#you're allowed to dislike them

[stylish-suidae]

Being a Bethesda fan is so fun because whenever you see a complaint about Starfield online you get to play the fun game of "is this someone who actually played and didn't like Starfield, or is this someone who has a one-sided vendetta against Todd Howard who hasn't played a Bethesda game in the past decade?"

This is fun because in most fandoms, seeing people complain about the recent stuff instead initiates the significantly less fun game of "Do they genuinely have issues with the writing, or are they just upset that there's a major character who isn't a cishet white man"

So it is nice that bigotry isn't the first thing to come to mind when I see complaints about my pet game developer.

[utilitycaster]

I truly have no patience for "criticizing a creative choice is disrespectful" as a statement. If you can't tell the difference between sending hate or harassing creators/fans, vs. saying "I didn't like this and here's why" you are an idiot. And on the flip side if you're a creator and someone says "I didn't like this" without any sort of personal attacks or hate involved, simply on the basis of critique and personal preference, and that makes you feel bad enough to stop creating then maybe you should step back and either get offline or make room for someone who has an actual creative vision that isn't "I want everyone to like me."

[tantamounttoflirtation]

I think it's funny that some people dislike Alana bcuz she "gets in the way of Hannigram" (and you're entitled to your opinion etc etc). But like.... how was she getting in the way? She was literally sleeping with Hannibal and he could only ever talk about Will. The poor woman never stood a chance. Nothing gets in the way of those two fuckers lol

[svnflowermoon]

y'all go from being feminists to tearing these women down within seconds oh my god it's 2024 can we please stop viciously tearing one woman down to bring another up i don't care what side you take but saying vile shit about either woman and their music is disgusting, please grow up

[c-duceusclay]

Okay, I'm going to bed gn

[leatherbookmark]

Every once in a while there will be a blogger I'm not following, but whose posts I know and whose blog I visit from time to time. They can either be a generally popular user, a fandom-popular user, a mutual-in-law, or simply someone whose posts I've seen reblogged by other blogs I visit. You know how it is on tumblr dot com.

Anyway, impressing me -- and at the same time making me take you for a Cool Person Who Knows Things, And Whose Opinions Are Important And I Should Defer To Them -- is only a little bit harder than biting into an overcooked noodle, or accidentally stepping on an ant. So, I'll often admire these people from afar and feel sad and inadequate if we disagree on something, or of they criticize something I think is fine (especially if they do it without giving a reason, like 'well, it goes without saying that X simply sucks').

However -- sudden salvation -- every once in a while this blogger will have an opinion that's so nonsensical, or they'll behave in a way that's so unnecessary hostile to someone who doesn't really deserve it, that it's honestly both sad and surprisingly relieving to me because ohhhh okay you're just a fucking asshole. You're not a special, sophisticated mini-god, you're just an asshole who's mean for no reason. Phew! Aaaaand block.

[guardsbian]

feel like SMR is getting veryyyy clique-y I don't know if I like it here <3

[cephalofrog]

noah caldwell-gervais is the only motherfucker to have ever been correct about dark souls and elden rings' difficulty. no one else understands

[basilbots]

/nfta ofc, but did smtn happen for you to make that new post? new asshole around that i dont know about and should prolly block?

No one new, you might have them blocked already, and I'm not going to name drop (at least not in public/with people I don't know) to prevent harassment. Still I'm not going to say nothing about this kind of behavior, and I hope that by calling it out for what it is these people will realize it's not okay, or at the very least others will feel more confident shutting instances like it down in public or private (like discord servers n such).

[lokestar]

new year, same bullshit

y'all really can't keep your ableism out of your fandom analysis, can you? you just have to drag personality disorders into this.

what i'm going to say applies both to the IRL treatment of people with personality disorders and fandom analysis, because the former affects the latter in such a blatant way that it's literally a miracle that people with said disorders are still in fandoms in general considering how hostile and vile the others are towards them.

newsflash, people aren't defined by their disorder(s), because they're PEOPLE and people have FACETS. a personality disorder affects said facets, but that's not all there is to it.

their disorder(s) also don't make them inherently evil, because 1) that's literally not how it works?? and inherent evil is not a thing?? and 2) PEOPLE HAVE FREE WILL. they have a disorder that affects them and can affect other people, but they're still free to choose what they do. they're people, not robots following a code.

personality disorders are not inherently evil either. like all defense mechanisms born of trauma (because they ARE born of trauma most of the time, but y'all will never admit that, cowards that you are), they can spiral out of control and become maladaptive. they can also get better with time, with the right support, in the right environment, however that looks for the person with the disorder. just like with anything related to trauma, it depends on many factors, both internal and external. acting like that is a moral fault, or inherent flaw of some sort that is to be eliminated and shunned is ableist and fascist behaviour (that's literally the concept of degeneracy, have you learned nothing??).

just because you can't comprehend that people can be affected by trauma beyond depression and ptsd doesn't mean you get to demonise them.

it doesn't mean that you get to equate them with being evil, murderous, sadistic, and similar terms.

that includes all personality disorders, by the way. all ten of them. not just the one you sometimes tolerate but are still quick to throw under the bus when it serves you. you know the one.

so do us all a favour and keep our names out of your mouths and your writing.

to those with a personality disorder who engage in this shit as well. do better. the non-disordered won't like you more because you chose to deride us with them. they'll put you against the wall with the rest of us in the end.

[nerdy-hyperfixations]

Breaking news: local doctor arrested for sunscreen incident and is facing life in prison. More at 5

Okay, but seriously, tho. I hadn't gone to the Luau somehow until very recently, and when I heard people talk about Harvey's line there, I got really concerned. Like one person claimed, he asks to rub sunscreen on Maru's back, and Maru gets really uncomfortable. I was genuinely concerned because I personally rather there be no implications that Harvey, a doctor who owns the hospital he runs, would have a crush on Maru, his employee. Even if some people can accept that age gap they must obviously have, it's just actually immoral...

But bro. I read the dialog that everyone is so creeped out by. He doesn't say that. He legit says, "I wonder if Maru could use some sunscreen on her shoulders," with a completely neutral face.

It's weird at best that he's pondering out loud to you instead of asking her, but the game doesn't really let people talk to each other outside of cut scenes. Sure sometimes their dialog can be related, but the game can't predict who you'll talk to first. If he were to ask her in his dialog but you talk to Maru first it'd be strange to watch her answer a question he hasn't asked yet.

Some people point out that it's weird he specifically singled out her, and *that's* why it obviously points to something more creepy, but... considering she was standing right next to him. And is his only friend if you don't count yourself. (According to the wiki. Some people headcanon he has more friends lol) It's really not all that strange if he were just concerned about her getting a sunburn and thus thinking of her.

The other evidence I've seen is that Harvey asks Maru to dance with him at the flower dance, so he obviously has a crush on her. But like. Again. She is his only friend. If you talk to him, he talks about being nervous to ask someone to dance. I think some people read "someone" as meaning he has someone in mind, that being Maru, but I've always kinda assumed it meant he literally is just nervous to ask anyone. Which, of course he'd end up asking the one person he knows. It's ultimately understood that the person they dance with doesn't have to be a romantic interest but can be, so I don't know why this is used as Harvey *obviously* having a crush on Maru.

The shoulders specifically being mentioned is pretty strange, however, directly quoting an article here, that's right I'm pulling out the big guns, "people are most likely to under-apply protection to their chest and shoulders." (Source linked at the end) Someone has pointed out that her shoulders are covered, but only by what looks like a loose t-shirt, which you can get sunburns through. It is entirely possible that *as a doctor* Harvey might know people often miss their shoulders when putting on sunscreen, and is genuinely concerned she might end up a little sunburnt.

Also, Harvey is an easily flustered man: he blushes, a lot, pretty much every time he flirts. And maybe it's just cuz the characters aren't able to blush around anyone but the farmer, I wouldn't know, but he has a *completely* neutral face. Not even smiling.

Maybe this is just me in denial because I like Harvey too much that I don't want to believe it, but idk. I'm willing to say it's not out of line, and that he's not interested in Maru because that would be... insanely inappropriate of him as her employer.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.huffpost.com/entry/surprising-place-getting-sun-damage_n_595157ebe4b02734df2c8176/amp

[that-random-person-again]

You know what you're doing is the same as when people dislike/shit on female characters because they 'get in the way' of a mlm ship, right? You are like. Doing the exact same thing.

[jiangchengneedstherapy]

I don't get the people telling others that they're not allowed to like or dislike a character for whatever reason. These are fictional characters, liking Wen Ruohan because he's pretty or disliking Jiang Cheng because he's rude, people can like and dislike them for whatever reason and it doesn't have anything to do with them irl. Fanons and headcanons are cool too, even if they're ooc or soften/harshen characters, at the end of the day yea they're not canon? They're fictional characters, its not harming anyone, you have no reason to attack someone personally over them, no one needs to have justification to write something as if its a moral offence they're committing and not writing fanfics. And at the same time, while people are allowed to like whatever character they like for whatever reason, no one also has the right to tell other fans they're not allowed to dislike a character for whatever reasons, yes, a character can be born into a homophobic and sexist society, grow up to be a homophobe and sexist learning it, and fans still have the right to dislike them for it (and its mostly queer fans who're told they shouldn't dislike because of character's complex-past, no, you have no right to tell them whether they are allowed to feel a certain way about a character). These are fictional characters we're debating over with real people, be respectful to each other. There's no one 'bad side' or 'good side'. Stans, antis, neutral tag users, a lot of people from each of them have been rude to others over simple disagreements. If you don't agree with the person's points or think they're misinformed on cultural aspects or whatever the reason, be polite, its might be hard when you think they're being bigoted or whatever, call it out but there's no reason for you to send death threats over it. And speaking in context of this canon tag being flooded with fanons and headcanons intentionally mistagged as a way of 'reclaiming it', yes you can point out its not canon actually with supporting text or ask the person for supporting text whatever, talk about the novel, not the person. Same to reclaimers, don't attack people if you disagree with them, ask for source if you want.

[daz4i]

my take on ship discourse is that ppl should ship what they want but also you gotta be okay with ppl not liking certain ships for reasons you don't consider a big deal. and you gotta be okay with them complaining about it (outside of ship tags). someone not liking ships with age gaps, for example, does not automatically make them an "anti" or w/e, thinking ppl should enjoy whatever fictional thing they want =/= automatically being okay with it all yourself. i don't think it's that complicated

[singsweetmelodies]

Wait so you love Lando but hate Carlos? but you post Carlando? girl how do you justify that

"wait so you love lando but hate carlos" <- absolutely correct anon, you got it!!

"girl how do you justify that" <- easily: i do what i want here on tumblr dot com.

hope this clears it up for you anon ❤️

[astralpenguin]

i love my mother dearly but she does not think very hard about 99.9% of the media she consumes and generally if it has Dark Themes of some description she will enjoy herself whereas my brain will not be disengaging unless i've already seen the thing a million times which is where our biggest media disagreements stem from. i love a dark theme too but if a story is poorly constructed and fails to achieve the thing it's setting out to achieve than i'm probably not gonna like it and it really doesn't matter how many serial killers are present