#there is no shame in being a house spouse godsdammit

[homesweetgoodneighbor]

Stop hating on house-spouses

Speaking of feminism, can we fucking stop with the whole hating on women who want to be housewives? Look, back in the day when the gov't was pushing it's "nuclear family" bullshit and Christians with their "women's place is in the home" fuckery, it was something that was "expected" and forced on ladies.

Feminism is not about completely doing away with a role. It's about giving women the choice about what they want to do, not having it enforced upon them. And, if that choice includes working in an industry, then they should get the same pay as guys. Or, if that choice is "I really just want to take care of the hearth and home" then they should get an equal amount of fistbumps.

It's about fucking respect, yo.

I am going to be a bit gender biased for a second, but bear with me, I'm speaking to a particular mindset:

And, feminism means, STOP GIVING HOUSEHUSBANDS SHIT, TOO.

You know why househusbands get shit? Because being a housewife is seen as lower on the social chain. It's something to feel superior over. "I take care of my wife. I am the king of my castle." *jacking off motions*

Now, to include all genders/non-genders, lemme tie all this together and say:

STOP GIVING PEOPLE WHO WANT TO BE HOUSESPOUSES SHIT. LITERALLY, SOME PEOPLE WANT TO BE AT HOME WITH THE CHORES AND KIDS/PETS (OR NONE OF THOSE AT ALL). THEY ARE NOT LESS DESERVING OF YOUR RESPECT.

If it is a consensual thing, if they made the decision as a couple with no one feeling oppressed or their wishes decided for them, THEN STOP TREATING THEM LIKE THEY'RE LESSER BEINGS!

Holy shit. I have personally known at least 5 housespouses and they are all very happy and their spouses are super respectful and everyone is just content! (One househusband I knew was 6'5" with a lumberjack build. You fucking tell him he's not a Real Man for being a househusband. I fucking dare you.)

I was watching a lady doing house stuff on Ye Olde Tubes of You because I am trying to find ways to organize that work with my ADHD, and my brain was all "her husband must be awful if all she can do is stay home". And, my Second Brain was like, WHAT THEY FUCK?! She's obviously happy! She is sitting here posting on youtube about how she does her routine and she wants to help others and has little captions and emojis and nothing feels forced LET THE WOMAN BE HAPPY WITH THE SITUATION SHE CHOSE.

And, that's what I'm saying, tell your overtly righteous self to shut up and read the room.

I am a house spouse. I worked my whole life, and now, I choose to be a house spouse because the option was OFFERED to me. I wasn't TOLD I had to be this. I was offered. I took it.

I am perfectly happy. Super Spouse is awesome to me and treats me with respect and love. I do the same for him. We are very much in love and happy with our situation. We are blessed beyond belief that I am able to stay home since my ADHD and PTSD ruins a lot of "productive societal expectation" for me. Not everyone can do this, and we recognize that we are BLESSED we have this option.

Fucking call me "oppressed" and shit. I dare you.

If you're a true intersectional feminist, you'll know the difference between someone who has made a choice and someone whose choice was made for them.

P.S. The housespouse I was watching on youtube even made a point of saying that while she treats it as a job, she has down days, and no one in her house gives her shit for it. She is not treated as sub-human or a slave. Just wanted y'all to know that.