#third guy i liked romantically is monogamous and has a boyfriend

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so yeah fuck romance btw

[thestupidhelmet]

Do you think Jay's womanizing could be explained by his father's and uncles' constant bragging about his conquests when he was growing up? It would make sense for him to turn out like you described, but the way he turned out in the actual show could also make a lot of sense if you imagine his father and uncles sharing TMI about their own sex lives or saying things like: "don't settle down, sleep with as many girls as you can, that's the life" or "you are twelve and you still haven't kissed a girl? You need to get right on it, you're behind!" This kind of upbringing would produce a womanizer but the show could have delved more into that and had Jay tell more stories about his home life than just "my mom is mad that I set the carpet on fire"

I think it's a plausible possibility -- without Jackie being his mother or in his life. But Jackie would've made Jay the center of her life, especially with Kelso stepping out in her regularly (a reasonable extrapolation based on his T7S characterization and their relationship in both T7S and T9S).

Jackie would not want Jay emulating his father, despite that -- or because -- she can't disentangle her romantic feelings from Kelso. While she's her T7S S1-S4 controlling and somewhat violent self to T9S Kelso, she could very well treat Jay in a much more loving way. We know she's capable of it with the right influences and motivation.

With a mom who respects, loves, and supports him, Jay would (hopefully) not develop the misogyny Kelso and his male siblings have due, in large part, to their mother's inability to parent so many children and give the attention each needs. As Eric tells Kelso in "Stolen Car" (T7S S1), Kelso's parents have seven kids and won't notice Kelso is missing or have the wherewithal to care that one was arrested.

Of course, Kelso's father is equally responsible. But from what we see of him in "Career Day" (T7S 1x18), he's not turned into his emotions. He's a worker, possibly a workaholic. He's not the dad to play a baseball game with his kids or take them to a baseball game.

But for Kelso and Casey, at least, their anger and resentment at their upbringing is transferred onto all women since their mother is likely the parent who was physically present and doing most of the parenting -- and probably at her wits' end with seven of them to raise.

Jackie has one child in T9S. Despite that she's a Jackie whose relationship with Hyde is cut from her core, her core still contains her potential to love unconditionally, her emotional insight, her reflex to be helpful and supportive, her potential to be self-aware. Jay would've gotten the best of Jackie while growing up with the discipline and boundaries Kelso is incapable of giving him.

For example, he wouldn't have stolen Nate's bike because Jackie would've made sure Jay had the best of everything, partly to (over)compensate for the father he has and her toxic relationship with him.

Kelso's sex talk(s) would consist of "doing it as much and as often as you can. That'll prove you're the hottest guy around, and everyone'll look up to you. Also, most chicks'll expect you to be monogamous. Just tell them you are and have sex with whoever you want. It worked for me. Your mom still married me --twice -- despite all the cheating I do -- I mean did. Yeah. 'Cause she'd rather be with the hottest cheater than the loserist monogamist."

(^^^ This is before the third divorce and third remarriage).

Jackie's sex talks would also be romantic relationship talks. First, she'd tell him to ignore everything his dad said. Then she'd say, "Find out who the girl you like really is. It's easy to ignore red flags if you want an idea of a girl badly enough. Don't mistake what's fantasy for what's real.

"If you don't want to be 'tied down' to one girl, that's okay. Just be honest with the girls you date. Let them know you aren't interested in being anyone's full-time boyfriend. Then they have the choice to hook up with you or not. You wouldn't want a girl you really, really like to lie to you about that, right? And being silent about the truth is the same as lying."

Jay might ask her why she stays "with Dad" or keeps going back to him.

Jackie says, "You are a wonderful, smart, creative boy. You can be whoever you want. Have what you truly want. Don't settle for less than what you're worth."

Jay says, "Wait ... are you telling me you settled for Dad? Why?"

Jackie says, "I'm telling you that you don't have to settle."

Jackie refuses to elaborate, but Jay wants to know why his great mom would settle for his not-so-great dad. This would be a driving force because it's an inextricable part of his own identity (as forged by his upbringing).

[vancilocs]

1-1 for radu and mateo?

i went with the assumption this meant 1-11 instead

1. What's your oc's gender identity? What's their relationship to their gender?

Radu's a man, and quite comfortable in it

Mateo's a man, comfortable like that, hasn't paid it much thought

2. What's your oc's orientation? (Romantic/sexual/platonic alterous ect) Do they have opinions about it?

Gay, and he will mention it liberally (sees hot man? "Wow I'm gay." Has to do something but he's tired? "No I'm gay I can't")

Pansexual, just vibing, gender/sex has no bearing he will attract everyone. Also polyamorous who favors having 2 partners

3. How did your oc discover themself? Did something cause them to question, or did they always know?

He kinda always knew, stared at pics of male models at clothing stores for too long as a kid, googled "two boys kissing" at like 11, got a painful gay crush on a straight friend as a teen, realized in ballet class that it was doing things to him etc.

He's always kept his options open because looks don't do anything to him, so when he realized a masculine voice did it for him too he was kinda like huh. Okay I can work with this. Got into polyamory through other people/being a third in a relationship, found out it suit him too

4. Is your oc's environment supportive about their identity? How does this impact them?

Mariya was very supportive, after all they're very close, Val laughed abt the google results Radu forgot to delete but he's bi himself so it would never have been a problem

Very supportive. Mateo has a lot of foster and adopted siblings who come from all walks of life and all that is accepted

5. How did you figure out your oc's identity?

Started off with it

It's almost like the default but also he was meant for a guy and a nb person so

6. How does your oc feel about labels? Theirs, or in general?

Uses gay liberally, has no issue with labels

Doesn't really label himself, just says that everything goes. If someone really wants to know he will say pan, no problem

7. Is there something that could cause your oc to question their identity? What?

He knows very well what he wants and likes, even when he had his worst issues with his own body he still wanted things, just didn't want others to see

He's so fluid and cool with it, so no. Even if he's comfortable in a monogamous relationship it won't make him question himself being poly

8. Have they had struggles with their identity, be it due to internal or external reasons?

Not particularly

Nah

9. Are there cultural or lore specific aspects to their identity? If applicable, does their species affect it?

With how far we are into the future I don't apply the kind of homophobia Slavic or South American Catholic cultures would have

10. Does your oc celebrate Pride? How?

Doesn't go over the top but a rainbow flag can be at his home year round

Not particularly

11. Is your oc open about their identity? Are they more lowkey or more blunt about it? Why or why not?

General social anxiety stops him from talking abt it to strangers but friends do know

He's very casual about it but will do stuff like mention having ex-boyfriends if it applies

[thekatebridgerton]

Why I really hate love triangles

So you guys know I grew up in the golden era of rom coms and teen tv. and a part I always found annoying about most teen dramas was that the main character meets the male lead and he ALWAYS had a girlfriend already.

Usually a blonde cheerleader, who was mean to the main character for apparently no reason.

Of course there was the love triangle that marked my absolute hatred of the trope: the 3 main leads in the vampire diaries.

And then I grew up and realized why I've always felt so uncomfortable with love triangles and it's that, the main person the other two are fighting for SHOULD HAVE BROKEN UP WITH THEIR PAETNER BEFORE FLIRTING WITH SOMEONE ELSE

As an adult, I understand Ms Blonde cheerleader in teen Rom coms. If you have a boyfriend who's supposed to be monogamous and he has a tendency to flirt with every nerdy brunettes / new girl in school of course you're going to be angry. Of course you're going to tell this chick that he's taken. He obviously forgot to do it himself. (Note, this guy never outright opens the conversation telling the main character he's taken)

And I hate how the love triangle plot device glorifies the fact that the main character is flirting with someone who is already in a monogamous relationship and justifies it by saying that the person their crush is dating is mean.

Like no. I don't care if he's dating Satan. He should break up with her before even putting the flirty eye on you Ms main character. That's asshole behavior

Same when it's the main character who is dating someone that really likes them, but main character likes someone else. Main character that's still a bad thing! Why are you stringing this guy along into what he believes is a committed relationship when you're still flirting with your ex/ best friend/ bad boy you know isn't good for you.

Look Elena, flirting with Damon when you're dating Stefan still makes you a morally bankrupt asshole, even if you're not sleeping with the guy! Stefan thinks you're trustworthy enough to leave alone in the same room as Damon. It's downright cruel to not breakup with him when you really like someone else.

So yeah I guess that I hate the love triangle trope because it always turns my favorite characters into assholes.

The character is either:

1) the asshole who is in a committed relationship and still thinks flirting with someone else is okay

2) the jerk flirting with someone clearly in a committed relationship

3) The heartbroken idiot who has to suffer because of the choices of the other two. But still tries their best to get the attention of their romantic lead.

I can understand a love triangle where the third person understands that the main lead likes someone else and never outright dates them because they know it's asking for trouble.

Or a love triangle where the agreement of the two who are in a committed relationship is that they're not really romantic and will never be romantic. So the third person is aware that the main lead may fall inlove with someone else one day.

But a love triangle where two people really love one and the third person is an indecisive asshole who just toys with the genuine feelings of the other two.

Why is that a romantic trope? Why do people like this? That's awful!!

And there you have it in a nutshell, why I couldn't completely enjoy s2 of Bridgerton. They turned Anthony, Kate and Edwina into something I dislike deeply

And the sad thing is that the love triangle trope, which I hate so much is usually the one that follows the jealousy trope which is in fact one of my favorite tropes ever.

This is why I find it supremely much more enjoyable when the jealousy trope doesn't evolve into a cruel love triangle and rather prefer when it's followed by the friends fake dating trope. Or when the main characters reconcile and confess their love before a third person falls inlove with one of them

And that's the tea

[unfolded73]

Partners (1/1) - schitt’s creek ff

The third of a series of snapshot fics centered around stages in David and Patrick’s relationship and the way they label it. Set some time between 5x06: Rock On and 5x08: The Hospies. (ao3)

Rated Explicit, 3267 words. Previous fic in this series: Boyfriends; “I Love You”

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Partner, n. a person with whom one shares an intimate relationship; one member of a couple

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“Stevie, no,” David said as she put a big bottle of discount shampoo into her grocery cart. “We sell shampoo at the store.”

“And are you going to give me some for free? Because I can’t afford the shampoo at your store.”

He wasn’t going to give it to her for free. She got enough free wine from them as it was.

They rounded the end of the aisle and moved onto the next one, where Stevie threw a box of tampons into her cart. “No comments.”

“Why would I comment? It’s a normal part of being a vagina-having human.”

“Oh, I didn’t mean that. I just figured you’d have an opinion on what brand I was buying.”

David sniffed. “It would seem you’ve found the limit to my wealth of opinions.”

Stevie had moved on to the condoms, and she pulled two boxes off the little hook, throwing one in her cart and one in David’s.

“Oh,” he said. “I don’t—”

“Don’t tell me those aren’t your brand; I’ve seen you buy them plenty of times.”

“No, it’s not that.” He carefully put the box back. “I just don’t need any.”

Stevie shot him a pitying look. “Patrick’s not putting out anymore?”

“No!” he said indignantly as he continued pushing his cart down the aisle. “We’re just not, um, using… condoms. Anymore.”

Stevie stopped and stared at him. “That’s a big deal.”

“It’s not that big a deal,” David said, concentrating on his cart. “I have to go back; I forgot Patrick’s cereal.”

“So you’re saying it’s not a big deal that you’re here, buying groceries for the boyfriend with whom you’ve practically moved in and with whom you’re no longer using condoms.”

“I haven’t moved in, I just happen to know he’s out of cereal,” David said, trying not to smile.

“Because you’re exclusive,” she continued, bumping his shoulder. “Monogamous.”

“We aren’t seeing other people because we’re in a committed relationship.” David replayed Patrick saying those words in his mind a lot. Committed relationship. “And he says he has no interest in seeing other people, so.”

“Yeah, I heard about Ken,” Stevie said.

“Who told you about that?” David said, wincing.

“I got the full rundown from Alexis and from Patrick.”

David huffed. “So given that, and that we got tested ages ago, we decided to forego the condoms from now on.” He didn’t tell her the other thing that Patrick had asked him to promise: that if anything ever did happen with someone else, for either of them, the important thing was that they be honest with each other about it. Patrick said he could forgive infidelity, but he wouldn’t be able to forgive his health being put at risk in the interest of keeping a secret. It was an incredibly mature position to take, and David was still trying to wrap his head around the implications of it: that Patrick thought their relationship was solid enough to withstand something that serious. David had always thought of romantic relationships as something ephemeral that could be blown away by the prevailing winds. Not something stable, with thick stanchions sunk deep into the earth.

“That means you also have no interest in seeing other people,” Stevie said.

“Why would I want to see other people? I had a lifetime of seeing other people, and it didn’t hold a candle to…” He blinked. He was getting way over-emotional for the frozen food aisle, where Stevie was currently putting a couple of frozen pizzas into her cart. “Get one of the pepperoni and sausage,” he told her.

“These are for me. Get your own.” She shot him a smirk. “Didn’t hold a candle to what?”

“To being with someone who knows me,” David said quickly.

“Hmm.” Stevie led David over to the cereal aisle so that he could get Patrick’s breakfast cereal. “And you realize that he probably feels the same way, right? Which is why he doesn’t care about experiencing other guys at this point either.”

“Yes, I realize that now,” David said, meeting her eyes.

“Good.” Stevie nodded, but then her face contorted into a grimace. “God, David, you’re so happy. It’s disgusting.”

~~~

David found himself surprised by his own confidence in their relationship when he noticed Patrick checking out a hot guy in bike shorts who stopped by the store. Rather than a stab of jealousy, he just felt a sort of warmth about it, that after so many years of not knowing himself and even after the Ken debacle, Patrick was allowing himself to openly admire another man. So when the guy left with a bottle of juice and was back on his bike outside, David grinned and commented, “This town has a criminal shortage of asses that perfect.”

And rather than looking guilty, Patrick laughed. “Oh my god, right?”

“Aside from yours, of course.”

Patrick snorted. “Sure,” he said, and once again David had to restrain himself from delivering his well-researched, thoroughly-sourced lecture on the perfection of Patrick’s ass to the man himself.

“Maybe we should carry more items geared to cyclists. Reusable water bottles, energy bars, that kind of thing,” David mused.

Patrick looked impressed. “That’s actually a great idea, even if it is rooted in your desire to check out guys’ asses.”

“Not just guys. I like the asses of all genders.”

“Okay, fine. But my point is, Elmdale has a long-distance cycling club. We could do some good business with them if they’re motivated to stop in town while they’re out riding on summer weekends.”

They spent the rest of the afternoon putting together a plan for sourcing fitness-related products, with frequent interruptions to help customers or for shameless innuendo between the two of them, and all of it was fun. Working with Patrick was fun. Flirting with Patrick was fun. Just being in Patrick’s presence was fun, and the fact that they’d been dating for over a year hadn’t made any of it any less fun.

Of course, none of that meant David didn’t still have a possessive streak, and the next time the hot cyclist stopped in the store, David might’ve made a point of dragging his fingers along Patrick’s back where the guy could see.

“You might be interested in these new artisanal protein bars we’re testing,” Patrick told the cyclist, giving David a pointed look like he knew what he was doing.

“Are they good?” Hot cyclist asked.

“I make a point of not eating things with that much granola in them, but my partner assures me they are,” David said, winking at Patrick.

They sold him four bars.

~~~

The thing was, the word ‘partner’ had always been a regular part of their vocabulary since they owned a business together, so when it started to slip out of David’s mouth in contexts that had less and less to do with the business, at first he didn’t realize the import of it. It was Alexis who had to point it out to him one evening when he was hanging out at the motel while Patrick was at the Wobbly Elm with his baseball team.

“You’ve started calling Patrick your partner,” she said.

David squinted up at her from his journal. “What? He’s my business partner.”

“Yeah, but that’s not what you mean by it now. You mean partner. You know. Partner.”

He opened his mouth to protest, and then closed it just as quickly with a click.

“Like you guys are in it for the long haul.”

“Maybe we are,” David said, and oh fuck. Maybe they were.

“Are you going to propose?” she asked.

“What?” His mind whited out at even the suggestion of them… would Patrick want that? To marry him?

“You did always want to get married, David.”

“When I was young and naive and didn’t know that most people are terrible, fickle users.” But he thought about the wedding scrapbook from his childhood that he’d crammed into a suitcase on impulse when they’d been forcibly ejected from their house, the one that was now hidden under the knitwear in his cedar chest.

Alexis huffed, closing her magazine. “Yeah, but Patrick’s not. Patrick’s a sweetie and for some reason he loves you. You might want to lock that down.”

“Patrick’s been engaged before and he had an existential crisis about it,” David said.

“Patrick is gay and was engaged to a woman, so I don’t think that’s relevant.”

“Well, in any case, it’s too soon to… it’s too soon.”

Alexis shrugged.

“What would you do if Ted proposed again?” David asked.

“I’m pretty sure I ruined any chance of that happening. But who knows? Maybe I’ll propose to him someday. No reason I couldn’t ask him to marry me if I wanted to,” Alexis said, picking up her magazine and pretending to be interested in it.

“No,” David said faintly, not thinking about Alexis and Ted at all. “No reason at all.”

David’s conversation with Alexis about his and Patrick’s future was still on his mind at work the next day, which made Patrick’s grumpy mood particularly ill-timed.

“What is up with you?” David asked when Patrick thumped some of their precious merchandise down on a shelf a little too aggressively for the third time.

“I’ve been too busy to go grocery shopping and I was out of milk this morning,” he grumbled.

David winced, because he was pretty sure he’d used up a lot of that milk himself.

“And the stupid dryer in my apartment building ruined another one of my shirts,” Patrick continued.

“Well, is that really such a great loss?” David asked.

Patrick shot him a baleful look. “Really?”

“Sorry, sorry.”

Patrick waved it away and started heading into the back, then just as quickly swung back around. “Did you call the other contractors on the list about giving us a quote on the bathroom reno?”

“Ronnie’s quote is fine. I told you we don’t need—”

“David.” Patrick’s hands went to his hips.

“She’s our friend.” Which wasn’t exactly true — for some reason Ronnie’d never been more than politely skeptical of Patrick. But she was David’s friend.

“And conveniently, if we go with Ronnie you don’t have to call anyone else.”

“Excuse me, maybe I want to support another small business in town,” David said. “If it’s so important, why don’t you call the other contractors?”

“Because I’ve got a million other things to do!” Patrick shouted, his hands flung up in annoyance. “But whatever, do what you want.” And he stalked into the back.

Patrick stayed hidden away throughout the rest of the morning while David helped customers, his stomach in a knot and the press of tears behind his eyes. He hated when they fought. Fortunately it didn’t happen often, but David wallowed internally while he sold people jars of honey and hand-knitted sweaters and body milk.

He finally stuck his head in the back at a quarter past noon. “Do you want a sandwich from the café?”

“Yeah,” Patrick said, not looking up from the filing drawer he was searching through. “Thanks.”

When David returned, he walked carefully over to Patrick’s desk and set the styrofoam container down in front of him. “I told Twyla that you were angry with me, and she gave you an extra pickle.”

Patrick looked up, his eyes sorrowful. “I’m not angry with you. I’m sorry I shouted. I was having a bad morning and I took it out on you.”

David sat across from him, opening his own lunch container. “But I didn’t call those contractors.”

Sighing, Patrick took a bite of one of his pickle spears. “No, you were right. We should cultivate loyal relationships with other business owners in town. Especially since Ronnie’s on council.”

“Okay.”

They ate in silence for a couple of minutes.

“The store is doing particularly well this month,” Patrick commented, sandwich in one hand while the other still scrolled on his scratchpad. A crumb dropped from Patrick’s sandwich onto his computer keyboard, making David wince.

“Yeah?”

“Mm hmm. Between the new product lines and your summer series of events, we’ve raked in record profits.”

David drummed his fingers on the desk. “So will you pay that out to us as a bonus, or…?”

Patrick arched an eyebrow. “No, I was thinking I’d use it to chip away at the list of things we wanted to do to improve the store. The bricks need repointing, and you wanted that wine fridge—”

“Or we could take a trip,” David said.

“A trip?”

“Yeah, a trip. A vacation. You and me, a beach, rum-based drinks, and minimal clothing.” He shimmied his shoulders a little, although the effect was somewhat lost since he was sitting down.

“That’s a lovely thought, David, but it would be a mistake to shut down the store to go on vacation when things are just starting to go so well. We should at least wait until we can afford an employee or two to cover for us while we’re out of town. And I think we might be a year away from that, based on my projections.” Patrick’s eyes were still focused on his spreadsheet.

“So in a year…”

Patrick finally looked at him and smiled. “In a year or two, we should take a trip.”

And sure, it hadn’t been that long ago that David had used the phrase ‘five years down the road’ in reference to their relationship, but he still felt dizzy at Patrick so blithely making plans with him so far in the future.

“You’ll definitely have broken up with me in a year or two,” David demurred, a joke that wasn’t really a joke.

Patrick eyed him for a few seconds, and then stood up and came around from behind the desk. “Oh, I think the promise of rum-based drinks and minimal clothing will be enough to keep me around.” He reached out a hand and when David took it, Patrick pulled him to his feet. “We can start planning it, if you want. If the planning is something you’d enjoy.”

“I suppose that’s something I’d enjoy,” David said into Patrick’s mouth just before they kissed. It was slow and sweet, and David tried to ignore the fact that Patrick tasted like pickles.

“Why don’t you take the afternoon off?” David asked when their lips parted, his fingers kneading Patrick’s shoulders. “It’s been a while since you’ve taken some time off to relax.”

“I took an extra day off last week,” Patrick said.

“Yeah, and I came back to your apartment to find you working on the quarterly taxes at home. I mean, actually relax. Watch some porn. Read a book — and not a finance book! Read that baseball book you keep falling asleep on. I’ll take care of things here.”

Patrick raised an eyebrow. “Are you sure?”

“Mm hmm.” David kissed him again. “I insist.”

“Will you come over after?” Patrick asked, his hand squeezing David’s hip.

“Yeah.”

David floated through the afternoon on a happy cloud; he was even polite to Roland when he came into the store. It was equal parts relief that the small fight with Patrick hadn’t been that big a deal, and the smug satisfaction of having done something nice for his partner. At the end of the day, he didn’t even mind doing the tasks that he hated, like the bookkeeping.

When David slid his key into the lock of Patrick’s apartment and opened the door, the sparkling candlelight and the smell of something delicious cooking hit him simultaneously. Soft music was coming from the record player.

“I told you to relax,” David said, unable to keep his smile at the romantic tableau off his face. “Not slave away over dinner.”

“I did relax. And then by four o’clock I was bored and I decided to do this,” Patrick said as he poured red wine into two glasses, then he noticed what David was holding. “You got milk.”

“You said you were out.” David handed the jug to Patrick, who took it and put it away, a smile on his face.

David sipped his wine. “What did you do this afternoon?”

“Pretty much what you suggested,” Patrick said, pulling a roasted chicken and potatoes out of the oven. “Jerked off, took a nap, replaced that broken string on my guitar, flipped through the Netflix menu without watching anything, and then read my book for a while.”

“Sounds like a good afternoon,” David murmured, his brain stuck on picturing the first thing.

“It did improve my day enormously,” Patrick said as he put food into plates, “so thank you.”

“Any time. Well, not any time. The store is dull without you.”

They ate and drank and talked, and David thought again about what Alexis had said: that they were in it for the long haul. God, he was really starting to believe that was true.

Later, when they’d found their way into bed, Patrick’s hands were confident on his body, competent in the way he was when he operated a corkscrew or plucked his guitar. David felt a lazy kind of pleasure brimming over as Patrick touched him, a gentle thing that bubbled up as they moved together. They traded off using their mouths on each other’s cocks, slowly and without any need to race to the finish, just bringing each other pleasure for the enjoyment of the act itself, for the way it made the other man moan and gasp. The build was achingly slow until it wasn’t, until Patrick turned over onto his elbows and knees in obvious invitation.

David dragged out the process of preparing Patrick with his fingers until Patrick’s fists were clenched on his pillow, his voice ragged as he begged to be fucked. And then David kept at it a little longer still.

When he finally sank inside, Patrick was so keyed up that David worried he’d pushed things too far, that their orgasms would be too mistimed for them both to enjoy this as much as he wanted them to. But Patrick quieted as David fucked him, going to whatever place inside his head he went to stave off coming too soon. Then it was all long, slow strokes and David pressed against Patrick’s back, the sweat slick between them. God, it was a crime how good it felt.

“Harder,” Patrick finally said, finally giving in and stroking himself. “Please, harder.”

“I love you like this,” David groaned, his hips snapping forward with more force. “I’ll always want this with you. Always.”

Patrick had gone nonverbal, rocking back on his knees in time with David’s thrusts, and then he came and David could feel it, the pulses of it clenching around his cock, and he fell over the edge right after Patrick, his teeth against Patrick’s spine.

“Fuck, that was good,” Patrick slurred, collapsing onto his stomach once David had pulled out. They took turns cleaning up in the bathroom, a well-worn routine including comfortable pajamas and glasses of water before getting back into bed.

“This turned out to be a pretty good day,” Patrick said.

“We could go to Elmdale on Monday and I can help you pick out some new shirts,” David murmured, remembering Patrick’s morning frustration.

“You just want a mall pretzel,” Patrick answered, but then he leaned over and kissed David’s cheek. “Yeah, let’s do that.”

It was only minutes before Patrick was softly snoring next to him. David was wide awake though, lying still and watching him sleep, imagining what their future together might be.

[schemingneko]

NSFW Character Trait Meme

As answered by Kuroo Tetsurou

Preference for top or bottom? I like both.  It really depends on who my partner is, because I really like doing whatever they prefer since I’m not too picky on it.  However, I’ve also been known to top from the bottom, because some days I just really like being in control.

Favorite type, looks and personality wise? This is tough since none of my partners–past or present–really followed a particular type.  I do like lighter colored hair, and definitely long hair on girls.  With guys I’m kind of into muscles, I guess.  Great glutes and thighs are a must.  Personality wise…hmm, perhaps just the ability to put up with my bullshit?  Because let’s me honest, I’m a great guy, but I do have some personality quirks of my own.

Get up and shower after or bask in the afterglow all sticky and wet? I’d like to tell you that I always clean up right away…but sometimes I just get a little lazy about it.  If the sex is good I don’t want to move until I have to, so I just let my body have a minute to enjoy and/or recuperate.  Usually when my mind gets out of the post-sex haze though, and I realize I’m disgustingly sticky, then I jump right into cleaning up.

Monogamous? Open relationship? Polyamorous? Poly for sure.  But I should say that I haven’t ever been in a relationship where I was with a partner and we didn’t consider our options thoughtfully when one of us wanted to be with someone else at the same time.  I’ve been in a relationship with two boyfriends before.  Well, okay, I’m still in a relationship with one of those boyfriends, and the other one is an on-again-off-again thing.

Deep and slow? Hard and fast? What’s your character’s preference? Hahaha, okay, it really depends on the mood.  I’m never against a good, hard fuck if it feels right in the moment.  However, if I’m being honest, I really do prefer deep and slow.  I’m a romantic kind of guy for sure.  Also, it is the sex that my boyfriend and I seem to click the most during.

Favorite sex position? Definitely from behind.  Not necessarily doggy-style, but the one where your partner is laid out on the bed and you’re basically laid over them, draped over their back.  I want to be able to warp an arm under and around to help hold them in place, because I’m going to fuck you slow and deep if we’re doing it like that, and I want to be able to keep you close as possible when it gets intense.

What’s your character’s favorite kink? I’m a ‘I’ll try everything once’ kind of guy.  That makes for a long list of kinks I like, and a pretty short list of things I’m not trying again.  With guys, I’ve always wanted to try sounding, but haven’t yet.  For things I’ve tried, I’m kind of into docking.  I’m not cut and my foreskin can handle me and my boyfriend as long as I’m not super hard.  With girls…my boyfriend and I both like pegging.  I like being on the receiving end of it, but I REALLY like watching my boyfriend get fucked, and he likes it too.

How active in bed is your character? Do they like to lie there and take it or do they like to get the most bang for their buck? How is this even a question?  Who exactly likes to just lie there and take it?  If that is how your sex life is, then you are not having good sex.  So yes, I like when both my partner and I are engaged and enthusiastically into whatever we’re doing in bed.

Kissing during sex, yes or no? So much kissing.  We’ve already established in a previous question that I’m a romantic guy, so for me, sex without kissing sucks.  It also helps that my current boyfriend’s mouth is a blessing.  I love kissing him.

Clothes off or on during sex? Naked is great.  Partially clothed is great.  Completely clothed and frotting on the couch is great.  Sex in general is great, so I’m not going to complain whichever way the clothing situation shakes out.  However, there’s nothing hotter than my boyfriend half-undressed and completely disheveled when we fuck.

Lingerie? Yes or no? Yes.  Lingerie is amazing.  And I just want to clarify that lingerie isn’t always pretty lacy panties.  My boyfriend has this really sexy mesh jockstrap thing that is so hot on him.  It shows off his amazing ass.

Would your character join a threesome if given a chance? I’ve been in a threesome relationship, so I’ve had plenty of threeway sex.  In the context of a relationship where all three people like each other, it is pretty damn awesome.  I’ve also tried the random three people threesome kind of threeway.  It was markedly less awesome.  It was still kind of fun, for sure, but it was a lot of two people having sex while one person watched.  In a relationship it doesn’t feel as awkward.

Your character’s Penis size? I’m a comfortable big.  I measure a little over 21 centimeters (just a little over 8 inches), and I’m pretty thick too.  I’m the kind of big the guys and girls want, even when they say they want bigger (bigger than my dick gets uncomfortable for most, even for me).  Still, I’ve had partners who thought I was too much too.  

Preference for penis size? My personal preference is just a little above average, so like 16-17 centimeters (6.5ish inches).  I’m actually a big baby about size when I’m bottoming and am definitely not a size queen.

Does your character like to roleplay? If so, what? My boyfriend kind of hates my choice of roleplay, so we don’t do it often.  I think it makes him uncomfortable at his job.  He’s a teacher and he coaches high school volleyball.  Both of us used to play volleyball and were from rival schools.  I’ve always really been into the whole sexy coach thing (it was probably good that my coach was an ancient guy who reminded me of my grandpa and not the hot blond coach from Karasuno).  Most of the time my boyfriend can’t handle being the coach when we roleplay though, so I play coach and he gets out his sexy thigh-high kneepads from high school and plays the student.  He still looks really good in them, btw.

Does your character prefer condoms or bareback? As a doctor, I just have to remind everyone out there that it is important to have safe sex and to minimize your exposure to STD’s as much as possible by using condoms.  Also, if you are having anal sex, there is the additional possibility that you could get a UTI if you bareback your partner.  The anus is not a clean area, and no matter how well you anal-douche, it is going to have bacteria that can travel up your urethra to your bladder and cause UTI’s.  Now I need to grab my other soapbox for a minute and remind everyone that anal douching can really mess with your system.  Just eat enough fiber and vegetables, and as long as you’re regular, you don’t need to deep-clean your ass…okay my boyfriend is telling me to calm down and stop being so doctor-y and get to the point.  The point is that you should wear a condom for your health and sexual safety.  …which is why it is completely contrary for me to love fucking a load bareback into my boyfriend, but I do.

Your character’s most private sexual fantasy? Okay I’ve been pretty open about all of this so far, but it is my most private personal fantasy for a reason, and I’m not about to share it with the internet.  However, I will say this, my boyfriend is a saint for making it a reality.  And yes, it was as good as I thought it would be.

How sexually active is your character? My boyfriend is a teacher and coach, and I’m a young doctor training for my desired specialty, so our schedules are a little on the crazy side.  We still make time to have sex at least once a week, but sex is also important to us, so we usually do it 2-3 times a week if we can.

When did your character lose their virginity? I lost my virginity fairly young (during my first year of high school).  It was when I was still trying to figure out if I was straight or gay (it turns out I’m bi), but an older member of our volleyball team and I experimented at his house one weekend, and he eventually became my first boyfriend.  I didn’t think it was that big of a deal at the time, but I know now that I was too young.  I didn’t realize until college, when I took my current boyfriend’s virginity, that maybe I was a bit too hypersexual.  I think it stems from having sex so young, and having quite a bit of sex throughout high school.  My boyfriend was surprisingly way more emotionally mature about sex than I was for a long time

Kinks your character would participate in? Like I said before, I’m a ‘I’ll try anything once’ kind of guy.  With a few exceptions, of course.

Kinks your character would not participate in? Those exceptions are any extreme sadist kinks (I’m not into pain with the purpose to injure), and anything that has to do with kids or non-humans.  Though I did try the whole “tentacle monster alien” thing for our on-again-off-again third boyfriend, and that is technically non-human, I suppose.  I didn’t hate that.

A character that yours fantasizes about coupling with? Okay, we have a slightly older next door neighbor in our apartment complex who me and my boyfriend befriended in college.  The neighbor is very attractive, and so is his girlfriend, and we totally hook up with them a lot.  But the neighbor has this unbelievably hot friend from high school who also teaches swimming at the high school my boyfriend works at.  I’ve seen this man without a shirt.  I’ve never seen back muscles like that before.  I’m not going to lie, I want to fuck that guy doggie-style so bad and paint his back with my cum, but the boyfriend has a rule about not seducing his colleagues.  However, I hear the hot swim coach might be starting up a private swim club soon, to help train future olympic hopefuls with the help of his former olympian friend.  So technically, hot swim guy won’t be the boyfriend’s colleague anymore, and when that happens me and the boyfriend are gonna seduce/woo him for sure.

[vicioushyperbolizer]

Ok so im curious about the nurseydex polyamory talk? Did it rise partially from dex being sure nursey would dump him over sex? Has Nursey ever considered being w anyone? Who? In what capacity? (Just sex or dating too?) How would they both feel? What if the other person isnt nice about Dex's asexuality and Dex accepts it like yeah ppl say that haha and Nursey is like Get out of here its over no one insults my Dexey (i know u just posted ace dex nurseydex sorry im asking so soon!!)

Oh my god,i am always here to talk about ace poly dex, okay? and this got super long, so hcs under the cut :)

Dex doesn’t initiate the PolyaTalk because he thinks nursey will break up with him or cheat on him or anything. The way he sees it, sex is a thing that Nursey wants but Dex can’t (or won’t) give him, so it only makes sense for Nursey to find it another place. What Nursey does outside of their relationship won’t make him love Dex any less, it won’t hurt anything, so why not?

So, here’s how it could go

---Dex and nursey mutually agree to date a third together, and nursey and that person have a sexual component to their relationship. All three hold an equal place in the relationship.

---Nursey alone dates a third person and that relationship is romantic and sexual (and so that person and Dex are metamours).

---Nursey has an exclusively sexual, but not romantic, relationships outside of Dex. his could be two things: either one partner in a friends with benefits arrangement, or multiple one-time partners (hookups and one night stands).

I love and support every single one of these options (and i’ve honestly been meaning to write more poly nurseydex, but it never fit into any of the prompts I’ve received)

I think they’d be open to any one of these (and since I’m a multishipper, i deff have ideas for all of these), but the way I see their relationship progressing is beginning with C, with an eventual option for B. Not because dex is against having another partner so that they’re a trio, but because Dex is happily in love with nursey and in love with his relationship with nursey. Whereas Nursey has a lot of love to give and wouldn’t mind multiple romantic partners.

At first, Nursey is really hesitant. Like, he goes along with it because he can see how much Dex wants him to, but he’s unsure. He thinks it’s a concession that Dex is making, that it’s something dex feels like he needs to do for nursey instead of something he wants to do for them both (and for himself). So, nursey goes along with it for Dex but doesn’t actually intend to ever hookup with anyone.

One of their rules is that nursey needs to tell dex if something does happen (i can be after the fact, and a simple ‘hey i hooked up last night with so and so’, just so dex knows what’s going on). For the first few months, dex just kinda waits, but after a while, he’s wondering what’s going on. So, they have the PolyaTalk Pt 2.

It goes very badly.

“I don’t know, baby, i just figure you were giving me permission, but didn’t actually want me to go screw around.”

“By making unilateral decisions about our relationship, decision that go against the things we already discussed and agreed on, you’re basically telling me that you don’t want or care about my input. About our fucking relationship, nurse. And on o;p of that, you just decided that either i lied to you or that you know be better than i know myself, and frankly i’m not sure which i find more insulting. I know you meant well, derek, but honestly what the fuck. Just… I’ll be back, i need to take a walk.”

(dex is working on taking a step back so that he can think and respond instead of reacting and lashing out. Nursey means well, Dex, it’s just hard for our allosexual partners to consider things from all ends)

They do end up working it out in the end.

For partners who Nursey just has sex with, he doesn’t tell them about being in a relationship or about Dex at all. Mostly because they’re not entitled to that information, and also because it means outing Dex to properly explain, and he would never do that to his boyfriend.

After a bit, Nursey gets comfortable with how things are working and tries to pick up someone at a kegster. The guy saw Nursey and dex earlier in the party, and comments on it, so Nursey just kinda “yeah, he’s ace, so…”. “Oh, okay. So it’s just a fake relationship anyway…” and so they summarily banned that guy from ever entering the Haus again.

Once, they ran into one of his one night stands in the middle of the murder Stop-N-Shop, and the person had very strong feelings about cheating, and punched Nursey in the chips aisle. They explained everything once everyone calmed down, and the person was extremely embarrassed.

That was the first person Nursey went on a date with (because nursey found the way they blushed extremely endearing, and he was impressed by the way they could throw a punch even though they were about a foot shorter than Nursey). They were understanding about Dex being ace, and got along with the whole hockey team really well, but in the end decided that they were looking for a monogamous relationship.

And so it goes :)

[lsr-psychosphere]

The Curious Case of Infidelity

by Tanya Dutta Platonically Speaking, October 2017

Is your boyfriend perpetually talking to attractive girls, who he swears are “his cousins”? Are you too constantly trying to crack your boyfriend’s phone’s passcode? Has he still not deleted Tinder?

Girl, it sounds like you might’ve got a case of infidelity in hand.   

I think I should begin with the most obvious definition – cheating. When would you say a person is cheating? Is it only when they engage in a physical act with someone other than their partner? Or does it include sexting other people? Or perhaps when they flirt with strangers on dating apps or social media, pretending to be single? With the advent of all this technology, the lines really are blurred.

A firm believer of “live and let live”, I try to apply that principle in all aspects of life, to overpower the judgmental bitch that resides within me.  It makes sense to me that every relationship has its own dynamic, specific to the two individuals in it. So when certain things happen in Person A’s relationship that I am not down with, but Person A is, I tell myself to mind my own business.  

In a serious monogamous romantic relationship, staying loyal to your partner is kind of a big deal, if not the ultimate premise on which the relationship is based. The idea of sharing your life with that one special person, opening up to them and rendering yourself vulnerable, and working on maintaining that connection forged between the both of you, is the part of relationships which make them so lovely and infuriating at the same time.

However, it does concern me to see that cheating has blown up in recent times. It is so prevalent that it really isn’t that big a deal anymore. This has lead to two things: a heightened sense of possessiveness, suspicion, and insecurity; and loss of meaning and integrity of relationships.  

The spate of memes and “mockumentaries” on suspicious girlfriends (which is plain sexist, by the way, guys can be possessive and suspicious too), is testament to the first phenomenon. Due to the prevalence of cheating, impositions of constant tests to prove one’s loyalty to their partner to an extent that it stifles them aren’t uncommon.  Being afraid of getting hurt is a very real and legitimate fear, and everyone experiences it at some point or another, but trying to track every movement your boo makes, and having them justify every interaction they have with other people, becomes exhausting for you and irritating for them.

The simple fact that reality shows exist to bust cheating partners and test their restraint is thought-provoking – it makes you realize that capitalists never know where to stop, and it leads you to believe that love is dead.

Everything has gone online, including relationships. Sliding into DMs on instagram, sending (disappearing) flirty snaps on snapchat, and having the privilege to delete chats, has made cheating online… easy. I didn’t bring this up to plant a seed of doubt in your minds, readers, but just illustrate the loss of meaning in relationships, because how important could your relationship be to you, if you’re doing all of the above? Not very, it seems.

Sure, monogamy may not be natural for human beings, but you should probably consider that argument before you get into relationship like that, rather than bring it up after an act of indiscretion on your part.

Now, a big question – what do you do if you know your partner has cheated? The answer is definitely not an easy black-or-white, it’s tinged with hues of grey. Depending on the circumstances, the amount of remorse and other factors involved, one can decide to either break up, or try and work on the relationship. But a third person can never know the situation as well as the two people actually involved, so it’s a good idea to leave it to them.

Moving on to the next big question - how can one not cheat, ever? I read about this rule of thumb that said, if you’re doing something that is even slightly questionable, think about whether you would be alright with your partner knowing. If you’re not, then you probably know the answer. My two cents on this would be to also maybe think about how much you admire and appreciate your partner, and how a few moments of pleasure with another would not be worth wrecking the beautiful bond you share. A last piece of advice which is universally applicable – just don’t be a jerk – works like a charm.

[0nho]

88 with ot3, onjongho omggggg

88. Sex marathon

“I can’t believe you are confessing while eating his ass out!”

It is Choi Minho, the youngest, bellowing at the two men on the bed beside him, just as bare naked and tangled in sheets as them.

The night has dipped into another lull, but no one wants to be the guy to tap out first; as if some ungraspable thing is at stake. Kim Jonghyun cranes his neck, separating himself from his work on Lee Jinki, the eldest. The warm, supple ass can wait at least a moment.

“Your dick is too small to satisfy him.”

Jinki, arms hooked beneath knees and spread wide on his back, pillows propping hips, doesn’t hold back his own gasp of laughter at the youngest’s expense.

It’s Jonghyun’s way of inviting himself into Jinki and Minho’s relationship; Jonghyun doesn’t consider it much of one. It isn’t Jonghyun’s first open relationship, but it would be for the other two. In a sense, he feels the role of a mentor to both a junior and senior. He is clearly the one with the most experience and knowledge. But that also comes with downsides and some bouts of unstable behaviors. Things Jonghyun isn’t going to mention.

Minho turns away with a mocking scoff. “Hah, what an original..”

Jinki’s amused expression twists with a moan, as Jonghyun’s mouth is between his spread cheeks again.

Minho watches Jinki’s face, each minor twitch in the flushed expression, as he sits, long limbs sprawled out, idly jerking it. The times each of them have cum by now is numerous, and several used condoms line the floors. The room stinks of sex and alcohol.

Minho has been the one having a rougher time, more than just since the three met up at Jonghyun’s place that’s abysmal but at least he lives alone. It’s been difficult ever since Minho introduced the two seniors and Jonghyun whispered ideas into Jinki’s ear, and Minho isn’t as open to more than monogamous relationships. If Minho can even call his relation with Jinki a relationship.

“You asked me to be your boyfriend then pushed me over to make a score on the field,” Jinki reminds Minho, his hand slipping to Jonghyun’s head, heel leaning on the younger’s back, basking in titillating pleasure and Jonghyun’s much more experienced mouth.

Minho’s already abnormally large eyes grow wider, embarrassed by the memory that was impulsive, though sincere at the time. The rest, like knocking Jinki over, was a passionate accident.

Jonghyun chuckles. “And you said yes after that?”

“It's…” Jinki explains.

Minho and Jinki lock eyes. The older averts his gaze first before finishing.

“It’s complicated.”

Minho has an air of disappointment at the answer. He still hangs on for a genuine answer instead of signals he keeps trying to read; albeit that swing in his favor.

Jonghyun’s laughter is loud. “You two are unbelievable. Next you’ll tell me you’re actually straight.”

One states, “I dated a girl in high school…”

“So did I,” Jonghyun sits up, brow arched. “And here I am eating you out and asking you out.” He shrugs.

Jinki and Minho share a look, before mutual laughter. Jonghyun’s hand runs over the torn sheets of his bed, until he finds what he is searching for. He presses the switch from a small remote.

Minho yelps, hips sprung off the bed and falling with a bounce. Jonghyun grins with a twinkle in his eyes. Jinki laughs again and Minho clutches sheets with a scrunched face.

Jonghyun uncovers the remote to the vibrating prostate plug put inside the youngest before, by Jinki with a mischievous glint in his eyes. But Jonghyun enjoys challenges like Minho. He’s the type easy to figure out but will deny it just to be the one standing as the winner. A straight-laced with a lot of extra tangled string.

Jonghyun flops his smaller body on top of Jinki, fitting snug between parted legs, bare chests slapping together. He kisses the surprised look right off Jinki’s face. The man Jonghyun knew he wanted from the beginning, even knowing the nature of Minho’s relationship and adoration for Jinki.

“So what.. will.. it.. be,” Jonghyun asks between kisses, enjoying too much his role of a little imp of corruption. Everyone one can come out on top here.

Jinki’s eyes glaze over, and Minho rolled to his side next to him, Jinki palms his half-hard in absent strokes. Minho turns his face into the bed, voice loudest of all.

Jonghyun scoops hair from Jinki’s face, a peck to his forehead given. “How about the three of us say screw what the world thinks and make this happen.”

It’s an easy enough reach to find the remote to up the setting of the plug; Minho withering as giggling gasps erupt and his hand intimately covers Jinki’s pumping him into pre-cum.

Jonghyun nudges behind Jinki’s ear, and the sound of his escaped sigh is a new addition for small man. “I’ll suck your dick again.”

Jinki nods, a shuddering breath out of him.

But the noise of the other young man beside the two grows too much for Jonghyun to ignore, and he changes course, leaving Jinki’s parted legs.

Jonghyun is quickly up from the bed, to yank on Minho’s curled legs and tug the younger man down the end of the bed, drawing him closer. Minho looks over his shoulder as Jonghyun pulls the vibrating plug from his loose hole, lips biting back a groan. The expression directed at Jonghyun is almost purposefully seducing.

Minho’s mouth opens to retort, but Jonghyun is already lined up, a condom still fresh around his semi. The younger man only responds with a whining moan, quickly strangled into a shout, as the small man goes from slowly entering tip to slamming in, pelvis grinding to a squished ass. And it’s hard to tell who is pushing or crawling as Minho’s body, Jonghyun leaning flush on top in a near headlock of purchase, makes way back up the bed each hammering thrust and clutching of sheets.

Minho yelps, face scrunched into the bed, toes and fingers curled, legs involuntarily bending. Jinki sits up with the edge of a condom wrapper in his mouth, a lopsided grin of amusement at the sight of the small man looking like some sort of human jackhammer. It’s easily an arousing sight. Jonghyun has ignited something in Jinki no one ever has; the freedom to release all control, no concerns for the expectations that weigh him down daily by every face he sees.

“I’ll teach your ass how to satisfy a man,” Jonghyun’s pitched voice squeaks between labored breaths. Muscles burn as he pushes himself up on palms, thrusts slapping fast pace against an ass that keeps flexing. Minho mumbles incoherently into the sheets.

Jinki combs fingers through his tangled hair and pinches at Minho’s arms buried in the sheets. The bed jiggling again almost has him laughing. It’s been a long night.

Jonghyun lowers to an elbow against Minho’s struggle, finding their bodies soon nearly on their sides. His hand sneaks half between the sheets a grip around Minho’s swollen length, pumping only shortly until the younger cums with a hoarse sigh.

Jonghyun can’t stifle a breathy laugh or resist licking Minho’s damp shoulder as he pulls out and wipes his soiled hand across his mouth, just as aroused by the taste of musk.

Still hard, Jonghyun has Jinki sitting at the end of the bed, holding his face in rough kisses of laughter as Jinki fiddles with swiping on a fresh condom.

Jonghyun feels diamonds looking down at Jinki, able to give back for the attractive man pounding his ass red just earlier. He’s pulled onto the bed hovered over Jinki, hands groping, kisses hot and necks nibbled, then Jonghyun has his back pressed to the bed as Jinki climbs on top, giving Jonghyun some adjusting rest.

The older spits in his hand, taking it behind to add to the wetness, stroking Jonghyun’s length. The smaller man assists; spreading Jinki’s fatty cheeks, so the older can smoothly sit onto him.

Jinki’s moan, his head fallen back, Jonghyun’s hips give a slight jerk, sinking into the tight heat.

Minho lays beside the two, face partly hidden, a palm holding a sore backside, but muddled thoughts still drifting from a high observing if he really can learn from someone such as Jonghyun, and if three really can be better than two in a romantic relationship. Could Minho love Jonghyun like he does Jinki? His face heats all over again; the sensation of being completely dominated by a man of smaller stature a surprise too good.

Jinki’s head rolls forward, nuzzling the side of Jonghyun’s head, nipping at the younger man’s ear as hands try to find a steady place to hold him secure. Jonghyun mutters a word or two of praise for Jinki.

As he watches the two, Minho’s chest twists with the sense he’s seeing something more than a quick screw, more like passion igniting, an undeniable connection of two in the heat of making love.

But Minho doesn’t want to lose Jinki either, to be the third wheel dropped. He can’t let that happen.

Minho sits up, pulling himself close enough to kiss Jinki’s shoulder, up his neck, and behind the ear, gangly arms sloppily wrapping half around him not wanting to lose him now.

Jonghyun slaps a palm at Minho’s exposed backside, causing the younger to blow hot air on Jinki; the older whines a shuddering moan, bucking. Jonghyun wants more of that exact sound.

As Minho’s parted lips rest at Jinki’s chest, tongue flicking the nub of a nipple, he glances towards Jonghyun, his expression still flush across a small, pretty face. But dark eyes have a depth of promise Jonghyun wishes to dive into.

Minho kisses Jinki all over, lips dragging, as Jonghyun grows closer to the edge each faster, jerking thrust. Jonghyun traces Jinki’s parted lips with smears of his fingers, a lick and nibble received as the older man grinds on him, lidded gazes capturing one another’s.

“Cum inside me..” Jinki says.

That’s all it takes for Jonghyun to smile with the life he had forgotten to live. Who ever said having two lovers at once isn’t worth the effort.

[sidelpunchna-blog]

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36 Polyamorous People Share Their Best Relationship Advice, Because Even If You're Monogamous There's A Lot To Learn This goes without saying, but abuse or mistreatment of one, or multiple, involved parties is and should always be unacceptable.  For the record, polygamy is illegal.  Stryker, the coeditor of , says that couples who may be intrigued try starting slow.  Now, Stryker is married to a trans woman, whom she has been with for the past four years, and has had a boyfriend for one year.  Enter the world of polyamory with exclusive articles, polls, site reviews, reader stories and more.

An Open Relationship vs. Polyamorous Dating Once you have managed to thread your way through some of these obstacles that are inherent when dating a poly person, relax and enjoy the experience.  Jealousy is not a healthy quality for any relationship.  It is virtually impossible for a person to succeed in any relationship, let alone a polyamorous one if they are unable to identify and understand the elements above of self.  It includes the idea that heterosexual, married, monogamous relationships are desirable, and that transactional, non-traditional, queer, unmarried, non-monogamous relationships are unhealthy and abnormal.  Also, poly people talk about everything! If things get really bad, try to encourage your partner to seek help from a neutral party.  Is there an expectation that your new partner will be sexually or romantically involved with your other partners? Maybe is a triad of all women, maybe of all men, maybe of two girls and one guys, maybe of two guys and one girl, or many different combinations.  Figure out what you need from your partner and ask for it.

What It's Like to Be in a Polyamorous Relationship Regardless of whether or not one chooses to engage in monogamous or polyamorous dating, each person should still have their limits and behaviors which they will not tolerate.  Can you stop doing that for a little while until I figure out why? We will always be here as an option, regardless of whether one is single or in a monogamous or polyamorous relationship.  Becci, 33 Communication is absolute key.  If everyone is not on the same page, problems are virtually guaranteed.  What works better is joining a threesome site where you can create a couples account.  They might feel protective over their partners or feel jealousy when knowing that their partners are with other people.  The term polyamory describes non-monogamous.

Poly dating advice It can be frustrating to see a new relationship nipped in the bud over this issue, so many polyamorous singles and couples have begun abandoning traditional dating sites in favor of more free-spirited platforms.  This will help you realize where it stems from.  Most of them are very open-minded, and can bring both psychological and spiritual elements into the discussion.  Everyone has their own rules, but these couples may even be seeking a woman who will forgo all other dating outside the relationship, mingling only within the triad.  Receive our Dating Tips, Reviews, and Relationship Advice delivered every two weeks to your inbox.

Important Things To Know About Polyamorous Dating Would love you check out my blog.  While her wife and her boyfriend are not partners, Stryker says that they are all friends.  The same is true of a poly person.  If you hide something you're feeling or concerned about, it will only get worse and may hurt you and your partner more than it would if you just address the issue head on.  While consensual adults are more than within their rights to enter into whichever relationships they so choose, affirms that those who partake in polyamory for the wrong reasons are unlikely to fare well.

7 Best Dating Sites (That Are Free to Try) Bringing more people into a toxic situation can cause a great amount of distress for everyone involved.  Give me some time to figure it out.  But with polyamory, falling in love with multiple people and being committed to each of them is common, and encouraged practiced.  When you feel jealous, think deeply about the feelings and actions you associate with it.  I'd point out a couple of areas that this tends to impact every relationship set being its own beast, obviously, with its own quirks : 1.

Polyamory dating advice The idea of loving dozens of people at once is appealing to many people, myself included.  There is nothing inherently wrong with polyamory and individuals who engage in this form of dating should not be shamed or maligned at all.  Resources and advice to help lesbians, gays, bisexual, transgender, intersex, questioning and queers of all shapes and type, navigate through dating, politics, polyamory dating advice health.  Here, three polyamorous individuals explain how it works for them, and clear up some common misconceptions people may have about the lifestyle.  Watch Polyamory: Camping Norcenni Girasole Club.  As a well-off Scottish immigrant, she envisioned Nashoba as a place where people from different backgrounds could work together and make love, with no connection of race or marriage.

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Over the past year, I've had a very tumultuous relationship with a manipulative ex-"girlfriend" who was sensational looks, personality, emotionally and sexually wise, but very unpredictable and flaky and two-timed me. But at the same time, I've had to deal with the pain of being a heartbreaker as I turned down 4 people that tried to pursue me (because I thought I was in a monogamous relationship). Currently, I'm single and only just got over said girl and I'm just afraid of another relationship. From what I've heard, people consider me to be attractive though I don't really believe it myself.I recently started my third semester at university, and there's this chick in my class. When I first walked in, we just "sensed" each other - she sharply turned her head back and forth and locked eyes with me. At that point I thought "oh shit, not another bunnyboiler" so I avoided her and sat with another guy on a different table because I was still hurting inside from my previous relationship and afraid of breaking someone else's heart again.Throughout the class, she kept on making eye contact across the room and flipping her hair. She ended up coming to my table, leaned over my shoulder asking me questions about myself (she didn't do it to any of the other guys). It was intense (eye contact, I was looking at her lips etc) and I had butterflies in my stomach. She's pretty much exactly what I want in a chick but I kind of politely responded, didn't really escalate it any further and abruptly turned my attention to someone else wanting to chat with me. She seemed upset, packed her bag angrily and stormed out.I kept on avoiding her in the following 4 weeks because I was afraid of emotional attachment. But she keeps making eye contact, smiling (lips closed) and wears low cut tops (though I'm not sure if that's what she normally wears or if she's trying to attract) But now I think about it, if she wants to be in a relationship with me, I'm willing to try again.But when I looked her up on Facebook (I haven't added her yet) it seems as if she has a long-term boyfriend?Is she just playing me? I can't stop thinking about her and I feel adrenalin in my stomach all the time, I don't want this to be unrequited love. But I'm extremely cautious about women who come on strong, does she just want to use me for a fling, despite probably having a boyfriend? Or does she want to play with my emotions?tl;dr: Is she likely to be genuinely interested in me, or is she just a player? via /r/dating_advice