#transphobia ment

[wings-of-fire-confessions]

You ever think Coral hoped one of her sons would end up being a trans woman, or would she be unsupportive about it(she seems like she would honestly)

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[kingshovelbug]

i think the thing that pissed me off the most about transphobes today is that i kept seeing shit about top surgery where they say “girls are being coerced into removing healthy breast tissue” but breast IMPLANTS are fine even though those pose risks to said healthy breast tissue.

or that top surgery is too easy to get and that women should be proud of their boobs and get rid of them as the last case scenario. but i can name quite a few reasons that women would get mastectomies or at least reductions?

back, shoulder and or rib pain? just the general theyre in the way during everyday life? i cant tell you how many girl friends of mine have said it hurts them just to go down the fucking stairs unless theyre holding their boobs. healthy but risk of breast cancer so they want preventative care?

my mom in fact has all of these and she still hasnt been approved to get a reduction even though it would improve her quality of life tremendously. why are we so focused on tits that were allowing that to cloud our judgment when it comes to this specific vein of body autonomy?

[nappingpaperclip]

the terf talking point that like trans men just transition to avoid the problems that come with being a woman (ie “we all wish we were men but that doesn’t make you one”) doesn’t make sense because like. transitioning didn’t stop people from being misogynistic to me… people are just a lot weirder about it now.

[viad0]

ngl someone asking if i have a dick or a pussy would bother me less than someone asking if i’m afab or amab, because at least the first person is being direct and not trying to find a more “uwu you’re valid” way of being a creep

like. if you’re gonna be transphobic then be direct with it, there’s no point in being the “woke kind” of transphobe

[illegallymale]

i was going through and blocking a bunch of transphobe accounts and some terf was like “straight men are making grindr accounts pretending to be gay to fuck poor vulnerable ftms” and there’s so much transphobia/bioessentialsm, homophobia, misogyny, etc there that we need to unpack at some point… but we can do that after i jerk off abt how hot that is

[real-fire-emblem-takes]

Rosado and Forrest are not good trans representation and im really tired of people acting like there is absolitely nothing transphobic about these two characters because they view the games through rose colored glasses

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[emdotcom]

If a trans person was friends with a bunch of cis people, & you saw that & joked that they are secretly cis, or will realize they are cis, or are only pretending to be trans, then that is.... Bad & wrong behavior.

So, thought experiment, for no reason: If a cis person was friends with a bunch of trans people, & you saw that & joked that they are secretly trans, or will realize they are trans, or are only pretending to be cis, then that is....? Exactly right! Bad & wrong behavior, also.

[queerworm]

i want to talk about the insane expectations put on trans people. like the idea that you need to be an expert on your gender and 100% sure along with how there are expectations on how you need to perform your gender. (i'm gonna try so hard to be coherent).

so, some background. i've currently been questioning and exploring my gender again. basically, about eight years ago, i came out as a trans guy. as i've transitioned, and especially after going on testosterone, i began thinking more about my gender and found out that my gender is a lot less masculine than i thought. currently, i've been feeling very femme, so much so that the most masc i feel is really probably true neutral. i've been identifying as genderqueer for a bit, and while that feels correct and right, i think specifically i might be more of a girl than a guy.

i was talking to my therapist how right now, at twenty one, i'm trying to figure out what femininity means to me for the first time.

i came out when i was thirteen as a trans guy. so, as i was maturing, like everyone else, i was trying to figure out what gender meant to me, in my case masculinity. my therapist and i agreed that generally around then is when you figure out what gender means to you and what kinda man/woman/person you are/want to be. however, she pointed out, that while for most cis people that happens very naturally. as a trans person i faced a lot of pressure to figure out how to be masculine.

on top of trying to figure out what being masculine meant for me, i had to essentially manage and try to meet the expectations placed on me because i was trans. not only was i trying to figure out what kind of boy i was, i had to figure out how to perform masculinity correctly. in my experience, that made it a lot harder to figure out how i'm comfortable because those two ideas were often in opposition. if i wasn't masculine enough, my gender was called into question. so it was very hard for me to grow and gain this sense of self while under insane scrutiny from honestly not only cis people but other trans and queer people.

when i began testosterone and became a lot more comfortable in my masculinity, i was able to start thinking about my gender and realize that my gender is a lot less binary than i thought. only when i became more comfortable with myself and no longer had to deal with constant scrutiny over my gender, was i able to start experimenting with femininity and being gender noncomforming.

so, now we're here. i cut my hair to make it look more feminine. i'm going to stop using he/him pronouns because i've realized i don't like them (i did awhile ago honestly) and i'm finally getting the courage to make a change again. i'm experimenting, and i'm trying to figure out what it means to me to be feminine. i'm trying to figure out what kind of girl i would be/am.

this isn't me detransitioning. if anything, i feel like i'm transitioning again. i've joked with a couple friends about it, and i laugh, but honestly, otherwise i don't talk about it seriously. to think deeply about it feels daunting.

the idea that maybe this is just a blip is fine to me. but the idea that this is right? that i am femme? i feel like if this is right, i'm going to have to explain and justify my identity again. i'm going to have to justify my past identities and explain how i don't feel like i was 'wrong'. i'm scared of having to tell people and having them put new expectations on me. i'm scared that they'll just look at me and not believe me, or roll their eyes and wonder how long this lasts.

there's a part of me that's become scared that i'm going to regret going on testosterone. it terrifies me, actually. i would rather die than admit that i regret it. i'm scared people will look at me and my journey with gender and use me as an argument against trans people. i'm scared my fellow trans people will throw me under the bus because my gender and my journey isn't palatable enough. i'm scared i'm not going to meet the expectations set for trans people, because if this sticks, i'm not going to.

and honestly? talking with my therapist, i realized i'm not scared of being a girl. i'm very secure in exploring my identity. i'm embracing this change, i'm embracing the idea of something new. i'm just scared of other people's reactions.

and that's not fair. why is it that because i'm trans i have to meet all these standards? why is that i have to have everything figured out? why do i have to be perfect and palatable?

the thing is, even with my fear of regretting testosterone, i'm not really scared of how it will affect me personally. if i somehow did regret it, which i don't really think i will, i know i could handle it. honestly, people regret making life changing permanent decisions all the time. it would not be the end of the world. the thing that scares me is just having to deal with people if i did regret it. having to make peace with being demonized for my own personal experience with gender.

there is very much a culture where you are expected to know everything about your gender, and that you can't talk about your negative experiences related to certain parts of transitioning. for example, when i first started testosterone, i had a hard time reconciling my voice changing. i never really talked about it, which made it worse, honestly. when my voice started changing, i had a hard time as a singer, so much so that i got so frustrated i pretty much gave up music all together (i have been a serious musician my whole life) and i was miserable. i never regretted going on t, but i had a really hard time with my voice, and while i eventually got through it (i started singing again, and love my voice. i love to sing, and can sing well), it was really difficult for me, and i felt like i couldn't talk about it, because i felt like i would just be proving transphobes right. even though it was my own personal experience, and clearly nuanced.

these sort of expectations are crushing, and in my experience have kept me from being true to myself. i wonder how much these sort of things have alienated us from each other. i'm sure there has to be other trans people like me who feel the same way.

there's a part of me who wonders where i'd be now if i never had those expectations put on me as a young trans kid. would i have gotten here faster? would i have found my authentic self sooner? with less pain? the answer is probably, honestly.

either way, this is what i've decided. i'm going to try my best to not give a fuck. right now, i'm an aro genderqueer butch lesbain. that's what feels right. i don't care if other people think i'm wrong, i don't care if i don't meet your expectations. i don't care if you want to try and throw me under the bus as a bad example of a trans person. i'm trans. i am who i am. nobody else is going to change that.

to all my other trans people with genders that aren't 'palatable' or 'easy to understand' i love you. i believe you and i think you're wonderful the way you are. you have my support. keep being you. the world needs more people like you in it.

[transmascvash]

Ok odas absolutely grown a lot as a person and the trans writing in one piece has gotten so much better but tbh i. Have mixed feelings ab transfem sanji hcs bc while I'm not gonna actively tell people "thats bad stop headcanoning it" it kinda makes me uncomfy bc everything surrounding the idea in canon is like. Lathered in Really Bad Transmisogynistic Stereotypes. Like. Am i the only person looking at the character who was stuck on an island of awful caricatures of trans women and constantly told he was one of them in denial and forced into dresses and makeup and like. Thinks saying "oh yea they're totally transfem" plays into stereotypes of trans women being predatory or

[ade-dekker]

so are you straight up flashing people in order to feed

Essentially, yes. More specifically because my top surgery left scars most would consider extreme and aesthetically displeasing; it works wonders on people who already view the entire thing as a form of "self-mutilation".

[storm-demon]

Wrath

Needed a little break from only s/pyro comic work so I made a little one off of an idea I had w vaati and ezlo. Hopefully the readability is fine, I used a bit of a different format than I usually do to try and cut back on work

also trans vaati because I'm sexy and cool

[hearts401]

heartsss NEOPRONOUNS EVAN IS SO REALLL….

im shaking u like a ragdoll. im so curious. howd xe figure it out. howd xe come out. was it big. was it scary. was it small? informal? who did she come out to first? did they tell someone else before properly coming out to have someone able to encourage them?

hearts i love xir so much. ur doing the world a SERVICE.

-cross (written by roxie for void lol)

WHOO FIGURING IT OUT WAS WILD.

xe was veryyy confused about their gender for a long time, and it initially was just experimental. what if he was a girl? what if she was a guy? what if xe was neither?

but eventually, he did his own research and learned what worked.

but coming out was... harder.

IMPORTANT TO NOTE THIS IS BEFORE MICHAEL CAME OUT (or even was sure about his own gender/sexuality.) i do think he had internalized transphobia (that comes with the toxic masculinity of having william of all people for a father (despite william not caring about gender identities much, he held his own sons to a different standard i think, which lead to, of course, internalized transphobia.)

with that out of the way, yes. it was big and scary to evan. it was terrifying even. what was it supposed to say? "hey i dont wanna be a guy anymore."?

he came out first to cassidy and gregory together. which is funnily enough where he discovered gregory was transmasc and suddenly everything made sense (cassidy later figures out shes not cis too ofc)

they talked him through it, and assured him he didnt HAVE to come out to the rest of his family. xe owed them nothing. but to it, this was a step forward in being its own person. she wasnt going to let that chance go.

honestly, it was big and scary and horrifying for evan, but elizabeth was chill, if not a bit confused by the concept.

william did not gaf. he fucking knew his kids were gay. and his lack of care counted as a loss for evan tbh 😭 he got all ready to come out and got hit with the "yeah i know now stop fucking crying over robots bruh"

michael was a different story. first, he was confused, then he was a little,,, hesitant to accept it. this was weird and new, but he was way too old by this point to be harassing evan about something like that. it just ended in an awkward "isnt that whole thing weird/made up/fake/stupid/ect?" that left both of them uncomfortable.

if we follow smth like second best and shitty brother, he'd end up apologizing for that behavior, especially since he himself would probably figure out what that was like.

that was a lot lol, xe just means a lot to me <333

[bugawitz-aj]

ajc INSANE for replacing the pillow room. now mfs are spreading propaganda about trans people in the club.

[anthonycrowley]

‘i watched the special anyway and tbh it was mid’ i’m not going to watch it if it was the best comedy in the world because it was someone who i liked who platformed someone - without even warning the audience! - who wants my friends eradicated. like it’s one thing if you didn’t know because it wasn’t SUPER well known it was mostly a thing that came out through word of mouth. and we knew this from the stupid shitty harry potter game but damn people are right when push comes to shove you people will throw trans people right under the bus because literally all you had to do was not watch a shitty netflix comedy special and you couldn’t even do that.

[basil-from-omori]

really fucking sick of being trans. not bcuz I’m transphobic, not cuz I don’t feel trans anymore, but bcuz of how hard this is. this sucks. I can’t even play my game w/ out being ridiculed for sounding fem (which led to not just transphobic insults, but also misogyny). when looking for any job that needs athletic training or something, I have to SEE if they accept trans people.

I don’t know if the pain of transphobia is worse than the pain of being a “girl”, but I feel like it might just be the former. I don’t hate myself for being trans, and I don’t hate myself for anything similar to that or being queer. I just hate the consequences of…existing. or not wanting to feel as much dread. im sick of this country, I’m sick of the hatred for simply EXISTING, and I’m sick of being attacked for no reason other than just because. I’m tired of crying to myself for things ppl would call silly because they don’t get how terrible it is to feel like your existence is a crime. I’m tired of all this bullshit.

[emdotcom]

Deadnaming is so fucking stupid. Would you call a butterfly a caterpillar?