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I don’t use this blog anymore but hoping this can get a little more reach!

My childhood dog is in need of medical care that my family nor I can afford. I am out of state, the most I can do is spread this message everywhere I can manage. Please help her out.

I owe my life to my dog. I would not be around if it weren't for her.

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What do you do if you start feeling internalized transphobia? I'm transmasc and I know I should be proud and happy. After all, trans joy is the greatest protest against those who want me destroyed. But sometimes I wonder why I ended up like this. As much as I enjoy the community and being me, sometimes I ask myself why I did this to myself. Why couldn't I just stay the token girl of the family? Is this all really gonna be worth it? Why can't I just feel proud of myself? What good am I even doing?

Am I being too pessimistic? Am I being irrational thinking these thoughts? Everyone seems so happy, so excited to explore. Am I just being a downer? Should I tell random strangers online about this at all?

I'm sorry if this is really depressing, I'm just really stuck in my own dumb head right now.

It’s perfectly normal to feel the way you’re feeling but you’ve got to try you best not to let it weigh you down. It’s true that life is easier as a cis person, but that’s not your fault. You haven’t done anything to yourself except stop forcing yourself to be something you aren’t. The issue is everyone else, and that’s something we’re all trying to change. Look to your community! Reach out to friends or try to make new ones who might understand how you feel! Just remember that you aren’t alone and the things you’re feeling aren’t abnormal.

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apparently this person who decided detransgender folks are “just cis” has been on a fucking tirade against detrans people now.

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last week i told my best friend about my new name, and hearing him say it has given me such overwhelming gender euphoria.

soon, i’m going to have to tell my parents, and that will be a bad day. but until then, hearing my best friend’s mouth form the syllables “jesse” will keep me going.

not sure what the point of this is, just wanted to share it with someone :)

Congrats! I hope things go okay with your parents

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“It’s fine if you present that way but don’t get mad when people misgender you”

Shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up

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I honestly don't know if you can give advice about this, but maybe some good will come out of this ask regardless? I'm a trans man who has recently developed romantic feelings for a lesbian, and I think that may have lessened my masculinity, to the point where I sometimes question whether it would be more accurate to describe myself as non-binary. Maybe this is a common experience? I don't have anyone to ask about this kind of thing lol

Transmasc lesbians definitely exist! As well as he/him lesbians too. There’s absolutely a complex relationship with masculinity to certain people especially certain lesbians. Not every butch identifies in that way but lots of them do! Feel free to explore your identity in any way you want my friend.

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*grabs your hands and speaks to you in a tone that is so gentle* they/them pronouns stop being universal once you learn a person's pronouns. Sometimes that person's pronouns will include they/them and in that specific case you are allowed to keep using those pronouns for that person. In any case where you learn a persons pronouns and that person doesn't use they/them, you should no longer use those pronouns for that person. If you continue to use they/them pronouns knowing that person doesn't use them, you are now misgendering that person. Kindly stop doing that please. Thank you, I love you.

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Hi everyone! I’m gonna do a little ama :) I feel like there’s a lot that’s different about me since I last really talked about myself.

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hey! i’m looking for a new name and i was thinking of Atticus for a first name and Carlisle for a middle name! i’m not really out to anyone irl yet so i was wondering your opinion!

I think those sound nice together but it never hurts just to try things out. You can always change your mind! If you ever need any suggestions for new names you want to try just let me know.

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I need to share this revelation I had. I had the longest time trying to figure out my name cause I kept trying to find a name that fit me, nothing sticking. Because Romeo fit me but I thought it(for some darn reason) was too fancy a name for me, but I eventually gave in and I'M SO GLAD I DID AT LAST!! I loved the name Romeo, and now I wonder why the heck I thought it was too fancy for me when it fit me perfectly!! Ahfjsjfhjdhf /very pos /gen

But I wanted to share because if anyone might be putting off a name for whatever reason, this is your sign to try it out! Because you might absolutely enjoy the heck out of it and it fit you perfectly! /gen /nm

That’s so great! One of my partners is named Romeo actually! I think it’s a lovely name!

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ive also come to the conclusion that "laziness" is probably the stupidest, most hurtful, least useful, deliberately cruel concept in the world

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Polyamory and Polygamy ARE NOT the same

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im not trying to be mean or anything!! but that one post you reblogged said vaginas are "confusing"? and it kinda made me dysphoric, is that true? is my genitalia confusing for other people? /gen

I’m not sure what you’re referring to anon.

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-@robynochs

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Y’all the white stripe on the trans flag literally is for nonbinary folk, so maybe stop yelling at nonbinary folk that we’re using the ‘wrong’ flag for ourselves. 

Also the trans flag was inspired by the bi flag, so miss me with your ‘bisexuality is transphobic’ bullshit. Here’s more of a history on why that shit is ahistorical.

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Can we just all agree that while there is somewhat of a transmasc culture what we each individually think of as trasnmasc is not representative of every transmasc person? Yes, some people (of any ethnicity) partake in the fluffy hair, ukulele, Kai/Alex/Oliver type of transmasc and some people don’t. Some people (of any ethnicity) wear Hawaiian shirts and listen to tally hall and some people don’t. Some people dress in a way that represents their culture. Some people are southern or religious or black or anything other than the typical white transmasc stereotype. But you have to remember some people DO play into that stereotype and it’s important we don’t alienate anyone.