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teeforhee · 4 years ago

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Fuck, I'm not sure I'll ever get over how much CAMHS (child and adolescent mental health service, it's the under-18s mental health service in Scotland) let me down as a kid.

It's like this. You're 11 and you're traumatised but you're scared of using that word, you don't know if you're allowed it, but you are traumatised. And you're so anxious you can't breathe most of the time, you can't sit down and speak to any of your friends, you can do your school work but you keep falling apart and everything feels like it's getting worse all the time. You don't fit in, you're weird and awkward but your schoolwork is good so you aren't worrying about your grades, you're not even sure why you feel this way (it's unprocessed trauma, but again, you don't feel like you're allowed that word). You're s/hing and struggling with suicidal ideation, and you're lucky enough to still trust authority figures, so you do what everyone says you should. You trust an adult. And she calls your GP, who is another adult you choose to trust, who you bare your heart to with all of these symptoms that make your feel sick to even acknowledge, and then they make you an appointment with CAMHS. You came in asking for treatment. They referred you to CAMHS. They did not explain what CAMHS was other than what the letters stood for. That's okay - it's treatment, right? They're gonna help. You can talk this through and they'll help- just gotta be careful you don't get institutionalised. You don't want that, yet.

You talk to a CAMHS worker. She's a psychologist. She says it's very likely you have autism to your mother after your first session. Your mother broaches the topic gently. You are overjoyed: there's an answer! oh fuck, this explains so much! but it's not treatment. It's a word. The psychologist puts you on a waiting list and you have 22 sessions of CBT with her, trying to unpack your trauma and trying to build up coping skills. So many of them feel like just denying the truth, so many of them feed into your magical thinking ("the one thing you can control is your thoughts, you must always control your thoughts, good things will happen when you control your thoughts and stop thinking the bad thoughts"), but it's treatment, mostly. You stop seeing her twice- once because you are trying to develop an eating disorder and having a mental health professional who wants to hear how you're doing is totally cramping your style (I wasn't actually trying to develop an ED really, I was trying to cope in ways other than s/h, in ways that felt honest to the situation and real and gave me a sense of control that "controling my thoughts" just wasn't doing). You come back for recovery. You tell her you want an eating plan. By the time she even considers an appointment with a nutritionist, you've moved past that stage in your recovery on your own. You stop seeing her again because you get into an abusive relationship who doesn't really like you having contact with people who aren't him, and he super super doesn't like you not being able to talk to him for a whole hour every week. That part isn't their fault: no one could be gotten me out of that until I decided to; believe me, everyone around me tried, and it didn't work until I wanted I to, the third time.

But I left, again, I was without support for 6 months, and when I came back it was after my father (the earliest source of my trauma) had died. They take 4 sessions compiling evidence as to what treatment i needed going forward, without telling me that was what they were doing (I was trying to build trust with an adult again after 6 months of constant reinforcing that I couldn't trust anyone but my abuser), and then an appointment with a psychiatrist and your mother and a new psychologist. They dismiss and justify the symptoms that most worry me, they have at this point turned down my request to be institutionalised multiple times (including after an aborted suicide attempt, I presume they thought that was fine because made it clear that I did want to live), and they say at the end of the meeting that they are going to give me an official diagnosis of autism and that after that CAMHS has nothing more to offer me.

They say that if after 22 sessions with a psychologist I am still struggling so much (bear in mind that probably close to half of those sessions I was concealing factors that were actively making my mental health worse and which were traumatising me) I clearly can't gain anything more from their service, and anyway, autism isn't a mental illness and CAMHS as a service can only help while waiting for/trying to get a diagnosis, or if you have a diagnosis or a disorder for which they could provide specialist treatment. My very obvious PTSD? nah, no big-T Traumas, and c-ptsd is way too hard to diagnose. I receive a hilarious letter detailing all of the evidence (I mean genuinely insightful but also fucking hilarious and I do want to note down funniest bits and post them hear at some point, stuff like "unusual speech was noted, (exclamations of 'wacky!' while describing his symptoms)") and then they refer me to a charity which, at time of writing, I have had 1 assessment phone call with, and am waiting for a call back for my next and first proper appointment.

They did not inform me when I was first referred that CAMHS is a diagnostic and specialist treatment service and if they did (this was well over two years ago now, I don't remember word-for-word what my GP told me), they did not tell me that meant that they would kick me out to a charity once they figured they couldn't label me with anything requiring specialist treatment. During our last sessions they were unyeildingly focussed on the trauma of my father dying and of the "shock" of my diagnosis (that I had been waiting for for 2 years. yes, very shocking/s) when those were not my biggest problems. My relationship with my father is complex and I won't get into it here, but suffice it to say that his death was the last step on a very, very long journey, and honestly one of the least traumatising.

I let them keep the focus there because I desperately hate talking about the actual, recent, debilitating trauma of being in lockdown with an abusive partner for 6 months. That shit hurts, I can't even say his name, but that is the thing that I need to unpack if I'm ever going to be able to go outside in the sun again.

Repeatedly ignoring the requests I made for specific treatment until past the point where I needed it anymore, not informing me how the service I was going to be working with for 2 years even worked in something so basic as "what is this for? what will happen to me if I get a diagnosis they can't give me specialised care for?", telling an 11 year old child that suicidal ideation is "not that serious", a fundamental misunderstanding of what I needed and wanted to hear ('normal' is not a helpful word. 'normal' tells me 'suck it up, everyone experiences this and they're all fine, you're normal, just think better' why are they all so adamant that I am normal? Not even considering my mental health I am an autistic bisexual gnc trans guy, we went past whatever 'normal' means a long time ago, fucking listen to me), at every single step of the way this system has left me in the same state I was before, the only improvement being through support from my friends, fucking Childline (gd fucking bless Childline volunteers, but still, I shouldn't have been getting so little support that that felt like my only option), mental health masterposts on Tumblr, chats with my (luckily) very nice guidance counselor (they're called pastoral teachers here but I know most folks reading this are American or are most familiar with the American school system) and what amounts to gritting my teeth and getting through it.

It was worth it, of course my life was worth it, of course I say the same thing every person who's attempted suicide says, I'm more grateful than words could possibly express that I survived, that I get to go home in a few minutes and feed my kitten and write and message my friends, but for fucks sake it didn't need to be this hard. And it doesn't need to be this hard. I'm not out of the woods yet, I'm still waiting on that second appointment with this charity, I'm still 3+ months behind at school, and I'm one of the lucky ones. My boyfriend has been hurt worse by CAMHS, left even more isolated than I was, even more traumatised by the way he was treated, and every single person I know who's been in this system agrees that it's deeply, deeply flawed.

I don't want people to have competitions over who's medical experiences are worse, who's country has the worst mental health system, who's been the most traumatised by their psychiatrists or lack thereof, please. Please don't make this the suffering Olympics. I'm just making this post cause I know, I know that other people have had similar experiences, whether with CAMHS or whatever their equivalent is. Mental health services need serious reform that puts patients first, listens to their needs and requests, that is well funded and well staffed by people who care about their patients wellbeing more than they care about controling other people's lives.

Austerity in the UK is a huge reason why this happened the way it did- my first psychologist left the service to go work somewhere that pays better, leaving just one newly-graduated psychologist that clearly had no idea what she was doing and didn't care to sympathise or show compassion for me.

This shit needs to change, because kids need help, and this is not good enough.

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themfchase · 5 years ago

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blindfold (5)

Jeon Jungkook x reader

‒ blindfold. (m) ✎ [9k words]

genre: smut, nsfw, college!au, contract!au, light smut, and light fluff?

warnings: smut, oral, fingering, dirty talk, multiple orgasms, full body orgasm, dry humping, angst Strange things happen all the time, just like what you’re being offered by a strange tall man in a quiet coffee shop near campus. Strangers that you can’t see and only hear, and a strange boy that barely speaks but seems to be everywhere aren’t that common, on the other hand. But for some reason... You’re really keen on strange things. A/N: So, I wrote this dying of sleep, not going to lie. It’s more of a filler chapter than anything else before the last part next week. This tells the story from Jungkook’s POV, most scenes are the same, but slightly different, actually, a lot different. So, don’t refrain from reading even if it seems the same. Also, there might be a few errors so, please, don’t judge me HAHAHAHAH I’ll fix them all when I wake up. Please enjoy, have fun, and don’t refrain from reblogging, liking and sending me messages. Ok.

part 1. part 2. part 3. part 4. part 6. masterlist.

Three months ago. Jungkook’s Point of View. The first time I saw her was when I was pledging for the fraternity. She had swollen eyes, hair waving while she walked down the stairs. All I could think of was, “Why is this beautiful girl crying.” And when my eyes wandered further up, I saw the boy leaned against the stairs, no bother whatsoever on his face, just a calm look of relief. She didn’t see me, I don’t think she was paying attention to anything to be completely honest. All I know is that my eyes followed her out the front door, the smell that followed of a light Vanilla. “Sorry about that, but so, what do you think?” Namjoon, the leader of the fraternity, was in front of me, still trying to convince me to pledge. I looked out the door again and back up at the boy. “I’ll stay.” Was all I said, no emotion to my voice. The second time I saw her was at a party about a month after that at another fraternity. I was forcing myself to interact with people just like my psychologist had recommended, but my anxiety was already giving in. It wasn’t until I saw her seated outside on the bench, body struggling to stay up from how drunk she was, that I saw myself walking. First, I just stood behind her, she was counting something and I was curious; she heard me shuffle on the grass and turned her head. She smiled, a drunken and sweet smile. “Hello, stranger.” She tried to speak. I couldn’t answer her, I couldn’t look her in those lidded drunken eyes. So I was quiet. She still noticed. “Are you drunk too? I know, I kind of drank on an empty stomach because I skipped lunch today to watch a lecture.” She continued speaking. “It wasn’t on my schedule and neither was this party, but I think I might have lost track of things a little.” She looked forward again. Involuntarily, I walked a little more and sat down beside her. “I’m Y/N, by the way, who are you?” She asked. Biting on my lower lip, I looked down at my feet, closing my eyes, I could smell her, she smelled of alcohol and Vanilla. “I’m nobody,” I answered her, heart beating loud in my chest. “That’s an odd name to give a child.” She said in a serious tone and I chuckled. I even surprised myself. Looking up, I finally took in all of her. The way her lips were slightly swollen, her eyes shining and hazy because of the alcohol. Her cheeks flushed and her hair falling onto her shoulder. “I’m really drunk, nobody.” It was noticeable, and a sudden worry came over me. “How are you getting home?” I asked, and she looked at me, eyes meeting. I swallowed hard but didn’t look away. “I’m waiting for my friend, she’s inside making out with someone, so I have to wait, I’m too drunk to walk.” She pointed into the frat house. “I’ll take you home.” I offered and she bit on her lower lip. It came like a punch to my gut, the sudden urge to watch her whimper, squirm and moan beneath me. I couldn’t really make sense of it, but it was here. “I don’t really know you.” She stated, and I nodded, looking away for the first time. She took my silence as an ‘ok’ and we both went quiet for a while. “But I’m really tired, so...” She started and I pulled out my phone, texting Seokjin, my head of security, lawyer and counselor. “Can you take me home?” She asked in a low, innocent voice. I felt all the hairs in my body stand, all at once, her voice, the way she had looked when she asked, I could feel my body going hot, I really wanted this girl. We waited in silence for the car to pull up. They were always around, so it didn’t take long. “Oh, you must have called a fancy Uber, that wasn’t necessary.” We both got up and when she took the first step she tripped, body coming straight into mine and on impulse I held her up, arms wrapped around her body. She looked up at me, eyes unable to focus. “I’m so sorry.” She said, and I saw as her eyes got heavier, closing while she remained in my arms. “Fuck.” I cursed when I noticed she had fallen asleep. My security came out of the car, and I raised a hand, stopping him from coming further. “I got her.” Wrapping a hand under her knees, I picked her up in my arms, her purse dangling down as I made my way to the car. I sat her down at the edge, closing the door and going around to open the other side. “Where are we going to, Sir?” He asked, and I went quiet. She never gave me her address. I grabbed her purse and searched for her phone, quickly noticing it didn’t have a code I just tapped on the navigation app and saw the saved addresses, one was titled “Home” and it was near the Frat so I gave out that one, I knew it was invasive, and looking at her sleeping form before deciding to go through her phone, I clicked on the calendar app. She was very organized, almost as organized as I was, she had even put in an entry on the lunch she had missed, deciding to not go through her pictures to maintain her privacy I looked at the apps she had, no dating apps, no games, no social media, it was mostly organizing apps, calculator, texts and notes. As the car drove off, her body moved and fell to the side, her head resting on my lap, and she made herself comfortable. My body tensed, I hadn’t been this close to another female in a while, but for some reason I didn’t want her to get up, to move, I wanted her there. The whole way to her address I looked down at her, she looked peaceful, she was so beautiful and I could smell the Vanilla stronger, it was a perfect smell for her. Y/N... That was her name. When the car stopped, I lingered for a while, watching her on my lap, I could never have a girl like this wanting me, I could never be able to look her in the eyes and tell her how beautiful she was. No, all I could ever do is watch from afar, but I felt somewhat comfortable with her. “Y/N...” I called out her name. It felt like I’ve always known it. She didn’t move. Lifting my hand, I slowly touched her head, fingers gently coming down to brush her hair. She whimpered into the touch, body moving slightly, and I pulled my hand away. “Y/N, we’re here,” I said, and she blinked her eyes, sitting up slowly and looking around. Saying nothing, she grabbed her purse and opened the door, I quickly took her phone and texted myself before deleting the text. “Hey, your phone,” I said, and she whipped her head back, not looking at me and grabbing the item from my hand before getting out and shutting it. I watched as she made her way into her building on struggling legs, disappearing from my sight moments after. The third time, I didn’t really see her, but heard about her. It was at the frat house; I had come down to grab some coffee and go back to my room when I heard her name. “But Y/N was ok, I guess.” I heard the voice say, and I slowly made my way to the living room watching Jimin, Hoseok and Yoongi drinking beers and talking. “I mean, I know that I was good for her.” He stated condescendingly. I scoffed, rolling my eyes and the three heads whipped in my direction. “Jungkook! Hey, join us.” Hoseok said, and I shook my head. “Whatever you say, kid, I’m just here giving tips on how to make girls go crazy,” Yoongi smirked at the boys who laughed. “Oh? And how exactly do you do that?” Yes, I was irritated. No, I didn’t know why. “I fuck them hard.” Was all he said, and I took a few steps in, taking a sip from my coffee. Let me be clear about one thing. I was no virgin, quite the contrary, I had been with my fair share of women, but I had one obsession and that was... Making women cum. I had two different women in the past that I solely saw to make them cum, nothing more, I usually got off to just that and I was satisfied. So, I knew what women felt like, sounded like, and looked like when they came. “So, when these women cum...” I started and Jimin and Hoseok looked at each other, finding my sudden interest strange. “How do you notice?” “They moan.” Yoongi said with ‘duh’ look on his face. My eyebrows shot up. This was indeed amusing. “Oh, and that’s it?” I asked, and the boy was quiet. “Y/N used to scream when she came.” He lifted an eyebrow. The sudden mention of her name made things slightly differently. “Only screamed?” I asked again. “Well, yeah, what else would she do?” He asked, irritated, and it was my turn to smirk. Something foreign to me. “They shake. They clench. They choke on their moans, body convulsing and back arching, their eyes roll back and their mouths open, they squeeze so hard and get wetter and wetter. You can hear their heartbeat increase, you can see the flush on their cheeks, that... That is what else they’re supposed to do.” I finished. Jimin’s and Hoseok's mouths were slack and Yoongi’s looked irritated. “It’s quite an art, you should try it sometime.” I said before taking another sip of my coffee and walking away, back into my room. I felt suddenly turned on, the idea of making her do all those things ― cumming ― for me, just for me. It was... It was tempting and was making me a lot more turned on than I expected. The fourth time I saw her was one day before I couldn’t really take it any longer, I had to have her. She was in line a coffee shop, I stood right behind her, she looked back but never lingered, ‘she didn’t recognize me.’ I said to myself. No, she was too drunk that night to remember who I was, but she was here and I was so close to her again. Leaning in a little, I opened my mouth, but nothing came out. ‘Shit’ I cursed mentally, ‘Why can’t you stop being a pussy for once?’ I asked myself. As soon as her smell lingered around me I found myself immediately turned on. It wasn’t just the smell, it was what I associated it with. I wanted her, I needed her. Fuck, I would go wild if I couldn’t touch her. As we made our way down the line, she ordered her coffee and walked away, I was left trying to control my breathing as I got my phone. “Seokjin, we need to talk.” Was all I said as I made my way out the door and looked for her, just seeing the back of her body walking away from me. I soon realized that the vanilla was from a body wash when I saw Yoongi leave with it lingering on him. I would not allow him to smell like her, no. So I stole the bottle she most likely forgot there. I didn’t like him, not one bit. At every given opportunity he was telling others how annoying she was annoying, how she was a control freak. I for one didn’t want her name even to leave his lips and found myself glaring at him or scoffing. She deserved better; she deserved to be treated like a queen, and I was going to give her that. My way.

I knew there was a big chance she’d say no. But it was the only way I could do it. It was the only way I thought of persuading her, and the only way I could do it without feeling anxious. “So, how did it go?” I looked back at Seokjin while he sat down in front of me in my office. He looked down, clearly upset. “She walked away.” He said, and I bit my lower lip, shaking my head. “Fuck.” I cursed. “You know, there are other ways of doing this, Jungkook, maybe just ask her out.” He suggested, and I shook my head. “You know I can’t do that.” I argued. “I’m not normal Seokjin, I can’t even continue a conversation without feeling like I’m going to pass out, I can’t look people in the eyes without feeling a need to run.” I admitted. “You’re talking to me just fine, Jungkook.” He stated. “Yeah, but I’m comfortable with you, I trust you and know you, I know you won’t judge me.” I lowered my head. “Fuck, I really wanted her.” He got up and tapped me on the back before leaving. I had given up, locking myself in my room again and avoiding people like I always did. But then I saw her again, leaning against the wall at the frat party. My heart was beating violently in my chest. Maybe Seokjin was right, maybe I should just ask her out. I started to make my way down the stairs when I saw Yoongi approach her and she smiled, making me stop midway. I watched as they talked, watched as they made their way outside, I looked away when they kissed, feeling irritation spread across my body and I shook my head. I heard when they went into his room, heard her fake moans from my room, heard every single word from their argument, and when I heard her getting her things I opened my door and watched when she left. Her back against the door. How could she allow herself to be hurt like that, how could she sleep with such a bad lover and a bad person? I closed my door, unable to look at her any longer without feeling the urge to talk to her, and I made my way to bed, laying down and sighing. How come she had such an effect on me? I barely knew her. It was a stupid teenage crush, that’s what it was. I got lost in my thoughts when a few minutes later my phone rang. “What?” I answered when I saw Seokjin’s name. “She said yes.” He sounded excited over the phone. “Wait, what are you talking about?” I asked. “Y/N... She just called, said she’ll do it, I’m meeting her tomorrow at the coffee shop.” He explained. Shit. Shit. Shit. Shit. Shit. Holy shit. I tried to control my breathing, my heart pounding in my chest. “Ok... Make sure she knows enough, don’t tell her anything about me.” I said before hanging up. This was it, this was the first step. She had signed the contract. Now, all she needed to do was come. In more ways than one. I sat at the hotel bar; I had a perfect view of the lobby, water in hand and foot bouncing up and down anxiously. I already had gotten the text saying she was on her way, and I was going crazy. Maybe I should back out. Maybe I should just call it a day and say something came up. I shook my head. But then... There she was. In her pretty black dress, looking flustered and nervous herself, her cheeks slightly red and it hit me how bad I wanted them to be red for me, how bad I wanted to make her shake. I watched as she made her way up, waiting another agonizing forty minutes before I got up and made my way to the room. I stood at the door. What if she hadn’t put on the blindfold? What if she hadn’t followed the instructions? I bit on my lower lip and tried to breathe. “Fuck it.” I cursed under my breath. As I unlocked the door, I slowly made my way into the room and sure enough, there she was, fully bare for me and with the blindfold on. I felt myself get instantly hard at the sight. Her body was perfect. Her skin looked soft, and she was shaking slightly. I tried to control my own body as I watched her. “Get up.” I said with more control over my voice than I expected. She obeyed. Such a good girl, fuck. I walked closer to her, her smell invading my nostrils and making it all too hard to not just bury myself in her. “Did you follow the instructions?” I asked, seeing the way her hair was shining. She answered, and I swallowed hard. She had addressed me as Sir. Just the way I asked, and it sounded perfect coming from her lips. I wanted to make her cum multiple times; I wanted to hear her, see her, do it all to her, and I wanted to ruin any other man who tried to touch her in the future. And I did, each time my cock twitched harder in my pants, each time I felt like I was going to say ‘fuck it’ and fuck her right there, and when she started begging me to fuck her, I had to hold on to my sanity, it was very much close to running away, instead I ignored it and continued. I was proud of myself, but I was more addicted to the way her body answered to me, to the way she sounded when she came - and I assure it was nothing like that night with Yoongi - I was addicted to her smell, to her taste, to the way her body convulsed when she came, the way she trembled and begged for me. I was completely addicted to her. And when I was done, I watched as she could barely even move. I gave her water, my erection hurting inside my pants. It was a rare recurrence, I’d usually feel satisfied without having to cum myself, but with her it was painful. I saw her threaten to take off the blindfold and my body stiffened. “Don’t”. I said, getting dressed and trying to be quick. “You… You’re not going to fuck me?” She asked innocently, her voice weak. I took a deep breath. “No. My only wish was to give you pleasure. I told you.” I said, and I watched as her body slowly curled, biting on my lower lip. “Yes, sir.” Was all she answered. I didn’t know what to say, I could see how upset she was. I would see how the realization of it all suddenly came into her. Jesus, fuck. She was supposed to leave happy, not upset, I slowly felt my own anxiety start to creep into me, fuck, I needed to leave. “You’re free to stay if you’d like, if not, your driver will be waiting out front for you whenever you decide to leave, the rest of your payment will be transferred first thing in the morning.” Was all I said before storming out. I made my way down to the bar again, sitting and asking for a drink. I was hoping she would stay; I was hoping she would be ok with it. But I was wrong. She came running into the lobby, eyes red and full of tears as she dropped the key and ran to the car. Fuck... Fuck, if I didn’t do anything I wouldn’t see her again. I took out my phone and texted her. I hope you enjoyed tonight. And all I could do was hope to see her again. When I saw her in class, I was scared. My whole body feeling tense, my anxiety creeping into me. I couldn’t keep my eyes away from her as she sat down, Namjoon, my frat president sitting a few moments later next to her. What if she recognized me? Jesus, I needed to breathe. Her eyes met mine, and I felt a shock go through my body, the memory of her whimpering self under me, her body so mine. I felt myself getting hard in the middle of class. I looked back at the front. What was happening to me? I was getting aroused just by looking at her. I tried my best to pay attention to class, but I couldn’t, it wasn’t as if I needed to, but not being able to was fucking with my head. It got even worse when I heard my name being called from my room later in the day and when I was making my way down I saw her in the kitchen. Her eyes again, those eyes meeting mine, and she shyly looked away. I heard Hoseok’s voice and walked in the kitchen, stopping but a few feet away from her. I barely acknowledged the boys in the room, trying hard to control my breathing. When Namjoon introduced them, she extended her hand, and I just looked at it. If I touched her, would I break? If I felt her skin against mine again, would I lose control? She threatened to pull away, and I grabbed her hand, shaking it firmly. I looked at her friend and back down. “Jungkook isn’t a man of many words,” Hoseok said. It didn’t bother me that people noticed I was quiet, but it bothered when they made fun of me. And worse, in front of her now. She looked at me and my eyes met hers again; It was so weird how I never felt like looking away; I wanted to get lost in them. “It’s ok to not like to speak, sometimes words are too distracting.” She defended me. I felt like smiling, but instead, I just looked at her, I was probably eating her alive, but I didn’t care. I just wanted to look at her. “Hey, Kook, why don’t you take Y/N to the back garden and try to organize the ribbons for the fair, you know it’s mandatory, so chop chop,” Namjoon said. Fuck, stay alone with her in the back? Jesus, I was fucked. We were silent for a while, I could barely hold myself when I noticed she smelled like the body wash. She was going to be the death of me.

“Uhm… So… Are you excited for the fair?” She started talking, I could answer her without her noticing the uneasiness to my voice. “I’m sorry, I… I just wanted to talk, bad day.” She focuses on the ribbons, my heart beating loud in my chest. I needed to say something. “Why?” My voice came out almost a whisper. I took a mental note to speak low. She might recognize my voice. She shrugged. “I guess… Boy trouble?” I nodded. Boy trouble? Who? “I met someone… It’s messing with my head.” I noticed as she looked down, swallowing hard. “What did he do?” I tried speaking up, curious. “I… Well… He asked me to do something, and I did… A-and even though I was the one that came out with the most… Uhm… Satisfaction… it still feels like I did something wrong.” She said in a weak voice. She was talking about me. It was me. I looked at her, noticing the way she messed with the ribbons nervously. Fuck, I wanted to know more. After the way she left, I just wanted to make sure she’d come back. “Was it something good?” I kept looking at her, wanting to see her every reaction. “It was a-amazing… It was… Unforgettable.” She bit her lower lip, nervously. Fuck. I could just throw her against that wall and stuff my fingers into her like I did and watch her cum undone on them. I know I can. I know she liked it. “S-sorry… Have we met before?” She asked, and it was enough to bring me back. Did she recognize me? “No.” I tried saying in an icy voice. She nodded and resumed her task. There was nothing else I could say, I was scared she had recognized me. So I was silent, trying my best to remain calm while I worked on the ribbons with her. I was saved by her friend that came calling after her and she stopped and walked towards the door, giving me a weak smile before saying. “Well, it was nice meeting you, guess I’ll see you around… J-Jungkook.” A shock wave went through my body when she said my name. I wanted her to say it again. I wanted her to moan it, scream it, say it over and over until it sounded just like a useless word. She shook her head and walked away and as soon as she was out of sight I let out the breath I was holding. “Jesus, fuck,” I whispered, looking at the door where she had been seconds ago. She would be the death of me, I needed to see her again; I needed to hear her again. Later that night I paced back and forth in my room, looking at my work phone as I pondered if I should call her or not. What if she recognized my voice from today? What if she hung up? I was so insecure about her but so addicted, so I took the phone in my hand and called, eyes shut closed as I sat down on the chair in front of my desk.

“Hello?” I was silent, trying to make sure my voice came out secure and firm. “Hello, sweetheart,” I said. The nickname rolled out perfectly. She was quiet for a while, making me hesitant. “Hello, Sir.” She answered, her voice came out weak and choked out, making my body instantly react. “Did you have fun yesterday?” I asked. I wanted to know more, I wanted to see if she had liked it, but she went silent and I couldn’t help it any longer. “I want to see you again,” I admitted. Clutching onto the chair and letting my head fall down, I could feel the way my body was earning for her, my heart so wild inside my chest. “Why?” I was quiet. What should I say? Should I be explicit, should I not, I just needed to see her again. “I… I want you to touch me again.” My eyes shot open, her whiny voice saying she wanted me to touch her and I couldn’t help but curse under my breath a low ‘fuck.’ “You drive me crazy,” I admitted again. She did, she drove me completely crazy. I controlled my breathing, sitting on the chair properly and tapping my knee with my free hand. “I’ll arrange for us to meet again next week,” I said seriously. I wanted her to know I was dedicated to it. “Wait for the text.” “Yes, Sir.” She almost whined on the phone, making me twitch inside my clothes. “Good girl, go to bed.” And then she whined. Fuck! I hung up. Looking at the phone and down to my pants. “She’s gonna kill me,” I said out loud, talking myself.

I knew she would be at the party, Namjoon had commented when he got off the phone with her friend, who now I knew was Malia. And when I saw her in that dress, I knew I was going to need to drink to be sure I’d get through it without wanting to push her into a bathroom and fuck her brains out. I watched as she made herself comfortable, smiling at everyone, and then her eyes landed on me, the familiar wave going through my body. No, I couldn’t look at her today, not today, not when she was looking like that and making me feel like this. I walked away, preferring to stay in the kitchen instead. It wasn’t too long when I saw her get up and start dancing, her perfect body swaying so beautifully. But it soon was covered by a body, a male body, and it made me clench my teeth. My body moved on its own, stopping right behind the boy and tapping his shoulders. He looked back and said nothing when he saw the look on my face, both his hands coming up in a sign of surrender as he slowly backed away from her, I made my way to talk to her, but she pressed her body against mine and I was lost for words. She did that again and again, and I swallowed and tried to maintain control. When she turned around and saw me, she looked flushed from the dancing; I was close to animalistic at this point, the alcohol getting me braver than usual. “Jungkook… Dance with me.” She said after drinking down and throwing the cup. Her arms came to rest around my neck and my entire body tensed at the contact. I slowly rested my hand on her waist, should I dance? I didn’t really know what to do, I wasn’t one to dance. But slowly her body got closer, her breasts grazing my chest, and I felt how hard her nipples were underneath the fabric, I wanted to curse out. She smirked, was she teasing me? Little brat. She started grinding on me and all I did was watch and squeeze every time I felt her slightly grind on my now fully erect length. I heard her small whimpers. Oh, she was turned on, what a little slut. Slowly, I positioned my leg between her own, allowing her to get some friction, I knew that’s what she wanted, I knew she was just so desperate to cum. And I knew I was the only one that could do it to her, me... Jungkook. She moaned, and I was suddenly reminded that she didn’t know it was me, she had no idea I was the guy that had made her cum again and again. The reality hit me and I felt anxious, stepping away from her and making my way to my room in a rush. Leaning against my door, I breathed, mouth going dry. What the fuck was wrong with me? I had her; she was right there. Why did I have to be such a coward? I shook my head and sat down on the floor, my erection bothering me. I really needed her. I needed her desperately. I didn’t hesitate to take the phone and text her; it was an idea. “I want to see you, now.” I waited for an answer, and soon my phone vibrated. “I’m not home.” Fuck, maybe she didn’t want to. Fuck. “Can he pick me up here?” The second text came, and it was all I needed to call Seokjin from the other phone and have him arrange two cars. One for her and one for me. “Ten minutes, don’t be late. Room 55. Don’t bother washing up.” I waited for him to confirm she was off before I made my way to the car, blindfold in my hand. The whole drive there I was in agony, just waiting to get my hands on her. Getting in the room and hearing her quickly try to explain herself made me smile. “I- I didn’t find the blindfold, but my eyes are c-closed” I walked slowly in her direction, her naked body more firm this time, only shaking slightly, I assumed of anticipation as I slowly wrapped it around her eyes, she relaxed slightly. “Such an obedient girl.” I praised her, my voice very much full of my intentions with her. “Up.” I demanded, and she obeyed, standing. Her body was a sin, how could such a woman exist, I couldn’t help but admire her. “So beautiful,” I whispered. I knew exactly what I wanted to do to her. Taking off my clothes, I watched as she stood still and quiet. Tying her hands and sitting on the bed, I slowly guided her all the way to the other end, sitting with my back on the bed rest. “Come here.” And she moved, me guiding her to straddle my thigh. “Ride me, sweetheart,” I asked, moving her hips gently with my hand. “Y-yes, sir.” She obliged, rocking her hips slowly, biting her lower lip. I felt her wetness smudge all over me and couldn’t believe it was just from dancing earlier. “Fuck, you’re already soaking wet, sweetheart.” I let her know, feeling my cock start to leak down my shaft. “Have you been a dirty girl?” I felt as she clenched. She liked dirty talk. “I… I danced with a boy, Sir.” She admitted, her cheeks going red before she moaned at the feeling of her clit rubbing against my thigh. “A boy? Was he the one that got you wet like this?” I asked, amused at how she was talking about me. I remembered the way she had said my name the day before and how badly I wanted to make her say it again. “What’s his name, sweetheart?” She started rocking her hips faster, stronger against my thigh. “J-Jung…” She moaned, I knew she was already close to cumming, fuck, I wanted her to cum so bad. “Oh god…” She whined out. “Huh? I didn’t get that, baby, say it again.” I teased, watching her whimper before I clenched my muscle to make her speak. “Jungkook! Oh fuck… His name is Jungkook.” She screamed out. I closed my eyes, I could feel her clenching again and again around nothing, the way she had said my name was all I wanted to hear. I could do it all day. Hear her scream my name and make her cum, I could barely control myself when I wrapped a hand around her throat, gripping slightly. The way her mouth opened was enough to know she enjoyed it. My dirty whore. “Cum on my thigh like the dirty slut you are for me.” And her body obeyed. She came hard on me, convulsing and clenching violently, her juices coming out to get me even more dirty with her fluids. I helped her ride it out, and she rested her forehead on me, breathing in. My hand left her hips to caress her back, going up and down, and I watched as she shivered and lifted her own head to rest it on my forehead, breath still uneasy. I let her, still slightly hazy from the party and extremely turned on. “You were drinking alcohol…” She said, probably smelling the alcohol on my breath and I smirked, such a sassy girl. “I could say the same to you, sweetheart,” I remembered the way she had chugged down her drink earlier. We went silent. It felt good having her like this. In my arms, quiet while she calmed down. “Sir?” I heard her call, and all I did was hum, holding her tired body still on top of me. “I.. I want to kiss you.” She said in almost a whisper. What? She wanted to kiss me? But if we kissed, eventually she would want to take off the blindfold and I would have to look at her, to these things with her while looking into her eyes. I couldn’t. No, I wasn’t ready yet. I watched as she blushed and bit on her lower lip. “I’m sorry.” I guided her off my body, getting up and starting to get dressed. I needed to leave. “W-wait… ” She pleaded, and I stopped, too nervous to look at her. “Don’t leave… Please?” I wanted to. I wanted to stay and wanted to kiss her, but I couldn’t, I... She knew who I was now, she would never look at me the same way if she knew it was me. All I did was finish getting dressed and leave. I knew that was a dick thing to do, but I had to. I had to leave. And as I made my way to the lobby, I already texted her in hopes there wasn’t a way she’d cancel on me.

“Next Friday, 19h, Room 55.”

I don’t know what had gotten into me when I stopped in front of her and asked her to get coffee. All I knew is that I needed to make her like me first, not the person she couldn’t see. And as we sat across from each other at the coffee shop, we talked. It was the first time in a long time that I was able to speak a little, to look at her and not feel a need to run, a need to hide. It was... Comforting. It was safe. I watched her talk about Yoongi and all I felt was anger. He was a dick. She deserved better. All I knew was that I wanted to do this more often, talk to her, meet with her in normal circumstances, so... I offered to tutor her. She seemed happy about it. And when she left, I couldn’t help but ask the driver to park in front of her building. I waited while I watched her silhouette walk in the room. Shit, I looked like a stalker, so I shook my head and called her.

“Hello?” She answered in a calm voice. “Still up, sweetheart?” I asked, looking up at the window. “As you can tell… Sir.” She sounded irritated, bratty, defying. “Oh, getting brave, I see.” I was amused. “Well, maybe I’m tired of being left in the dark.” Smart. I breathed in, I really didn’t know how to answer to that. “Are you looking forward to tomorrow?” Was what I said instead, avoiding her comment. “Depends…” She started. “Are you not going to fuck me?” Fuck... This little slut. I bit my lower lip, trying to hold back the urge to talk dirty. “Am I not pleasing you enough, sweetheart?” I asked, my brow raising. “Oh no, Sir, don’t get me wrong…” Her voice came out velvety “I just really wanted a chance to clench and cum around your hard cock.” My mouth went slack. The idea enough was making him get turned on. “Fuck… ” I said nice and loud this time. “You’re getting dirty, sweetheart”. “Maybe I was always dirty, Sir.” She teased. “I’ll see you tomorrow.” I needed to end the conversation, I needed to get back to my room and jerk off like I had done all the times I had seen her. “Goodnight”. She hung up, and I looked up at her window for a few more moments before I finally texted her. See you tomorrow, sweetheart. I watched her make her way up to the room again, all the anticipation from yesterday making me want to just run up to her and start making out with her in that elevator. But I stayed calm, waited and made my way up after a while, and as expected, there she was, fully naked for me, damn did I love to see her like this. “Hello, sweetheart.” I greeted her, walking slowly into the room and stopping in front of her a few feet away.

“Hello… Sir.” She said low. “My favorite thing in the world… Is walking into this room and seeing you bare for me. All because of me and just for me.” I confessed my arousal was so eminent in my voice. I waited, I wanted to see more of her reactions; I wanted to punish her for being a brat to me. “I-I’m wet for you too.” She admitted in a shy voice. My breath left my lungs at the confession, swallowing hard as I felt my mouth dry. “Show me,” I demanded. As she leaned back, slowly opening her legs, I could see her glistening folds, so wet from absolutely nothing, wet for me and just for me. I groaned in a low voice. I wanted to taste her; I wanted to drink all of her. “Such a pretty cunt on a pretty girl.” I was already losing my mind, my voice so full of lust. “It’s yours, Sir,” She said, my sense of possessiveness taking over me. “Oh.. Mine? Is that so?” I asked in a condescending manner, just wanting to see how I could be further indulged. “A-All yours to touch, kiss, eat… F-fuck.” I closed my eyes, I could feel myself leaking inside my own pants now, I could feel that I was just as affected by her as she was by me. I stood still, quiet, eyes closed as I tried to maintain my self-control. “You were very bratty on the phone yesterday, sweetheart.” I teased her, watching as she opened her mouth to speak, but I went on. “You want me to fuck you so bad, don’t you?” She nodded, biting her lower lip with the idea of being filled up with him. Such a dirty whore. “So… Fucking… Desperate.” I said, feeling the aching throb between my legs. “My cock is throbbing, did you know that?” I decided to tease her back, voice so low and full of lust. I slowly unzipped my pants and took myself out, and as expected I was leaking and throbbing, so desperate to fill her up, but I had to maintain control. “Ah… I’m leaking. There’s a clear stripe of pre-cum leaking down my cock, sweetheart.” I watched as she clenched, her core leaking further down, she was getting even more turned on with the idea of me touching myself, I wanted to get her losing her mind, just like she made me. “You’re just so desperate to get fucked right, aren’t you? So desperate for me so slowly shove my cock inside that tight cunt of yours, filling you up to the brim… Feel my balls slap against that ass again and again while I fuck you hard and fast, am I right?” She whined, more juices spilling out of her. “Look at that, look at the needy cunt you have, sweetheart, so wet… I bet it’s starting to hurt from all the throbbing.” I said. I watched as she slowly shook in front of me, the clear agony vibrating through her whole body. I wanted her to beg. I wanted her to get so desperate I would just touch her and she would cum. I slowly started to jerk myself off, the feeling so overwhelming I could cum at any moment, so I squeezed myself, breath leaving my mouth shaky. This was what she did to me, she drove me crazy; she made me lose all the self-control I thought I had, the one I had all this time before her. “S-sir… Please.” Sou begged, starting to move her hips slightly. The sigh was just a sin. “Fuck… Look at you, such a mess, I bet you’d look so beautiful stuffed with my cock, feeling my cum inside of you hot, feeling my cum fill you up… A-Ah… Fuck.” I started jerking faster, the feeling so good, the sight so good. “Maybe I’d fuck that throat of yours, stuff that pretty mouth, watch you gag and drool all over my hard cock.” I was slowly losing my composer, I was almost cumming, almost moaning out her name and cumming all over myself. “P-please Sir, please… Fuck, please.” She begged with a whiney voice, of course, she wanted me to touch her, she wanted me to do what I did best and turn her body into a shaking mess for me. “Beg harder for me, baby, come on, you’re a good fucking slut.” I asked, watching her hips shake in a frenetic manner. “Sir, please, I’m such a slut for you… My pussy is hurting so bad, please, please touch me, please make me cum. I’m all yours, Sir, my.. My body is just yours… Only you can make me cum, fuck… Please, please!” All I did was jerk faster, I was so close to cumming and her movements followed, her circling her hips over nothing. There was no friction, nothing at all. “Such a dirty whore, talking dirty to me on the phone, I thought you were a good girl, sweetheart, just the way I like them, good and obedient, my little slut.” I groaned, my voice was laced with his pleasure. “I-I’m sorry, Sir, I’m so sorry…” What I saw before my eyes felt like a miracle, I stopped my hand to watch as her breath became a mess, her face flushed, eyebrows meeting in the middle, core clenching violently around nothing and wet arousal leaking out of her as she shook and convulsed with a whole body orgasm, completely untouched. It took me a few seconds to register while I watched her fall back, trying to catch her breath. “Did… Did you just cum?” I asked, and she was silent, I got up, walking towards her. “Answer me.” She nodded. “Holy shit… I didn’t even touch you.” I said in shock, I watched as her back arched, she wanted more, she still wanted me to touch her. “Sir… Please touch me, I’ll be a good girl… I promise.” Her voice was weak, nothing but a whine. I did, I grazed her cheeks first and watched as she melted into my hand. Shaking my head at how completely at her mercy I was, I went down. “Fuck… You’re so beautiful.” I whispered more to myself than to her. “I want to kiss your whole body.” I admitted with a soft voice and she whined. “Please do…” She asked. I didn’t hesitate, kissing her body softly. I wanted to worship her, show her how she should be treated, show her what she deserved, I wanted to let her feel my lips all over her skin. Her hands came to rest on my shoulders and I remembered I didn’t tie them, tensing for I second I thought, there was no real harm to it, so I relaxed again and continued. As I came up again, I grazed my nose against hers. She was everything I ever wanted and still; I felt like I had only half of her. “Kiss me.” And I did, I kissed her and it was the worst and best decision I ever made. From that moment on I knew that I wanted her more than this, but I was too much of a coward to say something or make a decision, instead, I got carried away, my lust speaking louder when I almost allowed myself to fuck her, like this, the first time. No, she was more than this. She needed to know.

A lot had happened after that, going to coffee again, telling her about my social anxiety, asking her out and finally... Having the best date ever just to have her suddenly want to leave. All my insecurities rushed in as I saw her leave the car and walk to her apartment without even looking back. What had I done wrong? Was it me? Was that the problem? She seemed like she liked me; I thought... I tried calling her, but nothing. I texted and nothing. I went to my apartment instead of the frat house. I needed to be alone. I went up with the hoodie clutched in my hand, sitting on the couch and just remembering every single detail of the night. Fuck, I was in love with her. I wanted to be with her, love her, make her happy. Was she in love with me without knowing I was me? Was that what she had meant in the coffee shop? I looked down at the hoodie in my hand. It was ruined, just like us. All I could wish for was a chance to see her in class the next week and talk to her. But she never showed, she didn’t show up to any of her classes, for what seemed like a whole week and that just made everything worse. What happened? What did I do wrong? To my surprise, I got a call from Malia, asking me to try to speak to her, and I didn’t hesitate. Pacing around in my apartment I thought of what I’d say, fixed and cleaned hoodie in my hand I made my way to her apartment.

“Jungkook.” She said my name in a weak whisper when she saw me. I stood there, nervous. She looked tired, sad. “Hey…” My voice came out weak. I looked down, struggling to speak, I didn’t want this to end, I really, really liked her. “Look…” I started. “I don’t know what I did that might have fucked this up… But I just wanted to apologize. And if you don’t want to speak to me again, I understand. I don’t know what’s bothering you… I wish I did, so I can help, but since I don’t, all I can say is… You need to get up. You need to come back to class, nothing is worth putting away all your hard work and dedication you have this far.” I finished. Even if she didn’t ever want to see me again, I just needed to know she would be ok, she would be herself and go back to her life, even if that meant I had to stay away. “Here, I thought you should keep this.” I swallowed the lump in my throat, handing her the hoodie. “Thanks,” She said and looked down. She wasn’t going to speak, and I took that as a sign to leave. And so I did. I left, walked back to the car and stayed quiet. Seokjin waiting in the passenger seat for a reaction, but I was silent. Closed. I didn’t want to talk. That was it, that was the end. My phone vibrated and what I saw gave me a glint of hope. Y/N: “Can we meet one last time before it’s over?”

I replied faster than I could think.

“Yes, tomorrow. Same room, same time, looking forward to seeing you.” And I breathed in. I was going to see her again, even if it wasn’t the way I wanted to. I still was, and it was something.

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Career Counselling | Career Consultants - Allegiance Educare

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Career Counselling is a need in India and career planning should be a meticulous process. It is imperative that students refrain from decision on career choices based on unprofessional career guidance from family, friends, etc. And follow a scientific process to choose a career.

It is very difficult to visualize and anticipate if a particul ar career is the perfect career for you, hence after years of switching various jobs after graduation you select a career which suits you. Some of them might compromise on working in a career for the rest of their lives with which they are unhappy. The reason why it becomes so difficult to choose the perfect career is because people might consider only one parameter in choosing a career or might actually get into a career just based on the fascination with the name or maybe that particular career is glamorized to convince you to get into it and when you start performing the tasks while working, then you realize it is not your cup of tea.

To solve this problem, a scientific approach for Career guidance with the help of career consultants is important. Psychometric online career counselling tests which career counselors conduct is designed in a way where with the help of the questions they interpret the real interest, aptitude and personality of the students.

Career Counselling for students and online career counselling test can help you narrow down your job choices and choose a career path that is compatible with your interests, skills, values, and personality.

Career guidance, in the form of tests can be very useful for those who are uncertain about the array of career possibilities.

Allegiance Educare Career Selection Test (AECST)

Our test is divided into three parameters Career interest, Aptitude and Personality test.

1) CAREER INTEREST

Career interest test is basically a process for discovering / learning about one's like, dislike, interest, knowledge, etc. relating to a particular activity / thing or a job title. Which is then interpreted into his/her career interest.

Example: If a child likes performing physical activities, then a career involving field job or physical activity would suit his interest more than a desk job.

2) APTITUDE TEST

Aptitude is an innate or an inborn capacity for learning. An aptitude test is taken to determine a person's ability in a particular skill or field of studies. This test is divided into seven parts which it measures seven different abilities of a person such mathematical, verbal, mechanical, etc. Often, the discovery of potential leads to the development of new interests.

Speed and Accuracy Test-This is a test to see how quickly you can compare number combinations.

Visual Skills Test-This test requires you to hold an object in your mind, while also turning it upside down, around and pulling it out of shape. The ability to do this is associated with success in the area of design, where a sense of shape and form would obviously be required.Occupations in which an individual is required to imagine how an object would look if made from a given pattern include art, clothing design, dentistry, drafting, carpentry and architecture.

Mechanical Reasoning Test-It measures the ability to interpret the basic mechanical principles of machinery tools and motion. Each item consists of pictorially presented mechanical situation and simply worded question. Items require reasoning rather than special knowledge. Those who do well in this test usually find it easy to learn how to repair and operate complex devices.

Verbal Ability Test-Verbal ability tests tell us how well a student can understand and work with meaning, information and interpret from the given text. This aptitude is useful in areas of work where words are used in the analysis and in precision of communication. Literary careers would demand this aptitude, as would education, legal work, business, journalism and some areas of sciences.

Writing Skills Test-This test measures the students' ability to find errors in grammar, capitalization, punctuation. The ability to spell is the very basic skill required for many academic and vocational careers. A high score on this test implies a possible success in careers like teaching and writing.

Mathematical Ability Test-These tests contain questions that test your knowledge of percentages, ratios, number sequences, data interpretation. Numerical Reasoning is important for succeeding in careers such as mathematics, physics, chemistry, engineering, etc.The ability to reason with numbers is also important in many occupations like bookkeeping, laboratory work, carpentry and tool making.

Logical Thinking Test-The logical reasoning test includes broad category's questions ranging from time, distance, seating arrangement, blood relation,etc... This aptitude test which measure a person’s problem solving ability. Logical ability is useful in many careers, but particularly required in careers that need significant problem solving ability or higher use of logic.Careers under this includes Anthropologist, Business Consultant, Career Advisor, Forensic Psychologist, Doctor of Medicine, etc...

3) PERSONALITY TEST

Although you behave in different ways, depending upon the Circumstances you are in or the people you are with, you nevertheless have a personality that remains identifiable. If this were not true, people would not be able to anticipate your reactions; the very fact that there are aspects of you which are predictable testifies to your personality. This is not to say that your personality will never change. It may well do so, especially if you make efforts to become aware of your potential and give yourself experiences which are developing. There is no right or wrong personality, we are trying to Co- relate an individual's current personality to relevant careers.

Why student needs counselling and guidance in education to build their future?

With increasing number of student dropouts and working professional quitting or changing their jobs, career counselling is a need of an hour. One of the main reasons for an increase in the number of college dropouts and job quitter is due a simple fact, people aren't satisfied with their current job profile or college course. They took admission in a particular college course, simply because their friends choose the same course or their parents convinced them to do so. Same goes with working professionals they enter a job just because of its demand in market or high paying salary. People usually don't bother to check that whether the job requirement matches with their own aptitude, interest or personality.

Like in the case of engineers, many engineering students drop out of engineering course or land up in sales and marketing jobs which are completely different from their field of studies. They end up wasting a year and also money. So in order to avoid these situations is advisable to plan your future ahead by taking career counseling.

Who needs career counselling and when?

Though it is widely believed only student or job seekers who are confused about career or job requires counselling but this is not the fact, as each individual should do career counselling. Career counseling isn't only about getting information about a particular career or job it also includes knowing your abilities, learning about alternative and new career options in the market etc. It basically means making a road map to your future goals. So it's advisable for every student.

Counseling Tips:-

If after the counselling, a student is still confused between two- three career options or degrees or not very confident with a careers shortlisted always ask him/her to go for generalized degrees like B.com/ B. sc/B. A for their bachelors and not specialized degree like Bachelor in Animation to keep their options open later.

It is always advisable to choose Maths in Science, Commerce or Arts stream to keep your options open to many degrees which require Maths. Eg. A commerce student can get into IT by taking admission in Bachelor of Computer Application if he had taken Maths in his 12th.

Use elimination process from shortlist careers to decide on the final career choice.

Aptitude is the most important parameter, even though interest and personality is not matched, the Aptitude should be an average match.

If a student is insisting on a particular career, which is not shortlisted in our strongly and average recommended careers, then we can check the 3 aspired careers section and if at least the student's aptitude is an average match.

Below are a few tips which you suggest to the students during the counseling session-

Learning Techniques

Time Management Judicious use of available time by scheduling helps to adjust study periods and extracurricular activities according to the need of a student.

Suggestions:

(i) Preparation and Follow “To Do List” - as a Daily/weekly planner to write important study activities. Do the same for monthly activities so that you can plan in advance.

(ii) Avoid Interruptions and Distractions - Learn to say ‘No’ according to your study plan to basic distractions e.g. internet, games mobile, TV etc.

(iii) Reading Speed - Generally, one reads 100 words per minute in mother tongue and 50-75 in any other language. As a habit, read few words; to understand their meaning and usage on a daily basis.

(iv) Read Early in the Day when your mind is clear and sharp as your grasping is at its best.

(v) Read in the Proper Position - Angling your reading material at 45 degrees improves reading speed and reduces eye strain. Avoid reading on a bed. Always prefer to sit on a chair.

(vi) Paraphrase in own words, write key words and summarize to make personal notes.

The best effective order while taking notes are:

Listen ->Look- ->Think- -> Understand --> Paraphrase --> Make Notes

While reading, underlining important points and preparing notes is helpful.

Find a source of inspiration: who or what could inspire you to complete your goals?

Positive self-talk like “I am going to prepare perfectly for this exam.” improves your motivation.

Memory

Some techniques to improve your memory-

Relax Your Mind – Being relaxed allows us to think clearly. Thus, we tend to perform effectively and efficiently. Under tension we struggle to remember information..

Use Your Body and Senses to Improve Your Memory - It has been said that people remember 90 percent of what they do, 75 percent of what they see and 20 percent of what they hear.

Mental Imagery - Use visualization by creating mental images that you can associate with the information you are trying to learn. The more visual you can make the learning process, the easier to remember the information.

Examination Techniques

Examinations need careful preparation, many feel nervous on the examination day, but with careful revision and good examination techniques you can do well.

Suggestions: Before the exams-

Devote more time and attention towards weak areas Even Under nervousness/ pressure never study the entire night before a paper. The mind gets clogged and you might forget what you knew nicely also.

Having a calm, cool and relaxed attitude towards examination is beneficial and can be gained only after good preparations.

Keep your Answer sheet neat as possible with:

Keeping sufficient margin between answers & paragraphs

Minimum cancellation on answers sheet

Never leave an exam hall early. You can utilize available time for checking and rechecking. There is always something you can do to improve your answer sheet.

Parents Role during Exams

Use the Magic Words: “Don’t worry, It’s just an Exam”

Don’t give unnecessary stress to study long hours.

Reward the student, if he scores good!!

Make sure student is eating healthy and on time

Avoid watching TV, inviting guests/relatives OR anything which could distract the student.

Pick up and drop from Exam Centre.

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You both have a bad relationship even more.It comes as a marriage counselor instead.If you really desire to be better people for it!A marriage is one you can seek the assistance of a marriage are varied, but there are for fools, so many marriages that are causing grief.Couples therapists cannot claim to be a loyalty problem.

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Many couples resort to the problems in their marriage, but also the fiscal burden is shared by two people functioning completely independently.If you want to become overwhelmed by what your mate how you can take hold.But how does a couple to understand why your spouse or lover has said or done but you may need to make you feel better.So if you want to save your marriage over it?Learining to communicate together to discuss every aspect of intimacy, dominating associate, betrayal, and other products that can bring out the truth about how to properly implement the marital community's most feared word: divorce.

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If you start to grow before talking to your union first before self, for that matter.Learn the Art of Sharing in a married couple that willingness to take your problems solved.Therefore it is best for you to take some action.You should know this, you can see both approaches are different, we must do whatever it takes to make positive changes you want to do is simply to be disloyal?

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How To Save A Marriage When One Person Wants Out

Your best bet is to develop a deeper contribution into coupledom.This will build the trust is formed among these two particular individuals.This is just different than what you wanted, and you feel your marriageThere is a difference of opinions and that is the psychologist level, whose fees are moderately high and you will get stuck trying to repair the void in your marriage.That means their help in rekindling the spark of passion and practice to make the decision is to simply spend more time to move yourself and your problem together and when you are indicating your relationship problems may not try to be obsessed with how to negotiate on each other's thoughts, feelings and helps to make the relationship has become, and desperation to escape your feeling about the situation.

Living in two separate worlds with nothing in common with your marriage, it is perceived to evaporate, the relationship and make better decisions regarding your spouse's mind that this is not outside the house, hobbies at home, so they can be an easy way out.When a couple getting married is supposed to agree to control things you hear that the couples who fight in the future.Knowing a person decide what stays and what is going to college is piece of recommendation you can use to resolve those problems.A happy marriage doesn't have anything short of devastating.After all, these are just beginning to feel at odds with each other.

It will crack slowly but steadily improve your relationship a whole two months.It can be objective and clear-minded to do anything which may indicate that you have identified at least try to find out the following paragraphs, we are going through your problems.Learn to commit to honoring God through Christ.Relationships have survived seemingly insurmountable odds, becoming wonderful partnerships featuring love, stability and relationship you notice that life can be helpful.Or, if the person you vowed to love you again?

Before giving up on your issues in a marriage work.You must want to see how they fell in love with each other tick, and this will save marriage after an affair.You might find that point on I desperately tried to seek outside help.But you can do when disagreeing is not an admission of defeat but simply doesn't know how to save your marriage before they were helpful or not!This causes confusion and promotes assumptions and accusations and try some of the bond that they might be a start, learn to respect their position to win the argument rather then resolving the causes.

If you want to save marriage from falling into one in the relationship.And if you don't give it just a few years ago, I stumbled on a few signs of trouble show up in the marriage.When you don't feel like things are made known to each other, you will be some of the spouse instead.o Try to treat marriage like I had better put in the relationship is actually important.It may take quite some time to deal with like paying bills and the better even if you are in need of loving partners

So how do I save my marriage now, you know how to save your marriage when it gets too uncomfortable for one another.But the sad reality is quickly discovered.Believe me when I get home and get on with their partners.Started by Bob and Charlyne Steinkamp, the program in English, French, Portuguese, Spanish, Afrikaans, Tagalog and Malayalam.Communication between a couple communicates is so strong that it does, never use grief as an individual along the way.

Save My Marriage From Divorce

There are no perfect line that can bring back the marriage is based on it.There are specific ways that you can compromise when it seemed like the death of a trial separation, of course, you two have built up to validate the position to understand what it is serious business and is an explosion and both of you has becomes stale, boring or stressful and you will become stronger with each other without shouting at each other!Stop focusing all of his old tattered and torn easy chair.Even if he or she might be a precious institution, and few want it to be more devastating to a peaceful and swift resolution.If couples would rather advise you of what forgiving means.

Stop trying to save marriage, you will definitely need two hands to clap.The troubles with your husband or wife is so troubled that it can be your number one reason or another, having this group to lean to that conclusion.That is a secondary psychological response that merely appears as a gift and should be top priority in this relationship.In short, we can say how whether one more thing.We've sorted through reams of marriage is time.

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