#transphobe mention cw

[wajjs]

to sum up SOME of the things happening in Argentina:

There's a nation wide manhunt for Loan, a toddler that disappeared in Corrientes (province that has borders with Paraguay, Brasil and Uruguay, three neighboring countries). Foul play has been suspected from day one. The family is believed to be involved by some people. The most popular on going theory is that he was sold to an international pedophile ring dedicated to buying kids from Latin American countries and selling them to people in power in the USA and aligned countries.

The court case connected to Tehuel, a trans young man that disappeared while going to a job opportunity he was offered by a local semi-political figure he was supposed to be able to trust, has been reopened. It is heavily theorized that this political figure, plus his partner and an accomplice, tortured and killed Tehuel for being trans. (There is a strong online theory that they fed him to the pigs after to get rid of his remains. Another popular theory is that they sold him to a human trafficking ring.)

The ex first lady, Fabiola Yañez, and ex president, Alberto Fernández, are in an ongoing legal battle after she was more or less forced to come forward and press charges against him for physical and psychological abuse. A lot of it was perpetrated while he was in office during the pandemic. He kept her locked up, isolated, and publicly blamed her for the things that went wrong during his presidential mandate. Unfortunately the media is having a field day with the pictures of Fabiola beaten up, basically showing off her bruised face and body while zooming in on the injuries. Fabiola had to come out and ask them to please stop showing those pictures as they are effectively re traumatizing her and her son.

Current president, Javier Milei, has effectively altered the employment contract law, taking away things that were meant to protect workers from corporate/employer greed and abuse. He has also effectively closed down the statal, official, ways to get in contact with authorities in case of gender based discrimination and abuse.

Current ruling political party (far right) is pushing forward a denial of facts and attempt at retelling our history by more or less saying that the last military dictatorship wasn't that bad, trying to pardon their sentences (even though the ones in charge of kidnapping, torturing, and disappearing people are living well while serving their sentences). A delegation met with one of the most heinous figure heads of the last dictatorship. A person from said delegation alleged it's old history and that people born during the 90s don't know and don't care about it.

[troythecatfish]

[aliceundrground]

Semi related to my posts earlier but kind of a tangent. This is messy but its something that's been eating at me and I don't really know how to move forward.

Yesterday was Transgender Day of Remembrance. There are many names we know and mourn, but there are many more that are never seen. Many names are missing because they could not be acknowledged as their true selves after, or before, their deaths.

The thing that's been bothering me is that the lists most groups will consult, these missing names include those lost to suicide. Known cases of trans people, often young people, are being left out of these lists. Their deaths are not considered part of "the losses we face due to anti-transgender bigotry and violence".

Every trans suicide is a murder.

Its not a coincidence that minorities have higher rates of suicide. Its the way we are treated, our quality of life, that most influences these statistics. I have seen news of at least one case, a trans man in Alberta, who committed suicide explicitly because of the anti-trans policies his province was set to enact.

Ive seen dozens of articles. I've seen a trans masc's instagram, where the most recent comments are from their friends. On a post where they were celebrating starting hrt, the most recent comment is mourning their loss, that they didn't live to complete their first year on T. I've looked at their posts, I've read their words, I've seen their smile. And they're gone.

Their name was Bekett Noble. They deserve to be remembered.

There's dozens of people each year who share thier experiences and go unnamed. The young man in Alberta, for example, was not named publicly in the article where his death was mentioned. Due to a family connection, I know of at least one instance of a murder of a trans man in western Canada that I have not seen any news of publicly at all. His body was found with his genitals mutilated.

There's many half formed things I could say about these lists when it comes to trans men and mascs specifically but I don't feel my thoughts are solidified enough and it's not what I want to focus on here.

I believe trans suicides should be part of these Remembrance lists. Its a disservice to our community that they aren't.

If you can, please use the site below. They have a database going back decades with a well implemented filtering system.

These are the known deaths of trans people in Canada since last year's TDoR. Each name links to a page of information about them and links to where the information was sourced.

As for many things, these lists are a community effort. If you see that a death you know of is missing from the list, please contact them with whatever information you have. The second entry, whose name is still unknown, was added after I contacted them and provided the article in which I'd learned of his death. Since then, the folks running the site have done additional research and added what they could to his info page, including an extensive statement from his aunt, whom he was close to.

This past September, The Trevor Project published a report:

From 2018 to 2022, 48 anti-transgender laws were enacted in the U.S. across 19 different state governments. The study examined the causal relationship between these laws and suicide risk over this five-year time period, using national survey data collected from more than 61,000 transgender and nonbinary youth. Results concluded that, during this time period, anti-transgender laws significantly increased incidents of past-year suicide attempts among transgender and nonbinary youth by as much as 72%.

[...] Across the full sample of transgender and nonbinary young people ages 13-24, an increase in suicide attempt rates of 38% to 44% was observed.

- The Trevor Project

Every trans suicide is a murder.

There will always be missing names on these lists. I don't believe that known instances of trans suicides should be excluded from them. They deserve to be remembered.

[earhartsease]

[outtox1cated]

i should be working on those 10 unfinished drawings but i decided to draw this instead because i felt like it. for reasons

[finleyforevermore]

Dear Nex,

You're never going to see this. I know. I felt the need to write this for you anyway.

Maybe my input isn't needed because I'm cis, but I hope you and everyone else who sees this knows in spite of my gender identity and the privilege I have as a cis male that I'm aware that I have, I mean every word that I say. I never wanted to be privileged. I don't want to be privileged. I'm so incredibly sorry that I'm privileged. I know it's not right. I know it's not fair. If my input isn't needed, so be it. But I'm going to share it anyway.

My sorrow and rage and pain has not at all subsided since February 20, when I learned of your death. You've been in the back of my mind ever since. The grief and anger hasn't gone away. What your friends said about you and your family as well, shows that you were such a wonderful person. I wonder if you had social media. I would've loved to be your friend if you had Tumblr.

I find myself enjoying sunny weather and thinking "Nex would've liked this". I look at my friends' pet cats and think about Zeus. When listening to rock I wonder if you liked the song I listen to.

You were mistreated by your peers in life, because of your laugh, which I'm sure was wonderful, and the way you dressed. Being yourself cost you your life. And now even in death people refuse to respect you. Transphobes running rampant, calling you your deadname, someone here on Tumblr celebrating your death, labeled as filth. And now? Now your cause of death has been labeled as suicide. Even though absolutely none of it makes sense, and nothing adds up. It just doesn't make sense. And even if somehow you did commit suicide, the day before you did you were physically assaulted by your peers for getting fed up with being mocked. You were bullied before that too. Bullied relentlessly and mercilessly just for being you. The blood is still on their hands.

I'm utterly disgusted by the medical examiner, the state of Oklahoma, the transphobes, even myself sometimes for being so privileged because of my gender identity. I shouldn't be privileged for being cis. We should all be accepted and treated fairly and with care and love and respect. If only things were that ideal..

I'm crying now even as I write this. I so desperately wish that everything was different. That you weren't killed. That you could continue to hang out with your friends and be a kid. Making new recipes. Playing with Zeus. Playing your favorite songs. Making music, if you liked doing that.

Recently my faith and belief in God has been tested. But if there's an afterlife, a Heaven up there, I hope you're having fun and enjoying yourself up there. When I die and reach Heaven, I'll be sure to visit you.

On the other hand, if there's not a Heaven, I hope you're enjoying your eternal rest. Whatever being dead is like without an afterlife, I hope you're ok.

But until then I'm going to try my damndest to ensure your memory stays alive. Posting about you on social media and reblogging posts about you like wildfire so people never forget. I'm not going to let anyone forget you, Nex. I promise you. Me and all of the other people grieving here on Tumblr will continue to say your name, whether our shouts fall on deaf ears or not. We're never going to be silenced.

I raise my cup to you, Nex. You will be avenged. Justice will be served.

I didn't know you and I never will. You never knew me and you never will. But all the same, even if we're eternally strangers, I love you, Nex Benedict. I'm sorry the school failed you, I'm sorry the ambulance failed you, I'm sorry Oklahoma failed you, I'm sorry the world failed you. And perhaps I failed you somehow. And I'm so unbelievably sorry if I did. But I hope keeping your memory alive, and saying your name, and seeking justice can make up for it.

Until we're angels in Heaven once more.

Love, truly,

Finley

[200percent-timothy-jd]

Bro what is up with the transphobia in the notes of this post?

Like you can say "They WERE women."

YES, trans men do still experience misogyny because we were ONCE women, but experiencing mysogyny doesn't make us women!

also y'all, way to be transphobic in a post that is supposed to bring minorities together.

[bubonickitten]

Another thing I think is worth discussing:

Transphobic and other anti-LGBTQ+ violence perpetuated by, against, and among youth isn't just a matter of punishing the aggressors for their actions.

Adults throughout the U.S. -- school administrators, school boards, lawmakers, etc. -- have actively and willfully created an environment where LGBTQ+ (particularly trans and nonbinary) youth are dehumanized by not only institutions and the adults that run them, but by their peers.

They effectively deny kids the right to do something as basic as use the bathroom. They ban teachers from using the names and pronouns of trans/nb youth. They create policies requiring schools to notify parents when kids express LGBTQ+ identity (which puts those kids at risk of isolation, abuse, and "conversion" attempts if their families are transphobic or homophobic). They challenge and ban books by and/or about LGBTQ+ people (again: especially trans/nonbinary people), invoking "parents' rights." This not only infringes on (most importantly imo) kids' basic right to read, but also infringes on other parents' rights, dictating how they raise their children by removing anything they deem "inappropriate" from school libraries and curricula.

They have sent a message to LGBTQ+ youth themselves through these actions -- "you are unwanted; you are unwelcome; we do not see you as children worthy of an education and basic human decency, but as boogeymen and the embodiment of the types of people we hate." This erodes the mental health of and contributes to the already disproportionately high rates of self-harm and suicide among LGBTQ+ youth.

But these adults have also sent a corresponding message to straight, cisgender youth that their LGBTQ+ peers are to be silenced, denied humanity, and eliminated from any space they occupy at any cost (whether that means bullying them into the closet and locking the door, or using violence or ostracism to silence the ones who cannot or do not hide their identities).

There's also a broader discussion to be had about how the criminal justice system deals with violence perpetrated by minors: punitive vs. rehabilitative approaches; accounting for the developmental stage of the minor(s) in question while still centering and ensuring justice for the victim(s); discriminatory practices in conviction and sentencing (as well as whether someone is tried as a juvenile or an adult), particularly with regards to race and class.

But, point is, I don't think we can stop anti-LGBTQ+ and other hate-based violence and bullying by focusing on the individual perpetrators involved in each instance, or addressing it on a case-by-case basis. The adults in charge are (whether implicitly or explicitly) sending the message that all LGBTQ+ people, including LGBTQ+ kids, are -- in the words of Oklahoma State Senator Tom Woods referring to Nex Benedict -- "filth". At the end of the day, these are grown adults bullying and abusing literal children. They can't absolve themselves of responsibility when those kids' peers mirror that hate.

[sapphire-heart-tippy]

I love tboys I love trans men I love trans mascs 💙 I wish you all a wonderful day and I support you

[sage-thee-herbmaster]

A totally level headed TERF having a very normal reaction to finding out that Lesboys exists /j

This chucklefuck really saw the words boy and lesbian fused together and went into a transphobic rage under the assumption that only straight “moids” are using this term when 99.9 percent of the time it’s a label used by butches and transmasc, especially trans men (Aka people that TERFs perceive as “women”).

Honestly grow the fuck up and touch grass you fucking femcel.

Edit: It’s also soo funny to think that this TERF thinks this is a “direct targeted attack” against “REAL HOMOSEXUAL FEEEEEEMALES” when veldigirls/turigirls exist, like oh my fucking sky land sea SHUT UP! Not everything trans people do is a attack against cis women, get over yourselves 😒

[xxduncandonutxx]

I'm just gonna say this since, it needs to be said

Stilbie should not have room to talk about what is fetishizing trans people and lesbians and what is not. Considering that Stilbie MAY be a cis-man considering he uses he/him pronouns but I'm unsure if he is cis or not since he doesn't really state his gender.

and Stilbie shouldn't be talking that "This is fetishizing lesbians" when he himself is NOT a lesbian.. I can't really talk myself about the issue since I am not a lesbian, I'm panromantic/sexual, poly and genderfluid but I can talk about the Sally May merch since I am someone who falls under the trans umbrella. /gen

I do not THINK that this is fetishizing a transwoman, I'm saying this because Morgana (a transwoman herself) and voiced Sallie had actually APPROVE of Vivziepop and the artist to include Sallie May as part of the pin-up line and my girlfriend, who is also a transwoman doesn't SEE IT as "fetish".

Plus, Vivziepop isn't just selling "fetishizing" trans merch, she is also selling non-sexual stuff of her too.

And from how many there is, there is like 11 non-sexual pieces of Sallie May merch compare to the seven sexual pieces.

Also, the artist for this pieces confirmed that they DID got in touch with the voice-actress before making these too.

Of cOURSE, I don't want people to claim that I'm "a Vivziepop stan" because I ain't, I too dislike Viv and had made plenty of posts critiquing her and HH/HB. /gen

And a while ago, I made a post calling out her alleged transphobic discord messages towards transmen but this here is NOT fetishizing transwoman, and before ya'll say "bUT THE BULGE, TEH BULGE!!111!!!". News flash, Not every trans person go through top or bottom surgery or even can afford said surgery. Some would choose to not get the surgery while others choose to do it, which I'm not gonna judge since it's their body and they can do whatever they want with it.....as long as it ain't problematic like getting a nazi tattoo. If you are a lesbian, please reblog or comment your opinion on the Chaggie merch that Stilbie shown/claim were fetishizing Lesbians.. do you think it is or no? /genq

[the-flower32]

Monstertober week 3: Gnoll

The Farm of Spencer Spector; Validation Hyaenidae

Note: since gnoll's are just a human-hyena species i just decided to have a were hyena. I also named her as a reference to the hyena waffles which you can learn about here!

The Annual Ashwood  Halloween Fest was on its way, and Spencers farm was in preparation. Every year Spencer Spector had a stall where she and her friends sold baked goods, fruit preserves, and other foodstuffs. They already had their stock planned out but were stuck on a theme. 

“Why did you think a horror movie would be a good idea last year?” Mic asked Zyler as they sat at Spencer Spector’s kitchen table. 

“It was popular.” Zyler shrugged, and crossed off the carebears as a theme option. 

“What about hansel and gretel?” Maple suggested while sitting backwards on one of the wooden chairs, picking her the nails at the end of her dark fingers. 

“We did that two years ago, Spotty.” Seth said from across the warm kitchen, he was at the back door helping Zack count the crates of apples, and sipping a red liquid from his personal thermos. Some of it dribbling down his face.

“You need a bib?” Maple responded, Seth quickly wiped his chin and stuck his tongue out through his fangs, Maple responded in kind.

Mic laughed to themselves as Zyler ignored the two of them. 

“We need something simple and child friendly, several of the other stalls are going to be doing popular kids movies- a few are going to do classic halloween movies, pg-fyed of course…” Zyler chewed on the end of his pencil as he thought. 

Mic looked at the list of possible themes, “What about Wizard of oz?”

Zyler shrugged and added it to the list, “I am not being the west witch.”

As Maple and Seth stated their own opinions of Mic’s suggestion, Mic felt their phone buzz. 

Maple was twisting a strand of her dark, coiled hair between her fingers while Seth and Zyler debated the prospects of making a tinman costume when she heard Mic mutter,

“Oh not again…”

Then Mic stood up and excused himself with a neutral face, walking towards the front exit. Maple followed them with her eyes until they were out of view, she saw their face fall into a scowl the minute they left the kitchen. Going to their phone. 

Something in her gut squirmed. Mic had only been on the farm for a few weeks, but in that time she never saw them anything close to angry. 

Trusting her instincts, she excused herself and quietly followed where they went. Mic had left out the front door and was walking into the woods, furiously typing something onto their phone. 

With a deep breath Maple’s body shifted into a Spotted Hyena, where she trotted after them.

She found them in a clearing, sitting on a stone and tapping the screen aggressively, when they were done they shoved the phone into their pocked and dragged their hands down their face, not caring about their smudged eyeliner. 

With a frustrated sigh they slammed their fist down against the rock, before shrieking and pulling their hand back up with a grimace on their face. 

Maple immediately smelled blood, and popped her head through the bushes, transforming back to her human form. 

Mic looked up from their hand surprised, but relaxed when they saw it was Maple. 

“Hey.” they nodded.

“Hey...” Maple stood with her arms crossed, picking at one of the studs on her red jacket as she debated what to say. 

“Your gonna wind up on a druid’s bad side if this is your way of stress relief.” she joked, gesturing to the woods around them. 

Mic smiled faintly and went back to assessing their injury. 

Maple walked over and pointed inquisitive at the spot beside them, Mic nodded and she sat down. 

“Cant say I blame you for coming out here,” she shrugged. “Tree’s are pretty great to vent to.”

“Im just… annoyed.” Mic sighed. 

Maple looked at him with an unamused expression,

“Right… because punching something so hard your hand splits open is the most common reaction to annoyance.”

Mic chuckled, “You sound like Zyler.”

“Well its not my fault he has a habit of being right”

Mic was still staring at their hand, but their eyes looked as if their mind was elsewhere. 

“I've got a punching bag you could borrow if you need to.” she suggested. Mic looked up towards the canopy of dark green, little speck of sunlight were streaming through the weaving branches. With a deep breath they said,

“I just… theres something that…” they waved their hand as they looked for the words, “-Someone… that i don't want finding me here. I like it here.”

Maple’s face became serious as she listened.

“I feel like myself here. I feel… safe… here.” Mic looked back to the split skin on their knuckles. They jumped slightly when Maple placed a hand on their shoulder. 

“You are safe here.” she said seriously, then she smirked and held up her hand. The nails stretched into dark claws. “And if anyone tries to change that, they’ll have to deal with these and Spencer’s shot gun.”

Mic let out a laugh, then looked sad. 

“Thanks but… I don't think I want that.”

“Look if someone’s bothering you, and nothing you’ve done has worked so far, sometimes scaring them is the only way.”

Mic was silent for a while then looked at her,

“Including family?” they asked quietly. 

Maple’s face froze as she processed that question. Her instinct was ‘yes’ but she knew that sometimes it wasn't that easy. 

A random bully schmuck was much easier to get rid of than family. 

After a time she shrugged and stood,

“We should get you a bandaid before that gets infected.” she said.

Mic nodded and the two went back to the farmhouse. 

They walked into the entryway as Maple wandered off to find Zyler, he’d gone to talk to Spencer, Mic went over to Seth.

“Dose this look infected to you?” they asked.

“Idunknow,” Seth shrugged, straw in mouth, “Theres a way i can tell but i’d have to taste the blood.”

Mic pulled their hand back, “I’ll pass.”

“Thought so.”

Maple came back with Zyler and Spencer, Spencer was both carrying a box of spare decor and trying not to laugh. 

“Do you think im a living med-kit?” Zyler asked Maple.

“No, I think your a pain in the tail.” She told him. 

As Mic and Zyler walked over to the sink Maple pulled Spencer to the side, and spoke quietly. 

“Can’t you do ‘insta healing’?” Mic asked as Zyler cleaned the wound.

“Only if you want me to pass out.”

Seth, who was getting paper towels from the cabinet, chimed in, “you say that like its a bad thing.”

Once their wound was bandaged they let the vampire and witch bicker and left the kitchen, in the hallway Spencer approached them. 

“Hey Mic,”

“Yeah Miss Spencer?”

“Just so you know,” she sincerely put a hand on their shoulder, Mic saw Maple standing behind her with a smile. 

“Zyler’s not against hexing a transphobe or two.” Spencer smiled. 

Mic couldn't help but giggle. 

“Thanks,” they said through laughs, “I’ll think about it.”

Week 1, Week 2

[babyqueersstuff]

okay for some reason im only just now hearing about Nex Benedict??? (i believe thats how you spell their last name)

its so fucking sick and twisted. not only the fact that there are people out there who view them as filth, but also the fact that

that could've been me.

that queer sixteen year old, who's six feet under right now?

that. could've. been. me.

in a chick fil a bathroom, minding my own business. at my youth group. just trying to exist.

someone, someone who knows me well enough to know that im queer, could've cornered me, and bashed my fucking skull in.

there are people out there who hate me. who hate US. and they want us dead.

they were just a young person. just like me. we could've known each other, in a different life. i'd like to think we might've even been friends, y'know?

idk. im so tired of this. we're just trying to exist. and they hate us. we aren't people to them, we're scum to be eradicated.

i keep wishing for a better world for us, and then shit like this happens. and it makes me think that we won't ever get there.

[go-to-the-mirror]

the actual hatred some people have for addicts is fucking disgusting

[wild-at-mind]

I honestly thought I didn't really have much chest dysphoria (small chested) but it's been several days since I put binding tape on as I had been careless removing it and scabbed the skin, and it feels terrible. I have a day's break every week or so which is just about doable but not this. Good thing my skin is better

[possumsinpeoplesuits]

Look, guys, I know we're all angry right now, but do you know how many people each year are killed by cars covered in hammers that explode more than a few times and make hammers go flying everywhere? How do you think the families of those people who're killed by cars covered in hammers that explode more than a few times and make hammers go flying everywhere feel when you make light of their very real loss?

We can't just assume a threat about a totally real cause of death for almost 0 people is made as a joke, guys, we have to immediately take it seriously and report it to the FBI's cars covered in hammers that explode more than a few times and make hammers go flying everywhere task force (The CCIHTEMTAFTAMHGFETF for short) to be immediately unpersoned and made into the filling for those 2 for 0.99 Jack in the Box tacos.

If we bend the totally existent rules and don't treat a harassed minority as if her every word and action is done out of pure unadulterated malfeasance, what do you think will happen? That's right, everyone else will think that it's just okay to have cars covered in hammers that explode more than a few times and make hammers go everywhere, and the CCIHTEMTAFTAMHGFETF would be overwhelmed.

So, please. Take a moment to think on who's the real victim here, a minority targeted by repeated harassment for years, or the brave CEO who's dealing with the psychological stress of learning that someone wants him to be near a car covered in hammers that explodes more than a few times and makes hammers go flying everywhere?

If we don't stand with this poor man through this, people might think it's okay to be trans I MEAN MAKE TOTALLY REAL THREATS AGAI-