#they were forced to marry each other

[miss-allsundays]

hot take: stolas is absolutely fucking right not to feel bad for cheating on stella. the only one that he owes an apology to is octavia, which he DOES!! they talk and he tries to explain that his relationship with her mother has never been good, all while trying not to pit her against stella.

it is also fucking weird how some people want a reason to excuse stella’s behavior so bad. they say they want more nuance to her character but they wouldn’t criticize her this harshly if the roles were reversed and she were the victim

[lotus-pear]

i think you guys are onto smth..

i unironically got invested in this HELP

[thesummerestsolstice]

One of my most deranged Silm headcanons is that Elrond and Thranduil were meant to have an arranged marriage. Look, Oropher was well aware that the reemergence of Elu Thingol's heirs might not be a great thing for his claims to the throne. The obvious solution? Marry one of them into his family! They were about the same age as his son, after all. And it had to be Elrond, partially because Elros had picked mortality and partially because Elrond had already been identified as the "nice one" of the twins.

It really didn't help that Thranduil looked a fair bit like Thingol (especially for an unrelated elf), Elrond looked a lot like Melian, and many of the old Iathrim were still really not over losing their first king and queen. So Thranduil and Elrond got engaged to great joy (from almost all of the Sindar) and great awkwardness (from Elrond and Thranduil).

Now, Oropher thought this was a marvelous idea! He could secure his claim to the throne, please many of his nobles, and secure some ainur blood for his family all in one fell swoop.

(The running rumor was that Melian had created Luthien via a magical ritual with her and Thingol's blood, so he wasn't too worried about the fact that Elrond and Thranduil were both men. They could just brew up some grandchildren for him with Elrond Maia powers, no problem.)

Eventually, Thranduil was able to talk his father own and convince him that the arranged marriage was, in fact, a bad idea; and that Elrond, in fact, had no interest in challenging Oropher's kingship.

So Elrond and Thranduil never got married. They did become great friends, though, and legally, the engagement was never dissolved. They still decide to be obnoxious about it sometimes.

[idonsul]

What do you guys know about doomed siblings??

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[sylver-drawer]

I saw someone say Lucathy is sibling coded and ever since then, I’ve never felt so complete.

[wonder-worker]

"Some modern historians, apparently fascinated by the fact that Matilda was eleven years older than her second husband, Geoffrey of Anjou, have been quick to assert that the marriage was unhappy. The historical basis for this assertion rests upon the word of the Durham chronicler, who stated that when Matilda returned to Henry I’s court in 1129 it was because Geoffrey had repudiated her. [Historians have thus assumed that their mutual incompatibility led to hostility and an eventual separation]. However, it must be noted that the northern chronicler was hardly in a position to have first-hand information about events across the Channel, and that he had the chronology of the affair completely wrong. The author placed Matilda’s marriage in 1129, and wrote that only a few days after King Henry returned to England on 13 July of that year, he was told that his daughter had been repudiated by her husband and had returned to Rouen with only a few attendants. The marriage actually took place in 1128, and Matilda was in Anjou with her husband in 1129 when the la Haye brothers brought a charter in favor of the abbey of Fontevraud to her for her confirmation. The other contemporary accounts of Matilda’s separation from her husband did not record her departure or suggest reasons for it, but only noted her return to Anjou in 1131.

It is possible that Matilda’s return to her father’s court in 1129 was not a marital separation at all, but rather a political mission. Perhaps Matilda and Geoffrey grew uneasy in their isolation and began to doubt the commitment of the Anglo-Norman barons to their cause. Leaving her husband behind to manage affairs in Anjou, Matilda may have travelled to Normandy seeking clarification of her position. A few scraps of evidence point in this direction. A letter that Hildebert of Lavardin wrote to Henry I in 1131 expressed pleasure that the king was now reconciled with the count of Anjou, who ‘had now fallen in with his wishes in everything concerning him and his daughter’. Henry of Huntingdon and Robert of Torigny stated that a ‘great council’ held at Northampton on 8 September 1131 decided that Matilda should be returned to her husband. The wording implies a decision made by the great men of the realm for political reasons, not a family’s success in persuading a tearful daughter to return to a husband whom she disliked. Furthermore, William of Malmesbury wrote that ‘no small gathering of the nobility being held at Northampton, the oath of fidelity to her was renewed by those who had already sworn and also taken by those who had not done so previously’. The renewal of the oath also suggests that Matilda’s mission may have been occasioned by concern over the succession rather than by the marital discord that historians have often taken for granted."

-Jean A. Truax, "Winning over the Londoners: King Stephen, the Empress Matilda and the Politics of Personality", The Haskins Society Journal 8 (1996)

[pissmoon]

Its going to be rude af but if you are older than 20 years old and continued to be 'friends with benefits' for like longer than half a year with someone despite actually wanting a commited relationship with that person and it wasnt some next level emotional abuse maybe you are just a dumbass and your sob story isnt really relevant to people who know what they want in life and dont get in such if thats not what they want. Yes including straight women, yes there are straight women out there who like sex with someone theyre not ~in love~ with like idk what to tell you

[ladysophiebeckett]

ppl keep saying they're ruining betty la fea with this amazon prime continuation not knowing betty in ny exists. i assure you there are other ways to ruin something and a divorce (sub-sub) plot when the characters are in their 50's is actually interesting. sorry u can't see that.

[stewyhosseini-bf]

fucked up thing about kendall is that he is so scared of becoming his father when it comes to being a parent, he became his mother instead. completely physically and emotionally absent and blaming the other parent for the childrens' problems, because they're in their lives, while never acknowledging how their own absence has contributed to it.

[itspileofgoodthings]

I know I’m talking to an empty theater here but the writing on that episode of Lark Rise to Candleford where Robert loses his tools (and so the means to feed his family) and is facing destitution and then runs into the young guy who’s in love with his daughter and then uses the moment not to take out all his angst and anger on Fisher but to ask him if he’s ready for all that marriage and staying and giving up his life on the road actually means thus forcing Fisher to admit that he isn’t ready for it—-

!!!!!!!!

[dangerliesbeforeyou]

ok soim gonna ramble about the wedding in the tags cos this is my diary lol kitty dont read this (she's not been on tumblr in ages it should b fine pfft)

[makedamnsvre]

recently ive been getting really sick of my neighbors i wish that i had a bunch of money so that i could buy up their houses and only let people i live live near me

[gyubby99]

If I see one more person say that 'Speak Now' is a "pick me girl" song I will literally combust. Like I just don't get it.

[ana-bananya]

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[the-eclectic-wonderer]

Man, your tags/posts about how traumatic and upsetting Dorothy's sex life really hit me. Rose and Blanche's hilarious stories and one liners are what usually stick in my head but damn, you're right. There's that That Event, & Dorothy did basically say she never orgasmed during her marriage (she definitely talked about disliking sex during her marriage). She even says at one point she's self conscious of her body during sex. And you're right that she'd def have issues with self pleasure 😔

Yep, it's one of those things that hit you harder and harder the more you think about it, isn't it?

When I say that Dorothy's remarkably healthier and more open than expected on the topics of love and relationships, I mean it. All things considered, she could have turned much more cynical and disillusioned. I mean, I've already talked about her horrid sex life when she was with Stan, and he was her first lover and her only lover for 38 years (so she had no one else to compare him to!!!).

And her love life was, if possible, even worse!! Let's remember that Dorothy's first run-ins with love and dating where:

A couple of idealized crushes (including the classic crush on her professor, Mr Gordon);

That boy she had an emotionally abusive relationship with;

Getting stood up for her senior prom by John Neretti;

Stan.

So, you know... she could have just determined she wasn't cut out for this stuff. She's prone to self-blaming, and judging from what she and Sophia say about her childhood and teenage years she wasn't a popular kid at all, so she could have convinced herself that there was just something wrong with her, and shut herself out from the world and from feelings completely. She could have given up, and I wouldn't have blamed her at all.

And instead, she's... well, she's the Dorothy we see in the show! Alright, she's pessimistic, and 'the great balloon pricker', but for all the Girls' mockery on this subject, she has her fair share of relationships and suitors! Her outlook on life in general is much more open that people give her credit for -- she smiles a lot, she's affectionate, she's active, she jokes around, and (although she might complain about stuff) she enjoys going along with the other Girls' shenanigans more often than not. She has fun! And she's much more happy than could be expected, knowing her past!

I like to think this is at least in part thanks to Blanche, Rose, and Sophia, who gave her the support she needed to start the healing process, but still -- it takes a special person to climb out of a hole like that. She could have given up on life and love, and instead she found the strength to go on living -- and living happily! She's really special, isn't she? :)

[a-story-teller]

Had another dream story idea and it's BAD out here y'all. My subconscious said "you don't go for sad old white men yaoi? Well here's one and you have to care about it so much. Good luck"