#toxic positivty

[iamafanofcartoons]

What in God's holy name is toxic positivity and how did it get so popular?

Alright, let's start first with the idea of comedy...and shit comedians.

Here is kinda where it first started.

Racism, Misogyny, transphobia, anti-semitism, homophobia.

Those jokes just aren't funny!

And yet the comedians love to complain that people cannot take a joke when their idea of a joke is so awful and rude.

Rather than admit they're wrong, easier for the hateful people to claim its not their fault, and that their audience is awful. Do you know what I call criticism? I call it being helpful in offering feedback on improvement while also being respectful.

Unfortunately, that's not how critics operate.

They go more along the lines of

Or

So basically, the grand majority of critics, such as fatmanfalling, judgmental critter, twiins iink, and of course the RWDE Community.

They just want to hate, or at least corrupt RWBY into their fetishized image.

But they can't allow others to see what they're doing as being bad.

They can't allow people to see that they truly hate a show and its writers...they want to be seen as victims.

Its easier to get people to hate what you hate, if you claim to be a victim of the show and its fandom.

So the critics demand the right of criticism over all us.

It does not matter how nasty and deceitful their words are. "Freedom of speech and opinion". Even if they're being hateful and dishonest, the claim that they're being oppressed by others who cannot take criticism is very catchy on social media.

And that's the core belief behind the accusations of toxic positivity.

The belief that no matter how nasty or lying you are, you are within your rights to do so, and the people opposing you for such beliefs are trying to silence you because you cannot take criticism or different opinions.

Unfortunately, due to so many youtubers willing to defend the worst haters in the show, and promote hate against men and women defending the show?

It is sadly far easier to hate the show and the fandom based on the rampant misinformation.

its why hbomberguy made a 2.5 hour video of lies. Anyone who does 10 minutes of google search will see that Harris was lying the whole time.

But would you rather spend 10 minutes trying to find truth? Or would you rather watch some bald british dude ranting and hating for 2.5 hours?

Most people prefer to hate. You do not see people making videos defending RWBY, though they are there. You do not see people making videos defending legend of korra. You do not see people making videos defending She-Hulk.

No , you only see videos hating them. And the moment people who like all of those shows stand up, the youtubers immediately call upon their followers and demand harassment of the defenders.

"Monty's vision"....You can look to Monty's Tweets as to what he said about RWBY...but not a single RWBY Critic aka RWDE will EVER bring up those quotes... They'd much rather put words in a dead man's mouth, similar to how Christians love to do so with their prophet. Both dead men were very progressive, yet the "vision" people will never respect that

At the end of the day, these are the critics.

They have this religious hatred towards rwby and its fnadom

Clearly the RWDE community can't be at fault, right?

As TheFloofArtist was putting it.

Imagine making gore and snuff art to hate on women?

Imagine making edits targeting LGBT Women?

Denying that what one does is hateful or malicious, claiming to be a victim.

Its a lot like how Bullies in the school system shame people for standing up against them, and teachers punish not the bullies, oh no, but the bullies' victims.

And this sadly, is the problem.

Toxic positivity...is basically a term used by people who hate on a show and its fandom...as a means of defense against those who disagree with them, and as an intended tool of validation of their hate.

For Gods Sake, RWBY is a cartoon!

Can we stop acting as if RWBY is some crime against humanity just because the villains are straight white males and the protagonists are LGBT-coded females?

[chriswhodrawsstuff]

Small acts of defiance.

Why do I keep doing this? For the last few years I have been keeping a daily visual diary in a Japanese planner. They are really hard to get hold of in the UK and if you fail to get one when they are first printed, they end up on a secondary market for a lot more money. The one for next year arrived in the post today and the same thought struck me as when I ordered it last week, which is “Will I…

[scamoosh]

sorry but ive yet to see a take on toxic positivity that wasnt stupid as shit . like it is a thing but i dont think anybody here knows what it is.

[whaat-does-love-mean]

🪴In times when everything feels overwhelming and your inner world is heavy, know that your strength is not defined by how you feel. Even if today feels dark, you’re still a person of immense value and worth. Take things one moment at a time, and remember that your existence has a quiet resilience. You are doing your beset, and something to be proud of����

[plutoasteroids]

PAC How Will Your Future Spouse's Mother (Your Mother-In-Law) View You

Pile 1 Pile 2 Pile 3

This PAC is how your future spouse's mother will view you and any channelled messages I may get; it could be confirmations or anything their higher self wants to let you know.

AGAIN, TAKE WHAT RESONATES LEAVE WHAT DOESN'T THIS IS A GENERAL READING. If no pile resonates with you, it's fine don't force anything to resonate...again it's just a general reading.

PILE 1

Your future mother-in-law sees you as a breath of fresh air for their child (your future spouse) and their whole family.

Before your future spouse met you, they may have been going through some toxic cycles, bad habits or some kind of betrayal from someone or people close to them. For some of you your future spouse may have fallen into bad habits of some forms of addiction.

But after meeting you, your future spouse is going to want to change bring in positivty and healthy habits into his life because they don't want to lose you and their mother is going to notice the positive change and be so appreciative of you.

Your future mother-in-law sees you as smart, capable and they think you are really good at your job, hobbies or whatever it is you are good at. They admire how hard you work, and they feel like they won the lottery/ won in life by having you as their child in law (I don't know if that's a real thing so bear with me).

They view you as someone who is responsible and is able to keep a promise and hold accountability for their words and actions. You may even trigger some change in your future spouse's family as a whole because maybe it's the way you carry yourself or your work ethic that will make them go 'Dang we really have to do better; we can't be wasting life like this'.

She'll truly love how you have positively impacted her family.

Also, your mother-in-law said she'll baby you when I was channelling her because she recognizes how hard you work, and she wants to show you that you are appreciated and that it's time to take a rest and let someone else be the one to handle things and take care of you.

PILE 2

First thing I channelled from your future mother-in-law is that she will feel 'iffy' about you. Meaning that she's not sure if she likes you or not. Okay it's more like some things about you may rub your mother-in-law the wrong way like maybe she's more of a traditional housewife and you and your future spouse don't go according to traditional roles of spouses.

For example, if it's more of a straight couple maybe the wife works, and husband is a stay-at-home father.

-Maybe it's a same sex couple and the mother-in-law hasn't come to fully accept it.

-Another is the couple is again a straight couple and the wife refuses to have a child this could rub the mother-in-law the wrong way. There may be a lot of conflict between your future spouse and their mother about you because your mother-in-law would want their child to find someone else because obviously, they aren't so sure about you.

For other people your mother-in-law can try to compete with you for example 'The way I cook chicken is so much better' says your mother-in-law.

(You can take these as it being a sign a that the pile is for you)

But once she gets past those reservations the way she will view you is someone not very stable like you and your future spouse may like to travel a lot and are never in one place for too long and your mother-in-law could be like 'Why can't you just stay in one place it's not that hard'. But also, she sees your creative side, she sees you as a kind, gentle person with so much care within them.

She sees you as someone who has achieved so much that they can't help but praise you. They will also see you as someone very popular maybe you have a lot of followers or just a lot of friends in general.

They see you as the voice of reason, if anything goes wrong you are the best person to ask for advice, you are the best person to mediate an argument, you are the best person to a person, situation or an item fairly without an unbiased opinion (She might drag you shopping a lot and even show you off to her friends), more so because you have an obvious kindness and compassion to you that she can't help but love and admire about you despite her reservations. They will see you as strong, nurturing, courageous and passionate in the way you carry yourself and the way you talk.

They see you as someone who wants to protect their own peace, someone who wants to keep things balanced and harmonious.

-By the way Pile 2 she won't be like that with you forever she'll warm up. (Eventually😭)

PILE 3

I channelled 2 things from your future mother-in-law:

'You're a saint' and 'How can you deal with them'

Your future spouse may be a bit of a handful, a bit chaotic but in the 'I can't help but find it cute' kind of way.

Your mother-in-law finds you transformative, you never stay the same way for too long (not in a bad way) as in you will either only get better and better to them as time goes on or you just straight up change your appearance and aesthetic so much that it just throws your mother-in-law off.

Okay so your mother-in-law feels like you take really good care of not only yourself but your future spouse. They think you're physically so attractive (not in a creepy way), that you take extra care of your appearance, you may eat well and work out often.

But they also see you as creative and compassionate and your mother-in-law is just so happy to have you as part of her family and she may tell you this often from the moment your future spouse introduces you to her.

She feels like you're always on the move, you and your future spouse may travel a lot, you guys may go out a lot to dinners and parties, but I think these parties and dinners will be more on the luxurious side.

she said, 'as they should' (honestly your mother-in law is so supportive of you to the point that after you marry your future spouse, if you want to get married that is, that they won't even introduce you as their in law it's just 'this is my child'

Your mother-in-law sees you as successful, financially stable, attractive, nurturing and just overall they just absolutely adore you.

[wouldvecouldveshouldve]

Why do you say ''i love you'' to so many of your asks and your mutuals? it's kinda annoying, like you seem like such a toxic positivty person

okay first of all, to be like the nerd emoji, "uhhh ACTUALLY it's positivity, not whatever positivty is"

second of all, i just... like expressing how much i love and appreciate people? it's not toxic positivity, it's not like i'm faking my kindness or love for others, i just... like people? like, are you allergic to happiness perhaps? are you allergic to KINDNESS? 🤨

idk this is kinda stupid anon no offence

anyways love you!!!! 🫂😁

[miss3d-messages]

DRDT X BOJACK CROSSOVER.....

ok so literally so exicited for the new drdt episode and i adore bojack horseman so!!!!! this is basically who i think each drdt character would.... basically be in a bojack au???? ALSO SPOLIER WARNING FOR BOTH BOJACK AND DRDT. OBV.

first, obviously david as bojack simply because they both have a facade?? in a way?? on tv they frequently fake their personalitys just for them to immediately become awful people off stage. if that makes any sense....

next, todd as whit due to the fact their both comic relief characters who are typically high energy, and they both seem to be making light of situations.

mr pb as xander, this one is mostly again, just due to their positivty. obviously xander is no where NEAR the level of toxic positivty mr pb is, but i think you sorta get it??? also choose this simply because it would make sense for david to be bojack and xander to be mr pb. since. they parelle.

OKAY NOW is the time where things begin to make far less sense sorgy.......

P.c as Hu??? maybe?? choose this because they both take care of people, and both are seen as motherly figures one way or another.

Diane as chap 1 Teruko, they both just..... same energy idk man i can't explain this one, but they both seem to grow up in poor conditons. (diane not having a good home life and teruko being an orphan.)

ANDD i'm adding her cuz... obviously...... i know shes a side character TECHNICALLY.

Sarah Lynn as Arei, both have the mentailty of acting like the best so no one sees what they actually are like, both thought they could trust and look up to in sl's case bojack, and in arei's case david. and..... theres also one more example but. yknow....

ok thats it!!! nonsensical thread done!!!!!!! this is poorly written i simply felt the strong urge to smash two of my hyperfixations together sorgy!!!

[starcanwrecked-confessions]

I like that constructive criticism but with an overall air of hope and positivity is the MO of the fandom nowadays. There used to be an unwritten rule of positivity only (which was nice a lot of the time but it sometimes turned into toxic positivty) and then there was a crowd who was just hypocritical and were just plain rude about some of the actors..... but if you came for the faves, it was game over. So some were immune from criticism but everyone else was fair game to the point of cruelty.

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[blurrymango]

Reover Kruyis.

Gemini.

Bard of Doom.

Land of Aurora and Sparklers.

-Wrong about most things but super confident about it.

-Toxic positivty!

-Always twisting things to the bright side.

[witchcraftandburialdirt]

6, 9, 13, 29 for the number topics meme where u just talk whatever u want for the topic ykno

Send a number for me to talk about one of the following topics! 6. excessive ooc 9. personal blogs 13. graphics 29. blocking

6. This is something I really don't care about at all LOL. I'm a chatterbox and as stated before I LOVE talking to Muns and making friends. The only thing that bothers me is unnecessarily mean comments, vague posting, and overly agressive callouts (IN POSTS, NOT IN BLOG RULES) too--it causes a lot of drama and can make people nervous/anxious, plus I think its just...immature. But playful interactions between muns, funny moments etc--general positivty is ALWAYS a welcome sight!

9. Personal blogs are a weird one for me, I like keeping my dash relatively clean (besides ooc as mentioned above), and so while I'm ok if they follow me, I don't usually follow back. I don't think I have any rules about reblogging my things, mostly because I'm an OC blog, but I completely understand why other RP blogs wouldn't want to interact with personal blogs.

13. I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO MAKE THEM. I DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO FORMAT ANYTHING AND I'M BRAND NEW AND HAHAHA--WHAT WOULD I EVEN DO FOR IT? DOES MY LIL BABY ROBIN ICON COUNT? IDK!!!

29. To be fair I have a lot of issues blocking people...which is...bad for my health. I've had some people be very cruel and hateful to me, and only recently had I finally decided to hard block them in order to keep them away from me. Granted I had been told by various people to do it as they were very toxic but I couldn't seem to do it. So--I usually only block in extreme circumstances, I suppose?

[cidthecoatrack-blog]

Then I shall!

Produced by Guilermo del Toro, so that's a very strong place to start.

Not part of any pre-existing franchise, no sequels - is just an excellent standalone movie

About the Day of the Dead, but is not stereotypical. Treats it as a folk tale, incredibly well done.

The casting is on effing point. The lead is Diego Luna (excellent), female lead is Zoe Seldana (and you get to hear her sing!), other big strong dumb but big-hearted lead is Channing Tatum (perfect casting). The rest of the cast is freaking star-studded. Ice Cube, Ron Perlman, Hector Elizondo (probably recognize him from Princess Diaries), Danny Trejo, Placido FUCKING Domingo (yeah, the opera singer), Gabriel Iglesias, Cheech Marin, and a whole host of other Hispanic actors.

Animated, and by GOD is it gorgeous. Watch the scene of Manolo standing in the rain. The animation of the rain on him is BREATHTAKING

So many DIFFERENT animation styles. Yes, it's all computer animated, but to give you a nesting doll of flavor: A) "humans" who are telling/hearing the story, B) wooden puppets (a majority of what we see) - THE WOOD ANIMATION IS STUNNING, C) The Dead (beautifully artistic skeletons), D) the dieties (La Muerta, Xibalba, and the Candle Maker), E) don't forget the bandits and Chakal (also puppets, but made grotesque/have metal parts)

There is SO MUCH DETAIL in the way these characters are animated. Just little details they didn't HAVE to do, but they did anyway. Like how Xibalba has skulls for pupils. Or how the wooden puppets move LIKE WOODEN PUPPETS. Or (personal favorite) how the dead are skeletons with the bones just floating near enough (no tissue and all), and then they PLAY ON THAT and let the dead just arbitrarily detach their heads, arms, etc.

THE MESSAGING. OH MY GOD THE MESSAGING. You know how Turning Red and Encanto smacked us all in the face with "dealing with family trauma"? Yeah, this movie was a decade ahead of its time. Manolo's father wants him to be a bullfighter, as is the family tradition, and he is a GREAT bullfighter, but he wants to perform music instead. When he goes to the Land of the Remembered and meets his ancestors, he finds that no small number of his ancestors regretted being a bullfighter! (They all died fighting bulls). One very specifically wishes he could have been an opera singer. And Manolo's major conflict at the end? Fighting all the bulls that his family had slain, and ends up winning by APOLOGIZING to the bulls (with a freaking BEAUTIFUL song). And just EVERY single storyline has things with that much positivty. Even Xibalba, the evil villain god, who is also in love with La Muerta (and her him!), learns his lesson and apologizes (genuinely!) to La Muerta.

Let us not forget Maria, the female lead. The two male leads are competing for her (ugh, stereotypical, I know), but they are all childhood friends first and foremost. Maria is sent off to become "a Lady", and when she comes back, they literally comment on how "normal" she looks. Now, these are the animated, exaggerated wooden puppets, and she has what I'm pretty sure is a literal pencil for a waist, so I can't really claim "body positivity" here. But they don't play up how beautiful she is. And MAN is she independent. She does NOT put up with ANY toxic crap from her father, from Manolo and Joaquín, from the village, from anyone. And ultimately SHE is the one who leads the town to victory against the bandits (because one of the running jokes is the ridiculous list of skills she picked up becoming "a Lady". Like swordfighting. And kung fu.)

And HOT DAMN the comedy in this movie is *chef's kiss*. "Frosted" churros anyone? The priest turning into a luchadore. The nuns always speaking in musical chorus. "I immediately regret this decision!" Almost everything the grandma says and does. Very self-aware of the tropes they could play on and just chucking them right back at the audience as jokes. Splendid.

AND THE MUSIC. Most of the songs are covers, but beautifully done in music and style that fits the characters and themes of the movie. "I Can't Help Falling in Love" is downright unfair in how beautiful it is. "I Will Wait" covered in Mariachi style is fantastic. Manolo singing "Creep" is also very apropos and well-done. There are two original songs: "I Love You Too Much" and "No Matter Where You Are". Both SLAP, but there's additional fun: "No Matter Where You Are" is originally by the band Us the Duo. They literally sung this song AS THEIR WEDDING VOWS. AT THEIR WEDDING. WHERE THEY PREMIERED THIS SONG. And it's just this amazingly uplifting, positive, happy, beautiful song. (Personal bias: my wife and I love this song so much that it was our first dance at OUR wedding.) And yes, they play it after Manolo and Maria get married (sorry for the spoilers for the decade-old movie).

I could literally keep going on, but I'll leave it at that

So just so y'all know, The Book of Life (2014) is a fucking MASTERPIECE, is CRIMINALLY underrated, and should have won EVERY GODDAMN AWARD.

[traumasurvivors]

PSA

I recently saw an ask someone had sent to another blog because their positivity blog was getting shit for posts they reblogged that were “toxic positivity.” 

I talk a lot about toxic positivity here and how it may not be helpful, and reasons why. But I just want to make sure you all know that I understand and know that some people use toxic positivity to cope and sometimes, it does help them through hard situations. 

My posts are meant to validate people and tell them that if toxic positivity upsets them because it invalidates them, that’s valid and there’s nothing wrong with them. But please don’t give someone else crap for how they cope. I think toxic positivity just should not be forced onto other people by someone else. If someone chooses to cope that way, I think you should let them be. I know that my coping methods at times have not been the healthiest, but they have gotten me through.

(Also worth noting that some “toxic” positivity statements aren’t actually toxic, but the context matters and determines whether it is. So some of these “toxic positivity” posts that are getting hate may really just be “positivity”.) 

Some posts don’t resonate with everyone and that’s okay. 

TLDR: “Toxic” positivity should not be forced onto someone, but some people do find it helps them cope and I think that’s okay as long as they don’t force that coping method on other people. 

[butch-bakugo]

I get why certain people get angry when people say "there's free condom services but no free period products programs!" Because gay men made those programs and so on and so forth. But like... How can yall not see that there is some mysogny in the fact that fundamentally unnecessary products for sex with men/pwpenises are available through tax payed public programs but no programs for a fundamentally NESSESARY products for menstration for women/pwuteruses available.

There is mysogny in the fact people see condoms as more needed than pads and tampons.

I also see alot of people angry at this strawmanning others by saying we want the free condom services to stop and start the free pads and tampons services in their place. This isnt true. We want both to be covered (as well as free birth control and pill-based abortion.). You have to understand though that there is a fundamentally different need between a man of any background wanting to have sex being veiwed as needing more governmemt assistance than a homeless woman who has bled through all her clothing and used rolls of toilet paper inside her to stop it from ruining her only interview/work clothing.

Yall need to stop talking and start listening.

[scibaby346]

I’m not for toxic positivity. I’m against it, but I have this question that a person might ask:

“What is the point of feeling negative emotions when all it does create pain for you or you will feel bad about yourself?”

I want to see what your responses are when you reblog this.

[sebfreak]

BTW this story isn´t about "she has to lose weight" but i´m not surprised you people don´t know it. like when do you read before you complain about something. it´s a fucking sect you have built up and then you are wondering why people hate you.

this story is about "eating healthy and balanced". and the prota was never forced into it, she liked it. she found out that she didn´t have that much hunger after eating his food. ah must be really shitty to accept the fact that sometimes these good stories exist. must be shitty that not all stories in which a character is losing weight are toxic.

i hate you all so much. and with you i mean you toxic body positivty people who always try to downgrade a story about these type of things. you are the toxic ones.

People on twitter disliked the manga "Kyou no Ashura Meshi" because it was fatshaming the prota in their eyes. They got angry when they saw an official fanart where prota was thin while the story starts with prota who has a more weight on it. (btw it´s a fact you dipshit, she has more weight) But people tried to tell others, that this manga is toxic because the male lead isn´t falling in love with her until she loses weight. Guess what you bitches? I am reading this story and I am in chapter 6 and guess what happens there? HE CONFESSES HIS LOVE ALTHOUGH SHE HAS MORE WEIGHT ON HER BODY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

this is to all snowflakes to get angry at stories like these. a little tip from mine: just start reading the story first and then you can complain because right now you are all fucking clowns.

[daenerys-targaryen]

"i have some opinions but y’all aren’t ready for them" is the single most intriguing thing anyone could say