#told my dad that im transmasc and that i use he/they pronouns

[butchcharliee]

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[dream-bandit]

My Dreamchaser headcanons bc im so cool and right

Mateo - Genderfluid and bisexual i like to think he uses he/they/she pronouns. Mexican and Dominican (Mexican from her dad and Dominican from her mom, their mother is 1st gen and jose is 2nd #awesome)

Izzie - she/her cisgirl lesbian shes sooo cool and helps mateo with his crushes even if he keeps denying he has a crush on anyone. Ethnicity same as Mateo

Cooper - he him transguy hes gay too. Hes out to his family but they are a bit hostile with it. White. White as fuck. Outrageously so. Also he's left handed (this is canon I swear. Like, actually. I'm not kidding I swear he's shown in the instruction books to be left handed)

Logan - she/her/him coolest girl ever Shes also a lesbian. Chinese

Zoey - unlabeled as fuck She/they Their gender is None they are attracted to multiple genders but dont you dare try to squeeze her into a category I think she'd hate that for herself. She also has a sweet tooth. They're Nigerian from their mother and caucasianfrom her dad

Hannah - she her woman awesomeness Shes nigerian but her family is american born as far back as she knows. She played guitar as a life long hobby and was the one who raised zoey. They share a heart of justice that Hannah developed after Beau leaving her 2-3 years after zoeys birth. She gave everything into raising her daughter, the most precious thing in her life. Hannah died due to chronic illness. She was in her mid 30s

Beau - he him man 🤢 American with heav French heritage. Childhood friends with Hannah, they went to the same middle school and met there. Mr oz was already an experienced science teacher by that time. Beau and Hannah would go on adventures together before being recruited into the Night Bureau. It was all well until the sword corrupted his heart and mind. He would have arguments with Hannah until he decided it would be best if he left. He gave her no notice, one day he was simply gone. He told nobody where he'd go but he eventually ended up in New York, a bit away from Brooklyn though as to not encounter his sister or anyone else he knew. He lived mostly in shelters until he could find a shithole apartment and worked a crummy job. He- wait I think i lost the reason for why im typing this. what was the point of this. Oh yeah. He's in his mid 30s and has a nicotine addiction He usually smokes but he's been trying to work on it after reconnecting with zoey he would rather die before letting her know he smokes. He has changed to nicotine gum and is always extra cautious zoey (and others of the Brooklyn bureau) doesn't get to it accidently because addiction runs in his family. I'm normal about the night hunter can you tell

Mr oz. There's something about him. He might be transmasc but I couldn't tell you. There IS an answer but I do not know it. I need to solve the riddles and free the oracle first. there's something lgbt about him though. He's born in america

Mrs. Castillo okay look I really like her okay. She gives me the vibes of someone who's lesbian but because of homophobic culture pushes it down as just a silly thing that doesn't mean anything. She's an immigrant and is Guatemalan I am Fucking RIGHT about this

Lunia - she her lesbian from Guatemala

[vampirebiter]

im pretty sure my parents dont know im gay which is wild because ive been calling myself gay for years, have various pins and stickers that are specifically gay, tried to show my mom a show and called one of the actors 'the most beautiful man i've ever seen', and to top it all off i have a extremely limp wrist and a lisp. i am not subtle.

[wilson4dinner]

how did you know you’re a transmasc lesbian / do you have any advice on dealing w dysphoria

transphobia , dysphoria tw /

honestly... ive been uncomfortable with how i should present for a long time like i have known i was lesbian since i was rly young, and the term felt like home to me but i also dont feel like a girl at the same time. some cis lesbians/bi women told me that i cant call myself lesbian/sapphic if i dont present and identify as a woman, and that fucked me for so long. 

but at the same time i dont feel like a man so its uh ??????confusing experience for me. and yet i feel more connected to masculine/male characters on films and shows, and even questioned if im less lesbian for that.

until like ive seen actual trans butch non binary lesbians on the internet and met some on twitter (thank u star trek stan twitter) and i felt awesome and more comfortable with how i truly felt

i have my own ways to deal with dysphoria, one of them is not calling them dysphoria, it helps me tbh sjdjfjkf and i am brown and my country isnt exactly friendly with trans people, my family is transphobic (my dad for example, ‘tolerates’ me being a lesbian, but its another story if i “look like one”, whatever that means. i dont live with him tho which Helps) and that sucks, i dont have irl trans friends so i tend to stay at home. i use he/him pronouns on the internet, and my language doesnt have gendered pronouns and words so im lucky on that part i guess. i keep my hair short and i tend to lower my voice with strangers. im taller than most girls, and i always would try to help them with something (like lifting and opening things). yknow stuff like that

i also get in touch with my femininity too, i used not to, but seeing ian alexander be transmasc and feminine is fucking badass and i want to be like that

advice to fellow nb lesbians is to stop trying to adhere how cis people define gender and just be. lesbians have been gender noncomforming, and history proves that. i feel we will understand being non binary better if we stop trying to define it!!

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

i won a game in class today and bc he lost a guy intentionally misgendered me and then almost immediately corrected someone else for doing it in the same sentence. im really getting sick of him bc he does this a lot but im having trouble cutting him out of my life + i cant talk to my teachers because im terrified ill accidentally be outed to my lgbtphobic parents. how can i make him understand how rude hes being + how it affects me (as an out nb but closeted transmasc kid)

Lee says:

If your teacher was in the room when this student misgendered you but then corrected someone else about misgendering you, it’s likely they already have realized that you’re trans.

If your teacher has realized you’re trans though what the other students in the class have been saying, which seems likely in this case, but you haven’t talked to the teacher about you being trans since you don’t want them to out you to your parents, you’re actually inadvertently making it more likely that they’ll out you.

That’s because the teacher will have the information that you’re trans, but they won’t have the context of you not being out at home. So there’s a chance they’ll assume you’re out at home since you’re out to your peers, and accidentally out you to your family.

I’d suggest you talk to your teacher about this, and tell them that while you don’t want people to misgender you in the classroom, it isn’t safe for you to come out to your transphobic parents at home, so you’d appreciate if they used your birth name and (insert specific pronouns here) if they have parent teacher conferences or interact with your family at some point, like during accomodations meetings.

All that being said, there’s a chance you’ll be outed even if your teachers aren’t the ones doing it.

When I was 16, during my first year modding this blog, I came out to my peers at school and told my teachers not to tell my parents. My friends all knew I wasn’t out to my parents, so they were careful to use my birth name and she/her pronouns when they were around my family, and my teachers knew not to use my chosen name or they/them around my family too.

Then, one day, one of my classmates told their parents I’m trans, probably in some passing conversation. I wasn’t close to this person- they were in another grade and we only shared one elective class together- so they might have not known I wasn’t fully out, or they knew but didn’t mention it to their family in whatever brief conversation they had in which my gender was mentioned. Then, one of those parents met my parents at a party of a mutual friend. Not knowing I wasn’t out to them, the parent told my mom and dad how they thought it was wonderful I was living my truth, and so on. My parents were shocked and angry. The person who mentioned me being trans to their parent didn’t anticipate outing me, so it wasn’t a deliberate or malicious act, but it still outed me anyway.

To add another unfortunate element to this story, I decided that my parents being at this party was a good opportunity to finally cut my hair short because my parents don’t work so they’re always in the house. I anticipated them being angry about it, but I thought they’d get over it after a few weeks so it would be worth it for me. Then my parents came home, already upset, and found me with short hair. Long story short, it wasn’t pretty and they weren’t happy. It was rough at home for a few months, but in the end they did come around and became accepting, if not always fully supportive (there is a difference between the two). 

You said “i cant talk to my teachers because im terrified ill accidentally be outed to my lgbtphobic parents” and that’s why I’m telling you about what happened to me. After going through that experience, it’s my opinion that if you think someone knows you’re trans (and your teacher probably suspects if students are discussing your pronouns) then it’s probably safer to actually talk to them about it.

I want you to be aware of the risks in being out at school when you’re not out at home for safety reasons. There’s always a chance that someone will mention it to their sibling, and maybe that sibling will tell their friend and that friend might tell their friend, who is your brother. Or a million other potential situations where things can go wrong. Being out to more people, like your classmates, can help your dysphoria, but you have to weigh it against the safety risk of your family finding out.

That being said, I’m not saying you shouldn’t be out at school. That’s always a decision that each individual has to make for themself. I’m just adding my two cents in about whether you should discuss your classmate with your teacher- and my opinion is that you should.

As far as talking to this classmate, you should be direct. Say “It isn’t okay to misgender me, even when you’re upset. I’ve noticed you tend to only use my pronouns on a conditional basis, and you misgender me when you want to make a point/when you’re angry/whatever, and I don’t appreciate it.” People don’t like being called out, and if you’re serious about what you’re saying it may make him realize that his behavior isn’t okay.

And when it comes to the “having trouble cutting him out of my life” bit, see this post! I talk more about navigating that situation there.

More info: School page

[moved-to-femmesun-blog]

all the lgbt asks :+)

fuck you.

What do you identify as and what are your pronouns?transmasc (technically genderfluid but i’m very much transmasc) + he/him and ae/aem/aer

How did you discover your sexuality, tell your story?idk. i just never rlly liked girls. didn’t really care much for dating at all but i was def more attracted to guys, and so i ID’d as mlm for most of middle school to high school. now i lean more towards bi - and ID as bi - but i still use mlm for myself.

Have you experienced being misgendered? What happened and how did you overcome it?hahah yeah. even when i was going by “Benjamin” back in high school i was constantly misgendered. i just dealt with it. was too much of a pushover to say anything so i just ignored it kdnsknaksnd

Who was the first person you told, how did they react?some guy i was friends with that who obviously liked me. he took it pretty well, told me to tell my friend if i really wanted.

Describe what it was like coming out, what did you feel?i was impulsive and so i just. did it. i don’t really remember much about it - it didn’t feel that significant to me because i was SO disconnected from gender and identity, and i also just don’t remember small details well.

If you’re out, how did your parents/guardians/friends react?parents just. took it well ig. made an effort to use the name i wanted, were supportive enough. mum’s done more research than my step dad has - he thinks he can say the q slur lol - and was there along side me for a lot of my transition progress, but overall they’ve both been okay. at least with the binary stuff. i’m not open to them about my sexuality or the indepth details of my identity, aka my new pronouns and name - so it kinda sucks - but overall it was pretty good. friends were okay about it, had a few name hiccups with them using “em” for me instead of emmett (which i was going as at the time) but *shrug*

What is one question you hate people asking about your sexuality?no one ever asks me shit KDNSKNDkdn and tbh i don’t think anything would bother me? unless the person is being an asshole about it, i’m really open to answering questions.

Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear.i don’t really know what Style i have but like, lately i’ve gone back to just wearings leggings, big jackets, and then tank tops/my croptop. i used to be rlly rlly anal about like, Presenting As Male, and tbh i was really uncomfortable during that time. being overweight, i just felt ugly and gross and clunky. and so i’m glad i’ve gone back to wearing more fem stuff bc like. it fits me better, i love and feel better, and i have more options.

Who are your favourite lgbt+ ships?uhhh for bnha i’d say my faves right now are: bakukami/bakukirikami, kamisero, todoiida, iiseroyama, and then minamomojirou.

What does makeup mean to you? Do you wear any?i’ve never been one to wear make up. the furthest i ever went was using BB cream and then nail polish, and i haven’t used BB cream in years. i own One bottle of nail polish now and it’s this clear stuff with gold glitter chunks in it.

Do you experience dysphoria? If so, how does that affect you?not... really? i USED to big time. but now i’ve just mellowed out since shifting towards nonbinary/genderfluid and stuff. back when i was Set on being “100% FTM” i was super dysphoric. i just hated hearing she/her pronouns, and that’s really the only time i get dysphoric now - and when people call me a girl, but y’know dknskndd - and so... most of the time i’m good. i’m on T (have been for 2 years, though i havent been taking it lately due to complications with my endo clinic - and i’m almost a year and a half past getting top surgery - which im happy w/ bc i had a huge chest, though i do sometimes miss my boobs - and so i’m pretty good!

What is the stupidest thing you’ve heard said about the lgbt+ community?there are SO many dumb things i’ve heard over the years of being on tumblr/online/at public high school, so i don’t know how to give this just ONE answer dknsandnknds

What’s your favourite thing about the lgbt+ community?the “i can’t read/drive/do math” jokes bc i’m gay

What’s your least favourite thing about the lgbt+ community?i could say a lot of things here but i do NOT wanna risk starting any shit so KDNSKNDSKND

Have you ever been to your cities pride event? Why or why not?i’ve been to pride as part of my school’s team for the parade once! i haven’t gone since just bc i don’t really have anyone in my city i’d like to go with

Who is your favourite lgbt+ Icon/Advocate/Celebrity?i’m REALLY disconnected from celebrities... i really can’t answer thiskNDksnd

Have you been in a relationship and how did you meet?a bunch! currently i have two boyfriends and i met both of them through bnha discord servers - specifically rp servers KDNSKDNSKNd

What is your favourite lgbt+ book?i can’t read! (i genuinely can’t remember the names of any gay books i’ve read so SOBS)

Have you ever faced discrimination? What happened?yup! i’ve been called slurs in public, had people obviously try and figure out my gender - fun fact: one time a guy very obvious leaned over at me as i passed by to try and look down my sweater to check my chest B) - uhhh misgendering on purpose. nothing physical yet thankfully, but y’know.

Your Favorite lgbt+ movie or show?i am LOVING carole and tuesday rn im ngl KDNSKND

Who are some of your favourite lgbt+ bloggers?all my mutuals ;)

Which lgbt+ slur do you want to reclaim?q slur, that’s all i can claim KDNSkdn  i’ll use it when i know the people around me are comfortable seeing/hearing it but otherwise i just keep it to “q slur”

Have you ever gone to a gay bar, or a drag show, how was it?nope. almost did once - this dude in my city wanted to take me, and at the time we were friends and i had a crush on him, and we would’ve had a uh. fling. if we’d gone - but never did end up going. shit happens KDNSKND

How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that mean to you?idk i’m just like. i’m a dude - i’m NOT a girl, 100% not a girl - but at the same time, i’m not a dude? i’m not agender but it’s like... i’m just SO disconnected from the idea of having a gender but i’m super comfortable ID’ing as a guy because i find comfort it in (and in being able to say things like Yeah I’m Transmac and Yeah I’m MLM) but really it’s just. a big blur. i shift between being a Dude and then being Kind Of A Dude and then Not Being Anything and then Being ???   so yeah kdsnkdn

Are you interested in having children? Why or why not?nope. trauma fucked me up and i don’t wanna ever risk putting a child through anything. i wouldn’t be able to handle parenting a child. if ANYTHING i’d adopt an older kid, early/late teens, but idk.

What identity advice would you give your younger self?you don’t have to MAKE sure every one knows you’re a Dude. you don’t HAVE to pass at male. you feel so much more uncomfortable when you confuse people about your gender, when you wear want you want and what you feel comfortable wearing. you’re gonna hate looking back on yourself in a couple years because you’ll realize just how caught up you got in toxic masculinity, but it gets better. you get more comfortable being You and doing what You Want, and you’ll find people who accept that more than your current friends ever could. it gets better. you get better.

What do you think of gender roles in relationships?*throws them out the window* 

Anything else you want to share about your experience with gender?toxic masculinity is a BITCH and i wishhhh that i’d had more understanding friends. there’s something just so sad and... weird... about the idea of FORCING yourself to have to “pass” at all times - when “passing” is a dumb enough concept itself - but idk. i learnt a lot from it, even if it sucked.

What is something you wish people know about being lgbt+?it really isn’t easy. every day you’re dealing with stuff, from yourself and from other people, so let us have our jokes. let us have our pride. let us be loud about who we are.

Why are proud to be lgbt+?cause it means i’m not cishet LOLif you read through all of this: why? why do that to yourselfkNDKSNd