#this isn't an organized essay but it's the best i'm going to manage

[whetstonefires]

I think a part of the reason I feel so connected to JGY and XY is that I, too, think everyone is lying about what a good person they are. Sure, there may be a few genuinely good people, but those are in the minority and never claim the title.

I don't know about never; some people are pretty straightforward.

And in some ways the whole point of the concept of 'a good person' is that the feeling of losing the right to consider yourself one can impose instinctive recoil from doing wrong, in situations where you don't have the leisure of working your way through an ethics diagram and choosing the logically moral path before reacting to a situation. It has practical utility.

But that system can backfire pretty horribly too, in a lot of ways. It can be hijacked by definitions of 'good' that actually make you recoil from ethical acts because they're deviant. It can lead to disappearing up your own ass lmao.

And definitely the threshold for 'talking about how you're a good person' enough that it makes you suspect as either a) a liar or b) someone who values that self-image over objective reality and other people's wellbeing is. Not very high.

Jin Guangyao, ironically, is one of those people who's so performatively A Good Person in his public life that in retrospect it looks like a red flag. Which knowing this about himself in an ongoing fashion ofc just reinforces his own cynicism about everyone else lmao.

Even Lan Xichen, who I think he may see as a genuinely good person, he also sees as an easy mark who will reliably choose what is comfortable over what is 'right,' if you just structure the scenario to make that an easy choice that's easy for him to justify.

Xue Yang's bitterness is in many ways more exciting than Jin Guangyao's because he has a way more unusual relationship to reality, but it does share a lot of notes.

The role of deception in his psychology fascinates me because as far as I can tell he's as instinctively straightforward a person as Lan Wangji, albeit along quite different lines involving a total lack of impulse control, but has adopted 'deceit' as a weapon against the wicked world in the same way he has adopted 'murder.'

But when he feels someone is not merely lying but papering over bad behavior with principles they are not living up to he is livid.

People claiming to be better than him because they're 'good' when 'good' is a construct of privilege, is the underlying idea he's not equipped to articulate. Except he takes that and applies it to 'hitting me to interrupt my random murder of some guy who happened to be within arm's reach when I wanted to hurt someone.'

Which isn't like philosophically perfect, but the underlying problem he's actually reacting to is that he understands the social contract as a lie that has never protected him but seeks to control him, while protecting rich men it has no power to control.

Which it is fair to be mad about, but then his feeling is that since that's the nature of the world and all people, he is entitled to amass for himself the power to inflict hurt without consequences as much as he possibly can, and to use it against the vulnerable for fun, and no one is entitled to interfere.

Which brings him to a place where he is violently angry at anyone talking about trying to treat other people well as a value, because either they're a hypocrite and a liar or they threaten his entire system of rationalization for why he can be The Worst and still In The Right.

'Everyone is equally bad, actually' is like, an understandable take for anyone who's had cause to become embittered. Everyone is free to make whatever philosophical peace they can with the world and by and large there's no ethical weight to any such opinion, in itself.

But it's an ideological crutch people tend to wind up leaning on very heavily when they can't or don't want to take responsibility for their own behavior.

Which is an approach that Xue Yang, Jin Guangyao, and Su She all share, and which not only is shitty of them, it...traps them in a wheel of doubling down on their own worst impulses because rather than going 'that was bad and I shouldn't do it again' they've repeatedly invested all this energy into making what they did actually the correct thing, according to their interpretation of the context. Which means they're more likely to do it again.

(I think this is how Jin Guangyao became a serial killer, for example. He followed a doing-a-murder-impulse and then internally doubled down on how he had nothing to be ashamed of, so he was more likely to do it again, every time.

Wei Wuxian's strain of self-righteousness about his revenge was less...thorough than Jin Guangyao's, because he had the benefit of going after people on the opposite side of a war from him while Meng Yao's first known murder plot was against a shitty boss. But it probably didn't help him not try to solve army-shaped problems with mass murder, even after that stopped being allowed.)

If any of them had just like, zero moral sensibilities they would have created very different problems, and very possibly fewer of them. It's making a central goal of your operations 'self-vindication in your own internal narrative, created retroactively via reframing' rather than 'figuring out what I think I should do and trying to do that' that traps them in the self-reinforcing murder pissbaby vortex.

So if you look at it one way, these three villains are themselves perfect examples of how pursuit of the 'feeling of being good' (or at least 'not the bad guy') can make you worse.

Notably Wei Wuxian was also extremely sensitive to hypocrisy in his youth; it was the only part of Madam Yu's behavior he was ever shown objecting to. But he's sufficiently mellow and cynical from regret and burnout by the 'present' timespan after his resurrection to just get disgusted and alienated about it, rather than outraged.

He wasn't even all that mad at Xue Yang, though honestly that may be partly because he stopped entirely characterizing him as a person at some point during their interaction. Like, there's no point being angry at someone whose moral sensibilities operate exclusively on the plane of 'is this unfair to me' for manipulating and destroying people who were good to him, and then getting obsessed with his own self-pity about it. This is not a person who understands how not to be, metaphorically speaking, a cannibal.

And Wei Wuxian did know better and still got roughly the same result, so what business does he have getting angry?

Anyway yeah those two villains are both delightfully relatable if you sit down and put their perspectives together; they are clearly operating with the same basic suite of human needs and emotions as everybody else, without that being in itself particularly exculpatory, which is honestly refreshing. They've just got the most fantastically toxic interpersonal habits that knowing them counts as some level of Suffering A Curse.

Jin Guangyao and Xue Yang do both stand as scathing rebukes of the society that created them. But within the narrative, wherein they're people, the fact is that each of them had agency and one of the things they chose to do with it was develop rationales for why they were the most special little guy and everything was someone else's fault.

And their moral nihilisms, while also grounded in serious trauma, ping me as emotional masturbation of this variety.

[maximumzombiecreator]

Hi, I am so pleased to have discovered your blog.

I am running an AD&D campaign for some friends to expose them to the way things use to work (my parents ran a long term campaign for me and my brother when we were kids) and it has been a blast.

I'm running the temple of elemental evil, which has a (small) megadungeon. they've completed the introduction before the megadungeon and the next session has them entering. I'm doing my best to absorb everything about the adventure and factions to figure out how best to approach it from my end, but also to figure out how to present the playstyle to my players.

you're blog has been super helpful for me, thank you so much!

do you have any advice on how to budget my prep time between every adventure?

Ooh, so, on the subject of prep I am a giant hypocrite. I'm constantly advocating for people to do less prep, efficient prep, etc., and then I Do Not Do That.

I think some of my favourite prep advice is what the Sine Nomine games call the Golden Rule of Preparation: at any given step, ask yourself: Am I having fun prepping this? If the answer isn't yes, ask yourself: Do I need this for the next session? If the answer to that also isn't yes, don't do it. Leave it for later, or don't do it at all.

For Temple of Elemental Evil specifically, I'd probably focus my prep on familiarizing myself with the area of the dungeon the players are most likely to reach in the next session. Gygax's room keys are often written to be big blocks of text that don't make finding the most relevant information easy. I'd recommend either going through and highlighting the most important bits, or possibly rewriting the key in a manner that formats things in a way you like.

The module provides the wandering monster tables and the restocking procedure (though if I were running it, I think I'd replace the restocking procedure. It's deterministic, which I dislike) so you can do any restocking that's called for. But there's not much you need to do. Issues in the key notwithstanding, I'd be confident in my ability to run it blind, even restocking can be handled at the table.

So, if that's the case, then that means you get to focus on the prep you want to do. That'll depend on you, but some suggestions would be:

Create an adversary roster. This is a really helpful tool for managing adjacent spaces in a dungeon. (In fact, the Temple of Elemental Evil is one of the specific examples Justin calls out in that essay.) This will make it much easier to keep more of the dungeon in play at any given point in time and respond to what the party is doing. It's easy to create this while familiarizing yourself with the key as well.

Spice up the evolution of the dungeon. I really enjoy this part, so it's a big part of prep for me. As mentioned, I'd probably want a different restocking procedure, and then I'd spend a bit of prep figuring out how the different factions interact and struggle with each other within the dungeon. Playing the various factions against each other is a big opportunity in the temple, since the various elemental cults are all pretty antagonistic to one another, and I'd look for ways to make this apparent to the players.

Focus on creating specific hooks. For example, Temple of Elemental Evil leaves a sort of floating hook for the GM to place, the poem that is supposed to lead to the Orb of Golden Death. So it's useful to think, in prep, of where to put this so that the players can find it organically. If there are other parts of the dungeon, or the overall campaign, that are interesting to you, creating specific hooks to draw attention to these and seeding them can be a great use of prep.

But overall, don't feel the need to do prep you don't want to. Megadungeons tend to require a lot of single shot upfront prep (the dungeon itself, helpfully provided for you, in this case), and then be pretty low-prep to run thereafter. So focus on what brings you joy, and then let everything else play out at the table.

[bbsmuts]

As a fellow Everglow fan, what's your opinion on the group aa a whole, and, more specifically, their past three comebacks?

Here we go again. Another question that I'm gonna have to write an essay for.

As a whole, I think Everglow is a group that has way more potential than success. Yuehua has proven itself time and time again to be one of the worst companies in K-pop, from allegations of idol abuse to scandals with their groups to unexplained two-year hiatuses (still planning on assassinating whoever runs Yuehua for that one). Had Everglow been under a different agency, like SM or JYPE, I have a feeling they would have been far more successful. Although considering JYP's high standards I doubt the members would have made it through. Then again, Aisha was a JYP trainee for something like nine years, so you never know.

Starting with Return of the Girl, I think this one was one of their best. Apart from being the longest, the songs were also some top-notch music, especially Pirate. It was the last comeback before their unexplained, pointless hiatus (Du Hua better sleep with one eye open).

All My Girls was also one of their better comebacks, though WAY shorter than expected. I mean, Yuehua gave us nothing for nearly two years and then didn't even have the courtesy to give us a full-length album, the bastards. Regardless, we got three great songs. I got into music production when I was younger, and I can tell you that the track to Slay is of incredible production quality. It's one of those songs where nothing is misplaced, nothing is done wrong, everything's perfect. Like Criminal Love.

Ah, another ten fucking months between comebacks. Typical. Yet ANOTHER single album. I think they majorly fell off with this one because let's face it, Colourz and Back 2 Luv were just not good. Some people may have different opinions, but those two are the only Everglow songs I actually don't like. Zombie was an interesting one. I think with that one they're going for a style that isn't theirs, not at all, but it was executed well and the song is good. A big breakaway from their usual song style, but I like it all the same.

There were rumors of a full album earlier this year (maybe last year), but we never got anything of the sort. They've been around for nearly six years, there's no excuse Yuehua can give for the lack of a full length album.

So overall, Everglow is a good group, but with terrible management and organization from their terrible label company. They'd have done much better under a different agency. Hopefully all that answered your question thoroughly enough.

[studyof-love-and-life]

Hi! I’m a first year uni student and I was wondering if you could help me out with something? It’s my second week and I’m already having trouble balancing my time. In general, how much time should I spend on each class outside of lectures a week? If it changes things I go to a decently prestigious school

[don’t feel pressured to respond if you don’t want to. I just saw your other advice posts and thought it was worth a shot :)]

Hi lovely! Figuring out time management was hard for me when I started undergrad, too. A general rule of thumb I've heard from professors is that for every credit/hour of class you have per week, you should spend 2-3 hours outside of lectures on that class. So in theory, for a 3 credit class you should spend 6-9 hours on it per week. However, I'd say that that isn't always the case! Sometimes you don't need that much time and sometimes you might need more, and I think that comes down to the class and professor more than the school (not the most helpful answer, I know, and I'm sorry for that)

I'm just going to brainstorm some general ideas below 💕

What are you studying? If you're in STEM, you might find yourself doing a lot of problem sets (my best friend was a math major and she was constantly doing work because each class would assign a certain amount of problems, and each would take a long time to do), and maybe some readings on top of that. She said that something that helped her was working with study groups can help keep you on track, and if you like them then it's even better because then you're hanging out with a friend too. She also set a cutoff time everyday where she would stop doing work so she could have a little time for herself

For me with linguistics, I had a LOT of readings to do for all my classes. Learning how to effectively skim texts and still understand the general point is a valuable skill, and it saves a lot of time! Most professors don't expect you to remember every single detail from readings, they often just want you to understand the argument and the general takeaway so you can apply it to the class (my point with asking what you're studying is that depending on the types of assignments, you might need different tips - even though I'd say my friend's tips can apply to anyone)

On a related note, lots of people take notes while reading. I had so many readings sometimes that I didn't have time for that, so if you're in a similar situation, instead of doing detailed reading notes, try reading your chapter/article, and then take a couple minutes to figure out your top 3 concepts from it that you think are most important and write those down with a quick blurb to refer to and what chapter/article the concept is from

Plan ahead and prioritize what you NEED to get done. Sometimes you won't get to everything, and you can't be too hard on yourself about it (which is easier said than done)

I've not tried this personally but I have some friends who set timers when they have multiple classes to study for. When the timer is up, they switch to the next class so they know they at least spent some time on it (it worked for them, maybe it would work for you! Again, I've not tried it)

As classes move forward and you have essays and projects come up, try to break them down into steps over multiple days/weeks. I've found doing that helps keep me from waiting until the last minute

I live by my planner. I tend to forget things if they're not written down, and it helps keep me organized as well (I write down my assignments in different colors based on what class they're for). I've found that if I can see everything I have to do it helps me prioritize and keep on track. Also it's silly but it really feels like you're getting things done when you get to cross things off, which can be oddly encouraging

Schedule in some time for yourself when you can. Part of balancing time in uni is making sure you're not being over worked. Join a club or make sure you have time to do something you enjoy, or even just time to relax :)

I hope this helps and I'm sorry I couldn't help more! Figuring out how to balance time can be pretty tailored to the individual and the classes being taken, but I hope any of these ideas are helpful! Also feel free to keep asking me things, or DM me if you want! You're going to do WONDERUL and AMAZING things ✨️

I'm also going to tag @peregrination-studies! She is my go-to studyblr buddy for if I need any tips or encouragement or a buddy to talk to 💛 check out her blog too (also hi grace! If you have anything you'd add, feel free but of course no pressure <3)

[tasteleeknow]

I'm rarely on here, but both of those anons commenting on "Hello Stranger" made me cranky. Your story is wonderful.

So if you'd like my essay:

~The first couple of chapters did a great job of establishing Reader as the MC; who is a complex character still working to overcome grief/trauma.

~Minho manages to firmly plant himself as a source of conflict giving our shy MC a chance to show us how she handles it.

~Hyunjin gives her the opportunity to show us who she is as a person. She's incredibly caring, loving, and understanding.

~By the 3rd chapter, we see MC maintaining her boundaries while navigating her complex living arrangement and still trying to work through her feelings of rejection.

~MC is a solid person at her core. She knows she's not perfect, she's complex, she's a badass, and we see her outward confidence grow as she learns how to better-navigate her personal conflicts. She actively works to improve her communication with her important people and tries to stop fear from letting her live her life.

~Hyunjin & MC established EARLY on that they're platonic soulmates -- which has stayed consistent (rejection-spiral-kiss aside). Their relationship gives strong ace-vibes where they can be romantic without the expectation of physical intimacy, which is refreshing. There are different types of love & this one absolutely works for them.

~We meet Minho when he's not his best and it's established that he doesn't open up easily to others. Of course our perception of him is SUPPOSED to shift as we sloooowly peel back the layers to see why he is the way he is.

~Together, MC & Minho are learning how to be better communicators and not be toxic when processing their own traumas. They're GOING to have regressions and hurt each other; that's very realistic.

~Where anon found character development lacking, I found organic character growth. Personal progress isn't linear & sometimes you've gotta fall back before you can improve.

~None of the relationships feel forced to me. It's a fantastic slow-burn story and I am very glad my friends recommended it to me. You should be proud of what you've written!

cranky ghfdj cute

you get it.. you get it

[twilightguardian]

More Discussing Fixing RWBY Criticisms

I've been thinking of doing this for a while, since I know while my initial essay was ungodly long, it wasn't comprehensive. Plus, there's new criticisms and stuff I glossed over in my initial post that started my involvement in all this. Partially because it wasn't as big, but also some of the criticisms require a lot more time, effort and nuance to look through and discuss and my initial post had taken a couple of days to bang out.

I'll start off with a review that was posted due to my involvement in this. I think it was a good review, and it was brought to my attention because Raymond happened to see it and discussed it. This person has unfortunately blocked me, and I don't blame them for it, because I said some things that with my phrasing could be viewed in a less than good light. But I'll explain myself a little bit below, when I talk about my general attitude toward confronting people since I might as well.

I'm mainly posting this as a primer because it's going to encompass most of the criticism. And I think it's fair if the reviewer didn't find the faunus plotline to their tastes. Not everyone is going to be satisfied with it, no matter what and at the end of the day, no matter how hard someone tries, there's going to be issues someone will take with a work, or how a concept is presented, and there's ultimately nothing that can be done with it. The most that an author can do is their sincere best.

I think calling the White Fang 'the bad guys' in Fixing is a little simplistic. Sure, they are an antagonistic force to some extent, but they aren't bad or evil. The first volume has thieves posing to frame the White Fang and cover Roman's tracks. The second volume does have actual White Fang members, recruited by Cinder, and Roman forced in middle management between the two.

But it is established that there is corruption seeping into the organization and disparate groups in some internal political maneuvering in the background as people with different ideas move about among the different branches. This is where we get Onryu, who is only ever mentioned, Adam, who was under Onryu, and then Sienna and Ghira.

Volume 3 has Adam directly involved and pushing White Fang involvement in the Fall of Beacon. Adam abusing his power and influence, and later in Volume 4 blames the actions he pushed for on the Lieutenant who died. I think that pretty clearly establishes that these are individuals and mindsets within and not the White Fang as a whole who are considered bad guys, but people swayed by charisma and ideology to do a man's bidding with the White Fang itself in opposition to it in Volumes 4&5.

As for Blake, she said directly that their parents got a new extension to their home, and later it's stated that Ghira is newly crowned Chieftain.

Getting extra clarification on this, there was mention that Blake was meant to be 12 when she ran away, but her family's class status doesn't actually matter to this other than as background detail. But there was something that we determined was a genuine flub on his part because of this criticism, with him waffling on whether the house belonged to the Belladonna's or the house belonged to the Chieftain who'd move in once elected.

Either way, Blake isn't a rich princess-or-equivalent in Fixing, nor is it meant to imply that she is in the dialogue. I believe he could have been clearer on this, but the scene where he says 'newly elected Chief' is there.

I'm unsure if this is an issue or just stating a fact. But if it is criticism, then I'm not sure how racism being mostly an issue within the minds of individuals is a problem. We saw it be an issue all throughout volume 1 and it's mentioned with Cardin. Weiss' arc is also very much heavily focused on racism, even if her main issue is her perfectionist attitude about her team.

It's a little confusing when it's stated here that they're hoping it'll be treated like a big deal but then implies that they're brushing off everything with Cardin and Weiss as not being enough. I suppose in this person's mind, at least according to what I'm gaining from this review, the only racism worth talking about is systemic? I do not want to assume, but that's what I glean off this.

Well, I'd already said how Blake is not the pseudo Weiss-like character this person seems to think she is. But even so, that doesn't mean Blake hasn't experienced racism in her life. Especially after she joined the White Fang. I'd honestly think that if a faunus family like Blake's could gain that much affluence, then things have improved. And that's the point, isn't it? Adam's a true believer of the cause, and Blake attacked his core motive: One that has driven him to spite and hatred and malice, no matter where it may have started.

He's had a rough situation, but can he see past it? Can he see the concept of a good human? Or that the situation with the faunus has improved, even if there's still work to be done? If what he wants is no longer equality, but revenge, no amount of what happened in his past should justify Blake sitting back and watching Adam hurt innocent people. It's a cycle of hatred and violence, one that is easy to fall into.

That's ultimately the dilemma between Blake and Adam now, though I'm told we'll get a lot more into this as we go through Volume 6.

The comments feel very ideological, and such things can paint one's view of a work. But I just want to say that I don't think Blake's tragedies have to match Adam's in order for her to have an opinion on his extremism. Do I think that Blake being an orphan could make her case stronger? Sure. I don't think it's necessary.

In my rewrite/OW template, my interpretation of the White Fang is much more leaning into religious cult, with its members being raised and indoctrinated into an idea that humans are the enemy and will harm you if you let them. But the White Fang are also not the only racial justice group, with Velvet being a part of one in Vale and takes over as a student representative and leader of the movement at Beacon when the last one graduates.

In Fixing, we just had Ghira and Kali set up an all-faunus disaster-relief force that's separate from the White Fang as well.

There are many different routes that one can go with depending on how close or far one wants to take the ideas and worldbuilding and Blake can be adjusted for to fit the needs of that world.

There have been a couple of Sketchy Huntsman who have addressed this months ago. Your mileage may vary with how successful that was. There are some people who go to extremes with how careful one must tread when addressing other cultures to the point where it's almost not worth it to acknowledge another culture's existence. In writing circles there's also a growing concern over the concept of sensitivity readers hindering a project more than helping.

The term itself is also vague and muddies the conversation, and I much prefer the term 'diversity editor' as it better reflects their role in professional writing and what they're meant to do. But I digress.

This isn't professional writing. It's a fan project meant to expand upon and correct issues with the worldbuilding of this franchise. So what do we have?

This text claims that the Branwen tribe is inspired off the Ainu people. This gives a false impression it's meant to be a 1-1 comparison between real life Ainu peoples and the Branwens. That's not true. The SH who have addressed building up the tribe talked about how the Branwen tribe is a fictional ethnicity and culture that are based on multiple different cultures, not just one. There's elements of Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Mongolian and yes, Ainu. They aren't representative of one ethnic group, nor were they ever intended to be. The main inspiration were those of Mongolian tribes, of which there are many. It was specified Mongolian Steppe Peoples, though there was contention with this use of words.

Pan-Asia is a term and ideology that seeks to unify all elements of Asian peoples. Japan itself has tried to use this term for its own imperialist gain. But for our uses here, Pan-Asian does not work. This isn't a unification of Asian cultures into a single amalgamus blob of Asia. This is creating a fictional ethnicity by taking inspiration from many different real life ethnicities. This contention seems to be under the impression still that no matter what, the ethnicity is still meant to represent a real group of people when that's not true.

I take issue with the idea that creating something by taking elements of other things is inherently bad. That is how art is made. An artist will look up pieces of different clothing to create something that looks similar to, but isn't quite like the sum of its parts. Collages are made out of what inspires you with the design. This is no different, and the exact method used in designing the clothes of the Branwen tribe, and broadly their ethnicity as a whole, made of many things but not directly any of them, but something new. It's fiction. We who write fiction are inspired off the real world, and may at times reflect it, but never copy it lest we get called out for being hacks.

The Branwens are bandits. They are nothing more than bandits in canon, a collection of people who gathered around Raven, though a handful may have been with her since they were young. Fixing turned them into a people.

I repeat that humans cannot create something out of nothing. We don't have that amount of creative freedom, and something is bound to be copied intentionally or not off of something that person has experienced in their lives, or looks up. It is not disrespectful to be inspired, to have no desire to create a perfect representation of a specific peoples in a world that is not reflective of ours.

It is correct that there is a misconception about what the bear is being sacrificed to. The bear, taken from its mother and raised like a person, is then killed off after two seasons with arrows until its throat is slit and the spirit of the god is released back into the mountains. The peoples are gathered for the celebration and the flesh is then eaten.

But the process of killing the god is itself still called a sacrifice, no matter if it is to something or for its own benefit. It is still a sacrificial ceremony where the life of the mortal bear is sacrificed to release the spirit of the god.

To take this concept and apply it to Vernal is called symbolism. Symbolically she is the bear, worshipped and venerated and kept close and raised well, but it is her mother's faults and failings that ultimately get her daughter killed, propping her up as a god and slaughtering her. Symbolism doesn't have to be directly comparable and to think that it must is to stifle creativity and art.

Yes, I have done research on Ainu culture, both because of my own interest with characters in fiction who were directly Ainu, but also because of this. Knowing the meanings behind things, the ceremonies, the practices, the beliefs does not mean I'll necessarily want to replicate it. In a way, like how Ainu art is respectful to the gods by creating something original, not replicating and creating a realistic image, so too does the Branwen's Ainu leanings not reflect the truth out of respect.

Honestly this is the end of the Fixing RWBY section. Stop reading if you don't care about what I have to say below because it's otherwise unrelated because this issue wasn't about Fixing, but the one time I talked about canon (legitimate hot take) and people got upset.

So, here we are. The 'stain' on my time here and the main reason I was blocked by this person in particular. I will clarify I was talking about Shay, not Shiloh, and I differentiate them by calling them by their names depending on whether I'm talking about canon or Fixing. And I was talking about Shay.

In my opinion, Shay did not sexually harass Yang and I'll stand by that. Why? Because I'm not someone who is going to look at every single negative and unwanted interaction and label it as such and my opinions are very strong on this. Sexual harassment can be any unwanted interaction because there is no solid definition. Because I have friends who have told me they witnessed these situations at parties, where the girl is upset the guy leaves and complains to my friend about it because she was playing hard to get so why'd he leave? I've been directly in Yang's situation myself, and arguably worse because the guy did end up touching me.

So why do I not view any of these three examples as sexual harassment? Firstly, context. The guy is drunk, and if anyone who has been around drunk people know, their mental faculties aren't exactly there. That means their booze-addled brains are too stupid to comprehend small little social faux pas like touching someone's hair or (in my case) reaching into someone's mouth because they're wearing fake vampire fangs and drunk brain goes what the fuck is that. He was clearly trying to flirt, not believing the girl he saw was as young as she claimed, because dumbo drunko brain. Yang was calm, slightly annoyed, but engaged in conversation with the guy. To me, thinking about how drunk people can be fucking stupid, can easily see the guy interpreting her engagement in conversation as egging him on and playing hard to get.

Secondly, I simply don't automatically assume malice in anyone, fictional or otherwise until it's made clear to me they're meant to be someone I shouldn't trust. There has to be strong evidence to the contrary, and even after the reveal of him being a bandit, he's played far too much for laughs for me to consider him any amount of legitimate threat.

Thirdly, and this was the thing I was trying to originally say: I don't like calling Yang a victim of sexual harassment. That implies some level of frailty on her part, and she was in control and comfortable in the space and with her abilities the entire time despite the small triggering of small episodes with her shaking hand.

Whether or not someone still agrees with me after this, that's fine. But I do not like the idea of infantilizing Yang as a victim of Shay and that idea triggered something primal in me. But I'm not a sexual assault apologist or whatever for looking into the context and not immediately assuming malintent due to my own personal experiences and the experiences I've heard about from close friends. This isn't out of nowhere. Some people are going to have their own experiences that aren't mine, and they'll interpret the scene a lot more maliciously than I have. I'm not meaning to downplay their experiences, merely state that my own has painted my perception of the scene, as their experiences also painted theirs. But at the end of the day, I stand by Yang was not a victim of sexual harassment.

As for mentioning someone's sexuality, the meaning people took from it was the direct opposite of what I'd intended, and I can in some ways acknowledge if I wrote it in an unclear way. I was trying to say that I did not believe she could use her lesbianism to play dumb on the topic of male dating and flirting because I thought she was too smart for that and didn't believe gay flirting could be that different.

[fenrhi]

On Eunyung Baek and his Autistic Swag: diving into the mind of a very peculiar teenager

This very serious essay, written by yours truly, esteemed professor at the University of Autismology (🇫🇷), will cover chapter 1 from the end of Hara Kang arc.

Disclaimers: Before going into the meat of the subject, let me stress that there's not One Right Way of being autistic or One True Interpretation of Eunyung. The reason this post exists is simple: I think Eunyung is a wonderfully well-written character that shares a lot of similarities with my humble person and wanted to discuss it in details.

Due to Tumblr's pictures limit, this post will have to be cut up in four parts. Here's part one.

Introduction (1) : what is "autism" anyway?

Autism, as defined by medical experts in my country, isn't a disease that can magically be cured, but rather a disorder/disability. However, those same medical experts also talk about "symptoms of autism", like symptoms of a disease and generally believe it's best for everyone if we can mitigate these "symptoms" as much as possible. In short, autism is "a burden" autistic people have to live with.

The part of the population that doesn't have autism (called "neurotypiques") mistakenly believe that autistic people can be neatly put in two distinct boxes: the box for "stupid, weird autistics who can't talk properly or at all" and the box for "highly intelligent autistics who always have good grades in school". In reality, autism is a spectrum, so it's more complicated than that, but we can still find common "symptoms" of autism. Usually, autistic people have trouble with language, communication (verbal and non-verbal), social interactions, changes in their routine and their own emotions. As a result, autistic people often feel isolated, irritated or depressed.

Introduction (2) : who is Eunyung?

At the time I'm writing this, Eunyung's past still remains opaque, but we do know he grew up in poverty, with an alcoholic father and a neglectful mother. It's strongly implied he was physically abused, but nothing was confirmed so far. He wasn't close to anyone in elementary school nor did he have an adult in his life who could help him. In the present day, he's often seen surrounded by guys his age, but characters who live in the same dorm as him find him weird and unpleasant. He also displays traits commonly seen in autistic people.

I) Narrow-mindedness: not being willing to accept opinions, beliefs, behaviors, etc. that are unusual or different from one's own

(from "Haejoon Goh arc" to "Eunyung Baek arc")

This part focuses on Eunyung having "inappropriate" reactions to events occurring aroung him, not understanding or caring about how his actions and words affect others, and why some people react in anger to something he did or said.

I-a) First impressions

Our first introduction to Eunyung is far from glorious: he steals Haejoon's wallet (the protagonist, currently homeless and parentless) and uses all his money to organize a party with his friends.

Eventually, Haejoon manages to find Eunyung and furiously demands he gives back the wallet. This is what their conversation looks like

Please do note that Eunyung, despite hearing about Haejoon bad reputation ("kid of the ghost house", "violent lunatic") and seeing him beat up some of his friends, still smiles and jokes around Haejoon, as if he was disconnected from the scene. As if what was happening around him wasn't affecting him (or couldn't affect him). He's the only one who reacts like that. All his friends are trembling like leaves at the sight of Haejoon.

After that, Eunyung insults Haejoon's mom, Haejoon makes fun of Eunyung's tent, they fight, the tent gets destroyed and one of them ends up in a hospital.

I-b) The dorm

Due to a series of unfortunate events, Haejoon now has to live in the same dorm as Eunyung. And yes, their cohabitation is going to be atrocious. In fact, their first fight in the dorm happens right after they meet there. Eunyung tries to gaslight (I'm using the real definition of that word, not the Tumblr one) Haejoon into thinking he wasn't the person who stole his wallet and hurt him. Haejoon almost believes this, until he sees his wallet falling from Eunyung's pocket.

Haejoon reacts to Eunyung's behavior with anger and Eunyung responds with confusion and irritation. In his perspective, he did everything right. He was acting so polite and nice, why couldn't Haejoon just play along? Why did he get so angry? It's not like he died! It's not like he was the only one who suffered!

The ease with which Eunyung lies highlights that he used this method to get out of troubles a lot in the past. Haejoon, as an "anomaly", greatly upsets him.

This pattern repeats itself when Eunyung invites friends in his room. He doesn't understand why Haejoon is making a fuss and mistakenly believes he feels jealous and lonely.

....and this sort of things happens again when Haejoo trips on the trash bags in front of Eunyung's room

Eunyung doesn't understand what "cleaning" means because his old house was always dirty. This is what he has always known. This is what feels "right" to him. He doesn't see why he should change his way of living now.

I-c) the school transfer

In ch21, another misunderstanding occurs between Haejoon and Eunyung, the latter thinking the former wants to go back to his old school.

At first, it looks like he's offended Haejoon wants to leave "just because" the house is dirty. Eunyung can endure this much, so why can't Haejoon do it too? Why can't Haejoon be more like him?

But Eunyung is also upset because he thinks Haejoon is leaving because he hates him. In Eunyung's mind, he was never "that cruel" to Haejoon, so he should just "put up" with Eunyung like he did before. Eunyung doesn't understand Haejoon, but he does know it hurts to be treated like that by Haejoon.

So, does that mean Eunyung is doomed to always be narrow-minded, unable to change his behavior? No, autistic people aren't like that. Eunyung certainly isn't like that either.

Which brings us to Part II....

[rosieposiepie]

i'm curious to know how you started writing! what's your process when it comes to writing fics, especially 'i fall apart'. did it take you forever to write? how do you organize your thoughts, ideas, outlines, et cetera?

Okay, so first of all, thank you so much for asking this question!

I'll walk through how I wrote i fall apart (IFA) as that's the best outline of my general writing process.

First of all, I love writing with good pens and a solid-yet-cheap notebook. Handwriting is always where my ideas and thoughts turn into outlines. I always start my draft/outline of any story I do in a notebook. It's an outline in the loosest sense because it's really just all my thoughts and ideas in semi-chronological order. Whenever I have a scene that I really need to write then and there, I do it by hand in said notebook. Sometimes a scene is 8 handwritten pages long. In IFA, there are a few scenes that broke through early for me. Like the scene in the bathroom when Josh was comforting Donna in Night Five, their conversation on the bench, Josh's love confession (although the location changed a lot), and a lot of the Amy stuff. I started drafting IFA in February of 2021.

Once I have an outline and know where I'm going, I do the first draft. I'm a very fast writer once I know where a scene is going to go. Thank Something for my typing wpm. I can usually write a chapter a day if I get a few solid hours to write. Sometimes inspiration overtakes me, and I write my ass off. On a good day - and I mean when I don't have anything else to do - I can maybe do 10-12k words. I started drafting IFA in March of 2021.

I like to finish before I start uploading. However, IFA was so big that I let myself start uploading chapters once I knew how it was going to end, aka once my outline (now re-worked so the chronology was more complete and the sequence of events more detailed) was finished, I posted my first chapter a few days later, in mid-April of 2021. At that point, I had also written about one-third or half of the story. I finished writing my first draft of IFA in late May of 2021.

Updating is another matter. Usually, I have to go through the chapter a few times, make sure that all the elements make nice and the themes are consistent, and my foreshadowing is coherent. Then I check spelling, punctuation, and grammar (Grammarly, my beloved). And then I do another SPAG check and read-through before posting on upload days!

So IFA was somehow me managing to write 275k in three months, but it also took a lot of other work. To be fair, though, it was also such a special project to me. Like, I had this insatiable inspiration to tell the story I wanted to tell, which has faded slightly. Although I still have ideas for this universe and The West Wing as a whole, I haven't had that much energy for writing in a while. I'm in a slow-yet-steady time right now as far as writing is concerned, working on some ideas but not chugging them out, and editing/updating IFA, which is still a lot of work. Once I'm over the hump of finishing uploading the whole story, we'll see where things go.

As a writer, my methods are streamlined to me, and this isn't a how-to or anything. Everyone has different ways of making something like this work, but this is how I do it.

I hope you don't mind my essay of an answer. As I said before, I really can write fast when the moment takes me. Anyway, thank you again for asking and I hope this answer satisfies what you were hoping to know.

[sendnotes]

books i read in april.

this is going to be my thing from now on. i'll compile a list of all the books i read in a month and share my thoughts on each one every end of the month.

just so you know, i'm a little forgetful, and i have a tendency to forget names, plots, and other details. i'm hoping that writing these will aid my memory in recalling how i felt about each novel.

you can also find me on goodreads

so, let’s begin, shall we?

101 essays that will change the way you think (wiest, brianna)

self-help book

this book got off to a good start! some of the essays written (or should i say a collection of articles originally published on the thoughtcatalog website) made me think and consider my outlook on life, love, and so on.

the title overstates the case though. when i think of an essay, i picture something more argumentative and philosophical. not to mention that the majority of the ideas in this book are redundant. it made it difficult to get through. nonetheless, i was able to get past it because there were so many fantastic concepts and topics discussed.

overall, it's an interesting & worthwhile read for those who enjoy thinking outside the box.i lost count of how many times this book gave me aha moments. i swear, most of the entries soothed my mind and provided a great pick-me-up when life seemed to be frustrating.

the midnight library (haig, matt)

science fiction, fantasy fiction, psychological fiction

regrets, self-remorse, what ifs, family approval, drugs, dreams, love, passion, hatred, death, afterlife, multiverses, quantum physics, and a plethora of possibilities packed into a 304-page book.

i'll be honest: this book is already on my list of favorites. i'm simply blown away by how well-crafted and diverse the entire story unfolded.

a sci-fi novel with a dash of fantasy and a smidgeon of philosophy. if that's your thing, you should give this book a shot.

the first few pages of the book gave me an impression and led me to surmise it was going to be a cheesy ass chick lit novel that i'd only read and find enjoyable in high school. i was completely off base. it proved to be very mature, full of lessons, but delivered in a fun and entertaining manner— exactly my cup of tea.

it reminded me of a disney pixar film called soul, in which the afterlife is depicted in vivid detail. they differ on so many levels, but they both imagine life after death for people who are unsure of their path, purpose, and passion.

every chapter served a significant concept, so this book is well-deserved of a 5-star rating!

norwegian wood (murakami, haruki)

fiction, romance novel, bildungsroman

as i read the book and neared the end, all i could think about was how this book became one of murakami's most popular and influential works.

murakami offers a sprawling glimpse into the lives of a group of severely damaged youths grappling with the realities of what emptiness entails. take what you will from it.

i know a lot of people like it, which is fine. but please keep in mind that this book hit me square in the gut. it alternated between making me angry, sad, annoyed, and disgusted almost constantly. there isn't much else.

this book should come with a warning: "this is not a good place to start if you're new to murakami's works. this is not a representative of murakami's brilliance."

fist and foremost, the characters in this book are all repulsive.

toru watanabe was a fuckboy and a softboy rolled into one. what could possibly be worse than that? he'd have as many casual sexual partners as he could while also buttering a girl up by appealing to her emotions and displaying a "sensitive" and "vulnerable" side.

this book was made even more depressing by the fact that each female character was needy, weak, dysfunctional, and dependent. since they're all the same, i'm not going to go over each of these female characters one by one. you already get the idea.

reiko ishida, imo, was one of the best rendered sections of the novel. most likely because she had a better grasp on her emotions and goals than the still seeking youths... until, *spoiler alert* she wanted to do it with toru as well. a big disappointment.

to summarize, this book is primarily concerned with two topics: sex and death.

hidden meanings are everywhere, but when you get to the core, that's all that remains.

the four agreements: a practical guide to personal freedom (ruiz, miguel)

self-help book

first agreement ⏤ be impeccable with your word

this essentially means that you should not spew gossip or use words to harm others. because words have tremendous power and can cause significant harm. you are not only negatively affecting others with your hateful and thoughtless words, but you are also hurting yourself. this is something with which i generally agree. how i see it, when people are unhappy with themselves, they turn to others to make themselves feel better. as a result, they gossip about others in order to divert attention away from themselves.

second agreement ⏤don't take anything personally

alright. sure. don't let what others say about you bother you. it has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. well, i don't entirely agree, but i think it's a fantastic idea in general. however, achieving this goal will be extremely difficult. i believe it would take a lot of practice to reach this level of zen. plus, i honestly believe that other people's opinions still matter because they keep you in check. the best advice is to not be swayed by these opinions, but to consider why they were expressed in the first place. see what you can do to improve yourself from there. sure, it can be difficult to deal with; after all, no one likes being told they're wrong or whatnot. but it's not all bad news because you can sometimes use criticism and judgment to give you a competitive edge. i mean- don't you think hearing someone else's point of view is also an opportunity to learn and progress? ruiz should have stressed that it's not just about "not taking it personally because you know you're not that person," but also about not retaliating with an extreme knee-jerk reaction even if you believe you're being unfairly criticized.

third agreement ⏤ don't make assumptions

this is a real eye-opener for me. i've noticed that whenever i become enraged by someone's words, it's usually due to my tendency to assume. personally, i can't help but make assumptions. i don't know what other people's motivations are, and i can't help but draw conclusions based on the information i have. even if the other person had no intention of causing me harm, it's too late. the thought has become ingrained in my mind, and i never ask for clarification out of pride or fear of appearing overly sensitive.

fourth agreement ⏤ always do your best

this section did not seem particularly useful to me. i mean, aren't we all reminded of this all the time? this section is filled with sloppy writing, in my opinion. as if he badly wanted to finish the book and impulsively thought: "okay, fourth agreement: always do your best. that should suffice. lmao"

overall opinion: the third agreement was my favorite, but the rest were a no-go. don't get me wrong, i appreciated his ideas, but i've heard them all a hundred times before. basically, the book's sole takeaway is that we are all suffering in some way in our daily lives, and we are all dealing with different issues. regardless, we all need to be kinder and gentler to ourselves and others.

the song of achilles (miller, madeline)

romance novel, historical Fiction, war story

i'll keep it short and sweet:

i really wouldn't have had this book any other way. miller's writing is breathtaking, so rich and full of lovely detail. it's incredibly a unique concept to me that authors are rewriting such ancient history and stories to make them lgbt+!

some suggest it's tedious, but i disagree. it isn't slow; rather, it is just right.

'cause at the end of the day, it's not about war, tragedy, or heroes - it's a slow-burning, organic love tale between two young men and their inevitable connection.

it's sad, tender, and painful, but in the best way possible.

circe (miller, madeline)

novel, historical fiction, fantasy fiction

"greek mythology, but with a feminist twist"?! sign me the hell up! this piqued my interest... only to leave me feeling completely let down. seriously now. circe was described as a "badass empowered woman," which was the single most compelling selling point for me, and thus the most wrenching disappointment, i must say.

sure, it demonstrated the value of feminine power, but it also did represent how this power can be a force of good or evil.

not to mention the fact that circe fucked a married man or two in this book- i mean- how is that an ~empowered woman~?

let's be clear right off the bat: madeline miller's follow-up to the song of achilles is epic in scope but not necessarily in execution. to me, this read more like a tedious island tale. regardless of how many five-star reviews this book has received... i just don't think it's well-deserved. don't get me wrong here. miller is a fantastic author with a lush writing! istg- i'm blown away by how beautifully she wrote and carefully chose her words. even the most mundane phrases were written poetically. after-all, it’s greek mythology. but how did she manage to make circe seem so... bland?