#which is incredibly rude

[awesomechocolatesauce]

Certain people like to harp on Ben for being mean in early season one and stick to that characterization of him throughout the entire show ("he started out as a douche and ended as a douche"), so I'd like to counter that.

Here's a list, just from the top of my head, of the good things Ben has done:

Acknowledged he and Devi make a good team

Didn't rat Devi out to her mom about Model UN

Allowed Devi to stay in his house when she was having a fight with her mom

Helped Devi reunite with Fabiola and Eleanor

Broke the law and risked his safety to drive Devi to Malibu so she can spread her dad's ashes

Immediately informed Paxton that they were both dating Devi

While still being mad at Devi, he helped her relieve a leg cramp

Went into the bathroom to comfort Devi after she was publicly rejected by Paxton

Apologized to Aneesa for how he treated her during their relationship*

Helped Paxton write his college essay

Told Devi that Des' mom was getting him to break up with her

Apologized to Devi for icing her out

Saved Devi from a creep and got punched in the face

Gave Devi a pep talk at Princeton "You know who you are"

Immediately told Devi that someone in their school was accepted into Princeton

Wanted to end things with Margot on friendly terms

Gave Devi a pep talk and comforted her after she wasn't accepted into any colleges

Congratulated Devi on getting accepted into Princeton

Flew all the way from New York to California just to confess his feelings for Devi

Wow, how mean he is! No character development whatsoever! 😭😂 Add more if you want.

* I don't think it was all Ben's fault for how he and Aneesa's relationship ended. Even if Devi wasn't in the picture, I firmly believe that they were just incompatible.

[tadsweep]

i never said i was complaining. this is nicer.

a puppet is still a puppet, even with new strings.

but thank you, nonetheless.

[lizardswears]

I keep having dreams where I meet Joe Hills in the food court of an infinitely big and completely white mall. He’s always eating spaghetti, (sometimes he’s chained to a potted plant,) and he always has something incredibly concerning to say. Like, just now, I was told, “You need to start crying now so you don’t miss it when… Uh, Yikes.” At which point I was gently turned around to face a literal tsunami and woke from an otherwise pleasant nap to the sensation of drowning.

[botaniqueer]

Hello! As usual, I really hate asking for help yet again, especially since I already have done that before, but I've been dealing with some medical issues that are preventing me from working for the next two months, and I'm going to need some help with filling the holes that Washington's medical leave program isn't able to, since it's only a percentage of my usual restaurant worker income.

The short of it is that my chronic fatigue has gotten to the point where it hurts when I stand for more than 30 minutes at a time, which is not a good thing when you're in the service industry, so to try and figure things out with my doctor, and to prevent further damage I'm taking some time off.

Also def don't feel obligated to donate! And if you do end up helping please let me know how I can help you back! As usual I have seeds for days and can give out plants. Thank you so much for sharing as well!

[stick-ball]

My takes on some of this fandoms most controversial issues lately:

• you can criticize and dislike whatever but you should never be rude and threatening about it??? This is going both to nora haters and to other fans haters

• Omfg sometimes characters don't get development because the narrator who's pov we are reading couldn't care less about their issues? Rings any bells? Seriously

• I get it you come from the anime trenches but just because there's a lot of fetishism of gay boys by women there, doesn't mean women can't enjoy queer books with men protagonists anymore wtf. Kinda sexist. Live and let live.

• yeah Kevin uses alcohol as an escape but that doesn't yet qualify as alcoholism. Alcoholism is a severe condition, seriously. That's like saying someone who's in a bad mood is suicidal immediately.

• I saw several complaints on goodreads that TSC should have had sensitivity readers bcs they dont like how Jean's trauma has been approached. 1. How do you know it didn't have sensitivity readers? 2. You complain when it's not even something you're sensitive to, so let me assure you as someone with shared trauma. It's accurate as heck get lost seriously.

• I'm worried we are glorifying Jean as gentle when in fact half of it is him trying to behave in a way that means he won't be punished for breaking any written or non written rules.

• I do not accept papasan chair slander. Meet me behind Waffle House at the witching hour.

Anyway, Have a winning day! 🌞🥰

[ofpd]

video description: a video edit of the 1972 miniseries adaptation of les misérables. it focuses on éponine and her relationship with marius, and is set to “you belong with me” by taylor swift. end description.

why can't you see!! || a birthday gift for @jondrettegirls <3

[witch-sweets]

Heres a poorly drawn comic about Hat Kid questioning The Prince's personality compared to Snatchers and how they aren't technically that different from eachother when it comes to "evilness"

(Also featuring a human MJ cameo for no particular reason)

In other words:

Peckneck literally becomes innocent in front of kids and his gf only to turn around and sue someone for looking at him funny

You can be a menace to society and still be oblivious and slightly naive when it comes to toxic relationships

Rose tinted glasses and all that

You can also be a menace to society and still be polite when the situation calls for it

Being nice to kids and stuff isn't that hard

Basically I'm trying to make him a mixture of most Prince portrayals in the fandom and a slight menace to society that carries Snatchers snark and chaotic behavior-

[chocolix76]

I feel like Solar Flare and Jack's existence is extremely messed up. In this essay I will.

I want to start off by saying that I absolutely LOVE Solar Flare and Jack and I'm happy they are/were in the show. My problem is the way they were created and why.

Both Lunar and Bloodmoon were originally created to be tools for Eclipse, just as Solar Flare and Jack were created to be tools. The difference is that Lunar and Bloodmoon were created sentient. They both had the ability to recognize that Eclipse was abusing them and were aware of the fact that they were tools. Both of them had the power to actively change their fates, or at least attempt to. Solar Flare didn't have that ability. Jack doesn't have that ability either.

While Solar Flare's existence wasn't at all surprising to me considering what Eclipse did with Lunar and Bloodmoon, it caught me off guard that he wasn't sentient. That's a problem for many reasons considering he wouldn't know he was being mistreated or that he didn't want to serve the purpose he was built for. Yes, he grew more sentient as time went on, but think about it. He was built and then a little while later, Eclipse took over his body and forced Solar Flare back into the headspace where they both later died. Solar Flare never actually got a chance to live.

Jack on the other hand was created to protect Lunar. He no longer has that purpose because he annoyed and angered Lunar when he simply didn't know better. Jack also has the problem where he can't escape his situation and is stuck doing the bidding of others because yet again, he doesn't know better. But what irks me with Jack is the fact that he was created by Solar and was neglected and ignored the same way that Eclipse had done with his creations. In his attempts to please Lunar, Solar left behind his own creation which now no longer has a purpose

[remadra]

I have a lot of headcanons on how the Constant works, and one of them is that every time someone is revived, they return to the exact state they were in when they entered the Constant. That's why a lot of time can pass but most of the survivors seemingly don't change that much. The kids are the most extreme examples of this happening.

[tam--lin]

It has nothing to do with wearing pants but when my mom was running* speech and debate tournaments in the 2000s and 2010s, she was the ONLY woman I ever saw who made the extremely intentional and political choice to pray over the group instead of asking any male, even a nearby twelve-year old boy to pray. This was both incredibly badass given the context and also genuinely scared me that she and/or we, her children, would face retribution.

*for free!!!!! the incredibly skilled free labor of women absolutely keeps the NCFCA afloat

[swagging-back-to]

the way literally every fucking person has been REPULSIVE about euthanasia lately.

[fangwhoria]

i will never write fanfiction for firefighters but i never get closer to doing so than when i read a really bad fic with a really great premise

[mikonezzo]

remembered im in my rude boy era so i have to stop saying nice things so uh. um. you lok like youre really cool no FUCK i fucked up let me try again. your art is. its. it looks. it's my phone background god DAMNIT. okay hang on. let me consult this book of insults i got on sale. uh. right so it says here that you. you. youre a big. i bet you listen to hozier

hmmmmmm I don't know what you're alluding to.... I would never listen to hozier are you calling me a fa

[problematicfactive]

Hi! You can always request some specific positivity on @multiplicity-positivity if the post we made doesn’t suit your tastes. We are NOT trying to exclude anyone or make anyone feel unwelcome with our posts. You are always more than welcome to make your own request.

Funny considering that the entire reason -this- blog exists is because that one only writes positivity for factives who source separate or are distressed by their own identity. I did request specific positivity on your blog. Twice. Both times I was directed to the same old blog post that was super heavily focused on problematic factives that just like hate themselves of something. And not just me, I get asks all the time from people talking about how you seem willing to make decent positivity for every group, but our positivity has to be rooted in self loathing.

Like I really don't mean to seem rude, but what kind of sense does telling me "you're more than likely to request your own" make when you know you direct everyone who mentions a problematic factive back to the same old post that descends into a clear bias for problematic factives that need to source separate for their own mental health.

It is incredibly ironic to only ever mention problematic factives that need or want to source separate, ignore multiple requests of positive for problematic factives that enjoy who they are and don't want it can't have that separation, and then turn around and talk about problematic introjects who love themselves and don't separate are valid.

Your problematic factives post mentions a couple of types, wonderful! It then goes into only shouting out negative experience, I can not explain enough how much it feels like "shoutout to problematic factives but only if they hate themselves because what happened in source was so bad that you can't just love yourself" and it is incredibly frustrating because we're told told by the people around us who pretend to be accepting that the only way we can be accepted isn't changing our names and our interest is and cutting source off completely and if we can't do that it's a hurl of insults. Positivity should be a place to get away from that, not have these stereotypes affirmed.

There's a reason I chose that blog post to reblog as incredibly frustrating as it was considering that it is meant to be for introjects but it *begins* with fictive specific positivity meaning readers will likely have fictive on the mind for the next post and has nothing for factives despite the fact that people do continue to request good factive positivity from you. The reason was because even though that blog was clearly not catered to us at all and there was not a sliver thrown in our direction, it was *all* we've been able to get from you. The best positivity we get from you is the one where you can't even give us a little nod.

This has been a problem on my mind for a long, long time. Go back and look at the difference between your two posts. One of them gives some neutral shout outs (if you are this, if you are that. Nothing attached to that, just if this fact applies) and then straight into the negatives (if you're going to therapy to not be yourself anymore). The other starts with a neutral but has SO many positives, while still giving some attention to the introjects that source separate.

There is such a CLEAR difference in how you handled these things. I'm allowed to point that out. I'm allowed to tell my followers that this post clearly either wasn't made with us in mind or didn't want to mention us specifically for whatever reason, but it's better for many us then the one made specifically for us.

I mean like. If you hadn't made a post for problematic factives I can get where my actions would have been pretty uncalled for, I could just ask. But I did ask. I asked twice, people in my inbox asked, and from what I understand, nothing that was beneficial to me or my askers was ever posted. Nothing that was as accepting and warm feeling at the blog post I reposted was posted. And idk what you think about that but I think that gives me the right to seem upset.

Introjects post

Factives post

[lightblueminecraftorchid]

I love learning ASL it’s so good. Makes me happy to learn it. I’m so glad my university has classes for it with professors actually steeped in Deaf culture.

[aurosoulart]

walking people through all my interactive AR experiences at AWE has made me realize that I literally do not need to care about anyone who approaches my work with disrespect

I guided hundreds of people through portals to other worlds, dandelion forests, carnival games we could all play together, toys and collaborative paintings and just pure magic - and 99% of them clearly experienced joy and awe unlike anything they’d ever seen before…

and the small handful of people who still managed to be negative after all of that were clearly just unhappy individuals who had some kind of personal issues entirely unrelated to anything I was doing or sharing with them.

one guy was literally mad that our marketing wasn’t good enough on our business card. like… that is so vastly unimportant. I’m just here to bring people joy and show them something new - if someone can’t let that in, it’s extremely incredibly not my problem.