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[princess-ibri]

Why don't you do one of your disney verse stories with princess Ivy from Sofia the First and her sister after all if you've arleady done one with the witch shuriki from Elena of Avalor which i really like by the way why not do one with the princess with power white, black after all you don't believe.

Look, I usually try to be very polite and give people the benefit of the doubt but this is getting annoying. I'd talk to you in private but your conversation seems to have disappeared from my DMs and since ignoring your many previous asks doesnt seem to have deterred you either I'll do it here.

Please stop asking me for Princess Ivy stuff. I've explained before that I'm not that interested in her, and after the last ask you sent where you said you'd "waited long enough" for me to do a backstory on her I have no interest at all in ever doing one.

I do these things for fun. I'm not getting paid, I'm not beholden to anybody to do anything. If I answer an ask its because I feel like it, if I do a backstory or any art it's because I'm actually interested in it, if I dont answer an ask it's because I don't have an obligation to if I find the contents demanding or uninteresting or simply using my blog to promote their own ideas with no real interest or tie in to my works here.

This is something that sadly seems to be happening more frequently. Guys, I dont mind seeing your own stuff or answering questions on topics, but like, use your own blogs to promote your original ideas, not mine, its only polite.

If all you really want is someone to echo back exactly the take on a character or headcanon you have, that's not what I'm here for. I can't mind read what you want me to say and I'm not going to just randomly add in things you think I should to a project I'm doing for fun and don't expect anyone else to be beholden to head canon wise.

It feels like most of the asks I get aren't from anyone actually interested in the stories I've been crafting here or even people interested in discussing Disney stuff as an actual discussion of two people who enjoy Disney characters and history but people who just want a random person to echo chamber them for a hot sec so they can feel good about their own thoughts and never interact more than that.

In conclusion, I will draw what I want to draw and I'll do it when I want to do it. This blog is ultimately for me, the artist and writer, to have fun with. Unless you're wanting to commission me to do something I don't have any obligation to draw anything for anyone, and even then I still reserve the right to say no if I want to.

Sorry about the rant to everyone who has been wonderful and supportive and actually interested. Thank you for being a positive motivator and good tumblr neighbors.

[jordanswitches]

i know i post about this semi frequently but do not come to my dms and expect me to be your dom. don't ask if you can be my pet or my sub. taking on a sub is WORK. i have to give my time, my energy, i have to come up with tasks, rules, rewards, punishments. why would i do that for someone who followed me five minutes ago and is CLEARLY using me. it is a kink. you are a stranger i know nothing about, expecting things of me. you do not know me. you are using me. i don't care if you like my blog and think you like me. you don't, because you've ignored my pinned post where i say not to come to my dms and try to initiate. i will NEVER respond positively to this. ultimately this post doesn't matter because the people it applies to wouldn't bother reading it or would just ignore what i'm saying. but if you do this, if you ignore people's boundaries and try to get people to be sexual with you for your own gain, you are a bad person. that's it. be better. you are not the exception.

[astradyke]

being very truthful i wasn't feeling particularly positive about the trailer for TIT (still bought tix though hi nyc <3) and am holding out hope they do a little more teasing for what this tour is actually about in future videos,

but i cannot deny that this specific frame of it

("we basically raised half of them." - phil)

like very specifically got me? like obviously yes the bit is like, they're our dads i started watching them age twelve et cetera but. i don't know. with the way all of this is laid out, the contrasting colors that blend together and the silhouettes on their respective sides (as we always view them, dan to the left & phil to the right) and the screens, it says so loudly like... it's dan and phil, side by side. it's the two of them. it's been them for the last fifteen years.

it's a we, it's a testament that this kinda sacred thing of 'dan and phil' has lasted a really long time, and survived a hiatus, solely because dan and phil themselves have known each other and existed alongside each other for those fifteen years. and yes, obviously, this trailer is all scripted, but this exchange still has this feeling of it being about them, not just their brand together-- they aren't really talking to the audience, here, are they? it wasn't solely 'dan and phil' content that raised the audience; dan and phil did. (maybe a redundant point, but i am working off of the negative space here. a lot of this feels like intertwining themselves with their online personas, and simultaneously walking that line. letting us see only what they want to be shown, and now examining that introspectively).

i hope that makes sense, i'm not much of an analyst or theorist. i don't know what the dan and phil renaissance really is yet, and i am a bit afraid of it all, but i'm really excited, both for everything that's to come but also -- more importantly -- i'm just fucking excited for them.

for this bond between them and the phandom to blossom in the healthy ways it has been lately, for the opening of new doors amidst this phan renaissance... and for them to take back what the internet took from them.

[armandposting]

also I just think it's really unintentionally cruel to look at armand's life and go, see this piece, which is the only piece where you felt safe and happy and loved even if bad shit was also going on? actually it was rotten to the core and there is no part of your life that was ever safe. and the anger and terror you feel about the entire rest of your life must also be applied here because there was nothing salvageable about this time. which could in fact be a very in character thing for daniel to do lmfao but that's not how I ever really see it presented

[bisexual-horror-fan]

When a person comes barging into your ask box claiming that you are creepy for being 30 in a fandom space writing smut of fictional characters 18 and over, claiming to be more mature than you, saying you are sexualizing minors, are a bitch and need to grow up.

[iwaasfairy]

it's always sad to realize but people who never contact you first aren't your friends. i always let people into my heart very easily n it kinda comes around to bite me bc i always consider people friends even tho they aren't very friendly at all to me

[alicentflorent]

imo one of the reasons Lucy is such a breath of fresh air is specifically because she refused to be the emotional crutch for a man to find an ounce of sympathy. Time and time again you see in YA novels about the virtuous woman who “saves” the wicked man, even when it comes at her own expense. Lucy did the exact opposite, Snow wasn’t worth the effort nor was he worth “saving”. I think a lot of fans would’ve been happier if she was a sacrificial lamb for his man pain rather than a woman who put herself first.

This!!!

[crownedwille]

No, I don't expect him to remain unchanged from when he was 18. However, his online demeanor and behavior have undergone a noticeable shift, and it has become rather unappealing. It seems like he is pretending to be edgy to please his very unlikable girlfriend. I listened to her podcast before they even became a couple; she radiates mean-girl energy and thinks she is edgy and cool. They once called Edvin "soft" and "not punk enough". She's trying to change him into a boy she likes, and he seems to be going along with it to please her. In time, he'll probably regret what he has been doing. You probably won't post this, it's OK, but you miss the point of what so many decent fans are saying. We aren't trolls; we have eyes and can understand what is going on. Anyway, have a nice time defending him.

Yep there it is. It boils down to not liking his girlfriend, its the same in every fandom I've been in, misogyny at its finest again

I'm glad you 'decent fans' know him all so much better than he knows himself and can see right through it and of course you know what's best for him and are entitled to comment on his personal life

This was quite funny reading, thank you for making me laugh

I will have a nice time defending him, thank you😘

[qqueenofhades]

Also, just as an overall observation, I really can't help but wonder how much better things might be if we actually tried to teach kids about the complexities of the world, rather than "Protecting Them."

(But that's the one thing the right wing literally can't stand, so god forbid we do that.)

[trentcrimminallybeautiful]

you know if we do accept the last epilogue-esque sequence as a sort of dream/wish of ted's and therefore not necessarily canon, very funny if we then simply go "yeah, trent's book is called 'the lasso way' actually. he didn't change that. nope."

[metamercury]

LORD IF YOU ARE NEW TO THE FIC SCENE AND DONT HAVE AN AO3 ACCOUNT YOU ARE DENIED THE EXISTENCE OF FATAL ATTRACTION. TRAVESTY TRAVESTY TRAVESTY

YOU LITERALLY WOULD NOT KNOW WHAT YOU ARE MISSING.

[catgirl-vaginoplasty]

transfems, it's okay to dislike or even hate men and yes, that includes trans men because they are men

[emdotcom]

I am not, like, a treasured fandom artist, & I didn't make some great masterpiece or nothing. I did make art, though, & I stopped around the time that doing that started getting harder -- I got busy, & the world got worse, & so did I. The few times I've tried to make a comeback were hard-fought, but the ratios are all off, now. The ratio of time spent to likes to reblogs to comments made me give up pretty fast.

I am not saying you owe an artist notes. I am saying that, especially for young artists that are learning, taking the time to reblog their stuff can make or break whether they keep posting it. I'm saying that the current artists are going to get old, or busy, & if you like looking at art or reading it or listening to it, you need to encourage that next generation now before they give up.

A like is fine, yes. A reblog is very much appreciated. A comment can make an artist's day. Please, please, please interact with artists who are giving you content for free.

[king-nyx]

People really watched a show about the victim of a serial stalker based on a true story and decided the best thing to do is to comb the Internet for every detail of the actual events....you know, like stalkers do.

[chaosandwolves]

Something I loved about heartstopper 2 is how it was repeatedly made clear that Nick doesn't owe anyone a coming out.

QUEER PEOPLE DON'T OWE ANYONE ANY INFORMATION ABOUT THEM BEING QUEER

I repeat

NO QUEER PERSON OWES IT TO YOU TO TELL YOU ABOUT THEIR QUEERNESS

IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO YOU ARE

We either invite you in or we don't.

[miek-unofficial]

i can't add anything directly to that post cause i'll die but i feel like the "i don't owe anyone anything" thing is not the same as "i can just be careless because actually kind actions are meaningless especially if they aren't repaid"

"you don't owe anyone anything" i feel is more of a foundational reminder that you do not have to give more than you can, you are not contractually obligated to deplete your mental resources to please others. it's a direct response to the mindset of previous generation(s) that focuses on "you have to always be polite to everyone, you have to give of yourself always to show respect, if you make a promise you must follow through" and other very stiff and strict absolute ideas that will drain you dry, especially if you are someone who struggle with energy management

it is not an excuse to be shitty, to not extend kindness to others, to not reach out, to not care for your fellow human beings (and anything else living or dead or otherwise). i understand the pushback when we see people who claim that kindness is somehow meaningless if you get nothing in return. you shouldn't be kind and care for others and show compassion and do good things in order to get something in return. if your motivation is that kindness is a transactional currency i think you need to reevaluate. do kind things where you can even if you get nothing in return. i don't think you have to be kind to everyone, always, and sometimes being kind to yourself will result in the pain, disappointment, anger, sadness, etc, of someone else, and that is okay. i feel like that's what i take from the phrase "you don't owe anyone anything." i am not obligated to mitigate the pain of others at the expense of myself, i am not obligated to take care of others at the expense of myself.

but when i have the energy, i have the spoons, however you want to measure your resources, i will absolutely be kind. always. to strangers who will never repay it, to friends who might not repay it, to friends who will repay it. the "repaying" aspect is irrelevant. i gain a lot from being kind to others already, they do not have to return the favor.

when done in a way that is not at the expense of myself, kindness towards others is in and of itself kindness to me. i don't owe anyone anything but when i am able to, i will care for them and be kind to them and consider them. not because i owe it to them, but because we're all people and we're here together. i'm not obligated to care, but that doesn't stop me from caring. it shouldn't stop you either.