#this is basically what happened right

[dailyfalsesymmetry]

day 66

bugs

[mxmarsbars]

basically what happened

original by @/bedpup on twitter ^.^

[that-nerd-who-writes-fanfiction]

Merlin: This is very a powerful and dangerous artefact. You’d be messing with magic we don’t fully understand. 

Arthur: That sounds like a dare.

Merlin: nO!

[cirr0stratus]

The Last Patrol: a summary

[pizzaboat]

Phoebe is accidentally a complex character?? Friends? Hit and miss show. Not the most tightly written, Ross and Rachel got together somehow in the end. But Phoebe's transition from a somewhat ditzy, altruistic and empathetic person, to a manipulative, selfish and callous person (at times) makes sense.

She's got the most complex trauma of the group, but the least support and acknowledgement. She's on the outside, both metaphorically and physically, Rachel mentioning that Phoebe lifts right out of the group and it wouldn't change anything

All the characters have their issues, family trauma or romantic drama, but it's palatable and you can show it on a sit-com without branching too closely into dark humor. Exploring all of Phoebe's issues would change the tone of the show and the tone of the lives of the characters in the group

So the characters and the show treat all the Phoebe weirdness and dark references as "Okay Phoebe." Moments. There's a tone of awareness for all the odd shit from Phoebe's family where the show let's you know it views Phoebe's family as a bunch of freaks and the joke is that Phoebe doesn't see that or doesn't care about that

But imagine you're in a friend group where all your biggest problems and traumas are too much for your friends, but yet you're hearing about your friend Rachel and your friend Ross for the millionth time

And how hard their relatively easy lives are, to yours. Even your more emotionally messed up friends like Monica and Chandler don't get it, and their lives look like dreams compared to your own.

They had parents and homes, no matter how dysfunctional, they never had to weigh up the pros and cons of sleeping with a homeless man for food

Because you will make references to torture, suicide and family members in jail, and they can all only ignore it or look at you like it's so sad, or too much to listen to

You're gonna resent those friends and say... become bitter, like later seasons Phoebe is. It makes sense that during Phoebe's pregnancy she starts tearing people new ones, and tells Rachel that no one gives a shit about her and Ross because there ARE bigger problems

Those are Phoebe's thoughts, she's just on a shorter fuse and that fuse gets shorter as the show goes on. I think Phoebe becomes more aware of how on the outside she really is, and feels less remorse about engaging in manipulative habits like Ursela to get what she wants, or to lead her oblivious and stubborn friends to the realisations they need

Like showing Rachel she actually did want the baby by lying about the second pregnancy test being negative, or when she manipulated Monica into agreeing to host thanks giving in season 10 by identifying what makes Monica tick and weaponising it

By the time Phoebe and Mike are getting married, Phoebe is at her highest point of wanting something good for herself. I think she leans so heavily into doing the right thing and depriving herself for cosmic karma, because she wants to believe she's okay, and she surrounds herself with weirdness and odd friends outside of the cast because she wants to believe she isn't as messed up as she feels

That what happened was bad, but she isn't too affected by it, and she can prove that by depriving herself of normalcy continously until she reaches her limit. Because Phoebe is not an accepting person by season 10. The show itself had taken a more conservative and judgmental tone a long time ago, but Phoebe had actually grown very close minded in a lot of ways

So I don't believe she's just open minded for the sake of open mindedness. She was just leaning back on familiar habits and situations on the side

And so when Mike and her have the choice for a normal wedding, she jumps on it with little prodding from Monica, and Phoebe demands the money back from a charity her and Mike donated to a children's charity

And Phoebe gets angry and defends her actions against the charity worker when he tries to guilt them afterwards. Her main argument being that she deserves a normal wedding after a shit life. She then reveals a traumatic experience that Mike attempts to comfort her for after in the cafe

(Note I think this is the first time anyone has acknowledged what Phoebe has said about her past and said she didn't deserve it)

Mike is up for whatever Phoebe wants, and supports her, if she wants to do the "moral thing" and not have the big wedding she secretly wants, or if she wants to march back to the charity and do a "selfish deed", he doesn't make Phoebe feel bad either which way about it.

I think that's why she's the closest to her season 1 self with him. She's acted in a softer manner, especially around the wedding. But that's a whole tangent.

Phoebe likely became friends with the other friends because there was something inside of her that recognised she wanted normal, even if she was telling herself she was fine. They were not the kind of people she would've befriended when she was younger, she's said that herself, and eventually she grows to resent them a little as she gets older and a little colder

Because their normalcy both frustrates and fascinates her, because she can't breech it with the experiences she has, she can't relate an anecdote to one of their pasts, the same way one of them could do to another person

And she even makes jokes about that too. Where she'll be like "this reminds me of the time when-" and she'll say something crazy messed up, and one of the friends will be like "that's nothing like what happened to me." And she'll shrug and nod, and the laugh track will play, or she'll say "exactly, its nothing like that, because that was a real problem."

The only person Phoebe seems to sit at a middle ground with is Joey, and I think that's because Joey never really makes her feel weird, and he's just strange himself and his life direction is quite pathetic. He's kind and has a good heart. He's just sorta there in season 10 as well

But for the rest of the characters, Phoebe's fascination probably turned to mild bitterness and frustration in later seasons, which would explain her change in behaviour through the seasons

An example of this is in season 1s thanks giving vs season 10s thanks giving. In season 1

Phoebe has the empathy to look guilty and sad when Monica starts crying and hyperventilating over the ruined dinner as she explains how used and underappreciated she feels

And after more yelling starts with the group, you can see Phoebe yelling at Ross in the background, looking like she's getting between him joining the rest of the group who are arguing with eachother and Monica.

I think she looked guilty and then had the sense to back Monica up (because that was also Phoebe's first thanks giving with friends and Monica saying that stuff about how it was her first likely soarked empathy and guilt)

(and for contrast to change and cruelty Chandler makes fun of Monica and tells her only dogs can hear her noise)

But by season 10, Phoebe has no remorse or guilt about manipulating Monica into making the dinner. She identifies what would make Monica want to make the dinner and then doesn't feel any guilt (along with the rest of the friends) for standing Monica and Chandler up at the dinner

She's got that disconnect from the group and she's past empathising. She's getting what she wants, and what she wants is dinner and to have Rachel take Emma to that pagent. Winning matters more than the ethics of insisting your friend who didn't want to cook, cook dinner, and then stand them up after

The show isn't perfect, or even well written all of the time, but Phoebe's mess makes a weird amount of sense when you analyse her behaviour and ethics shift

She's a woman who's seen and been through too much, and she changes her coping mechanisms from denial and altruism to selfishness and indignation over time. Phoebe isn't a bad person like Ursela, but she's not this ideal person she once tried to be either

[boommstickbvtcher]

anybody remember this scene

[martyrbat]

batman #105

[awigglycultist]

Pete: When did you become a hero?

Max: Um… the moment I saved you from getting killed

Pete: You’re the last person on earth I wanted to rescue me

Max: Well… sucks to be you, don’t it

[mothsimonpendragon]

KH3 Toy Box in a nutshell

[jmgangel]

Blade: Gee, Firefly! How come Elio lets you have three deaths?

[baka-monarch]

Polyphemus: fuck! Mr Posideon crease his jordans!

Posideon: CREASING JORDANS.

[momspren]

Emperor: I will not accept this! I'm annuling the betrothals!

Kui'er: father

Emperor: no.

Kui'er: father I have bad news

Emperor: no you do not.

Kui'er: father I already married him

Emperor: you WH

And then the Emperor had a heart attack

[bunnieswithknives]

Thanks.

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[dykebeckett]

sorry are there people who think doctor who is not going to get another season. doctor fucking who? from the nineteen sixties? sixty one year old doctor who? she will be fine

[demiboydemon]

(He’s not saying no 👀)

[egophiliac]

his magic is so PINK and FLUFFY and PRETTY! I love it!

I'm ready to process the Diasomnias now, buckle up