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jesteriajunovix · 1 month ago

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Venom: The Last Dance Movie Thoughts (Spoilers)

Its very sad how this trilogy at the very end sort of detracts from the main focus of the romance to give time to this Van family I can just barely bring myself to care about outside of maybe the scene where Eddie talks to leaf. then theres these scientist that are bumbling around.

Its just a bunch of uninteresting sequences where people I don't know or care about keep talking and talking. sometimes it really does feel like the writers were doing madlibs across certain sections.

Also, venom animals are cool and all, but they had like seven symbiotes to play with that all just got merc'd in the end by some generic starcraft-looking alien things.......Okay maybe I'm being a little too harsh, because I actually think those aliens are really cool, but as a main reoccurring antagonist, it gets boring. You tellin me knull has hundreds upon hundreds of these bugs and couldn't just send even more, thus making Venom's sacrifice literally aimless. Also what the fuck even is this acid thing still left here from the start of the movie? This shit is just around and Venom knew it'd work?

Also venom dancing with Mrs.Chen was cute, but that being the pit for next conflict is just bad writing.

It just feels like everything got so PR'd up that the movie stopped having a vision for crafting actually interesting scenes.

Also why is Venom's body count for Hispanics so high? Like sure he killed a bunch of police and army grunts, but the scenes where non-feds are being framed as the bad guys feel very racialized. Also ya animal abuse is hell tier, but when the framing is "these dogs are more important than these POC's and the WHITE MAN is delivering justice upon them" it gets weird.

There's also an entire conversation to be had about how a black man is once again empathetically framed while actively sitting in the fed/military chair.

It's just such a disappointment. First Fuck Marvel of course for their support of the IDF

(I acquired venom the last dance through the void)

but, also I have to question what the process of making this movie looked like for the writers. To me, it just seems like a case of an incohesive group trying to appeal to communities they don't understand, but I could be wrong and it could be a pay thing as well.

I know the marketing for Venom previously has proved to be not financially smart for Marvel considering the fact the gay subtext has made it harder to get into certain countries, so maybe that somehow affected the attitude during the creative process?

There's also the note to be made about the Director and writer changes throughout the trilogy.

I'm just spitballing though. Don't listen to my dumbass theories that may be completely wrong.

I just can see these potentially being factors.............also to make something clear writers should be getting paid even if the movie literally just consists of a nigga pulling his pants down and hitting a goatsy

Cautionary Definition Goatse: For those unaware this is in reference to popular shock videos spread across the early 2000s of men spreading their assholes.

right into the camera.

.....that was a cruder way to put it, so to make my take clearer:

my opinion on the quality here isn't an attempt to say writers should get fucked out of their money for bad writing. That's not a fundamental issue here. I do hope all the sick fuck Zionists there do in fact suffer some form of retribution and repentance though.

......................................................................................................................On a different note It's interesting to think about how Venom is basically Transmasc and Fluid....Thats all. I just find that to be something very interesting that I wish I saw more people talking about actively.

#Venom #venom the last dance #venom spoilers #Movie Rambling

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scientologisabethmoss · 2 years ago

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I dont even think ben millers tweet was wrong or misogynistic. Do you really think that most suburbanites were really on the front lines helping these gay men instead of treating them like pariahs? Theres the habit of ppl lazily slapping white onto their misogynistic jokes and then theres them pointing out intersections of race and class that did have a hand in the way some ppl were affected and viewed the aids epidemic. Most of the white women that helped them were working class and queer, not straight suburbanites due to the fact that what attracted a lot of people to suburbia and still does is that they get to live in homogeneous communities free of minorities.

I understand what you’re saying here, and yet, I still feel that Ben Miller’s tweet was fundamentally misogynist. In fact, I feel that the original tweet IS an example of slapping “white” before “women” to cloak a disparaging remark about women in some kind of acceptable veneer for the wider online public. I do not think that the tweet offers any real substantive insight into the horrendous treatment gay men were subjected to by the American public, including both men and women, during the 1980s and ‘90s. The tweet is purely speculative, based on the imaginary scenario of suburban white women having access to Twitter during the AIDS epidemic. And for what reason? What value does this tweet have in enlightening anyone about LGBTQ+ history? No one had Twitter in the late 1980s because it did not exist, and there is no world in which that fact changes. So what can be the point of a white MAN specifically tweeting about the implied cruelty and heartlessness of white WOMEN… in a completely imagined scenario? Is this tweet supposed to educate? To me, the obvious purpose of this snide tweet - beyond collecting likes and retweets and general positive internet attention - is to incite derision of women for something that they can’t control because THE TWEET IS ENTIRELY SPECULATIVE.

I find it rich that not only is a white man tweeting about the supposedly unique awfulness of white women, but in so many responses to my Tumblr post on the subject, people have continued to reply with the most sexist stereotypes in mind. A man describes someone as a “white suburban woman”, and suddenly, people are frothing at the mouth, conjuring up Nancy Reagan and Anita Bryant. Ben Miller did not specify “STRAIGHT white suburban women”, nor did he say anything about these women being cisgendered. There is an implication in the phrase “white suburban women” that relies entirely on sexist stereotypes, so much so that people reblogging my post with the most inane and reaching comments have filled in the gaps in their heads to conjure up the most deplorable “Karens” they can imagine. (No matter that Karen is a sexist and ageist term, mind you.)

It’s undeniable that many suburban white women were horrible to gay men during the AIDS epidemic. I am in no way refuting that. But you know who were also awful to gay men? Suburban white men! And you know what group rallied behind many gay men during the AIDS epidemic? LESBIANS, many of whom could be counted as suburban white women! People seem to so quickly forget about the existence and history of lesbians, and that speaks volumes to me. Ben Miller tweeted about “suburban white women”, and suddenly, the potential queerness of these women disappears!

I have people replying to my post with comments about mothers throwing their young gay sons out of their homes as proof of the evil and reactionary ways of suburban white women. And even though that scenario has undoubtedly occurred in too many homes throughout the years, is there anything uniquely female about that action? Where are the fathers in this scenario, and why are they not being held responsible for their actions against their gay sons?

Women are consistently held to a higher moral standard than men, and so many of the responses I’ve gotten to my post only reinforce that.

#vomitago #ask #asks #i have so many thoughts in response to this but this is all i can articulate right now

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fairycosmos · 3 years ago

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Chloe this is sort of controversial but you always bestow such wisdom on us that I want to ask about a situation I’m in. So basically I have a friend and she’s transgender and I’m obviously fully supportive of that but she’s also sort of sexist and I don’t know if I’m just meant to let it slide or like call her out. She talks often about how now that she feels she is in her real body she thinks women have been over dramatic about sexism and misogyny and how really it’s not a big deal and that women don’t face any issues in regard to sexism at all. I told her that I didn’t think that was true and mentioned things like violence and assault to women and unequal pay and then she said I was starting to sound a bit transphobic? Someone please tell me if I am because that is not my intention and I told her I didn’t mean it in that way and asked how I was being transphobic because again that is something I have no intention of doing and she said that transgender women go through the same issues as biologically born women and I said I know and that I was including her in what I was talking about but then she just said again that women were over dramatic about it all. I’m feeling confused and hurt that I might of said something wrong. Transgender people face many issues in their own right so maybe she feels that women’s issues aren’t that big of a deal in comparison but like I feel they are still important issues

hey love!! i totally get why you're conflicted over this and i completely understand not wanting to overstep/speak on something you don't have first hand experience with. but since you asked for my thoughts, i have to say they're nuanced and not totally straight forward - i do agree with the notion that, since shes faced such intense transphobia, misogyny may seem less serious or less noticeable to her, though i think for trans women the two forms of oppression actually often intersect, unfortunately. like that makes a lot of sense if it matches up with her lived experiences and obviously, nobody can tell her how to feel. but at the same time, it does sound like shes just very idk ignorant (that may not be the word) of the realities of how deeply sexism runs and how patriarchal the world actually is on a fundamental level. it may not have much to do with her being trans at all - this reminds me of those girls who reject feminism, who don't recognize their own internalised misogyny at all and it could be something similar with her. i totally understand why her reaction to being told about womens issues was to get defensive - after all trans women are told time and time again that they do not face those same struggles which is often a fallacy/often used as a straw man argument - but once you clarified you were obviously including trans women in ur argument against misogyny, i'm not sure where her logic went? i mean it's an objective fact that women r more likely to be victimized by cis men sexually and otherwise like.....it's not an overreaction just because it doesn't echo her own life as a woman. there are plenty of women who have never been assaulted or abused, doesn't mean it's not a very real issue our gender faces. i guess that's what i'd focus on if i were you - trying to broaden her horizons, trying to let her know that theres a million different ways we suffer under the patriarchy as a collective - and just because she hasn't gone through it personally doesn't mean theyre not very real and very valid issues. nor does it mean she will never experience it in the future (god forbid obviously, would not wish it on anyone.) anyway all in all i don't think you were being transphobic but i do understand her initial defensiveness to a degree. however ultimately i do agree that we face many issues as women, trans women included of course (especially woc, poor women and LGBT women) that should never be undermined. so yeah i know it's a touchy subject and i tried to explain my viewpoint with as much sensitivity as possible, and am open to conversation about it, but i hope she eventually hears you out on this and that you can get through to her about it. because it is is not as black and white as just pinning it on women overreacting. we live in a patriarchy and that holds so much weight, unfortunately, even if it is sometimes insidious and sly and covert. much love x

#anon #talking

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icecreamkink · 4 years ago

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so i watched cobra kai all in two days and i have so many -

this show has so many cool and smart angles to it, but the same time.... its so stupid oh my god everyone is so dumb literally mr miyagi held all of the braincells in this whole universe

like i am but at the same time i am not surprised it was made like this, bc in hindsight of course there were hordes of ppl simping over johnny lawrence .... but it still amuses me that this is like... an Actual Official Thing

ok this will get long so cut it is

how much fun this cast has is super visible and i love it

i rly enjoy how the world was expanded ! i did grow up watching the karate kid movies, so watching how they progressed the world of the movies so organically was pretty cool. it rly feels like its the same universe

i fucking LOVE stories that are largely about a Thing. dancing ,skating, sports its just so thrilling to experience this all consuming relationship people can have with this type of activity? and martial arts are just that much more intense, so yeah, grown ass men kicking each other around at the lightest provocation and a war veteran caring so much abt teen karate is Ridiculous.... but i love it all because thats the intensity i find so thrilling

was kinda surprised with how much im missing mr. miyagi. first because, like everyone is so unhinged jesus christo, it just really throws into relief how much his character grounded the narrative of the movies. but also hes just a really great character

and on that note it rly Gets Me that the show itself aknowledges that and plays that into daniels angst and all the little ways they sorta weave myiagisms into the whole show........ im not getting emotional over this dumb karate dads show OK

related - i really miss hearing ‘daniel-san’ 🥺🥺

ACE DEGENERATE oh god oh no

they really went down the down and out johnny lawrence route huh. like i was always kinda bummed we see kreese choking him and then we never see him again in the movies, and while i love dumpster fire problematic trash himbo ck johnny, its like......................... actually really sad that his life turned out like this fjngn

everytime i hear ‘babes’ and ‘pussy’ i die a little inside. i know thats the point but i am a v cringe easy person, have mercy (ehe)

loved the way they are constantly drawing parallels between johnny and mr. myiagi of all people. hes the handy man of his building that has a bullied kid asking for help and eventually steps up to teach them karate, beats up a bunch of bullies for him, creates a friendship with said kid, estranged from family, drinks his sorrows away, surprisingly one of the least quick to anger characters (which says more about everyone else really but.... Well.), no schemes or ulterior motives hes just tryna vibe here.... oh and ofc magically heals miguel of is asthma apparently. the true disciple.. meanwhile daniel is his usual messy petty self even tho he wants to be mr myiagi so bad

also interesting about that is how miguels character is a parallel of both johnny and daniel at the same time

overall the parallels in ck are done really well, drawing comparisons and also subverting them constantly. theyre well thought out

THE PARALELOGRAMS

fr tho, the angle being explicitly the cycle of trauma and its effects and how trumatized adults in turn traumatize kids, maliciously or not, is so interesting

but! on the flip side of that, it feels like the writers are getting in their own way @ letting the characters grow. especially this last season. theres only so many times you can do "johnny and daniel are getting along but 5mins later they are (literally) fighting over some dumbass random issue" or "johnny puts in 20% of effort with robby and then gives up" before it gets on your nerves yknow?

i see daniel no longer talks like macchio ingested 15 shots of espresso before every take and idk how to feel about that tbh

interesting tension in daniel, as in, in tkk mr miyagi was there and daniel was frankly, kind of a lil shit, this messy petty spitfire hot tempered sassy kid,(johnny lawrence voice: just... stop being so annoying) but now hes the adult, and he wants to be mr. miyagi... but hes just not, and never will be to his very core and it shakes him and in a way hes trying to find who he is now that he sees himself in a position to be a not! cobra kai figure. i kinda really like that

plus how that relates to his cobra kai trauma. idk if the writers thought abt it Like That, i think so, but in any case, its interesting bc it seems like daniel has told everyone whod listen about johnny lawrence his Pretty Boy Karate Rival and high school and 84 cobra kai... But. no one seems to know what went on in 85 (or 86? idk) which was just so much worse

like ye og cobras were shitheads, but tkk iii is just two hours of daniel being emotionally and physically tortured.

like, the third movie is.............chaotic, to put it nicely, and many people ignore it, but the writers clearly didnt. daniels actions are, in a way, responding so much more to the events of tkk iii than to the first movie ie. johnny himself, AND. daniel doesnt rly seem to have dealt with that trauma? he never told sam? doesnt feel like hes ever told amanda? he doesnt even say terrys name out loud? freaks Out over kreese ? the way he reacts to robbys deceit? his FACE when he walks past the new "fear does not exist in this dojo" paint or kreeses photo? hmMm i sense Pain

his fashion tho........... disappointing. where are the flower shirts daniel huh we had one (1) shirt what a tragedy STOP WEARING SUITS ALL THE TIME . also the band ts/grunge bi are a look for johnny but part of me longs for the preppy lovable 80s bully chic johnny lawrence getups

weird that they never used that last moment of karate kid where johnny kinda... snaps out of his anger and hands daniel the trophy almost in tears. like “youre alright larusso, good match” “thanks a lot” that being their last direct interection seems like itd be perfect fruit for cobra kai but... they just dont. weird.

especially when, the FIRST SCENE they see each other, suposedly in 30+ years, the first thing to come out of daniels mouth is QUOTE "u still got those golden locks huh?" WHO SAYS SHIT LIKE THAT DANIEL FUCKING SAN

also amandas immediate reaction "your pretty boy rival?" like. can we talk about the fact that daniel had to have imparted to his wife the very important information that his high school bully/karate rival was like Really Cute and Fucking Hot Actually

the writers Knew exactly what they were doing and honestly.............. power to them

tkk director voice: and billy was just so cute

also I was thinking that daniel sounded strangely fond in that first scene, and i wonder if he developed a weird affection for johnny on the grounds that of all of his Karate Rivals johnny was actually the only one who didn’t actively tried to literally kill him

i was actually delightedly surprised with how great the chemistry between them is, like from the get go i am Invested. their rl friendship totally bleeds through and its fantastic

. granted, idiots enemies to lovers friends is my Thing so i am biased

johnny lawrence: i am down in the dumps, i fucked up my whole life and my sons probably, largely in light of the trauma that the father figure sensei and the philosophy of my karate inflicted on me and all my friends. u know what i should do, as a traumatized, unreliable mess of an adult? teach that same philosophy to some other kids! what could go wrong!

but really i enjoy the setup of it. i kinda like that i watched it late because, season 1 was johnny setting himself up for failure in a way and it was exciting to watch it all go to shit sjfn

Like. his heart might be in the right place, but theres just.... not a way to teach something like ‘strike hard, no mercy’ and not have it fuck up a kid

case and point: aisha, miguel and hawk become annoying as all hell over that bullshit in the end of s1, even before shit gets truly fucked up

billys subtle panicked eyes when he sees hawk and miguel fighting dirty in the all valley was SO GOOD especially in parallel with the panic that is so visible in his face in the movie when kreese tells bobby to injure daniel and in the sweep the leg scene

seen people question wether kreese should have returned and i absolutely think he needed to. johnny needed to realize that cobra kais fundamentals are flawed, at the root, beyond kreese himself being a toxic piece of shit

also who are we kidding? we are here to see the tkk characters play on new playgrounds!

i get what they're doing abt kreeses backstory, ( also. cobra kai. pq eles caem nas cobras djjs sorry) but did it need to take up that much time? feels like they couldve done it in half the run time and developed some other stories better

martin kove has such an evil eye. i love it

love that we get a good follow up to kreese breaks johnnys trophy and tries to CHOKE HIM in the parking lot, which happened in the movie and then....................... was never mentioned again

“the gang is all back together again” aaaa u piece of SHIT

also. terry silver is definetely appearing ha ha ha PAIN i cant wait

seen ppl say kreese was too much of a cartoon villain like..........................oh......... sweetie........... u dont even Know

interested how johnny will fit into that bc kreese was simping rly hard for johnny here. like i did not expect him to be so adamant to have him with cobra kai ... under his control, sure, but he really wants johnny by his side despite already having control of the dojo and how will terry silver self appointed jon kreeses forever simp going to feel abt that?

like bitchs dropping by every episode like ‘joooooohnny ..... come bacc to me joooonny......... this ur last warning! for real this time johnny! i wont say it again! watch me ! im leaving johnny! im rly leaving ! im dragging a chair” and johnny is just like. dont let the door hit ya bitch it was so funny pls

and on that subject oof, johnny! doesnt! Know! he doesnt get that side of daniels cobra kai trauma. and i kind of.............. cannot wait for ck 2021 johnny lawrence to meet terry silver like. what a shit show i need a front row seat and popcorn (imagine terry tries some greasy charm and johnny just roundhouse kicks him in the teeth bc he just doest Not Have the Patience for This. glorious)

feels like we, as a society, should acknowledge that cobra kai will never die................ bc their sense of design is just chefs kiss. their name is COBRA KAI. they have sexie sleeveless black gis. theyve sneks. colorful leather jackets with embroided naja insignia, the get ppl thru the aesthetics. evil geniuses

the flashback cuts : masterpiece behavior

the other takes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! of the movie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! the differente angles!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! of the FIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THE CLOSE UP ON JOHNNYS FACE AT THE KICK

that scene of daniel and johnny vibing to 80s music in the car. just. oh my god. the fan wish fullfilment. no thoughts head empty.

the new characters! theyre .... good. but. idk. i really like miguel (save for the annoying phase mid s1 - end s2) and amanda, who is a damn riot and has some functioning braincells, but everyone else is

like dont get me wrong, i dont hate anyone,its not a jane and rafael from jtv situation, and i am interested and invested in their arcs, but i wouldnt say i like Like them, as in, personality wise

like, sams grappling with ptsd was rly gutting and i enjoyed that plus her slight rage issues,

which nicely parallel torys rage issues. torys background is all over the place tho so im pretty on the fence abt her so far

robby deserves better in every way, and i like how smart and cunning and surprisingly sweet he is

hawk............... is there i guess,

demetri is annoying in the best way possible,

carmen is sweet but. i just feel like her character is blunted to make the johnny relationship easier. like when shes furious with him after miguels injury but then forgives him like an episode later? and then convinces him to fight for the tournament bc she had a karate epiphany off screen even tho she was always against it? meh. feels like with the plot thiccening she was swallowed and now shes like a crutch for johnny mora than anything, which is disappointing.

aisha was cool and im kinda mad she wasnt in s3, especially bc a storyline with her tory and sam was like RIGHT THERE , but also... cant say i was super super fond of her... doesnt feel like we ever spent enough time on her

moon the bi icon,

overall its a good cast but the main draw for me remains the og cast

the tory/sam miguel/robby Thing. enjoy how theyre Narrative Foils and i like how their stories were so dramatically entangled but oh god give me a break with the teenage love square for the love of god. if u gonna put us through that at least have the decency to not make it so straight

and honestly some sam/tory miguel/robby romantic tension would even make more sense. just saying!

also im not sure how i feel abt the cobra kai: red miyagi do: blue theyre going with since some of daniels most iconic looks in tkk are also red. like it was a color they (johnny and him) sorta shared. i get it, opposite but complementary but idk... a little too fire nation and water tribe for me .

and like the cobra kai kids are so funny abt it bc their outifts grow progressively more ridiculously coordinated. its like do they group chat every morning before leaving their houses?

robby still sticks out like that tho. he went thru an athleisure/daniel san tsleeves phase and now hes back in the bandts grunge, but his color scheme doesnt fully blend with the other cobra kais. hmmmm.

LOVED LOVED LOVED both the okinawa episode and the cobra kais easy rider episode just such good good heart aching fun

bobby is an icon. he was in tkk and he is now ck hope appears more and more

tommy is like the most iconic background character. all his lines, freaking gold then and now. sigh :(

the framing in the okinawa trip was so good everything was so good

i stand by the fact that kumiko was the love interest daniel had the most chemistry with and shes is overall such a joy to watch, loved to see her again, idola, fashion icon

also tkk ii is good u guys are just mean

also really enjoyed chozens role in the episode, his evolution; i love that they introduced the pressure points (ty lee the blueprint) and! the honk + karate! cousins! absolutely iconic

when kumiko reads mr miyagis letters........ oh my god, my eyes FILLED with tears, it was so heart wrenching :(( tamlyns delivery was so emotional and lovely and its so obvious everyone involved in ck has so much love and respect for pat morita and mr miyagi as character, and i adore that it exists like this electric current through the show

when we were watching i told my sister i thought that ali would be miguels big shot surgeon and ngl i am so disappointed that didnt happen. hire me cobra kai writers

also the johnny ali daniel amanda chemistry? off the charts

AND the sassy retconning of daniel and alis breakup! LMAO ‘I HOPE U DIDNT TELL MR MIYAGI IT WAS MY FAULT’ HFDJJGNKFKSD

i am preeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeetty sure back injuries dont work like that but oke

daniel and johnny are so good together whenever, like they never actually help the kids or get shit done and end up fighting anyway but its just so much fun when theyre hanging

JOHNNY LAWRENCE AND DANIEL LARUSSO FIGHTING TOGETHER

daniels “plan” on how to get robby to juvie was so stupid. literally were u TRYING to make him hate you. dumbass

parents at those hearing rly brave for ppl that did not do ANYTHING as their kids got involved in a karate gang war until now

“bullshit i heard u were the real bully!” i mightve screeched

this s3 ending was SO DRAMATIC omg

everyone is such a MESS go to THERAPY u unhinged motherfckers

also im sorry but uh. a richass neighborhood in california doesnt have some type of neighborhood watch? the larussos rly dont have any security at all? neighbors wont hear the sound of a damn karate brawl happening next door??? also wasnt tory all like ooo i cant go to juvie, my mom yada yada yet shes always running around town getting into fights even at the rich girls house she was kicked out of school for fighting?? ? ?? ?? ? ? ? ?? ? ? girl??

stop destroying the larussos house, its so pretty :((((

sam finding her center looking at mr miyagis picture... uwu maybe

robby yelling ‘U ARE WEAAK’@ johnny \as he is easily blocking him is like.... so funny and so sad to me. sweetheart.

also i know it was meant as ‘oh johnny pushes him and HURTS HIM’ but it just looks like robby runs himself into the lockers and IM SO SORRY I FEEL SO BAD BUT IT WAS SO FUNNY

i like that he and tory are the cobra kai kids now. we need ppl we care abt there to not revert to a good vs evil schtick, and this is the most engaging it could be... tho it hurts that these kids cant catch a break

ah yes "lets bet some real shit on the result of this teen karate tournament bc that is always a great idea" is BACK

so daniel saves johnny from kreese..... maybe johnny will save him from terry 🧐

and dojos unite ohohoho. lets SEE how that’ll work out

miguels face of Despair when the ck defectors and the md kids are bickering like 'this is never gonna work' : gold

also. Johnny Lawrence is gonna learn some myiagi-do karate AHAAHSJAKDFH

ive been waiting for this moment all my lifeeee oh lawrd

final thoughts! there are def things i hope the writers will improve on the next season, but i am very excited for it either way AND i feel like it has made me enjoy the movies even more and that is a win for a reboot/sequel to me!!

#m.#did i procrastinate watching this since it came out and only watched it now bc my sister nagged me to when i said we should #watch karate kid over the holidays?#and then binged the whole thing in two days??#mayhaps and what abt it #cobra kai #the karate kid #its funn #y bc like karate kid is a Childhood movie but i wouldnt say #it was like particularly special for me?#like i wasnt in a fandom or anything #but now.#i might be invested #maybe #talvez

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oflgtfol · 1 year ago

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i guess i feel conflicted about it because i don't think it's truly outright sexism? i really don't know how to describe what's so truly offputting to me about all this in the gendered way and trying to describe it makes me sound weird for being upset over men being hired but like. idkkk

i just feel like. everyone here dislikes him, because he fucking sucks, and everyone here is a young 20s or younger woman, contrasted greatly with him being a middle aged man and we are all his daughter's age on average, and so he is obviously alienated just by being a totally different demographic than us as well as the fact that we are all peers AND friends with each other, then add on the fact that we all dislike him as well bc he sucks as a manager, i can understand him feeling that its cliquey and he dislikes the dynamic of him being the odd one out in the bad way

and so i feel like this whole round of hiring only men is his attempt to bring in his own “boy’s club” so that he has his own peers etc. But what rubs me wrong is that this store has ALWAYS been run by women - i have been here 2 years and some months and i can count the number of male employees we’ve had on one hand. so it rubs me wrong that he already flipped our dynamic of camaraderie on its head by making this such a toxic environment by being a shitty manager, but now to cause such a huge shift by changing the demographics as well, it just feels like, i dont know. it feels like hes upending what we built here. it's like, you're already a new person here, changing store managers is already a huge change in the tone of the store, to then change something so fundamental like the actual makeup, the actual composition of who works here, it's like, my coworkers make or break this job, to replace the ones you dislike and replace them willy nilly with "your" people is just so offputting to me and it's like, who do you think you are?

and like if the issue truly is the potential cliqueyness, you could easily reestablish camaraderie by like, NOT being a shitty manager? i feel like if he was a good manager then the fact we are totally different demographics wouldnt matter so much, but the reason we have such a huge divide between us and him in the first place is because he sucks and he talks shit about everyone behind their backs and the store is falling apart and he offloads all his duties on everyone else and our ASM, who is also our friend, ALMOST FUCKING DIED, etc. Theres a building resentment because of who he is as a manager - the solution is to become a better manager, not to replace the coworkers who you mistreated with new ones who better match your demographic in an attempt to create your own clique against our own. The problem is not that we’re young women, the problem is that you suck!!!!!

Re; work situation, u absolutely aren't being weird or anything, that's sussy af

thank you all for the input and i also have found another update since i made that post!

so let me summarize why i dislike this man beyond this potential sexism or however else you'd label these bad vibes:

- he fired our replenishment manager. for reasons i cannot fully disclose bc A. im not supposed to know about it (im friends w the other managers so they told me anyway) B. i dont know much about it (as only the SM has the full picture and even my friend managers barely know anything) and C. trying to maintain some semblance of privacy. but she is indeed getting an attorney over it so its like serious

- (RM was the 30s year old woman who helped serve as a middleman between us early 20s women and the 50 yo male SM. additionally she literally ran the store, super responsible for keeping us neat and timely and organized. when she was fired we all said the store would fall apart without her - and guess what! it did. the store has been a fucking mess since only one month after she left)

- he never hired a new RM. instead he made the new full time assistant manager (22 year old woman) take on replenishment duties on top of her actual role-specific duties and refused to share the burden by taking on additional duties as well, taking serious advantage of her

- full time ASM almost dies from a stress related health emergency due to being overworked. SM shows no sympathy or concern for her. when ASM puts in her two weeks he declines it and is only worried about who will cover him for his vacation. because he declined her 2 weeks she just resigned immediately and good for her because she almost fucking died. so now we are down an RM and an ASM and only have two part time closing managers and the full time FM (who really only should be doing framing duties and nothing else) (and prior to this SM coming to our store we used to have a full time RM, ASM, FM, as well as 3-4 part time managers, 2-3 of which closed at night exclusively and 1-2 of which worked mostly mornings or were flexible between mornings and nights. so we’ve already been short on managers for like, all of 2023 - hence why the idea of me becoming a manager was brought up around christmas/new years, to become another part time manager. but i was never given an offer and that role was never filled!)

- being down all these managers finally pushes him to hire new ones

- he hires a new guy, and already has ambitious goals of making him the new RM... within five days of working here. that guy in the break room is now in the running for this position. after only being here for five days.

- and now today ive learned. SM is also going to hire… another man….. to replace the ASM. which is what i just found out after making that other post. like come on. this is weird right

so like hes already been a shitty person what with everything going on these past 2 months and even his condescending attitude overall for this entire duration here, but now the extra layer of bringing in all these men in general, but specifically to replace the hard working, responsible, overworked, and overall well liked female managers, with random ass men who none of us ever met before, especially after pushing out said female managers one way or the other (direct firing, and almost indirectly killing), its just like. Again the pushing out of those managers was already bad enough but now the fact theyre being replaced with these random ass men, like, its already bad enough that the dynamic in this store is changing due to these well liked managers leaving, but then to go as far as to change the dynamic by bringing in all these men into a long, looooong time female-dominated store, its just. Like. aegh

#but also maybe it is just plain ol sexism and the reason hes been mistreating everyone is cuz of sexism.#lol. i dont even know anymore man #the ideal situation is that even if we get an influx of male managers suddenly #(UNPRECEDENTED - my whole time here the handful of male employees we had were /never/ managers)#the ideal situation then is that they also see how much he sucks and then we all just band together #like har har you thought hiring more of your peers would get some people on your side? WRONG #you need better management skills !!!!#FUCK man #brot posts #i tell my family members about all this shit going down at the store and theyre all like #its fucking michaels why is there this much drama going on at /michaels/????#LIKE I DONT EVEN KNOW!!!! GIRL ITS MICHAELS THE CRAFT STORE

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What’s your hot takes on the mdzs fandoms

here is a comprehensive list of previously unvoiced mdzs fandom hot takes that yall may request elaboration on but oh jeez I'm not gonna do it all right here right now (I'll link them as they are elaborated on,,):

- I am a certified jiang cheng enthusiast but oh my god jc stans gotta stop acting like he's a perfect saint

- on the other side of things a lot of people who Hate jiang cheng aggressively refuse an attempt at empathy and that is not very sexy

- theres a big big big problem of the fanbase at large willfully and actively ignoring minorities when they call out popular harmful headcanons or trends (people of color calling out racism, mlm calling out homophobia, etc)

- I think this is my most dumb and petty one but some of you just do Not fucking know how to write modern aus with these characters what are you DOING (kinda talked about it in my wei wuxian not liking parties post sbzjzhmzb)

- hmmm the way yall ignore disabilities in modern aus... *hits you with a ziplock bag filled with sill living and squirming worms*

- wei wuxian is bisexual stop saying that he's gay as in he Only likes men I thot we'd moved past erasing bi characters sexualities

- people who write nie huaisang like a kinky little twink what do you think he's gonna do? fuck you?

- there is something so very wrong and insidious about the way many people portray lan wangjis love vs wei wuxians love and I don't quite know what the fundamental issue with the obvious difference is but I know that I don't like it

- jin guangyao is irredeemably bad but people really really try to make it seem like he's not

- this is the hot take that sparked my original post but hcing one or both of wangxian as ace is the opposite side of the same homophobic coin as fetishizing them like mxtx does n I'll elaborate eventually but.. I'm gonna have to word That one very carefully

things I've made itty bitty posts on but not fully gone off about:

- people making mo xuanyu slutty is weird and homophobic and I think I should be allowed to hit them with a big stick

- sometimes people say things on other peoples posts but actually they should just make their own the button is right there folks

- the things yall do with jin ling and lan sizhui... what the fuck is wrong with you

- madam yu is not a sexy badass feminist icon she is an abuser shut UP

- another silly one but stop putting modern lan wangji in boring formal clothing I cannot believe this

if you wanna see things I've already talked about that have caused people to hate me just go to the links at the bottom of my dni in my carrd 🤭

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we're mutuals and i think you're cool but i hate that you're a terf :( i just cannot contemplate why loving and respecting cis women and trans women has to be mutually exclusive, or why either party has to be generalized and treated like a hive mind. i don't think that there is some kind of "trans agenda" i think people just exist and live as themselves and pursue whatever path in life brings them inner peace. i really don't see it as inherently oppressive or harmful to identify as something that you weren't born or raised as, because in a way transitioning is a rebirth and reinvention of the self and their perception and treatment from society is changed accordingly, even if they aren't oppressed in the same exact way as cis women they still face shit that sucks in its own way, maybe not worse or better, just different. it's not even patriarchal imo, they aren't men seeking power over women, they're individuals seeking self acceptance and happiness, and i see nothing wrong with that. i dont know. if you could find a way to explain the terf mindset that doesn't just come across as hateful and willfully vicious towards a minority group that generally means no harm, i'd love to hear it, but i just cannot for the life of me wrap my head around it.

I think theres a fundamental misunderstanding of radfems “hating” trans people (not saying they arent out there, but its a vocal minority). I respect and love my trans comrades, I would fight to the death to protect their human rights and right to dignity and safety, I just simply don’t believe that a man can “become” a woman by taking hormones or growing his hair out. Im very in favor of people being gender nonconforming and am GNC (and formerly trans) myself. Being gender nonconforming should be celebrated but being a feminine man or masculine woman doesnt make you the opposite sex. But I call people by whatever name they ask to be called, I think men in dresses and women with bare face should be celebrated, im not against people “finding” themselves at all.

And it becomes patriarchal when the goalpost for womanhood is moved from “being of the female sex” to “preforming capitalist femininity”, if that makes any sense. But I have nothing against trans people in general, what it really comes down to is I just disagree with them on the definitions of some words, no hate at all. I live with gender dysphoria and it is hell, transitioning didn’t work for me as far as alleviating it goes but if it works for other people I support their right to present however makes them feel best in their body.

And sadly there is a “trans agenda” to destroy female-exclusive safe space (as well as exclude transmen from them). There is also a LOT of money to be made off the backs of transitioning dysphoric people. Always ask who benefits.

I hope that makes sense. And thank you for being open minded enough to stay mutuals even though you disagree with an aspect of my politics.

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Part 17 I was thinking about hate the other day actually. But i don’t think that we should dedicate hateful energy ti something else- hate is powerful. The women who rioted for our rights were hateful, the people who rioted for gay rights were hateful- I think hate should be used, but not for stupid things like your teacher giving you a bad test score, it should be used to make positive change. Everything has it’s purpose- hate isn’t all bad, but it depends on how you use it. Truly, Anonym

Omg true. I see what u mean here and I agree. Yes we need hate, but anonym idk if u have seen this, but I say this I do not like hate that much. But it's like am still figuring it out. So I don't have a strong argument and I may end up deciding on what u r saying here. It's like I wanna have good opinion so I think about them, and this is slightly around of what I am trying to develop a valid opinion on.

I will say something now that may make u hate me, please dont, I am trying to just say something and j may be horribly wrong.

Look people hate, hate other people for doing stupid stuff I know is not acceptable. But sometimes I am like it's not entirely these guys fault. They were brought up in an environment where they were told to belive idk in homophobia and shit, and that made them that way. Am not saying being homophobic is okay or not their fault or is justifiable in any way. But I think maybe they can be changed. Our hate should bot be directed at them, cause people like those have always existed and probably will atleast in near future. No their existence in any way is not advantageous, but they do exist. It's like a fact. And whatever they are, theres a reason. That reason doenat justify what they did, but there's just... a reason. That says that maybe if they were shown the right path they would be better.

I think what u need here is anger. Not hate. Not hate towards people or individuals but anger anger at history, at systems that led to all this chaos.

Now I know this ain't a very good point as history and institutions, they have a fundamental functioning unit called individuals. These individuals make them function and make them the way they are,, so idk

And yes there have been some people who have been horribly horribly horribly terrible, I do not say this lightly I have seen shit go down in front of me in India, personally with me and people I care for have been hurt. And that makes me angry. But maybe it was because they hated us, we hated them... but no one was trying to work at the core.

And thsi is not very practical either.

And people die, bas people should maybe, that's probably the only way to make them go

But maybe in an ideal world, we could help the people.

Idk women who rioted were angry, angry at stupid shit men had created since centuries and were still living by it, at some places still are. But I know they also hated those bad people. So maybe there isnt any difference between hate and anger as I am trying to make. Or maybe there is. Probably not but i hope.

And I agree we need action, and to fuel that action we need something ket it be hate or anger, what matters most is action and impact

And yes hate ain't all bad, but u need to use it wisely

Also,, when i said hate in that post i talked about hate against characters, someone was hating on Robert lightwood, someone I like

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i really enjoy some aspects of math. when i started learning how to use plots i was Thriving because it was fun on its own, and then in the 6th grade my teacher was so boring and uninterested in her subject that i checked out of something i actually really enjoyed and have been behind ever since. im thinking about going back and relearning things so i can get back into it if i learn it in a more enriching way than packets and seeing ur love for math rlly motivates me!! luv u

thank u bb!!! i mentioned this in my fuckin essay post that i just posted lol but something that got me really interested in math was the youtube channel numberphile! they have plenty of videos addressing boring ass shit but they have some fun ones too! none of it is really like. fundamental math so it wouldnt necessarily help there but it can help spark the interest again! also if you ever need help with shit you can totally ask me lol i dont mind helping yall with your math homework as long as you dont ask me to teach you calculus over tumblr lol

okay imma link some of my favorite numberphile vids here JUST IN CASE some of you nerds are actually interested lol

Using pies to calculate pi (my geometry teacher showed me this vid my freshman year, its totally ridiculous and impractical and a waste but its a fun pun and mathematicians love puns)

here’s where they talk about the enigma machine, there’s a follow up video where they talk about the flaw in the code

this one is called the stable marriage problem but i think i only like it bc im like 90% sure the guest host is a lesbian and im in love with her but also its a cool video anyway

this one is about how to find the cleanest bathroom at a festival the fastest and its also impractical but fun

this is about the famous monty hall problem which had a bunch of controversy about it because it has to do with probability which is the Worst branch of math in my opinion also it was a woman who proved this and men dont like listening to women but the video doesnt talk about that

this is about fermat’s last theorem which is one of my FAVORITE math things ever because there was this french asshole in like the 1800s who wrote his proofs in the margins of one of his books and hes like a famous mathematician now theres like 5 important theorems named after him but literally what he did was he made a math statement (he basically said there are no whole number solutions to any equation that looks like the pythagorean theorem but with higher powers than two) but instead of proving that statement he just wrote “the margin of this paper is too small for my proof but my proof is incredible” and then the fucker died!!! and it took like centuries to solve it and (spoilers for a math proof thats decades old now i guess) it turns out he was right but the math needed to prove it was likely way beyond his capabilities so his proof was probably wrong anyway but like. the drama of it all

honorable mentions go to the video i cant find anymore but was about how some midwestern state tried to legally change pi to 3.2 or some shit so they could copywrite a proof that proved something by saying pi was 3.2 which is hilarious, and also theres a mathematician who died in a fucking duel at age like 21 but solved a centuries old problem when he was like 17 (galois, if you want to know his name)

okay i PROMISE im done with all the math content now lol but those are my faves i highly recommend them

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unproduciblesmackdown · 7 years ago

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i mean its not surprising but the tiredness of twitter memes making fun of girls who have crappy boyfriends / defend them / praise them for basic decency. not only does that target the wrong person in those relationships but thats not gonna teach anyone how to change / enforce better standards for their relationships / & in the context of girls in abusive relationships, if anyone w an abuser vents to you at all thats a valuable thing & in every interaction its more important that you make sure they'll feel safe talking to you again, which often means your goal can't be to convince them their boyfriend is shit in one conversation. b/c its super common for abused ppl to defend/excuse their own bad treatment even as they complain about it, fundamentally in abuse theres no way for the abused party Not to be blamed for how theyre treated (if they protest their abuse theyre "provoking" the abusor, if they don't protest it, its their fault for just "allowing" it to happen to them). like sure yeah in personal contexts it can be like exasperatingly funny that someone has a crap date currently / its ok for girls who are dealing with shitty guys & frustrated w themselves to vent about it via memes as much as anything, but thats different from other ppl making fun of someone else whose life they dont know / also you know that men are making these jokes and they can just shut up. but even w/o the factor of abuse, the standards girls are given abt how guys who care abt them will treat them are generally crap, but insulting girls for believing those isn't exactly helpful. and with abuse in mind, this shit is always different & in that situation it can be dangerous to mock someone for venting abt bad treatment / returning to or "putting up with" someone who treats them badly, since it'll encourage them to either just hide it entirely or isolate themselves further. its like how the "the bar is so low" joke abt girls praising their boyfriends for seemingly simple, basic standards of respect doesnt account for the fact that people who used to be in abusive relationships can find a lack of awful treatment a new experience to them that they want to celebrate. or how making fun of stories abt girls treated badly who wait for someone to save them ignores the value of those stories for people who are trapped in abusive situations who have no way of Saving Themselves & could benefit from hearing a narrative where ppl sometimes get rescued & maybe they have hope or something. its always different w abuse, it might feel like "compromising" to not push your unfiltered, genuine ideas about how things should go on people being abused, but those are people who can't communicate their own ideas freely or control their own lives freely. nobody like, sits up and decides that theyre not going to be abused anymore, your rousing monologue is not going to do that for someone. letting someone know youre there for them even if they do disappoint you by going back to their garbage boyfriend is a lot more important than letting them know you think its their own fault if they do so for not holding a guy to an adequate standard. the length to which people believe that ppl who are abused have brought it on themselves....i s2g...

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Lookey here, Lookey here. . Look at this RECEIPT. James Earl Jones stated way back in 1969 that the black woman's MILITANT RACE IDENTITY makes her 'Manly', "Unfeminine" and "Uptight", and that it is an "OVER REACTION" TO THE HISTORY OF BEING A MAMMY TO WHITE MEN & THE BURDEN OF HAVING TO BE HEAD OF HOUSE & COMMUNITY THAT RESULTS IN HER LEANING IN TO A RACE IDENTITY THAT ULTIMATELY MAKES HER LESS ATTRACTIVE TO BLACK MEN. Helloooooo. I dont know WHY its taking bw so long to get this. Niggas was telling us this FIFTY YEARS AGO, even as they encourage and in most cases, DEMAND that very identity be our Prime Directive. I could write a long think piece on this, but to be honest, I simply don't care to. I think this speaks for itself. Black males have been telling black women The Truth about their feelings about us for generations. We just REFUSE TO HEAR IT. . There is something FUNDAMENTALLY wrong with the way black males see black women, and the way black women see black males. I don't care what ANYONE says; how much they try to push it all off on white supremacy. It has become clear to me that the issues between the genders in black people did NOT start with the European, or ANY outside influence. Those influences simply CAPITALIZED off of what was already there. And it has also become clear to me that black women's refusal to take a good long look at this is at the root of the demise of the black race - world wide. Theres something WRONG with black PEOPLE. And it started with the relationship between the black man and black woman. No amount of Social Justice Warriorship is going to fix it. The more the black woman digs her heels in to 'fight' for her man/race, the lower her standing will ever be WITHIN that race and WITH that man. The more we rally for him, the more he finds OTHER races of women appealing. . . Yet Mr. Jones never had HIS "black card" pulled and was allowed to still consider himself a Black Man living a Black Experience - something that the bc is ACTIVELY trying to DENY black women who in increasing numbers are marrying out. The interview that Umar Johnson did with Roland Martin where he openly chastised Interracial Relationships is just the beginning. I'm going to cover that mess in a separate post, but I want you all to watch as it all unfolds. Now that it is black WOMEN who are 'jumping ship' there will be a CAMPAIGN of anti-IRR spread throughout the black community and the attacks on black women and girls will have yet another motivator. Things are about to get real ugly, Ladies. I'm just going to sit back and watch what I predicted would happen, come to pass. I have no more "I told you so's" to offer. Im all tapped out. . . KsC . . https://youtu.be/QO31DFSi6LM

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"Did god have a say in the creation of the world" is a phrase that doesnt seem that odd when first looking at it, but can really mess someone up.

Like, was he limited to making our world with the constants we currently have? Could god have just said, yea lets round the G to 7*10^-11 and everything would still work out?

This also goes into my personal gripe with lines. Draw a line on a piece of paper, yea? Look closer. It aint a line. Its a gradent. There is no point that it suddenly becomes black from white. There's always white in the black, and vice-versa. There's always gray area.

Science knows this fact. They know that there are always more decimals n stuff, but they just choose to ignore it. Pass it off because its too small to matter in the long run? And yet, decimals can still fuck up am equasion a lot. Using 10m/s compared to 9.8m/s compared to (G*M1*M2)/(d^2) doesnt seem like a lot, but it really is a lot. Highschool physics? Literally throw air resistance out the window for the entire class. The only mention is that its not to be taken into account.

Seconds are the same way. If someone asks you to do something at a particular second, its really hard. Even then, theyres still gray area. Even with the implimentation of frames and button presses in video games, theres still a kind of window where its gray. Where its in between two frames. That area still exists.

Im honestly no "big brained" individual, but honestly humans are literally like if you hit the "randomize all" option on like the mii creator, but with like infinite possibilities. And honestly, to me thats much more beautiful and poetic than being told im made to fit the mold of some perfect being and its standards.

This goes into my own personal "dice roll" think. Tbh, theres probably some big brain theologian or old dude with a beard thinking about this right now, but in a different context, but my idea is as follows.

You can roll a dice yea? Its got like 6 sides on it. Now you'd think that that means when you roll it, there are only 6 possibilities right? And roll it enough times itll land back the same as when you started? Well in my mind, it can technically land on the same number, but it cant land in the same position. Think about it. Just from the directions of the corners, you can tell its wont. But if you look closer, you can tell it will never be the exact same positioning. If you roll a dice, it may land on that number again, but itll never land in the same spot.

This can also be seen in identical twins. Even though they look the same, they still have differnces. Whether it be a nose .00004 mm to the left, or a scar over their eye, or a hatred of spinach, there will be a difference. Even 2,000,000 years down the road, when someone is born with the same name, and the same face, they wont be the same as you. They wont have the same inteactions, or likes n dislikes. Even if they did somehow do not only gene manipulation and simulations on someone to replicate you, they couldnt possibly have the exact cell mutations or gene replication errors that make the little things in you, you.

You are just as unrepeatable as the roll of a dice, or the exact moment a leaf breaks off and falls. Which brings me to my next point.

I have never witnessed a leaf leave its branch. I have literally sat and watched trees and leaves every fall since i realized how mind boggling it is, and i still have yet to see it.

Dont get me wrong, ive seen falling leaves, seeds, and pinecones. I know gravity works and why fall is so great. Bit i have never seen a leaf cross the threshold of letting go of its branch. I know it exists. I know that wind probably effects it, but leaves will fall even without wind. I cant help but wonder at what causes that windless leaf to fall. Is it a cornerstone cell that just finally gives out? Is it some other kind of thing? What could possibly result in a falling leaf?

What is the exact chemical process that results in decay? Suprisingly, thats a question i can anwser. That is simply the improper copying of dna and stuff.

And yet, we still dont know how our brains work. We can look at cells, we can look at atoms, but we cannot possibly understand why laughter is a thing. We dont know anything about sleep, and even less about anaesthetics. Yet we do them regularly, even rely on them.

Humans survive mostly from two things. Sweating, and speaking. And honestly, those are probably the most horrifying things imaginable for prey. Sweating means we have cazy endurance. We can and will hunt anything down until it physically cannot move, and then kill it. And screaming to eachother at the same time. To be hunted by humans is much more scary then literally anything else. That is why horror mostly stars human-esk creatures that hunt humans.

One of humanity's greatest assests is also one of my biggest gripes. That is our obsession with observation and ourselves. We observe the world, and from that are given measurments and tools. We then use that to help ourselves. But we also have to see things. A famous phrase is "seeing is believing". Perfect example of this. We have to touch things. Even if its just with our eyes. But we also for some reason dont want to process things that arent ourselves.

Think about the non-humans that humans create. All those elderic abominations amd the like. Even the green martian men. They all are humaniods in shape. Even demonic, and cursed things have limbs. They have a head, and they have a brain. Anythign that is supposed to be equal to us or greater to us in power is humaniod. God? Humanoid. Satan? Humaniod. Kuthulu? Generally depicted as humaniod. Honestly the only exception to this idea is the angels in the bibel, like the cherubim and seraphim. Which at least one of them is a munch of rings with eyes and also wings.

Anywho, where was i? Oh yea, lines.

Nobody's perfect. Even in a computer world. Pixels are made of lights, which blend together and create gradents which are imperfect. Imputs are rounded. Time is rounded into frames. Fundamentally we are out of sinc with the universe. We round the numbers to the place we care about, putting a blind eye to those things.

Yet dont they add up? I mean in some cases yea, they do. Clocks become slow or fast. Heck even the official weight of a gram has changed. The object that was used to measure a gram actually ended up decaying enough that it messed up the official weight.

Dont even get me started on pi and natural e. Apparently (and i dont know for sure on this) but engineers round those numbers to 3. Like that is just messed up. That will actually, and legitimately fuck up a building or anything else.

Humans are truly odd creatures. Did you know that the current understanding of why we want to closely touch and even harm/kill cute and adorable things and even have the epression "i could eat you up... etc." Is beause we cannot process that emotion and so to relieve ourselves we want to rid the world of its existence? Its freakin wild honestly. We cant process something so we kill it. Itsnt that something just so specifically human?

Humans have such a thirst for knowledge, and yet also a fear of it. Consider comparing people like stalin and hitler and even the church, who burned and banned knoledge, to librarians who kept that knowledge.

Consider the eletric universe theory. Something that goes contrary to the current model of physics, but also works better in some areas. According to that, the sun wasnt always our sun, and also we were originally orbiting a red sun. Something totally wild to think about, but also makes sense. Like why ancient peoples kept talking about a red sun, and venus as a comet. It also states the idea that we didnt always have seasons, and that has something to do with why plants bloom when under red lights. I honestly dont know as much as i would like about this part to explain it better, but oh well.

We have this need to put everything in order, to have perfection. We just want to be the best we can. Specifically better than everyone else. And even if that means killing, harming, or demeaning others. Only if we are on the top, we will be alright.

--- Intermission---

... i just want to mention that i have no degree in this shit and also no sources bc im too lazy and tired to look up that shit. Also, when i say "human" really i can only speak generally. I know for a fact that some peopld break the mold to certain extents n stuff, i just wanted to streamline it a little bit.

---Intermission over---

Our obsession with being the best has led us to ome conclusion. However, that conclusion is contradictory to the question asked. To become the best, we have to work with others. Because "if i cant be the best, then nobody can.". And boom, we got society n shit. We start working together to hunt amd gather, and generally be nice people. Because loosing someone means lossing another source of food.

But im getting off the point. This isnt supposed to be a history of humanity. Everyone already knows that story. Humans started planting things, created towns, created cities, fought eachother and died a lot. Eventually enslaved eachother and finally decided that was a bad thing, even thoug not everyone in the world agrees. Now there's god, and politics, and school, and problems.

But what caused all of this? What was the catylist? What was the starting factor? Can the reason people fight today be traced back to the first accidental killing of a brother like cain and able? Or is it somethig totally recent. Is the reason we have society because two ancient homo sapien families merged? Or was it something else? Why do we wear clothes? Theyrs little to no reason except in the winter. Especially if we started in africa or Australia. I have no anwsers for these questions.

But dont let the past decide who you are. Theres a reason we have memories. Its to improve yourself. We are constantly at a crossroads. Even if you dont realize it.

You can physically do anything. Humans are scary crazy. If you just put enough minds to it, literally anything is possible. Sending someone to space? Yep. Being able to kill all life on the planet? Yep. Be able to eat uncooked broccoli? Definitely. There are of course some holes in that last statement. Like you cant physically eat the planet in 30 seconds, or (at least right now) cant change the way you think about cheeze puffs. Doesnt mean that cant change in the future. But at the moment.

The future is scary too. Genetic engeneering, designer babies, and pollution is all on the horizon. The only thing stopping is it ouselves and maybe god.

If you could ask an animal what god it believes in, what would it say? Is such an easy question for theologians to brush aside. (Not that ive asked one) i can just imagine them quickly responding "animals cant think dumbass" or "animals dont have souls" or "animals arent made in the image and likeness of god". Those are nice anwsers and all, but they dont anwser the question. I asked what god does your pet dog believe in, not why doesnt my dog tell be about every time zeus boned some village girl and how that gives them the right to bone me too.

Thank you for listening to my insane ramblings about the human condition, lines, and other weird stuff i have no sources for. I want to mention that most of this stuff is probably fallacies, but this was never meant to be taken seriously or coherent anyways.

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Game 3. Part 3.

Post-Mortem:

Working on the theme of one minute, and the emotional theme of despair (which I was given by Alex Mitchell and his emotion generator). I have created a very basic game book. Working in the idea of ‘one-minute’ into the narrative itself. I incorporated the idea of one minute into the plot itself, and used despair as the core emotion on one of the characters and built my story using that as a foundation.

Before I started even the idealization part of the project, Alex gave me the emotion of ‘despair’ from his random emotion generator. So- this was the core foundation of my narrative, and as soon as he said it, the idea of ‘The fear’ sprang to mind immediately. I took that and then made Stu’s despair due to the bad trip the emotional axis of the conflict. I just didn’t know how I was going to utilize it yet. On the flipside though, I wanted to create something sweet. Despair is a heavy emotion, I personally felt that their should be another side to the piece, hope, the blossoming out of despair into joy, and bliss, There needed to be a light at the end of the tunnel, as it where…

The idea came from a concept in Tom Wolfes; “the Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test”. It’s a book about Ken Kesey and the merry pranksters- Californian Hippy renegades in the 60’s, they’d put on big performance art/multimedia projects, where people where encouraged to take mind altering substances. Anyway; They had a term called ‘intersubjectivity’, which happens when you take hallucinogens with someone. It’s a like a psychic link to people, one of the later chapters says it perfectly, written by the at the time editor of the L.A Free Press; Claire bush. She says:

“Take it again? Oh, probably someday… but no urgency, no desire to run to my friendly corner pusher. I think the best way is to take it with a lover, but someone you’re willing to have live you in head for a long, long time. Not too many of them around. It’s a closeness not easily dismissed”- (The Electric Kool-aid Acid test. Tom Wolfe. Black swan press. Page 251.)

I realize now that I must have been inspired by this passage subconsciously. I only thought about this after the fact and feel the it perfectly fits the aesthetic message of the game. Of how shared experiences like this are exercises in bonding, especially the bad times, if you have friends that stick around even during the bad, and it’s not even a problem, because they know that you would do it for them to, that’s real, and that’s what I wanted to make, I sought to make a realistic game, and I feel like I really achieved it. The dialog is some of the best I have ever done, it reads like people talk. I know there is a lot of gratuitous swearing and all three of them say the work ‘like’ when the link sentences together to much. That was intentionally done though. It wanted to imitate the removal of one’s filter while high, and the ‘likes’ are littered throughout because I wanted to create the effect of brain fog, having them say like a lot was to emulate them trying to conjure thoughts. There is not a lot of accurate male representation in modern media (Not totally vacant, but definitely barren), and I feel like the worst culprit is gaming. As the male power fantasy is what sells right?! Not that there is anything wrong with that; catharsis is healthy. I wat create narratives based totally in grounded cognition, relatability is a powerful thing. Just look at most of the modern musicians that are coming out nowadays; Courtney Barnett, Cra Seat Headrest, Yellow Days, Mac Damarco, Stella Donnelly, Rex county orange, the list could go on for ages. They are so popular with people is because of their relatability. It’s the grounded cognition thing, people empathise with characters because their struggles our a metaphor for our own. The ideal self is a constant battle with the real self. I just want to be as honest as I possibly can be. No matter what the genre is be it sci fi or surrealism, fantasy or farce.

Now, about the style. I chose to make a game in the genre of mumble core, which is ‘media about nothing and everything’. The focus for me as writer was to create a game of dialogue that was so realistic and as close to how a person would talk as I could, thus; The story itself is very basic. Lo-fi and hopefully naturalistic. As my intention was to make a mumblecore interactive fiction game, and the fundamental style of mumblecore is its stripped back, budget and almost ‘acoustic’ feel, it’s all very ‘coming-of-age’- young adults navigating life, real people dealing with real situations and mostly It’s true and honest. Inspired by this, I wanted to keep it simple and focus mainly on dialogue. It’s a tale about three male friends at a house party, one of them is about to go off to university (Lewis), one is about to start touring his company (Alex), and one of them isn’t doing anything (Stuart). They descend together on the last house party of the summer, being that it’s the last time that these three will be a back together for a while, it’s an important night for these three friends, because of this, they have decided to take LSD. Stu though feel inferior to his mates that are starting their life, this makes him feel like garbage as he compares himself to them, and thus he starts to have a bad trip. You play as a Lewis, the gameplay is very simple, the goal of the game is to just have a conversation with both of your friends, and that’s it. As an I.F game, it has very low functionality, calling it I.F. is undeniably a stretch. More like a game book, this is mainly dude to my completely lack of understanding still when it comes to coding. Though, I personally feel like it ties into the lo-fi vibe of mumblecore. Which was totally planned… and not just indicative of my inability to learn coding (Yes, Yes, It is).

How I assimilated the theme of ‘one minute’ into my narrative was via the drug. Due to the nature of hallucinogens, they cause people to perceive time differently. Inspired by the idea- I used this as a vehicle to narratively explore an alternate analysis/interpretation of what one minutes could mean. Instead of using a timer, or similar gimmick. I chose to focus in on and investigate ‘the passage of time’ whilst under the influence and how time is perceived in flow states. Layering that with the concept of Stu potentially ‘breaking time’- Its may be a tiny bit of a stretch, but it fits the theme. I want to leave the interpretation of whether they have actually broken time to the reader, I personally have my own opinions on the truth of the piece, but I’d rather just leave it open, interpretation can be incredibly effective at making a piece personal.

Though the theme was one minute and the emotion I was given was despair, as I said earlier, I wanted to have some hope, and how I chose to get the message of hope across was through having the player character play as Lewis (who is somewhat of empath). This was my own personal message. Fostering Empathy was my goal, most likely inspired by death stranding no doubt. Enthused by this I have created a piece of art that is truly representative of intimate male friendships. Theres’ not enough of it out in media (or maybe I’m not looking hard enough). I don’t know whether the piece ‘challenges conventions’, and what does that men for me, do I need to be constantly pushing the boundaries, In the feedback forms, alex Mitchell asked me what I thought the chosen genre brings to the medium of games, I hadn’t really thought of it until he ask, it made me look inwards and wonder if once again I was just ‘artistically masturbating’, but I don’t think that was my intention, I wanted to make something that people could see themselves in. I think the realness of the piece is what it brings to the medium. It’s a game about opening, and not bottling up all the toxic energy inside. At least that’s what I think, as with anything, interpretation is fluid. For me, apart from some tongue in cheek satire sci fi I have done, this was my first foray into art like this, creating something true is much easier than fantasy. All I had to do was write from the heart (Yuck, yeah I said it, No shame).

The challenge came from starting the project. I think maybe because it was honest and personal that the task itself was daunting, I planned the thing to death once again, which as I have star=ted in previous posts is one of the things that I struggle most with. When I stopped procrastinating, and sta don to get the thing out, the words just started flowing out of me. It was almost free associative. I would look at the plan now and gain, the parts came out in kind of a mess and it was up to me to make some kind of coherent linear storyline from the random thoughts, despite this, I couldn’t be more please with the finished piece.

The other challenge came from learning twine, I put so may hours into learning the software., and none of it has been sticking. Its really shows in the final piece. Parts loop and if the player doesn’t have the understanding (which is my fault) to navigate, they will miss huge chunks. In compeison to the farce game though, it’s a a massive improvement, from zero to about a three out of an hundred, but its still something. If I was to create another I.F game in twine, I think I’d be able to explore something a little more complex such as branching pathways.

One of my favourite bits and the one that most people seemed to comment on was the bit about Stu breaking time, it was the one moment that everybody gave me feedback on. I don’t know what it is about that moment. Maybe because its related to the theme. Maybe because everybody’s had moment like that, where they’ve been drunk and gotten locked on to some small detail and then had an adverse emotional reaction to something ridiculous or asinine.

Personally, This is my favourite project I have ever worked on, its intimate, true and honest.

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