#tododeku-or-bust

[spacebeyonce]

Why do it seem like your brothers are never doing shit 😤 you nicer than me. I put feets up asses, I'm not the maid!

it's because they aren't!! get a load of this:

we've got a chore chart in the kitchen to keep track of who's cleaned what. I'm red, brother 1 is blue, brother 2 is purple.

and it looks like this EVERY WEEK. majority red!! majority ME. and it drives me up the fucking WALL!!!

I know if I bring it up they'll just be like 'you just have to ask! just ask us!' AND BITCH!! MAYBE I'M TIRED OF ASKING. MAYBE I WANT ONE OF YOU TO SEE THAT SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE AND DO IT.

[alibonbonn]

"Nothing more unsettling than finding a shorter version of the man that murdered you at the door, tearfully asking if your daughter was home."

Go read @tododeku-or-bust 's Patchilles Parenthood series ok!

[strangeauthor]

Dostoyevsky official has been anti-black before, figured you'd want to know since you shared a post with their addition

Oh No

[queenoftherandomword]

💧for the ask game

💧Share something romantic/hot from your WIP, or just something sweet if it's gen.

Hope this "oh no he's hot!" Counts XD

It was Pat's turn to the register, 5 minutes before the end of his shift, and 35 minutes before he had to be in for his office hours when he spotted him.

They came in as a possible couple, but there was an air of awkwardness that Patrocolus had seen on several first or blind dates, like moments of forced eye contact only for the guy to pull away and look elsewhere, and subtle moments where one partner tried to display affection only for the other to pull away in an uncomfortable shuffle.

He didn't think this would be the kind of thing that would make it to the second date, despite the young woman trying way too hard.

"Anyway, Daddy is dying to have you come to our beach house in a month, I'm sure your mom will like that," the young woman said as they reached the menu.

"I have work, so no I won't be able to make it," the young man said, as Patrocolus picked up the pen for putting names on their cups when he nearly dropped it in surprise.

That was Achilles Peleides from High School!

It had been a long time, but both fell out of touch after Achilles went to college on the other side of the country.

"Surely your boss will let you go for a month's long vacation?" His date pleaded.

"My boss, possibly if I want to hunt for another job afterwards, and I have a student who could really use my help, so I'll have to decline," Achilles insisted. Then he turned to Patrocolus and both had a moment of mutual recognition.

Only Achilles seemed better at thinking on his feet as he gave out his order instead of loudly asking Patrocolus to identify himself like he would have in high school.

"Uh, I'll have an iced Americano and the lady will have a…" Achilles began, leaving space for his date to insert her order.

"A Lethe Fog Frappuccino with extra whip."

"Excellent choice," Patrocolus said, entering in the order mostly by muscle memory, putting Achilles' name on both cups and accepting Achilles' card for the order, unaware that while his date was eyeing Achilles up and down, Achilles' eyes didn't leave Pat's face. "We'll have your order right up."

And there were only four minutes left of Pat's shift.

[thenixkat]

But also yeah blackflimmakers/afrophunk is still lying to people that the issue was that I 'didn't want to be educated about what a black elf was'

and not that she butted into something, decided that being told that what she was telling me wasn't really relevant to the question being asked was a personal attack against her, repeatedly insulted me, said the worldbuilding of the setting I was talking about was wrong since it didn't align with Tolkien, repeatedly decided to ignore my boundaries as she continued to talk down to me and insult me for not agreeing with her overly broad generalizations. And decided to harass me into a mini mental breakdown that only stopped when other people started getting involved b/c I vagued on a different platform about some dipshits that were being annoying. And then was still talking shit about me and lying about what happened after to people she apparently had watching my blog and reporting to her.

@creatingblackcharacters2 & @creatingblackcharacters since blackflimmakers/afrophunk is still fucking lying about shit

[pixelhotsauce]

I'm happy to see and support an artistic Black man on the dash! You seem like you have great vibes 👍🏾

Thank you! That really means a lot. I try the best I can with what I got

[greatrunner]

@tododeku-or-bust's post asking for examples of racism (experienced/witnessed) in fandom has got me thinking about how abstract the experience of antiblackness is once you (as in me, because I can only tell you my perspective) 'remove' yourself from the situation or the situation is considered 'settled.'

A lot of that is, obviously, a defense mechanism. If I didn't learn how to dissociate or numb myself from said experiences, I think I would be in a much worse place than I am right now.

But it also highlights how much I spent on Tumblr reading or experiencing antiblackness in different fandoms. Within the moment, the experience is raw and extremely triggering.

Left 4 Dead 2, Pacific Rim, Princess and the Frog, and Star Wars were probably the most active I'd been within a fanspace on Tumblr, and the antiblackness that ran rampant in those spaces was pretty vile.

At every turn, instead of owning up to the acts of passive and active racism, yt and non-Black users would break their backs to defend their position as 'not racist.'

The absolute refusal to investigate why they were so comfortable calling characters like Rochelle and Tiana boring or annoying compared to Lottie or Zoey allowed antiblackness to run rampant because, "I should be allowed to dislike a character!"

Do you know how aggravating it was to watch old-ass shows like Buffy and Angel at 14-then-22 and watch not only the writers but the audience (or LiveJournal or Television Without Pity) demonize characters like Charles Gunn and Robin Wood for doing things they cheered white characters on for doing... on the same shows? All while engaging in some truly racist stereotypes? It feels like you're going crazy when you see it. It made me wanna cry for help.

The fact that I had to remind Star Wars fans that 'DLF didn't mean it that way' wasn't an excuse for how LucasFilm treated Finn or John Boyega. That "actual racism" was benign, passive, uncritical, and often intentional.

The fact that much of my Pacific Rim experience was watching yt fandom call Stacker Pentecost an "asshole" or "control freak" because he was holding Raleigh and Chuck to account, or they wouldn't engage with his and Mako's relationship with the same respect they did with Herc and Chuck's.

I decided not to engage with the media outside of isolation or friend circles. As I moved further and further away from it, and it became vague and less sharp, I'd start to question, "Was it really that serious?" When so many people failed to read the room and centered themselves as victims of 'harassment,' was it really that serious?

And I have to remind myself, "Yeah, it was." Even as it becomes hard to verbalize or put into words to recall, it was and is that fucking serious.

And the worst part of all of this? Most of those racist shitheads knew that too. But they could get away with it, so...

The point ultimately is to drive people who'll challenge positions out of those spaces. That's why so many fanspaces don't promote growth or shifting dynamics. They prioritize anti-intellectualism and infantilization of the self or the work itself.

[malcriada]

not only is money sent to Palestine by humanitarian groups getting blocked by international banks, this also applies to regular people who are trying to send money to friends or relatives in Gaza while living abroad.

my dear friend @bilal-salah0 has to face ridiculous challenges in transferring funds to his family of 18 people. he cannot transfer the funds from his german bank account directly, but needs to pass them through another country first. this means he is faced with extremely high transfer fees. on top of that, he was the victim of extortion by his exploitative ex-employer/landlord. please help him reach his goal of €110,000 in 10 days so he can help his family survive!

donations have been coming in very slowly. so far, he has reached: €102,314 / €110,000, €7686 still to go

[verified here, #132, line 136] [GFM here]

please don't let him and his family down. he doesn't deserve what's happening to him.

tagging for reach under the cut, please lmk if you'd like to be removed:

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[youseffamily]

Important Update 17/10/2024 !!!

Today we took my little son Majd to the hospital because of the chest crisis he suffered in this war.

Please Don't leave my little son alone and help him by donating and reblog

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[autisticmudkip]

Please send your love and support to Amal Ashour @amalashuor, and her daughter Maryam, who is merely one year and 9 months old. Half of Maryam's life has been spent enduring this genocide in Gaza.

Amal and her family have lost their home, and been displaced multiple times due to bombing. Currently Amal is doing her best to care for her daughter, and to save money in order to evacuate herself, her husband, and her daughter from Gaza.

Right now, Amal desperately needs money in order to feed her family, buy diapers and milk for her daughter, and pay rent for where her family is staying. Maryam is at risk of serious malnutrition unless Amal can get baby food and milk for her. Amal does not have any income other than this fundraiser right now, as she is unable to work due to the ongoing genocide. She needs ~$5,000 dollars just to survive each month, and even more to evacuate.

€38,263 / €50,000

The good news is that Amal is more than halfway to her goal of €50,000, and you can help get her there! As of writing this, Amal still needs €11,737 to reach her goal. Donations have been slow, but you can change that! With your help donating and sharing Amal's campaign, she can reach her goal, care for her family, and hopefully evacuate to safety soon.

Amal's campaign is #175 on the vetted campaigns list by @/el-shab-hussein and @/nabulsi.

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[spacebeyonce]

4, 16, and 25 for the ask game!

4. what was the last straw that made you finally block that annoying person?

lmao the reason is usually either racism, unironically saying and using that whole proship and antiship as terms bullshit, or some weird combination of the two.

16. you can't understand why so many people like this thing (characterization, trope, headcanon, etc)

let's dive into mdzs for this one. off the cuff, I don't get the whole 'sour grape uncle' thing the fandom likes to do with jiang cheng and I blame the untamed for it. that man is a wretch and a terror, a bitter pill so comfortable in stewing in his anger and bitterness and inadequacy that he can barely see the way out. and folks need to live with that.

the whole 'caveman' thing they do with lan wangji drives me batshit, just because he's careful with his words doesn't mean that he's nothing but one word responses and 'mn's like. be serious.

please let jiang yanli cook more than just The Soup. abeg. there's so much food in the world.

25. common fandom complaint that you're sick of hearing

kingdom hearts for this one, sick of hearing about people complaining about folk that did not enjoy kh3, and all the video essays in the world about how kh3 was good, actually, will not change this. like, the frozen level alone. shut up. it's not good. some parts are enjoyable but for some (LIKE ME) it's not worth a replay just to get to those few good parts. live with that feeling. I won't kill your vibe if you don't kill mine.

[alibonbonn]

Patroclus sketches to explore the evolution of a sadboi into a formidable young man

[mahrahpalestine]

My account and the accounts of a group of my friends who organize donation campaigns to help their families have been blocked for no known reason

It is clear that the Tumblr platform is against the Palestinians’ livelihood and achieving a better future

Everyone is against the Palestinians from living

But despite this, we will try to live and achieve a better future

@freepaleatine95

@nabulsi @ibtisams @tododeku-or-bust @turian

@paper-mario-wiki @sar-soor @determinate-negation @determinate-negation @sayruq @90-ghost @dykesbat shared

@asexualfromhell @paper-mario-wiki

[monagaza1]

No donations have been made in 6 days, only two donations have been Received over the past 6 days !!!!

Please continue to help the Tawfiq family reach their goal of $92,000, so that the family can provide the necessary daily needs to survive and save money to exit Gaza when the Rafah crossing is opened.

We are still very far from the goal, but it can be achieved with your help and persistence.

$18,770/$92,000

So please donate what you can spare. Every $5 donated can make a difference.

Our campaign has been verified ⭐️ by @/el-shab-hussein and @/nabulsi , and is entry number #164 on their list.

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[thenixkat]

Ok, a few months back I mistakenly identified @creatingblackcharacters2 (originally @creatingblackcharacters) as a sideblog of blackfilmmakers/afrophunk and talked about it on of my 'fuck blackfilmmakers/afrophunk and the horse they rode in on' posts. Later I found out that creatingblackcharacters was actually a side blog of @tododeku-or-bust, not blackfilmmakers/afrophunk and I'd mistaken tododeku-or-bust's art style for afrophunk's art style.

After figuring that out for the most part I deleted the posts that contained the mistake or edited them. Turns out that I missed at least one which @tododeku-or-bust discovered and reached out to me earlier today requesting a public apology for it since it caused some negative effects on the reputation of her creatingblackcharacters (now @creatingblackcharacters2) blog which was just starting out at the time. Which is completely fair since it looks like she had to remake the blog.

So this is a public apology for me ruining the reputation of creatingblackcharacters due to my mistake. I do agree that the responsible thing to do would have been to reach out to @tododeku-or-bust when I caught my mistake. It did not occur to me to do so until it was pointed out to me and that's genuinely my bad.

@tododeku-or-bust also requested an apology towards her for the vent post coming off as antiblack. Which, I will apologize to her specifically that it came across as such.

[alibonbonn]

Some character design drawings of Philia, Calix and Kairos! Thank you @tododeku-or-bust for writing these lovely kids i love them so so much <3 

Meet Philia, my Hades OC!

Some additional slices of baby life, gifted by @alibonbonn whom you should all commission, follow and support ♥️♥️♥️

(click for quality!)

10 Fun Facts about Phi ('fee'):

"Highest form of love", "Friendship", "Affection", "Compassion"

Patroclus is "Papa", Achilles is "Daddy", and her fathers are the bestest, strongest, most beloved people in her whole wide world.

The few times they're ever truly frustrated with each other, they never show it in front of her.

Phi is the apple of her fathers' eyes- this is NOT the child you want to mess with.

As a bit of a fussy, talkative baby, they learned her hair glows and her green eyes flash when she's in emotional turmoil

Swift-footed, she gets the zoomies before she can properly walk

She's joyous, daring, a bit of a smartass, and loves to sing and put on plays with her best friend Kairos ("opportune moment", Orpheus and Eurydice's baby boy)

Despite popular belief, on moodier days Achilles plays Bad Cop, bc he sees so much of himself in her and wants dearly for her to be better

Uncle Zag is determined to be her favorite babysitter and this means Adventure™ (Uncle Than makes sure things don't go awry)

As the child of Aristos Achaion and the Best of the Myrmidons, she's a naturally gifted fighter, and they pray she stays out of the eyes of Olympus.

I have so many headcanons and AUs for this beloved little girl it's unreal; i might start posting AO3 blurbs about her. I wanna write out their first meeting for sure. Much gratitude to @alibonbonn for doing the commission of my first OC and letting me cry about Phi to her daily 🥰🥰🥰