#what allah says about dua to get pregnant

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Soul and Mate

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Hello, everyone! It's been a long time it's been a long no writing to this blog. As for today, I want to share my journey to finally find the "one". What an interesting topic for 90's generation who's already on their 30's and still single. I'm ready to spill some tea with you guys!

I bumped into @coachanez's page and find one of her reels relatable and I hope this post will somehow inspire and encourage you guys on finding your mate.

Coach Anez in one of her reels said to find your soul first before find your mate. I just watch it today and without realizing I'm on that process already. It's Allah's way to grant me such idea to find myself first, what exactly I want in life in order to find what I want from a partner.

Step to a few years back, I overthink on my prospect on finding partner if I'm not wiling to meet real person in real life while I have limited access on women-men interaction. Then I start to be more open on social gathering especially in matchmacking purpose. And I came to a conclucion I should put myself out, not sit still on my bubble. It's hard, I know. It's hard to be vulnarable, show my intention, but it's something I need to do since it's widder the chance of me getting women-men interaction.

Everytime I attend the matchmaking gathering (some people here called it anjangsana) in my 28's until my age now, my intention is shifted. I change my intention to encouraging those girls on the event. I started making friends everytime I came to those gatherings. Listen to their stories and shared the good vibe energy with them. I can't remember their names but we remember faces hahahahaha! but that's fun! on the last gathering I attend I met a girl who I always bump to on every gathering I attend and she said she's pregnant already that indicate she's been married! I'm happy for her ofc! that's how the energy I want to give to others, like "hang on girls, your time will come" finally with Allah's blessing my intention, my energy is well shared. I love listening to their concern and I hope with my presence there they find it as an encouraging message. warm hugs for those girls.

As I meet a lot of people, I came to the idea on finding myself first. And I start to wrote on this platform, privately (I make it open just now hehe), what I want from a partner. And that really help me on deciding whether the man who come is worthy of my time.

And finally I can say that I finally met that person! (OMG! the tea is spilled hahaha) One of my cousin introduced me to this man and voila! in no time I become someone's wife. It's exciting yet thrilling! But to be wise, I need to calm down and enjoy the rest of the month as a 30's single before those obligations and mandatories come along with the new chapter. And preparing a wedding is tiring AF yet exciting to be honest. Haaaaaaah ... inhaling and exhaling everytime I think about it. And I sit here at 4 am continue wrtiting to you guys before I dive into the chaotic wedding spreedsheet that I make LOL.

Beside all the flowers and butterflies things happening, there's a tiny part on my brain that overly think, like, is this real? (this one with capital letters! OMG IS THIS EVEN REAL?!) am I not rushing things? am I not trapped in the idea of him? am I deserved to be with someone as fine as him? ... but I try not to. Everytime those intrusive thoughts come, I pray to Allah to keep those away and make me focus on what I should do next. This process also teach me how "go with the flow" (with Allah's guidance of course) is as exciting as "everything planned".

The one thing people want to know is how do you know is she/he is the one? Idk about him but for me ... he's everything I could ask for a partner. On my whisper pray before bed, on my sleepless night, on my despair ... those whisper prays ... those tiny tiny voice inside my head ... Allah is there, listen. No one will check all the list you write as your ideal partner but when the person come, you finally know which qualities from your list that you needed the most. I can guarantee that. All the stage of life that you've been through ... I can say it's necessary to happen, to help you find your soul and finally, find your mate.

I'm not saying all my problems solved at this rate. It's actually a new chapter, a new problem ofc. But the idea of getting to know someone and have a partner going through the hard road is great. I know, none of this writing is make sense for my fellow 90's friends and 30's girls. This is not relateable, I know. But when your time come, and you read this, I hope all of this will make sense to you. And when it come, I hope you're already make peace with yourself.

See you on my next writing.

Bye!

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Special dua for getting pregnant

Special dua for getting pregnant

Dua For Conceive There are a lot of couples who are seen going to hospitals daily because they cannot be parents. Well if you have tried all the medical help, and still you don’t know what’s wrong and what’s stopping you from conceiving, then you should better start reciting dua for conceiving. The dua to conceive a baby will help you in getting pregnant as soon as possible. It will eradicate…

[uma1ra]

There is a dua I heard growing up a lot but at the time I was too young to appreciate. Every night before eating dinner, my Abu (dad) would make an elaborate dua which by the time he completed the food had gone cold (or at least that’s how long it felt).

He would tell me all the time, Son when you are my age you’ll understand. This was an example of that, at the time I would grow impatient because I was hungry… you know? I just wanted to eat.

I would look around the table to see if anyone else felt the same way, they all had their heads down looking into their palms while my dad continued on with the dua.

I can still hear his voice in my head after listening to it for many years, “rabbana hablana min azwajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata A’yunin waj’alna lil- muttaqina imama”

Part of the reason I couldn’t appreciate the act is because Arabic isn’t my mother tongue I just never really appreciated the meaning behind what was being said. But now, in retrospect on my own Journey to learning about Islam I’ve grown to really love this specific dua:

The english meaning is:

“Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.”

The beauty in reciting this dua is it asking Allah for a united family unit, something my father was praying for every day when we had our family dinners. To have a wife and children that would “bring comfort” and be a positive influence on the community by being “examples for the righteous”.

Who wouldn’t want a family like that?

These are core values and ethics we could build a good chunk of our behaviors and personalities around.

RABBANA HABLANA MIN AZWAJINA PRONUNCIATION IN ARABIC TEXT

This Rabbana dua is mentioned from Surah Furqan (chapter 25) ayat 74. in Arabic with transliteration and English translation:

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

Transliteration: rabbana hablana min azwaajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata A’yunin waj’alna lil- muttaqina imama

BENEFITS OF RABBANA HABLANA MIN AZWAJINA DUA (WHEN TO RECITE)

Here’s a list of benefits from reciting this dua. It can also provide a good context for when someone would say this supplication.

Asking Allah for a righteous life partner.

Asking Allah for obedient children that are good positive influence on others.

Dua can also be recited for married couple looking to get pregnant and have beautiful babies.

Or can be recited when you are pregnant and want to ask Allah for a safe pregnancy and a healthy new born.

I hope this helps you on your own personal journey to learning about Islam.

May Allah give you and others every success in their search, insha’Allah.

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Dua And Prayers For Getting A Child

Dua And Prayers For Getting A Child

Dua To Get Pregnant With Twins

Allah ke Sabhi bando Ko Molvi Wahid Ali Khan Ka Salam Walekum. Main allahtala se aap sabki kheriyat ki Dua Karta Hu.

Har Couple Apni Life Me Ek Choti si Happy Family Chahta Hai . Jisme Unke Chote Chote Bachhe Ho Jo Unhe Abu Ammi Kah Kar Bulaye. Jo Unse Jidd Kare aur Unke Buddape Me Unki Care Kare. Har Koi ChahtaHai ki Wo Apni Aulad Ko Achhi Taleem De.Aaj Kal Ke Khan…

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Strong Wazifa To Get Pregnant

Strong Wazifa To Get Pregnant

Wazifa To Get Pregnant In One Month Aslam Walekum Khawatino Hazrat main Molvi Rahim Sheikh Aap Sabka Ishtkabaal Karta Hu aur Allahtala Se aap Sabki Kheriyat ki Dua Karta Hu. Is Duniya Me Sayed Hi Koi Hoga Jo ye Na Chahta Ho ki Unki Bhi apni Well Settle Family ho. Aap Kitna Bhi kamate ho Par Us Khuda Ke Samne kabhi kisi ki Nahi chalti. Har Husband Wife ka Sirf Ek Hi Sapna Hota hai ki unka bhi apna…

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Powerful Taweez To Get Pregnant , " Having your own kids is the most beautiful part of ones life, especially for women, the time when they become mother is unforgettable life time, But some times despite doing all efforts one is not becoming pregnant

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Allah tells in the Quran how He showed a miracle to Zakariya عليه السلام by bestowing an offspring in a very unlikely age which was a very impossible thing. Are these just for أنبياء or can we also expect and hope such impossibles to happen with us with sincere dua. You d say with Allah everthing is possible n always make dua but we usually dont see such impossibles happen around us.So are these miracles just for prophets.I ll be really thankful for your enlightening reply

To answer this question, we first must ask why Allah granted the Prophets their wishes, was it because Allah liked them better than the rest of his servants? Or was it perhaps due to the sincere faith, trust and obedience the Prophets placed upon their Lord? We know Allah to be the most high, fair judge and therefore we can conclude that Allah would always gift upon one's religion. So then why is it that sometimes the most faithful of servants don't receive their wish?

The Prophet said: “there isn’t a single Muslim who makes a dua, as long as it is not for something that is haram or that breaks the ties of kinship, except that Allah would give him or her 1 of 3 things: either He will answer his prayer soon, or He will store it up for him in the Hereafter, or He will remove something bad from him that is equivalent to what he is asking for.

Sometimes when we make dua, we don’t see its immediate effects. As a result, we get disheartened and lose hope in the effectiveness of our duas yet we must always remember that Allah is the best of planners and just because duas are not answered immediately or the exact way we wish it to doesn't mean Allah has ignored us. We must remember we're always two steps behind Him and therefore He can see what's best for us in the longterm and if He decides something is not good for us, or not at this time then it must be so. A parent raising an infant and not allowing him to have lollipops before bed may seem cruel to the child yet the parent knows of the benefits it'll reap in the future and so does Allah with our duas, we may not comprehend the reasons why now but in the future, the 'neglected' duas may be a blessing in disguise.

Moreover you've mentioned miracles and I truly believe with all of my heart that Allah does give miracles. I think the problem is our selves, our societies. It's clear that nowadays there is more sin and corruption, and more people dishonoring Allah. Allah has never forsaken us and He does miracles for us everyday! You've spoken about the miracle baby, but nowadays so many of the same exact miracles are happening! All around the world, women over menopausal ages are getting pregnant for the first time. Just last month an Indian lady of 73, had a baby for the first time when doctors told her it was impossible. How glorious is Allah? However in all of the news headlines nobody is attributing this miracle to Allah and His goodness, instead people believe it to be due to the woman's body miraculously regaining fertility. This is the problem, even when Allah answers miracles, due to us simply not associating it with His wonders it seems as if it did not happen with His accord. When we look around and give glory for all the miracles that happen we can then appreciate that the miracles do truly happen.

As the prophet has said, Allah always has a plan and we must trust that like the parent, He always has our best interests at heart and we must follow him, even if it means we don't get that lollopop.😊

[with-her-qalam]

Sunnah Of Pregnancy

Having children is one of the blessings of Allah. God provides us all with different rizq (well-being), health and off springs. All of these things are gifts from God and we should be grateful for what we are given and never complain for what we don't have. 

It is sunnah to announce the birth of the child once the baby arrives but till that moment below are some beneficial practices for you and your child in sha Allah. KEEP IT PRIVATE If you are expecting a baby, keep thanking God for this gift and keep it private among close relatives. There is a general principle which should be paid attention to when telling others of blessings. The news should be given only to those who wish good for you and will rejoice over it, so as to ward off the evil eye and destructive envy (hasad). The evidence for that is the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “Be discreet in order to achieve what you want, for everyone who is blessed is envied.” Narrated by al-Tabaraani and Abu Nu’aym; classed as sahaah by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 943.

BE THANKFUL Be thankful to Allah for having chosen you for such a gift. The first trimester is hard for some women who suffer from nausea (morning sickness) and weakness; and the last weeks of pregnancy are exhausting: Allah says in the Quran: “…His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness…” (Surah Luqman:14) “…His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship…” (Surah al-Aĥqaf:15) - even then, keep thanking Allah and believe that He will never burden you more than you can bear! He is indeed the best of planners and knows what is best for us!

FOLLOW THE FOOTSTEPS OF THE MOTHER OF MARYAM

What a blessed mother was she who gave birth to Maryam! So why not follow her footsteps and make the same dua (supplication) she did when she was expecting as narrated in the Quran: “[Mention, O Muhammad], when the wife of ‘Imran said: My Lord, indeed I have pledged to You what is in my womb, consecrated [for Your service], so accept this from me. Indeed, You are the Hearing, the Knowing.” (Surah Aal Imran: 35) With this dua, renew your intention every day that this baby would be a pious servant of Allah. Insha’Allah your intentions and prayers will have a positive effect in creating an innate bond between your child and the deen (religion) of Allah!

WHEN RUH (SOUL) ENTERS YOUR BABY

It is narrated in a hadith by the Prophet (sa) that: “Each one of you is constituted in the womb of the mother for forty days, and then he becomes a clot of thick blood for a similar period, and then a piece of flesh for a similar period. Then Allah sends an angel who is ordered to write four things. He is ordered to write down his deeds, his livelihood, his (date of) death, and whether he will be blessed or wretched (in religion). Then the soul is breathed into him…” (Bukhari) Based on this hadith, jurists have inferred that the soul enters the fetus at around 4 months/120 days after gestation, that is, the second trimester. As you enter your second trimester, make frequent dua to Allah to pre-ordain for your baby a life of unwavering faith. RECITE THE QURAN FOR YOUR BABY Around the 20th week, the baby in the womb gains the ability to hear. This is a great time to create a one-on-one, exclusive bond with your unborn baby by reciting the Quran every day. The sound waves of your voice will reach your baby and what better words than the melodious Quran for your baby to hear and get familiar with. Give your child a head start in creating a relationship and bond with the Quran even before he comes in this world. This is one of the greatest gifts you can give to your child!

DUAS As for the acts of worship that the pregnant woman can do, they are all the acts of worship that the Muslim does by day and by night, such as praying, fasting (so long as there is no fear of harm), giving charity, reading Qur’aan, regularly reciting the adhkaar that are prescribed in sharee‘ah, treating people kindly, visiting relatives, taking stock of oneself, and striving to attain the best attitudes, actions and words. AVOID BIDAH There are many fabricated duas, hadith and practices for pregnant women . Stay away from any innovation and always refer to the Quran and Sunnah. Sahaba women in time of Prophet (peace be upon him) did not do anything special rather then taking care of themselves and their unborn child and doing regular worldly and religious duties. FOOD AND FITNESS Meditation through prayer: Many people will guide you towards yoga and meditation, which are a great way to relax your overworked body. However remember that prayer is the best form of meditation and it will calm you and soothe your baby as well. Keep checking in with Allah: Stay connected with Allah and talk to Him about your fears and difficulties. Make istikharah (guidance prayer) for all decisions, especially when choosing your doctor and your delivery options. Ask Allah to grant you a safe delivery, a righteous child, and an easy transition into motherhood. Avail the maternity leave Allah has given, if needed: The Prophet (sa) said: “Allah has relieved the traveller of half of the prayer and of the duty to fast, and He has relieved pregnant and nursing mothers (of the duty to fast).” (Sunan an-Nasa’i; reliable) If you feel that you are unable to fast due to weakness or any other complication, you can leave your fast without any worry. However do remember to mark it somewhere so that you don’t forget to make it up later. Eat beneficial foods: Add honey, milk, figs, and dates to your diet as all of these have been mentioned in the Quran or the hadith for their benefits. May Allah make your pregnancy easy, and grant you a pious child who will be sadaqah-e-jariah (continuous charity) for you. Ameen.

Taken from the Blog of AnnaHariri

[dearasiyah]

May is Preeclampsia Awareness Month...

And I'm still feeling sick to my stomach. April has come and gone and It feels like I keep getting hit harder every single month with a new set of bricks. As I was mindlessly scrolling on the web, a post stood out that said "May is Preeclampsia Awareness Month in the United States." And that my friend is bringing up a whole bunch of feels.

A month of awareness that I probably would've never known about, if it didn't happen to me. But you know what hurts me the most, is that they say that "most pregnant women with preeclampsia have healthy babies. But if not treated, it can cause serious problems, like premature birth and even death."

That quote makes me angry. Pre eclampsia makes me angry! Because there's warning signs, but they don't warn us about the symptoms of pre eclampsia before It's too late! Some days I feel like I failed my daughter. The flashbacks replay in my head every single day since that week and the guilt really sucks! I feel like I was failed by the doctors, I failed myself, I failed her, and that they didn't do right by me.

I kept googling for answers while I waited to give birth to my daughter. How could this have happened and if there was a way I could make her heart beat again from within...

Could Asiyah possibly might have been here if wasn't for medical negligence? Did it had anything to do with the fact that my papers say "African American?" Was it because I was Muslim? Did I not express my pain or my emotions enough to be seen or heard?

I wish I would have advocated more for us. I was so scared that something would go wrong, or that my fear of inquiring too much would speak terrible things into existence. Well, that didn't play out well for me either.

It hurts me every day because that last day I remember feeling so down about everything, and I was just waiting for the finish line. You and I know that this is NOT how I wanted to finish my race.

These thoughts and questions weigh heavy on my mind constantly. It's painful to know that I asked Allah (swt) to ease my pain. Give me patience, and strength to make it to April. Maybe my duas weren't answered in the ways I thought about, but maybe they were saved for later because Allah knew I'd need it now. For our hardship.

Only Allah knows why things happened the way it did. I'm human. I pray I'm allowed to have these emotions and thoughts. I can't say that I don't have negative thoughts. I will probably always wonder why and think about the infinite thoughts of what ifs.

But what matters the most is that I keep reminding myself that Allah (swt) is with me on this journey and that Insha'Allah, if I stay true to him-- there's a possibility that I might be closer to my dreams. Reunited with her, with my family, in Jannah. If Allah wills.

Grief is a lifelong heartbreaking journey. I'm still learning. There are days when it feels like I’ve got it under control and life even feels normal. And then there are moments when everything feels so overwhelming that I’m not sure I’m going to make it without the support of those I love.

I'm not ready to tell my story yet, I feel like there's so much to say but it doesn't matter some days because It doesn't bring her back. I am now coined as a "preeclampsia survivor"...

And I just don't want to be.

[margiehasson]

Transitioning from One to More Children – Haute Hijab Mamas Share Stories!

By Danah Shuli

Every stage of motherhood comes with it’s own set of ups and downs. And, let me start by saying that whether you’re a mama of one or of multiple children, this parenting stuff is tough! During my second pregnancy, I had many moms tell me that things are so much easier the second time around, that you’ll have a little helper, and the fact that you’ve already gone through this experience will help make things smoother the second time.

Phew! This will be a piece of cake compared to the first time, I thought to myself. Little did I know that transitioning from one to two kids would actually be the most challenging thing I’ve had to do thus far in my motherhood journey.

Danah Shuli's daughter, Kinzah, and son, Jude, soon after he was born.

Alhamdulillah, Allah (S) has blessed me with two children – my daughter Kinzah, who is three years old, and my son Jude, who is five months old. Each experience was completely different, from the pregnancy to postpartum. Being pregnant the first time around meant that I could take naps whenever I felt tired. It meant that I had all the time in the world to get things prepped for my baby girl’s arrival. When baby arrived, I was able to focus 100 percent of my attention to one child.

Yes, it came with it’s own hardships. It was a journey of firsts. With the help of my mom and family, I was able to manage. As my daughter got older we did everything together from going to story time, to taking walks in the park, to going grocery shopping. I didn’t realize how easy it was to get ready with one child until I had my second.

Although I made a conscious effort to do the same things the second time, having a toddler made things a little different. My body changed a lot quicker with my second pregnancy. I started showing a lot sooner, my back pain started earlier, I was constantly tired from looking after my toddler, which made the pregnancy itself more exhausting. Forget naps and resting. 

Things didn’t get easier afterwards either. Although I was fortunate to have help from my mom and family, my daughter still needed her mama’s attention. Though we had prepped Kinzah during the pregnancy and though she was excited, it was hard for her. The tantrums became worse, the attachment grew stronger, and my mom guilt kicked in. It seemed as though things were never going to get easier, and even now it still feels that way sometimes. But things do get easier. You learn to get into a new routine. You learn to choose your battles, which chores to do around the house. You learn to let things go for the sake of your sanity.

To all the mamas out there, I’m with you in this! We all have different ways of getting through and finding our joy, and we need to be there for each other! I spoke with Noor Suleiman, mama of two and community manager at Haute Hijab, and with Nargis Rahman, journalist, mama of three and my fellow HH blog writer, to get their insights about going from one to two or more children.

What was the hardest transition for you, going from zero to one, one to two or beyond two kids? What made it challenging?

Noor: You get comfortable with one child. You establish a routine, you have a rhythm, and life is pretty much back to normal but with a little buddy. I had my second when my first was three years old. Having the second rocks the boat a bit, because suddenly, your old routine doesn’t work. You have to balance your eldest’s emotions through the transition, and really, you have zero time to care for yourself.

Nargis: Hands down [for me] having the first kid was the biggest transition. Although I read parenting books and asked 100 questions at the OBGYN office, I didn’t know what to expect. I spent a lot of time reading Quran and making dua for things to go smoothly. I was in my senior year of undergrad when my son was born. I was still transitioning from being a single college student to marriage, living with a joint family and motherhood.

I was the first in my friend group to get married, and I didn’t have any older cousins or aunts to ask questions. Therefore it was extremely hard for me to transition. Alhamdulillah, Allah (S) gave me such an easy-going baby. Allah (S) guided me with cues and maternal instinct on how to care for him. I have pictures of me studying and working on my final papers with him gently cradled in my arms without a fuss. Alhamdulillah.

What I wish I had known about having my first child was the lack of sleep and how much support a mother needs. Although I am the oldest of five siblings, I was not at all prepared for the first two years of motherhood.

I was better prepared going from the first to the second kid. I knew what to expect in terms of the phases between the first two years. My son was already weaned and potty-trained by then, therefore making the transition fairly do-able. But, I was not prepared for a new personality baby! My daughter was born confident. She is free-spirited and strong-willed. She cried often for long periods of time. I had a lot of anxiety during that time, because I didn’t know how to help her. I would get intense migraines from the stress. I also decided to work from home rather than work outside part-time to decrease my stress and be more hands-on.

From two to three, I prayed that Allah grant me the strength to persevere. My oldest two children were helpful and loving, which made the transition smoother. I was a confident mother by then and in my late 20s when I had my youngest. My body, however, was very tired, and I could feel this pregnancy weighing me down. Alhamduillah, my youngest is a total goofball and between my kids and I, we are able to take care of him in a team effort. 

When you had your second baby, how old was your first? How did their age affect your pregnancy and postpartum experience? What are some things you did to keep the eldest included in the process?

Noor: When I had my second baby, my first was three years old. I feel like it was a good age gap; he was more independent at that age and able to be my little assistant with breakfast or helping me get her diaper or cream, etc. It made it easy to involve him in the process and reason with him.

He was also in preschool, so while that gave me a nice break during the day while he was there, it was a little hard to have to drop off and pick him up with the baby (during winter).

I started including him in the process from when I was pregnant. I didn’t want him to get jealous when he saw the baby’s new clothes and gear, so I often would take him shopping with me and ask him, “What do you think the baby would need for ____?” I found that prompting him to tell me what we need made a tremendous difference; it not only made him feel involved and excited to be a big brother, but he also didn’t feel threatened by a newcomer. We also let him help us set up the crib (he still talks about it to this day!) and put away the baby’s things.

I had a c-section, so postpartum was kind of tough. He was more emotional and attached to me, and having to balance that a new baby and recovery was tough. Our families helped make him feel special, and I just accepted that this is a transition phase for all of us, so naturally there will be some emotions, tantrums, behavioral regressions, etc. Knowing what to expect helps a lot. Turning things into games helped too.

Nargis: When I had my second child, my oldest didn’t know I was pregnant. But Subhanallah, he was internally on cue. He would walk around saying he is an older brother before any sign of a baby around. He was so loving and protective of his new baby sister.

When I had my third child, I was living alone with my nuclear family in a different city. That experience was very different. I didn’t have as much help or visitors. I felt much more pressured to figure it out. This time around my kids were aware we were having a baby, and they were obsessed with him. In terms of postpartum, they were helpful by just generally helping out if asked or offering to hold or play with the baby while I took care of other things. 

 My youngest was born in the summer, and I was not going to let postpartum get in the way of me living my life. I took him shopping a week later and attended two weddings the first month. Looking back I think that’s hilarious because I would never have done that the first two kids.

Mamas are great at putting everyone else first, and ourselves last, which is both draining and causes us to lose sight of who we really are sometimes. What do you do for self care?

Noor: I need to get better at it. But for me, self care means stepping away from the kids. Moms know, as long as you’re around – even if your child doesn’t need you – you’ll somehow still end up momming. I don’t have a set self care routine that I do – I’d LOVE to!

Nargis: Self-care is definitely always a work in progress. Specifically, I learned to schedule time away from my kids. I played around with a formula with each transition.

In some families, simply asking for a break and handing them over to a spouse or relative is not an option. When I had my oldest I was finishing classes part-time. Therefore going to class was my “me time.” Now work is my “break time.” I went back to work when my oldest was two years old and weaned from nursing. After I had my second kid, I worked less hours and then transitioned into working from home. My oldest was in preschool, and I would drop off my daughter for a few hours, two days a week, while I worked. I needed the time to concentrate and help her build her social skills away from me.

During work I schedule lunch meet-ups with friends, take walks, or write during my downtime. This has helped me in self-care.

Tips for Parenting Multiple Children (Compiled by Danah, Nargis & Noor)

Set the expectations for yourself and your family. Remind yourself that there will be growing pains that come with the transition, and that it’s A-okay. It will not last forever. Be open and honest with your family about the support you will need; don’t expect them to just know.

Figure out your current pain points and try your best to eliminate or fix them. For example, if you won’t have much help with dinner and don’t have the budget to order out a lot the first few weeks, double your meal portions for the last month of your pregnancy and freeze half of them. You will thank yourself later.

Automate, Automate, Automate. Whatever can be done without you should be automated. Set your toddler up for success by providing everything they need at their level. For example, put their cups/bottles/plates/snacks in a lower cabinet, so it’s within their reach. Put their socks in a basket next to their shoes, hats and jackets on a low hanging hook they can reach. The less he/she will need you for, the better. Same goes for anything around the house.

Take it easy on yourself; don’t expect perfection and really try and enjoy your babies and this magical time. It will all be okay. Remember, a happy mama makes a happy house, so stop and reset when you need to.

Trust your instincts. Listen to your body. Take it easy! You’re a pro at this now! You are armed with experience. Start calling your family and friends and kindly tell them things they can do to help out. Let people pick up your shopping list. Let them take your kids out for an activity without you. Don’t say no to any help that people offer.

Spend time doing something you love each day. Make a scheduled effort to take a break and meet up with other people, preferably mothers who get it, on a monthly basis. Even if it’s draining and hard! Create a bucket list of attainable things to look forward to. Go get a coffee alone. Go watch a movie. Sit in the park.

Lastly, we realize that if your children have special needs, chronic illnesses or disabilities, the tips for how to manage and care for yourself will be vastly different. Check out this article and this article.

If you are a mother struggling during this season of your life, I hope this post brings you comfort in knowing that you are not alone and that you can do this! Share your stories and tips below in the comments!

Danah is wife to Kareem and mama to two children. She was born and raised in Charlotte, NC, and loves all things food, fashion, photography and home decor. After having Kinzah, she created her blog, Mother of Pearl, where she shares a glimpse into her life as she navigates motherhood and hopes to build a safe space for other mamas to connect. You can follow her on Instagram.

Photo credit for the images of baby feet: Chasity Zwicker Photography; photo credit for Danah Shuli's maternity photo shoot: Vika Photograph.

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INSPIRATION

MOTHERHOOD IN THE SHADE OF THE QURAN

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Ever since I started Qur’an classes, I would hear my Teacher talk about her Ustadha. My teacher was obtaining an Ijaza at that time, so she would recite to the Ustadha once a week over the phone. She would constantly share advices and tips from her teacher and marvel at her knowledge and ability. Her name was Ustadha Maryam, who always seemed like an elderly and experienced wise lady to me.

One day around an hour after class, a middle aged pleasant lady walked into the class, her face wearing a beaming smile. Our teacher introduced her as Ustadha Amina, Ustadha Maryam’s mother. This took me by surprise. Wasn’t Ustadha Maryam supposed to be a wise old lady with so much knowledge? But her mother doesn’t look old either! (May Allah bless them both.)

After a while, the teacher stopped recitation for a while and mentioned that she had especially invited Ustadha Amina to give us motivation. The class I was in was revising the Qur’an and working on the ‘Khatma exam’, which is an exam on the whole of the Qur’an. The students had found the task daunting and felt unprepared. Their children and their home took up too much time and they couldn’t find the time nor energy to revise. They felt it was an impossible feat to accomplish. So our teacher asked Ustadha Amina to tell us her story of the Khatma. She was reluctant at first but started:

“When I was in the revision year like you all, sixteen years ago”, she said “I was pregnant, and delivered a few months before the end of the year. At that time I had 4 older ones and 6 younger ones including the new baby.” Ten children! This was getting more and more unbelievable.

“I took a month off and when I came back I felt lost, I couldn’t remember anything, and I didn’t have the energy to pick myself up, my baby, my children, my home, my body, it was all just too tiring.” She is such a superwoman, Allahumma baarik laha. She surely had more on her plate at that time than any of us.

She continued: “But I was determined, I cried and cried to Allah, increased in Istighfaar and made Dua, because Tawfeeq (success) is only from Him and I did what I could do. Allah opened up my heart and eased my task. When my baby was four months, I did the Khatma exam and was the first of my batch. This is neither my ability nor intelligence. It is just to tell you all that with Allah’s aid, it is possible, so work hard my sisters.”

It is easy for us to complain that we just don’t have the time, and that our lives are too busy. The question is, do we make the time? Do we sincerely beg Allah to help us? Do we cry out to Him? Do we increase in Istighfaar, and do we honestly do all that is in our power for our Qur’an? As I looked at this little lady, my heart felt at peace. Wasn’t she the mother of a great Ustadha? What an example she has been!

I could figure that though a teacher herself, she didn’t continue for long but her oldest daughter Maryam followed her footsteps and was now a teacher of teachers. I eagerly waited for her to talk of her daughter, who she said was always busy with her studying and Qur’an, her days full, between teaching and learning. I felt I was listening to some of the stories of the blessed Salaf of our times.

The conversation then drifted to children and how responsibilities make time scarce. Ustadha Amina smiled: “You know sisters, a few months ago my daughter Maryam was suddenly ill and was taken to the ER. She needed to spend a few hours there. We immediately rushed to see her and after that rushed home to see how the kids were coping and take them home with us. But the house was peaceful. The older kids were taking care of the younger ones and patiently waiting for us. She gives her time and effort to Allah, so in return Allah disciplined her kids. When you do something for Allah, He will Bless your life, your home, your children and your time”

Here was a great mother, citing her daughter as an example. It was such a beautiful thing to witness. I silently prayed that my own daughter, my own Maryam would grow up to be like Ustadha Maryam.

These two ladies are mothers, with many children. They have homes and families. They also work outside the home to teach the Qur’an. Ustadha Maryam was at the prime of her youth, with young children to care for, yet she didn’t let that stop her. Now we DO find such women working as professionals in various fields, yet when it comes to the Qur’an, time is hard to find. There are plenty of excuses. This will be your companion in this world and the next, oh carrier of the Qur’an! So take heed! If Allah decrees that He suddenly takes our life away, we don’t want to be thinking at the last moments: ‘Oh Allah, I haven’t revised my Qur’an!’ Instead we want to feel at peace that we have done our best and hope that it will be our means to an elevated position in Jannah.

May Allah make the Qur’an an evidence for us and not against us, may He not make us of those whom RasulAllah will testify against as mentioned in the Qur’aan: “And the Messenger has said, “O my Lord, indeed my people have taken this Qur’an as [a thing] abandoned.” [Surah al Furqan]

May Allah Protect us all from this. Ameen.

Malik ibn Dinar (May Allah have mercy on him) commented on the memorizers of the Quran:

يا حملة القرآن! ماذا زرع القرآن في قلوبكم ؟ فإن القرآن ربيع المؤمن، كما أن الغيث ربيع الأرض فقد ينزل الغيث من السماء إلى الأرض فيصيب الحش فتكون فيه الحبة فلا يمنعها نتن موضعها أن تهتز وتخضر. فيا حملة القرآن! ماذا زرع القرآن في قلوبكم؟

Oh carriers of the Quran! What has the Quran implanted in your hearts? For indeed the Quran is the spring of a believer, as is the rain the spring of the earth, the rain pours from the sky to the earthly ground and it falls upon the seeds in which the grain lies, there upon nothing stops the grain from growing and sprouting into a plant. So oh carriers of the Quran! What has the Quran implanted in your hearts?

Hadith: "You will not return to Allah with anything better than what has come from Him (i.e. The Qur'an)." [al-Silsilah al-Sahihah, hadith no. 961]

The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) said, "It is a bad thing that some of you say, 'I have forgotten such-and-such verse of the Qur'an,' for indeed, he has been caused (by Allah) to forget it. So you must keep on reciting the Qur'an because it escapes from the hearts of men faster than camel do."

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🌹SUNNAH OF PREGNANCY 💮Having children is one of the blessings of Allah. God provides us all with different rizq (well-being), health and offsprings. All of these things are gifts from God and we should be grateful for what we are given and never complain for what we don't have. ⏩It is sunnah to announce the birth of the child once the baby arrives but till that moment below are some beneficial practices for you and your child in sha Allah. 💮KEEP IT PRIVATE If you are expecting a baby, keep thanking God for this gift and keep it private among close relatives. There is a general principle which should be paid attention to when telling others of blessings. The news should be given only to those who wish good for you and will rejoice over it, so as to ward off the evil eye and destructive envy (hasad). The evidence for that is the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “Be discreet in order to achieve what you want, for everyone who is blessed is envied.” Narrated by al-Tabaraani and Abu Nu’aym; classed as sahaah by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 943. 💮BE THANKFUL Be thankful to Allah for having chosen you for such a gift. The first trimester is hard for some women who suffer from nausea (morning sickness) and weakness; and the last weeks of pregnancy are exhausting: Allah says in the Quran: “…His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness…” (Surah Luqman:14) “…His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship…” (Surah al-Aĥqaf:15) - even then, keep thanking Allah and believe that He will never burden you more than you can bear! He is indeed the best of planners and knows what is best for us! 💮FOLLOW THE FOOTSTEPS OF THE MOTHER OF Maryam (AS) What a blessed mother was she who gave birth to Maryam! So why not follow her footsteps and make the same dua (supplication) she did when she was expecting as narrated in the Quran: “[Mention, O Muhammad], when the wife of ‘Imran said: My Lord, indeed I have pledged to You what is in my womb, consecrated [for Your service], so accept this from me. Indeed, You are the Hearing, the Knowing.” (Surah Aal Imran: 35) With this dua, renew your intention every day that this baby would be a pious servant of Allah. Insha’Allah your intentions and prayers will have a positive effect in creating an innate bond between your child and the deen (religion) of Allah! 💮WHEN RUH (SOUL) ENTERS YOUR BABY It is narrated in a hadith by the Prophet (sa) that: “Each one of you is constituted in the womb of the mother for forty days, and then he becomes a clot of thick blood for a similar period, and then a piece of flesh for a similar period. Then Allah sends an angel who is ordered to write four things. He is ordered to write down his deeds, his livelihood, his (date of) death, and whether he will be blessed or wretched (in religion). Then the soul is breathed into him…” (Bukhari) Based on this hadith, jurists have inferred that the soul enters the foetus at around 4 months/120 days after gestation, that is, the second trimester. As you enter your second trimester, make frequent dua to Allah to pre-ordain for your baby a life of unwavering faith. 💮RECITE THE QURAN FOR YOUR BABY Around the 20th week, the baby in the womb gains the ability to hear. This is a great time to create a one-on-one, exclusive bond with your unborn baby by reciting the Quran every day. The sound waves of your voice will reach your baby and what better words than the melodious Quran for your baby to hear and get familiar with. Give your child a head start in creating a relationship and bond with the Quran even before he comes in this world. This is one of the greatest gifts you can give to your child! 💮READ UP Perhaps one of the things that the woman should focus on during this period is learning about sound methods of raising children, reading books on this topic or listening to useful lectures by scholars on it, whether that has to do with moral upbringing, health, psychology, pedagogy, and so on, in preparation for the great mission with which Allah has entrusted the parents, which is the trust of raising and caring for the child, so that the parents may embark upon it with knowledge and insight and achieve the best results, and attain the pleasure of Allah in this world and in the Hereafter. 💮DUAS As for the acts of worship that the pregnant woman can do, they are all the acts of worship that the Muslim does by day and by night, such as praying, fasting (so long as there is no fear of harm), giving charity, reading Qur’aan, regularly reciting the adhkaar that are prescribed in sharee‘ah, treating people kindly, visiting relatives, taking stock of oneself, and striving to attain the best attitudes, actions and words 💮FOOD AND FITNESS Meditation through prayer: Many people will guide you towards yoga and meditation, which are a great way to relax your overworked body. However remember that prayer is the best form of meditation and it will calm you and soothe your baby as well. 💮Keep checking in with Allah: Stay connected with Allah and talk to Him about your fears and difficulties. Make istikharah (guidance prayer) for all decisions, especially when choosing your doctor and your delivery options. Ask Allah to grant you a safe delivery, a righteous child, and an easy transition into motherhood. 💮Avail the maternity leave Allah has given, if needed: The Prophet (sa) said: “Allah has relieved the traveller of half of the prayer and of the duty to fast, and He has relieved pregnant and nursing mothers (of the duty to fast).” (Sunan an-Nasa’i; reliable) If you feel that you are unable to fast due to weakness or any other complication, you can leave your fast without any worry. However do remember to mark it somewhere so that you don’t forget to make it up later. 💮Eat beneficial foods: Add honey, milk, figs, and dates to your diet as all of these have been mentioned in the Quran or the hadith for their benefits. ♥️May Allah make your pregnancy easy, and grant you a pious child who will be sadqa e jariah for you... AMEEN