#women are in a totally different camp than the racist girl who came into my inbox before you did this morning like

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okay i fell asleep but radfems with bfs don’t (rightfully) don’t like it when lesbians call them dicksucking dumb bitches but then make fun of women who are in toxic relationships and it’s like 🤨🤨 don’t you read?? shouldn’t you know about hard it is to get rid of female socialization ?? like if you hadn’t read any radfem books you would be probably in the same place as those women that you mock stfu. then they have the nerve to talk about femicide

Okay we woke up angry today which is very relatable hahaha

I just want to put it out there, and it reads like you already know this anon, but I have seen far more bisexual women make vulgar/degrading comments about het-partnered women than lesbians. so I think its unfair to associate lesbians with these toxic, reductive, anti-women comments about OSA women when lesbians appear to be the minority of offenders (from what I have seen)

I think you are onto something deeper here about female socialization and it reminds me of when Dworkin wrote about how girls learn from a young age to try and seperate themselves from other women (particularly their mothers) in order to gain good standing with men and avoid the humiliation and abuse that is projected onto the other women in their lives

- like you said, simply Knowing about male violence and sexism is not enough to undo a lifetime of female socialization, and the desire to achieve "safety" by raising your status above other women is a part of that. It's often done unconsciously and addressing it creates a lot of shame and guilt within a woman, so it's a behavior that newly peaked feminists are not as eager to acknowledge and work through. Many women ("feminist" or not) will never quit putting down other women because this behavior, unlike wearing heels or putting on makeup, only hurts other women and does not have the same negative consequences for the lady who is acting out.

On the flipside, reading feminist theory does not protect you from male violence anymore than the next girl. The women who are the most angry and disappointed in het-partnered women likely would find themselves with misogynistic and even dangerous men IF they chose to engage with men for extended lengths of time. I tend to avoid blogs that dedicate any amount of time to butting into other women's business, which means I am not privy to the lives and dating habits of women who think dating men makes you a cocksucking whore (altho they certainly seem to be invested in my life since I got 2 anons this morning requesting for my cumbrain to quit orbiting radblr 😐). So I can't really say if the women who feel entitled to harass and condescend to other women are hypocrites or male-partnered or whatnot.

If you have seen het-partnered women condescending to battered women or other women dating men, then I think it's safe to dismiss their comments as purposefully unhelpful. Obviously those women are not bleeding-heart seperatists who are moved to anger by their concerns for OSA women; they're just mean girls who are too NEET and antisocial to be part of a toxic social hierarchy in real life. Luckily, these women are easy to spot and avoid in real life, and their opinions don't have to stop either of us from looking out for each other and other het-partnered women.

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Images of Females Advertising Dove

Dove has been around for decades since the 1950’s and it has changed its marketing style since launched. Dove in the beginning had only white faces and today its very diverse. Dove now aims towards diversity and produces products for different skin types. Within the last two decades the brand has promoted positive body image, became more diverse in terms of ethnicity, gender, and race. From the beginning where the models were white and thin until present time, where we have a host of many beautiful shades and sizes of women. 

“The Use of Black Models in Advertising” This article was published in 1971, the article was about the reasons why black models are used for advertising. According to the article black models are used in marketing to sell products to black people. After the civil rights movement and new laws created in the legislature, marketers had to prepare for a new world in which black people would have a voice and more money to buy their products. As well as whites realizing that “black money” is the same as “white money”, both are green; so, with that realization, white businessman became smarter and began marketing black people in positive light for profit.

In the 1950’s concerning size, women were more concerned about having a slim figure, the ‘ideal’ size for attracting a man; Most ads you see on tv or in the magazines/newspapers in the 20th century would be of a slender sized woman, in addition, everyone was attracted to that size. Most of the advertising from the 50’s to the 70’s lacked people of color and of plus sized. I noticed that they choose light skinned black women over dark-skinned black women. As time passed, they began implementing dark skinned women. Marketers usually produced what they felt would sell and what attracts people to buy their products. The secret to advertising is subliminal messaging; subliminal messages is to gain favor with the consumer you’re targeting. For instance, if marketers placed more curvier women in their ads the world would be more accepting.

The early 2000’s Mo’nique (comedian/actress) sort of pushed away the fat shaming when she glorified her size. Mo’nique made ‘fat’ girls feel more beautiful and accepted. In 2005 She hosted the first televised beauty competition and boot camp for full-sized women “F.A.T. Chance,” on the Oxygen station. Mo’nique encouraged other plus size women to love the body they’re in and that they too are normal. “With its debut in 2005 it was the highest-rated original show in the company’s history, and in the second season it had a total of 4.8 million viewers for the premiere and its encores” (Luckily, There’s Plenty of Her for Everybody). There's a market for plus sized women just as there is for ‘regular’ sized women. The views on that show proved that people are interested in a plus sized/curvy woman's lifestyle also people support the body images. The ratings definitely boosted confidence in other plus sized women. Everyone comes in different sizes and should love every inch of themselves and only change for themselves, and of course for a healthier you. “Women are more than the labels that are given to us, they're more than an age, more than a size, more than a name...” (Dressbarn Launches an Empowering Campaign Starring Ashley Graham).

You’d be surprised the amount of negativity and pressure women endure daily, in terms of body image. Super model Tyra Banks has been shunned for her body a few times in her modeling career. It has become so bad that it took a toll on her career.  “Banks said her desire to be her own boss came from rejection she faced for her skin color and curvier figure, which she said was not desirable in the world of high-fashion modeling. “Me being a boss came from pain,” she said. “Being told no you can’t.” ...” Those experiences “created in me an empathy for women and physical discrimination,” (Tyra Banks on Body Shaming in the Fashion Industry: ‘My Pain Turned Me Into a Boss’). Banks kicked off her own show “Americas Next top Model”, there she featured models of many sizes and ethnicity's. She also featured women who were more on the heavy side, also known as ‘plus sized’. Banks also bridged the way of women flaunting, loving their bodies no matter their size. “Body-positive advertisements often feature individuals helping others recognize their inner beauty, and these images of support and kindness could potentially evoke elevation in audiences” (Feeling Bad About Feel-Good Ads: The Emotional and Body-Image Ramifications of Body-Positive Media).

In 2017, Dove offered a Nigerian lady Lola Ogunyemi, to be the face of a new body wash campaign. Lola was excited for the Opportunity, stated, “Having the opportunity to represent my dark-skinned sisters in a global beauty brand felt like the perfect way for me to remind the world that we are here, we are beautiful, and more importantly, we are valued” (I am the woman in the 'racist Dove ad'. I am not a victim), however the commercial sparked a lot of negative backlash due to the content of the advertisement. Due to all the negative comments and controversy around the ad, it was removed, and Dove apologized if they came off as ‘racist’. Besides the backlash the brand has received, I thought it was a great opportunity for Dove to display a dark-skinned person and show the world that dark skin women are real, and beautiful.

“I know that the beauty industry has fueled this opinion with its long history of presenting lighter, mixed-race or white models as the beauty standard. Historically, and in many countries still today, darker models are even used to demonstrate a product’s skin-lightening qualities to help women reach this standard” (I am the woman in the 'racist Dove ad'. I am not a victim).

Although women are still body shamed and go to extreme measures to get the ‘perfect’ body Dove has launched a “Real Beauty campaign”, encouraging people all over the world to flaunt their imperfections and love themselves. “...viewing body-positive advertisements, as compared to traditional beauty ads, sparks stronger emotional responses, including both positive and negative emotions” (Feeling Bad About Feel-Good Ads: The Emotional and Body-Image Ramifications of Body-Positive Media). Under the Real Beauty campaign is the “Self Esteem Project”, “According to the research, 61% of girls between the ages of 10 and 17 in the U.K. lack confidence and body esteem, while nine in 10 girls with low body esteem are likely to put their health at risk trying to conform to what they believe is expected of them. Dove is spending 1.5 million pounds on the campaign, which also offers free advice and support around the issues of self-esteem on the Dove web site” (Dove spearheads ‘Self Esteem Project’ to salute and honor real girls). Dove works with non-professional models to help with the campaign to help build positive body confidence in the girls.  

Over the past few years Dove has been pushing towards more diversity and knocking out beauty stereotypes. Dove works with people nationwide from infants to elderly people from shades of lighter skinned to shades of darker skins. Big, small, short, tall, slim, hefty, you name it, all types of people. People with physical disabilities, skin conditions i.e, vitiligo. People with ‘bad’ acne, crooked teeth, missing teeth, birth marks, nappy hair, straight hair, short hair, long hair, locked hair, a whole variation of people. Size and color of skin doesn’t define you, when you look at yourself in the mirror you should love every inch of yourself, and if weight is an issue that bothers you, get in the mind set of changing your weight. I just want everyone to know we all are beautiful in our own way.

On their website, Dove welcomes everyone and gives you a feel of comfort that purchasing their product would be one of the best decisions you’ve made in terms of beauty. “Welcome to Dove…the home of real beauty. For over a decade, we've been working to make beauty a source of confidence, not anxiety, and here's where the journey continues. Beauty is not defined by shape, size or color – it’s feeling like the best version of yourself. Authentic. Unique. Real. Which is why we’ve made sure our site reflects that. Every image you see here features women cast from real life. A real life version of beauty...” (Dove). Dove is displaying that there are different forms of beauty.

I love the approach that Dove has taken, it’s allowing the younger generations to see that they are beautiful and that the models they see on tv are superficial, yet the models are beautiful as well. Society has deemed being ‘fat’ to be ugly! Being darker skinned to be ‘ugly’! Being gay abnormal! The beauty campaign of Dove has helped millions recognize that you can look pretty without any makeup and you can love yourself no matter what condition you’ve been diagnosed with. You can still relate to others because we all have imperfections.

Society today has left many of us questioning our true selves. "Am I too fat?", "Am I really ugly?" , "Will I be accepted regardless of my sexual orientation?". Despite pondering our insecurities, DOVE has helped many people like you & me recognize our natural beauty. From my personal experience, using DOVE has made my skin feel so radiantly beautiful which has reflected beauty in my self image. Using DOVE has not only allowed me to recognize the beauty in myself but also in the beauty that would open up to those around me. The DOVE campaign demonstrates a relatively natural use of soap that encompasses beauty and self-image. This soap has a diverse ability to help make us appreciate both our physical and mental forms.   

References

Kraus, A., & Myrick, J. G. (2018). Feeling Bad About Feel-Good Ads: The Emotional and Body-Image Ramifications of Body-Positive Media. Communication Research Reports, 35(2), 101–111. https://doi-org.libserv-prd.bridgew.edu/10.1080/08824096.2017.1383233

JOHN J. WHEATLEY. The Use of Black Models in Advertising. Journal of Marketing Research, [s. l.], v. 8, n. 3, p. 390, 1971. DOI 10.2307/3149585. Disponível em: http://search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx?direct=true&db=edsjsr&AN=edsjsr.10.2307.3149585&site=eds-live. Acesso em: 26 nov. 2019.

“Dove Spearheads 'Self Esteem Project' to Salute and Honor Real Girls.” Los Angeles Times, Los Angeles Times, 27 Dec. 2017, https://www.latimes.com/fashion/la-ig-wwd-dove-self-esteem-project-20171227-story.html.

Lee, Felicia R. “Luckily, There's Plenty of Her for Everybody.” The New York Times, The New York Times, 5 Aug. 2007, https://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/05/arts/television/05lee.html.

Lopez, Ricardo. “Tyra Banks on Body Shaming in the Fashion Industry: 'My Pain Turned Me Into a Boss'.” Variety, 6 June 2018, https://variety.com/2018/film/news/tyra-banks-on-body-shaming-in-the-fashion-industry-my-pain-turned-me-into-a-boss-1202834241/.

Ogunyemi, Lola. “I Am the Woman in the 'Racist Dove Ad'. I Am Not a Victim | Lola Ogunyemi.” The Guardian, Guardian News and Media, 10 Oct. 2017, https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/oct/10/i-am-woman-racist-dove-ad-not-a-victim.

“Welcome to Dove.” Dove US, https://www.dove.com/us/en/home.html.

Williams, Lashauna, and Lashauna Williams. “Dressbarn Launches an Empowering Campaign Starring Ashley Graham.” InStyle.com, 7 Dec. 2019, https://www.instyle.com/fashion/ashley-graham-dressbarn-more-than-a-name-campaign.

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Adut's triumph: the Australian refugee taking on the fashion world | Fashion

Adut Akech was packing her bags when we spoke on Friday. She’d finished high school just the day before, and that night the 17-year-old from Adelaide would be flying to France to take part in the Saint Laurent show, which marked the start of this year’s Paris fashion week.

On Wednesday morning shots of her marching down the runway flew across fashionistas’ social media accounts; wearing a dramatic black-and-white top, short shorts and furry boots, hers was the final outfit in the much-applauded show. Akech has arrived.

It’s a remarkable moment for any teenager – and even more so for the model now known by the moniker Adut, who was born in war-torn South Sudan and spent her early years in the Kakuma refugee camp in Kenya before arriving in Australia as a seven-year-old.

On the phone, she sounds giddy with her newfound freedom, admitting it hasn’t quite sunken yet in that she has finished high school and is about to become a full-time model.

In fact, she’s something of a Saint Laurent veteran. She made her international catwalk debut last September and has walked exclusively for the fashion house for the last two seasons. This year she’ll be doing the full schedule – and if Tuesday night’s show is anything to go by, she’ll be busy.

It’s a strong start for Akech, who has been photographed for ID magazine, 10 magazine and Vogue Australia in the past year. She’s also featured in the much anticipated all-black Pirelli calendar for 2018, shot by Tim Walker, styled by the incoming Vogue UK editor Edward Enniful, and starring Naomi Campbell, Diddy and Whoopi Goldberg.

South Sudanese Australian model Adut Akech has featured on covers for L’Officiel Singapore and Black magazine

Although the lineup is dazzling, the person Akech was most excited to meet was the actor Lupita Ngong’o, one of her role models, alongside Campbell and Alek Wek. It sounds as though Ngong’o may take her under her wing. “She told me to get in touch with her when I go down to New York, so I’m gonna do that,” says Akech, excitement creeping into her voice. “She said if I ever need any help or I need anything when I get to New York, just to get in touch with her.”

And so this year, after the whirl of Paris fashion week, she won’t head home to Australia. “I’ll probably come back in the next two months to visit my family but yeah, I might be in Paris for a couple of weeks and then probably head down to New York,” she says.

For a 17-year-old, Akech is well and truly a seasoned traveller. She doesn’t remember Sudan or the refugee camp but does recall the family settling in Nairobi before being transferred to Australia. She desperately wanted to attend the local school but it was too expensive for her single mother. “There were times when I’d walk to my cousin’s school to take her lunch there and I would just be at the gate, looking at all the kids playing in the playground and it kind of made me sad. I wished that was me.”

‘You are starting to see dark-skinned girls and Asian girls [in fashion], so that really makes me happy’: Akech walks for Saint Laurent. Photograph: Estrop/Getty Images

School was what she was most excited about when the family found out they would be moving to Australia. “The free education and having the choice to actually go to school,” she said. “Back then I didn’t have a choice.”

The family left Kenya with nothing more than a few clothes, and it was an exciting but nerve-wracking time for the six-year-old Akech. She was curious about who she would meet. “Back in Kenya, it was rare to see any white people, and I was like, ‘Wow what is it going to be like, being in this country?’ I’d heard that there were a lot of white people but we weren’t used to seeing white people so that was one of the things that was always on my mind.”

She hesitates when I ask if landing in Adelaide was a culture shock. “It was different, it was something different,” she says cautiously, “but I was really looking forward to everything.”

They settled into the community quickly, and for the most part, the family felt welcome. “Everybody has [discrimination], when you go to school and stuff, because you don’t know how to speak English that well. I had a few kids laugh at me but it’s like, we all didn’t really know how to speak English so that’s why we went to an English school.”

Akech wanted to fit in as quickly as possible: “I just worked hard, I was like, I’m going to do the work that I get given and graduate from English school, so I can actually go to a normal school like a normal person.”

But her world hasn’t been completely untainted by racism. Earlier this year Akech was picked to take part in the David Jones spring/summer campaign, and as the face of the retailer’s beauty book. It’s a significant milestone in a model’s career and her wide, smiling face is featured on billboards across Australia’s capital cities.

But a Gold Coast woman took exception to her casting, complaining via David Jones’ Facebook account that the model didn’t represent “the general population of Australia”.

Elizabeth Ballard wrote: “How on earth am I expected to relate to this cover? I can’t wear any of her make-up, I don’t know ANYONE who looks like her … she could have been used on the back page … You people have really missed the mark here, and I’m pissed off and sick of big companys [sic] going for the minority feel good. Please think about your shoppers next time.”

David Jones came under fire when one of their social media moderators responded to the comment with: “We are so sorry you feel this way. We have passed your feedback on to our Marketing Department for their information and consideration,” before the post was deleted.

I am a refugee, that’s who I am, I’m not ashamed of it, and I shouldn’t be mad about it

Adut Akech

Akech didn’t say much at the time. That was deliberate. “I really took the time to think about it – am I going to overreact, or am I just not going to let this thing get to me? I chose not to let it get to me because that was the first time I had a stupid racist comment made about me.”

She was celebrating the fact that she had made the cover, and didn’t want anything to distract from that. “My thing wasn’t so much about the lady’s comment because everyone is entitled to their opinion – she’s not happy about it, it is what it is, it’s her opinion, there’s nothing she can do about it. It was more about the David Jones response.

“But I thought about it in the end, I’m like, I’m pretty sure David Jones choosing me was not a mistake, and just because one person felt the need to apologise and this is probably all interpreted in the way that it did get interpreted, that’s probably not the way it was meant to be.”

Despite all the negativity that occurred over this, I’m extremely proud of my latest @davidjonesstore beauty book cover campaign. Not only am I proud of being the first black model to be on the beauty catalogue cover, but it also makes me proud to be representing not all black but other women of colour all around Australia. I’m happy that David Jones were open minded to using a totally different face for their latest campaigns, thank you for this opportunity to represent. It makes happy to see how diverse the modelling industry is becoming in Australia. It’s good to be seeing a lot more different faces other than the typical “white” models, being used for campaigns, beauty advertisements, commercials etc. For those ignorant people who don’t like seeing change, well ya’ll better start getting used to it because there’s going to be a lot more of this to come. To all my south Sudanese, African, Asian, Hispanic sisters this one is for ya’ll. 🇸🇸❤️✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽 #proudmoment #blackmagic #morediveristy

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The Australian model Duckie Thot, also a rising star, has spoken out about the lack of diversity in the Australian fashion industry. Adut agrees, but thinks things are getting better. “There’s always room for improvement. I feel like they could do better [and] use a range of different girls. You are starting to see dark-skinned girls and Asian girls and things like that, so that really makes me happy.”

Akech has big ambitions for her modelling career – “I would love to get Victoria’s Secret” – but is also thinking about her life after fashion. She wants to study business and entrepreneurship, and hopes to set up a foundation to help with poverty and homelessness. She recalls a stay in Sydney, just before she returned to Adelaide, when she cooked up her remaining food and distributed it to the homeless people she saw camped out across the city.

Akech says she feels connected to the homeless community because of her own background. “My family didn’t have all these luxurious foods and all these nice things, so I did kind of see what it was like.”

When she appeared in October on a Channel Seven TV interview about the Adelaide fashion festival, billed as a refugee, there were complaints that she was being pigeonholed and unfairly treated.

But Akech wasn’t fazed: “A lot of people were like, ‘Why are you guys classifying her as a refugee, she’s Australian?’ … I am a refugee, that’s who I am, I’m not ashamed of it, and I shouldn’t be mad about it,” she says. “Yes, I am an Australian citizen, I am a South Sudanese Australian, but I’m still a refugee.”

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Things People of Color Are Tired of Hearing

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Before I even started writing this blog, yes, I rolled my eyes. There are so many things that you just don’t say to people of color. Being a woman of color myself I know that there are five too many things that people say and ask that are super unnecessary. Let me just lay out a few things that people of color are tired of hearing.

1. “I would date you if you weren’t [insert your race here],” “You’re really attractive for a(n) [insert your race here] guy/girl,” etc. Wait… You mean if I were your skin color, you would date me? Well, I wouldn’t date you because I not only wasn’t raised to be discriminatory, I wouldn’t date someone just because they are a person of color. I have a Hispanic boyfriend and I date him because he’s nice and is attracted to my weirdness (and thank God because I’m excessively weird), among other things. Interracial dating is becoming more and more popular today whether it be because people are becoming more colorblind or because people of color are exotic to others. If you’re dating us because of the latter, move alone and find someone else. Odds are, we’re not interested in becoming a trophy that you can show off to your family and friends. We aren’t luxury items. We’re still people with feelings, regardless of our skin color.

2. Can I touch your hair? It looks so soft. Okay, black women, especially after we’ve got that perm or that good weave done, don’t wanna get it wet, let alone have some random touch our $300 hair. Yes, it’s soft. Yes, it looks shiny now. Yes, it’s naturally curly or, in my case sometimes, nappy so that it LOOKS curly but that does not mean I’m inviting the public to run their nasty, nasty hands through my fresh do. I even stop my mother from touching my hair when I get it done. It makes me feel uncomfortable. It doesn’t make me feel relaxed. I HATE people touching my hair even if it hasn’t been styled in a while. DON’T. TOUCH. THE. HAIR.

3. Are those your real eyes? This one is a little less common for people of color because most of us have either dark brown eyes or black eyes. But for us fortunate few (I’m looking at you, Steph Curry) with hazel eyes, blue-green eyes, or gray eyes, we get this question a lot. Yes, people of color can have different colored eyes that occur naturally. Both of my parents have hazel eyes. I have hazel eyes. It’s all in genetics.

4. You are so lucky that you don’t have to wear sunblock. Do I have skin? Am I outside? Then, I’m wearing sunblock. While it is true that people of a darker skin complexion have a better advantage against the sun’s harmful rays (thank you, melanin), that doesn’t stop me from wearing sunblock. People of color can still get burnt, they can still peel, and they can still get skin cancer. My mother has a very light skin complexion and is susceptible to getting sunburned even if she puts on five layers of sunblock. White people lack a significant amount of melanin and pigment in their skin which is why they can’t go outside for five seconds without coming back and looking like a freshly cooked lobster. I wear sunblock because at band camp, my skin is exposed to those UV rays that will cause skin cancer. I come back a few shades darker but at least I’ll know that I’m not gonna die from the sun.

5. You’re in America now. Speak English. You’re one of the WORST kind of people. Immigrants built this country so there’s bound to be millions upon millions who speak their native tongue. And if we’re being totally honest here, the English language originated from…wait for it… Britain. Even the language we speak came from overseas. You can learn how to speak another language in American schools so why does a Hispanic or Asian man or woman need to be forced to speak English? Google Translate exists for a reason. If you can’t understand it, Google will translate it and then you’ve learned a thing instead of criticizing someone for not learning English. Personally, I love learning new languages. I’m not fluent in Spanish, French, and German but by knowing some of the language, at least I’ll be able to ask for food in these countries. Some people’s parents don’t know a lick of English so their children who are bilingual speak to their families in their native tongue.

BONUS: If you are a biracial or multiracial individual, what are you? I’m human. “But like where did you come from?” Well, mommies and daddies love each other, they… “No, no, no what are your parents?” They’re also human. Okay, so as a multiracial person of color myself, I physically look black but if you look at my mother, who, again, is of a lighter complexion than I am, people often ask me if I’m mixed with something. First of all, why does that matter? Is it because you wanna know if there’s any white DNA in me or is it because you’re generally curious? Second, it doesn’t matter what races I am mixed with. I’m still a human being and my race isn’t gonna change whether you’re gonna be racist towards me or not. People of multiple races are gonna look different from the next person. That’s literally what diversity is. I don’t look like you and you don’t look like me. Otherwise, the whole world would look like 3 ½ billion sets of twins.

People of color exist in the same reality as white people and we just want to be recognized as equals. We are not here for your racial agenda. Just allow us to be people. That’s all we ask.