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I tried making everlasting syllabub and now I’m addicted. Dammit old timey people sometimes you are actually good at something

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people really need to stop treating things that are completely normal in polyfragmented systems as a sign of “faking”. subsystems/sidesystems, layers/dimensions/other worlds within the headspace, complex inner worlds, tons of alters, tons of copies of the same alter(s), especially if they fit the same role, even tons of fictives, all of these things are completely normal for any system and even more common in polyfragmented systems. stop acting like they’re a sign someone is faking DID.

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Yea. Apparently this is what happens when we’re buzzed (alcohol) & high (weed) at the same time.

Please please please talk to someone if you’re suicidal. I may not be the most stable person & may be fighting the same battle but we don’t have to fight alone.

~Nico

Welcome To Neverland (a backstory)

So I’ve seen a lot of dark twists for Peter Pan/Neverland floating around. Based on our interpretation/understanding of the backstory, I want to offer a new perspective on what Neverland really is & why, while they’re interesting, stories where Peter Pan is evil or k-lls all the Lost Boys are less likely to match the author’s intention.

Throughout the musical, there are strong hints that the author’s brother (likely younger, since he feels responsible for him) was suicidal & succeeded at taking his own life—especially when the author sings the line about “dream it wasn’t all my fault”. 

The main two takeaways we got from Finding Neverland were “even the old are young at heart” (in the musical they call to the audience ‘Welcome, the young and the young at heart’, and the song Play is clearly about older singlets reconnecting with their childhood dreams & inner child; and that Neverland is basically Heaven for outcasts. It’s where suicidal people go, where LGBT+ go, where those who die of illness young go, because they were rejected by Normal™ society & thus Normal Heaven™. That’s also why Neverland (& all songs about it) tend to hint at or mention suicide, & is a comfort/draw for a lot of depressed people.

This part may be a leap, but what if the brother he lost was gay and that was why he killed himself? (gay in a time it’s a crime/considered a choice?) Suicide from LGBT+ hate, so the author created a Heaven just for LGBT+ (& suicidal) people? Maybe the author was bi or demi (or trans) & that’s why it hurt/scared him so much to lose his brother. Or maybe he was transgender & their family wasn’t accepting, and the author thinks he should’ve been? Like he should’ve protected his brother better? It’s never explicitly stated, but…

Also, it’s hinted that the author’s symbolically adopted son Peter was suicidal (& the author basically went oh shit what can I do better this time) & maybe gay &/or trans &/or some other LGBT+ (visibly an outcast, even from his own brothers & mother, who are all very loving and accepting people?)? And the author basically made him the leader of Alternate Heaven™.

It’s like the author’s intention was to create a Heaven for LGBT+, mentally ill, those who die young from sickness—basically anyone society rejected as abnormal. That’s why they’re called the Lost Boys—people abandoned by society, now dead, getting lost together. And that’s the reason it’s considered a euphemism &/or encouraging suicide—but the point isn’t ‘go commit suicide so you can frolic in Neverland’. The lesson of Neverland is “if you lose the battle with depression, we will still honour you and cherish you in the afterlife, and you’ll never have to feel that alone again.” So everyone cries about Neverland because it’s home. You’re loved. You’re honoured. You’re free. You aren’t alone.

So, based on that then, the Lost Boys are already all dead. That’s why they don’t age. They’re basically ghosts in Heaven. That means Peter, Captain Hook, etc. are also dead. So they can’t literally die—they’re already in Heaven. Any death would be symbolic (‘a part of him dies’/he was reborn, or being forgotten/no longer believed in). 

Another thing is, Captain Hook is essentially the darker inner self. He’s the author’s inner voice—the voice that guides him to rebel from society, to love himself & honour himself, to set the story of Neverland free, to seek freedom. He’s the parts of a person that society deems unacceptable. He’s, in part, the Remus & Janus Sanders (Sanders Sides) of a person. The reason he’s always chasing Peter isn’t because he hates him—it’s representative of hiding from the parts of yourself that society told you were unacceptable. He’s a metaphor, an inner voice brought to life. He may also be a mix of mental illness (especially depression) &/or neurodivergence (Society says your mind is childish for clinging to an Alternate Heaven for the Rejected™? That sounds like a very normal neurodivergent coping mechanism - creativity.) that society rejects. Basically, if society thinks it’s bad, Captain Hook is probably at least partially representative of it. He isn’t an evil entity; he is rejected freedom and understanding of whole self.

It’s been really interesting to see all kinds of different explanations for how they stay young & who they really are. Let your creativity flow. But that’s the story we picked out from the musical, from the author’s story.

If you do lose your war with depression, there is always someone, somewhere who will honour you, cherish you, miss you, and care, and there is always somewhere safe to call home. You aren’t a bad, selfish person for losing. The more battles you win, the better, and I’m proud of you, and I see you. Peter Pan is watching over you. But it’s okay to lose battles. It’s okay to lose the war. Neverland will welcome you home, if you truly can’t survive another day.

((Note if you are suicidal, we are here. We’ve been there. Talk to us. You don’t have to be alone. We respect you no matter how many battles you’ve lost. We respect you because of how many battles you’ve won. You may never win the war, but you can win the most battles and live the longest and I think that’s hard enough work. You deserve respect, you deserve to feel heard, and you deserve to rest.))

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....Oh 😶 ~Nico

Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score

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We have ADHD diagnosed & it is absolutely a disorder even if some “symptoms” are different wiring & not inherently “disordered”/”bad” behaviour! Please recognise the very real struggle that ADHDers face regardless of the screwed up society we live in.

people who are like “adhd shouldnt be classified as a disorder/wouldnt be a disorder without capitalism” have you experienced executive dysfunction or rejection sensitive dysphoria??? first of all it makes your life harder regardless of the fucking economical system you’re living in because it has nothing to do with capitalism when you cant get up to pee for 7 hours and feel like everyone secretly hates you for a typo you made in a facebook post

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IDK what to put for a title but hi

Hi! My name is Starr. I just came back from what was apparently an 11 year dormancy! (I went dormant late 2008/early 2009.) I’m still adjusting to everything but I wanted to say hi! :)

~Starr

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This is amazing 😶

~Nico

normalize my 12th grade English teacher, who admitted that his favorite TV show was Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and when a male student suggested that it was because Buffy/Sarah Michelle Gellar was hot, wrinkled his face like he’d bitten into something rotten and dead, and said, “At my age (he was 53), there is nothing less sexy than a teenager. You’re all disgusting messes.” It was 1999, I was 17, and I’d grown up in conservative Christian schools and churches. In my life I’d heard heard dozens of sermons from male preachers and teachers and even some older students, whining about how hard it was to be a dude and not commit the sin of thinking sexual thoughts, and how they needed women to wear long skirts and cover their bodies to objectify them

and my bitter, misanthropic, atheist Brit Lit teacher, who hated my class because he was obsessed with teaching Huckleberry Finn but got stuck with Shakespeare and Jane Austen, was the first, and this day the last man I have ever heard articulate a rebuttal from the depths of his soul to the idea that it was normal for teenage girls to be desirable to middle aged men

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Okay but this is funny—

~Nico

Instead of a stoic hero and a chatty villain or a chatty hero and a stoic villian imagine if they’re both chatty. Just, the villian trying their best to kill the hero while the two of them have a in-depth discussion about their opinion of pumpkin spice

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This...is awesome. ~Aiden

a little disorganized thing on neopronouns in other languages, apologies for not covering a lot of languages! here’s a post about neopronouns in other languages :)

NOTE: IF YOURE GONNA SAY U SUPPORT NEOPRONOUNS IN THIS CONTEXT BUT NOT IN ENGLISH? DIE BY MY BLADE.

ALSO PRONOUNS DO NOT EQUAL GENDER HESBIANS AND SHE/HER GAYS ILY

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One of our friends used to call me "Bambi."

I have challenged people twice my size to fight me. These two things don't coexist.

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Unfortunately true.

~Ward

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Respect everyone as sentient, people, & able to grow from mistakes; however, trust is earned & if they repeatedly harm/hurt or threaten you, harm/hurt or threaten the people you care about, & generally prove they don't deserve your trust, you can revoke your consent to engage with them.

Yes, you can.

You are able to disengage. Maybe you can't physically leave yet, that's valid. But you can disengage. You can withdraw your dependency for emotional & psychological needs from that person.

Respect your elders means knowing they've lived longer, not assuming they know more & not assuming they can't be horrible people.

People struggle with the idea that respect is earned, because it's not, but it is a two-way street & if the other person/people don't respect you, YOU DON'T HAVE TO TRUST THEM. YOU DON'T HAVE TO LOVE THEM.

So what if they're biological “family”/blood relatives?? You CAN AND SHOULD cut a whole relative off if they mistreat you.

No one gave you permission to revoke your trust & cut people out? I'm giving you permission right now. Do it. Take care of yourself. IT'S OKAY TO PRIORITIZE YOURSELF. It will be scary but you are brave. You will be able to heal, & prevent future generations (whether from contact with you as your relatives’ kids or as your own adopted or biological kids) from being traumatized!

Trust is earned, never freely given. Respect is a basic human right. Kindness is a basic human right. Don't let anyone violate you no matter WHO they should be to you (friend, significant other, family, so what?? They don't have a right to hurt you.).

And if that would leave you alone? We are here. Our DMs are open. We love you. We respect you. We believe you. We will be here for you to the best of our ability.

I've seen a lot of complaints about respect being earned (you’re mistaking trust & obedience for respect & they are NOT the same). This is my/our reworking of the underlying concepts, of what people were trying & failing to communicate.

Obedience is NOT respect. Obedience is toxic & codependent.

Trust is earned, never freely given.

Respect is a basic human right.

Kindness is a basic human right.

You are NOT a doormat for anyone else’s shit & it’s NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to make anyone happy but yourself, or your responsibility if others are tired or drunk or whatever (unless you willingly decide to take care of them because you want to & love them). It’s also not your responsibility to “fix” or “save” other people.

You are allowed to have “bad” feelings. You are allowed to “ugly” cry.

You aren’t annoying or a burden. You are not a problem.

We love you.

~Nicolás Carriedo (15)

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“Life shouldn't be a reward for being good.” ~Anonymous

I'm leaving them anonymous but this line is gonna stick with me for a very long time.

⚠TW dr*gs & m*rd*r⚠

Basically, a guy killed his brother because he (the brother) was on drugs. A drug addict. Our dad is looking to hire his murderer, because the victim was a drug addict. Before he knew that he was like “but he killed his brother!” & now he's all “oh we don't know the circumstances”, blah blah blah, “his brother was on drugs” like...so what??? The drug addict was a human life. They weren't his life to take. And our own father is willing to dismiss it?? This quote was the response to us sharing this story, in horror that our father was that cold. Yes. He was a drug addict. But he was a human life, & the guy's brother. & he doesn't regret killing his brother at all. & dad is willing to hire him.

You shouldn't have to be perfect for your life to matter. You shouldn't have to be not a drug addict, never have had a criminal record, & be cis, straight, white, Christian, rich, & a man for your death to matter. Trans lives matter. BIPOC lives matter. Black lives matter. Black gay/lesbian trans lives matter. Poor lives matter. Women matter. Muslims matter. Nonbinary people matter. It's disgusting to think otherwise, & our opinion will not be changed. We are alters that existsl to express these things & stand our ground. We can't debate human rights. YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT & GOOD TO DESERVE LIFE. YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO BE NEUROTYPICAL, MENTALLY STABLE, & SKINNY TO DESERVE LIFE. YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO EARN YOUR RIGHT TO LIVE & EXIST.

That is all, have a nice day. 🙂

~Anarchy, Rebel & Riot

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MOOD

~Nox

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OKAY SO WE'RE ENGAGED TO AN AMAZING FIANCÉ & POSSIBLY CAN GET OUR PARTNER SYSTEM RINGS TOO

WE GOT EXCITED OVER PRETTY RINGS & PRETTY BOYS YES HI WE'RE VERY GAY

~Nox, Virgil, Avery, Seth, Roman, Logan, I'm probably missing one of the gays in a relationship—

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Can we take a second to appreciate acearos, grey acearos, & demi?

Especially for those who thought they were ace or aro & found out they were demi/grey, or those who thought they were grey/demi & found out they were ace &/or aro? I don't see a lot of positivity for these groups, let alone anyone who is questioning & has to change labels once, twice, or more & change their name & gender expression (or request people to call them different pronouns/a different gender) multiple times. This is a normal part of questioning & nothing is wrong with that! You're all very valid & your chosen labels are valid!

~[nameless trauma holder]

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Hi, I’m Roman Sanders! I’m a fictive, I haven’t fronted much till recently.

This is our normal blog (non system) I’m reblogging from. I desperately need help. I’m willing to do commission stuff or write you a personal letter or anything, I just really need help. We’ve been st*rving until we had money to get our own food, we live with our ab*sers, & I need help for that as well as because I really really want to get my boy something special. So if you can’t help, please share, and if you can, please please do. Anything helps.

Peace out guys, gals, and nonbinary pals. Love ya.

~Roman

I have a request...

So I just realized, because I checked, that I have -$10 in my tax refund account & $0.50 in my bank account. However. I want to get my boyfriend a gift, very very badly, because it’ll help him with sensory issues & because I want him to be happy, & because he’s literally never gotten a gift before. The total for what I want to get him is $80 (it’s a custom gift–).

So this is…an unusual request for me, but if any of you can share this &/or send me money to help, even $1, I’d be so so grateful. The Venmo is @/Auden-Lochlainn. Food money would also be helpful, or money to help me get a car/leave my ab*sers’ house. I’m able to do profile pictures, edits, & some very basic drawings (I have no faith in my art skills) in exchange (commission stuff). If you can share this, reblog, or help me out, please do so. I really want to do this. He deserves nice things.

Thank you so much to anyone who helps.