#today we hate

[foodperson]

No one.

Absolutely no one.

Sakura Haruno (and Karin at some level):

Happy valentime day☠️

[hinamie]

7/3: pov u r nanami kento pleased that i managed to pull smth together in time for your bday

[delicris]

i hate reconstructions, i hate the noise, i hate the mess that stays there afterwards, i hate that i have to wake up to a fucking jackhammer every day for a week, i hate that it goes on for the whole fucking day, i hate it all

[0yorixu]

etho sketch, don't have time to color cuz then I'll spend hours on it and I won't have time to do my school work that I've been procrastinating on

[dunmeshiminimumwage]

[hyacinthsdiamonds]

I'm sorry but the irony of Nico calling Max unprofessional is sending me so bad like sir there's an entire garage full of people, who were literally in the trenches trying to survive the Brocedes fallout while just doing their jobs, who might have a few things to say about your (& Lewis') level of professionalism at that time 😭✋️

[monobani]

some Maria outfit variations I did for fun because I miss her leopard print :'>

[untitledgoosegay]

re last reblog I do see fanfic culture pushing/replicating a certain model of "what trauma looks like," "how trauma works"

this is a problem across all areas of society obviously, but transformative works are, well, transformative. they're about crafting and modifying narratives where the fan-creator sees a flaw or a lack -- often for the better! don't get me wrong, I've done my fair share of "I take a hammer and I fix the canon," it's the main thing that gets my creative gears spinning -- but what happens when that "flaw" is simply a narrative not conforming to popular expectations?

some people just don't get PTSD from events that sound obviously traumatic. they're not masking, and they're not coping; they just straight-up didn't get the permanently-locked stress-response that defines PTSD. they walk away from a horrible experience going "well, that sucked, but it's over now." some people do get PTSD from events most people wouldn't find traumatic. we don't really know why some people get PTSD and others don't. but fandom has an idea of events that must be traumatizing, of a "correct" way to portray trauma. you see the problems with this lack of understanding in e.g. fans pressuring the devs of Baldur's Gate 3 to add dialogue where the player character badgers Halsin about his own feelings on his abuse -- because he must be traumatized, and his trauma must fit a certain mold and presentation of sexual trauma, under the mistaken impression that anything outside that narrow window is somehow "wrong" and disrespectful or even harmful to survivors.

take, for another example, the very common trope of a traumatized character who hates touch or sex "learning" to like touch or sex as a part of their healing process. certainly that can be healing for some people; other people will never like, or want, touch or sex, because of trauma or because they just don't. the assumption that someone who doesn't want sex or doesn't like to be touched must be traumatized, must be suffering from this perceived lack, is seriously harmful -- to asexual people, to people with sensory issues around touch, and to people for whom healing from trauma means freedom to refuse sex or touch.

and there's a secondary trope, one that's slightly more thoughtful but ultimately repeats the problem -- that once someone has learned that their boundaries will be respected, they'll feel it's safe to soften those boundaries. once they feel safe refusing touch or sex, they'll feel comfortable allowing it on their own terms. but many people don't, and many people won't! many people will simply never want to be touched, and never want sex, and they are not suffering or broken or lacking because of it. the idea that proving you'll respect someone's boundaries entitles you to test those boundaries -- the paradox is obvious, and yet this is something i've seen hurt (re-traumatize) people i care for.

people are imperfect victims. people don't heal in the ways you expect. many people have positive memories of their abuse, of their abusers. many people hurt others in the course of their trauma, in ways that can't easily be unpacked in a 5k oneshot. very few narratives of trauma and recovery actually fit the ones put forward by popular children's media and romance novels -- which are the ones I most see replicated in fandom spaces, because they provide the clearest narrative and easiest catharsis, and so they're easy and soothing to reach for.

that's not necessarily a bad thing! i am not immune to goopy romance tropes. i am not immune to teary catharsis. not every fic has to grapple with ugly realities. but there's a problem when these narratives become predominant, when people think they're accurate and realistic depictions of trauma, when the truth of trauma is unpleasant and uncomfortable, and doesn't fit any single narrative, let alone one of comforting catharsis

[tarufai]

[luneariann]

Hhh

[modmad]

TPoH: Update!

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[satans-knitwear]

My eyes are up there ^^ keep going, at the top. 👀

Treat me ~ Tip Me ~ More of me

[basilbots]

HANK! DON'T BELIEVE DARK SUN WHEN HE SAYS MOONS ARE ALL TERRIBLE AND NEXUS IS A NATURAL EXAMPLE OF THIS! HE OBVIOUSLY ORCHESTRATED AND MANIPULATED NEXUS INTO BECOMING WHAT HE IS TODAY IN THE HOPES SUN WOULD CAVE AND KILL HIM! IT WOULD BE THE CRITICAL TURNING POINT TO GET SUN TO BELIEVE IN HATING ALL MOONS LIKE DARK SUN CLEARLY WANTS! HANK!!!

[ego-meliorem-esse]

My late contribution to the beautiful bride and ugly groom trend

It pained me to make François the beautiful bride but by god and all his angels The Rat is just not it

[skitskatdacat63]

"We need to find more performance, I think we've underdelivered in the last three events."

[anemonet]

pro tip: you can always put the bugs in little outfits :thumbsup: