#virginlife

[l0st-unm1ssed]

Thought that I would be Effy or Cassie ended up as Sid...life is a terrifying and miserable place

[oscarwildesbestbitch]

flashback to that one time in among us when someone accused me of being impostor and i said “i was alone with u and u r still alive” and then silently added “title of my sextape” in my head because it just seemed appropriate

i used to feel cool back then

[chroniclesofa25yearoldvirgi-blog]

1.0

Well. Here I am. A normal 25 year old woman who still has her V. Not by choice. I mean, I guess it technically is my choice. I could go out and sleep with some random dude on tinder if I really wanted to. But I don't. I don't want meaningless sex. At least not at first. I have been with the same man off and on for 7 years. Sure, we’ve done stuff. Come close a few times. But then things don't work out. He says it's him. I say it’s me. Maybe if I were prettier, or skinnier or smarter or kinder or funnier. 

I’m not perfect. But I think I could be a nice catch. I mean, I definitely WANT to have sex often. I think I would be a catch. I am kind, and loyal. I take things too literal sometimes so I don't understand sarcasm that well. But then you could have a fun time teasing me for it. 

Anyways, I need an outlet for these thoughts. I cant talk to anyone around me because they all think I am not, because they assume. And I am ashamed to correct them. 

[jay-toon]

When she tells you to get a life but she never says who's #rockosmodernlife lol I'm a #NERD I DONT CARE ..... HAVE YOU EVER MADE LOVE ON A HEFFA BLANKET NO I DONT THINK SO #virginlife #virginNeverGonnaGetLaid

[paraphraze615]

Basically. #SexBeforeWork #VirginChronicles #VirginLife #VirginTerritory #Abstinence #AbstinenceTillMarriage #Celibate #Celibacy #MyJob #MyJobSucks #MyJobBeLike #IHateMyJob #FuckThisJob #FuckMyJob #OverworkedAndUnderpaid https://www.instagram.com/p/BuCgpe9lDQz/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1iw9p8yujrk6a

[young-scorp]

Honestly

I shouldn’t have been so scary & fucked TB in HS so I could be living my damn lifeeeeee 😫😫😫😫😫😫 Or G.H this summer but idk man this shit ain’t it! I’m mf tiedd

[thefittestblogger]

That feeling you get when you tell your friends that you're no longer a virgin. #sirkingsleeey #virginlife #sovicious4ever #backstage #theFittestBlogger #fitfam #actor #willyscoutsnyc #wilhelmina #la #wilhelminaphiladelphia #wilhelminamiami #nymmgmodel #nymmg #gbscouts #discoverme #dmv #dmvtrainer (at Soldierfit Silver Spring)

[awesomemeister]

Is that too much to ask for?

I just want to find a cute girl crying in a park, sitting on a bench, where you go over to her, and ask her what’s wrong. She responds with nothing, but you know there’s something wrong, so you ask: No seriously, what’s wrong? And she says nothing, it’s just that, my boyfriend just broke up with me. And she starts crying even more, so you try to comfort her, and put your arm around her, and pull her closer to you. She’s still crying, but not as much as before, so you ask her what her name is, and she gives you her name. You start talking a bit, and you make her laugh, so she stops crying, and eventually when it gets dark, you ask her for her number, and she gives it to you, and you give yours to her, you come home, and you’re scared to call her, but a couple of days later you gather enough courage to call her, but right as you’re about to call her, someone calls you, it’s her, you pick it up, and start with an awkward hi. Suddenly you blink, and you’ve already talked for several hours, you begin talking every day, and eventually it gets pretty serious. So you go on your first date, where it’s awkward at first, but after some time, you’re really enjoying it, and she is too. Eventually the date ends, so you walk her home. Right before you come to her house, you stop up, you’re telling her how much fun you had, and she nervously says, she also had a lot of fun. As you’re starting to part ways, you lean over towards her, where she starts to blush, but also smile, so you go in for the kiss, and she kisses you back, but that's never gonna happen is it?! None of this is ever gonna happen, because all I do is just sitting here in my room, alone, fantasising about some girl, just magically dropping by, while me not even knowing anything about being with someone, or even talk with anyone.

[zenobiaallamby]

With My 3 Kids😂😂😂😂 #NeverYouMind #VirginLife #YouGetsNada #Stingy (at New York, New York)

[kpurereactions]

Everyone on here talking about the last time they got dick and I'm here like 'can't relate ' #virginlife 😂

Lmfao MEEEEEEEEEEE AS FUCK!!! 😂😂👌 its all g. #virginsquadMinlee

[lost-in-a-hoodie]

92 Questions

The lovely @musictherapy611 tagged me in this last night, so I’m finally getting to it!

THE LAST:

1. Drink: Crown Royal Apple Canadian Whisky

2. Phone call: My dad, maybe?

3. Text message: my mom

4. Song you listened to: whatever the Spiderman cast danced to

5. Time you cried: last night about this time

HAVE YOU:

6. Dated someone twice: define “dated,” but yes

7. Kissed someone and regretted it: Yes

8. Been cheated on: Yes

9. Lost someone special: Yes

10. Been depressed: Mild Major Depression, baby!

11. Gotten drunk and thrown up: not yet

LIST 3 FAVOURITE COLORS:

12. white

13. blue

14. black

IN THE LAST YEAR HAVE YOU:

15. Made new friends: Yes

16. Fallen out of love: Nope

17. Laughed until you cried: Yes

18. Found out someone was talking about you: yes

19. Met someone who changed you: yes

20. Found out who your friends are: hell yes

21. Kissed someone on your Facebook list: kissed my parents on the cheek?

22. How many of your Facebook friends do you know in real life: all but like two

23. Do you have any pets: a dog and cat at my mom’s, two cats at dad’s

24. Do you want to change your name: no, but I’m keeping my long-ass last name if/when I get married

25. What did you do for your last Birthday: went out to Chicken Coop and had wings, my brother made me a Supernatural fidget spinner, played for my high school’s graduation ceremony, started a daily vlog

26. What time did you wake up: 10ish

27. What were you doing at midnight last night: sleeping

28. Name something you can’t wait for: tomorrow is beach day!

29. When was the last time you saw your mom: Friday

30. What is one thing you wish you could change in your life: either skinnier or more confidence (working on the latter so I don’t have to care about the former)

31. What are you listening right now: silence, finally

32. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom: I have an uncle Tom

33. Something that is getting on your nerves: the three non-family members I’m vacationing with

34. Most visited Website: either Tumblr or YouTube

LOST QUESTIONS. I JUST PUT IN RANDOM INFO ABOUT ME

35. Mole/s: Several. (And they’re beauty marks! -- ya not wrong, @musictherapy611)

36. Mark/s: Stretch marks and surgery scars

37. Childhood dream: being a writer

38. Hair colour: blonde

39. Long or short hair: long and hella curly

40. Do you have a crush on someone: I do. I hope they crush on me just as much.

41. What do you like about yourself: my boob size makes even my mom jealous. i work hard & do well in school

42. Piercings: ears

43. Blood type: O+

44. Nickname: Wiggy

45. Relationship status: ...single?

46. Zodiac: Gemini

47. Pronouns: She/Her

48. Favourite TV Show: Supernatural or Game of Thrones

49. Tattoos: Not yet!

50. Right or left hand: right

51. Surgery: cyst removal, wisdom teeth, colonoscopy

52. Hair dyed in different color: had the back panel done blue/purple, and purple/pink. soon I’ll do hidden rainbow

53. Sport: typing? I watch football with my dad

55. Vacation: On one right now. come visit me in Dewey!

56. Pair of trainers: Do Converse count?

MORE GENERAL:

57. Eating: nothing

58. Drinking: switching between Crown and generic Mountain Dew

59. I’m about to: vlog

61. Waiting for: anxiety to disappear

62. Want: to be happy

63. Get married: not sure

64. Career: full-time student, part-time tutor (fall/spring) and sales associate (summer)

WHICH IS BETTER

65. Hugs or kisses: Hugs

66. Lips or eyes: Eyes

67. Shorter or taller: taller (i’m short)

68. Older or younger: I mean, i’ve really only dated “older” people (like two months older)

70. Nice arms or nice stomach: nice boobs

71. Sensitive or loud: Sensitive

72. Hook up or relationship: Relationship -- a long one, too

73. Troublemaker or hesitant: Hesitant

HAVE YOU EVER:

74. Kissed a stranger: ugh, no.

75. Drank hard liquor: does whisky count? or Irish Cream? (please don’t arrest me)

76. Lost glasses/contact lenses: i need glasses, but I have donated a pair to Posideon/Neptune.

77. Turned someone down: certainly

78. Sex in the first date: #virginlife

79. Broken someone’s heart: yeah, but he was a fuckboy

80. Had your heart broken: Yes, twice

81. Been arrested: nope

82. Cried when someone died: yes

83. Fallen for a friend: see answer #40

DO YOU BELIEVE IN:

84. Yourself: mostly

85. Miracles: i think so

86. Love at first sight: I really want to

87. Santa Claus: SANTA IS REAL. DON’T LIE

88. Kiss on the first date: no

89. Angels: Yes.

OTHER:

90. Current best friends name: Hadley

91. Eye colour: Blue

92. Favourite movie: Probably an old Disney movie -- Mary Poppins

Be prepared! @rnutations, @hellafabhippie, and @satanic-cookie-bars

[joonie-beanie]

some advice please? i have always worn underwear that covers a lot of butt like those hipster style type of ones and now that i'm in a relationship i feel like i should go for a thong (they probably look cute but ive never worn one) but im scared my mom will disapprove of them haha she's normally pretty chill but im still anxious, should i just ask her to go shopping with me? also i sound like an angsty teen but im 19 lmao #virginlife

?? I mean when I was 19 I bought my first thong bc like??? I wear hipster’s too and I find them really comfortable and they can be hella cute. But I bought a thong to try it out, ya know? So I think you should just buy one and try it! If you don’t like it then just wear your hipsters or get ones that would be a little cuter if you’re concerned about it???

I don’t think you should be anxious tbh. it’s just undies. buy one and if she asks then just say you wanted to try it out or whatever!!

[egpzambia2k17-blog]

Day 17 - Don’t compromise, condomize

Dear Joy,

4am Jody asked Jeanette whether she was awake. Subsequently that woke me up from my rather disturbing dreams. I preceded to tell Jody about my dreams at the top of my voice because as most of you know I don't have an inside voice/don’t know how to whisper. I won’t go in depth with my dreams as this is not a dream diary/I don't want to be referred to a psychiatrist but they may or not featured a old lady who peels potatoes with an eye liner sharpener, a welsh girl with bags toed to her feet and a plane full of men with diarrhea. Don't ask! I blame the concoction of drugs (all medicinal don't worry Mumsy). Malarone  plus heartburn tablets (which Jody kindly got me when the malarone tablets gave me heart burn). Jeanette meanwhile was grumpy about this 4am chat. Waking up again it was 8:00am. As per usual Julio and Jess were in the living room having been up for hours. Today was a Saturday which means condoms. Well not just condoms but HIV awareness and testing campaign. This time avoiding the traumatic market of last week, we went to an agricultural show. It was definitely different from the Dorset steam fair, Dorset county show or Ringwood and Ellingham show (wow I’m so country). Alex was armed with a very fitting t-shirt. Its quote making quote of the day; ‘don't compromise, condomize’. Once we had set up the marquee Jody and I decided to find the toilet. When we found them there is no words for the state it was in. There was s**t on the floor of every cubicle. Multiple poos in each one. We came out gagging because we are princesses (although Jody would probably say she was a queen). A man then gave us the key to the other look which luckily had no poos in sight. Returning from the trauma we had found that the team had been HIV tested. Jody and I, knowing that there was no chance in hell we had it (#virginlife). Good news – all six of us were negative – YAY. Then Jody and I, because we are 10 years old, decided to make a handshake. As Jody has an unhealthy love of baby hippos, we thought it should feature as part of the handshake. However our impression of a baby hippo couldn't be more inaccurate. I cant put into words what the action was like but it definitely sounded more like a wounded puppy than a baby elephant. Without realising our little spectacle had attracted an audience. Soon we had Zambian of all ages (okay mainly young men with other motives) joining in. To watch one guys try and impersonate a baby hippo was priceless. After the hype died down we realised our key man Juju (a patronising name coined by me). Turned out that him with his big arse camera had become the chief photographer for the football tournament. We went over to watch in the VIP section thanks to Juju’s skills. The football match wasn’t quite AFC Bournemouth (#cherries) but was at a good standard especially as they were high school students. Jeanette and Ani then came to the stadium armed with HIV awareness flyers. We all preceded to give them out trying to avoid giving them to kids and trying to avoid being hollered at by young men. One guys named Thomas wanted free condoms without getting tested. He also wanted me to take him over to the stand. 2 minutes into the conversation he wanted to be my best friend. 4 minutes into the conversation he wanted to be my boyfriend. Even making up a phantom boyfriend didn’t seem to discourage him. The way he saw it, its not cheating if its in a different country. I mean I feel his logic is slightly flawed. Arriving at the tent it turned out he didn’t want any condoms after all. At this point Jody was sniggering at my attempt to get rid of him. In fairness he was pretty hot, but bloody hell he was persistent. Finally her left and Jods and I decided to get back to our handshake. Ani, who hasn't seen it before, was unbelievably scathing of our efforts (Simon Cowell) whereas Jess was a bit more enthusiastic. Upset, hungry and tired we started dreaming of Hungry Lion. Then Jods and I were like f**k the diet and embraced a cheat day. Minutes later our dreams became a reality as we queued up at the till ready to make orders so big that they would probably k9ill us in the long run. After about 4 bites of heaven, I was so full I was in pain. After a diet of Rivitas, tuna, oranges, apples and pasta this much food left me feeling physically sick. Sadness – at home I would have demolished one. As Alex could only take 4 home, Jeanette and Ani stayed behind. Alex dropped us at the edge of the compound and as we were walking home we discovered some interesting information about Julio. Firstly his name is Julio Caesar Orthon. I’m sorry but how is that not funny. Secondly everyone is called Julio/a. His dad is Julio (Caesar as well), his ex is Julia and his sister is Julia. I was in hysterics. Only when they returned did we hear the trauma they had been subjected to. A 20ish year old man approached them outsider Hungry Lion. Simultaneously he tried stroking their legs. Jeanette quickly got herself. Apparently it felt like it was taking an age to get back. Finally the knight is shining armour rocked up (aka Alex) to save the day. However this man was so persistent that as Ani got up to leave he tried to hug and kiss her. Ani with her face turned away was basically licked. Traumatised everyone had a quiet evening and early bedtime. 

Adios, 

Biggest Girl 

Quote of the Day: ‘Don't compromise, condomize’ (Alex’s t-shirt).

[kingjoobs]

I maintain that I am a virgin. #virginlife

[bestbelievema]

I deserve sex 😤 it's a basic human need and I'm oppressing myself by believing my worth is in my virginity 😴 especially since I'm staying one for all the wrong reasons (really sexist ones at that,) when it's my choice at the end of the day.

[openmindbutclosedmouth-blog]

Virgin Diary

I spent most of my life being told two things when it came to finding a boyfriend—set the bar high and don’t be too picky. I set the bar high in what characteristics I’m looking for my partner in crime to have. Then, I’m told that my characteristics are too specific. Come on now, how am I supposed to have this “happy medium” when I’m not taught what to sacrifice and how to prioritize these characteristics? So, I did what I always do and I try to figure it out on my own. I branched out and tried new relationships that I might not have considered before. Why not, right? “You never know,” as people say. And my response is—I choose not to because it never works out.

Diary of a virgin:

Although I am just as at fault for trying to start a relationship from a dating app, he and I both could have made something out of nothing. He had his quirks that I was trying to convince myself I could get past, and I’m sure there are qualities about me that he did not find to be the most attractive either, which is ok. (Not the best way to begin a relationship, I know.) I’m not perfect, and I don’t expect you to be either. But when we start getting to know one another better, and have been on a couple dates, it’s rude to just shut me out when you hear something you don’t like. At least be cordial about it and say, “That’s a deal breaker for me… It’s been great getting to know you, but I don’t think we will work out... etc.” Being a virgin is hard enough work as it is, I don’t need near strangers reminding me that I’m often seen as an outcast.

I made the decision years ago to wait until marriage to have sex. That is a decision that was wished by my parents and made by me. While it is increasingly unusual to come across a virgin these days, especially one that is 22, I do not regret my decision. We are becoming a rare breed that seeks value out of sex greater than physical pleasure. And I’m sure many other people look for more than just that too, but come on; I’m abstaining from it altogether as outlined by my faith (which also seems to be interpreted in many different ways these days, but that’s for another time). So when I made the decision to wait until marriage, I did so at a time when that was more common. Now, as I have gotten older, that standard has dropped significantly and can affect relationships that I have or attempt to have. So non-virgins, when looking to potentially date someone, determine whether or not their being a virgin is a big deal to you and make it known early. If not, time can be wasted by both parties, and no one wants an unhappy ending if it can be avoided.

To those deciding whether to remain a virgin, to experiment sexually, or to reconsider a previous action, take your time with the decision. It is not something to be considered lightly because it involves giving a piece of you to someone else. I chose to only share that intimacy with the person I marry. Some of you may feel that it is not important, and that is your decision. Consider your feelings and what actions you may take in the future. Consider the consequences of all (yes there are consequences to all options), but know that whatever decision you make is ultimately yours, and that if you feel strongly enough to change your mind you can do that as well. Abstinence is a hard-kept decision, but it can be done. If you choose after having sex that you want to abstain, then that is possible too. With diligence and perseverance, you can uphold whichever decision you make and be successful at it.