#transmasculine butch

[genderqueerdykes]

loving that I got put on a list of exclus for……………… Saying that I, as a transmasculine butch, am a lesbian and that trying to eliminate “lesbian men” is an ahistorical and incredibly transphobic notion

WHAT exclusion??????

they're the ones excluding people, not you. most people are not very educated on trans and queer history and i swear have knee jerk reactions to reading or learning about any of it. most people just do not interact with a broad enough audience of queer people to see how varied our experiences are. they'll show revulsion toward any group they already don't like, and won't go any further to try to learn anything about them. they ride on that first reaction alone

that's dumb as hell, anon, i'm sorry people are like this. we gotta stop putting people into boxes this is just pointless

[thatgarden]

Not masc4masc in the toxic cis gay man way but masc4masc as in loving butches and transmascs so so much and wanting to kiss their hands and foreheads and mou-

[lgbtq-userboxes]

[solarlesboy]

Happy International Lesbian Day 🧡🤍🩷 and Butchtober 🧡🤍💛

i love being a lesbian, i never felt so confident before embracing it ✨

[trans-butch-culture-is]

what is the definition of butch? i’m transmasc genderqueer and bi (leaning toward women) and i have been questioning if im comfortable using the term/if im “allowed to”.

It depends on the butch! generally, it's about how you present yourself in most aspects. It's not just dressing masculine, or being attracted to/in relationships with women, it's about subverting the norms of what masculinity and exploring it in ways that go against the norm or what you should do.

Butchness is inherently queer, so I would say if your masculinity doesn't fit the way men's does, or even other queer masculine people that don't use the butch label, and you find you relate to other butches, I would say feel free to explore that and identify that way!

There isn't really a definitive box or ancient handbook I can point to; it all really is subjective, the same way genderqueerness or bisexuality is. The way you experience those other aspects of your life is unique to you! But generally, I would say butchness is about how you present yourself and feel.

As a personal note: my butchness is informed by my lesbianism, my transmasculinity/genderqueerness, intersexuality and other things. Being butch is about bodybuilding and growing out my locs, it's about yapping to my femme about our interests and having deep talks with my dad, it's about dressing in ways where people can't tell if you're a girl or a boy and being both and neither at the same time, and so much more.

But that's just me. I encourage other butches (especially trans/intersex/genderqueer butches!!) To reblog and share their experiences with being butch and what it means to you!

I would also recommend reading Stone Butch Blues, Butch Is A Noun, and going through @/genderqueerdykes's blog, all three have helped me a ton in figuring stuff out for myself! (And, the authors of both books are/were genderqueer/transmasculine, I'm not sure if S. Bear Bergman still identifies as butch but seeing his perspective on it through the lense of transmasculinity is really interesting, both can be found online for free, I'll try to find links for them soon!)

I hope this at least pushes you in the right direction of finding the language that makes you feel at home, anon.

[decayingt33thh]

I ate this boy out for 4 hours the other day and he rewarded me with Denny's genuinely I don't think I've ever felt more appreciated

[massobituaries]

God I love being butch

[equinoxians]

🌈 lesbian pride kandi bracelet with lollipop charm!✨

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[transguyking]

I finally am getting an “x” on my enhanced license after moving and it honestly feels so damn good man.

[knarme-stray]

Crafted flags I made a bunting (flags in line) from to wear at a local Pride event tomorrow!

Sapphillean means you're "gay"-attracted to people of similiar and different gender expressions as yourself. So, you kind of feel like a lesbian who kind of feels like a gay dude and stuff.

Transmasculine butch is my favorite of these so it's big... No need for explanations with this one!

Genderqueer to me means I relate to genders through gender-noncomformity. I've always vibed with this rather old term better than with 'nonbinary' tbh. Can mean a lot of things to different people.

Butch and Femboy are there due to the latter, - to me the whole point of being a man is to be a feminine one, and the whole point of being a woman is being a masculine one. (that's just for me personally, not smth I think of other people)

Androgyne is someone who sees their gender as being partially woman and partially a man. This is also descriptive of me, and lines neatly with the three previous ones.

There is also the generic Transgender flag with the pink and blue stripes reversed to communicate transmasculine transition in specific.

[transguyking]

@etherealemeraldprincess

sext

[genderqueerdykes]

hello, i have a question concerning one of your recent posts talking about trans men, ftm and other male or mspec people being lesbians. i mean this in the most respectful way possible, but how could a trans man be a lesbian? isnt the whole point non men loving non men? im sorry if youve got this question before and thanks for answering in advance if you do

i get this question all the time lol but i don't mind answering. thanks for taking the time to ask!

that is radfem rhetoric that you've picked up from other people inadvertently- lesbian does not mean "non man loving non man," as gay does not mean "non woman loving non woman". "gay" is a form of queer attraction, so is lesbian. if we don't define "gay" by who we leave out, why are we doing so with lesbianism? we do not define who we are attracted to by who we leave out, that makes no sense. lesbian is a form of queer attraction that can include as many people as an individual feels is right for them. if we say "non men" to include nonbinary people why are we excluding nonbinary and other trans people who also happen to be men as well? some people are "non men" and men at the same time, so do we exclude them, too, or do we include them?

the logic falls apart instantly the second we remind ourselves that multigender, genderfluid, gender non conforming, genderqueer, (masc) nonbinary, genderfuck and other people who completely break the gender binary. and a lot of them are men and mascs. lesbians should not have to be shoved inside of a cis butch woman - cis femme woman dichotomy and nothing else. we've been tricked into thinking like radfems by viewing "proper" lesbian relationships as relationships between cis lesbians and feminine afab nonbinary lesbians (who are being viewed as cis women in this scenario) and nobody else. we need to allow lesbianism to be diverse, otherwise, we will continue this radfem echo chamber that has been going on for decades!

we must also consider that lesbian is a form of queer attraction, so it can include lots of experiences, just like gay can. nonbinary people, genderqueer people, trans people of all genders can use "gay" how they see fit, whether it means they're attracted to men, women, nonbinary people, intersex people, genderfluid people, and so on. people of all genders are allowed to do the same thing with dyke, sapphic and lesbian as well! the most common useage of the word lesbian is to mean wlw, but that doesn't mean every single lesbian, dyke and sapphic explains it that way. some lesbians, dykes and sapphics experience multiple modes of attraction! some are bi, pan, poly, omni and so on

lesbianism and men are not polar opposites. lesbians can be multigender or genderfluid. lesbians can be transmascs and trans men and guys and boys and men. lesbians can be boydykes and guydykes. many trans men and mascs start out in the lesbian community and find their home there. some find they never stop feeling like lesbians or butches or dykes. there are two-spirit lesbians who are also men. this is totally okay. this sort of thing can hurt intersex lesbians. this kind of thinking can hurt transfem lesbians and lesbian trans women as well if transphobic people consider them "men". we need to stop trying to exclude as many people as we can from lesbianism, and focusing on including people instead. lesbian is not and well not ever be an exclusive term that only applies to women and women only. let's be real, "non men" just means very feminine nonbinary people and ""women-lite"" enbies. this doesn't apply to masc enbies and trans people, because where does the line between "non man" and "man" begin? it doesn't exist

hope that helps! thanks for taking the time to ask! have a wonderful day you can also search the tags on this post on my blog as i talk about this a lot! :) this works best in desktop or in a browser on mobile.

[solarlesboy]

i want a bisexual girlfriend so bad

[decayingt33thh]

The person I like hasn't been with anyone and all I can think about is showing him how real men fuck .

[transguyking]

@etherealemeraldprincess 🫣

[massobituaries]

Once again, I am pleading that those queers stop acting like butches are inherently predatory and hypersexual.