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fandomsandfeminism · 2 years ago

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Yall wanna hear a kinda funny, kinda sad story about my grandmother and hetero-normativity?

Ok, so... when my grandmother was in her 50s (I was an infant), she met a woman at the Unitarian Church. And, as can happen when you meet your soul mate, this event made it impossible for her to deny parts of herself that she had fiercely hidden her whole life.

All the drama- their affair being found out, the divorce with my grandfather, the court battle over who got the house, happened while I was a baby. Even in my earliest memories, it's just Mama Jo and Oma, and my grandfather lived elsewhere (first his own apartment, then a nursing home, then with us.)

But here's the thing- no one ever explained any of this to me. No one ever sat down and was like "hey, Rosie, so do you know what a lesbian is?" It was the 90s. It was Texas. I think my mom was still kinda processing all this, and just assumed that like... I was gonna figure it out. Don't mention it, let it just be normal. Like I think my mom thought that if she explained the situation, she would be making it weird? I dunno.

But like. In the 90s, in all the movies I had seen and books I had read, do you know how many same sex couples I had seen? Like. 0. Do you know how many "platonic best friend/roommates" I had seen? A lot. I had no context, is what I'm saying.

I literally thought this was a Golden Girls, roommates, besties situation until I was like...I dunno, 11? 12?

It was actually their parrot, an African Grey named Spike, imitating my grandmothers voice saying "Johanna, honey, it's getting late", that triggered the MIND BLOWN moment as I realized that *there's only one master bedroom and it only has 1 waterbed* when all the pieces finally clicked.

Anyway. I think it's a real important thing for kids to know queer people exist, for a lot of reasons, but also because kids can be clueless and it's embarrassing to have your grandmother be outted by a parrot because everyone just thought you'd figure it out on your own.

Anyway, here is my grandma and her wife, my Oma, after they moved to Albuquerque to be artsy gay cowboys and live their best life. They helped run a "Lesbian Dude Ranch" out there (basically just with funding and financial support. As Oma has explained "traditionally, most lesbians don't have a lot of money" so they wrote the checks and let the younger ladies actually run the ranch.)

#this is the grandmother who passed away unexpectedly earlier this month #she was so cool yall #and so weird #they got married twice by the way once when Massachusetts legalized it and once when New Mexico did #they hiked the grand canyon together #they had a european river cruise planned for this fall #she was 89 and she wanted to see the whole world with her wife #and they were working on it #literally i thought they were roommates #and there was only one bed

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july-19th-club · 2 years ago

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seriously have been thinking about this all night long. call me autistic but the fact that 90% of workplaces the point is not to get your work done and then be done doing it but to instead perform an elaborate social dance in which you find something to do even when you're done doing everything you need to do in order to show your fellow workers that you, too, are Working . because you are at Work . disgusting why cant we all agree that if there is no work immediately to be done. we just dont do anything

#i personally like to not be doing things constantly at all times. it stresses me out #i know there are ppl who thrive on cosntant activity #but me i like to chill out.#and the problem then becomes that i only ACTIVELY remember to do work and Find More Work To Do when im stressed #at the thought that others might want to see me working #if im ever relaxed i just dont look for stuff to do #catch 22 of modern work culture which permeates even ostensibly noncapitalist structures like public libraries #for instance: will it really kill anybody if the books get shelved by me now after a very busy day?#or shelved tomorrow morning by. well probably me since i'll be the one at the desk #not in the slightest #but it was work that wasnt being immediately done by me. therefore it was incorrect behavior #that i failed to identify because my instinct is to relax when not immediately presented with a Situation #this got me labeled as 'having no initiative' by my dad from a very early age #and even as an adult i still feel like im a child with no initiative

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doomedclockworkdotmp3 · 2 months ago

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his therapist woulda had a field day at their next appointment

#my art #doodle #fanart #resident evil 8 #ethan winters #i think its so funny that he has a journal in re8. not only does he have a journal but he illustrates it. i dont know if capcom intended to #imply that ethan stops every now and then to jot down the horrors and the hour that the horrors occur my guess is prolly not #but now its there and it makes me laugh. i shouldnt laugh at his mental health journey but i am anyways #shoutout to people who journal i wish i was you but instead i draw a guy feelin my emotions for me #but im so happy the sun goess away at 5pm. truly immaculate. i miss snow. but we stay chillin #i made more dear diary doodles but these were my favs n they went well together #i changed the entry in the 2nd one though cause i thought it was funnier to me this way #i cut my hair too short again im not even sad about it anymore like whatever man #at least its out of my way. and my shower was SO fast i got to stand there 5ever and it was still only like 15 minutes #fantastic. there are so many joys in life. theres twice as many horrors but the joys are definitely there and they are definitely joyful #anyways thats the post stay warm n cozy out there gang

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chloesimaginationthings · 8 months ago

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Vanessa's first impression on Mike in the FNAF movie

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mochasucculent · 1 month ago

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Was looking at refs and since Viktor has two different leg braces I was wondering, do we think he wears them simultaneously?? The refs don't perfectly line up perspective-wise so it's hard to tell but parts of the one he wears during the Hexcore scenes look like they could maybe line up with the brace that he wears over his clothes, but also some parts really don't and look like they'd be super uncomfy. Also HOW does he take these on and off. Experts weigh in

#viktor #arcane #ig my assumption would be that he wears both simultaneously cause in the scene where he injects the shimmer #it seems implied that he just threw off his clothes and kept experimenting #so one might assume he was already wearing the smaller one underneath #tho it is a funny image to think of him just being like 'one sec i gotta go all the way home and grab my other brace to do this'#he can take off the back brace too cause hes not wearing it in the scene where he's in the hospital bed and you can see his shoulder #where the strap would be #but that one seems to make even less sense functionality wise #everything looks like its screwed together #or screwed INTO him #but only the top bolts on his spine are i think #in the close ups of his back brace model it looks like theres cushioning underneath the parts of it that cover the rest of his spine #so he can take it off. but HOW #what parts of it unscrew/detatch to pull open and off #does it not do that at all and he just has to shimmy it off his shoulder and all the way down his legs to get it off like a romper #the shape language of the designs are cool but like. tell me how it wooorrkkksss #forgive me if im just dumb and dont know at all how braces work and theres a very simple practical explanation for all this #any king who wants to infodump about mobility aids at me....the floor is yours #something to be said i suppose about the fact that zaunites have crazy prosthetics with wild augmentations that work flawlessly #and piltover's like. idk heres some fucking uncomfortable ass metal. salo gets wheelchair in non ada compliant place #they havent ever needed to adapt to accommodate disabilities etc etc #or maybe artists were just like 'heres a design' and everybody clapped and didnt give it a second thought #and then they just turned off the visibility on the mesh when they didnt need it knowing thered not be a scene where its taken off #dont even wanna THINK about what that rig would look like #like 40 different controllers #soft body and rigid hard surfaces needing to move together....#a cold chill just shot up my spine #<- guy who is only an animator and doesnt know how to rig #forgive the magic wand tool with zero cleanup. i am lazy

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starcurtain · 2 months ago

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I think one of the funniest things about the Sabzeruz event is that the devs choose to go with Candace, Traveler, and Paimon having a whole "Ooh, two mysterious men are going into an alley to have a 'private' conversation; they must be bad guys!" only to then go "Oh just kidding, it was only Alhaitham and Kaveh doing typical Alhaitham and Kaveh things."

Except the "Alhaitham and Kaveh" thing in question this time was talking about Mehrak, a sentient robot that Kaveh built using absolutely forbidden technology, and which he then whole-heartedly willed would develop a consciousness of its own, violating one of the central taboos of his nation's governing agency, committing what amounts to an inherent and extreme felony punishable by law.

Alhaitham and Kaveh: Listen, we're not bad guys discussing illegal activity here. We're just two men having a private, personal conversation. Happens all the time.

Paimon, Candace, and Traveler: Oh cool, they're not doing a crime; they're just gay.

But they were, in fact, doing a crime.

#genshin impact #alhaitham #kaveh #haikaveh #kavetham #mehrak #I still can't get over how Kaveh is friends with the chief of police #and living with the former Acting Grand Sage #and Tighnari had to completely hide Karkata's existence with ARSON to get rid of the evidence #but everyone in the entirety of Sumeru just said #ya know #let's let Kaveh have this one #and no one blinks an eye at Mehrak #who is obviously capable of reasoning and rational thought at this point #Light of Kshahrewar is truly the favorite #everyone in Sumeru has one exception #and that exception is Kaveh #let's be real #the reason no one is saying shit about Mehrak #is no one wants to deal with Scribe “I overthrow the government when people displease me” Alhaitham #bro really said “Upset Kaveh at your own peril”#“Only I'M allowed to upset him”#the last people who made Kaveh sad have been sentenced to living in caves and subsisting off mushrooms for the rest of their lives #and this was seen as mercy on Alhaitham and Cyno's part

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forecast0ctopus · 4 months ago

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i get it now these guys are cool

#transformers one is the only transformers media ive seen #i want. to see it again #idk anytging else about transformers though dont quiz me im clueless #transformers #transformers one #tf one #transformers fanart #optimus prime #when i was a kid i had a friend who had transformers toys #but i would never play with them because there were so many steps to transforming them it was like a puzzle to me #i thought id get them stuck in like. a half transformed state hand have no idea how to fully transform them or put them back as they were #for reference when i say i was a kid i was like 4-5 these thingns were beyond my comprehension. i was busy thinking about scooby doo

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marzipanandminutiae · 1 month ago

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I hate "it's not trying to be accurate!" arguments for historical fiction or historically-inspired fantasy clothing choices that just. don't make sense logistically

why is that girl in Br*dgerton tightlacing her stays? what is she reducing- her upper ribcage? not only can you not tightlace in those (hand-bound eyelets can't usually take that strain, in my experience), but there's no reason to because your waistline is under your boobs. and unlike most of the series, they actually commit to the empire waistline for the court presentation gowns. small waists don't matter when NOBODY IS SEEING YOUR WAIST

why no chemise, in so many productions? fantasy/lack of concern for accuracy can't make things not chafe. chafing is not a matter of accuracy; it's a physical reality. did a wizard give everybody in the kingdom Anti-Chafing Spells?

just because you don't WANT a linen underlayer beneath a medieval tunic doesn't mean sweat won't get to outer garments and damage them- or make them need laundering, which weakens the fibers -at a time when all clothing is handmade, custom-fitted, and created from hand-woven fabrics and thus a HUGE investment

you're not just throwing accuracy to the winds as a design choice; you're ignoring How Textiles And Bodies And the Realities of Your Technology Level's Fabric and Laundering Capabilities Work

#historical fiction #fantasy #clothing history #people cannot treat their garments like modern polyester fast fashion pieces if they're NOT #if NONE OF THOSE THINGS EXIST IN YOUR SETTING #who is MAKING IT who is DOING THE LAUNDRY why has NOBODY DEVELOPED A WAY TO AVOID DISCOMFORT #IF CERTAIN EVERYDAY GARMENTS COULD POTENTIALLY CAUSE IT #(that one is still about Br*dgerton and also The Al*enist)#(Oh If Only Women Didn't Have To Be Chafed By This Garment They Basically All Wear! well. um. bud I have a huge surprise for you)#(called 'they thought of that long before they started wearing them in that form')

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zorangezest · 1 month ago

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thanks for listening

#look at me #look at m #i need you to ignore canon for a second and let them have this moment #it occured to me that soundwave would’ve been the only one who could hear bee after he got his voice ripped out #and i drew this so fast #someone called them ‘soundad and bumbleson’ aND THATS ALL IVE BEEN HINKING ABOUT HAHHUAHA #i have a lot of thoughts about these two #soundwave is probably really accustomed to liars and twofacers after being around characters like starscream for so long #so when he meets bee #and all he gets is this blind honest truth from everything he says #he’s probably blindsided by it #like this little guy. this little yellow guy #has so much faith and love and nothing to gain from giving it away #it’s not some ploy with ulterior motives or lie to win his favour like starscream or sentinel #nope. this little guy just radiates the plain honesty of his truth #that he adores him #and soundwave has never seen anything like it before #soundwave #transformers #maccadam #b 127 #transformers one #tf one #SORRY FOR THR PARAGRAPH RANT YOU CAN PRY THEIR FATHER SON DYNAMIC FROM MY COLD DEAD HANDS #and yes bee still calls megatron dee in his head #he never stopped

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cowardlykrow · 11 months ago

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Stop light shenanigans

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ryssbelle · 9 months ago

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Drew a bunch of Marinettes in a bunch of different artists styles it was a lot of fun!!

Artists who's styles I mimicked: @buggachat @hamsternamedmarinette @ladybeug @sabertoothwalrus and @anna-scribbles all epic artists 🤟😎

#my art #marinette dupain cheng #miraculous ladybug #miraculous fanart #style mimic #sorry for the @s btw #yall should go follow those artists if you dont already also #this was sort of inspired by a post the three artists on the top row made #i think they all got together and drew with one another #which is really cool #but i was genuinely confused because i mimic styles a lot #and ive seen others do it too so i was just like #wow they really know each others styles really well #until i thought about it and read their posts some more #style mimicking is really freaking fun and i think its really good practice #and a good way to explore other ways of doing things #like you really have to learn new techniques and get out of your comfort zone #also anna scribbles i could not find a recent pic of marinette in her main outfit #so thats the only marinette i drew in different clothes cuz i couldnt find a more recent ref of you drawing it #anna scribble marinette has privileges thats the others dont #but ye #i also threw my own style in there as a frame of reference to what me draw like #ive drawn marinette before just not in a loooong while #sabertooth walrus was the hardest for me to mimic cuz they have a broad range in their style #so its like which sabertooth do i wanna be in this pic #Buggachat has such a distinct style thats very clean and consistent which is amazing so they were easy #being easy or hard arent bad things either it also has to do with like styles meeting up with one another #buggachats and mine arent too too different in some shapes and aspects #so yeah itd be easier plus they drew marinette like 3 sec ago so i have more recent of a ref #as opposed to sabertooth who i have a recent ref of ladybug but not marinette so we got two diff styles in one

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snarkspawn · 1 month ago

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hi hello lucanis with his hair up has me in such a chokehold you have no idea but also THE WAY HE'S PROPERLY HOLDING THE KNIFE has me curling my toes in the carpet friend hoo boy. Thank you for this blessing.

lmao yes!! listen that man may have 99 problems but knife skill issues is not one of them ok

Also, you're very welcome haha I'm still going a little insane about it as well, so here, have this quick sketch as I try (and fail) to get it out of my system

#replies #fuckinbanjos #lucanis dellamorte #dragon age #dragon age the veilguard #da4 #I think you were the only one who even noticed it but yeah #I thought the master assassin slash designated chef would obviously know how to properly hold a knife haha #he's the knife guy!

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idontmindifuforgetme · 1 year ago

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friend wanted to see my tumblr, and when i told him i can’t show it to him bc it’s basically my personal diary he went “oh so I can’t see it but a bunch of strangers on tumblr can??” he literally does not get me. no one will get me like the people in my phone get me