#vital conversation

[skeletonpandas]

FRFR.

This is still an important discussion. I see more and more women choosing themselves though, so I reckon we will finally start getting somewhere collectively.

the triple burden (housework, childcare AND paid employment) IS a real issue that feminists have been discussing for decades... but the way tiktok tradfem tradwife girlies have twisted that into "it's too much stress for women to take on all the housework AND work full-time, so we should ~nurture our divine femininity~ by quitting our jobs becoming housewives and relying completely on our Strong Men to support us financially!!" rather than "it's too much stress for women to take on all the housework AND work full-time, so maybe men could start pulling their fucking weight around the house more and do the dishes every now and again"

[dreadeves]

anyways. siffrin feels more comfortable talking emotions with odile than with mira and isa (in that order) because odile is more awkward and less emotional with it.

[theladyfae]

i think human nature/family of blood is a really good two parter in how it manages to show how full of shit ten is 🫶

[vivelareine]

Why am I only now finding out that the (in?)famous painting by Boucher depicting a woman using a bourdaloue was designed to be placed behind a "normal" portrait of the same woman?

[lucy-moderatz]

She does have seven years of fantasy to live up to.

[tabernacleheart]

Whosoever, He said, commits sin, whether Jew or Greek, rich or poor, king or beggar, is the servant of sin. O miserable bondage! ...when wearied with the hardness of his tasks... whither does the slave of sin flee? He takes it along with him, wherever he goes; for his sin is within him. The pleasure passes away, but the sin does not pass away: its delight goes, its sting remains behind. He alone can free from sin, Who came without sin, and was made a sacrifice for sin. [With these truths,] Christ purposely alarms us first, and then gives us hope. He alarms us, that we may not love sin; He gives us hope, that we may not despair of the absolution of our sin. Our hope then is this, that we shall be freed by Him who is free. He has paid the price for us, not in money, but in His own blood: If the Son therefore shall make you free, you shall be free indeed. Not from the barbarians, but from the devil; not from the captivity of the body, but from the wickedness of the soul. [Now] the first stage of freedom is, the abstaining from sin. But that is only incipient, it is not perfect freedom: for the flesh still lusts against the spirit, so that you do not do the things that you would. Full and perfect freedom will only be, when the contest is over, and the last enemy, death, is destroyed. Do not then abuse your freedom, for the purpose of sinning freely; but use it in order not to sin at all. Your will will be free, if it be merciful: you will be free, if you become the servant of righteousness.

Saint Augustine of Hippo

[serpentmessmer]

there are some people on this webbed site that truly make me grind my teeth but the beautiful and true thing about me is that i am skilled at keeping that shit to myself and going "alright, anyways"

[xhopsalong]

If you're a mutual I've chatted with on Discord or even just here on Tumblr, I'm just makin a scattershot announcement that I'm having some increasingly serious health issues in part based on the stress of my living situation and so if I drop off the face of the earth it truly was nothing personal and I've had a good time chatting with the lot of you.

Not trying to be majorly alarming just planning for the worst while hoping for something better. If you see me keep posting it means I'm continuing to improve my situation, which *does* have if not an end date at least the chance to work for something more sustainable and not frankly at times nightmarish. If not, it's been real. Had some of the most chill times of my life with some of y'all over the past few years, as well as many genuinely enjoyable casual convos. Hope everyone keeps finding stuff to enjoy about the world.

[dreamofbecoming]

today my french teacher talked about how even after living in the states for like 20 years and having english skills good enough to teach languages at an ivy league school, she still orders the simplest most basic drink possible at coffee shops because it stresses her out when baristas ask her clarifying questions and force her into an unrehearsed interaction, and i have never related to anyone more

[npdclaraoswald]

I've decided to be okay with movie!Hobie being British if and only if they establish that he killed the queen

[lary-the-lizard]

I need my younger brother who lives alone in the middle of Nebraska to move closer to me so I can more easily brainwash him into supporting Everyone Deserves a Home, Safety, and Respect Regardless of Whether They Look or Act Like Me politics and not Everyone I Feel Comfortable With Deserves Respect and the Opportunity to Die Working For a Sturdy Living Box politics. Teaching leftist theory over the phone isn’t easy especially when you both are neurodivergent 😮‍💨

[vounoura]

:0 emoticon my beloved

[jonquilandlace]

guys I just took the 16 personalities Myers-Briggs test for the first time in a few years (I first took it like 8 years ago now) and I shouldn't be surprised because I know I as a person have grown but my result changed for the first time I am having an existential crisis

[absentlyabbie]

This might seem really out of the blue, but hi!

I saw your reply to the computer-savviness post and just wanted to let you know - it was clear to me that in the tags you were referring specifically to those people who are dismissive of learning computer skills because they don’t think they’re necessary.

I don’t think you came across as hostile or condescending at all. I appreciate people like you, who are willing to give additional information because you see someone who is confused. I also thought your second response was very kind.

Anyways, I just wanted to let you know a random person on the internet thinks you’re doing alright. Best of luck to you!

❤️ this was very kind of you, anon, thank you.

just one of those moments that really underscores how difficult tone and intention can be to accurately relay or read through text-only. sometimes even if you think you're taking deliberate care to avoid misunderstanding, you just can't, because there's simply too many factors about other people's perspectives, experiences, current situation and context, and everything else that may color your words for them in the moment they read them.

[britneyshakespeare]

just saw a video recommended to me about "the kinks as a reactionary band" that was over 2 hours and i never saw the channel before in my life. was quite sure it wasn't worth a time investment if it had such an attention-grabbing title that didn't really say anything so i went to the channel by itself. lots of worrying titles/thumbnails. then i went to their link twitter account just to make sure they were a racist and i didn't even scroll down that far to see that they said people with anauralia/aphantasia (no internal monologue/pictures in your head) deserve to be enslaved.

[tabernacleheart]

The first duty of authority is to try to understand the force of the temptations which drove the sinner to sin and the seductiveness of the circumstances in which sin became so attractive. No man can pass judgment on another unless he at least tries to understand what the other has come through. The second duty of authority is to seek to reclaim the wrongdoer. Any authority which is solely concerned with punishment is wrong; any authority, which, in its exercise, drives a wrongdoer either to despair or to resentment, is a failure. The function of authority is not to banish the sinner from all decent society, [and never] to wipe him out; it is to make him into a good man. The man set in authority must be like a wise physician; his one desire must be to heal... [and yet] it is always wrong to regard people as things [to fix]; it is always unchristian to regard people as "cases"...The minute people become things the spirit of Christianity is dead. [In truth,] the Bible thinks of people first and foremost, not as fractions of the mass, or abstractions, or ideas, or cases, but as persons, [each one known, loved, and called by name by God.] God uses His authority to love men into goodness; to God no person ever becomes a thing. We must use such authority as we have always to understand and always at least to try to mend the person who has made the mistake; and we will never even begin to do that unless we remember that every man and woman is a person, not a thing.

William Barclay