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I just want to write this and hopefully one day when the dreams come true I can come back here to see what I write.

Before I write my so-called dream, I want to share this “manifestation” that I’ve done. I used to imagine what if I work as a trader or in the trading room — wondering how cool it’d be. Perhaps, I did it cuz I liked to watch movies about banker or trader, such as Wolfs of Wallstreet and I Don’t Know How She Does It. Then, in 2019 it happened! I worked in the trading room with the help from my former colleague — he referred me to his boss. If you read this, you know who you are, dude.

Let’s take few steps backward to college life. Whenever I had free time from studying, I used to go to city center with my friends to hang out and I really enjoyed looking at those skyscrapers and imagined if I could work at one of those tall buildings. It seemed super cool to me. Some of those buildings were the offices of Prud*ntial and HSB*.

You know what? In 2014, after randomly applied for an internship at Prudent*al on Jobstreet site, I got accepted! Yeay, dream comes true! I said to myself. I worked exactly inside the building I dreamt of HAHA. The manifestation didn’t stop there. Two years later, I got accepted to work for HS*C in that building with the big logo that I saw!! I was so excited and felt that God was too kind to me.

The obsession to work in a nice office was fulfilled. The next manifestation was about company’s name that I saw on transactions that I monitored (yeah sounds so weird) HAHA. When I saw Bank of Murica name on the transaction receipt, I started wondering how it’d feel to work in such a bank. Exactly a year later, I was reached by a head hunter to work there! Can you believe it? **When I wrote this, the song from Taylor Swift-Mine was playing and the lyrics was exactly “can you believe it”.

Then, another dream was to work for a German bank cuz I studied German Studies in the university and didn’t want to waste such skill. When I passed by Deuts*he Ba*k building, I wondered how to apply for the job vacancy there. As soon as I reached home, I looked up the website and applied for the available jobs there. No luck.

Later in 2017, when my manager in that American bank couldn’t continue my contract, he referred me to his friend in another bank. Then, I was so surprised! It was for De*tsche B*nk. OMG!!! God loves me so much? I got accepted and worked there for 2.5 years. I always believe in dreams! Dreaming and working for it to happen.

Lately, after finishing my master’s degree I am more motivated to get a significant role in the job market so that I can have an important role in a company. I don’t know exactly what I’m aiming for right now, but I often look at myself in the mirror and posing like those CEOs and Board of Director’s members. This may sound ridiculous, but I would like to manifest this dream. One day I’ll make it 💖

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It’s been 11 months since I arrived in Japan last year and it’s almost spring again!

I’ve experienced so many things more than I could imagine… My life has been both amazing and miserable here in this homogeneous country. I’ve learned a lot.

The first three months of my life here was hell. Adjusting myself to a foreign country that seems amazing only for vacationing was hard. Most people can’t speak/understand English despite the existence of Google translate, iTalk, Coursera, and other tech solutions to learn a new language, you name it. Also, people are reserved and risk averse. So, it’s hard to ask for help and start communicating with them. In addition to that, administration stuffs are paper and call based which means you gotta speak Japanese! No other channel to communicate with city administration staff.

The next three months were better, but it’s still a rollercoaster journey. Opening a bank account without being able to use the debit card was a very alien concept to me who have worked in banking industry for 6 years. Yep, Japan can be that weird! Also, you can’t do any bank transfer if you haven’t stayed in Japan for 6 months and you have to have a part time job to do it :) — I had a useless debate with JP Bank staff explaining that I DO HAVE MONEY in Indonesia although I’m not working at the moment. Nope, they don’t want to understand cuz they just follow whatever’s written on the book.

Entering the 7th month of staying in Japan was a bit okay-ish cuz life was getting better as I’ve adapted to the situation and circumstances. Oh, thank God! I have Michi. People start communicating with me cuz I have a dog and perhaps they think I’m a Japanese because of that :). I felt less lonely.

When I thought my life in Japan was going to improve… my school did a terrible thing to me and my future :). I can’t explain it here. It’s too painful to even remember. Now, I’m back to square 1. My life is miserable again.

I can’t wait for some good or big news coming my way. God, please… I really hope I can leave this country and all of the bad memories behind. I want to go back to my messy but lovely country and restart my career again. Regardless of the corrupted government and messy public transportation, I believe Indonesia is where I belong :).

Hopefully, when I write something here again… it’s gonna be a good thing 🤍♥️

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Liquid cat

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Michael Cinco | Spring/Summer 2023

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Japan, finally I’m back!

In 2018 I promised to myself that I will definitely come to this country again. Yet, at that time I thought I’d marry a Japanese by the time I come back here. No one can predict the future, apparently.

Yep, now I’m here in Japan with my husband who is a Vietnamese. I have never imagined that I’d marry someone from Vietnam since I didn’t encounter anything with that country. Life is full of surprises, isn’t it?

Although it is a little bit unexpected to stay in Japan with a Vietnamese husband, marrying him was the best decision ever. He is the one that helps me to realize this dream. I’m so grateful for his existence in my life. This time we both are graduate students in a university in Nagoya. I never expected this, too. Again, the universe never fails to amaze me.

Since it’s only my 4th day in Nagoya, I don’t have much to share yet. Anyway, here are some beautiful pictures that I took.

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Bella Hadid is Vogue’s April 2022 Cover Star! “Fashion can make you or break you. And if it makes you, you have to make a conscious effort every day for it not to break you.” Bella Hadid is a bona fide supermodel in the full flush of her fame, but it is who she is on the inside, when the cameras are down, that she’s ready to reveal to the world. For Vogue’s April issue, Hadid gets candid about mental health, happiness, health struggles, and everything in between. Read the full profile: http://vogue.cm/hIg53uz

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50 posts!

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Hunter Schafer Steps Into the Light

Playing Jules on HBO’s ‘Euphoria’ may have made Hunter Schafer a star, but it is only the first chapter of this artist’s story—and she’s in complete control

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Hunter Schafer Steps Into the Light

Playing Jules on HBO’s ‘Euphoria’ may have made Hunter Schafer a star, but it is only the first chapter of this artist’s story—and she’s in complete control

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Peach and Strawberry Panna Cotta

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Here are fashion stylings done by myself for wedding event 👰 ✨🤍

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I have finally started a cake business which is something I really wanted to do since long time ago! Now I’m still thinking how to expand the business and make it sustainable. Luckily, my partner is always supportive and helps me with the business plan. It’s always fulfilling when you do something you love ✨🤍

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Stu likes to make sure I get the memo that it’s dinner time...😅🥖🥩🍗.

Stu: ‘Mother! You are 1 minute late with dinner! Feeeed meeee!!’

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Chicken Corgi - costume inspiration for you cutie beloved Corgi :)

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Tokyo, I'll be Back Soon!

It was my very first time to visit Tokyo - which I have been dreaming of in my whole life. I felt so nervous to fly there and I was so afraid of getting lost. I was really mad at my boyfriend because he was the one who said that I'd better be choosing Narita over Haneda and he'd pick me up. However, just a week before the D-day, he said he couldn't and convinced me that Tokyo is safe and accessible with local line train. I was like, Hello?! You're Japanese for God sake and you're travelling a lot. Meanwhile, I am here a total home buddy who will come to Japan for F VERY FIRST TIME. GOSH. So, yeah we fought.

With the anger and arrogance, I told myself not to ask for his direction nor any advice (though, he provided me the directions and train name). I ignored his information and started googling the direction up. The special day has come!

I had the 7-hours flight with AirAsia to Narita airport. I couldn't sleep at all so that I made my Japanese homework during the flight. Arrived at Narita! Geez, it was so cold but felt nice. I felt at home. Seriously. While breathing the fresh air, I realized that I have to think about how to get to Tokyo by myself.

After having passed the immigration smoothly, I ran to Keisei Line ticketing box and purchased the ticket for ￥1,030. It was so much cheaper than what Google told me. The train would take me to Ueno (last stop). I figured out myself where the platform was while carrying my luggage with headache due to the insomnia. Then, I found it! Yeay. I stood next to a kawaii girl who seemed nice and kind.

I tried to listen to the train announcement in Japanese and thank God! there was the English announcement following. While waiting for the train patiently, I tried to break the ice with that girl. I was right! she's nice and kind. Her name is Midori. She told me about the trip duration and said that my name is beautiful. Well yeah, those things aren't related. Then, we got in the train and had to sit separately because it was a bit crowded. During the trip I kept thinking of how to get to Toco House after arriving at Ueno St. After 40 minutes, Midori got off at Funabashi and she said goodbye to me and wished I'd have a nice trip. I wasn't brave enough to ask for her Line ID. Anyway, she's unforgettable since she was the very first Japanese I met in Japan.

Arriving at Ueno. Erm, I didn't know where to go! And... I didn't have sim card nor wifi with me. Haha, right! I didn't have internet connection at all. So, I decided to get out of Ueno St. and walked around until I found a wifi spot in front of Ueno Park. Google told me to walk to get to Toco. Nah, since I wouldn't have internet connection with me, I decided to take train and took screen shot of the next direction. It went well haha I was saved! Arrived at Iriya St. I carried my luggage and climbed the stairs with strong wind slapping my face so hard. Damn, it was hard. Again, I tried to look for internet connection but found nothing. I was a bit scared. Then, I wanted to purchase sim card at FamilyMart. But, hey! I found free wifi there HA-HA (later I figured out that no convenient store sells sim card). Surprisingly, the wifi still worked until I reached Toco House. Oh, God! Thank you so much.

I could never forget my very first day in Japan.

Having spent 5 days in Tokyo makes me “see” so many things I have been wondering about. Also, I realized that Tokyo is where I want to work and live in! The city personality just suits my character. I felt so comfortable and worried about nothing. I also felt healthier inside and out. I love the city! At some point I missed Indonesia, especially the food. But, overall Tokyo has given me hope to grow and develop myself. I'm glad that I made the trip as I needed and I spent enough me-time there.

So, Japan (Tokyo)... I will be back in May next year and we will see what you'll give me.

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3 Things That Make Employee Stay

Resignation is a very common thing in someone’s working life. Sometime they don’t want to quit, but they have to. So many things come into consideration when someone tends to give up their current job. This time I will not explain about  those so called considerations. Instead, I will tell you three things that make us - an employee - become a survivor at work.

1. BENEFITS

Believe it or not, there are so many people who still stay loyal in a hell company with a devil boss because they give good salary and benefit. I am not trying to be judgemental or anything, just trying to be honest here. Do you really want to keep being a slave for someone who doesn’t appreciate you just because you are afraid that no other company would pay you better. No worries, someone can have different priority than others. Perhaps, they are already satisfied with what they have, in terms of money, and they don’t really have concern about career path.

2. COLLEAGUES

This one is also one of top considerations that comes up in someone’s mind whenever they want to write a resignation letter. I agree that it is not easy to find so called friends at work that match your personalities. I have ever experienced this back in 2016 where I found some colleagues whom I want to befriend with forever in my life. We get along together naturally, not because we have known each other at school or colleague. We just felt like we are meant for each other. Yahoo! and that was exactly the hardest part when I have to choose one priority between friendship and career. Right after I had quit that job, I couldn’t find my comfort zone anymore. Thus, I believe that so many people put their ambitions aside because they are already comfortable with what they have.

3. OPPORTUNITIES

Having no friend? Not a big deal. Devil boss and Satan colleagues? Not a concern. The most important reason to stay is the opportunities. Many people seem don’t care about what is around them. They come to the office because they have to work and that is the only reason. This is me right now. I haven’t found that so-called colleague and friend in one package at the office. He-he. And, I don’t care. Ha-ha. The job offers good salary and great opportunities. Two of those top reasons that make an employee stay. 2/3 are enough.

So, what makes you stay?

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Wedding or Marriage?

I am now 24 years old and still not having any plan to get married at any time soon. It’s not only because of work, but also I haven’t found Mr. Right yet. 

Speaking of marriage, I am now able to see the difference between wedding and marriage. I also can see which one is the more important than the other.

Wedding is only a celebration. Meanwhile, marriage is more than spouses union. Wedding lasts less than 24 hours, while marriage is supposed to last for years.

This thought really affects on how I think about my once in a lifetime moment. I believe that we don’t have to spend $$$$ for wedding, but we definitely need to prepare $$$$ for our life together with spouse. 

So, now I see that there is no urgency to have such a eye-catching yet pricey celebration just because we want other people to remember our wedding. In fact, we wouldn’t know if they will remember. 

Then, it comes to my mind that I would like to have a simple wedding matrimony with Mr. Right and our immediate family members. Simple yet unforgettable for both me and Mr. Right.

Lastly, I am so persistent that once I meet Mr. Right at the right time, then I wouldn’t waste my time to wait until we have “enough money” to held such a classy and pricey wedding party. I would say YES! and we will live our life together happily ever after.

Remember! It’s not the bow. It’s the vow.