I just really wish people would go with "be careful if you want to quit or reduce a psych med that has helped you" or "quitting a psych med cold turkey is often dangerous" instead of the ever-present "NEVER EVER STOP TAKING YOUR PSYCH MEDS". Because reality is much more complex and varied than "taking psych meds = good and helpful" and "not taking psych meds = bad and dangerous". That's just not everyone's reality and it shouldn't be treated as a universal truth.

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My set up for February in my journal. The candle is for my Grandma Joan, who would have been 108 on the 1st.

Stickers and art by (in no particular order), @petite-gloom Sterling Ink, Flying Tiger and Bartista on Etsy

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Love the argument "oh but if you transition you'll have to deal with being trans your whole life" because first of all there is nothing bad about being trans and second I'm still gonna be trans even if I don't medically transition I'll just be trans and miserable instead of trans and happy

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This week in Filofax.

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Ok wait let her speak