#this reply isn't directed towards anon at all and i'm being serious

[spot-the-antisemitism]

Hiya, same gentile Anon who sent the ask about Kippot (Kippot is the plural form of kippah right?) and Trump. I've got a bit of a tough question. 

It's easy to call out other gentiles / goyim who are being Antisemitic, using Zionist as a dog whistle, spreading disinformation, etc etc. But how does someone who isn't Jewish go about calling out and correcting the same kind of stuff when it's coming from other Jewish people*?

Such as “Please reblog these posts about Antisemitism, OP isn't a Zionist so it's okay to reblog” and “Don't support this Jewish creator because they're a Zionist, the rest of us [Jewish people] have our humanity intact” and other dehumanizing (or iffy) rhetoric directed towards other Jewish people (whether they actually identify as a Zionist or not, regardless of what specific branch of Zionism they believe in, etc). 

My typical go-to is to put people on blast, say they're using dog whistles, call them out for dehumanizing others. But what's the guidelines when the person saying dehumanizing things to a Jewish person is also a Jew? 

*I know some people will call out some so-called Jewish tumblrs as racefakers/racefaking, but I'm not exactly qualified to go around lobbing serious accusations like that. And even if I was pretty confident that someone was lying? I still wouldn't say that because 1) It's really not my place and 2) feels very icky to go around saying someone doesn't belong to X, Y, Z group because I think they have wrong opinions (or bigoted opinions). 

(oh and thank you for your earlier reply, the reason I say trying to be an ally instead of an ally is for a few reasons. Firstly because it felt a bit presumptuous as if I was saying "Look at me, I'm an ally, I can do no wrong and can never be Antisemitic ever again". Secondly because being an ally is always a work-in-progress imo, you always have to double-check yourself, listen and uplift voices, and so on. Also I'm asking all this on Anon, so hiding my identity, so debatable whether that still makes me an ally y'know.

- Same Gentile Anon who's trying to be an ally

Dear Gentile ally anon,

it's really not your place to make callouts of Jews OR fakeclaim them leave that to me

Now if this is an argument or a reblog and you want to call some token grifter on their shit go right ahead with "that's a dogwhistle" or "that's misinformation" but never condescend or goysplain to a Jew about antisemitism.

Usually the reaction will be "Yeah goy we know, stay our of this". Unlike gentiles like yourself Jews know they're being antisemitic and do so on purpose all while claiming that antisemitism doesn't count or that antisemitism is a punishment to keep bad jews in lie. Using another community I am a part this the way LGBT people misgender and harrass the "bad queers" to "protect the community"

Gentiles listen to gentiles so you calling other gentiles on their shit is productive, conversly Jews listen to other Jews so unless those Jews are part of the same community as you or are attacking your friend

you STAY THE HELL OUT OF THIS lest you make it worse

Let Jews callout Jews, you see something that's odd you send it as a receipt (although I DO NOT cover "zionists dni" because they're not worth my time and are too prevalent)

and hey Jewish values put safety over grand gestures of heroism. You're using your anonimity for good that's all that counts. Many of my regulars operate off sideblogs and I have no idea what their main is. consider getting a throwaway sideblog or hijacking a previous one for this

please write again,

Cecil

[nerdy-talks]

Hey there! 🫡 May I please request Dad!Tatsu (from the way of the house husband) dealing with his daughter's (the reader's) first period (everything platonic)? 😬 And then the reader is pretty calm about it (even though it she's in pain) but Tatsu is freaking out and Miku isn't home, etc. 😭😭

I'm extremely sorry for taking so long to post this, anon!

It's been a bit of a roller coaster here the past few weeks due to family stuff going on. Also, admittedly... I was a bit nervous/paranoid that I kept making Tatsu a bit out of character while I was writing. Hopefully that's not the case, though! Because despite my love for Way of the Househusband, Tatsu's lingo/way with words are a bit challenging to recreate (in the best way possible) lol ^^

With all that being said : I love this idea so much, anon! I honestly had a lot of fun writing this, so thank you for your request! I also kinda used a little bit of inspiration from my own personal experience except I didn't stay as composed as Reader does lol Anyway.... I hope you enjoy! (:

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Platonic!Dad!Tatsu X Platonic!Daughter!Reader

Period Pains, Rough Times

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The moment your mother had mentally prepared you for had finally arrived, yet you couldn’t help the feeling of dread wash over you.

The last thing you wanted to do was break the news to your father. You knew how he was, how he’d make a bigger deal out of the situation than was necessary.

But with a dwindling supply of feminine products left in the bathroom due to your Mom forgetting to restock and the discomfort in your lower abdomen slowly intensifying, you grit your teeth and reluctantly made your way towards the kitchen.

Standing in the doorway, you watched as your father skillfully blended a bowl of ingredients together, most likely intended for dinner later.

“Is Mom on her way home?�� You inquired, looking at the clock on the wall.

“She’s gonna be late tonight, said her boss has some unfinished business left to tend to and your mother is in charge of the dirty work like usual.” Tatsu answered as he transferred the mixture into a baking pan.

“Oh…” you trailed off, gently clutching your stomach as another wave of cramps wracked your body.

Noticing the pained expression on your face, Tatsu turned his full attention to you.

“What’s going on? Ya look like you got gutted by a rival organization”

“It’s nothing serious. Just…. Can we go shopping?” You replied, choosing to ignore his less than flattering comparison.

“We just came back from running errands.” He retorted while raising an eyebrow to your seemingly odd behavior.

“I know that, but...” You paused.

“But what?”

“I forgot some items that I need for something important.”

“We can go later.” Tatsu replied nonchalantly.

“I need them sooner than later.” You argued, hoping to get the urgency across without having to elaborate.

“What’s up, kid?” He asked, concern lacing his words.

“Nothing.” Your attempt at maintaining a calm demeanor failed as the sharp ache caused you to hunch other slightly.

“It’s gotta be something.”

“Nothing.” You whined.

“Then you can wait for-“

“I need pads and medicine for cramps because I just got my period” you finally explained, knowing there was no sense in prolonging the inevitable.

A deafening silence filled the room as your father seemed frozen in place.

“Dad?” You spoke softly after a few minutes, snapping the man back to life. Tatsu raced over to you, gently grabbing your shoulders and leaning down to look you in the eyes.

“Don’t worry, (Name). There ain’t no way I’m gonna allow some punk to knock my little girl down.”

“Uh, Dad… it’s a period. Not a bully.”

~~~~

“Welcome! Can I help you find anything today?” The cheerful store clerk greeted as the new customer entered the store.

“I know you’re pushing product here. So tell me, where do you hide the good stuff?”

The clerk stared at Tatsu like he was crazy, completely unprepared for such a direct and unusual question.

“E-Excuse me?”

After his numerous failed attempts of contacting Miku at work, Tatsu realized that he would have to procure the appropriate personal care items on his own. Although this was previously uncharted territory for the ex-yakuza member, he vowed since the day you were born that his parental duties would always be of the utmost importance. Even more than his dedication to being a proper househusband.

“Ya know… the special pills designed for ladies. I need the best you’ve got, no cuttin’ corners.”

After an awkward conversation with her manager, Tatsu was directed to the correct isle and recommended the ‘best of the best’ medications for dealing with menstrual cramps.

But now, the Immortal Dragon was face-to-face with yet another monumental challenge : choosing the correct sanitary napkins.

‘We’re sorry, the person you are trying to reach is not available-‘

Click

Yet another call sent straight to voicemail. Miku had always been considerate of her husband, making sure to purchase her own feminine products at that time of the month. This was something Tatsu was now regretting, wishing he had paid closer attention to the brands and styles his wife preferred.

Wings or no wings? Scented or unscented? Ultra thin or maxi? What about sizing?

“Pardon me, sir? Do you need any help?” Another poor, unsuspecting clerk asked as she approached him.

“Yeah.” The girl instantly regretted all of her previous life choices as Tatsu turned towards her, package of pads in hand, an intimidating smile plastered on his face. “These a good brand for absorbing large amounts of blood? Can’t have a single drop ruining the interior, if ya catch my drift.”

~~~~

An hour passed before your bedroom door creaked open. Sitting up, you watched as a disheveled Tatsu entered.

“Dad? What happened?! Are you okay?” You asked, genuinely worried about your father.

“Don’t you start pitying me, (Name). I ain't dead yet. And even though it wasn’t easy, I’ll gladly take a bullet for my kid any day. What’s important is….” Extending his arm, he handed you a shopping bag filled with medicine and a few different kinds of feminine products. “I got the goods.”

~~~

“I’m sorry I wasn’t home sooner, honey. Today must have been rough for you.” Miku cooed as she rushed into your room, pulling you into a comforting embrace.

“It’s okay, Mom. It actually wasn’t that terrible. Dad got me everything I needed, and even agreed to make some chocolate cookies tonight for dessert.” You replied as you returned the hug.

“That’s great to hear, I’m so proud of how strong and mature you are.” Miku smiled and kissed your forehead.

“I guess Tacchan is the only one who had a rough day, then.” She mumbled, more to herself than to you, as she made her way back towards the door.

“What do you mean?”

Stopping mid-step, your mother sheepishly glanced back at you. “Let’s just say we can no longer shop at the nearby drugstore with your Dad anymore. Now hurry and wash your hands. Dinner is almost ready.”

With that, Miku exited your room and left you to reflect on just how grateful you were to have such an eccentric yet well-intentioned father.

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I hope this is good enough, and that Tatsu isn't too ooc ^^"

Once again, thank you so much for the request, lovely anon! I hope you and everyone else has a wonderful day ❤️

[alittlebitblockbbias]

I can't with Kwonnie's hair. I just can't. The mullet sadly fits Kyung's personality.

a lot of people can’t with his hair. i really didn’t like it when it was long but the one thing that bothers me the most is his sides. his shaved sides and then the braids made him look bald in a way. like he didn’t have any hair. i really didn’t like it. but anyways for me i don’t think braids fit him personally. 

and for the overly sensitive people/pc/sjws this is coming from a poc. black hairstyles don’t offend me unless the hairstyle doesn’t fit them, not taken care of, or they are doing it as a literal joke. like jiho grills i love them but when i watched the snl skit made me upset. no i didn’t finish the skit because it was all cringe. the whole skit made me uncomfortable. jiho having braids doesn’t phase me, having grills doesn’t either, even when he speaks in slang at times. at times it’s cringe and out of place but im also sure rap music is how he learned a lot of his english. but it doesn’t also because off stage or not in mvs he doesn’t change his style. It’s not night and day you’ll still see him wearing the same things minus the more over the top stuff. everyone different and if other pocs that are ACTUALLY black and not 1.5% black has an issue they have a right like i do in saying something. but this white people parade that includes pocs that are not black as well have this feeling like you need to defend black people you don’t. we got it. you heard that some people get offended and blah blah blah negativity really gets far especially when it becomes a race issue. at the end of the day there are issues so many issues but i find these issues looked over because the average person doesn’t wants to listen because now a days no one can breath on anything without someone getting mad and getting everyone to gang up because it hurt their feelings. i’m not sticking up for ukwon or jiho before someone that’s mad thinks I am. all im saying it doesn’t matter to me as long as they don’t look like idiots and they are not running around saying dumb shit about the hair (texture), style, or now they are actually “black” because of it. I don’t become Korean if I get the Korean magic perm and you don’t become African (American) because you know have braids. Or even worse do the style but look down on black people for the same style (thinking your hair texture is better than blacks or anything that is actually racist and hypocritical).

[saltymongoose]

Lovebug Anon here! And I've come to share my fuzzy little ideas!

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What if the player had to revive their vessels through a kiss?

Hmmmm?~

Give the grunt a lil' smooch to make sure they don't croak.~

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Like between a normal revive and a kiss revive, the kiss actually restores more corpus.

And I'm sure their vessels wouldn't complain about it-

The only downsides about the kiss revive is that it would take some time for the player to actually initiate the kiss, especially if they are are a bit nervous towards the idea of kissing their grunts.

AND it would probably encourage their vessels (-cough- mostly Hank -cough-) to try and die so that they can be revived that way.

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Player: -gives kisses in order to revive their fallen vessels-

The Boys: -bloody and beaten- I see this as an absolute win!

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(I've always loved the cheesy trope of giving someone a kiss to bring them back to life. And I've got plenty more fuzzy ideas to throw out into the world!)

Sincerely,

Lovebug Anon

Hello Lovebug Anon! Thank you so much for this idea, I adore this. I was writing my response to this and realized it was getting pretty long, so I decided to make some shorter hcs about it instead (even if I know this isn't an actual request, the opportunity was just too good to pass up lol). Please feel free to drop by with more ideas though, even if I answer them with my typical "short" responses haha <3

The Player's Kisses Restore Health ft. Hank, Sanford, Deimos, & 2BDamned

(TW: Yandere, Obsessive Behavior, mentions of wounds and violence)

You first figured out about this "extra feature" of yours entirely by accident. Deimos had impulsively pulled you out of the way when a few stray shots were coming in your direction, though in doing so, he left himself completely open to being hit instead. Unfortunately he had already sustained quite a few injuries up until that point, and his corpus wasn't faring well at all. The hit had effectively downed him, and you were quick to shout for one of the others to come to help you "revive" him.

You knelt next to his pained form, trying to keep from cringing as you saw the blood that poured from his wounds and heard his sharp gasps and pants as he shifted. He tried to move to look down at his wounds, but was stopped by you as you gently placed your hands on his jaw and made him look up at you instead.

"You didn't have to do that," you murmured, and he gave an easy grin in response, weakly replying that he was "glad you're okay". That just made you feel more guilty about this. How could he be so lackadaisical when riddled with bullet holes?

You huffed in mock-annoyance, but at the same time leaned down to give him a kiss on the cheek. Both as a distraction from his pain and as thanks. But in that split second, he had turned his head slightly up towards you.

And your lips connected instead.

He jolted with a small noise of surprise and you noticed immediately that you were feeling his mouth instead of the oddly smooth skin of his cheek, quickly pulling back with a string of embarrassed apologies. Not that he really comprehended them, brain fuzzy as he was internally freaking out at the fact that you had just fucking kissed him!!

He had been dreaming of this for so long, to finally have that moment where he could feel your soft lips on his. (It was honestly something he'd been daydreaming about for a long time, amongst other things the two of you would do once you were together). Honestly he thought his sudden lack of pain had been from the rush of what just happened, and the hot feeling he had was from being so close to you.

But as he lies on the dirt (completely red and fawning over you), he fails to recognize how the kiss had done more than just improve his mood and take his pain away. The minor injuries he sustained had been completely cleared away, not even a scar remaining on his skin. His more serious wounds had been mended as well, looking as though they'd been healing for weeks instead of only a few seconds. But he noticed it eventually. As did Sanford and Hank (who had a lot to say to him after hearing about what had happened).

And they're all very quick to try and experience it.

Deimos generally doesn't try to get injured, it typically just comes as a result of his own lack of foresight (especially when he sees an opportunity to show off for you). However, now he's getting hurt all the time. It's completely worth it, just to feel that sensation of you kissing him for a second or two.

Sanford has mixed feelings about the ability, mainly because he wanted your first kiss to be special; a genuine act of love instead of simply because he was heavily injured. He's less likely to try and get injured on purpose, at least compared to Hank and Deimos. It still happens sometimes, of course, but he has the awareness to look the slightest bit sheepish when you lean closer to him to fix his wounds. He'll also make sure he doesn't have any blood on his face if he can help it.

Hank, on the other hand, was the worst on this. He was already plenty reckless before in an effort to get your attention, but when he learned that you could bring them back from the verge of death with a kiss? It was just over at that point.

He's well acquainted with getting injured, so the pain doesn't bother him that much anymore. He'll still try to kill quickly to draw your attention, but he'll let his enemies hit him far more often, deliberately getting in the way of their weapons and letting them tear away at his flesh. It's all worth it when you gingerly pull his mask down and press a chaste kiss to what remains of his lips and the cold metal of his jaw.

Much to the others' surprise, 2BDamned even joined in on this once he caught wind of it. And he was surprised too, to be honest; ordinarily he'd consider himself above such immature actions. Besides, he knew that intentionally getting injured was foolish, it would only slow you down in the end. That and the fact that he focused on ranged combat anyway.

But, he couldn't help but do it once or twice. Was it stupid and a very painful process to deal with? Yes. Was he willing to subject himself to that just to get a kiss from you? Also yes. It's not like his jealousy would allow the others to just take all of this from him anyway.

They all begin to crave the feeling of your lips on theirs, and the burning warmth that fills them and makes their hearts pound as you remove their pain and bring them back from the cusp of death.

However, despite how willing your vessels are to go along with it, you were far more hesitant. For one, you didn't know what exactly they thought about it. They were fine with it, but you didn't know for sure if they were cooperative because it was ok or just because it healed them. You didn't want to force something as intimate as a kiss upon them if they were uncomfortable with it, even if it was good for their health. It didn't take a genius to know about your apprehension either, as you made it quite obvious with your apologies and the way you seemed so nervous when doing it.

But your vessels are quick to assure you that they genuinely do like it when you restore their health this way. They'll make their purrs run a bit louder when you do, and lean into you when you gently press your lips to theirs. They'll even chase after your mouth when you pull away.

If this doesn't fully convince you, then they just might resort to pulling you back to prolong those kisses you give them. Maybe a confession is also in order to really make you know just how much they love it when you heal them this way? Even better, this might even make it so that you'd do it for them only. It was certainly worth a shot. They were sure you'd accept it, too, why else would you volunteer to heal them like this (even if you were slightly unsure about it)?

[everyhowlmarksthedead]

the lift.

STEVE ROGERS. MARVEL. ┃ USEFUL LINKS.

❝ request by anon: Girl I love that we must watch all the same things because your masterlist is heaven!! I love all the characters lol Can I request an imagine for reader x Steve Rogers where the reader is an avenger but her and Bucky are super close where everyone thinks they’re together, but it’s platonic. Reader and Steve have massive crushes on each other, but are two idiots who don’t realize it. The team has to help hem figure it out?? Or you can switch them around it you want. I love Steve and Bucky equally 🤷‍♀️

❝ request by anon: Hey girl! Awww yah! Requests are open 🎉 Can I request something for Steve Rogers? Maybe a prompt of “You came to my room at 4am...to cuddle?" I’m a sucker for Steve so honestly anything you write is fine 😅

❝ words: about 1k.

❝ a / n: don’t forget to comment and reblog if you liked it, i’d really appreciate it!

“This is a bad idea, sir”.

The metallic voice from F.R.I.D.A.Y. speaks throughout the living room. Even she knows that locking you and Steven inside the lift isn't going to help you to realize what you feel for each other.

“Sh…” Stark utters before taking a sip from his glass of whisky.

All the Avengers are there. Natasha has made popcorn to share with Bruce, while Pepper is trying to persuade his husband to stop, asking Bucky for help. But he just shrugs in her direction.

“Do you have plans for tonight?” The captain asks resting his waist against the railing, placing his hands there too.

“Nope. I think I'm just… gonna order some food and have a quiet night”. You shake your head, holding a S.H.I.E.L.D. file closer to your chest. “Why? You have another option?”

“Nope”. He imitates you with a soft grimace, almost giggling. “Sounds good to me, ma'am”.

“Oh, so, will I be blessed with your presence, Capta—”.

You can't finish the joke when the lift shakes slightly by stopping. A loud roar turns the lights inside red. Steve walks to the control, hitting every button on it as if this gesture could make it work again. And you're starting to sweat. You have claustrophobia and suddenly these four walls feel too close to each other. Like, really close.

“F.R.I.D.A.Y.?” He exclaims once and again before turning at you, hyperventilating sitting on the floor. “Hey, hey, hey! Are you okay?”

“I ca— I can't breathe, Steve”. You barely babble.

“Okay, okay, don't panic. It's okay”. Keeping as much calm as he can, the soldier removes the file from your hands to take off your jacket.

“Let the lift fall a little”. Tony casually pronounces the command to his A.I., making everyone in the room turn at him.

The lift falls a little. And the whole damn city can hear you screaming. Steve is on the verge of his nerves, standing up to try to force the doors and open them. You may be somewhere between the twentieth and the twenty-first floor. But they feel like both are hermetically closed.

“Hello? Anybody hear us?” The Captain screams from the bottom of his lungs, palming and hitting the walls.

“God, I'm gonna die”. You whisper in tears, causing your friend to kneel again close to you.

He doesn't doubt taking you into his strong arms, maneuvering to sit on the floor and put you onto his laps, tightly wrapping you against his chest. Steve rocks you, wanting you to calm down and to not think where you are, nor what's happening. He has protected and comforted you before, but this time where not even F.R.I.D.A.Y. is responding, you know it's the end. And you don't want to die in silence.

“I love you”. You sob, hiding your face under his jaw, gripping your fingers in his shirt.

He laughs quietly, leaving a kiss on top of your head. “I love you too”.

He hasn't understood you.

“I love you, Steve”. You repeat the confession. “I don't wan— wanna… die without telling you”.

“Don't be dramatic”. He scoffs, not replying to what you have just said.

Stark never thought it wouldn't happen this fast, but now, everybody is celebrating your revelation.

“Can you, for the love of God, take them out of there?" Pepper almost begs, knowing how bad do you feel in closed spaces.

“Just… one minute else”.

The excuse they gave you both was that they were training and minding their own business. But the A.I. is everywhere, so at least you don't believe them. And you can't stop thinking about what you told Steve. He hasn't acted weird after it, probably imagining it has been part of the moment. But it's not.

Getting up from your bed, not being able to sleep, you tour the long hallways to his dorm. Taking a deep breath as you notice the light under the door, you come closer to knock it. Walking inside and closing the room behind your back, you rest it against the iron door. The soldier is lying on his mattress, reading a book about Sherlock Holmes. But the story is left in the background when he raises his eyes towards you and a funny grimace appears on his face.

“You came to my room at fou—”.

“I was serious”. You interrupt him with a firm tone. Swallowing, you close your eyes to find the encouragement to repeat your words somehow. “I'm in love with you, Steve. Ever since”.

His gesture suddenly disappears, causing you to tremble a little. But before you can continue speaking, he tosses the sheets by his side over him to palm the bed. In silence, you walk straight to it slowly, hesitating. As soon as his arms can surround you, he pushes you onto his chest, tucking you there. He didn't believe the excuse Stark gave you either. It wasn't a coincidence.

“I love you too”. He whispers, not like a secret, but only wanting you to hear his —surprisedly— honeyed voice. “I can't even explain what you make me feel, but you complete me in the most perfect way. And I was good being your friend. I can't anymore now”.

Steve is aware he doesn't need vocal permission to kiss you, bringing his lips to yours. You don't hold back a soft sigh, leaving a hand on his chest and landing the other on his neck. At first, you don't have any rush. You take your time tasting each other's lips until he finds your tongue with his and something explodes within your guts. Soon the two of you are breathless, needed for more, pawing and exploring your anatomies under your clothes.

“I want to make you mine”. The soldier growls against your mouth, settling himself between your legs to shorten any kind of distance, losing the shame that still characterizes him sometimes.

“And, what are you waiting for, Captain?” You gasp tangling your fingers into the golden locks of hair.

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[rpbetter]

Urgh. Okay, full disclosure, I haven't been on tumblr much over the last week or so, because I was one of the people that Raven initially called out after the COAR mess, and it was in the interest of my own mental health to fuck off for a while so I didn't stress myself out into oblivion. So I'm scrolling through most of this stuff for the first time, and talking to other people who were targeted. And pardon my French here, but I'm fucking disgusted at the lengths Raven has gone to assert themselves as a victim, how many people they've affected, and the waving around of something as serious as suicide for brownie points.

I have sympathy for people who overinterpret things in a strictly emotional and mental sense (actual reactions aside) because they lack the maturity. There's always a reason for that, and it's not their fault. And I have sympathy for people if they legitimately feel suicidal. That, too, isn't their fault. If I hadn't been blocked, I would've reported Raven in case their claims were true as well, because yeah, I don't mess around with that stuff either. But what's unacceptable is how Raven acted on those sentiments and behaved towards others, even after people tried to provide perspective. How Raven claimed to be done with the drama, but continued inciting it; how they claimed to be suicidal and had left tumblr, but wrote what amounts to a "fuck you" in their header and were still putzing around on their blog, and were apparently still editing their posts until as late as today; how they claimed to have deleted but only changed the url; how they weaponized all of this stuff and used it as a tool for guilt-tripping. Like, come on. It's okay if you're down in the dumps, but it's not okay to treat innocent people like garbage, and carpet bomb half the RPC. To me, it really feels like there was an intent to weaponize all of their hurt, offense, anger, and suicidal ideations, despite the possibility it did come from somewhere genuine, and that's so harmful to anyone who is actually struggling with depression.

Every time someone weaponizes mental illness in this way, it just makes people more and more apathetic the next time someone is genuinely just hurting, and saying they feel like they're at the end of their rope. And it makes people suspicious of whether those words are being used maliciously, or legitimately. That suspicion and that association is now there, unconscious or not. And every time this kind of stuff happens, the association gets stronger. What happens if Raven does this again? Some people will still report, but some people might just scoff and walk away - people who might've actually acted before. So in a way, that kind of behaviour impacts Raven as much as it impacts other people.

And you know what? They're not the only one dealing with serious shit. I've been suffering from MDD for the last fifteen years, and I've been in the process of changing medications and having little success for months. I've been going through hell offline. I have a shit list of people I want to yell at because they're dragging their feet on really important things I need to function; I'm constantly running a deficit on spoons. Until a week or so ago, roleplay was one of the only ways I could unwind. So for Raven to bully me by sticking that stupid post in my tags, because they needed to make a scene on COAR, which I was obviously going to comment on (like many other people), then to "like" an unsubstantiated callout about me and other innocent people related to that mess, it's only worsened my own mental health. It sounds melodramatic, but really. Someone else mentioned this too, but the fear of being in another callout, and the fear of that first callout somehow exploding, was in the back of my mind all week, despite being away from tumblr. So that was a little anxiety-inducing, much as I tried not to think about it.

And I'm debating whether to return now, or take more time off, and I have no idea what to do. Because that callout post is still in my blog's tag. I'm freaking out because I was planning on approaching some people to roleplay, which is something I rarely ever do, but now I'm concerned that I'll contact someone, they'll look at my tag to get an idea of my writing/partners/who I am, and see the callout post, and immediately dismiss me because even seeing the word "callout" on its own will send up red flags, by unconscious association with more impactful drama. And as long as that callout is up, these fears are going to be there.

That's just not fair.

And Raven's "apology" is completely unacceptable. Like you and others said, it doesn't reach anyone who needs to hear it, because they've all been blocked. I would fucking love an apology if it came from a place of honesty, but am I going to receive one? Probably not. And even for the followers who can still see that apology, it doesn't address anything. It isn't directed to anyone in particular. It doesn't mention the specific behaviours that were wrong on their part. And miss me with the "my intentions were good" part. No, they weren't; going around blocks and sticking shit in peoples' tags is vindictive and entirely intentional in all the worst ways, and shame on them for pretending otherwise, and by leading with such a poor example for many roleplayers, some of whom are in their teens. One of the people who tried to message Raven (they, too, were called out on Raven's blog) was speaking to a nineteen-year old who was completely clueless about the extent of the manipulation Raven was pulling. They thought all of it was normal and acceptable behaviour. That genuinely terrifies me. And while I imagine if Raven was genuinely apologetic, they would've gone to the callout blog and ask them to delete the callout post (attempt it, at the very least), somehow, I don't think that would've happened given all of their prior actions. God forbid something else is going on there.

Phew. Yeah, I'm angry. Maybe I'm just biased and tired. But honestly, I have a right to be. Raven's apology is a handwave, and they know it. It's a slap in the face to me, to you, and to everyone else who was involved in this clusterfuck. They're not the center of the universe. They affected real people, with real problems of their own. Anyways, I am so sorry for this, argh. Really had to get this out, and I didn't want to dump it on discord or somewhere else; I sure as heck didn't want to go to COAR with it. But hey, maybe people here will feel less alone if I added my own account to the mix. The more, the merrier? In a sense, anyways. Sometimes if you feel like you've been singled out, it's nice to know you're not actually the only person it's happened to.

Sorry for saving your reply for last, Anon. It's such an important one, I wanted to be properly thoughtful!

I think that it is going to make some people feel less alone, and there is always some relief in sharing one's trials. That might be especially true when one has been unable to share them anywhere else. It's not like you can address this on your own blog right now, COAR is definitely not a safe place to do so, it's a very isolating feeling that is made worse for having done nothing.

Coming back and being required to wade through this shit was really damn disgusting to me as well, but at least in my case, I had neither been obliged to distance myself for the sake of mental health nor was I treated to the sickening display of drumming up ideas of victimization from someone who victimized me. What I experienced was just incredulity and disgust, I cannot imagine how incensing this must be for you, I am so very sorry. If it makes me angry having a degree of removal and watching in it real time? What you're experiencing...there really isn't a single word to adequately encapsulate that, I'm sure.

You've still expressed so many of the things I've thought and felt. I found all that initial behavior uncalled for, shameful, yet another display of what's actually wrong in the RPC, but it was increasingly upsetting to me the more I looked into it because it did feel a little (a lot) too reminiscent of the sort of bullying experienced in person. It's really something else to be viciously picked at by someone who keeps upping the game until such point as it begins to cause them trouble, then get to be painted the wrongdoer and punished in some way for it because they're presenting as a sympathetic victim. A more sympathetic victim than you, that's really what I mean, I'm just going to say it.

And that was already in swing by the time I got from the launch point to the smoking crater of then current events. I got to Raven's again after bouncing back and forth between their interactions with others, largely from COAR, yes, and the shit on the callout blog...to see...everyone else being blamed in increasingly drastic ways.

Because on tumblr, unlike reality, if you throw out enough times ahead of time that you have disorders people can get behind, you're more sympathetic, not less. So long as one has set that foundation and has others to broadcast it once convenient, any horrible action one undertakes is given a pass. Anyone disagreeing, anyone not tolerating the abuse, is in the wrong now. In the worst possible way, of course.

This whole thing began with incredibly unnecessary bullshit and every, I mean fucking every, further action taken was a new level of fucked up, but the trivializing of and damage done to the perception of mental health and differences is quite possibly the worst. Are those things that need any more of that? It's already such a problem! I already see suspicion and fatigue with this, every time it's given validation, it grows.

Even if I wasn't mentally ill, with one of the disorders that gets vilified even on tumblr, even if I were not autistic, even if I never knew a single person who suffered worse than I do from the the complications they won by way of being born, hadn't anyone I loved that took their lives, this would be extremely upsetting to me. Using the idea that "whatever I do, it's got to be acceptable because I am X" while not caring that anyone else is X, Y, and/or Z. Weaponizing it for bullying and sympathy simultaneously. Way too much. Incredibly gross and harmful, legitimately fucking problematic.

I want people to be taken seriously when they choose to speak of the boundaries their mental health requires, I want muns to be able to say that they are having a difficult time without it coming off (even to the rest of us with mental health conditions) as a ploy for attention/guilting for whatever action they desire be taken by partners, and I want people to take threats of oncoming, serious harm seriously. How are they to do this, when it is continually used as tool or weaponized against others? At very best, it becomes another thing to ignore and scroll by on the dash.

As we've all had the misfortune to experience or witness so recently, once it is weaponized, it's a problem of priority. I've said in damn near every message I've gotten that Raven isn't the only person involved here who has serious shit going on, but like the absurdity with trying to spin an accident as transphobia, or having the audacity to attempt speaking from a place of peace in a way that might benefit everyone, Raven included, resulting in a callout about being against ND people...it doesn't matter. Doesn't matter that any of us are neurodivergent, have serious chronic mental health complications, or are not cisgender. Raven was swinging that around like a flaming sword to drive off bigots real and imagined before we ever got their attention.

Attention they fucking asked for.

Reblogging that post from COAR was just like posting those rules. The intention was to get attention, and it was asked for with extreme hostility. I have no idea how that is coming off to anyone as simply them defending themselves. It was a great moment to either not out themselves as the person in the confession at all, not engage with it, quietly remove the post, or to reblog it and take responsibility in a meaningful way at that point. Can you imagine what a difference that would have made then? If Raven had chosen instead to reblog it and apologize for doing what they had. Just that. No shitty, snide little comments about how they're sorry, but still absolutely correct and here are five reasons why everything they've misconstrued won't be tolerated. Just an acknowledgment of wrongdoing, an apology for doing so, and awareness gained moving forward.

Their decision to interact with that post in the way they did wasn't just more of the same nonsense, it was actively upping the game. I don't really care if it was intentional bait or just continuing to let malicious impulse run free, it was used as bait. Everyone who interacted with that post was effectively consigning themselves to harassment, and if they happened to interact on literally any other topic that group held a passionately opposing opinion on, they were attacked for it. Curiously, it became necessary for them to be harassed by way of the callout blog, but that is getting a little close to off-topic, so, I'll leave it at that.

So, while I initially really wanted to have the appeal to Raven work because their expressions of regret that I was greatly on the fence about being genuine, I'd say those flags were accurate. I cannot believe that someone who took every opportunity to do the wrong thing is genuinely sorry. Sorry for themselves, absolutely, sorry for anything they did, not so much. This constant narrative I got of "they SAID they were sorry" and "they apologized again and again and took the posts down," including from Raven, is incredible. On that last one, they, yet again, couldn't actually address me.

Appropriate response: messaging me or reblogging that post (you know, the rules snippet I found right the hell there still, despite the claim of it being deleted and the final catalyst of me needing to say something after I saw that, nope, surely was not) with the acknowledgment of a single thing I said.

Extra appropriate response: ^ plus going to everyone who could still be located that they harmed with a genuine, individual, private apology.

Inappropriate response that was had: new post, shitty, childish tone like they at once wanted to argue with me and didn't want to drop the act, restating of this apology that had already been deleted and meant exactly shit while it existed, restating of how they deleted this post and couldn't control reblogs, ignoring that I literally reblogged the original copy from their blog.

Apology neither believed nor accepted. Just as it wouldn't be if my nephew came to my house, broke a bunch of my things, said he was sorry while throwing the pieces at my pet, then threw himself on the floor screaming that he said he was sorry when I told him to go have a time out.

(Yes, I absolutely did just make a comparison to a child, y'all can shit yourselves again. It's not my problem if you want to misconstrue "this person's actions are not befitting of an adult" as "Vespertine said autistic people are children!" Fucking miss me with that. I'm an autistic adult who pays my bills, apologizes, doesn't treat people like shit while trying to excuse it by being ND. You're offensive with that shit, and contributing to the negative perception people have of those on the spectrum. Be a good ally today! Don't valid that! Free ninety-nine offer!)

Again, sorry for yourself does not equal being sorry for what you've done. The former can contribute to the development of the latter, but as I said in a response yesterday, there has been no display of that beginning to transpire. I genuinely hope that will eventually be the case because that would be the best outcome, the only "best" outcome at this point. Even if it was two years from now, if it did happen, I certainly would not be kind to people refusing them any such growth in peace, and I hope that, by some distant chance, I get to prove that.

But...stating "my intentions were good" over any part of this is not remotely promising. When? Where? At what point? Oh, right, when you took it upon yourself to label a random mun you took issue with. That's when your intentions were good. Then, when you vehemently needed to defend that point by callouts and individual attacks under the guise of it definitely not being about your pride, no! It was the defense of everyone else! Defending the community by carpet-bombing it, yes. This is not a "the path to Hell is paved with good intentions" situation.

I am so disturbed about the nineteen-year-old mun, my god. I'm telling y'all, my anger and disgust almost reach what I think is a pinnacle, then there's something new like this.

I don't even subscribe to tumblr's ideology that anyone under twenty-five is an actual infant who needs be kept in a protective bubble and forgiven for all bad behavior with infinite kindness, nineteen-year-olds deserve the agency of the adultier adults they are becoming, but it is a transitional age. Especially today. Most socialization and formative ideas take place online, and by the time younger RPers are entering the adult sphere of RP here, they've already got some really unhealthy ideas. About themselves, about others. There is such a demand for rabidly performative action that gets internalized, it shouldn't be being heartily fed by people in the community they might look up to.

At that age, someone like Raven is going to be a person looked up to. They espouse all the right ideas, and it's an age in which aggressive interaction over those things is seen as amusing and correct, no matter how wrong the actions taken are or the basis upon which they are founded. When these people foster an environment of cruelty for questioning, of course, that is not going to be the natural response. The response is now going to be the requirement of being told otherwise with adequate proof.

I have suspected that many of the hateful anons I've gotten were from Raven's even younger followers who feel like it's normal, acceptable, and that everything they're being told by Raven's sales team over at the callout blog is absolutely true. Of course, they're now morally obligated to come harass me for the things they were told I did! I think it's likely that several of the anons people got were from actual minors, which is so many levels of scary and irresponsible. Really great example all around, yes!

Because whether it is one's intention or not, that is potentially exposing minors, or muns who are still close enough to be more negatively impacted, to who even knows what. As well as violating the rules of blogs who do not interact with minors for good reason, setting those blogs up for yet another callout for treating someone they didn't know was a minor the way they did or having "freak shit" on their blog. Setting up the other party to be treated with full hostility as an adult would be. Very cool, very responsible.

There is just so much here that is unacceptable, I don't think people who were not directly impacted or have never had a callout against them understand the results, and that is one more unacceptable thing you've been good enough to talk about.

Even while taking a break from the RPC, it affects you negatively. Wondering what you're coming back to, your blog is no longer a safe feeling space, and there's nothing you can do to "cultivate your blog" to change that. They've taken away the ability to simply block and avoid others, the thing that keeps all of us comfortable here as well as allowing that to be all of us no matter how disagreeable we might be to each other. Callouts negate adult behavior. Callouts mean that one doesn't know where more potential for harassment might be coming from, or how long we might have to be worried about that.

It would be a major concern for me as well about what putting myself out there to new writing partners might bring. What the success of that might be. It's incredibly unfair that they've made finding new people precarious and more unpleasant than it can be anyway. That puts all of the future of your RP here in question, and if you're like me, just dropping a muse, picking up another, and moving to a new URL isn't going to be a good choice for you. It isn't that simple if you dedicate time to a muse for a long period of time, when that's the case, that's the RP you want to do and have laid the groundwork for.

I don't know if it will help at all, but it has seemed to me, over the past several days, that there are fewer people in the RPC who are inclined to believe or support callouts than there once was. I was hoping that was the case, since there is always so much interaction on my posts against callout culture, but until this crap went down, I had no idea just how many people are not positive toward it. It has seemed to be that the people who are inclined to listen to callouts are just louder.

I've also noticed that those people have the same set of red flags, so maybe sharing that will help you or others?

They don't have simple, basic, reasonable Do Not Interacts. It isn't simply asking that minors don't interact because the mun is over eighteen, that muns writing a triggering topic not interact, or that sort of thing. No, it's URL dropping of specific muns, outright links to callouts or "receipts," and an accusatory tone about any topics or types of muns who shouldn't interact. Such as "nasty ass proshippers" or "pedo apologists shipping incest."

Their rules are reflective this as well. A statement cannot be made that they do not write, let's say, toxic ships and left at that. There will be some morality wank present about normalizing or romanticizing toxic/abusive relationships.

There are less assured flags, but literally, anything that stands out as an interest in RPC or fandom-based activism as opposed to an interest in writing, their muses, or even their friendships with a variety of muns. I don't mean a rounded-out interest in things, I really do mean a glaring predominance of buzzword-laden reblogs and PSA's while they've not written a reply, headcanon, or answered a meme in months.

I'm not saying any of that because I feel like you, or anyone else's, judgment is terrible or that you're oblivious to warning signs! It's just that when we've experienced bad situations, it can compromise our ability to see clearly. It becomes easy to see a potential threat everywhere, and maybe that seems contrary, but it's then easy to fail to see real threats from those we're blowing up. We question whether we're being just as judgmental as the people who wronged us, putting words in other muns' mouths and thoughts in place of their own as was done to us. While we still are afraid to be wrong in giving someone an in to ruining our time again.

So, please, don't feel like I'm questioning your intelligence or speaking from a place of ultimate knowledge, never making mistakes in such a choice! I just really hate that you, and many others, are going through this, and anything at all that I can think of that might help you move forward from this utter bullshit you've been through, I've got to try to grab it.

Because, Anon, like all those sharing their experiences these last few days, you sound like the kind of mun we need in the RPC.

You're someone willing to share with others for the benefit of others. You're being honest about your feelings of anger and even the hopeless sensation of whether it's even worth it to try to return, having your progress on and offline stomped on, while still maintaining a sort of fairness and calm that I know is not easy. Because that's the mature thing to do, it's the right thing, and unfortunately, those are usually the harder things to do as well.

You did the right thing in expressing your opinion and doing what people like Raven's group love to be on about, can only do through bullying: not tolerating it. I'd hate for the RPC to lose someone like you!

Just as your message matters to more people out there than myself, I have no doubt that your choice to not quietly allow this behavior mattered to more muns than you'll ever know. I'm sure that none of them would have wanted this result for you, but so many muns have experienced such toxic, bullying behavior over the years in which not a soul spoke up.

Many of you proved something very important with challenging Raven and the callouts blog, that unlike them, it isn't necessary for good people to even know each other to do the right thing. They have to dogpile and engage in cliquish behavior, what they do isn't coming from a place of inner ethics and strength, but what you all did? It's the opposite.

So, not only do I thank you again for sharing and providing the important support of simply not being alone to others, I thank you for being the example to the RPC that people dealing in callouts and generalized shaming cannot be, no matter their platform.

I hope that, whether you choose to remain, leave, or take a very long break, everything you've been dealing with starts to look up. I know it's easy to say things made hollow for their repetition and flippant use, like telling you not to let them win, or that their bullshit just isn't that important. So, I'm not going to say them.

It doesn't work that way when you're dealing with mental health concerns! You can logically know that this is just petty bullshit not worth being run out of something important to you, but that doesn't stop the worry, frustration, or depression. You can have all the determination in the world to hang in there, even the spite to back it up, but neither is a match for the things you cannot control coming from your brain. That is the cruelty of mental illness on the very best of days.

You have all of my respect, support, and genuine sympathy that this happened to you. No one should be allowed to continually and unapologetically go out of their way to throw a wrench into someone's hard-won progress. You did nothing to deserve this, and the people out there worth interacting with are going to be the same ones who will have no question of that.

Lastly, I also hope that some of the anons sharing their experiences have helped you feel less alone, or like you're not just irrationally upset. Please know that you're seen and supported as well! And that you are always welcome to talk more, vent, share successes here.

Thank you, Anon.