#we literally do not have littles or age regressors in this system anymore because of this. and none of our allos can be allo anymore

[thestarlightindex]

no but like thinking about the last bullshit red flag relationship we had. you absolutely cannot treat other human beings as fucking hyperfixations oh my god

[dysaniadisorder]

can you give me one piece of media, off the top of your head, that has genuinely positive, researched, casual and well-meaning DID or OSDD representation? How many stories about systems have you heard? How many of them featured/centered around one or more alters being kidnappers or murderers or abusers? How popular were they. How many people consumed that media. How famous were the writers, the actors. And if you consumed it, how many times did you stop and think about who this is impacting negatively, about what message is being spread here

I literally can't think of a single piece of media where DID or OSDD is portrayed fine. Not even positively- just fine. neutral. no one ever does that.

You know the only 'celebrity' I can think of that's a system? Leftatlondon. Shes the trans woman who wrote Revolution Lover and I DONT TRUST U ANYMORE, shes the old viner who made the 'ahhaha i do that' and 'what about NASCAR' vine. Did you know Nat Puff has OSDD? How many people do you think know that? How many people do you think found out and decided to ignore and not listen? How many people found out and found themselves turning up their noses or being uncomfortable or finding her music and content 'spoiled' for them after?

And have you ever had a person you trusted with something so extremely personal look at you like you're dangerous, like you were going to snap at any moment and hurt them? Have you ever had a person ask you if you've ever killed somebody with a genuine tone?And have you ever seen someone you thought would be a nice friend or a nice partner and stop yourself in your tracks before you get any hope because you're just to complicated and difficult and inconvenient to understand or love? If you have (for DID or anything else) you just know.

It hurts. It's so strange. To a degree, you're separated from everything, often times including your own system. Including yourself. You don't remember so many things about yourself or your loved ones or your entire life. You have no idea who you are (sometimes literally).

And every alter who isn't a/the host? God they're always given hell. Just see people equating fictives to 'people who take kinning way too seriously' or asking them invasive questions about their thoughts or lore about their source. People saying that factives are obsessive and invasive and weird. that system littles/age regressors are nsfw or an age play thing. that, once again, nonhuman alters are just 'people who take kinning way too seriously'. People saying alters of a different gender than the host/body don't exist or are contradictory. People saying that they would KNOW if you had DID/OSDD, people saying that theres physical changes to switched, so you're not really switching. Alters in systems where they're not out or aren't comfortable giving out their personal identity just sorta having to smile and act like the host while they get misnamed and sometimes misgendered and treated as a person they are literally not. And so much of the time no one listens to them.

So many singlets I tell are so often so kind, and nice, and supportive, and they'll let you talk about it if you'd like. the problem is so many people have demonized and stigmatized and pushed it away out of sight so no one could get a good look at what it actually is is that it never truly feels safe to talk about. Even online, even now, its fucking scary. It's scary because other people think it's scary for them. and they think it's scary for them cause they're not like me and other people who aren't like me have told them that i'm bad.

I really, really want representation. I would even settle for basic or even just not actively hostile representation but we want and deserve more than that. Systems of color, physically disabled systems, systems shown to have more than one disorder (cause thats how it works), queer systems, TRANS systems, fat systems, systems who, you know, are just average people, all NEED to be represented accurately. Characters who switch and dissociate and have friends and family that know how to help them with it. characters who talk to their headmates. characters who's headmates appear often and are treated like friends and important to the story and world and characters lives. these are all so so important and not even that hard to write and instead we have... a movie about a kidnapper where the only "good" alter is a child and a series about "helping represent mental health :D" starring Tom freaking Holland. It's disgusting. It's exhausting. And I barely even got into the separation and struggles WITHIN a system

this got very very long and i'm sorry, and honestly even if you can't read it right now if you're a singlet and you reblog this it would mean the world to me.

Do not watch the crowded room. Please hold Tom Holland accountable. Just listen to systems and accept them even if you don't understand. You don't need to completely understand. You just need to be kind

i dont see ppl talk about it alot but having did/osdd is a very special kind of isolation from your peers and your friends and your family and. the world