#which is why they're not here lmao

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FORGETTABLE-AU (Page 36-39)

* To note. Her hands are scaly. * And...unexpectedly wet?

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[krysmcscience]

I will be the first to admit I'm not the best at drawing animal or furry characters, but I wanted to get something scribbled down in my Non-Goof style, anyway. Plus, I've been enjoying the many reference pages folks were posting of their own designs for the Lamb and Narinder, so, uh. Here's mine, I guess! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

do not comment on how long narinder's tail is or i swear to the lamb i will make it even longer next time >:]

[piko-power]

My Personal Headcanon On Why Amy's Love For Sonic Died Down Lately (and their dynamic)

When they were younger, Amy's love for Sonic was pretty extreme, and Sonic was, understandable, uncomfortable for the most part. He knows she means well, but that girl needs to calm down.

She can fight, but sometimes her hammer could only stun her enemies for a while. (It took her a long time to get rid of that robot that has been chasing her around Station Square.) She wasn't fully independent yet, even if she fought on her own a couple of times.

She often follows Sonic and his friends around. She is part of the team, but she was not a strong as she is now at the time yet.

She admires Sonic. A LOT. And Sonic knows that. Obviously, he could only run away from something like that, since he is NOT ready for that kind of thing, and whether Amy takes the hint or stop, she still loves him.

...BUT, I think things were slightly starting to change between her and Sonic after Lost World.

Remember this line?

You remember that? Okay, okay. Here's another totally unrelated question:

Before the events of Lost World, when was the last time Amy said "I love you" to Sonic out loud?

...YEP. 😈 (Unless I'm missing something, let me know lmao)

As more games and adventures come out, the characters get slightly older, and Amy is 12 to 13 now, and she is most certainly at that age where her body starts to change, but especially on how she views Sonic.

She knows she loves Sonic, but it was this moment during her change where she actually wanted to admit that she loves him.

I believe that Amy was all about sharing her affection to him not through confessions, but through obvious hints. Sonic totally got it, and there was no need to confess. Sonic knows she loves her.

...But she never said it. And she almost did, but she never did again for a while.

I think this was the moment in her life where, oh, God, she actually loves Sonic. SHE LOVES HIM, WHAT.

And she was looking back at all the times she had with Sonic that she can now see were unpleasant to Sonic (At least that's what she thinks) and that's probably why she isn't so expressive about her love to him than how she used to back then.

She wasn't sure what to do with this realization, and sets aside it for a while, and nearly stayed as her casual, peppy self... until the Eggman War happened.

During the 6 months of being with the Resistance, fighting Eggman's army all day and all night, all she can think of was Sonic.

She dreams that he still with not just her, but with her friends. She just wanted to see Sonic again, she just wants to be with her hero again.

But I'd like to think that she was also thinking about how she used to treat Sonic back when they were younger, how Sonic would almost always run away from her whenever she asks him out, or always look so uncomfortable whenever she gets so close to him.

Cringing at those memories big time, she wanted to change and hopefully when Sonic is okay and comes back, she can be better for him.

...Or will he still find her uncomfortable regardless? Would he even be happy to see her at all if he did survive?

But, hold on! She can't just give up her love for Sonic! He made her who she is today! A peppy, nature-loving, hammer-swinging, confident, brave... loud-mouth... annoying... Sonic obsessed... weak... pathetic... lonely little girl.

If she gives up on Sonic, it'll be like she gave up on the one hedgehog who saved her life. If she didn't she'll still be the same ol' Amy.

I also like to think she had parents a long while before she met Sonic, and was even expecting a little sister, but a robot invasion happened from where she was and attacked her parents and instead of trying to save them, after getting hurt, she ran away, hoping that they'll come back okay. But they never did.

She was all alone, and needed someone, a friend, a new family, someone who will hold her hand, anyone, to be there for her. But she was ignored by lots, and at that point, she's better off by herself, but still longed for company.

Eventually though, her tarot cards told her her future hero, and there might be hope after all. She encountered Sonic, held onto the belief of the cards tight, and the rest is history.

So, with that headcanon in mind, not only did Amy loose her parents that she didn't save because of her cowardliness (she was only so little at the time that happened) and also Sonic, who she thought will be her only hope, but now gone.

She doesn't even care if he did come back, he'd probably hate her now after everything she did to him, always talking about their "future wedding" or forcing him to go to Twinkle Park.

For the last few months of the war, it was nothing but Amy mentally beating herself up for either refusing to change or moving on, and they are both not fine choices.

She loves Sonic, but he does not love her, and she finally, finally realized it. And it's probably for the best if no body loved her at all.

But of course Sonic did survive and all of her worries wash away in an instant, she's just not expressive about her love for Sonic AT ALL now, since she's still worried about it but rather not mention it to Sonic because it doesn't matter.

If Sonic doesn't love her, then her feelings don't matter to him, and according to Amy herself, that is okay.

But also, I'd like to think that Sonic was thinking about his friends a lot up in the Death Egg for the past months, sometimes it's Tails (worried for his safety), sometimes it's Shadow (because he's wondering why he would join Eggman.) At some point, for a few days, Amy was in his mind the longest, and he felt bad about how he thought he was rude and pushy to her.

He wondered if she's not thinking about it too much, and if she is, will she give up on him? Yeah, he doesn't feel the same and still not looking for a relationship, but it's so strange but interesting how anyone could ever like someone like Sonic the Hedgehog. Amy was never afraid to show that, and she probably might be now.

He couldn't help but feel guilty. They were kids when she was like this, but he was so... arrogant at the time too. Not a lot happened at the time yet. He'd always have trouble expressing how much he value his friends, until he shattered the Paradox Prism. (I'd like to think Prime took place before Forces. It makes sense.)

She is such a sweet girl, and he probably made her believe that he didn't care for her. Just because he doesn't feel the same, that doesn't mean he hates her at all.

He wished he never ran away from Amy... Worrying for his little bro and wishing to be a good person for Amy was when Sonic cried in the Death Egg for the first and only time.

Frontiers, in my opinion, is kind of confirming their dynamic now. Sonic is a lot more sincere and kinder to Amy and she is not all hyperactive and lovey to Sonic. There is probably a real reason for this now.

They are both hiding their feelings from them, and they are both unaware of this. Amy, hiding her mental issues from Sonic, and Sonic, hiding his guilt away from Amy.

None of those things are important now. Sonic is with Amy and Amy is with Sonic. They are here with each other. They can be finally be better for each other now.

They don't care if they'll ever be something more when they get older. None of that matters anymore. They are here with each other. They can be finally be better for each other now.

Maybe someday they'll both talk about it, but for now, the present is important. They care about each other too much to think about it right now.

It's the kind of love that is unbreakable. It doesn't even have to be romantic. It's just love. Love is important for everyone, in any form. It's something Sonic and his friends need. And especially Sonic and Amy.

Amy Rose is the living embodiment of love, and without her, a lot would go downhill for Sonic and co. Heck, if it weren't for her, Shadow wouldn't have never remembered Maria's promise, which lead him to save the world with Sonic, before he temporarily disappeared from their lives for a while.

She is always there to lend a helping hand for anybody, even bad guys like Metal Sonic, and despite what she had been through, both in Forces and headcanon wise, she still fights back, even without her hammer.

She will pick you back up on your feet, reminding you that you are important and that you are loved, and that you should never give up. It's pretty much the words of encouragement she herself needed also...

She is still the happy, hyper, butt-kicking hedgehog we all know and love, but she still need someone to pick her back up on her feet after so long. Thankfully, she has her friends and her blue hero. The hero who made her who she is today.

I think Amy has no idea how important she thought she is, but Sonic does. Sonic knows fully well how important she is to a lot of people. It's about time he returns the favor to her. It's his turn to remind her how much a lot of people love her.

How much he loves her.

And I feel like The Murder of Sonic the Hedgehog was the moment where their dynamic really shined, but also the starting point of their relationship not only healing, but also the next chapter of what's to come for them.

Everyone, friends old and new, gathered around for a special birthday. A birthday for the confident, unshakable, and radiant Amy Rose.

It was such a special moment in Amy's life. After years of chasing and following the people she look up to, she is part of the team, but most importantly, she is part of the family.

She is fully realized as someone more than just a fangirl, but someone strong, courageous, creative, kind and a big inspiration for others.

I feel like this moment here...

-is where Amy is eternally grateful to call her friends her family. A family she thought she'll never have again. She's not alone anymore, and as long as they're by her side, she'll never will be again.

Her chasing days are over. She's finally caught up to them. She's finally home.

And it's all thanks to Sonic.

If it weren't for him, she'd probably be alone forever. Her past moments with Sonic might be embarrassing to look back on for a while, but they are good memories regardless, because they involve him.

Sonic saved her life in more ways than one, and despite everything, he's grateful to have her too.

He cares about her. He really does... And in her eyes, that all she needed to know. As long as Sonic loves her in his own way, she'll be happy.

Amy hasn't given up on Sonic. As long as Amy always supports him, he'll be happy.

Maybe sometime in the future, they can talk about their problems, but that's a story for another time. At this point, they need to. Right now, they are happy. They are okay.

They are here for each other. They are finally better for each other now.

"You guys won't ever leave me, right?"

"Wouldn't dream of it."

[bunnihearted]

regardless of the "learn how to be alone" dravel, being lonely actually is really bad for your mental health and can be very painful :p

[allthecastlesonclouds]

tell me about drawtectives. what is this little show.

oooooh my god oh my god. they are my guys. so.

drawtectives itself is a youtube series created by julia lepetit on Drawfee. it's an rpg mystery show– s1 is a murder mystery, s2 is just a mystery– that doubles as an art challenges show. she draws all of the backgrounds and npcs and most of the assets (the 'cutscenes', you could call them) and then the team gets together, knowing absolutely nothing besides what julia's asked them to prepare, and does some funky improv to create a very funky storyline.

there are 3 players and one dm; the pcs are rosé, york, and grendan/grenda/grandma/gma, and the Big NPCs are Jancy True (s1/s2) and Eugene Finch (s2) and they're, in their own words, a found family, so. beloved. their backup plan if all their jobs fail is to move out east and open a bookstore. jancy and eugene have fully accepted their titles as mom/ancestral ghost and son despite meeting each other likely once before the drawtectives dragged them together. overall though if i had to summarize, it's a bunch of friends getting together, making a bunch of puns, appreciating julia's art, and laughing together. the vibes are 10/10 so loving. in writing the transcripts i've written (Karina laughs) (Nathan laughs) (All laugh) So Many Times it's just fun.

so there's three pcs. first one we meet is gyorik 'york' rogdul, who's a half-orc come to the city to learn about his mother's culture. he is the character we have by far the most lore for– if I compiled all the lore I had about the Northern Tribes and Wild Trains, I think the document would be multiple pages. he's also illiterate, which was an interesting decision for the english major of the group to make (in other words, York Will Not Be Illiterate For Season Three bc Y'all Cannot Read) and morally gray if you think about it too hard (he killed his own brother) but yknow he's hot so it's okay. they're all hot any crimes committed are okay. he's also aroace (confirmed by the player, which is!! vibes!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TELLING ME @axolotllee!)

rosé is the Human Rogue and the youngest of the party; her main trait in s1 was Millennial and she Dealt with that. she, in contrast with York, has so little lore we are scraping the barrel. she was a thief, then left everything about that life behind and changed her name to rosé when she went to work for jancy. she lied on her resumé. she knows how to sew; she's sewn Pockets of Holding on most of her clothing. she bonded with a stray cat that lived outside her last apartment. she's three credits short of graduating college. she's, in addition to being a drawtective, jancy's intern, and cried when jancy got her a cupcake. she won't tell her best friends when her birthday is or where she goes to school or what her last name is. that's all we know about her and i love her and she could probably kill someone as she has multiple knives on her person and does not use them. she's bright and funny and can be pretty dark but really does find the humor in it which is. wonderful.

so grendan highforge starts out as The Snobby Rich Boy which. already love the trope something Always Happens To Them if they're a pc. then through s1 they make an offhand comment about a character (faucon, whose name is pronounced 'falco') and how if her name was pronounced that way it'd be grenda. faucon asks how they feel about it. they are caught very off-guard by that and then ask to be called it for the next hour or so. then the next witness calls him gma, and then grandma, and then. yeah she realizes she's genderfluid. and he uses any pronouns and has a full beard and also wears a romper and loves dogs and the player is the Most Experienced TTRPG-er so through maybe using resources a bittt grandma is the most observant character of all of them. he's also a dog walker and a lightweight and does canonically have druidic magic though that was Not Touched On Much and showed up to their first day on the job slightly stoned (they did stop doing that though.) she carries around a box to make the height difference (york is 7'. grendan is 4'. rosé is 6'. you can see the formatting issue) slightly less difficult. she doesn't know how rhinos reproduce but has had a fascination with them since a police chief said one might've committed a crime. i think they could kill someone by talking too much but they don't actually have the strength or dex to do Jack Shit.

and jancy true is the head pi (a great many of the characters are puns and i love it so much) and is there to make sure things get done and clues don't get missed. she has a cochlear implant and uses a cane and solved s1 just by Reading The Paper and hearsay. she solved about half of s2 before Someone Stopped Her. she says hello children to the drawtectives and it is such a fond thing. eugene is. a guy who i love. julia started the show thinking he would be some mysterious character to join them and then made the wonderful improv decision– avoiding having to do npc-npc conversation– of saying 'yeah eugene is spinning a camera on its stand' and rosé just says so gleefully. 'guys. i think he's stupid.' and he became their son. his character is a lot of The Plot of s2 so i don't want to get into it too much but. jancy and eugene my beloved.

they're just. such a family. to quote nathan (grenda's Player) from the s2 talkback: "That's one of my favorite things about this show, is we came in with these vague ideas for characters, and just playing them with each other, they became friends and became better people as a result of knowing each other and solving mysteries. ... Like, we all kind of independently made our characters people that either were distant from their families or, you know, just had tenuous connections to other stuff, and so these are, like, the realest connections they have in their lives."

and then karina (rosé) about 10 seconds later: "Yeah, we love a found family where they bond over just being the worst."

god. them. they're chaotic and loud and feel very real to me. they have excitement and are pretty bad at social cues but they love each other and want to die together because they would hate too much to be separated. i could articulate this better but it's one in the morning and they mean a great deal to me.

[cuteniarose]

The consequences of my poor financial decisions are here!!

[vynnyal]

Ever since I learned that you had to actually teach your kids how to do stuff, it's been so much fun having them around. It's very cute to watch them play with something they've never seen before, or only do something after they see me do it first. Idk how much is code and how much is coincidence, but they're undoubtedly better at living now. And their personalities are so unique!

[maddy-ferguson]

using intersectionality to discredit feminism and downplay its reach and essentially weaponizing it when it was coined to describe black women's experience of racism and sexism is nasty work...

[magentagalaxies]

damn today has been a shitty day but in a subtle way where i'm not like actively in a bad mood or anything i'm just like "wow!! a lot of inconveniences are occurring!!! that's much more than average"

[todayisafridaynight]

I’m fairly new to the fandom, but I do have a question if you can answer it! Why do people ship Daigo with Aoki / Masato? I tried looking to see if they’ve interacted before, but couldn’t find anything! Sorry for asking I’m just </3 dumb AND I LOVE YOUR ART OF THEM!!! Nerd looking ahhhhhh

hi ! welcome to the community i hope you're having a lovely time so far and ty for enjoyin my stuff :) no need for apologies it's a very fair question to have :]

i cant speak for everyone (all. ten people into masadai anyway) but Personally To Me i just think the idea of them together is very funny. thats quite literally it im afraid..

[miisakee]

better to die saving lives, than to live with taking them

a star trek aos playlist

an exploration of jim kirk's life—from birth through to the end of into darkness—through song.

spotify link here and song list under read more

Oh the Places You’ll Go by I Fight Dragons

How will I keep you safe? How will you find your place?…Oh the places you'll go, with your eyes so wide | With your heart in your hand, and your sword at your side | Oh the mountains you'll move, oh the tears you'll cry | Oh the places you'll go, little love of mine…

The Valley by The Oh Hellos

We were born in the valley of the dead and the wicked…We were born in the shadow of the crimes of our fathers | Blood was our inheritance | No, we did not ask for this…

Guiltless by dodie

There is a wall in my life built by you | You opened a door that a kid shouldn't walk through | Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired | No use getting angry at the way that you're wired | Ignorant trauma in one afternoon | And I could never let you know (Ooh you'd never get it) | And now I'm the one who can't let go (Ooh don't say it's genetic)…

Sorry About Your Parents by Icon For Hire

I guess your mama didn't know the gift she got when she got you | I'm sorry about your life, you had it pretty rough | Bending over backwards, never good enough | You poor thing, it must suck to be you | And I know it's not your fault, it never is, is it?…

The World is a Very Scary Place by The Gothic Arches

The world is a very scary place, my dear. | It's hurled and it's twirled through outer space I fear. | So many ways to lose your skin in it. | The number of ways to die is infinite…You may have found my views unorthodox, | but now the wolf is at the door, it knocks

I Will Not Bow by Breaking Benjamin

Now the dark begins to rise | Save your breath, it's far from over | Leave the lost and dead behind | Now's your chance to run for cover…All is lost again | But I'm not giving in | I will not bow…

Dead Hearts by Stars

Tell me everything that happened | Tell me everything you saw | They had lights inside their eyes…Did you see the closing window? | Did you hear the slamming door? | They moved forward, and my heart died…Please, please tell me what they look like | Did they seem afraid of you? | They were kids that I once knew…

I’ll Sleep When I’m Dead by Set It Off

Talk to myself, lie in the darkness so content | As the sun begins to rise, I can barely shut my eyes | This crazed, delirious mess; laughing at everything I see | My sanity is spent, just tell me where my time went | I'm losing it…

Second Child, Restless Child by The Oh Hellos

Can you hear it hanging on the wind? | Can you feel it underneath your skin? | You've got to go on, further than you've ever gone | You've got to run far from all you've ever known…

Forget and Not Slow Down by Reliant K

How many times | Can I push it aside | Is it time I befriended all the ghosts of all the things that haunt me most | So they leave me alone…I'd rather forget and not slow down | Than gather regret for the things I can't change now...

Could Have Been Me by The Struts

Don't wanna live as an untold story | Rather go out in a blaze of glory | I can't hear you, I don't fear you | I'll live now 'cause the bad die last | Dodging bullets with your broken past…

Vienna by Billy Joel

Slow down, you crazy child | You're so ambitious for a juvenile | But then if you're so smart | Tell me why are you still so afraid? | Where's the fire, what's the hurry about? | You'd better cool it off before you burn it out...

Eight by Sleeping At Last

I'm standing guard, I'm falling apart | And all I want is to trust you | Show me how to lay my sword down…Here I am, pry me open | What do you want to know? | I'm just a kid who grew up scared enough | To hold the door shut | And bury my innocence | But here's a map, here's a shovel | Here's my achilles' heel…

Soap by The Oh Hellos

I've heard | Since I was younger | That oil and water don't mix | They're polar opposites | With a molecular rift you can't fix | But I swear with all your burnt bridges | You could leech what's caustic and find | A rudimentary lye | Some kinda miraculous bind...I think that you're worth keeping around | I think that you're worth holding onto...

Achilles Come Down by Gang of Youths

You may feel no purpose nor a point for existing | It's all just conjecture and gloom | And there may not be meaning, so find one and seize it | Do not waste yourself on this roof...Today of all days, see | How the most dangerous thing is to love | How you will heal and you'll rise above | Crowned by an overture bold and beyond | Ah, it's more courageous to overcome…

Love Like You from Steven Universe, Cover by Caleb Hyles

I always thought I might be bad | Now I'm sure that it's true | ‘Cause I think you're so good | And I'm nothing like you…If I could begin to do | Something that does right by you | I would do about anything | I would even learn how to love…love like you…

Let Me Make You Proud from Tangled: The Series

Maybe I make things a mess | And maybe you're right to have doubts in me | Maybe, but nevertheless | If you for once could just trust me...Let me make you proud | Let me show you the best in me | Let me give you a reason to believe that I can stand tall…

Pale White Horse by The Oh Hellos

Heed the sirens, take shelter, my lover | Flee the fire that devours | But the sight held me fixed | Like a bayonet against my throat…It was a pale white horse | With a crooked smile | And I knew it was my time | It was the raging storm | Of a foreign war | And a face I'd seen before

Hope of Morning by Icon For Hire

When the hope of morning starts to fade in me | I don't dare let darkness have its way with me | And the hope of morning makes me worth the fight | I will not be giving in tonight…

This Will End by The Oh Hellos

No, I am not afraid to die | It's every breath that comes before | Heartache, I've heard, is part of life And I have broken more and more But I can hope how this will end | With every line a comedy | That we could learn to love without demand | But unreserved honesty…

Forgive the Children We Once Were by Delta Rae

We grew up in golden light | Every chance to get it right | What did we do with it? It’s gone, what I had back then is gone…All the lines we knew back then, they now are faded | All the laws we once obeyed, they have betrayed us | People that I used to hate, I hardly remember | Forgive the children we once were

Eyes Open by Taylor Swift

The tricky thing is yesterday we were just children | Playing soldiers, just pretending…So here you are, two steps ahead and staying on guard | Every lesson forms a new scar...Everybody's waiting for you to break down | Everybody's watching to see the fallout | Even when you're sleeping, sleeping | Keep your eyes open…

Notos by The Oh Hellos

And you will drown in the wake | Of the things you said that you can't take back, no | And every word you shouldn't say | Will come bubbling out of your throat | But you've got no one left to blame | For the things you lost to the winds of Notos | You gotta let go

Ain’t No Crying by Derivakat

What am I fighting for | Whose side am I on | Lost everything in the crossfire | Witness the wreckage at dawn | Say it enough and you start believing | They can tell you that it's righteous | Keep your chin up in the crisis…What am I fighting for | What have I done | What am I dying for | What have we all become...

Hurricane by Thirty Seconds to Mars

As days go by, the night's on fire | Tell me would you kill to save a life? | Tell me would you kill to prove you're right? Crash, crash, burn, let it all burn | This hurricane's chasing us all underground…

Die For You by STARSET

And when all the fires burn | When everything is overturning | There's no thing that I won't go through | Even if I have to die for you...And I'll bring you home | Even if the sky does fall | Even if they take it all | I can't see but I'll follow you | Even if I'd die...

I Have Made Mistakes by The Oh Hellos

We have lived in fear, and our fear has betrayed us | But we will overcome the apathy that has made us | Because we are not alone in the dark with our demons | And we have made mistakes | But we've learned from them…And oh my heart, how can I face you now? | When we both know how badly I have let you down

In Our Bedroom After the War by Stars

It's us, yes, we're back again | Here to see you through 'til the day's end | And if the night comes, and the night will come | Well at least the war is over | Lift your head and look out the window | Stay that way for the rest of the day and watch the time go | Listen, the birds sing | Listen, the bells ring | All the living are dead, and the dead are all living | The war is over and we are beginning...

Someone To You by BANNERS

I don't even need to change the world | I'll make the moon shine just for your view | I'll make the starlight circle the room | And if you feel like night is falling | I wanna be the one you're calling | 'Cause I believe that you could lead the way…

The Future’s Right In Front of Me by A Great Big World

I learned my lesson, it was wrong of me to look so far ahead | I'll count my blessings one by one, I'll live a life I won't regret…I walked alone, I was scared of who I knew that I could be | But there was beauty in the darkest parts of my uncertainty | And now I finally see the future's right in front of me, yeah…

[musical-chick-13]

"This show is SO good, you should watch it!!"

I gotta be honest. If I look at a character list on Wikipedia and get five characters down without seeing a single woman, it's probably not for me.

[discoreptile]

Beasties of Greenhollow soundtrack! Some tracks on this are from older projects like elphame but all of them have been reworked in some way. Most of them are entirely new. Enjoy!

[selfinflictedgunshotwound]

how do terfs grapple with the fact that they're white supremacist losers who think that women are weak essentially like adult babies but that they also bear the apparent brunt of all human pain... liiike ok which narrative are we going with

[unicrons-chaos]

In honour of Pride month, and being a genderless being, I wanted to discuss one of my favorite things in transformers.

When it comes to transformers, my favorite thing is the fact they technically have no true concept of gender and sexuality. All of that comes from organic planets that do. Such as with IDW and all the femmes being esentially trans by earth definition.

it shows that they're still problematic or crazy or all kinds of bad things since their whole thing is about war and fighting, but yet they're a species so accepting of things like love and what not(depending on media/fanfic).

And it's so funny to me, cause like you can have a ship of some silly gay old men and call them lesbians if you saw it fitting them. Cause like, with them, what even is a man?

[unproduciblesmackdown]

truly something that, amidst facing / going through a dramatic Life Change ft. unavoidable emotional effects of that, there are instances where i can't conceal any & all degrees of being distressed / upset, & repeatedly getting "it's hard for me too" as a Direct Response to that: really something & a half how the asserted theoretical Sympathy of [i feel similarly!] is invoked so as to, oh you know, preclude sympathetic Treatment. such as that what would be More sympathetic in these instances would be to say Nothing, "if there's nothing but dismissal / making it first & foremost about someone else's feelings to say, don't say it at all" style