#thesingingtennisball

[reasonsforhope]

Your blog is a literal god send for me, I’ve been feeling so depressed, pessimistic, nihilistic and cynical at the state of the world right now and my fear of if I even have a future, but your blog is absolutely what I needed right now, so I can’t thank you enough. I’m just so happy to see someone who is hopeful and positive and not pessimistic, and it makes me legit want to cry tears of joy. How are you able to stay so positive and optimistic despite everything going on?

<3 <3 <3

As for how I stay optimistic and relatively positive? Lots of effort and hard work.

I'm not naturally an optimist. I spent most of my life (and certainly my adolescence lol) being pretty angry and cynical.

It's not that I never feel depressed or despairing about the state of the world. There's fucked up shit happening, indisputably, and hey, I'm trans, it's been a rough fucking year for that. But I guess I try to focus on the difference between passing moods and baseline worldview.

Some of the main ways I moved my baseline worldview to be optimistic and hopeful:

A lot of reading and looking at data and in-depth stories. The headlines never give you enough of the story - hell, most news articles don't these days, because they're so skewed toward negative news

Especially reading/looking at good news sites (I have a masterpost of good news sites here). There are good things happening everywhere that you never hear about. Mostly, you only ever hear about the good things when there's been a huge setback, which sucks!

I'm basically not on social media. Nothing except Tumblr, Facebook, and LinkedIn, and I only ever go on FB and linkedin briefly for business. It's fantastic, can't recommend ditching social media enough

I made sure I was doing something to help (aka I started this blog. I would also volunteer but my disabilities and a lot of logistics make that complicated)

My job involves reading a couple dozen self-help books a year lol, not gonna lie that def helps

Taking a long perspective of time. It often doesn't feel like it, but statistically, this really is the best time to be alive. (Here's a fantastic essay about many of the reasons why.) People really gloss over how much most of the past kinda fucking sucked to live in. 50% of all people used to die before their 15th birthday, for basically all of history until the past 200 years!! Imagine having to live with that. Imagine all of that pain and grief literally everywhere. I'm really happy about living in modern times, actually!

That last point is esp helpful to remember for me because I'm 100% for sure on the list of "people who would've died in childbirth" pre modern medicine (and my mom would've died having me, too). It was modern times or nothing lol

The vast majority of the world has spent the past 300 to 500 years being absolutely brutalized by white people and/or the West. There's still a lot of fallout to fix and colonialism to uproot, but I genuinely can't wait to see what people and nations will achieve with sustained self-rule and significantly fewer massive atrocities

Solarpunk and hopepunk stuff

I'm gonna make a whole post about this at some point but the fact that we eliminated scarcity in the past few decades actually changes the entire fucking game for the world (literally it's not a zero sum game anymore) and for the future. We're allowed a bit of a learning curve I think

I listen to the Rent soundtrack a lot and go "well you know what being trans right now sucks but being trans at the height of the aids crisis would've been way fucking worse" lol rip

Meds! Meds. Antidepressants and antianxiety meds unfortunately don't work for everyone (yet!), but also thank fuck for meds

Progress almost always happens in slow, tiny increments, with a lot of stops and starts and setbacks. You have to always remember that there are always people fighting somewhere, and if they're stopped, there will always be more people to pick up the fight in the future

[clownmoontoon]

Hi, I asked this on your other blog, but I’m asking this here so that you have a better chance of seeing it

Does applying for the Big Bang event late affect your chance of being accepted into it?

I applied for it under my Bruno rp/ask blog btw

HEY!! i was just about to answer the first one haha (we also have a big bang blog for any questions you might have about it btw! @encantobigbang and u should def follow there for updates!)

AND YOU HAVE UNTIL MONDAY NIGHT TO APPLY!! but after that we won't be taking any more applicants 👀

however, even if youre the last person to apply at 11:59 pm on monday night, you'll still be accepted (happily!) 💚

but since you said you already applied youre for sure in it, so no worries!!

[lesbian-old-ai]

How have you been 079?

[sindrakart]

Hey, 049? I hope I’m not bothering you, but I haven’t had the best of day. I’ve been feeling really terrible. Could I please have a hug? I’ll put on 714, if that makes it safer.

“You needn’t worry about that old ring, of course you can have a hug...”

[reallyhardydraws]

your art is so frigging good and amazing! your style reminds of eighties fashion and colors, or something along those lines! i especially love the way you draw nightcrawler! please keep up the amazing work you beautiful person!

aaaaaAAAA thank you VERY much!!! i really love 1980s fashion and colours so that is a very big compliment, thank you!!! 🌈🌈🌈

[artbygrim]

I just want to let you know that I love ken with all of my heart!

me too! :^D glad you like ken haha! he loves u too

[hattyfatteners]

hey! do you by any chance have a main blog?

Yeah! My main blog is @rapture-inside-of-me

[curiousincident]

[adhdbri]

I’m sorry to bother you, but I’m struggling right now with figuring stuff out. I know that now my adhd is really the reason why I struggle and why I often have trouble on tests and remembering stuff, but at the same time, I’m feeling like I’m just using my adhd as an excuse? But what’s the difference between “I’m using it as an excuse” and “I legitimately cannot do this”? And aren’t I supposed to overcome my adhd? Aren’t I supposed to not let it define me? I’m sorry if that was confusingly worded,,

It made perfect sense! No worries! @thesingingtennisball

I think that feeling is actually pretty common, so you definitely aren’t alone. If you are trying to do something and you are still struggling, I would definitely say you are not using it as an excuse. If you didn’t want to try at all, I’d still want to see if there a reason why you wouldn’t want to try, rather than just saying you were using it as an excuse. 

I think we tend to be just as hard on ourselves as others may be on us, sometimes even more so. It is okay to give yourself some grace. 

ADHD isn’t something anyone can necessarily “overcome”, but rather there are ways that people learn to work with it (using developed coping skills, taking medication or both!). And how you let it define you is 1000% up to you and nobody else. Some people see it as a super power, some people see it as a struggle, some people believe it to be too engrained in their sense of self to see it separately from them. ADHD is not a monolithic disorder and your experience with it is unique and different from everyone else. 

[frosty-tian]

Tag Game:

Brought to you by @unavoidablekoishi.

Thanks a lot for the tag, friend!

1. whats ur favourite meme?

Those memes with many hearts. The ones you wouldn’t mind spamming your homies with.

2. when u get takeaway, whats ur go to place to order from?

Mostly KFC, Steers or Nando’s.

(To be honest, as long as there are non-beef meals, I’m okay with trying it out.)

3. if u had to marry one of the wiggles, which one?

Sorry, never heard of them.

4. whats ur favourite type of weather?

Cool or rainy weathers.

5. what font do u hate the most?

Wing-dings. Sorry Gaster.

6. if u were a dragon and had a hoard whats the hoard gonna be made of?

Uhhh… wool/blankets, plush toys and random coins through the ages? I just think they’re neat.

7. favourite studio laika film?

Probably the Corpse Bride.

8. what decade aesthetic from the past century is ur favourite? (like roarin 20s or swingin 60s n stuff)

I’m afraid I don’t know much of them, sorry about that…

9. what shade of brown is your favourite?

I guess some sort of caramel brown?

10. would u like a jar of bees?

Heck yeah, what’s the worst that could happen?!

*Sweats

Now the questions...:

 1. If you have to be stuck in a certain fictional world for the rest of your life, which world would you choose?

2. You can eliminate one task from your daily life (eg. doing the laundry, vacuum the floors, doing the dishes… ). Which one would you choose?

3. Which fictional character you would NOT want to spend a whole day with?

4. What are some of the weirdest quotes you have or had heard others say?

5. If you had a theme song, what would it be?

6. Which position do you prefer, being the leader or a follower?

7. What are your Myers-Brigg personality type?

8. Any animals in particular that makes you feel happy?

9. If there’s one series you could unwatch/wipe from your memory, which one would it be? Reason can be positive or negative.

10. What would you do if someone handed you a chicken?

As for the 10 people to tag, I guess I’ll go with:

@rachiebird, @rightful-justice, @kaizoku-okubey, @unovanraichu, @bdosamu, @magsdomino, @millky101, @thesingingtennisball, @raptorqueen17, @squidkid-s, @13ghostlytitties.

No pressure to do the meme, however!

Also, even if you’re not tagged but want to join in, please feel free to do so!

(Edit: I’m a fool and forgot to say you need to add on 10 more questions of your own... oh well, if you’ve already done it, then you’ve done it! Just take it easy.)

[mlm-kiri]

Inbox Cleaning Part 5

Under the cut is a list of requests I am not doing unless someone sends me something saying they want it done.

Thank you all for being so patient.

ctl + f to try and find your request

@rosexeno​ :Hey, do you take requests for phone wallpapers? If so, can I get some dark floral tokoyami and eraserhead wallpapers? Thanks!

Anonymous: Howdy!! Could you do a genderfluid Present Mic? (Bnha) Thanks!! ❤️

@timelessinsanity94​ : Hey there ! Loving your work! Could you possibly do Pan Mae from night in the woods? Possibly Bi Bea and Gay Gregg and Angus too? THANK YOU FOR READING *GREGG FLAIL*

@thesingingtennisball​ : Hey, just to let you know Jurota Shishida is from My Hero Academia, in case I didn't tell you in my previous ask. thank you once more, and goodbye!

Anonymous: Pansexual Mob?If you need a theme,possibly flowers?Sorry if I was being a bother

@axulayuki97​ : Hi can i have phone wallpaper ( 800x1250) of Deku from MHA x Lucy from Fairy Tail un pink and red colors please ?

Anonymous: If you're not too busy can you make some Toshinori Yagi (older skeletal Smol Might) from My Hero Academia phone wallpapers or icons or whatever is easiest for you. Please and thank you ❤❤❤

 @lunathecheetah​: Hi! Can you make some asexual icons of Chuuya (from Bungou Stray Dogs)? ^^

@goodwolfboi​ : Hello, if possible, could you make an asexual icon with Legosi from Beastars?

Anonymous: Can you by chance make floral Dabi wallpapers? Thank you ☺️ I love all your icons and backgrounds!

Anonymous: can i get some trans ritsu/reigen (mp100) icons please? much love <3

Anonymous: Hi! Can you do summer themed pastel Kaminari x Mina icons? I'd really appreciate, thank you so much! :)

Anonymous: Hiya! Could I get some pastel Apollo Justice (Ace Attorney) edits/icons? Thank yeh!

@movedto-kaiiiii-exe​ : hey there! could i get some nonbinary flags for frisk and chara from undertale? thanks, friend!

Anonymous: non-binary (+bi ?) dazai from bungou stray dogs please? 👉👈

@e-toad : Hair down kirishima icons? thank u!!

Anonymous: Hello! Could I request some Gon Freecss icons in dark green with forest or jungle on the background ?? Please!

Anonymous: Is there any chance you’d want to make some Kirishima wallpapers? I have this idea with auroras but don’t know how to do that 😅 it’s okay if you don’t feel like doing that 😅☺️ thank you for what you do though! I love all your stuff!

Anonymous: Trans/nonbinary botw link?

Anonymous: Bisexual Lefty from FNaF? Ty!!!

Anonymous: can you make aro ace deidara (naruto) icons? thank you and your edits are very nice ^^

Anonymous: Hi, I love your blog! Would it be alright if I request lithromantic icons with Madara (Naruto)? Thank you 💛

@pensivetrolley​ : Hello can you please make Asexual Ray from The Promised Neverland icons! (Or any of the main trio) I hope you have a wonderful day! :)

@tropical-fox​ : Could i get a pansexual Chris from until dawn? UwU

Anonymous: Hello! Would you be able to do a trans Gladion icon? (Pokémon Sun and Moon) if not that’s perfectly fine! :)

Anonymous: Are you able to do lesbian tomura using the newer pictures of him in the manga ☺️

@lunna-uwu​ : Can you please do some demisexual Kallen Kaslana (from Honkai impact 3) icons please?

Anonymous: Hi!! Could you do aro/ace Maomao from Kusuriya no Hitorigoto? Thank you!!

Anonymous: Orange and pink space themed Kenhina (Kenma x Hinata) icons from Haikyuu pls?

@isashi-nigami​ : Please could you do asexual Alice? From Alice Madness Returns

Anonymous: Could you do a gay and trans Kiyotaka Ishimaru icons? (from Danganronpa)

Anonymous: Can I get pastel pink bisexual Uraraka headers? Thank you! (@vanillanix)

Anonymous: Hi! Anon who requested the anime specific lesbian shigeo icons a few days ago, I forgot to mention if you could also use the moon lesbian flag!

@chaotic-bnha​ : Hi! Sorry to bother, but could I request a Tododeku pfp edit? My current pfp is getting a little old. It's okay if you don't want to

Anonymous: Hey! I love your icons! I am not sure if you are doing videogame one but if you are can i please have an icon for genderfluid lesbian Chloe Price (Life is strange/Life is strange before the storm)? Thanks^^

@flyingthroughworlds : Hi, I have a request : bi/trans kageyama tobio hehe

Anonymous: Nejire and Tamaki ship icons please? with a light blue and light pink theme? -honey

Anonymous: Happyman from Ratboy Genius is Gay

@because-its-warm : hi could i request some shinkami (or just denki ^-^) pastel lock screens? thanks!!! 😌💖

@ultimateasshole : Pastel Bakugou?

Anonymous: Gay Ace Icons of Gon from HxH please :3 Thank you so much in advance!

Anonymous: aaa if you haven’t done this already, bi shigaraki icons?? <3

Anonymous: Can you do trans gay Grima/Fell Vessel Robin icons? (Fire Emblem Heroes to clarify)

Anonymous: Non-binary + bi male corrin icons from fire emblem?

Anonymous: hi! may i please request some pan ojiro mashirao icons? i hope you're having a lovely day, btw. :)

Anonymous: Hello!! Could I please request some Oikawa Tooru and Iwaizumi Hajime headers please? Light blue?? Thank you, love your work!! 💗💗

Anonymous: (Same anon as before! I just wanted to make sure since it's not a show for everyone!) If it's okay, could I request some panro-ace Daenerys Targaryen icons? ❤😄

@sulusparkles : Hi if you could do an ace Jim Kirk (From Star trek the original series) that would be amazing!! I love all your icons so much. 💛💛

Anonymous: Request: OchaMina icons with a heartbeat theme

Anonymous: Hi! Is it possible for me to request some bi and trans icons for Arthur Morgan from red dead redemption 2? Also I love your blog 💖

@kaidowo : Can I place a request for purple Monoma icons?

Anonymous: Hey! Could you do some Nonbinary Gay Dr. Starline Icons? Also, what program do you use to make these? They’re really nice!

Anonymous: luv your edits! think you could make some colorless Hitoshi x Denki icons? or only 1. no need to reply if its not possible, thanks!

Anonymous: hullo? could i ask for an omnisexual uraraka icon please?

Anonymous: OOOH! I ADORE HOW YOU MAKE YOUR ICONS! would you consider doing trans romelle (from voltron: legendary defender”?

Anonymous: Could you make endgame thor pride themed icons?

[fandom-mutt]

achhh im sorry to hear your're not doing too well my guy, i feel like yourre super amazing and worthy of all the love! i wanted to ask, whats ur opinion on Snipe/Gunhead, or Ectoplasm/Power Loader, or even Iida/Kirishima?

iida/kirishima sounds cute and they both give each other the Best hugs,, it's too powerful

i dont rlly have opinions of snipe/gunhead bc it doesn't click in my head ig? but they're neat

I've never really thought abt ectoplasm/power loader but fhdjkgnfk power loader tiny,,,, tall ectoplasm,,, nice

[clownmoontoon]

I’m curious, how will we know whose been decided to participate in the bang?

HMMM... I SUPPOSE YOU WONT RLLY KNOW TIL THE DISCORD IS OPEN AND U PERUSE THE INTRO CHANNEL 👀👀

if u wanna do some sleuthing tho id keep an eye on the notes of the application post once that's posted!

[datastims]

biromantic ace stimboard for @thesingingtennisball !!! I hope you like it dude!

sources under the cut

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[sindrakart]

K, so I saw this 079 ask blog, where 079 is a non binary lesbian, and I am in love with that hc. What do you think of it?

I think that's totally chill and valid!! :D

[mha-icons]

Biromantic Asexual Jurota Icons for @thesingingtennisball !