virgosummers1995

[virgosummers1995]

“When nobody celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.”

— Joel Osteen

[virgosummers1995]

I went ahead, grabbed my lady balls, and did it! I’m super scared to try and match with people though. But, here’s to ending stigma and shame!!! Thanks again to chemherpgal for being my inspiration!!!!

[virgosummers1995]

Because we all need to hear this sometimes.

I’ve been having a bad couple of weeks and I just really needed to hear these:

You are NOT a burden

You are valued 

You are NOT a shitty friend, even when you think you are

You don’t need to have it all figured out yet

It’s OK to have bad days

And it’s OK to hide from the world if you’re having a bad day

Because sometimes you just need to have some time to yourself

And that’s OK

You don’t have to do anything that you don’t want to

What happened to you in the past is NOT your fault

Don’t feel guilty for not being productive

It’s going to be OK

Breathe

Relax

Recharge

YOU ARE WANTED

YOU ARE LOVED

YOU CAN DO THIS

I BELIEVE IN YOU

[virgosummers1995]

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The last few months have been pretty stressful and scary. At the end of November, I tested positive for HSV-2 and it was devastating. Some of the feelings of guilt/shame/etc. have gone away after learning more information, yet I can’t figure out what triggers my outbreaks. I’ve been taking Lysine supplements (occasionally) and Valtrex but still seem to have an outbreak here and there. I have anxiety, so the stress could be the main thing, but I’ve noticed that shaving irritates it and maybe triggers an outbreak? Anyone else have that problem? Any advice at all is appreciated. ♥️

[virgosummers1995]

If you have an STI

That does not make you a degenerate. That does not make you dirty. That does not make you a slut. That does not make you unlovable. That does not make you any less attractive. That does not make you immoral.

And if anyone tells you otherwise, send them my way.

[virgosummers1995]

To those who chose to reject someone simply because they disclosed their herpes status

You are entitled to leave if you want. But keep this in mind:

80-90% of the population has herpes. Of those, 85% of people who have herpes have no idea. Of those who are aware they have herpes only half will actually tell you. Edit: to be more specific roughly ¼ people under the age of 50 have hsv 1 and 1/6 have hsv 2. 

So, when you reject someone who is honest enough to tell you they have herpes because you don’t want to take that risk, just remember you are, in fact, taking a much larger risk with all the other people out there who may not know their status or be honest. Statistically speaking you are safer with someone who knows their status and is honest with you than with anyone else. And even those who claim they get tested regularly, herpes is not included in most STD panels unless you specifically ask.

So just keep that in mind when making your decision.