#this is not a post abt anybody who wld see this

[spaceboysbrainspace]

tryin to balance feelin worried w, letting them not respond if they don’t want to talk rn,

[menalez]

long question that u dont have to answer, but anybody's input wld be helpful to me!

how do u personally consolidate the idea of "telling ppl to Never Ever engage with radfem content is cult-like because if genderist ideology had strong enough arguments then they wldnt have to be so worried abt seeing opposing opinions" with the idea that "extremist groups can easily influence and then radicalise ppl by exposing them to rhetoric that preys on their sense of wanting to belong, and biases they already hold against a group (e.g. internet white supremacists radicalising white teen boys), and maybe radfems are doing the same thing"

and also ideas like "avoiding radfem ideas is for the sake of trans people's mental health so they dont have to read through content that will only end up making them feel attacked (if they're already not doing good mentally)" - with this one im not sure how to balance the line between somebody being responsible for educating themselves to understand if/why particular actions may be harmful, but also u must have to draw a line somewhere with that bc especially if ur already a person with limited energy for whatever reason, spending a lot of mental energy on research and such can take a toll eventually

tbh i view it like.. people should look at all sides, fully, and look into statements to see how true they are. and then based on THAT, come to their own conclusions. i don’t think someone should just see what a bunch of radfems post and then blindly believe it: critical thinking is key, and seeking the truth for yourself is important. hearing both sides is the best way to come to an informed conclusion. groups like white supremacists use pseudo-science and half-truths to radicalise white people that already are, frankly, at least slightly racist and uneducated on the topic. genderists do similar things tbh and plenty of groups do the same as well, even ones with good intentions. being critical of yourself, too, is important. paying attention to your own thoughts and behaviours, questioning how bias and prejudice could be behind some of your beliefs, and then addressing that. none of us are immune to prejudiced thinking and none of us are above that. the way to overcome it is to be self-aware and open to growing.

if someone wants to avoid political conversations or info bc their mental health is quite affected by such things, i think it’s best to be ignorant than to try to get involved like that. but be openly and knowingly ignorant, don’t spread bullshit lies and made up claims to support your side while not even looking into what the group you (general you here) hate actually believes. im not gonna take issue w someone not knowing about radical feminism and thus not speaking on it, but it’s frustrating (and justifiably so) when someone who doesn’t know what they’re on about makes bold claims about an ideology they know nothing of.

[ovvnwords]

WANTED  CONNECTIONS  ....  hi  here  is  a  list  of  connections  i  would  really  really  want  for  my  gremlins.  inspo  from  all  places  ;  music,  movies,  pins,  etc.  i’ll  post  this  in  the  server  /  put  it  linked  in  my  pinned  post  but  for  best  results  send  me  a  dm  on  d/scord  bc  i  suck  at  things!  thank.

AVIVA  ROUX  .  podcaster  /  content  creator (  meg  t.  stallion )  !

GIRL  GANG  !  not  necessarily  ‘girls’  but  yk  what  i  mean.  very  close  knit,  always  hanging  out,  never  one  w/o  the  other,  etc.  i  like  the  idea  of  them  all  bein’  kind  of  different  ----  breakfast  club  style?  (  aviva  cld  be  the  *jughead  vc*  i’m  a  weirdo  for  example  ).  idk  i  think  it’d  be  neat  n  interesting  cld  even  have  group  chat  edits  n  things  on  the  dash  frankly  i  wld  just  like  for  her  to  have  some  friends!  inspo  ( one  ,  two )  .

PODCAST  PARTNER  ! the  shane  to  her  ryan,  so  to  speak.  the  show  talks  about  mysteries  and  internet  oddities  and  different  spooky  things ( they  borderline  on  true  crime,  but  they  don’t  necessarily  go  into  detail  about  cases  if  that  makes  sense  )  .  i  think  the  dynamic  of  a  outrageous  thinker  to  her  pessimistic  ideals.  inspo  ( one  ,  two ,  three  ,  this  tag  ) .

YOUNGER  SIBLING  !  i  like  to  imagine  they’re  pretty  close,  maybe  close  in  age?  i  don’t  rlly  have  much  to  say  about  this  one,  should  probably  put  it  on  the  main,  but  i  love  sibling  connects  so  !

HATEHSHIP  !  someone  she  jus  can’t  stand  yet  can’t  stay  away  from.  maybe  they’re  an  asshole  but  damn  cute,  or  another  reason.  inspo (  one  )  .

ROOMMATES  ! like  to  imagine  it’s  a  bunch  of  them  living  friends-style,  either  in  the  same  apartment  or  even  building  (  or  wld  that  be  jersey  shore  style.  idk  ) but  it  cld  be  fun  especially  if  they  don’t  get  along  all  that  well  but  the  rent  is  nice  and  they  make  it  work.

FIRST  CRUSH  ! eeeeeeeeeeeee  they  cld’ve  met  when  they  were  children  and  had  one  of  those  one  day  long  things  in  elementary  school  where  they  broke  up  bc  they  didn’t  share  crayons  or  something  JSDVKJDFVKJV  they  could’ve  remained  friends,  been  neighbors,  had  crushes  or  a  fling  in  high  school  .

EX  SQUAD  !  i  like  the  idea  of  aviva  having  a  solid  friend  group  in  high  school  that  all  aren’t  good  terms  with  each  other  for  whatever  reason  ..  don’t  have  to  figure  it  out  asap  i  just  love  the  tension  thts  all.

BEST  FRIEND  /  RIDE  OR  DIE  ! someone  who  has  her  back  and  vice  versa.  supports  each  other  thru  thick  and  thin,  gives  each  other  the  whack  on  the  head  they  need  every  once  in  a  while.  inspo  (  one,  two )  .

FLING  /  FWB  /  HOOK  UPS  ! kind  of  self  explanatory.  aviva  doesn’t  really  have  a  preference,  if  she’s  attracted  to  u  she’s  attracted  to  you,  has  her  fun  but  s*x  isn’t  really  her  idea  of  a  fun  thing  to  do  24  /  7  .  like  to  imagine  she  mostly  goes  for  women  ( hey  ladies  .... )  !

EX  PARTNER  ! i  like  the  idea  of  them  being  super  cute  n  lovey  dovey  in  hs  but  then  maybe  one  of  them  went  off  to  college?  they  had  a  falling  out?  ended  on  not  so  great  terms?  the  possibilities  are  endless  to  be  frank!

RIVAL  /  ENEMY  /  SOMEONE  SHE  JUST  CAN’T  STAND  !  ig  this  could  be  more  chemsitry  based  but  they  just  avidly  dislike  each  other  for  one  reason  or  another?  can’t  stand  each  other?  petty  tweets  /  subtweets  etc  etc  .  could  be  fun  n  juicy.

FRIENDS  !  self  explanatory.

DAWSON  ELLIS .  unemployed  /  formal  journalist ( chris  pine  )  !

FRIENDS  !  self  explanatory.    he’s  40,  so  rlly  he  just  kinda  vibing.

RIVALS  /  ENEMIES  !  i  like  the  idea  of  just  hating  each  other  since  high  school  and  just  have  this  burning  hatred  for  each  other  even  after  all  this  time  …  chuckles.  inspo  (  one  )  .

PEOPLE  HE  TAKES  UNDER  HIS  WING  !  idk  what  this  could  entail  maybe  he  jus  likes  one  of  u  youngins  …  doesn’t  want  to  see  u  in  the  same  path  he  went  down,  tries  to  steer  u  straight  a  little  bit.  stuff  like  that.  very  dad  like  as  if  he  has  a  maternal  bone  in  his  body.

EX FIANCE ! heheh .. i plan on making this a wc possibly, but i like the idea of someone who he dated for a long period of time after he graduated and left irving, eventually who he proposed two. maybe his addiction could have caused a strain, maybe it was because he was traveling so much, or some other reason but then they broke it off. they came back to irving for one reason or another, he came back bc he’s sober now, there’s tension. kind of based on exile by taylor swift + bon iver .

EMPLOYER  !  this  man  needs  a  job.  so  ........    hands  on  hips  who  is  hiring.

FRIENDS  FROM  HIGH  SCHOOL  !  if  anyone  grew  up  in  irving  /  or  was  in  hs  around  the  time  he  was,  it  could  be  quite  fun  to  reconnect.  old  friends  yadda  yadda  yadda.  

SOMEONE  WHO  KNOWS  HIM  ONLY  FROM  HIS  SISTER  !  smiles  at  jean  so  wide  .....  yes  dawson  is  leonora’s  annoying  lil  brother.  he’s  very  elusive  (  or  so  he  thinks  …  )  so  .  we  cld  do  something  with  that  perhaps.

ELIJAH  PALERMO .  little  league  coach  /  student  (  lukas  gage  )  !

THE  LAST  PALERMO  SIBLING  !  yes  …  this  is  on  the  main  but  i  imagine  elijah  and  them  to  be  very  close  and  it’d  be  fun!  sorry  for  the  grey  hairs  though.

BEST  FRIEND  !  this  is  someone  elijah  trusts  more  than  jus  abt  anybody  ..  including  his  siblings  maybe.  they’re  always  together,  never  apart,  besties  forever.  causing  chaos  and  mayhem.  probably  co-parent  georgia.  knows  each  others  fast  food  orders,  encouraging  their  bad  behaviors  …  

EXES  !  i  like  to  imagine  elijah  is  the  type  to  rush  into  a  relationship  then  have  it  all  turn  to  shit.  could  be  on  good  terms,  bad  term,  neutral.  

EX  FRIENDS  !  along  the  same  vein,  maybe  they  had  a  falling  out?  one  of  them  just  didn’t  want  to  be  friends  anymore?  they  just  stopped  talking?  give  me  angst  thank  u.

FRIENDS  !  hes  so  talkative  and  annoying  please  give  him  more  friends  …  my  personal  favorites  are  old  couple  bickering  /  complete  opposites  /  good  or  bad  influences  /  new  age  “thembo  summit”  where  there’s  no  got  damn  thought  in  anyones  head  just  vibes.

FLIRTATIONSHIP  !  they  flirt  …  they  give  each  other  eyes.  and  yet?  nothing.  wtf.

HOOK  UPS  /  FWBS  !  they’re  hot.  and  he  has  eyes.  it’s  basic  math.  

RIVAL  /  ENEMY  !  i  like  to  imagine  elijah  didn’t  mean  to  be  rude  /  or  did  something  bad  to  this  person  but  he  did,  even  accidentally,  but  now  they  hate  him.  or  even  mutual  hatred  <3  constant  subtweets  n  petty  comments  in  public  …

PARTY  BUDDIES  !  theyre  always  together  at  parties  …  self  explanatory.  

PARENT  OF  KIDS  HE  COACHES  !  self-explanatory.

CLASSMATES  !  must  go  to  community  college,  but  otherwise  self-explanatory.  

WILL  THEY  /  WON’T  THEY  !  i  love  this  kinda  shit  ..  theyre  constantly  acting  like  a  couple  but  also  aren’t  one.  everyone  is  dying  to  know  like  …...  so  isn’t  eli  <3

HATEHSHIP  !  they  hate  each  other  .  but  also  f*ck.  then  hate  each  other  again.

ROOMMATES  !  pls  give  him  a  roommate  this  fucker  can’t  function  by  himself.

KALANI  MADDEN  .  student  (  auli’i  cravalho  )  !

PEOPLE  SHE  TEACHES  ASL  !  this  is  my  favorite.  pls  pls  pls.  she  uses  asl  as  her  primary  source  of  communication,  she’s  most  comfortable  with  it  due  to  her  hearing,  but  many  people  don’t  know  it  so  pls  let  her  teach  ur  muse  i’d  love  it  so  much.

FRIENDS  /  BEST  FRIENDS  !  i’d  love  to  have  a  lil  squad  ..  lil  baby  squad  or  even  just  a  best  friend  who  they’re  always  sharing  tiktoks  over  videos  and  having  sleepovers  and  going  to  wendys  at  1  am  bc  they’re  bored.  

RIVALS  /  ENEMIES  !  people  who  just  don’t  fuckin  like  her  bc  she’s  annoying  like  i  understand.

PEOPLE  WHO  DON’T  TAKE  HER  SHIT  /  HATE  HER  DRAMATICS  !  pls  hate  her.  punt  her  to  the  moon.  

PEOPLE  SHE  SPOILS  WITH  HER  PARENTS  MONEY  !  pls  let  her  sugar  mama  u.  she  will  buy  u  legit  anything  if  ur  nice  to  her.  

FLIRTATIONSHIP  !  this  wld  be  a  bit  cute  ..  almost  a  will  they  won’t  they  vibe.  they  flirt.  they  smile.  they  make  googley  eyes.  they  subtweet  each  other.  it’s  messy  and  cute.  

BAD  INFLUENCES  /  GOOD  INFLUENCES  !  people  who  lead  her  either  down  a  really  good  or  really  bad  path.  

PEOPLE  SHE  KNOWS  BC  OF  HER  BROTHER  !  self-explanatory  but  also  kind  of  need  him  for  this  so  .  hehe  .

HER  BROTHER  !  on  the  main,  but  pls  bring  this  kid  her  parent  (  almost  )  .

PEOPLE  SHE  KNEW  BACK  IN  NYC  !  self-explanatory.  her  family  is  very  wealthy,  famous  in  the  social  scene.

[philadelphiadisneyhole]

tw: abusive workplaces & also long ass post

Lets go thru every job ive had and the ways theyve forced me into being a part of institutional capitalist violence.... My first job at a bagel shop wed throw away 2 trash bags full of bagels most days. Sometimes ppl took them for stuff but only 2-3 times a week, and my boss had cameras on the dumpster and NO DUMPSTER DIVING signs everywhere.

I did 2 different telefunding jobs for universities, this ones not as obvious I gues but I think fundraising is kinda manipulative and gross. Like we HAD to do those 3 asks or maybe your boss would be listening in to your call and youd get a strike. My first strike was because I didnt keep pressing a woman who said she cldnt afford to donate because she had just sunk so much into her sons cancer treatment, only to find out recently she herself had cancer as well. Idk why colleges need so much money from alumni when fucking they make so much in tuition.

not quite the same thing, but i worked at a restauraunt paying minimum wage despite being one of the most popular and beloved joints in the area. The work culture was so horrifically misogynist, i didnt wanna stand up for myself or other nonmale coworkers bc the harassment wld be relentless. i couldnt stop covering shifts for the assholes who made fun of me for a whole 6 hr shift for being bi because i needed the money. Like its an open secret locally that its a shit place to work but no change will ever be made.

Also not quite the same thing but when i was a canvasser here in phl i used to sit in starbucks and shit w/o buying anything to keep warm and take breaks. Months later at the same starbucks id loiter at, a black man had the police called on him for doing the same thing. The exact same store.

When i worked at the hershey museum a documentary came out exposing the whole cocoa industry for using child labor & slavery--something hershey has been doing since its founding. We were given a fun lil statement to memorize and rattle off to anybody who asked us abt hersheys involvement in the unethical cocoa industry. They Paid Me 12 Dollars An Hour To Be a Propaganda Mouthpiece For A Multibillion Dollar Corporation.

And like i said in the notes of the post i reblogged, i worked at a corner store w/ extremely racist and anti-homeless bosses. I had a man threaten to shoot my coworker and i when he tried to stop him from shoplifting like. 1 case of beer. The reason I had to quit was bc they put a sensor in the corner of the store we cldnt see as well where ppl shoplifted the most-it was the section where we sold toiletries, which unhoused ppl need so desperately- and it would sound out a little chime so we would know to look up and watch the cameras. I was getting pavlovian dog trained to stop ppl from stealing SOAP!!!

TLDR; just abt every workplaces not only exploits its workers, but forces the employees to participate in the exploitation of others and the overall system of abusive low wage labor. and it is is so. demoralizing. dehumanizing... thats why ppl load themselves up w hours so theyre too tired when they get home to even think abt how shit their life is. somethings GOT TO GIVE!!!!!!

[rememberebonyjanice]

1. I post this video every year in #FathersDay because it is still a perfect reflection of my relationship with my dad. I do the most. He looks at me awkwardly. We secretly wld fight anybody for each other. That might not be a “secret” for all people but it is what it is. Weirdos unite! 2. This picture of me and my dad is also a fave of mine because even tho my dad is a weirdo now (lol) when I was a little girl, I actually remember preferring him to wake me up over my mother. My mom wld y’all up the stairs, “GET UP!” My dad wld come pull the covers back and gently be like, “Wake up Daugh-ter.” Lol! It’s sweet for me to think of that today because my dads voice usually sounds like he is ready to Boom. He isn’t. It’s just how he sounds. But every now and then, with me, he is very gentle and I am in awe thinking - where did he learn that? Certainly not from his daddy. Who taught him to be tender? I think me. 3. Yesterday my dad told me this story that when I was like 6, I out worked a grown man so my dad fired him on the spot. I just feel like this shld tell you everything you need to know abt me and my daddy! .... Father’s Day is really tricky for so many for so many reasons. Even for me. With a father in my life daily - I still get to Father’s Day and be like... Man! I wish my dad had therapy before he had children. But also, my dad is such a great dad! I genuinely believe he gives us everything he is able to give. And while that doesn’t change the more that we want, and even the more that we deserve... I’m so grateful for such a beautifully complex man... seeing me as the in charge little girl I’ve always been (he calls me Ms. Moore 😂😩 or Mama) and also seeing me tenderly and soft and calling me his Baby Girl, his Princess, his ride or die! And that’s on Our Guiding Ancestor, Bernice - Pooh! #FathersDay #HappyFathersDay (at Sandusky, Ohio) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBtArelJd9l/?igshid=1xnige2biellx

[spaceboysbrainspace]

there is a read more here, please like if u read! it is me sayin’ a thing they said 2 me, at one point

“I feel like I’ve put so much more work into taking care of you than you’ve put into taking care of me in this relationship”

but also, right, there was nothing they recognized as doin the right thing? i tried to ask what wld help! and what they wanted me 2 do! and they just got frustrated at me for asking! like sometimes they would say that they wanted me to take care of them and sometimes they would say that they didn’t want to talk about it could i stop asking and acting like something was wrong!

on their brother’s birthday they were in a different room n i went to just like, say hi (idk maybe i felt like something was wrong but i doubt i felt that any more than normal? like something was always a little wrong, i think,), i didn’t honestly even remember what day it was, and it wasn’t right in that moment but later they came up to me at some point and told me that they felt like i was monitoring them and they didn’t want to feel monitored just bc it was their brother’s birthday,

like what,

how’m I supposed to,

do anything that u would see as putting work into the relationship if u, don’t want to see that i’m concerned, bc that’s annoying to u, 

and even if i’m not actually putting extra work in u see it as me putting extra work in, and then get annoyed at me for it, for a thing i wasn’t doing,

and the first thing i wrote in this post wasn’t them tryna make me feel bad or anything they just stated it as like “we’re breaking up soon and we’re both a little relieved about it and here’s one of the reasons i am” and it came w the implication of “your mental illness means that u need more care and it’s ok that that’s what it means its just also tiring for me”

and they never did the thing that was like “this will make it hard for u to be w anybody” they were always like “you will find a person who is better at this than i am in the future”

but that,,,

and part of this is like, I was always tryna put in work, right, I was always tryna moderate myself (which like they told me the same was true for them, they felt like they always had to b aware of whether something was gonna upset me, and i! Feel terrible abt that! Always! I think abt that always! I never want to make someone feel like that ever ever ever!) (I also don’t know tho that that’s, fair, bc, I think, maybe, I was just like, asking to be taken into consideration? But I’m! Don’t know if that’s true!), so like, yeah I a little resent them saying they put more work into it than me, bc they literally told me they didn’t want to see the work I put in,