#transphobia reference//

[promiseimnotacop]

jsyk user genderyomi reblogs from ppl identyfing as baeddel/“transman-hater” (w their words). safe to assume she is one.

i do appreciate well meaning calling me out on shit i've reposted and whatnot but that does not to my mind warrant any kind of unfollow/deleting posts what have you

i have been seeing traces of this new wave is 'transmisandry a real thing/is baeddelism real and if it is is it actually a bad thing or kinda based' flooding my dash lately and have very deliberately stayed away from engaging in any of it/weighing up on one side or another.

thankyou for engaging here though in a more polite way!

[juney-blues]

"no see they're not being transmisogynistic, they don't hate trans women! they're specifcially talking about *men*, and trans women aren't men! so no one would EVER refer to them as such"

wow you're sooo smart, you're so smart and understanding, your brain is huge y'know that. you're sooooo intelligent and thoughtful and you really get it y'know, you smart person you.

[spitblaze]

"This historical figure who was born as a woman and lived the rest of her life as a man isnt transgender and shes not a man she was an oppressed woman who pretended to be a man in order to pursue her dreams under intense patriarchy" listen i understand what the line of logic here is and i know that applying modern labels to figures who lived and died before these words and concepts were invented or popularized is a dangerous game but if this dude not only lived his life as a man but insisted that he be referred to as a man and went off on people who misgendered him and had an entire love life where all of his lovers would also refer to him as a man and was adamant that his body not be examined postmortem as so not to be retroactively defined by his genitals and wished to still be recognized as a man after his death i feel like at the very least you could respect his wishes to be referred to and seen as a man and leave the 'born female' thing to be an interesting tidbit at most instead of the fact about him you parade around

[aprofessionalwithoutstandards]

I loveeee love love transfem Spy hcs but like I literally cannot imagine posting any sort of art or writing about her idk how yall bear it. If I posted art of a character I was interpreting as a trans woman and all the notes were like "omggg I love this I love HIM. HE looks so WET AND PATHETIC isn't it so PATHETIC and FUNNY when MEN wear DRESSES" I'd fuckin kill somebody

[medusamagic]

I need people to recognize that saying "I'd fuck/get fucked by a trans woman" is a stance that quite a few far-right folks have. You're not special for saying the quiet part loud. If you want me to believe that you actually care about trans women, say something when we try to call attention to issues that affect us.

[thelaurenshippen]

cw: harry potter, jk rowling, transphobia

I occasionally see posts/get messages about the various harry potter references in the bright sessions, etc. and I've gotten a bunch of new followers recently so just so any new/younger listeners of my shows know:

jk rowling is a terrible transphobe whom I hold zero respect for and I haven't given a dime of my money to her since she revealed who she truly is. I want the whole bright universe to be a safe space for trans people (including the trans folks in our cast and crew!) and if I could go back and remove those references, I would. but I can't! harry potter was an extremely significant part of my life until...well, until it became very clear who she really was. it makes me so sad to think that folks might be finding TBS now and get thrown out of the story by these references, but just know that the people who made the show do not stand by jk, and that in many ways, the show is a product of its time.

[thereareeyesinsidethetrees]

handholding is common with the stan twins

when they were kids, it was something that was started by stan. well, kind of. caryn took care to hold ford’s hand whenever she took him places, an assertion that she cared for him, extra fingers and all, and a comfort, as her hands hid his own. stan took up the role himself when caryn couldn’t, having noticed how ford seemed more comfortable when his hands were being held

when they were teens, it was an act of rebellion. stan knew it still comforted ford, but they both seethed whenever filbrick told them that men don’t hold hands, that they need to pick one, that they can’t be doing ‘girl things’ when they’re ‘pretending to be men’

stan held ford’s hand at the dinner table and took care to sit by caryn so filbrick wouldn’t do anything. not right away, anyway. ford would hold his hand from the top bunk as he bit back sobs

ford hated the feel of skin on skin, he told fiddleford. so they didn’t hold hands, as much as fiddleford would have loved to. in truth, it just didn’t feel right. his hand felt wrong in ford’s, it lacked the familiarity and the firm but careful way fingers curled around his own, making perfect space for them

stan hated the feeling, too. not that anyone wanted to hold his hand, of course- it was the lack of anything. it felt like something was missing. his hands never seem as warm as they used to

ford holds his own hands as he hides from the latest group of bounty hunters

stan wakes up more times than he can count to find his hand laid atop the front of his brother’s journal

stan is pissed at his brother. but he notices how clammy and cold ford’s hand is, and how it’s trembling and can’t seem to grip stan’s quite right. stan tightens his grip, steadying ford’s shaking. he lets go again not too long after and they both slip and fall

ford clutches stan’s hands desperately as he fights with reality. he can feel chains, but he can’t see them…stan’s hands both feel and look real, though. stan holds just as tightly as he struggles to piece together who he is. the fog is impossible to get through, but ford clears a path

stan holds ford’s hand as he leads him out onto the first beach they come across- a port swarmed with a bustling crowd. they laugh together at the morons that call them sissies and they both get a chance to do something they never could when they were kids. ford gives ‘em the bird. stan gets to punch someone in the face. they stop at a diner and stan grasps ford’s hand under the table so he feels safer in the noisy busy environment. ford holds stan’s hand from the top bunk later that night as he assures him he’s fine and it was just a nightmare and he’s fine, he promises, all with a waver in his voice

they visit glass shard beach. they hold hands as they sit on the sand under what remains of the swings and reminiscence and watch the sun dip under the horizon. they hold hands as they walk and spit on filbrick’s grave and stan actually buys flowers to lay on caryn’s. they hold hands as shermie opens his front door and sees them as they really are for the first time in over thirty years. they hold hands as they properly meet the nibling’s parents

they hold hands as they wait at the bus stop the next summer and watch soos and melody get married and catch up on all the time they missed

(this is all headcanon ae’m unleashing unto the world)

[queerbauten]

Another sporadic reminder not to misgender Blixa’s transgender son, bitte

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

“trans men are invading women’s spaces!” and then they’ll be referring to like the gynecologist

[transmaverique]

im gonna sound mean bc thinking about this makes me angry but if you genuinely cannot wrap your head around transmascs (largely though not exclusively people afab and forced into female social roles) as direct targets of misogyny (bc they are largely people afab and forced into female social roles) and transphobia (bc they are trans) and that those two things intersect bc they are direct targets of both. you are quite frankly just a fucking moron.

[sinistersuns]

I hope more people who feel they’re leftists begin to realize that genuinely hating men AND/OR immediately assuming a man (or someone you perceive as a man) you don’t know is out to harm you is t3rf behavior. This belief will not keep you safe, it’s meant to isolate you and put the marginalized men around you in danger. Hating men will not do shit to the bigoted cishet white men in power, but it’ll tell the marginalized men around you that they aren’t welcome around you. This extends to anyone who looks like cis society’s idea of a man, but isn’t actually one, too - do y’all really think trans people of ANY gender say “okay I’m x gender now” and are immediately treated like that gender by society as a whole? Do you think your fear of anyone with facial hair and a deep voice will stop at dangerous cis men, and that only dangerous cis men have those traits? And I’m specifying DANGEROUS cis men because cis men as a group aren’t inherently dangerous. The way someone looks or identifies says nothing about whether they’re “safe” or not! I thought we fucking learned this!!

[iamnmbr3]

Trans man Ron is so real

not my personal headcanon but here for it! that would also make the "least loved by the mother who wanted a daughter" moment from book 7 even angstier.

[keithkog]

Wow. Transphobes are fucking irritating.

I used ‘they’ for Pidge (They use She/They) one fucking time and some dick tried correcting me. When I explained why, they said they don’t believe in they/them singular pronouns. I swear I would say transphobes deserve the blade but I believe in reform so- Hope that person learns better.

Also yes I used they/them for them to piss them off.

-Keith

[omensofatimelord]

everytime I go to renew my t prescription it's a a whole palava. My doctor seems to decide to hold it hostage and threaten to have it removed and. i dont think she realises??? It's exhasting everytime. Anyway, this time it seems to have magically become non repeatable so I'll have to see her irl before i get anymore. Only problem is. Im going to run out before I see her (since our health care system is. breaking). So yeah. hopefully I can get a prescription without having to have a nurses appointment.

(for the record going cold turkey on hormones is Very Bad for you and more likely to be worse for me than whatever shes decide is maybe an issue. Even putting aside that skipping even a day fucks up my mood dramatically.)

Every single time it needs to be renewed its a god damn fight, and I need to prove that I should be aloud to take the amount that was recommended to me by an actual trained specialist. There's this attitude that my natural state is off it and therefore I need to consistently show it's universally beneficial. And if anything potentially wrong that could be remotely linked to t (like say. high blood pressure with a family history and STARTING A MASTERS) then I need to be off it. Without any consideration for other causes or just that. I have no control over whether I can continue taking it she decides she doesnt want me on it anymore.

[weirdcatlive]

LMAO

[touchd0wn-boy]

Since I keep seeing it in certain corners of the fandom:

Chromosomes = gender is a transphobic statement. Genitalia/secondary sex characteristics = gender is a transphobic statement. I can't believe I have to explain this. It's "real transphobia" not just a fun argument you can co-opt to use against other queer people online. It's the basis for why transphobes want to bring back chromosome testing and sex verification in all sports so only Real Women and Real Men can compete against each other, something that's not only damaging to trans people but pretty much everyone who doesn't fit the very narrow definition of what a "normal" body and "normal" hormones are, even cis people, as the whole controversy around Imane Khelif has shown during the Olympics. It's why bathroom access for trans people has become such a point of hysteria and conspiracy theories. It's why anti-transgender laws are on the rise all over the world.

Last month, the ACLU published a very illuminating research brief on the impacts of anti-transgender laws and policies that I HIGHLY recommend (you can check it out here).

Instead of posting performative bullshit about what an Ally you are, and how we should all focus on "real transphobia" instead, you could reflect on why immediately falling back to transphobic rhetoric 101 as a cheap gotcha argument against the actual queer and trans people in your fandom saying things about your favs you don't like and don't agree with, is not actually??? a good thing? If your first gut-jerk reaction to shut down queer people is to rehash the talking points of every conservative politician and every Elon Musk Verified Alt-Right Twitter Influencer, then maybe do some introspection on WHY that is. When you perpetuate arguments about chromosomes and gender, you’re giving oxygen to the same ideologies that justify anti-trans laws and discriminatory policies. You're contributing to the environment that makes life harder for trans people, even if you don’t realize it.

By all means, donate to trans and queer charities and inform yourself on the issues impacting trans and queer communities.

But performative allyship is not a substitute for genuine support and understanding. Donating without actually challenging your own biases or engaging in meaningful discussions isn't enough. Being an ally means being willing to listen, learn, and grow—even when it makes you uncomfortable. It means understanding that harm can be done through ignorance, and being willing to address that ignorance within yourself and your circles.

Anyway. Translegislation is a wonderful website to track anti-trans bills that are being considered and passed in the US. Contact your representatives. VOTE, not just in the upcoming presidential election but also—and ESPECIALLY—in your local elections.

Besides the Trans Youth Equality Foundation, I also recommend

The Trevor Project

Mermaids (UK-based, God knows they need the support, considering Ms. Joanne R. still has internet access in the year of our lord 2024)

your local Planned Parenthood

your local trans/queer organization

mutual aid requests for gender affirming care