#unfair to the rest of us
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alice in chains are all my girlfriends
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I think it would really benefit people to internalize that mental illnesses are often chronic and not acute. Some of us will never be able to jump the hurdle of managing illness, much less sustaining a sense of normalcy. Many of us will never "recover," will never manage symptoms, will never even come close to appearing normal - and this is for any condition, even the ones labeled as "simple" disorders or "easy-to-manage" disorders.
It isn't a failure if you cannot manage your symptoms. It isn't a moral failure, and you aren't an awful person. You are human. There's only so much you can do before recognizing that you cannot lift the world. Give yourself the space to be ill because, functionally, you are.
#mental health#mental health advocacy#like... anxiety and depression are often concieved of as simple and easy to manage...#...but that isn't the case for so many of us. anxiety and depression just have a lot more research invested into them...#...and while i wish this were the case for literally every other condition it does alter people's perception of you to some extent...#...so while this is NOT solely about anxiety or depression it includes us...#...my anxiety and depression and PTSD have *destroyed* my life. this is chronic and will probably be life-long...#...and that isn't my fault. i've done the fucking work but guess what? that doesn't account for the fact that I Am Just ILL#the least we can do for each other is to be compassionate#be compassionate to those who cannot heal. be compassionate to the people who can't manage their lives. this world is scary enough#recognize that management of symptoms is something not all of us can do - even IF their condition is labeled as 'easy to manage'#i allowed myself to feel angry that i can't heal 'normally' and that was unfair as fuck toward myself#and i NEED people to internalize this so that MAYBE this could help somebody else who is where i was#i NEED them to understand that it's okay that they are where they are - sometimes shit just doesn't turn out how you expect or want#don't beat yourself over you being a person. you are struggling enough. you deserve to rest. just rest please#and just... give yourself space
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Lee Know ☆ Intro: ATE
#bystay#createskz#stray kids#linosource#lee know#*m.gif#*minho#usersemily#userlau#usersa#melontrack#kpopccc#it's so unfair he just goes around looking like this#what about the rest of us
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Just a girl who wants to be her mother’s daughter in the ways that matter
#Such a tenacious go getter & the smartest woman ik#Has NEVER looked back at a man twice. Knows she’s beautiful & that attention is guaranteed. Never desperate for male validation ever#The best fashion sense ik. She’s the epitome of classic & vintage#Doesn’t gaf what others are doing / is always tunnel visioned on her own goals#A mega workaholic and like. Maybe I’d rather balance but still she’s still an overachiever#I feel im becoming more and more like her by the day but still I have some work to do#Need to be more focused & to stop entertaining little boys fr#I just want to move w the unshackling confidence & elegance she seems to emanate effortlessly#I swear that woman was born that way!!!! So unfair for the rest of us mortals#Why does no one talk about the psychological torture that comes w having a naturally gorgeous genius mother#I’m dying over here I just wanna be like her but im pushing that boulder up the hill all the time#Meanwhile she’s always just On#HOW#Just an eldest daughter having a crisis about her mother who is also#The eldest daughter out of her and her two brothers#I need to journal about this I need to meditate#How to manufacture the drive that your mother was simply endowed with at birth#Not even joking I just got off my internship and now im sitting on a swing under the late May sun having a crisis about this
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#IM NOT SPIRILING YOU ARE!!!#GOD DAMN DUDE LIKE ITS PROBABLY A MODICUM OF REASONS THAT THIS SHOW HAS NEVER HAD A REPRINT BUT THIS--THIS IS WHAT THEY ARE KEEPING FROM US#JOANNE MY BELOVED#kate mulgrew#HAW HAW HAW SHE IS SO BEAUTIFUL UNFAIR FOR THE REST OF US#damn though like this show is actually idk good ???#IT HAS SOME SPICY TOPICS AND OUTDATED IDEAS BUT SO WHAT ARGGGG#LIKE ARE YOU KIDDIN ME HAH#LOOK AT HER BABY GIRLLllll
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i have a pureref file of all the stuff i like and am inspired by, and you might have heard me throw around darwyn cooke's parker comics a couple of times, but that's because every panel is the single rawest fucking thing a human being has ever drawn
#text post#for the love of christ cooke please save some for the rest of us. unfair#i remember seeing this for the first time and saying oh fuck off out loud
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sitting in my little corner of “as much as i love love love prime bros, i also love the idea of nine being a character to fought so hard to get something, anything, and in the end, he got nothing”
i love me a tragic character who fought so hard to get his happy ending but never did because life just wasn’t fair to him
the cards weren’t in his favor and he lost
#graveyardtxt#before marie and brainworms hunt me for sport LISTEN#i need angst as much as i need oxygen#nine being alone in the grim is unfair#but that’s the point#he deserves a happy ending just as the rest of the foxes do#but why doesn’t he get one#why is he the one alone#what did he do wrong that all the other ones did right?#only tails has sonic#but sails and mangey still have families#why didn’t the echidna or bat or rose from his dimension take him in?#why is he the only fox who suffered alone for so long#and is still suffering alone#only this time around he’s also dealing with side effects from using the prism#he fought to get his home. his family. and everyone fought against him#and he was left with nothing but a broken down monument of his darkest hour#why didn’t he get his happy ending when everyone else did?#it’s just not fair#i LOVE tragic characters#anyway if i suddenly go missing please assume either marie or brainworms killed me
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He's so majestic
Found the translation of his name on @/thedwarrowscholar
#thorin oakenshield#the hobbit#the hobbit fanart#the hobbit thorin#thorin oakenshield fanart#punkindraws#king under the mountain#hes so pretty its unfair#leave some for the rest of us man#thorin fanart#Thorin
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Just came here to say that obx ending like that is just pure bullshit and I'm going to pretend that JJ just left for his surf trip and is having the time of his life, thank you bye
#this is just so unfair#my heart is broken and i'm gonna be sobbing for the rest of the month how could they do that to us#IT'S SO UNFAIR AND HE DESERVED SO MUCH BETTER#the most precious character and they did him so dirty I CAN'T#i'm honestly not sure if i still care about season 5#if they hurt rafe or kie next season i swear i'm gonna riot#i'm already rioting#ugh i hate this#outer banks#obx#obx spoilers#outer banks spoilers#jj#jj maybank
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https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5SD3RBr2it/?igsh=NmViYTZiaGZmaGUy in case you still haven't seen :D
Thank you!! I hadn’t seen the full thing this is wonderful <3 posting this so everybody else who might’ve missed it can see!
(Also leaving my personal opinions in the tags just to clarify where I stand because I’m so tired of everybody being weird about Damien specifically throughout this whole thing)
#hehe send me asks#smosh#damien haas#shourtney#smoshblr#I think that everybody blowing up at him is so…I mean#first of all unfair to him and to Shayne and Courtney who are clearly some of his closest friends#but also just. generally speaking super infantilizing and not necessarily aware that like#this is a grown man who not only has more to think about than his friends getting married#which he likely knew about way WAY before any of us did#obviously#but also he’s autistic and thus processes cues and reactions differently#and everybody is like WHA WHY DIDNT HE POST WHY ISNT HE BEING SUPPORTIVE#as if Damien isn’t generally pretty private about a lot of his personal life especially when it involves other people in the public eye#but especially since this is like#his best friend getting married to his other very close friend I feel like it would be obvious that this is something he would celebrate#privately and among the friends involved#anyway that’s my two sense please let him rest he’s like one of the busiest people in the cast and clearly loves his friends so much#**cents oops it’s late#and I don’t blame him for wanting to make this something special that he celebrates with them away from the#incredibly judgy#public eye
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@alienfuckeronmain
Been getting my jugular slowly torn out by this read today. When the horror writing is so good it turns into instant writing-inspo 🤌🏻🤌🏻🤌🏻 If you're the sort of edgelord queer who loves you some viscerally described horror themed on hunger, consumption, and aching loneliness, then this is for you
#i dont even write horror but for some reason horror gets my writing brain going more than anything else???#and a good queer horror anthology all about hunger and consumption and loneliness????? direct hit#book rec#phoenix also designed my dionysus tattoo and i think its wildly unfair that they can ALSO write like fuck off save some for the rest of us
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Movies that attempt something different, that recognize that less can indeed be more, are thus easily taken to task. “It’s so subjective!” and “It omits a crucial P.O.V.!” are assumed to be substantive criticisms rather than essentially value-neutral statements. We are sometimes told, in matters of art and storytelling, that depiction is not endorsement; we are not reminded nearly as often that omission is not erasure. But because viewers of course cannot be trusted to know any history or muster any empathy on their own — and if anything unites those who criticize “Oppenheimer” on representational grounds, it’s their reflexive assumption of the audience’s stupidity — anything that isn’t explicitly shown onscreen is denigrated as a dodge or an oversight, rather than a carefully considered decision. A film like “Oppenheimer” offers a welcome challenge to these assumptions. Like nearly all Nolan’s movies, from “Memento” to “Dunkirk,” it’s a crafty exercise in radical subjectivity and narrative misdirection, in which the most significant subjects — lost memories, lost time, lost loves — often are invisible and all the more powerful for it. We can certainly imagine a version of “Oppenheimer” that tossed in a few startling but desultory minutes of Japanese destruction footage. Such a version might have flirted with kitsch, but it might well have satisfied the representational completists in the audience. It also would have reduced Hiroshima and Nagasaki to a piddling afterthought; Nolan treats them instead as a profound absence, an indictment by silence. That’s true even in one of the movie’s most powerful and contested sequences. Not long after news of Hiroshima’s destruction arrives, Oppenheimer gives a would-be-triumphant speech to a euphoric Los Alamos crowd, only for his words to turn to dust in his mouth. For a moment, Nolan abandons realism altogether — but not, crucially, Oppenheimer’s perspective — to embrace a hallucinatory horror-movie expressionism. A piercing scream erupts in the crowd; a woman’s face crumples and flutters, like a paper mask about to disintegrate. The crowd is there and then suddenly, with much sonic rumbling, image blurring and an obliterating flash of white light, it is not. For “Oppenheimer’s” detractors, this sequence constitutes its most grievous act of erasure: Even in the movie’s one evocation of nuclear disaster, the true victims have been obscured and whitewashed. The absence of Japanese faces and bodies in these visions is indeed striking. It’s also consistent with Nolan’s strict representational parameters, and it produces a tension, even a contradiction, that the movie wants us to recognize and wrestle with. Is Oppenheimer trying (and failing) to imagine the hundreds of thousands of Japanese civilians murdered by the weapon he devised? Or is he envisioning some hypothetical doomsday scenario still to come? I think the answer is a blur of both, and also something more: In this moment, one of the movie’s most abstract, Nolan advances a longer view of his protagonist’s history and his future. Oppenheimer’s blindness to Japanese victims and survivors foreshadows his own stubborn inability to confront the consequences of his actions in years to come. He will speak out against nuclear weaponry, but he will never apologize for the atomic bombings of Japan — not even when he visits Tokyo and Osaka in 1960 and is questioned by a reporter about his perspective now. “I do not think coming to Japan changed my sense of anguish about my part in this whole piece of history,” he will respond. “Nor has it fully made me regret my responsibility for the technical success of the enterprise.” Talk about compartmentalization. That episode, by the way, doesn’t find its way into “Oppenheimer,” which knows better than to offer itself up as the last word on anything. To the end, Nolan trusts us to seek out and think about history for ourselves. If we elect not to, that’s on us.
#what I'm reading#oppenheimer#nuclear power#inject this entire essay into my veins#part of what makes oppenheimer such a powerful movie is how closely it hews to its subject matter#except for the hearing plotline we see what he sees. we feel what he feels#the people who were building the bombs never saw its effects. they lived in a tiny town deliberately cut off from the rest of the world#and when their labors bore fruit they heard about it on the radio like everyone else in the country#oppenheimer included. inventing something doesn't give you special power into what it actually looks like when it's used. that's the danger#the idea that oppenheimer would have been better or more respectful if there had been some random cut to people in japan or the new mexico#desert being bombed frankly strikes me as incredibly gauche#and the idea that this movie needs to encompass every aspect of the bombings because it would be unrealistic or unfair to expect people#to seek out any additional knowledge that can't be found in a blockbuster movie is just so insulting to our collective intelligence
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Hi im here to tell you something…
HYUNJIN IS FUCKING PRETTY
Evidence::
LOOK AT HIM AND TELL ME HE IS NOT BEAUTIFUL 🫠🫠🫠
bestie i can't tell u this DO UK WHO U ARE TALKING TO AKSJDJJDDB
#how is one so pretty even when sleepy#UNFAIR#leave some beauty for the rest of us#sahar's.asks <3#chqnverse
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Build Up 다시 사랑한다 말할까 stage — Yeo One
#pentagon#yeo one#changgu#yeoone#build up#mnet build up#v40#i haven't spent much time with ptg content in a while but man... my heart is still (partly) theirs#love you changgu love your voice#it's so unfair that your genes made the beauty of your voice match your outer beauty#could have left some for the rest of us#kim dong ryul#다시 사랑한다 말할까#shall i say i love you again
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One of the main things I dislike about book 2 Lestat vs book 1 Lestat is it just takes away a lot of the interesting mystery about his character in the first book to have him definitively answer everything like: "oh actually I WAS hiding a bunch of secrets of the vampire universe and rules and hierarchy and history from you the entire time, and actually I WAS also filthy rich secretly the entire time due to a treasure left to me by my maker and didn't actually need you for your money at all, and also I wasn't a bit insecure about my lower class upbringing and poorer education and trying to compensate for that by being both showy and secretive about myself I was actually a noble, and also I CAN do a bunch of other vampire things that I never taught you to do or did in front of you even though we lived together in the same house as a family for like 70 years, and yes I DO hate following rules and doing what I'm told and keeping secrets but I did it because Marius said your fragile minds couldn't handle the truth if I DID tell you anything else, and also I DIDN'T want any revenge on Claudia or blame her for attempting to murder me or think I maybe should undo what I did by making her one bit, I was just being forced by the even EVILLER vampire to have her condemned to death, and also almost everything questionable or problematic or cruel that I did within the first book was either a lie told by Louis or secretly actually a kind and heroic thing I did because I cared about someone other than myself, IN FACT I SECRETLY THE ENTIRE TIME HAD A STRICT MORAL CODE I WAS FOLLOWING every time I casually killed an innocent npc in the first book, and whenever you watched on in horror at my cruelty and toying with my victims I was actually only killing scummy evildoers and Louis was just too dumb and romanticizing of humans to ever see it etc..." like FINE WHATEVER, I GUESS hahaha but I actually kind of liked you better when you were a bit meaner and a bit petty and a bit imperfect and a bit lame
#also he gets so powerful so quickly that its just like too much to me kinda#ANYWAYS i feel like this is maybe an unpopular opinion but idk#its hard to articulate exactly what i mean but it sort of undermines a lot of the stuff i like about the first book as a standalone tale#even though theres def stuff i like about the continuing lore and worldbuilding in the rest of the series as well#like i think louis is too hard on book one lestat sometimes because louis is always looking at and judging things from a human pov#and Lestat is like looking at things from a totally different one himself#and as the reader that made me feel like lestat was maybe a bit more valid and less awful than Louis was constantly making him out to be?#and i feel like even louis eventually reaches some of those kinds of conclusions himself later on#when he doesnt really find the answers that he seeks#like oh maybe he was just kind of a sad pathetic dude in his own way and i was trying to force him to have all the answers in an unfair way#or holding him to human morals and standards that no longer apply the same to us now#which only works if lestat as a character didnt actually have all the answers hahahaha#or wasnt also holding himself to those human moral standards#do ya know what i mean...#interview with the vampire spoilers#the vampire lestat spoilers#vampire chronicles spoilers#p#vmpcs
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#sorry im thinking abt death again#because it's weird to think that ive been in the room. maybe a meter away from someone as they died#that someone being my mom. its just weird. the time in the hospital feels like it happened in some dark little pocket universe detached from#time. a calm room and then the soft blips of a monitor then the nurse rushing in to say she'd passed#i dont kno y ppl use that phrase: passed on. i mean i do. it softens the topic. makes it sound peaceful. ive yet to use it. i just say she#died bc thats what happened. is that insensitive? i dunno. when i was home i realized that i come off as much stranger than i think. the way#my family see me doesnt fit how i see myself. i dont kno what to do with that. i dunno. theyre all together today#for an early easter. and im halfway across the country again. nose so stuffy ive had to mouth breathe for the last 3 days#and again. everything feels the same as it did before but also profoundly different. sometimes i cry in the mornings. or when i think abt#future vacations she wont be there for. bc in the end she quickly slipped away in a way that couldn't be described as peaceful until her#last half a day. and all i can think about in that tiny room is how scary it would be to lose control like that#and how its not fair and she didnt deserve to die only halfway through a lifetime. but its not about fair and its not about deserving.#sometimes bad things just happen. that's life. and now i own a book called motherless daughters. and now im standing with the countless#others who've lost their moms too early. ive already become aware of 3 ppl in my daily life who are in the same club#i keep thinking about this moment that happened between my parents at the hospital. apparently my dad was helping her get cleaned up and her#stomach was so bloated she looked like she had a bby in there. which my dad said. and my mom apparently said: but it's a baby no one want. i#dont kno y that upsets me so much. all the things i heard abt her being in the hospital before i got there upset me. and the rest of my#family was there to see it. so i have the least traumatic version of the story. and i got almost 27 years with her. except my sisters#probably got more time with her bc i spent so much time away. or maybe not. i dunno.#i dunno. im just sad that shes gone and sad that it was drawn out even a little bit. 6 days isnt long but im sure it felt like an eternity.#again not fair. nothings fair. 53 years of unfairness culminating in a tragedy. she would hate me characterizing it like that. she lived a#full life as they say. full with an asterisk on account of length#unrelated
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