#they also have something else in common…………….trans ppl

[azaraeth]

2024 is the year of movie protagonists cracking open their chests to reveal an effervescent light that holds a truth about themself

[tirfpikachu]

for me the term tirf is actually a means to an ends -- if i hadn't seen the term tirf i 10000000% would've NEVER been orbited radblr. and radblr genuinely saved my mental health unlike anything else.

i legit thought it was pure evil, like incels or white supremacists. but the term tirf turned a gear in my head and made me go... huh...? is there more to radical feminism than i thought? the term, the label, is a hook to show nuanced tras, tras who are on the fence about many things, that we have the complex feminist conversations in here that they have always been craving. for me being a tirf means being a mediator between radfems and the trans community. it means making accessibility for dysphoric folks WITHIN REASON without stepping on female & homosexual rights. it means acknowledging the oppression that some transfems may face, and calling out the ableism (against dysphoric folks) & gncphobia rampant within radblr, while also openly calling out how fucked up the tra movement has been to female/ofab ppl and homosexuals. it also means often using terminology that tras understand and combining them with radfem terminology so that ppl understand what radfems ACTUALLY mean, and not the version they see in tra text posts misrepresenting radblr.

as a physically & mentally disabled detrans woman, my tirf activism is also my disability activism. it also involves my strong alliance with gnc folks as a soft butch woman - including with gnc people who are dysphoric, or even just personally enjoy trans/nonbinary labels as a gnc subculture. i still want to call out their much too common sexism, misogyny, homophobia (especially lesbophobia) and other bullshit. i want to be a haven for freshly peaked trans allies orbiting radblr.

if you are a radfem, you do not need to become a tirf. that is not my goal at all with this. we need all kinds of radfems, including strictly female-focused radfems who i really do highly respect. with my own personal brand of tirf activism, i am merely appealing to people who are already orbiting both tra and radfem spaces. people who are already emotionally invested in both trans activism and female activism. slowly peaking misogyny-affected ppl, especially homosexuals, who are still wary of radblr. i'm also appealing to trans-identified people, those affected by misogyny & gncphobia who can benefit from having a corner of radfeminism to speak on their unique experiences and can strengthen the radfem movement. i also reach out to ppl who don't identify as radfems but are disillusioned with mainstream feminism & mainstream lgbt activism. a lot of us have been harmed by tras. we desperately want to stop the tra movement from harming more female & homosexual people and work hard to limit more painful detransitions... yet some of us also need trans accommodations and support due to their dysphoria to participate, and topics may often include trans issues and trans experiences.

this does not need to be something you are involved in; i know it can get frustrating. but for those of you who are curious, who are new to radblr, who are maybe dysphoric or trans-identified or just want to both support trans people and do real feminism, my inbox, DMs & discord server are open and we're waiting with open arms for you.

[transgenderpolls]

‘Trans younger’ ‘transitioned more recently’ are these really the conversations we’re having now?what do those terms mean exactly? Transitioned more recently. You mean socially transitioned? Medically transition? Surgically transitioned? Or just realised they were trans? Accepted they were trans but didn’t/couldn’t come out? Because I thought we were against judging people because they are trans in ‘the wrong way’?? Are we genuinely trying to play the ‘who’s more trans’ game or something? Jesus Christ. There’s few enough of us already can we just date the people who we find attractive and share interests with like everyone else in the world?

on this blog, unless otherwise specified, "transitioned" generally refers to the mental transition of realizing you're trans and changing your identity. that particular poll does also literally include options about specifying that other aspects of someone's experience as their gender are what would matter irt being in a relationship with them. and like all my polls, it has the 'it's complicated/other' option.

i'm honestly not sure how you saw the objective descriptor "transitioned more recently" and took away from it that anyone was being judged as "less trans." or that anyone was even being judged for the option that they picked. it's a poll, dude. it's a question about personal comfort. it's presenting options and trying to see how most people feel about it. what about that post implies judgment? or that anyone believes that you can't "date the people you find attractive"? when someone in real life asks you "do you have issues with any food textures" do you respond "oh my GOD can i not just eat whatever foods i want??"

and hey, for that matter, i chose the option "yes, i would be uncomfortable" on that poll. which, albeit one of the least commonly picked options, i think is a completely rational personal boundary, and not just an arbitrary "judgment." most people like to date people who they can relate to and who have similar amounts of life experience to them, don't they? i would have very little in common with a guy who's spent a significantly less amount of time knowing that he was a man and having lived as a man. that would feel similar, to me, to dating someone much younger in general.

if that bothers you, it literally doesn't matter because we'll never meet and because the majority answer is people having absolutely no issue with dating ppl who transitioned more recently. so, like literally who gives a shit.

[lacunasbalustrade]

what are your general thoughts on queer(gay n trans n all) people? like you dont seem to be against gay ppl from what i can see but i also see that you've like never really openly said something pro or against trans ppl. sorry if its out of the blue im just curious esp seeing your pov as a religious person who has trans mutuals/follows n all bcuz i (unfortunately) know plenty of christians that know trans people but only tolerate them instead of accepting them (which usually means they misgender/deadname them)

hi! I'm happy to answer your question - it's a bit controversial, though, and a sensitive topic for everyone, so I do ask for your understanding if anything I say happens to offend you.

as a Christian, I believe in the stance the Bible puts forth: that BEING gay is not a life choice, it's an inclination that came forth due to the presence of sin in the world. the continuation, however, of this choice, is a sin.

To quote so no one thinks I'm speaking out of some random, bibically incorrect bigotry, Romans 1: 24 NIV "Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another." ,Romans 1: 26 "Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones." , Romans 1: 27 "In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error."

obviously my faith and beliefs should not be forced on unbelievers. I am not any holier than anyone else because I am straight. I am every bit as sinful because it's impossible to avoid committing sin.

so if I'm going to sum it up, it's best said as: none of my business because Who Am I to tell you how to live, right? you're my friends and 'preaching' isn't actually loving. the best form of loving others as a Christian is to accept them as a person before judging based on whatever life choices they've made or pronouns they call themselves. which brings me into the next part!

theologically, I have to admit I'M NOT VERY SURE about trans people. I genuinely cannot find many sources of literature on the topic. There are intersex people, there are people with gender dysphoria. The Bible doesn't talk much about those, enough to give any real objections anyway. To talk about my beliefs based off the context, if God made you as you are, you shouldn't be trying to change you...is the logic, but again, no reason to force biblical beliefs on unbelievers.

I do disapprove of the extent to which some trans people have taken this schtick. I've seen posts saying 'oh if kids can play soccer and do ballet which messes them up for life, they can also do trans surgeries!' I'm sorry. That just doesn't make sense. WHY would anyone want kids to have permission to do Very Risky Things when they are small enough to not know better or make informed choices? And I also know many posts say that 'common sense', kids aren't gonna do those things till they're old enough to feel like they need to do them....those posters need to remember the last time they regretted doing something as a child. Common sense can't be relied upon in my experience.

Plus, given the kidnapping laws in the U.S which basically allow children to be taken away from their parents if their parents disapprove...lol yeah now make a law where my child can be taken away from me if I'm not in the same fandom as them. It can be hurtful to receive dissent on your life choices, but that don't mean up and leaving is the solution, unless the living situation is physically dangerous in some way or you are an actual adult. Children are not trustworthy indicators of whether or not a parent is problematic. And I'm saying this having had problematic parents myself - sometimes we are part of the problem. And if it's difficult, you should still try not to give up on them.

This might be the most important part: I'm wondering whether the gender stereotypes placed on girls and boys are the markers trans people want to overcome. Because from what I've researched, there are two different camps. 1: people who admit that they are biologically whatever sex they were born, and just enjoy dressing like and passing for the other sex because it makes them more comfortable. 2: people who actually believe they are the other sex because they feel that way and they are only effectively realizing that change to their 'authentic' self by transitioning.

I don't believe in gender stereotyping. Like, girls wear skirts boys wear pants. Boys can't wear pink etc etc. So the concept of a trans woman thinking they are a woman because they enjoy the markers attached to being a woman, like, for example, having long hair and wearing skirts, makes me really uncomfortable. Because that's not the whole experience of being a woman. It's only a small part of it, and it's not universal at all. And while no one can claim that ALL woman have experienced a certain set of conditions that make them woman...the only standard for BEING a woman, in my book, is to be a biological one, because it's the only defining trait. When people think of girls, I don't want them to automatically think of girls with skirts and wearing pink. I want them to acknowledge that all girls are different, and the only thing that makes them girls is the gender marker, not their conformance to 'gender norms' that have arisen from societal conditioning.

The idea that someone's feelings can be 'authentically accurate' makes me feel even more....nah. Feelings are valid but if I trusted mine all the time, I'd definitely be all over the place.

To sum it up: no problems with the trans behavior because I'm not into forcing biblical perspectives on y'all. But I definitely have a problem with the idealogy and the legislature.

dead name, misgendering wise...I believe people should be called whatever they want to be called unless it makes the other person uncomfortable. In which case the other person should just stop interacting with them since they're so uncomfortable. (E.g you want me to call you Baby Chicken. For some reason I have a problem with it. Maybe I have a strong fear of chickens.)

Basically I respect your life choices. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk haha.

[stilwaterangel]

okay thinking about the specifics of angels relationships with ppl in sr1

gat: self explanatory angel thinks hes sexy and has an obnoxious crush on him. throughout sr1 angel doesnt say anything about this and doesnt exactly make any kind of moves, hes naturally flirty but johnny just thinks its funny and nothing real. they have an immediate strong bond because johnny likes that angel is so brazen and loud and fight-ready, and angel respects johnny a lot while also admiring him and wanting to look out for him. angel spends the most personal time with johnny not just bc he likes him but bc they get on really well and their personalities match up nicely! and also because angel likes aisha too and loves hanging out with her

lin: angel likes her a lot! i hc her as trans 🥺 so i think they would bond over that bc no one else understands but also i like their dynamic and relationship as teasy and fun. like when she tells him not to fuck up her car when she fake-rescues donnie and boss does it anyways... i think they have a very loving back n forth sarcastic friendship. i also havent mentioned it yet but angel is SHIT at driving (cars) and i think lin would try and teach him to be a better driver and theyd have a lot of fun doing that together. they would also race even though angel is shit but its a fun bonding experience and lin gets an ego boost every time she wins (which is every race)

dex: i think angel has a very... professional relationship w dex. like they do jobs together and they work well as a team, angel respects him, but its also that their relationship is strictly and oddly formal and they dont spend much time together in friendly ways. i just think like perhaps their personalities dont gel but its that dex is very business-oriented and smart about things but angel, like johnny, is a guns blazing type of fighter, and the two of them dont have much in common outside of working together for the saints. its not to say angel doesnt Like dex bc he does! i think he finds him like funny and easy to joke around with, but they never talk about anything serious or deep and i just dont think they spend much 1 on 1 time together. especially not after sr1. with his job change in sr2 angel would think dex is a sellout and that he turned his back on his roots and his friends, and they wouldnt talk much anymore

troy: this one is complicated bc it spans into sr2. INITIALLY i think angel, through the fact he mostly hangs out with troy when hes also with dex, i think he distrusts troy and is suspicious about him. its mostly thanks to dex's suspicions but angel would agree.. like he Does think troy asks too many questions and his insistence on doing as little damage to cops as possible while trying to avoid non-saints related business is immedistely strange to angel, and though he doesnt suspect too much he just thinks troy is uncommitted and weak so angel doesnt spend like any personal time with him at all. GOING THROUGH SR2 and finding out troy was undercover but also that hes still trying to investigate the yacht explosion and also assist the saints under the table, angel would reconsider his thoughts on him a little. hed be like smug about knowing something was up with troy but hed also be really mad about it, not bc troy was undercover but that troy is still a cop, and whenever they meet or talk they definitely fight it out because angel is furious that troy thinks he can play both sides and act like he gives a shit about the saints when he actively works for the police. they probably agree to disagree on it but it takes a toll on troy (in my mind he quits the force after sr2) and angel doesnt have a positive relationship with him until that happens

thats it fornow but im THINKING

[liquidstar]

Hey if I had a transmasc character and he never actually transitioned himself, would that be transphoic? bc I have a really cool, like, metaphorical thing there, where he makes this artificial living puppet to be his idealised self + physically masculine, but that metaphor kind of falls apart if he himself also transisitions into a male body.

Am willing to elaborate!

Oh there's absolutely nothing wrong with depicting a pre-transition or NO transition trans character. I do think there can be wrong ways to go about it (such as caricatured depictions) but nothing here is raising any red flags to be about that.

Not every trans person medically transitions (hormones and surgery). There can be many reasons for this, from personal choice to inability due to outside factors. That's okay. And not every trans person is about to socially transition- to come out. Many do in fact go about their lives presenting as their agab because sometimes there's not really a choice. It's something that will upend your entire life too, so many people just take their time. Nothing at all is wrong with that. Not every trans person got to go on hormones by age 16 and had top surgery by age 20, that's a very idealized narrative that isn't actually very common at all (nothing wrong w indulging in wish fulfillment tho but not to overdo it)

Basically what I'm saying here is that not every trans experience is getting to do all the medical transition stuff, or even the social transitioning. And it's not inherently wrong to depict that. Because that's just kinda... Life. There are lots of different experiences and all are valid

And the whole puppet thing in this case... I think it makes sense. I think that lots of people who want to transition/come out but can't will find ways to express themselves. In the past I've talked about how many identify w a different identity online than what they seem to irl, and I kinda compared this to that old stereotype of a closeted trans person finding freedom in "crossdressing" in private. It's not a 1:1 but I think you understand what I mean.

I would maybe be a bit careful about the idealized self stuff because while that is VERY MUCH a thing, I think it's also important to acknowledge that his appearance and medical transition (or lack there of) isn't what makes him a man. A no-op no-hrt trans dude is still a dude, no matter how much he looks like a "girl" according to binary societal standards. Y'know? But obviously that doesn't make it wrong for him to have an idealized self, I just think that too much escapism on this end isn't ideal either. But this can certainly be an arc, because like I said before, this stuff is often a necessary coping tool for many. I think what would be nice (if it ever comes to it, idk how you story will go so I'm just spitballing) would be that if the people around him ever saw his real body, they still treated him like a boy even if he doesn't "look the part." (Again, according to binary standards that mean nothing) Because it's not about looks 👍 that's only superficial, doesn't reflect who you are. And I think that could be a good lesson. if it makes sense for the story, that is.

Because his body already is a male body. Because it's his body. And he's male. That's it. Everything else (hrt and surgery) should be a personal choice about presentation, rather than conforming to a societal ideal of what a "male body" is. A male body, regardless of AGAB, can look like anything. A cis man can look like anything, or have "female" sex characteristics, since sex itself isnt binary either. (Though I'm not the person to ask for writing advice from on that end) Same applies for a trans man. Even if he does eventually want to medically transition, that doesn't make his body now any less "male," because that's his decision. Bodies just aren't that binary.

Anyway those are just random thoughts but the TLDR is that there's not an inherent issue w portraying ppl who haven't transitioned one way or the other. It's not an offensive subcategory of trans people! It's how many live and that's okay... As long as you're treating them like a character and not caricature it's all cool. But please please please please remember that a trans mans body is a mans body no matter what. Good luck anon! Feel free to ask follow-ups if you want!

[midwesternorcprincess]

so my evil uncle, as i've called him for several years now, well, it's complicated, i guess. i called him my evil uncle because he was very nasty for a while about ten years ago to my parents and my sister, who did him no wrong. he accused them of stealing from my great-grandma, which i take as an almost unforgivable insult. we were so poor we could barely afford food at the time, my parents were both going through major health issues, and my great-grandma would buy us groceries of her own volition when shopping. but my uncle is such a controlling hardass who has to have everything his way, that to him that was stealing i guess because HE didn't want it done, never mind what my great-grandma wanted to do with her own money. and he changed the locks so we couldn't get into her house or my grandparents' house (again none of us has ever stolen anything in our lives and we had nothing but great relationships with these relatives)

and that was the last straw for me, but it didn't come out of nowhere. he's always just started stupid ass arguments wherever he goes because of that need to control people who are minding their own damn business. he'd cause problems at almost every big family gathering, he sold real estate in town for a while until literally no one was willing to deal with him because he'd do the same there, he had pretty much only one friend from college who was still willing to stick by him, and even then he was constantly trying to rein him in. couldn't keep a woman around obviously, until about fifteen years ago he finally got one to marry him, god knows how they pulled that off

but, up until the incident a decade ago, i'd always have mixed feelings. he was very fond of me - he's my godfather - and we'd have a pretty good time when it was just us, or like us and my grandma or something, you know, a small group with someone he actually respected, which is very few people. he and my mom are the only people in the family with higher education (and now there's one more, me), and he was the only one who cared about science and things like that (he had a biology degree), so we kinda had that in common when no one else in the family did. so we'd bond and have fun sometimes. and then he'd turn around and start these dumbass fights and i'd get mad at him, but then we'd have fun again, and this was a neverending cycle

but as i said, in the last 10-15 yrs, i'd given up, started avoiding him, and after he did that to my parents, cut off contact and blocked him completely (he also provoked me by being nosy and wanting to know shit that wasn't his business) and refused to see him or speak with him. and also he was homophobic and went way down the Trump rabbit-hole. idk if he knows about my gf, but i can't imagine he has any good thoughts about trans ppl so i wanna keep him far away from that info.

but my mom and eventually even my dad came back around to him, far too easily at first, if you want my opinion. but he has by all accounts been good to them in the last two or three years or so. and he and my mom had to sort out all the shit with my grandparents' estate, since the other two siblings are even bigger dumbasses and caused all kinds of problems for everyone, so maybe there was a factor of my uncle and my mom having to be a team and deal with them.

my mom's always been too forgiving. especially to her siblings and their clans, who emphatically do not deserve it and don't even try to appreciate it, they just treat her like a punching bag. she's just the hug it out and cry type who always thinks there can be love and harmony again no matter how many times she's proven wrong. so for the last few years she's been trying to get me to come around and forgive my uncle too. and i've kind of been my own hardass, which i think at first was healthy skepticism. i had no reason to believe he wouldn't stir up shit just as soon as i turned around. but after so many years i think now it's my pride too, not wanting to give in, so i've refused contact still. he has reached out to me a few times and apparently really wants to repair our relationship (we never even had direct conflict, i voluntarily broke it off because of how he treated my parents) and i wouldn't.

but then come a year ago, my grandpa died so there was no avoiding it, i'd have to see everyone for the first time in almost a decade. and when i saw my uncle i found him suddenly very hard to hate. and he lit up a little in his way and i remembered the old affection i used to feel. and i think maybe i found him a bit pitiable. it's his own fault he's run everyone out of his life, but he lost his job and his wife left him and he started getting health problems and then the other two dumbass siblings started hating him for executing my grandparents' will and not letting them squat on my grandparents' property anymore because it needed to be sold. so my mom's right, i do kinda have to feel bad for him. certainly i feel much more inclined toward him than toward the other siblings.

but anyway my mom is pushing it way too hard, i am trying to come around and soften up and be forgiving in the best way i can. i guess she wants me to go about it like she does, all emotional and heart-to-heart and touchy-feely and all. but i can't be that way. idk if she understands that softening up my way, at a distance, is the only way i can start. my uncle's starting cancer treatment and she wanted me to call him and wish him good luck. fuck no i can't do that. but i genuinely want to extend an olive branch. or like, accept the one i've been repeatedly offered. so i think i'm gonna sew him a bear? i even got nicer fabric for it. and send it with a get well card or something. i kinda don't even want to tell my mom i'm doing it. my pride again i guess.

anyway character development. i think. i hope i don't regret this. but idk, maybe i should not be regretful if he starts acting like a jerk again. i guess i should only worry about the way things stand now and what's in my own control.

[explainslowly]

is omegaverse about trans and intersex people?

Spending all this time reading and thinking about omegaverse fic, I really want to put more thought into what relationship omegaverse has to trans and intersex people.

Disclaimer: thoughts based on my reading of Destiel omegaverse fic. Technically not the birthplace of abo, but you couldn't pay me enough to make me read J2, so close enough.

I think a fairly commonly held opinion is that omegaverse is simply transphobic/anti-intersex. I don't exactly agree with that 100% these days, because I want to investigate and think through what the popularity and content of omegaverse says about attitutes towards intersex/trans people more deeply, but I also don't begrudge anyone that opinion. I mean, it was my reaction too, for years.

Read a few omegaverse fics, especially the straightforward porn ones, and it becomes pretty clear pretty fast that these stories are very horny about trans and intersex bodies and genders but like, without anyone even breathing or thinking those words. M/M A/O is often like: what if a man had a vagina. What if a woman was amab. What if a man could get pregnant. What if intersex variations were even more common than they already are (which is - more common than you might think) and were publicly recognized as existing separate genders (yeah they are mostly kinda sci-fi, but also even in our very much existing, very much mundane world there exist people with all kinds of bodies and expressions of reproductive organs). And then the stories are about such people being super desirable and hot.

It has it's charms, but of course it's not that simple.

Considering the history and consequences of chaserism and fetishistic pornographic depiction of marginalized people, the hostility that a lot of trans/intersex people feel about the omegaverse is pretty understandable. Like, being into forcefem/sissy porn (which, lbr, a loooot of omegaverse writers clearly are) does not automatically make you an ally nor does the popularity of this kink make world less hostile to transfem people. The painful tension between desires that are covert and violence that is overt is present within this space just as much as it is everywhere else.

First, the majority of fandom does not have interest in acknowledging the existence of trans/intersex people within their stories. That itself is a form of violence, I hope we can all agree. Like erasing our existence (often quite nastily!) is bad.

Second, the stories themselves often include intersex themes in some form. Protagonist having a nonstandard issue of reproductive organs (whether by being the only human omega etc, or just having a nonstandard set within the world) is something I have seen enough to call it a somewhat common trope. It is never called an intersex condition within the text, but it seems to me that it clearly is just that. It's kind of a mixed bag as you might imagine, because it seems usually written out of ignorance about the real world equivalents and often with fetishy or tragedy porn undertones, but it also can be based in interest and compassion.

Transition seems to only come up in the form of 'bitching (if you are not aware, it's the term for an alpha turning another alpha into an omega, usually by knotting them) which is the omegaverse flavor of forcefem/sissyfication which I feel has been analyzed to death, and I don't think I have anything interesting to add there.

Last few years, there has been an uptick in writing about trans people (less so with intersex ppl, afaik), mostly *by* trans people, but it's still a drop in the bucket in comparrison to the amounts of omegaverse writing. Trans/intersex people are haunting fanfic, our bodies arranged and presented to be consumed for erotic pleasure, while we are never given the courtesy of having our experiences named. It's a weird, disorienting experience, much like existing in a society which is living in fear of gender transgression and body non-normativity, while at the same time furiously dennying it's existince. It's sickening. It's madening. I don't like it!!

This post is already way too long so I might end it here. I still want to look more closely at the expression of desire but I might think on that a little more.

[faggylilpunk]

Finnaly made a tumbler! Anyway, haiii! :3 i am albert, i am a punk dragon dino!

What to expect:

very leftist ideologies

Politics

16+ posts

A lot of photos of me and cass

Talk of crimes (anything serious will have a tw and be tagged appropriately)

Furry & therian content (tho less common)

Punk diy stuff (i plan to make some tutorials for a lot of the diy stuff I've made<3)

F-slur/T-slur (I am reclaiming them but will have them tagged as #f-slur and #t-slur if they bother you ofc! Not changing my @ tho, it kinda means something to me qwq)

I may post words like slut, whore, and other degrading terms, they will be tagged as said word (ex: #slut) so you can blacklist the tag ^^

I may talk about themes of self harm, violence, abuse, or explicit substances, all of which will also be tagged! (Ex: #selfharm #tw:selfharm) but i will also have a more descriptive trigger warning for heavy subjects like self harm, sa, abuse ect. If you dont wanna fully blacklist the tag ^^

Some of my patches will have things that fall under these^ o will likely not go through the effort of censoring and i might not tagg it unless it's fairly close up so if it really bothers you just block me ^^ no harsh feelings

This isn't a 18+ blog, nsfw pfps will be blocked to keep ppl safe, my cusion follows me

Do not interact if:

Nsfw pfp

Anyone else, feel free to argue and talk shit, i will put nazis, pedos, fascist, zionists, zoos, racists, and who tf else i hate in thier place or just block ya after trying lol

About me:

trans masc/enby person (gender bxy)

therian/otherkin identifying with a dinosaur-esk dragoniod (yes, I'm aware I am human -_-)

I am a plushum, meaning I have romantic and/or sexual attraction, twords plushies. I consider my bunny plush one of my partners bc i love them very much

Furry

Pansexual and arojump (under the aromantic spectrum)

I am diagnosed with autism, adhd, dyslexia and dysgraphia

Self diagnosed and peer reviewed with social anxiety, gender dysphoria (duh), bipolar disorder (not sure which one yet tbh but it's exstreamly obvious to my bipolar partner lol) and potentially dyscalcula but im not fully sure so take with a grain of salt

Mutual/social anarchist, i really wanna be able to set up a free market where I live one day

I am very vulture culture, frequently bring home dead animals to burry for respect and bones

Very left leaning if it isnt obvious enough

I've been called the f-slur & t-slur a few times. Now i call myself that because what ya gonna do if I already call myself those oh so scary words?

Im atheist and dont believe in any form of life after death but like I support yall having freedom of religion, pagens, Christians, Muslims, Satanists, like go for it, I just simply cant understand the idea of a greater purpose

I grew up where slurs were used casually. I have racist redneck family. Thankfully, I grew up to realize wtf is actually wrong with that side of my family ?-? You can break out of shitty thinking, there is no excuse for racism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, ect. Like get a life

I try my best to support, but we can only walk places, and we frequently eat outta dumpsters

More will be added as i think of stuff

[blackwoolncrown]

Yeah like. I have a friend with a medical condition who thought she was ace (due to said medical condition) so she didn't go to the doctor until it got way worse and she ended up needing surgery.

Last time she mentioned this she got a bunch of anons calling her acephobic and telling her to shut up and/or die and uh. What the fuck.

Talking about medical conditions/medication side effects/whatever that cause low/no libido is not acephobic. People NEED to know that certain medications and medical conditions that cause low/no libido can cause other severe issues.

Like, I know it sucks but having low/no libido isn't just a sexuality, it can also be a side effect or symptom.

People don't share this info as a "Haha gotcha you stupid aces! There's OBVIOUSLY something medically wrong with you" they share it because hey, if you have low/no libido you might want to consider getting checked out or looking up common side effects of your meds so you don't, y'know, die.

Oh no that's so sad, tho! Like I'm glad she got treatment but it's so frustrating to hear that an idea kept her from realizing something was wrong with her.

But I get it. It's a really contentious and complex issue but unfortunately it's SO hard to talk about bc you have a bunch of ppl piling on to tell you how you're harming them and it's just...false. Like it's a real, actual fact that 'lack of sexual interest/intimacy' is more often a sign of something someone is going through or has gone through (illness, trauma) than something like being gay, bi, trans etc.

Does that mean being aro or ace isn't 'real'? Absolutely not. Some ppl are 'just that way'. But like, it's literally dangerous to demand ppl stop acknowledging that it could just be a sign of an issue.

Like do you remember how the rhetoric was literally 'if ppl tell you to question why ur aro/ace that's basically a hate crime' like it was/is BAD bad.

I thought I was ace for yearssss but it turns out I was just in a relationship based on who I was in trauma. Once I healed I met someone else and realized....oh. OH. OHHHH.

It's real, no matter who wants to hear it or not. And it honestly ...feels sus when people react so intensely bc in the nicest way possible I almost want to ask...why does the idea of someone changing this identity feel like an attack to you? Why do you need to deny this so bad?

[toytulini]

I saw Barbie last night, I dont think i have a long film review of it for yall but idk I'll put some thoughts under a readmore I guess?

-Right off the bat, I enjoyed it, it was fun. It was a fun pink poppy romp. Thats about what I expected of it, and thats pretty much what I got

-Its not particularly radical in its gender/feminism takes, its very basic, which, I saw a number of ppl mention that before I saw it so I wasnt expecting anything radical. It couldve done better. it was. fine. im shrug about it i guess.

-My mom enjoyed it and was apparently not expecting any sort of emotional depth or story at all so it caught her off guard. I heard her crying. she cries easy at movies. I'm glad my mom liked it. Maybe she'll absorb some of the very basic feminism it drops idk.

-I knew the Kens adopted patriarchy and introduced it to Barbieland but it felt lile that happened very fast, idk.

-The ending....I. is her going to a gynecologist supposed to be like. shes gotten a vagina by deciding to be human?? or is she trying to schedule a surgery or something? that felt pretty weird to me if im honest, i thought it was gonna be a job interview or smth... Especially with how everyone was like "Barbie is ace (heheeh i agree) cos she has no genitals! (sorry what. excuse me. wanna run that by me again?)" like okay that makes that headcanon reasoning even more dewply uncomfortable that it already was?

-I enjoyed weird Barbie. i wish theyd cast someone else cos iirc ka/te mckin/non was a transmisogynist? unless she apologized or said she changed her mind on the topic since like 2017?? but i havent seen anything? idk. just. annoying to keep platforming these ppl. i guess theres probably other actors involved that have shit views of trans ppl. whatever i guess.

-I did dress up a little. i feel like my outfit had Weird Barbie Vibes. maybe ill post a pic.

-I did enjoy it and it had a number of shots and or transitions i liked, i think the one with the disco ball to the moon or whatever was enjoyable.

-god we really are so weird about barbie

-it just feels factually incorrect that all dolls pre barbie were baby dolls? idk. im sure it was the most common kind. but idk. not to be weird about The History Of Dolls but like. the porcelain dolls from the Victorian era. idk if those count as baby dolls. iirc those were to help young girls practice prepping dead bodies of loved ones for funerals or smth??? but i guess porcelain dolls have a sort of babyish look about them. and are fragile so you cant play rough with them.

-Like i Know its a 2hr long toy commercial for mattel but also god that cant be right. even if they werent filling the same niche as barbie as idk basically a fashion doll? there had to be other dolls right?

-I know the flat foot thing is Supposed to be over the top and silly for them all to get upset about but also tbh. as a bitch with falling arches the way some of yall make jokes about flat feet still is uh. well. rude. but also lmao man. the day my arches started hurting for no reason while i was barefoot did sorta feel emotionally like her feet falling to the ground lol.

-i want to introduce barbie to margot robbie's harley quinn owo. i think that would be Fun :3

-i want Ken's job. how do i do Beach as an occupation.

-I actually liked how they handled Ken and Barbie's rship til the end. i feel weird about that ending overall and also it feels weak wrt her dynamic as Ken. they make him grapple w her not reciprocating his feelings the same way but then she just leaves barbieland anyway?? and ig they dont get to explore a friendship or qpr dynamic. ok. its fine i guess.

-her saying she has no genitalia felt so transgender in a way im not sure it was intended to. ken saying he has all of the genitalia felt even more transgender. headcanoning them both as extremely transgender in fun weird new ways and no one can stop me.

-Allan is my favorite character i think. bro me too

-bibbleless movie. add bibble.

[saeraas]

3,8,11 for the violence game ❤️‍🔥

not sure which media you want anon, but I'll do jjk since that's the one I talk about the most currently but I'll throw fate in because fuck it. just message again if it's like something else since I talk about a lot of stuff

3. screenshot or description of the worst take on tumblr

jjk

this is new but people genuinely getting mad because ppl (me) are getting silly and calling sukuna a fraud because he stole a 15 yo body and technique because he'd gotten blown back 20 fingers and all otherwise aka he ran from yuji lol. it's not that deep and I don't expect the guy who deceived a 16 yo girl by acting like he was her crush to be honest lol

normally it'd be like "gojo would have hated what maki did to the zenin clan" from a while back lol

fate

that one take someone had that they thought it was actually good on fate to take a historical trans woman (d'eon) and put her in the either gender category in fate. also something about sakura's design saw recently it was dumb

8. common fandom opinion everyone is wrong about

jjk

that one line someone said that "gojo loved geto but geto didn't love gojo" that so many agreed on did irreparable damage to geto's fanon interpretation like they massacred my boy

fate

kama is a tsundere or whatever ruined how everyone thought kama was like pre ooku thanks to those wack-ass, low-effort, self-fulfillment reddit comics that were in circulation

11. number of fandom related words you've filtered

I can do jjk and fate together since it's pretty much the same:

the incest (especially in fate, iykyk) or teacher (or adult) and student (or kid) ships. I'm not sorry, yall suck and stop making my cute posts weird by tagging that shit. also that one guy who has the same initials for jjk, nothing against him i just want jujutsu kaisen. also also couple of big fate accounts

[shivasdarknight]

Bi women are, at best, not as queer as "real" queer ppl, and at worst, simply equivalent to straight women

I want to expound upon this one and something people mentioned in the replies because it frankly drives me crazy given hi, hello. I'm a bitch that doesn't shut up about biphobia. And I wanna start it off by pointing out that the tumblr community has seen a diminished bisexual population and overall support of bisexuals - especially bi women - since a good amount of us were driven off the platform and onto sites like twt, which turned into open season and continues to be a rancid place to be openly bisexual on.

It doesn't really escape me that this has become a site that prides itself on the lesbian community and population while several bisexual theorists were harassed off of this site. If you want to talk about "why didn't I see this coming" with regards to Somerton, you need to first address the fact that issues regarding bisexuals (and even just bisexual positivity) never leaves bi spaces. No, bisexuals are ignored for the most part and if we're not we're the current target. We need to address the fact that many of you were fine accepting the fact that he lied and called countless bi women "straight women" when it'd been long corrected in the past. We need to address the fact that this man constantly erased bisexual characters in media (referring to Zagreus and Thanatos as gay despite the former being explicitly bi and the latter being implied bi; calling Yuuri Katsuki gay when he's bi; borderline refusing to acknowledge korrasami or halrivy as bi4bi; calling Valkyrie from the MCU a lesbian when she's bi because Tessa Thompson is bi), erased ACTUAL bisexuals (Becky Albertalli, who he repeatedly called a straight woman, pretty sure he called Kristen Stewart a lesbian when she's bi but I know for a fact that y'all do this constantly) or would just refuse to even mention them (hey, did you know that Glimmer and bow in spop are bi4bi canonically? Or that Ava of the cancelled Warrior Nun is bi? He also refuses to acknowledge queer women in Hades, like Persephone who is shown to be very clearly into both Hades and Nyx so like.).

People here act as if bisexuals are simultaneously the most privileged of the queer community while also the community punching bag, when the suicide rates of bisexuals is close to equal to that of trans people (40% for bisexuals compared to 25% for gays and lesbians), bisexuals have less access to resources or people they can trust, and overall have higher mental health concerns than the rest of the community (source). Another statistic on this:

When the researchers looked at the specific intersection between minority sexual identity and race/ethnicity, they found that white and Black women who identified as bisexual were more likely to report suicidal thoughts relative to white and Black women who identified as lesbian or gay. Looking at the intersection between minority sexual identity and age, the researchers found that suicidal thoughts were also relatively higher among bisexual women in the 35-64 group compared with lesbian or gay women in the same age group. (source)

That's not counting DV and all else, but this is in part because it's common place for bisexuals to get shunned from queer spaces and tumblr is a good example of this. Bisexuals only find solidarity and support from other bisexuals, major queer days and weeks are acknowledged and celebrated by everyone but when it concerns bisexual specific ones there's utter silence (during bi month this year, "bisexual" only trended twice during bi visibility week and was outperformed by lesbian all other days including on bi visibility day). When these issues get brought up, the response is to attack and harass them into silence - I've had too many mutuals be harassed off of this platform and twitter just for being loud about being bi, and I myself have been harassed for pointing out when someone's being awful. I mean over on twitter, we had people - including cis gay men - trying to coin a derogatory word for bi women in the form of "cocksucker" (which is RICH since it's both vulgar and transphobic).

Considering biphobia is never called out or taken seriously, no one is ever made to consider what they're doing to make spaces welcoming to bi people - especially bi women - we get people not noticing how rancid folks like Somerton are until it's too late. His usage of "white straight women" was used to go after bisexual women he didn't like, and not all of those people were white or even women seeing as he went after ND Stevenson and Rebecca Sugar and misgendered them to seem like he was in the right. If he's saying straight women, more often than not he means bi women. If he's saying white woman, they may not even be white. And people took this unflinchingly due to their own biases instead of questioning why (insert very open bisexual person/character) is being ignored or erased in topics about queerness. Why do we expect people to read queer theory but leave out anything that has to do with bisexuality? Whenever resources are passed around, there's nothing about bisexuals. There's especially nothing about bi women.

Why are your spaces so vacuous when it concerns bisexuality? Why do you celebrate other people - notably, loudly celebrating gays and lesbians - but you refuse to celebrate bisexuals? I've seen this happen with my mutuals, I take note of who engages with what. And 99% of the stuff that's about bisexuality gets outright ignored by non-bisexual mutuals unless it's some shallow positivity post and not about their shitty actions. Why do so many sapphic spaces completely ignore bisexual women yet cater exclusively to lesbians when others sapphics exist? The same goes for bi men and spaces for queer men: where's the support for them?

We are not inherently more privileged because you see us as optional queers. We do not have support in the queer community and it makes bisexuals extremely vulnerable, and the response from the wider community is mockery, harassment, and expulsion from spaces that should be where we can build community and seek aid. We can't even seek aid within bi spaces because they're either underfunded or don't exist due to underfunding compared to specifically gay or lesbian spaces!

You all seriously need to care more about bi people. You expect us to show up for you and we do. But when we ask you to show up for us? No, we're just the half-gay/half-straight punching bags that you loathe because you think our capability for multi-attraction makes us privileged somehow when really it just leads to higher rates of violence among bi women (did you know Amber Heard is bi? And that Depp attacked her based on that? And instead of supporting her, people blamed her and her bisexuality for why she was getting abused).

Required viewing:

Reading:

Epistemic Contract of Bisexual Erasure by Kenji Yoshino (a gay law professor, by the way)

The entirety of "Bisexuality and Transgenderism: the InterSEXions of the Others" - huge book, but I'm specifically recommending:

Bisexuality and Transgenderism: InterSEXions of the Others by Jonathan Alexander and Karen Yescavage

GL vs. BT: The Archaeology of Biphobia and Transphobia Within the U.S. Gay and Lesbian Community by Jillian Todd Weiss

Bisexual and Transgender Identities in a Nonclinical Sample of North Americans: Suicidal Intent, Behavioral Difficulties, and Mental Health Treatment by Robin M. Mathy, Barbara A. Lehmann, and Deborah L. Kerr

Things I've seen tumblr memeing about James Somerton doing à la "How did no one see how bigoted he was!" as if those things haven't been a significant part of tumblr culture for over a decade :

Presenting untrue and bordering on conspiratorial versions of (queer or otherwise marginalised) history without any sources

Completely disregarding and disrespecting any expertise on socio-cultural topics/humanities and distrusting academics and historians (incl. acting as if no academics or historians could be queer or marginalised)

Downplaying the role misogyny played in the historical oppression of queer women and concluding that queer men must have been more oppressed than queer women

Bi women are, at best, not as queer as "real" queer ppl, and at worst, simply equivalent to straight women

Despite nominal trans inclusivity, transmasculine ppl are functionally women when convenient (combined with the above, bi transmascs are functionally straight women)

Despite nominal trans inclusivity (bis), shamelessly attacking, threatening and actively endangering any trans woman who questions them or smth they find important (often by unfairly presenting her as violent or as a threat)

Having absolutely fucking wild and reductive takes about ace ppl, the oppression they face and their place in the queer community

Stating that marriage equality is an assimilationist fight while completely ignoring its direct roots in the horrifying consequences of the AIDS crisis for partners of ppl who died of AIDS

Praising western media creators from the past for queer coding even under censure and in the same breath condemning current non western media creators for being homophobic bc their representation isn't explicit enough

Blaming China for all existing homophobic censoring in western media

Assuming all queer media would be better told by western creators and by western standards

Only out queer ppl get to tell queer stories

Heavily criticising almost all queer media created by women or ppl they see as such (see above points about trans ppl) or involving/starring a significant amount of women for any perceived or real amount of "problematicness", but fawning over and praising and negating criticism of queer media created by and starring mostly or even functionally exclusively men (even when it could be argued that, you know, not involving/seriously sidelining women is a pretty clear example of misogyny which should probably be considered "problematic")

And I'm probably forgetting stuff or there's stuff I have internalised myself and don't recognise as an issue

Like idk but I feel like the takeaway from Hbomberguy and Toddintheshadow's videos should maybe be "be aware of such patterns in your communities bc they definitely exist" and not "this guy is uniquely awful" and I feel like a lot of the discussion I've seen surrounding this has been severely failing at that. Most ppl who've spent any significant amount of time on tumblr prob either have internalised at least one of those thought patterns, have had to de-internalise them, or have had to be extremely vigilant to not internalise them (which is done by, you know, seeking out other sources, which also seemed like an important takeaway from the videos)

[cheban-png]

People dont act like people anymore

First time doin this on my puter woah, lawl. Anyways, not so fun topic that i want to put into the world but have no one to share it with--so why not on my shiny new and very public Tumblr acc?

Hi im Chebe, and i was a bit of a hermit for a couple years. Maybe it was the npd, or the adhd, or the pandemic, or the bullying, or something else but I was REALLY against the idea of making any friends for a couple years and became pretty isolated. I got to the point where i was only talking to like 3 people max that werent family for extended periods of time. fFr the last year however, ive been working, and thats really pulled me out of my shell. I made a new years resolution that id put myself out there and meet people again--and as i learn to make friends again, im remembering some of the reasons i was so opposed to it in the first place.

(This next part is situations that happened to me and extremely close friends, but for simplicity and privacy ill speak as if all the stories are my own.) One of my biggest things is that something weird and fucked up happened the second 2019 ended and everyone became absolutely insufferable. I cant even describe it but everyone around me both in school at the time and online became like. hyper sensitive but also evil at the same time. I have never seen a human so disgustingly manipulative while sugar coating their language with over/misused tone tags and faux medical speak at the same time. WHERE DID YOU PPL LEARN TO ACT LIKE THIS LMAOO. how you abliest and an ally at the same time dog. whatever thats not what this is about, that was one tiny vague example ^_^

Anyways the actual biggest thing is probably oversharing. no one gets to know each other anymore and it creates rlly weird unnatural relationships that humans arent supposed to experience. in my bios, i try to only share things you know by a first, in person interation with me. Im biracial (black/white), im trans (strictly he/him), im fat and you may call me Chebe or Angel. i even feel weird saying i have npd/adhd. im sharing because its relevent. man this is getting too long,,

an extremely common thing that happens to me is ppl STRANGERS ON THE INTERNET will send me these chunky paragraphs that follow the same format; "You/your art/your fashion inspires me so much, how do i copy this exactly?". Everythiung that makes me ME was developed over the course of my entire life??? what do you mean??? just the other day i got, "Whats ur style called??! i cant seem to find anything that 'perfectly' fits the way you are." and that was fucking horrifying. This was a stranger ive never ever seen the face/name/voice of. like can you guys even wrap your head around what an insane and invasive thing to say that is? i get shit like that ALL the time.

Dude i. im people. im human. I have lived a life and i am built up of microscopic fragments of all my experiences. im not a pinterest board or an influencer selling the ~aesthetic~ that is my life. Im a real human being and i am the way that i am because??? THATS JUST HOW I AM NATURAL:LY!!!!! i am like this becuase i LIKE being this way!!!!

and dont be ignorant, im scemo and find inspiration everywhere i go just like everyone else, but it is so deranged to dm a stranger and go "you are so amazing.... how do i clone everything that makes you unique and human"

this is NOT about gatekeeping or whatyeverthafuck i need you people to realize im SCARED and these are tiny instances in my life that make me worry about my future because some of you bitches are DOPPLEGANGERS (/silly /lh)

[lautakwah]

Hi!! As a viet lesbian, I just wanted to let you know that I really look up to you!! Recently I've been having some issues reconciling what it means to be viet (and also Confucian and Buddhist tbh) and being a lesbian, and there honestly aren't a lot out there about it that I could find, especially not in English (and unfortunately my viet is too shit to really understand much of anything written in Vietnamese, let alone find it) and I was kind of wondering if you've had much experience with that!! You don't have to answer this if it's too personal or anything, it's just that it's been on my mind and I really don't know where else to talk about it so!! But, either way, I hope your day's been going well!!

hii!! been sitting on this one for a bit bc dfjkgf it's an honor but also i wasnt sure how to answer it yk,,, like im just a little guy (gender neutral) :3

but uh yeah idk i've always been a it laissez-faire about these different facets of myself since im closeted (glass closet or no, if we don't talk about it it's not a thing, you know how it is with immigrant families 🙄) to my family, who are the main viets i interact with on a regular basis ^^;;

i do know some other lgbt viets (mostly other lesbians hehe <3) and it's always heartening to find a kindred spirit, like we have so much in common and it's crazy talking abt this stuff and going "oh my god you too?? what about--", yk? and i joke abt the north/central/south stuff (north supremacy btw. what do u mean ur frm the south n xtian something is wrong with u </3) but it's genuinely nice just to find someone else who Understands

like i'd definitely recommend that if you have the chance, to put yourself out there bc the connections u can make are sooo valuable imo... like a lot of my lgbt friends of color ive met thru poc-only lgbt discords and such, and it does open a lot of doors in terms of like self-acceptance and community and finding out your experiences are shared and stuff!

that said, i don't think i've struggled specifically because im viet and trans and a lesbian, if that makes sense? like im comfortable in my identity as a viet diasporic person, and im comfortable as a nonbinary butch lesbian, and i dont see how any of those thing clash internally (externally, well. we all struggle with racism and homophobia etc and the specific ways that white society thinks it's an either-or situation and how traditional viet society can be vis-à-vis lgbt ppl and our rights etc etc etc). i think it's also like, ive accepted that i'll never be the kid my parents wished i could be, and that that's okay. it's very freeing and also scary as hell and im sure i'll need to unpack a ton of stuff still but we'll get there someday and in the meantime there are andy lau films to watch and friends to torment with cursed jpegs <3

like, the best advice i can give is that you shouldn't worry about it too much because overthinking ur identity is just going to lead to more crises, and the world is too wondrous and vast and beautiful to let it pass you by

[manie-sans-delire-x]

you know i care about you immemsely but i got a lot to say.

i haven't been any of these anons but they've been right, it honestly is a minor change to the English language. ppl that are against it or see entitlement in it don't recognize their privilege. the way you're talking about it seems kinda super pointless. i have my own gripes with afab and amab as indicators, but you're clinging to these ideas with such a death grip, and i need to tell you it genuinely is the smallest change. i get that like there's a lot of room for you to not acknowledge your privilege or whatever, but something common in the phrasing/language you're using reminds me of how language changed reluctantly from everyone, if not the majority of ppl, saying "nigger" to them saying "black person." now ofc there are ppl that say "african american" and a good chunk of us that would much rather just be referred to as "black people" but that's not something I'd let a white person handle the debate on (and in this context african American and black people on an argument of terms doesn't equate with the debate between using female/male vs afab/amab). so the fact that people are upset that someone who isn't trans or doesn't identify as trans is making these comments about redundancy and genuinely fighting back makes sense, like your behaviour seems concerning.

now biology doesn't just go away when you change the terms, people know this and acknowledge this, and can acknowledge that biology is in fact more complicated than simple male or female in the first place, and that our designations of such are asinine. your way of thinking is just a little too traditional if you're caught up on change needing to be evolutionary, and that society is meant to cater to the majority. just because that is the way we live doesn't mean it's the way we should live. lest we forget that "should" in all its connotations is a subjective term. it's taken a lot of constant outspoken behaviour for any of us to get this far, you're seeing changes occur as you grow because there's more space for it with all the media we have and the effort people have been putting in since time has had some effect.

besides all that though, you did say "everyone else is forced to be fine with being called afab/amab/cis," but like i can't think of any women in my life that have enjoyed being referred to as "female." like that genuinely has been a red flag in both men and women for years now. we have grown to use sex based terms for the sake of bigotry, and the people that want to oppose said bigotry offer changes and your idea is to spit on them. you're calling them word obsessed but you're pressed over the logistics of using afab instead of just saying female.

but also language is intricately tied to genocide, eugenics, and any type of bigotry, it has an impact, people WILL believe the words they say and will act on it. you want to say people have a lot deeper problems going on that they should explore, but what you don't understand is that this is a way of exploring. the change in phrasing is not that big of a deal, you're not getting dumber, you're not losing anything, but if you want to say it's entitled to change, anyone else can easily say it's entitled to stay the same. people can and will and have identified how bigotry has been maintained over the years, and the language and behaviour you use has been a part of said continuity. like think of how it's considered inappropriate to use self deprecation as jokes, and how changing that has had more positive outcomes for ppl than just continuing to degrade themselves casually.

you can simply acknowledge that there are aspects of people trying to use afab and amab that are redundant and move on, but I've seen you get caught up on all these gender related things and complain and get stumped and belittle them each time. idk homie, maybe take a course in gender studies for fun or something.

1- Its not a small change to change the whole English language my dude. And what about every other language and culture? Them too? That is entitlement to an extreme. Demanding the entire world change for 1% of the populations feelings. Are animals no longer female and male? Are humans not animals anymore?

2- You compare calling someone a female or male to a slur? Really? "But that's not something I'd let a white person handle the debate on" So then why are people who (according to them) arent female or male deciding what words to use and what they mean?

And ok, lets compare it to race for a second. So youve said repeatedly before that a transwoman understands what a woman's upbringing is like, despite not being treated socially or legally as a girl or seen by others as a girl. So if a white person put on black face and says they identify as black, could they claim to know what its like to be born and grow up as a black person? Why not, by your logic?

If someone accepts transgenderism, they have to accept trans-race, even trans-species. It follows the exact same lack of logic and is all feelings based. If you feel it, you are it. In fact trans-race is way more logical, because unlike sex, someone actually CAN be half black, half white, 1/4 asian whatever. They can move to a country and learn their language and customs. They can get citizenship. Race is a social construct, right? We know this. Humans havent evolved long enough to create true distinct races. So who are you to say now that they cant do that? You bigot.

3- "I can't think of any women in my life that have enjoyed being referred to as "female." Its not about enjoyment its about objective reality. Most women have no problem at all being called a female in any kind of academic, professional, or medical context because we ARE female. The only ever problem there ever was with the word "female" was when it was used by misogynists to demean us- for being female. (Woah hold on I thought womens oppression and misogyny had nothing to do with our sex- wild). It was always about the context in which it was used, and the intent behind it. I think you know that.

4- You sound like you think getting rid of the words female and male will decrease misogyny and bigotry. Its not the word that the problem, its the attitude that there is something wrong with being the word, with being female. Hey, say we're "reclaiming" it if that makes it easier for you. The very fact that you dont think its a big deal, to erase our sex's existence... As if we arent already pushed to the side and erased from history.

5- "But if you want to say it's entitled to change, anyone else can easily say it's entitled to stay the same." No cuz see, entitlement is about prioritizing your own wants and needs above everyone else. Above the vast majority, thinking that you are special. People cant be entitled to something 99% of the world agrees with and lives by, with a basic concept thats been present though out all of history in every culture.

I encourage you to study womens history and current world issues that womens are facing, although it certainly wont be fun. Women's oppression is so blatently sex-based that its a slap in the face to deny that, and painfully idiotic.

You're smarter than this Nix, jesus christ. Begging you to get a grip.