#this is not an emotional tell all I am seriously considering quitting feminism and honestly becoming a slvt

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I hate being gen z sometimes.

I hate the concept of virginity. I hate how vulgar casual talks in a relationship has become. Like everyone expects everyone to be okay and sexually liberated now, especially for women, but no thank you. 🎀 it never actually happened anyway.

because of this, me not wearing revealing clothing appears, to the broad public, like I’m saving myself?? I’m still uncomfortable with my body. I’m not saving myself, nor doing anything related to sex when I choose to wear modest clothing. I, as a neutral person, am uncomfortable with my body. But we know everything has to be related to sex somehow because that’s the first thing men judge women by.

—> Article I read feel like sums this up really well:

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Radfems, why am I uncomfortable with my body?? Is it a patriarchal thing or how does it connect to feminism?? Please share if you know. Please enlighten me with your deep analysis. I’m not joking. I would really like to fix this problem because I feel like maybe I should start wearing more revealing clothing so men would pay less attention to me. I refuse to believe my personality just ‘pulled them in’. (sarcasm)

I’ve seen some radfems here who talk so much smack and try to sound so perplexing and ‘smart’. If you’re that smart, then can’t you answer my question?? Here’s your time to shine. Open your eyes, most women you come across in your life, by average, are not feminist nor do they know deep feminist theory. You cannot tell me an Andrea Dworkin book makes you feel ‘positive emotions’, unless you enjoy reading about descriptions and stories of women being exploited to the bare bone.

I would really like to live a life where I never became a fully fledged feminist at all. An ally, at most, and I don’t shame sex work or slut shame other girls. That’s what most women are.

I fucking can’t. I seem to attract men more than other women, until I shaved my head. But is shaving my head really the only solution? I’m not out here trying to look like Mad Max Fury Road.

and whenever you talk about this to other women they don’t get it. is it because they want attention? Yeah obviously. I am right, aren’t I? That’s the reason why I could never find Reddit posts, quora, etc online that just says ‘I’m a woman and I hate the male attention I get.’ I’ve tried many times, believe me.

. Radical feminists, please give me the answer. Unless you’re too wrapped up in theory to actually apply your oh so complex analytical concepts on an actual real life feminist problem. I really got into feminism with the hope that it will give me the answers but it only lead to more depression and pessimism, and now I’m spiraling.

1. Should I start dressing more immodestly to attract less men?

2. Is being uncomfortable with my body only feeding more into the male gaze?

Thanks.