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The church I want to see

I want to see a church filled with LGBTQ, witches, POC, addicts, and all those who have been cast aside. I want to see a church that follows Jesus’s example. I want to see a church that loves with no conditions. I want to see a church full of black sheep. I want to see a church where there is no rich or poor. I want to see a church that studies the Bible to the same level you would in…

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To Work or Not to Work: The Pandemic Dilemma

When the pandemic started started it didn’t effect me other than wearing a mask. I was a stay at home mom. I’m a natural introvert and therefore spent most of my time isolated anyways. However, at the beginning of this summer I was looking for childcare so I could go back to school and ended up with a job at the center my son attended. That is, until we were shut down due to covid. Now I’m faced…

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The Useless Nipple Revenge

All throughout my pregnancy I read up on breastfeeding and was excited for that bond. Although after my son was born I had supplement with formula, I still breast fed on demand till 18 months. It was not baby led weaning. It was a love hate relationship. I loved the bond, I loved our attachment, but with it came 18 months of no sleep, dry cracked nipples, surviving thrush in not only my son’s…

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The Importance of Chores

As a stay at home mom I often wonder how women in the 50s did it. I made a comment to my uncle the other day saying how I’d have to mop the floor every day to keep it clean, and that’s impossible. He replied, “Well, your Nanny did it.” My Nanny was my great grandmother. I spent a while trying to figure out how she cooked meals from scratch every day, kept the house spotless, gardened, milked…

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New Year Goals

Since the New Year I’ve been thinking about my goal for this blog, and sharing what I share. Of course it’d be nice to go viral and get paid, but that’s not my goal. My goal is to help people and spread awareness. Growing up I was pushed away from Christianity by bullying from my peers and the adults in my life. Looking back now I can’t believe some things adults said and did in to a child. I…

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Mary is Hardcore

The Virgin Mary is one of the most hardcore women in the Bible. If you’re a woman you’ll agree with me. I hate how people make Mary out to be this gentle mom with a soft glow in a cute little stable with Jesus in a cute little manger. There is nothing cute about this scene, except maybe the idea of Jesus as a baby. First, let me point out Mary was a teen. She was engaged to Joseph. This alone…

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Anger Punishment and Fear-Based Response

Your toddler is throwing another tantrum. Your teenager just back talked you. You have had enough. You yell at your toddler and you break your teens phone. Your toddler is now bawling their eyes out and your teenager stare in shock. Later you find they aren’t exhibiting this behavior in front of you, so it must work right? Wrong. This is an anger punishment and fear-based response. Although you…

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My Journey Breastfeeding

When I was pregnant with my son I wanted to breastfeed so bad. I was excited for all the benefits. You’ll lose weight. It will create an amazing bond. Your breast milk will change to best suite the needs of your child. It’s so much cheaper! The benefits sounded amazing. I couldn’t wait till he was out, laying on my chest doing skin to skin, breastfeeding in that first hour. Unfortunately that…

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How to Teach Your Child to Regulate Emotions

We have emotions all the time. Whether we are happy, sad, angry, excited, nervous, etc. we have them, and so do our children. Children do not naturally know how to regulate emotions, and most tantrums are simply the inability to regulate their emotions. One of the most important things we can do is give our children the tools to regulate their emotions properly. 1) Let it out. Do you ever hold…

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10 Ways You Can Support Your Husband

I recently posted how you can support your wife, but now we wives need to learn a few things we can do to support our husbands. 1) Don’t nag I know what you’re thinking. ”I don’t nag.” Believe me, you do. I’m a control freak at times. If he doesn’t do it right or doesn’t start on the task immediately I feel the need to tell him so. We have to stop it. If you’re not sure if he heard you, ask if…

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10 Ways you can Support your Wife

I see women all the time saying how upset they are. ”My husband doesn’t appreciate all I do.” ”My husband doesn’t know half of what I do.” ”I do way more than my share and never get a break.” I have an amazing husband, but I even find myself saying these things sometimes. I decided to compile a list of things you can do to support your wife. 1) Do chores If your wife asks you everyday to do the…

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Do the Dishes

It’s 1am. The past week my son had ruff nights and my body has adjusted to being up at this time. The past couple nights I just tossed and turned till about 3am, thoughts racing, unable to sleep. “The house is such a mess.” “You can’t even get simple things done with a toddler.” “You can’t multitask.” “You don’t contribute to this household.” “You’re a bad mom.” I know I’m not a bad mom, but…

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Communication is Key

Communication is the key to life. We learn languages, share on social media, text, email, and call all to communicate something. Communication is key in our marriage, our relationship with God, and all other relationships, including those with our children.

We have all had times where we tried to communicate something and it wasn’t understood the way we intended. My husband and I have had…

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Six Steps to Discipline

Children no matter the age aren’t always going to obey you. There is no easy way to handle these situations, but these are the first six steps that have helped me with not only with my child, but in the classroom.

1) Positive Reinforcement

Positive reinforcement is the first step to discipline your child. Anytime, for any good behavior you notice, it is important to let them know that…

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My Salvation Story

Growing up I went to a Christian School. You’d think this would push me towards Christianity, right? Wrong.

I was bullied. I remember asking to play with other kids and they wouldn’t let me. I was always picked last for teams, if not argued over who HAD to take me. Most recesses in elementary school though I had to either stand on the fence all recess or stay inside and do school work. I…

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What I'd Change about my Labor

What I’d Change about my Labor

I climbed into bed at 3am after having to go pee again. I felt miserable, I was tired, I’d been having Braxton Hicks contractions for the past three weeks. I was 37 weeks 5days and all I wanted to do was sleep.

As I laid down water came flushing out of me. I shot up and started running to the bathroom yelling, “Babe! Wake up! My water broke!” I was wide awake. I hopped in the shower to try…

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