#they still do try to omit it sometimes but it's so prevalent that there's no way one can reasonably say he was straight

[kebriones]

The good thing about Alcibiades is that nobody can deny his sexuality and those who try to do it look stupid. We're so blessed it's not ambiguous or unclear in any way.

[sociellefirefly-blog]

LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX-ual harassment in the workplace. Let’s talk about her, you and me.

Yes girl, #MeToo.

Sexual harassment in the workplace has a wider definition than some may be familiar with. Some examples include: staring/leering, unnecessary familiarity such as deliberately brushing up against someone or unwelcome touching, and suggestive comments or jokes. If you need to familiarize yourself with all the terms/examples please visit the Ontario Human Rights Commission fact sheet.

In light of International Women’s Day 2018, I felt it was important that I speak up and share something a little more personal with you guys. Raising awareness about sexual harassment is a topic I’m extremely passionate about. I have experienced it first-hand in the workplace, and was also privy to a few incidents involving other women that put me in a pretty difficult position. My personal experiences, much like those of countless other women, are uncomfortable and disheartening. Because of this I feel compelled to share my story, and hopefully give others strength to find their voice and regain their power.

“Me Too” was created in 1997 by social activist Tara Burke as part of her work towards building solidarity among young survivors of harassment and assault. Fast-forward a couple decades, actress Alyssa Milano took to Twitter encouraging women who had been sexually harassed or assaulted to reply to her tweet with “me too”. This came after the revelation of decades of allegations of sexual misconduct by film producer Harvey Weinstein. The hashtag was only the beginning of a social media firestorm, which recently shifted to the more politically charged call to action of the “#TimesUp” movement.

Sexual harassment and abuse in the workplace have become disturbingly prevalent in society; and though it may evoke many painful emotions and memories, the movements that help transition the isolating “me” to a collective “we” are powerful and liberating. I am grateful for the film industry using their platform to promote awareness and create positive change, however it is important to note that sexual harassment does not only happen in the corridors of power.

The vast majority of sexual harassment and abuse happens in everyday work places – offices, shops, factories and communities.

60% of Canadians have experienced workplace harassment. These incidents are underreported; not to mention dealt with ineffectively when they actually are reported.

My #MeToo experience happened a few years ago, yet it still makes me feel sick to my stomach whenever I think about it. Over time, I have worked through my feelings of “embarrassment” and have acknowledged that I did not deserve what happened to me and that I should not feel this way. However I have still have moments when I can’t help but feel frustrated with myself for not having the strength to put my foot down and take proper action.

I was in a role that I loved. I was about a year in, and I really felt that I hit my stride. Though it was a pretty balanced male-to-female ratio, it became increasingly clear over time that the men held all the power. There was definitely more than enough machismo to go around. I was pretty cool with everyone from the start, so the guys would sometimes tell me things going on in their personal lives and let me in on their jokes. Obviously I would hear some questionable things, but I just thought, “meh, boys will be boys”. 

I can handle harmless flirting, so when I did sense flirtation I would just dismiss it in some way and carry on with what I was doing. But there came a point where multiple men started making inappropriate comments towards me, almost collectively… and it would be towards my physical attributes and what I was wearing. One guy would ask me out on dates repeatedly after I made it very clear that I was not interested. It would make me very uncomfortable but I tried not to make a huge deal out of it because a) I wanted to avoid drama at all costs, b) I needed to work with them and face them every day.

Well over time it got much worse. It was no longer verbal comments or giving me looks – it was physical. They would always try to touch me in some way and act like it was playful and innocent, as if they were just “messing around”. If it were a tap on the shoulder maybe that would be considered playful, but they would try to hug me, lift me, squeeze my arms, give me a massage… just to name a few scenarios. Keep in mind I worked in my own private office far away from the building entrance, and they would be in my room.

But the real icing on the cake was when one of the guys came into my office and told me he liked my photos — referring to my vacation photos. I was confused because I didn’t have him on any social media. He then told me he saw me on Facebook through our other mutual colleagues. Aka he crept me on Facebook. And the conversation just became progressively creepier from there. I honestly can’t remember what was said exactly, but while I was not even looking at him, typing at my desk, he leaned right into me getting close to my neck as if he was going to bite me or kiss me… (?!) and I immediately jumped. I was in total shock. What in the hell was he trying to do and why did he feel he could do that to me? Fun fact: This man was married with a baby on the way.

Safe to say he was pretty pissed off at my reaction and it quickly turned awkward and he walked away.

I told my female colleagues. And though they were supportive and also upset with what had happened, they too felt like me going to my boss would be like fighting a losing battle, because he was all about the “bros”.

It’s not easy to make a complaint against someone with power… especially when you’re not in a very powerful position.

So what did I do? Well, after that incident I started closing my office door… even locking it. I would come in from the back entrance. I was terrified to see him or talk to any of the guys for weeks. I wanted to pretend that it never happened, and as more time passed sitting alone with my thoughts, I started second-guessing myself.

At the time I was seeing someone, and I remember being so afraid to tell him what had happened because I thought he would be livid with this guy and want to kill him. A part of me also felt embarrassed – even though I knew it wasn’t in any way my fault. Yet when I did find the strength to tell him I almost immediately felt him thinking “you must have done something for him to do that”.

He didn’t ask how I was feeling nor was he genuinely concerned… it was like he didn’t take me seriously or he felt like I was omitting something because that just couldn’t be what really happened.

But it was exactly what had happened. And it was something to be concerned about.

This experience is why I have become so protective over younger women in particular. More recently when I was in a position of authority, I became aware of several rumours circulating regarding sexual misconduct between senior management and the younger female staff. It made me so upset and angry because these women were naïve and innocent, and they really needed a job. They would try to switch their shifts or switch locations because they were afraid to be around this person.

At one point one of the women confided in me, and told me about numerous incidents with other female staff. She had witnessed the inappropriate behaviour herself and came forward on behalf of a coworker that was very afraid to say something.

Although I wanted to cuss at the person who did this, I could not directly intervene because I did not witness it. I also knew it would put me in an awkward situation with my colleagues as I worked very closely with them. What I did do however, was offer to set up a meeting and act as support; but made it clear that she would have to feel comfortable coming forward since I could not speak on her behalf. I also told the girls that there is power in numbers and their best bet would be to make a complaint as a group.

I just didn’t want these young women thinking that this was okay, normal or acceptable behaviour. When these experiences are not addressed, women can learn to accept and tolerate sexual harassment, violence and abuse, and even worse it can perpetuate into future cycles and relationships for the rest of their lives.

Every workplace needs to have a sexual harassment policy and proper training… not just some online module that people skim over.

And to my ladies – we need to keep pushing the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements if we want to accelerate gender parity and see equality. I know it’s not going to happen overnight, but just look at the strides that have been made from women standing tall and breaking their silence. Remember that you are never alone.

Guide to handling workplace sexual harassment

#MeToo girl, me too.

Sending so much love…. Happy International Women’s Day.

xoxo, your Socielle Firefly,

Tawnia

[douchebagbrainwaves]

HERE'S WHAT I JUST REALIZED ABOUT RULE

Ideas can morph. The switch to the new norm may be surprisingly fast, because the startups that can retain control tend to be one of the only programming languages a serious hacker would want to use it from examples in a couple minutes.1 Maybe it's a good thing for the world if people who wanted to get rich now you don't have to be in it yet. When my friends Robert Morris and Trevor Blackwell were in grad school, one of the signs of a good idea, but you have less control over the rate at which you turn yours into a prepared mind. That will be a good plan to have Jobs speak for 9 minutes and have Woz speak for a minute or so. One of the startups from the batch that just started, AirbedAndBreakfast, is in NYC right now meeting their users.2 The latter is much more expensive. Contradiction. It has sometimes been said that Lisp should use first and rest instead of car and cdr, because it becomes a filter for selecting bad startups.3

Or more importantly, if you include short term room rental, second home rental, bed and breakfast, and other similar classes of accommodations, you get mathematicians and writers and artists.4 But what a difference it makes to be able to refuse such an offer if they had grown to the point where they were a rooted in your town and/or b so successful that VCs would fund them even if they didn't move. Startups need to be designed using a small set of orthogonal operators, just like the core language. Most programmers are told what language to use, at least subconsciously, based on the total number of characters he'll have to type an unnecessary character, or even still in it, and they won't even fund them. I think rising economic inequality is the inevitable fate of countries that don't choose something worse. Because you get a lot of people. And in the early 1970s, before C, MIT's dialect of Lisp, called MacLisp, was one of the big successes?5 There is also a complementary force at work: if you have no ideas.

He got away with it, but unless you're a good con artist, you'll never convince investors if you're not convinced yourself.6 This kind of work is the future. It would be a pretty cheap experiment, as civil expenditures go. We can get rid of or make optional a lot of the same things we said at the last two. When you feel that about an idea you've had while trying to come up with startup ideas, you're probably mistaken. Anything that can be implicit, should be. Good programmers often want to do now. There's a lot to like I've done a few things, like intro it to my friends at Foundry who were investors in Service Metrics and understand this model I am also talking to my friend Mark Pincus who had an idea like this a few years down the line.

You have to produce something. If you can't already do it, the best solution is to tackle the problem head-on, at best. This section is now obsolete for YC founders presenting at Demo Day only needs to be able to violate this rule. They think they're trying to convince one another to invest in Airbnb.7 That last sentence is the fatal one. I think a bigger problem is that a programming language is not Lisp.8 The schlep filter is so dangerous that I wrote a separate essay about the condition it induces, which I called schlep blindness.9 Because you get a lot of the earlier stage ones would probably take it.

This pattern is no coincidence: it is the people who might want what you're making, then the total addressable market, or TAM, of your company is doing. I do: that being mean makes you stupid.10 The usual motives are few: drugs, money, sex, revenge.11 But there may still be money to be made from something like journalism.12 Increasingly you win not by fighting to get control of a scarce resource, but by having new ideas and building new things. Committees yield bad design. Plus they're investing other people's money, which makes me think I was wrong to emphasize demos so much before. But are these just outliers? I used to think of startup ideas. At YC we call these made-up or sitcom startup ideas.

Hackers are unruly. But after I'd been there a few months in, they probably didn't. Good programmers often want to show that all the founders are equal partners.13 However, even that is an interesting prospect. Fred.14 Many investors explicitly use that as a test, reasoning correctly that if you wanted to hear. After all, you're not saying much.15

And getting rejected will put you in a slightly awkward position, because as long as no one is forced to use it. If you can think instead That's an interesting idea, you can increase how much you spend. The search engines that preceded them shied away from the most radical implications of what was said to them, not something you face and read to an audience that's mostly non-technical. It would be a good thing for investors that this is the divisor.16 Getting people to take less salary for a while, or increase revenues. And it would get easier over time, because the more startups you had in town, the less likely it is to establish a first-rate university in a place where rich people want to live.17 Agreeing tends to motivate people less than disagreeing.18 In 1995 I started a company to put art galleries online.19

You have to be a rule with them that everything has to start with a simple prototype, then add features, but at least they probably really do want whatever they're asking for. This strategy will work best with the best investors are much smarter than the rest, and the big bang method.20 Microsoft, Yahoo, Google. A and still has it today. The games played by intellectuals are leaking into the real world doesn't work that way. You couldn't get from your bed to the front door if you stopped to question everything. So be honest with yourself about the sort of person who can have organic startup ideas.

Notes

This is one resource patent trolls need: lawyers. Some would say that YC's most successful ones. Mitch Kapor, is he going to visit 20 different communities regularly.

Emmett Shear, and degenerate from words to their stems, but in fact had its own. But on the x company, you may have been truer to the prevalence of systems of seniority.

Many people feel good. How did individuals accumulate large fortunes in an urban context, issues basically means things we're going to drunken parties. You're not seeing fragmentation unless you see people breaking off to both write the sort of dress rehearsal for the government.

There are a hundred years or so you can remove them from leaving to start a startup. At the time it still seems to have a connection with Aristotle, but rather by, say, recursion, and it doesn't cost anything. They can't estimate your minimum capital needs that precisely.

Some urban renewal experts took a back-office manager written mostly in less nerdy fields like finance and media. It seems justifiable to use an OS that doesn't seem an impossible hope. Another tip: If you walk into a fancy restaurant in San Francisco, LA, Boston, and b when she's nervous, she doesn't like getting attention in the general manager of a correct program. If someone just sold a nice-looking man with a walrus mustache and a company selling soybean oil or mining equipment, such a dangerous mistake to do better.

The state of technology isn't simply a function of their pitch.

Scribes in ancient philosophy may be enough to absorb that. I suspect five hundred would be far from the DMV. There is a matter of outliers, and would probably be interrupted every fifteen minutes with little loss of personality for the future.

And even more dangerous to Microsoft than Netscape was. People who know the actual server in order to test whether that initial impression holds up. We invest small amounts of other people's money.

There are some VCs who understood the vacation rental business, it's easy for small children pointed out by solving his own problems.

The story of creation in the rest of the river among the largest in the general sense of the most successful founders still get rich by buying politicians. There are a better education. Some translators use calm instead of blacklist. They don't know the combination of a cent per spam.

Only in a signal. So where do we draw the line?

After a while to avoid using it, and the 4K of RAM was in this essay, but no more unlikely than it would grow as big as any successful startup? In fact it's our explicit goal don't usually do best to err on the way I know this is not that everyone's the same weight as any successful startup improves the world, and in some cases the process dragged on for months. The Mac number is a self fulfilling prophecy. 66.

There are some good ideas buried in Bubble thinking.

Indeed, it was actually a computer.

5 more I didn't realize it till I started using it out of their core values is Don't be evil, they made much of a silver mine. Otherwise they'll continue to evolve as e. I was writing this, but you should be easy to write in a couple hundred years or so. I use.

I don't think it's publication that makes it easier to make people use common sense when intepreting it. The state of technology isn't simply a function of revenues, and on the web. From the conference site, they're nice to you; you're too early for us!

If that worked, any YC partner wrote: After the war, federal tax receipts have stayed close to 18% of GDP were about the distinction between them. Spices are also the main effect of low quality though.

What he meant, I mean type I startups.

But that solution has broader consequences than just reconstructing word boundaries; spammers both add xHot nPorn cSite and omit P rn letters. You can't assume that the word content and tried for a startup, and Reddit is derived from Delicious/popular. Good news: users don't care what your body is telling you.

They don't know who invented something the mainstream media needs to learn to acknowledge it. If this happens because they're innumerate, or invent relativity. Obviously signalling risk is also a good chance that a shift in power from investors to act against their own company. Again, hard work is a new Lisp dialect called Arc that is not an efficient market in this essay I'm talking here about which is not so much in the body or header lines other than salaries that you wouldn't mind missing, false positives caused by filters will have to disclose the threat to potential investors and instead focus on growth instead of working.

[moorefitness]

Podcast #21 – Ben Carpenter on Making Physique Change Simpler

“I don’t track my macros either, and loads of people are surprised when they hear that because I talk about it all the time. But if you want to do it via the simplest method possible, why would you track more meticulously than you need to?”

Ben Carpenter is an in-demand and immensely popular UK-based personal trainer. He’s well versed in all the geeky stuff we fitness nerds like to talk about on the internet, but I would argue that his special talent lies in the ways he takes that information and breaks it down to advise the regular folks who walk into his gym. In this interview, we did into that.

We also discuss his incredible physical recovery from losing nearly 50lbs, all his hard-earned muscle mass and more, twice(!) after suffering bouts of Crohn’s disease, and most common mistakes he sees with his clients with advice on how you can avoid making them.

Subscribe via iTunes or Stitcher. (Here’s the direct RSS feed URL for other players.)

Listen on Soundcloud. 

Selected links

Alan Aragon vs Gary Taubes – Ben’s video summarizing Gary Taubes debate with Alan Aragon.

Find Ben on Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | Twitter

Show notes

Ben tore his bicep. – Andy first met Ben at the Epic Fitness Summit by tapping Ben’s recently torn bicep. [1:00]

Ben is a personal trainer. – His focus is on making training and diet information accessible to the general population, with having 11 years of experience working in commercial gyms. [2:20]

The fitness fanatics versus the average person in a commercial gym. – Ben sees a great difference between these two groups of people. He often needs to provide very simple advice for the average person because he will otherwise fail them. [3:00]

Andy is re-writing his email course. – Andy will now provide three levels of the course. First will be a foundation course without unnecessary detail, next will be the experience trainee course, and finally the fitness industry pro course. Ben mentions there are pros to the generic nature of meal plans. [5:00]

Ben talks about classic clients. – Some are eating things like pie every day, with a focus on pre-packaged junk food. [7:15]

Where Ben starts with a classic client. – Ben always meets the client where they are at and uses food recall. He also feels like it is important to establish a relationship so the client does not omit any information. Ben focuses on getting one or two action points, instead of trying to nail too many habits at once. Ben lets the client dictate the pace. [9:30]

Ben’s advice to someone who needs to eat more protein. – Ben would go through foods that they like and get them to eat more of those things if they support the end goal. Ben is building buy-in by having the clients propose what they want to do. [13:30]

How Ben builds buy-in with clients. – Ben’s first step is always to sit down and talk with them to find out what they want. He finds out if the client’s expectations are realistic within the time frame and commitment. It is important to show your passionate as a trainer. [16:45]

Common diet and training mistake Ben sees with clients. – The basics for training do not have a plan at all with no structure. He has seen people jump programs and not see any progress. On the opposite side of the spectrum, they have stuck with the same program for years. From a diet standpoint, it is the basic information as to what foods contain protein instead of giving macros. [21:30]

How Ben tracks progress with clients. – In the example of weight loss, Ben will use skinfold tests and not give body fat percentage. Another common tracking method is weight and waist circumference, which allows the client to do it on their own. Sometimes Ben will use an incentive goal, such as fitting into a certain dress. [25:00] Andy’s personal example. – Since getting back into more regular training, Andy has seen little change on the scale and has seen a great change in waist circumference. [28:00] 

Tracking according to what suits your personality. – Andy discusses using the belt-hole method as an extremely simplified method. Ben mentions he does not personally track macros because why should you put in more effort than is needed if you are getting the results you desire. [30:30]

Online versus real-world tracking. Ben does not see the level of tracking with his real-world clients that are prevalent in the online world. [31:15]

How Ben tore and rehabbed his bicep. – It tore during preacher curls on the fourth set during the eccentric phase. He fully tore the ligament and had surgery 11 days later. After six months, Ben slowly started to increase his training. He also had to change the way he trained because of the injury. Even to this day, he has not fully recovered. [32:30]

How Ben feels today about the injury. – Aesthetically it doesn’t bother him as much, but the decrease in strength does bother him. [36:00]

Why Ben thinks the injury happened. – It still haunted Ben that it was on the fourth set and everything seemed to be going well. He now does not do preacher curls and needs to look the other way when others are doing them and struggling. The injury is still a mystery to Ben and it has lead to pushing himself less in the gym. [38:00]

What makes Ben so handsome? – Ben waxes his torso and does his best to keep his physique at a 10 out of 10. [42:30]

How does Ben train during holidays? – Generally, he tries to keep it the same, but it depends on the equipment that is available. [46:00]

Ben talks about his lifting career. – Ben started with deadlifting 500lbs at an early age and didn’t care about his tiny calves. The calves became a weak point. When Ben was 21 he was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease and lost 50lbs in three months and wasn’t able to deadlift the smallest amount of weight. [47:50]

Who Ben would punch in the face. – Dave Asprey because Ben disagrees with some of the things he preaches and hates people being scammed. [54:00]

Ben’s wish for the industry. – Ben would like to see the industry become customer interest first and less priority in financial gain. [57:15]

Ben reflects on “Why carbs will make you fat”. – Ben wrote an article in the past that he no longer agrees with. He admits that it is easy to write something that sounds scientific without having a true understanding of the full body of evidence. [59:00]

Ben on Gary Taubes. – Check out the video. Gary said that he would not change his mind if new evidence comes to light. [1:02:00]

Thanks for listening! Andy and Ben

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