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On of my favourite book series is spellslinger, the protagonist of the whole series is not the chosen one. He’s the chosen one’s sister and is at every turn fucking up and fumbling in the dark. This is precisely what makes any win in the series so exciting, we’re muddling through it with him and it’s fun !

This may sound like odd advice, but I think it's important to remember that your character does not need to be smart.

Because there's often a lot of focus on characters, especially protagonists, having agency and pushing the story forward, people often make their protagonist particularly smart--they come up with the right solution at the end, they surprise people with how smart they are, they are one of the best at whatever they do.

Often, it ends up reading like a power fantasy, where the author gets to write and the reader gets to experience being proven right, other people seeing just how smart they are after having been underestimated. There's nothing inherently wrong with that.

But smart is not a personality trait that every character or every protagonist needs to have. Your protagonist can have the wrong ideas. Your protagonist can (and should) get stuff wrong. They can be a worker bee, a Type-B personality, a doer rather than a thinker. They can be a solid B- student (or whatever the equivalent is in your story).

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Sometimes I see a take I don’t agree with and I don’t choose violence. Like yeah I think you’re wrong but I don’t NEEED to fight a stranger on the internet about it. I’ll just write a thesis in my mind about it

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Rotted fucking take, the seizure of the us government because you feel and election was stolen from you with no clear aims or goals is very different from the on going seizure of buildings by students for the very clear goal of pressuring their university to divest from arms manufacturers supporting a Palestinian genocide

You do realize that breaking into and occupying an administrative building while destroying property and wearing costumes is exactly what the rioters did on the January 6th attempted insurrection, right? Naming specific governing officers they hate, saying they “can’t hide,” claiming they’re justified because they’re the good guys fighting against the evil people in power.

The January 6th rioters were crazy because what they did was crazy. Not just because they thought Trump won the election.

I get that it’s university government buildings rather than US government buildings, but it’s a really, really clear echo. These protestors are not better just because you think they’re right.

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Wait this bitch destroyed this woman’s life because she as a *child* was mean to him and this inadvertently led to his younger brothers death

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The nutbush has broken containment

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The boopssss

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we joke about hbomberguy dropping in bisexual jokes all through his vid so somerton couldn’t hit back at him with the old homophobia defence. but can we talk about how todd in the shadows didn’t? like hbomberguy is a big channel; bigger than somerton. todd isn’t. he’s just some straight dude who got so offended at what this guy was doing to his own community that he was said, nah fuck that, and made a two hour video disputing every single incorrect fact he could find on a topic that isn’t even his niche.

the man is a hero. we respect our troops in this house.

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Imagine saying this when you haven’t watched the video. Like Todd didn’t insert himself in his video he explicitly says he’s making it because James stole from one of his queer friends and heard about Harris’s video so he started watching his videos and noticed all the lies. He stated in his video he waited til h bombs video to not steal his thunder but was doing this because he and his friends meticulously research their videos. That the lies James told made him so angry because they were not only lies but damaging and dangerous ones that can hurt real people and his community. It’s almost as though no kind of ally ship is good enough

we joke about hbomberguy dropping in bisexual jokes all through his vid so somerton couldn’t hit back at him with the old homophobia defence. but can we talk about how todd in the shadows didn’t? like hbomberguy is a big channel; bigger than somerton. todd isn’t. he’s just some straight dude who got so offended at what this guy was doing to his own community that he was said, nah fuck that, and made a two hour video disputing every single incorrect fact he could find on a topic that isn’t even his niche.

the man is a hero. we respect our troops in this house.

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Paul king casting sally hawkins as mother, so good he did it twice

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the quiet whispered way Owen Wilson says 'let time pass' is actually devastating.

don't ever let anyone think he's somehow a lesser actor than Hiddleston just because he cut his teeth in Ben Stiller movies not Shakespeare. That wistful delivery gutted me every bit as much as Loki's shaky smile when he realizes what he has to do.

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Imagine living somewhere where this shit is a thing… couldn’t be me always the same time in brisbane year round it’s 4pm. Always 4 pm!

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I feel like Gnome cum would be really thick and taste like mushrooms.

I'm not interested in this

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do *you* think with your dick?

I think with my packer

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Just a little heads up that my print store is having a sale!

Thank you so much to everyone who purchases prints from me, your support means the world~ 💛

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so one of the things that's so horrifying about birth control is that you have to, like, navigate this incredibly personal choice about your body and yet also face the epitome of misogyny. like, someone in the comments will say it wasn't that bad for me, and you'll be utterly silenced. like, everyone treats birth control like something that's super dirty. like, you have no fucking information or control over this thing because certain powerful people find it icky.

first it was the oral contraceptives. you went on those young, mostly for reasons unrelated to birth control - even your dermatologist suggested them to control your acne. the list of side effects was longer than your arm, and you just stared at it, horrified.

it made you so mentally ill, but you just heard that this was adulthood. that, yes, there are of course side effects, what did you expect. one day you looked up yasmin makes me depressed because surely this was far too intense, and you discovered that over 12,000 lawsuits had been successfully filed against the brand. it remains commonly prescribed on the open market. you switched brands a few times before oral contraceptives stopped being in any way effective. your doctor just, like, shrugged and said you could try a different brand again.

and the thing is that you're a feminist. you know from your own experience that birth control can be lifesaving, and that even when used for birth control - it is necessary healthcare. you have seen it save so many people from such bad situations, yourself included. it is critical that any person has access to birth control, and you would never suggest that we just get rid of all of it.

you were a little skeeved out by the implant (heard too many bad stories about it) and figured - okay, iud. it was some of the worst pain you've ever fucking experienced, and you did it with a small number of tylenol in your system (3), like you were getting your bikini line waxed instead of something practically sewn into your body.

and what's wild is that because sometimes it isn't a painful insertion process, it is vanishingly rare to find a doctor that will actually numb the area. while your doctor was talking to you about which brand to choose, you were thinking about the other ways you've been injured in your life. you thought about how you had a suspicious mole frozen off - something so small and easy - and how they'd numbed a huge area. you thought about when you broke your wrist and didn't actually notice, because you'd thought it was a sprain.

your understanding of pain is that how the human body responds to injury doesn't always relate to the actual pain tolerance of the person - it's more about how lucky that person is physically. maybe they broke it in a perfect way. maybe they happened to get hurt in a place without a lot of nerve endings. some people can handle a broken femur but crumble under a sore tooth. there's no true way to predict how "much" something actually hurts.

in no other situation would it be appropriate for doctors to ignore pain. just because someone can break their wrist and not feel it doesn't mean no one should receive pain meds for a broken wrist. it just means that particular person was lucky about it. it should not define treatment.

in the comments of videos about IUDs, literally thousands of people report agony. blinding, nauseating, soul-crushing agony. they say things like i had 2 kids and this was the worst thing i ever experienced or i literally have a tattoo on my ribs and it felt like a tickle. this thing almost killed me or would rather run into traffic than ever feel that again.

so it's either true that every single person who reports severe pain is exaggerating. or it's true that it's far more likely you will experience pain, rather than "just a pinch." and yet - there's nothing fucking been done about it. it kind of feels like a shrug is layered on top of everything - since technically it's elective, isn't it kind of your fault for agreeing to select it? stop being fearmongering. stop being defensive.

you fucking needed yours. you are almost weirdly protective of it. yours was so important for your physical and mental health. it helped you off hormonal birth control and even started helping some of your symptoms. it still fucking hurt for no fucking reason.

once while recovering from surgery, they offered you like 15 days of vicodin. you only took 2 of them. you've been offered oxy for tonsillitis. you turned down opioids while recovering from your wisdom tooth extraction. everything else has the option. you fucking drove yourself home after it, shocked and quietly weeping, feeling like something very bad had just happened. the nurse that held your hand during the experience looked down at you, tears in her eyes, and said - i know. this is cruelty in action.

and it's fucked up because the conversation is never just "hey, so the way we are doing this is fucking barbaric and doctors should be required to offer serious pain meds" - it's usually something around the lines of "well, it didn't kill you, did it?"

you just found out that removing that little bitch will hurt just as bad. a little pinch like how oral contraceptives have "some" serious symptoms. like your life and pain are expendable or not really important. like maybe we are all hysterical about it?

hysteria comes from the latin word for uterus, which is great!

you stand here at a crossroads. like - this thing is so important. did they really have to make it so fucking dangerous. and why is it that if you make a complaint, you're told - i didn't even want you to have this in the first place. we're told be careful what you wish for. we're told that it's our fault for wanting something so illict; we could simply choose not to need medication. that maybe if we don't like the scraps, we should get ready to starve.

we have been saying for so long - "i'm not asking you to remove the option, i'm asking you to reconsider the risk." this entire time we hear: well, this is what you wanted, isn't it?

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I know people on tumblr looove stories of underwater cave diving, but I haven't seen anyone talk about nitrogen narcosis aka "raptures of the deep"

basically when you want to get your advanced scuba certification (allowing you to go more than 60 feet deep) you have to undergo a very specific test: your instructor takes you down past the 60+ foot threshold, and she brings a little underwater white board with her.

she writes a very basic math problem on that board. 6 + 15. she shows it to you, and you have to solve it.

if you can solve it, you're good. that is the hardest part of the test.

because here's what happens: there is a subset of people, and we have no real idea why this happens only to them, who lose their minds at depth. they're not dying, they're not running out of oxygen, they just completely lose their sense of identity when deep in the sea.

a woman on a dive my instructor led once vanished during the course of the excursion. they were diving near this dropoff point, beyond which the depth exceeded 60 feet and he'd told them not to go down that way. the instructor made his way over to look for her and found a guy sitting at the edge of the dropoff (an underwater cliff situation) just staring down into the dark. the guy is okay, but he's at the threshold, spacing out, and mentally difficult to reach. they try to communicate, and finally the guy just points down into the dark, knowing he can't go down there, but he saw the woman go.

instructor is deep water certified and he goes down. he shines his light into the dark, down onto the seafloor which is at 90 feet below the surface. he sees the woman, her arms locked to her sides, moving like a fish, swimming furiously in circles in the pitch black.

she is hard to catch but he stops her and checks her remaining oxygen: she is almost out, on account of swimming a marathon for absolutely no reason. he is able to drag her back up, get her to a stable depth to decompress, and bring her to the surface safely.

when their masks are off and he finally asks her what happened, and why was she swimming like that, she says she fully, 100% believed she was a mermaid, had always been a mermaid, and something was hunting her in the dark 👍

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Woah they’re so not like other gorls

everyone in the cinemas will be wearing pink for Barbie.

I'm going to ruin everyone's day and selfies by wearing the darkest colour known to men when I go and watch Barbie. and when it's Oppenheimer, I'll wear my outfit with a colour brighter than the fricking bomb.