#which is that they're both my dads and i love

[shrikeseams]

I suspect my vision of finarfin's relationships with his kids once they've returned to man's soil is always going to be defined by love without trust.

Which tbf i suspect a major theme in many relationships of reimbodied exiles! Arafinwe & co are good examples to me tho because you can to some extent omit kinslaying-related guilt.

But just. Finrod and Angrod and Aegnor and Galadriel (and schrodinger's orodreth) who all dearly love their dad, and respect him as a leader of long standing, and who nevertheless are aware whenever they're in his presence that he values obedience to authority over his relationships with them.

Arafinwe, who still loves and cherishes his children and values their heroics in middle earth and who wholeheartedly echoes the valars' forgiveness of their various sins--and who cannot see them, cannot embrace them, without visceral awareness of their propensity to seek power through violence (both physical and otherwise).

[allthebooksandcrannies]

My parents and I have been getting back into Superman and Lois after only seeing the first season as it was coming out, and my mom asked me why I think it doesn't bother me so much when the characters are making objectively rash or illogical decisions/accusations, suggesting maybe it was because I was already so bought into the DC fandom in general that it didn't bother me.

At the time I didn't have an answer for her other than knowing that wasn't the reason, since it definitely does annoy and frustrate me, but I've been thinking about it. Bc yeah, I'm still enjoying the show a lot and am getting more and more into the show, while the last three shows I tried getting into with them, my dad and I both tapped out bc we were cringing too much at the characters choices. So what was different with Superman and Lois?

And I think the answer is Clark.

Not only because there is truth to my mom pointing out how much I love a well-written Superman (and Tyler being my favorite on-screen version of the character), but also bc Clark's usually the member of the main cast making the "best" choices: compartmentalizing in a crisis, prioritizing safety over ego or temporary emotions but also treating emotional health as important and worth occasionally taking careful risks for. He balances the paranoia and coldness of characters like early General Lane by knowing when to put his family and friends first, but he also can put aside the personal when needed, whether that's putting aside a grudge to team up with a former antagonist or being the voice of reason when Lois or one of the boys are making a dangerous or hurtful choice/behavior bc they're caught up in an emotional response.

And when this Clark does mess up, it's usually pretty justified and he still recognizes and apologizes for it without making excuses. And then he actually does better in the future bc he learns from his mistakes, which is so refreshing to see.

The other shows I was struggling to get into, the protagonist was either the problem or just as bad as the other characters with making decisions with easily foreseeable negative consequences for potential little reward, not learning from those mistakes and repeating them, and then acting like the very foreseeable consequences were totally unpredictable and not at all their fault. This makes it really, really hard to get invested in these characters and their shows bc I'm torn between second hand embarrassment and wanting to shout "I told you so" at the screen.

But i CAN root for Superman and Lois's Clark Kent. And the characters who are making choices that feel obviously unwise to me (an adult with adult regulation skills) are usually the teenage characters who are acting in completely age-appropriate ways for teenagers. The teenagers are written exactly like children of their age, with all the short-sightesness, emotional regulation issues, and black-and-white morality that goes with it. And these conflicts and character flaws make the story better bc the writers give them the respect they deserve. Yeah, a teenager is going to think that his first love is going to last forever, and yeah, his adult parents are going to know that's unlikely and immature, and yeah, that doesn't make it any less meaningful to him at that moment. The writers get teenagers and the way that everything is bigger to them bc of their life stage in a way that few shows tend to understand and fully explore, especially among shows not written solely for teens.

[bumblingbabooshka]

I think Sarek and Amanda Grayson both lowkey seeing their children as little experiments in different ways is undeniably bad parenting BUT .... I mean you talk about matching each other's freak .... Like imagine for a second Sarek is like "I am going to show that Humans are just as good as Vulcans by molding this Human child and my half Human son into the perfect Vulcans - This will show that despite what society thinks of as their genetic inferiority, they're just as good as any Vulcan." and Amanda's response to that is to think "Sarek is wrong...Michael's humanity MUST be preserved...so that I can show her all the love and affection I can't show Spock and maybe through their sibling bond all my unspoken and unexpressed love can trickle down to him through her." What are you both DOOOOING!?? You guys are NUTS like PLEASE just TALK to each other and compromise about how you're going to raise your children!! [Love the drama though] So I'm imagining in my head that Sarek is severely pressuring both Spock and Michael to act as perfect Vulcans their entire lives with him or else they're failures not only in his eyes but in all of society's (because he's an ambassador and raising these children is tied irrevocably with his work as such) WHILE Amanda is secretly trying to funnel her humanity and love for Spock through Michael and as such failure to receive, express, or internalize that love is failing not only your mother but also the entire Human race. Damned if you do damned if you don't! Who do you want to disappoint more, kids?

In 'Point of Light' Amanda says that she gave Michael all of the love, joy, and affection which she wasn't "permitted" (we must question the use of the word - what stopped her from directly giving Spock this love? I'm not saying there wasn't pressure for her not to, I'm saying the word 'permitted' absolves her of any personal choice or failing in a way that's interesting to me) to give Spock and though this is on the surface level sweet and probably meant to be interpreted that way, I submit that it must be kind of fucked up to hear that your foster mother was maybe only so kind and caring to you because she felt she wasn't allowed to act that way towards her "real" son. Michael Burnham as a tool for both her parents, however unintentional, is very interesting and I'm not sure it's something canon considers (haven't watched the show, I just like imagining things). The feeling that you have to be grateful to these people for not only being your parents but being YOUR parents. For taking you in and giving you a beautiful life - you have to pay them back, you have to make them especially proud of YOU. Because they didn't HAVE to, did they? Because you're not their "real" child. In the end, it's always Spock - isn't it? The love your mother gives you is Spock's love and if only one child can enter the Vulcan Science Academy then it has to be Spock. You're the appetizer your father serves before the REAL main course and your mother's stuffed doll which represents the thing she REALLY wants to hold and you know they genuinely care about you. That's the worst part. Because you know they care and they didn't mean to hurt you and the voice in the back of your head keeps telling you that any hurt they've dealt you pales in comparison to the debt you owe them and they love you, they love you, they love you, they love you, they love you [repeat as often as need be: remember the debt]

[dreamlogic]

aye can i get a fuckin uuuhhhh

break. on my burger

[shannonsketches]

lays on the floor do you guys ever think about how in ResF Bulma falls for Vegeta's fake-out with Freeza and both she and Yamcha are worried about Vegeta's villain fake-out strategy in Champa and Beerus' mini tournament and how it's only been a couple of years since the Buu saga and how Vegeta straight up stopped using that strategy after that tournament

[todayisafridaynight]

I’m fairly new to the fandom, but I do have a question if you can answer it! Why do people ship Daigo with Aoki / Masato? I tried looking to see if they’ve interacted before, but couldn’t find anything! Sorry for asking I’m just </3 dumb AND I LOVE YOUR ART OF THEM!!! Nerd looking ahhhhhh

hi ! welcome to the community i hope you're having a lovely time so far and ty for enjoyin my stuff :) no need for apologies it's a very fair question to have :]

i cant speak for everyone (all. ten people into masadai anyway) but Personally To Me i just think the idea of them together is very funny. thats quite literally it im afraid..

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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[very-uncorrect]

Am I the only girl whose parents think it's inconceivable for you to have male friends

Like- a guy I sat next to in my GCSE maths class waved at me from the zebra crossing outside my school whilst my dad was giving me a lift home once and my dad just would not stop asking me about it, according to my mum he was convinced I was dating the guy for months after

I'm just wanting someone to ask me out just so that they shut up about it at this point

I'm just realising my life is the beginning of a fake dating fanfic isn't it

[jynersq]

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[dellinah]

I was going to name this “angel of darkness” after the song I listened to on repeat while drawing this, but then I remembered it’s Loona and she probably wouldn’t appreciate anything that could relate her to Cherubs of any kind. So now it’s just LoonaDeath.png

Anyway Puss in Boots 2 hum. It’s all everyone is talking about rn. And it makes me hella happy.

I went in without any expectations since I had avoided most trailers and wow. I came out with one of my new favorite movies of all time, animated or otherwise. I genuinely think it’s among DreamWorks’ best. I did not expect such an accurate and respectful depiction of mental health and PTSD; or a valid discussion about mortality x what makes like worth it, or what counts as a family, or healing broken trust.

But it delivered that and much more.

I just love it a lot, everything about it. Animation, story, character, themes. Between Puss in Boots 2, The bad guys and Del Toro’s Pinocchio I think 2022 was a great year for animation and none of it was Disney so hummm. Let’s see if that changes.

Either way it was a great movie.

So. El Lobo hum.

Yeah shoot me he’s pretty hot I’ll just embrace it. I love him. All my furry friends do, one way or another. Whether you think he’s really cool or you want him inside y-

Probably one of the most memorable and menacing villains in recent animated movies and damn it I love him. In a lot of ways. For a lot of reasons. But they went all out on his animation and his scenes are so great.

Long story short a very random and weird roleplay between a friend and I ended up with us figuring out that Loona is Death’s biological daughter. Which explains their similar eyes and color pallet, and also why Loona is such a natural killer. So I made this.

It makes perfect sense and that’s CANON NOW

Or, you know, it’s just Loona dressed up as Death for Howl-o-ween. Whichever you prefer.

I like how this turned out so far. I WANT to try shading and maybe a bg but who knows so I’ll post this anyway. I hope you like it too.

also watch the movie if you haven’t !!

[musical-chick-13]

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[cigaretteparfum]

welp. it's official: can't talk to either of me parents about issues pertaining to my identity. 🥲

[puppypaw-wc]

i started a new clangen clan yesterday and i can't get over how pretty this cat is like- the starclan guide is also v pretty.

[babayagabarbie]

Yknow what I like? I like that my face gets all scrunchy when I laugh just like my mom and dad. I like that

[relicsongmel]

Just spent over an hour searching for the static Ho-oh in the overworld and suddenly Ryuji taking literal years to reunite with his family makes sense to me now

[thawthebeez]

had to throw out a bouquet of dead, rotting flowers. this is so chapter 17 of catalyst coded