#the terf adjacent kind

[grungekitty-77]

Someone on my dash posted a god awful take this morning. It made me angry. They were very wrong and very offensive about it.

So I unfollowed them.

That’s it. No anon message telling them that they should be ashamed. No reblogging with a rant about how wrong they were. No direct messages telling them how out of line they were.

They make me upset. So I walked away.

[velvetvexations]

Since I'm not transfem, I prefer to present this as a question, sparked by observations about many transradfems.

Do you think bæddel-adjacent / TIRF / transradfeminist people kind of sweep under the rug all the parts of transmisogyny where perceived manhood/masculinity and hypermasculinization are weaponized against transfems?

Like, so much focus on the femininity/womanhood part, but like... Radio silence if anyone brings up how radfem views of men or masculinity can and will harm transfems in basically any part of their transitions due to every negative stereotype of men being thrown at them 10-fold?

And that bringing up the latter would be treated as if it's misgendering.

Just like transmascs being treated as deviant women being talked about gets treated like we're misgendering ourselves, coming from the same people...

Absolutely. Transradfems treat gender identity like hard laws-of-physics reality and completely forget that our categorizations of ourselves are still relatively arbitrary just the same as assigning gender based on sex. If someone hates trans women because they see us as men, transradfems see that as hating women - which they should, of course, because it is literally that, but the problem is taken to be seeing us as men and seeing us as men alone. It's just the miscatagorization. The irrationality of the hatred in and of itself is not questioned, because, you know, rather choose a bear and all. They can't understand how their own attitudes towards men reinforce the paranoia and scrutiny over the possibility of male infiltrators.

It makes me wonder if part of the reason they minimize TERF harm towards transmascs as a weird form of jealousy. I don't want to get too dark, Velvet Nation, but my family (not me personally) has a history with bad things happening to one person and that being taken by someone else as a sign of favor. I can imagine someone being irrationally upset by the fact that people who are born with the gift of acceptance as a female not only waste it but protest against it, and then if they detransition are seemingly (all TERF benevolence is a lie) welcomed with open loving arms in a way that's unobtainable for them when they go from M to F.

[potatoofdefiance]

My two cents and a rant on the allegations and Good Omens

(I will probably regret this later)

This has been eating at me for a while now, ever since the news broke that Neil Gaiman was a sex pest (see infamous TERF-adjacent podcast by Tortoise media) and I have been consciously and unconsciously ruminating over it for weeks now, so here goes.

I think the news of Neil Gaiman hit me harder than I was expecting, and certainly harder than I would have liked.

I didn’t (and certainly do not now) consider myself a “true fan”. I was never a hard-core fan, one that goes to signings or book fairs or cons to meet my favourite author. Partly because I never latched that much on any of the authors of the books or movies I loved, and partly (maybe for the best now that I think about it) because I never had the money, or wasn’t located in a geographically favored area. Meaning I never lived anywhere near wherever events with Neil Gaiman were happening.

So, with all this in mind, how is it that the news managed to hit me so hard?

I thought (read: ruminated) about it, and I think it is because of Good Omens. And the latest times. In my life, and I think a good chunk of other people’s lives too, these last few years have been a roller-coaster. You choose which particular scenario the roller-coaster is set into; mine is on fire, running through a sea of shit and we are being slapped by gooey flaming eels hard in the face.

Maybe someone might enjoy this. That someone isn’t me.

But the point is: I have been struggling. With my life, with a mental health condition, with the world and my place in it.

Enter Good Omens. In an effort to actively expose myself to “nice” stuff, stuff that would, if not make me feel better, at least make me laugh, I started tapping more into the fandom.

I’m not a fandom person. Again, never latched onto anything that had a fandom big enough (where are the Ann Halam fans? No one is making cosplays of Sloe from Siberia, are they?).

But with Good Omens, it seemed perfect for me. I wasn’t invested so much, it didn’t make me feel like I was “lacking” something in order to be part of it. I just felt like I didn’t care enough to really be vulnerable to it, I felt like it could have been a nice innocuous hobby.

But that’s the point. Thinking it was innocuous made me let down my guard enough to actually fall in love with the fandom. Fall in love with those two weirdos of characters (which by the way, I’ll say this now: I think Aziraphale and Crowley as portrayed in the series are more a product of fans and Tennant and Sheen than they are a product of Gaiman and Pratchett. And this is not a bad thing per se, I think, but let’s give credit where credit is due).

And let me be clear: I gained so so much from joining the fandom. It has positively affected so many seemingly unrelated parts of my life, and I’m so grateful to so many kind strangers on the internet who have shared such wholesome art with me, and have gifted me so much, that even putting it into words is simply not enough to explain all of it.

And one of the results of this “wave of wholesomeness” is I also started following Gaiman more closely.

Like so many, I loved Coraline. Gaiman seemed a genuinely nice person. An old guy who had wisdom to share, and who seemed to be fascinatingly non-stereotypical? If that makes sense. What I mean is that he was everything my father warned me against. A goth, weird, a writer therefore an artist (and in my family we know artists are fools who end up on the street jobless and homeless). And yet, to me now he seemed such a normal guy. Yes maybe someone who enjoyed that fashion style, but otherwise very far away from the usual excess of a rockstar. Of course I was too young when he was at the peak of his rockstar years. English is not my first language, and when he was 40 I was in elementary school and just learning about him, and you know, they do not write about his fans passing out at signings or his groupies on the back cover of children’s books.

What I mean is that I didn’t have access to all the media and information about him.

So I start seemingly connecting to this writer, whose works I have enjoyed for the most part, and who seems such a nice guy in how he interacts with his fans and people in general. Such an inoffensive, kind person. And kind seemingly to everyone.

I started liking him. To the point where I remember telling my partner: you know, Neil Gaiman is someone I’d take a coffee with (which in Italian culture is one of the greatest honors one can give you. Having a coffee while sitting at a café and chat for hours is what good friends do).

So, in my mind he had a special place now. He was someone I started to admire and look up to.

And this is, I think, where it hurts. It hurts because even if I wasn’t personally victimized, I never met him, he never acted creepy with me, he doesn’t even know me, it still felt like I, as part of the fandom, had been used for his clout. And also, it hurts to feel like someone you trusted because of how they presented themselves has lied to you.

And on top of that: it is so fucking disrespectful. The fact he thought he could get away with it. With hurting so many people (one is one too many by the way), and causing so much pain, while also enjoying crowds of adoring fans, both online and in person.

I find it personally difficult to reconcile my love of the GO fandom with all of this right now. And I think it’s for a number of reasons.

Firstly because the silence of institutions and people around these facts has opened some old wounds and made me angry again towards a system that I perceive as hostile towards me and people like me who might be vulnerable.

What I mean is: I know that Gaiman is a powerful person, and a lot of people need to bring money home and are tied to contracts and what not (yeah I’m looking at our favorite two male presenting british actors here) and I understand it. I do. And this is exactly why this stuff makes me angry again. Angry at the whole shitty system we live in, where if you happen to be in some kind of power imbalance you might end up having to eat shit and shut up while witnessing violence against you or others and not being able to utter a word about it. This sucks. It makes me angry. It makes me angry that Michael Sheen, someone I like to believe would be among the first to shout “I BELIEVE THE VICTIMS” if he was talking to friends at a bar, likely has to shut up and play nicely because Darth Amazon has some fucking clause written in Braille somewhere that says he has to sacrifice his firstborn if he ever dares to suggest he doesn’t like anyone related to the franchise.

It makes me soooo angry that we stay in the dark, and we only know from those people who are brave, and powerful enough to speak up about something that (allegedly) has been known for fucking years in the writing community. That this person was a creep. That he was treating people, mainly women and non-binary folks, if not bad, at least poorly.

And you know, this makes me even more angry because I have been in such shitty situations too! I was a victim of a system where exploitation and borderline abuse were normalized in a work setting.

And it wakes something deep in me to read that “it was an open secret bla bla bla” and again: I understand why people set up whisper networks instead of taking these giants down. I understand it. It still makes me angry because I simply do not want to live in such systems. Systems where I’m either the sacrificial lamb or I’m the one tying it on the table, or handing the axe over to the butcher, or a witness who has no power to stop the suffering.

I don’t want to live in such a system. But I have to. In my real life. I have to put up with so much shit sometimes, shit that makes me feel like I cannot stand up for my values because hey, I need to pay the bills too. And Good Omens was one of those few things where I could escape a bit into an alternative reality, where everything could be a bit better.

And I’m sure the fandom is still like this for most of the fans. I have witnessed first-hand how supportive and cheerful this fandom can be.

For me though, it still makes me think of all this...tsunami of shit.

I want to be able to enjoy the silly fanart, the memes, the wait for season 3 again. But I can’t. I can’t because my brain does not work like that. Good Omens still means Neil Gaiman too much to me. And I cannot go around talking cheerfully about Good Omens while feeling like I’m feeding into the clout of someone who used their power to coerce vulnerable people. Because (and I might be wrong) it feels like the message I’m sending is: my comfort show/book is more important than your pain or your life. And I can’t. This is not the truth.

I feel for the victims. Probably I feel even more than it would be healthy for me, or normal. But I don’t know, I feel like I connect to them. Maybe because I’ve been a victim of abuse perpetrated in clear power-imbalanced relationships, or because I felt like nobody cared about me and my wellbeing for so long, that eventually I stopped caring too.

And it is bad. It’s dehumanizing to a point where you really start believing you don’t matter. Your wellbeing doesn’t matter. There are more important things.

Ok so, I don’t want the victims, the survivors, to feel like this. They matter. They matter to me because if there’s one thing that is going to re-ignate the sacred fire of defiance in me is being able to stop this self-feeding cycle of self-loathing and misery. You matter. We matter. Vulnerable people who have been hurt matter to me. If there is one thing we can do to resist these systems of oppression and these people who abuse their power, that thing is believing that the people they hurt matter. If not more, at least as much as them.

And the way I show myself and others that the victims and their lives matter to me is by distancing myself from Neil Gaiman and his works, at least for now.

I feel bad for people who might have found themselves unwillingly tied to all of this. I feel bad for Sheen and Tennant, for all the wonderful artists and craft-people who have put so much of their work and love in Good Omens and I don’t want to let them down.

My two cents are that season 3 will not be canceled if they see there’s enough traction, and definitely won’t be canceled unless fans start a crusade against it, which won’t happen most likely.

The fandom loves Tennant and Sheen too much, and these are too much nice people to really hold a grudge against them, so I don’t think it will be canceled.

I’m afraid we (I say “we” meaning everyone who loves Good Omens) will be “held hostage” by Gaiman in the sense that he knows season 3 is not going to happen without him, so it’s either “we” or the majority of “we” behave, or it’s not going to happen. Which again, I don’t think he would lose the opportunity to make some money, and he also has contract duties to fulfill, but it still is worth it for him to try to leverage his power.

I wanted to end this rant on a positive note, somehow. But I don't know exactly what to say. Recently one of the things that has brought me laughs and joy has been the Channel 4 series “We are Lady Parts”.

In one of the episodes they quote a very beautiful poem, which came back to mind when I was listening to Claire (the latest woman who has come forward with allegations) on the “Am I Broken” podcast.

The poem is Speak by Faiz Ahmed Faiz, I will paste the version from the show, because I think it’s very powerful and beautiful.

Speak, for your two lips are free Speak, for your tongue is still your own This straight body still is yours. Speak, your life is still your own.

See how in the blacksmith’s forge flames leap high and steel glows red, padlocks opening wide their jaws. Every chain’s embrace outspread.

Time enough is this brief hour Until body and tongue lie dead. Speak, for truth is living yet. Speak, whatever must be said.

[olderthannetfic]

People have said this in the reblogs, but people who are concerned about what Project 2025 might do to AO3 should try to prevent that by voting for Democrats, including Joe Biden (or whomever replaces him if that happens), and supporting campaigns by canvassing, phonebanking, donating, sending postcards. If you're not a U.S. citizen, you can't vote or donate but you can probably find other ways to support, including by reblogging pro-voting posts on here. It's not a done deal. One person in the reblogs brought this up too but I wanted to elaborate: There's a huge problem on Tumblr with anti-voting propaganda, especially spread by tankies and other kinds of horrible people. I think that more people need to consider that if they're going to decide "hey, the occasional funnee meme isn't worth following a terf or Nazi or other anti-LGBTQ+/racist bigot" that should expand to tankies. Supporting dictators like Putin and Xi is supporting anti-LGBTQ+ politics, supporting racism (these people all violently suppress racial and religious minorities) and is supporting censorship. They are kind of famous for that. Supporting Putin, especially if you are also downplaying or making excuses for the invasion of Ukraine, is also supporting genocide because that is what he is doing to Ukraine right now. That should be a firm line for you, I think, if your convictions aren't like completely worthless lol. Some things should be more important to you than fucking memes! And at least have the bare minimum critical thinking skills to wonder if people who spend so much time doing apologetics for right-wing homophobic transphobic dictatorships, might be discouraging voting because they're ok with the U.S. also becoming a right-wing homophobic transphobic dictatorship.

One of my eternal vent pet peeve things is how many people make excuse for the blogger heritagep/osts (username is without the slash, but they and their friends are name-searchers). This is a person who regularly reblogs pro-dictatorship propaganda including for fucking North Korea, discourages and shames voting, and also is a vicious anti-semite who tries to hide that under supposedly being pro-Palestine. The way you can tell this is they're constantly making "Zionist blocklists" but if you look at the names that are actually on those blocklists, they're nearly all people who are outspokenly ANTi Zionist but who happen to be Jewish and post about that.

The excuse people constantly use for following them is that their blog is about documenting old Tumblr posts. Which just seems so flimsy because there are so many blogs that do that these days? Nearly all the rest of which are not antisemitic transphobic-dictator-apologists. H/eritageposts' commentary isn't even that funny. A lot of it is "anti" adjacent shit acting like everyone who ever liked Hetalia or Shingeki no Kyojin is antisemitic and responsible for rising Nazi sentiment online, which is kind of rich given the antisemitism and pro-right-wing-dictator stuff they've been radicalized into. Like lol call fujoshis "cringe" all you want but hardly any of the people I know who were into Hetalia in 2010 are antisemites in 2024, but you, on the other hand... Like maybe fandom is not in fact the danger and you can be a sucker for Internet extremism even without it!

Anyway, people, please just have bare minimum standards and compassion for who you follow and promote. No one's saying that you ahve to research everyone you reblog from, but there are blogs who regularly post this shit, you'd notice if you followed them or even glanced at them, that people make excuses for following because "funnie posts." Like come on. Have more self-respect and more actual courage of your convictions than that. All you're showing is that when the actual dictators are here you'll fall right in line the second they make a joke you laugh at.

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Even if that weasel wins, plenty of people have fought horrendous governments before.

Queer people didn't have any fucking rights in the US when I was a kid, so we fought. We'll just have to fight again if it comes down to it.

Always vote.

Even if all the candidates suck, they're never all the same.

[uncharismatic-fauna]

i'm genuinely not even a terf or terf-adjacent but you're crazy for letting them live in your head rent-free like this. obviously you can block whoever you want for whatever reasons you want and i'm not going to try to convince you to unblock them/stop blocking them because it's Your Blog but have you considered that the people who follow you don't care about the identity of the blog owner and just want to see entertaining pictures of animals? i'm pretty sure nobody is following you with the intent of purposefully spiting you and the ask that was suggesting that posting hermaphrodite/genderless animals will ward off transphobes is batshit crazy thinking

Appreciate the concern, but not to worry: terfs get about as much of my attention as a bit of dogshit on my shoe. Mostly I just get annoyed having to go through my feed every day and block them, especially since it seems like there's been more than usual lately. And me making posts about it is honestly me just yelling into the void to blow off a little steam.

And I'm going to post about those kinds of animals regardless, because it's something I enjoy doing, and I think it does highlight an important feature of nature that often gets overlooked. If it pisses them off, that's just a bonus.

[mars-ipan]

God I feel you on this. There are so many avenues for people to get sucked into bullshit infighting too.

I s2g every time I engage with trans content my for you feed starts serving me a ton of discourse about intercommunity transandrophobia or w/e and like... if people are being weird about trans men that's worth talking about sometimes, but I get the impression there are corners of the trans community that are doing nothing but scream at each other in some pointless transmasc vs transfem war. Meanwhile I'm sitting here on TERF island, transfem people right beside me, hoping our HRT and shaky legal rights don't get nuked in the next 5 years 💀

I feel like a general online discourse rule should be that if you're putting more energy into fighting your own community/policing language/etc than fighting people that materially affect our lives, something's gone wrong and you're at high risk of radicalisation into bigotry. Or might already be there.

ghhrgh LITERALLY….. like .

from what i’ve seen a lot of this transandrophobia debate came up in response to seeing trans women talk about transmisogyny. my theory is that a portion of tme folks saw that people have been discussing transmisogyny and felt that they were having their unique experiences erased. which, like, look . i get it. erasure is something i’ve experienced kinda my whole life. i understand that it feels Bad to have your struggles downplayed. i had that same worry at first. BUT. we GOTTA be able to examine how your own fears and anxieties and biases may be coloring your perceptions!!! bc yes being trans does not make you immune to transmisogyny!! we live in a transmisogynistic world implicit bias is Going To Happen.

like. transmisogyny is a real thing that happens and disproportionately affects transfems. transmisogyny is not something non-transfem people experience unless they are falsely perceived to be transfem. it is a uniquely transfeminine experience coming from the intersection of being trans and female (or female-adjacent). it is not just a unique kind of transphobia, but rather the intentional combination of transphobia and misogyny.

is this to say that transmascs don’t experience their own unique kind of oppression? no! but it’s not an intersectional oppression and it shouldn’t be treated as such. also, the name of “transandrophobia” just gives off. a really uncomfortable energy. you’re not being oppressed because you’re male. you’re being oppressed because you’re trans. i don’t feel like we need to give this type of transphobia a name because it is just transphobia. similar to how misogynoir is a word but we don’t have a word for the specific type of oppression black men face because that’s just racism. just because transphobia impacts you in a certain way doesn’t mean it’s a special type of transphobia, and really why are we playing oppression olympics in the first place? we’re ALL hurting. can we just like… help each other out? can we stop accusing transfems of like…. deliberately trying to overshadow transmasc issues or whatever? and for the love of god if we have to argue can we STOP misgendering and degendering each other mid-argument.

like. at the end of the day this is all trivial shit because In Real Life we’re being targeted by horribly cruel legislation and social movements. it’s like we’re in a burning house and i’m watching my brother and sister argue over black mold. like yes that’s a problem but i think !!!! we should focus on putting out the fire !!!! like i live in texas. lawmakers have been trying to pass anti-trans bills here for ages, and a couple of them have gone through! i remember being sat down in gsa in my freshman year of high school and having the club sponsors tell us that if a bill that was up for ratification mandating that teachers out their students to their parents was passed that they would do everything in their power to keep us safe. i have to be careful about how i dress when i go to certain places. and i’m not even someone who’s transitioning medically— lord knows what kind of bullshit hurdles people on hrt have to go through to get it. and we’re arguing over what we want to call our oppression? we’re all facing transphobia at the end of the day can we PLEASE fix that instead of dividing ourselves into little easy-to-eliminate factions please and thank you

[mariodreemurr]

Intro / Pinned Post!

“They laugh at me because I’m different. I laugh at them because they’re all the same.” –Kurt Cobain

Greetings, fellow humans! …Er, hey, everyone! Welcome to my all-purpose blog! Here, you’ll find all my Tumblr posts, including various art pieces, reblogs, and selfshipping stuff! So, without further ado, allow me to introduce myself. (This post may change over time!!)

Mario / Marma / Marm

22 y/o (there’s no NSFW/suggestive stuff here, but please be mindful before interacting)

AMAB Paraboy (He/They)

Bi-xenosexual (meaning, I am a bisexual who is exclusively attracted to sapient nonhumans)

Furry / alienkin (The last 2 names I gave for myself are names for my aliensona! I might post him someday.)

Selfshipper / fictolover (I do NOT use my aliensona for selfshipping. I consider him a separate character.)

INFP 4w5 so/sx 469 (4w5-6w5-9w8)

Hobbies / Interests (including media)

NOTE: Me having an interest in or having F/Os from a certain media DOES NOT MEAN THAT I CONDONE THE CREATOR’S ACTIONS, IF APPLICABLE!! Also, I don’t consider myself to be in these fandoms, if applicable. I’m just a fan!

90s alternative / grunge music

The Amazing Digital Circus

Beastars

Chikn Nuggit

Drawing & writing

The Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy

Hazbin Hotel / Helluva Boss

Heavy metal, especially alternative metal (which includes funk metal, nu metal and rap metal)

Invader Zim

Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure (especially Part 3)

Kitty Is Not a Cat (please please PLEASE interact if you are also a fan of this!!! I want to meet more people who enjoy the show)

Nintendo, especially Super Mario, Kirby & Pokémon (up to and including Gen 7)

Personality types, most notably MBTI & Enneagrams

Pizza Tower

Statistics & data science

Trivia Crack / Triviatopia

Undertale / Deltarune / Undertale Yellow

BYF

I am autistic, which makes it very hard for me to interact with people sometimes. At times, I say things that I don’t truly mean, so please be patient with me. In addition, please say what you mean whenever you talk to me, as I often take things very literally.

I have very bad social anxiety, and I often delay responses simply because I’m shy and/or I don’t know what to say that won’t offend other people.

DNI (may change over time)

Anti-selfship, anti-furry

Proshippers/comshippers/darkshippers (including neutrals, anti-antis, and “proship safe” blogs)

MAPs & adjacent, adults who selfship with minors, incest shippers, zoos

Selfshippers who ship themselves with real people (fictional characters played by irl people/actors are fine)

Biphobes / those that engage in bisexual erasure

Homophobes, LGBTphobes, TERFs & other bigots

If none of these apply to you, go under the cut for more!

Now that you’re still here, it’s time for the fun stuff!

(NOTE: As long as you truly respect them, I am 100% comfortable with sharing ANY AND ALL of my romantic & platonic F/Os!!!)

My F/O lists may change over time.

💖 (One and Only) Romantic F/O 💖

My one and only romantic F/O is Petal, one of the 16 (!) main characters of Kitty Is Not a Cat, an obscure Australian cartoon that aired from 2018 to 2020.

The show centers around the adventures and experiences of a human orphan girl named Kitty, who really wants to be a cat. One day, she encounters a mansion where 15 talking, musical cats live. Initially reluctant, the cats eventually agree to take care of her and accept her as one of their own. It is a very wholesome and underrated show, and I highly recommend thar you check it out!

But enough about the show, let’s talk about Petal!

Petal is a cat (of no specific breed) with purplish gray fur, including dark “chest fur.” She also wears a black collar.

Petal is considered the “mother” of the cats; she is protective of them and loves looking after everyone, especially Kitty. Petal is also very kind, caring, and enthusiastic to a fault…so much so that the other cats have gotten annoyed at her sometimes. Despite her kind and gentle nature, she knows when enough is enough, and is willing to put her foot down if it means justice.

Petal’s motherly nature makes her quite intelligent for a cat. But she still has done some pretty derpy things at times. For example, there was one episode in which she confused a play Kitty put on as fact instead of fiction, and she joined the other cats in searching for buried treasure outside the mansion. In another episode (and one of my personal favorite ones), Kitty built a big plastic playhouse outside the mansion, and Petal and the other cats got the idea that she was moving out. This made her and the other cats very sad, and they in turn “visited” her in an absolutely hilarious sequence of events.

And yet, despite not fully understanding things sometimes (in particular, human culture and behavior), she does her absolute best to be as kind and respectful about them as possible. This kind of support is exactly what I need in life.

And this is our ship!

(This commission was done by @/sheepie-self-ships!)

Our ship name is AltMetal! Every post about this ship, whether it is an art or writing piece, will be tagged with this.

There’s not really much more to say here, other than the fact that I love her so goddamn much. If you want more content of this selfship, follow this blog, which includes gushes and whatnot!

Queerplatonic F/Os

Petal is my only romantic F/O, but I also have a handful of queerplatonic F/Os. Even though they’re not romantic, I still very much care for them. They are:

Amyllia-Gotanka (OC)

Casey (OC)

Maria (OC)

Wendy (OC)

Familial F/Os

I also have 6 familial F/Os. They are:

Kirby (Kirby series) - Son

Tito (Trivia Crack / Triviatopia, but esp. the latter) - Son

Haru (Beastars) - Daughter

Mandy (The Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy) - Daughter

Toriel (Undertale) - Mother

Asriel Dreemurr (Undertale) - Brother

Platonic F/Os

Lastly, I have several platonic F/Os. They are:

Adam (Hazbin Hotel)

Angel Dust (Hazbin Hotel)

Ankha (Animal Crossing)

Barbie Wire (Helluva Boss)

Cheeta (Kitty Is Not a Cat)

Foghorn Leghorn (Looney Tunes)

Ginsburg (Kitty Is Not a Cat)

Grim (The Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy)

Happy (Kitty Is Not a Cat)

All of I.M.P. (Helluva Boss)

Jean Pierre Polnareff (Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure)

Johnny Cage (Mortal Kombat, esp. his MK1 incarnation)

Part 3 Joseph Joestar (Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure)

Legoshi (Beastars)

Meow Skulls (Fortnite)

Miley (Kitty Is Not a Cat)

Ming (Kitty Is Not a Cat)

The Nazz (Kitty Is Not a Cat)

Noriaki Kakyoin (Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure)

Sallie May (Helluva Boss)

Schnitzel (Chowder)

Sidon (The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild)

Sir Pentious (Hazbin Hotel)

Spook (Kitty Is Not a Cat)

Starlo (Undertale Yellow)

Thorn (Kitty Is Not a Cat)

And that’s pretty much it for this post! Hope to see y’all around in the future!

(NOTE: I will use this image below instead of DNI tags from now on as a way to not clutter the tags. Since this is my first DNI list, this probably won’t be a permanent image, as it may change over time. To keep myself safe from proshitters, I will put “proshippers DNI” at the end of my posts.)

Proship/comship DNI.

[heraadora]

You're the epitome of a bitter lesbian LMAO. Let me guess, male figure in your life hurt you and now anything male adjacent makes you repulsed? Trauma reeks out of your posts and trying to make heterosexual women detach from men because of YOUR personal issues is so funny. It really does read as a 16 year old girl who never truly grew out of that black-white mentality. Seeing a whole rant about how PIV sex is "evil actually" and "needs lube" when sufficient foreplay and a gentle hand is all that's needed as the fluids that come out with arousal is PLENTY. You disconnect the inherent emotional weight sex comes with.

There's a reason why women and men who get raped have a stronger psychological reaction than if they were beat. Sex comes with a million barriers that directly wire to your brain that drastically alters when it's taken without consent. You can easily delve into research that doesn't abide by your inherent biases by saying "it hurts!" When it easily can NOT hurt. Or adjust with, again, the gentle hands of a partner.

Let me guess, you advocate for women and men to whore themselves out with no clear direction? Having meaningless one night stands that leave them devoid and hungry for more, an ACTUAL relationship? Humans are social creatures. Much of the real pleasure is found in that connection, and sex is like a physical manifestation of a love between two; callously removing that makes you no better than a wild hedonistic dog with no grasp of conscience. Mindless pleasure that just brings a brief, superficial boost in dopamine that subsides in an instant when you're just using "a self warming toy" 💀

(Also, telling women not to have PIV sex while suggesting toys that serve to directly mimic PIV sex is genuinely so fucking stupid and defeats the entire purpose??? were you ACTUALLY thinking a thought or was past trauma that you can't glam up for Tumblr hitting your face again sweaty?)

Statistically, 75% Woman experience pain in PIV:

And I am not at all triggered. Foreplay and natural bodily fluids still won't help with the fact that PIV will start to hurt right after the threshold of 5 minutes in and you will need additional lube to take care of that or else you will end in serious Vaginal wall injury.

If you penetrate with mere bodily fluid it will start to hurt while inserting as you will be able to feel the rough skin texture and inside of Vaginal wall is sensitive and can cause irritation. Depending on your hymen size it will hurt from a little bit to downright bleeding and excruciating kind of pain. If you have a naturally big opening at birth it might slip easily or else you will have to do manual exercise for at least a couple months before actually pursuing it.

Also, You are the one writing coke rant on my month old Tumblr Post where I am showing people the reality of PIV Sex. If anyone is showing signs of clear trauma it's frankly you. And I am not traumatized by any man. I never fucked them. I am a Lesbian. I just know about how sex actually works and the people I fuck manage to get me off without making my vagina Bleed out in a insufferable level of pain in order to jerk their pee pee inside my hole and treat me as a broodmare rag doll.

Maybe you are a trad wife straight woman with insurmountable and parasitic level of attachment to the phallaus even though you never knew how it feels to have your mind going high at the moment of your 20th orgasm and that makes you bitter at lesbians who simply tell you to grow a spine and try alternatives like rose toys and vibrators. In that case you should get over your personal past trauma of being called a cock sucker whore for being such a ardent defender of PIV by some random terf tumblr account so that you can make peace with the fact that majority of woman and their body isn't accommodated enough to deal with PIV sex and there are plenty of sexual activities that are objectively much more erotically and physically pleasurable than PIV, and much more safer, healthier, better, and things that actually make you come, if you are a Female.

Either this or the last portion of your writing sort of gives off this weird impression that you are a straight man. So in case you are a straight man, umm..... your ex gf or gf or wife or whatever woman that bothered sleeping with you- lied about loving it and having a orgasm. She probably just wanted to be nice. You probably saw her releasing body fluids and then basically thought that is the marker of orgasm. When that's not even how orgasm works. The physical marker of orgasm is something only the woman who experienced it can tell. Majority of straight woman don't even know how a orgasm is supposed to feel because they never experienced it in the first place. You seriously think you made her climax? Really? LOL.

And about that sex toys comment,,,,,, I think you should know how sex toys actually look like. Since you are illiterate and that's probably because you are a man , here are a couple pictures of female accommodated sex toys. They range from vibrators to rose toys to Vagina Shaped Flesh Light for the purpose of Vaginal Scissoring and sensation of oral sex.

Anyways, It was a very sudden message. Putting radtwt tags on my post so that Our Radfem Ladies, Lesbian Girls, Femmes, Dykes and Knight in Armor and Prince Charming Butches can read it and have a good laugh out of it.

[the-delta-quadrant]

i refuse to misgender myself and to tolerate being misgendered for a movement that doesn't care for people like me beyond bringing us up as a gotcha to mspec lesbian exclusionists or as queer label 101 posts. i refuse to let people misgender me for a movement that forcibly applies an identity in the name of politics to people (it's what TERFs do too, maybe don't copy them). i refuse to compromise on my real gender for a movement that's only allying with people without binary privilege who at least somewhat fit their criteria. i refuse to be misgendered for "simplicity". i refuse to be misgendered so "cis people get us". i refuse to be misgendered just so you all can go "nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny" like you too don't throw us into masculine or feminine boxes too, like everyone else. i refuse to be misgendered for a movement too lazy to add two words in order to not be misgendering. i refuse to be misgendered for a movement that only cares about me if i happen to share a certain identity, rather than lived experience. i refuse to be misgendered for a movement that does the same thing to nonbinary people that cis people do to trans people but thinks its progressive. i refuse to be misgendered for a movement that feels like a circlejerk of people validating their binary (adjacent) identity. i refuse to be misgendered for a movement that insists only people with a certain identity can experience a kind of oppression and everyone else is lying and needs to be silenced. i refuse to be misgendered for a movement that will dogpile a nonbinary person and spread lies for speaking up about said misgendering and erasure. i refuse to be misgendered for politics. i refuse to be misgendered based on my lived experience. i refuse to be misgendered because being abinary is too much, too weird, too complicated to consider. i refuse to be misgendered for a movement that gives up on inclusivity before even trying because it's "too hard". i refuse to be misgendered for a movement that goes "got mine" and thinks that's good enough. i refuse to be misgenderee for a movement that sees my identity and inclusion as inherently less casual than binary ones. i refuse to be misgendered for people trying to relate to me through their binary privilege and miss the entire point of me not wanting to be called masculine. i refuse to be misgendered.

i refuse to give up my own liberation so more privileged people have theirs.

[read-watch-sleep]

How do you think the dynamic between Mello, Near, Matt, Light and L would be if they were female? Would fantom response to them be different in your opinion?

Hello! Thank you for the ask, anon. I think a lot of their individual personalities wouldn’t change much (largely because otherwise I would have no other framework from which to view them, but also because most traits just aren’t restricted to gender.) Similarly, I don’t think Near, Matt or L would change much in terms of presentation. It’s obvious that they don’t dress for public expectations, and I don’t think that would change. 

I imagine Mello, if anything, would make a greater show of proving herself. Mello is a self-made success of sheer will, charm, and hard work, and I think that common misogyny would challenge that for her. God forbid if Light or anyone else perceives her as another vapid blonde. If you think Mello’s inferiority complex towards Near is large in canon, just wait until she has to work twice as hard just to be taken seriously. She’s going to be twice as mean, driven, competitive, and afraid. She’s that bitch.

Because I believe in shipping Meronia in any format, there’s also something to be said about how intensely she’d have to believe in and trust Near. While I think this is the case no matter what, I imagine if they were women, Mello would be the person who underestimates Near the least. 

Speaking of underestimating Near, I imagine that Near would come off as even more childish/shy as a woman, even if her behaviour does not fundamentally change. Possibly due to a softer voice and smaller frame, but also just because of expectations. She’ll have to work to gain the trust of the US president, or her team. Light doesn't really see how much of a little girl Near appears to be until the very end, but this would probably come as a shock. Unlike Mello, I imagine this isn’t a reflection on Near’s self esteem, and rather, she just finds it annoying. 

I DO think that it would affect her relationship with L and Mello, so far as I think she’d seek out what little connections she has. I think the distance from her team would amplify how much she yearns for a capable mentor, or a strong and willful lover. The same exact taunting and banter between Mello and Near (ie “May the best woman win”) would come off as 100% flirting. 

Honestly, I don’t think L or Matt would change much at all. Matt’s burnout and low-energy lifestyle, or sheer loyalty to Mello, don’t really change with gender. She’s still going to follow Mello anywhere, make dark jokes, and chainsmoke. 

When it comes to L, in canon we already know that L’s identity is incredibly hidden. I think the world at large would assume that L is a man, and she wouldn’t really do anything to dissuade them. Like Near, I imagine she shocks Light by showing up in person and defying that expectation, but the fact that she’s really odd already does that. Also in parallel to Near, I imagine that L’s affection for Light is greater as a woman, but not to the same extent that Near yearns after Mello– I think L is just delighted to have an intellectual equal who isn’t underestimating her. 

Light would be the person who’s dynamic changes the most. Look, she’s not going to suddenly lose the misogyny that canon Light has, it’s just going to change forms. It’s a kind of TERF-adjacent misunderstanding of gender roles. Light is defending women by killing men… and also any women who don’t fit her ideal world. The perfect preppy brunette honour student is going to hate L for being weird, hate Misa for being dumb and blonde (and probably slutty), and underestimate Mello’s capacity for violence (violence is for the men that Light kills, obviously women are more graceful and subtle than that… Or not, as Mello blows up a building with herself inside.) It will take longer for Light to accept the way L behaves, because it’s so antithetical to her worldview. Ladies don’t sit weird. Ladies don’t stuff their faces with cake (I just know she’s jealous of L’s waistline despite the sweets.) Over time, she builds an exception into her world where L’s behaviour is almost okay (she still has to die, though). Eventually, Near will fill this niche, and Light will hate her that much more, for not being L. 

As for the fandom as a whole, I’m really sorry, but I admit I don’t know! I only joined up with the Death Note fandom again recently, and before that, I’ve been out of the fandom sphere for almost a decade. While I may have written about she/her Near back then, obviously a fandom will change within ten years, so my perception would be pretty inaccurate. However, there are some lovely fanworks that play with gender– I suggest you check them out! 

[soup-mother]

while it would no doubt be bad for the maybe three chill and normal nice people vaguely adjacent to those communities, a bitter part of me does wish the yankee centric (dare i say the US and Canada only) ~vintage 70's lesbian pins~ "i reblogged a picture of marsha P johnson so please ignore the fact i keep accidentally reblogging from open terfs" "queer history by which i mean Urban US queer history" industrial complex would dry up or get its act together a bit.

like if there was even a fraction of the pushback for being mutuals with crypto terfs and reblogging transmisogynistic shit as there is for when a trans girl accidentally fucks up or even just says something kinda rude, then half the most annoying userbase on the website would be dead.

idk maybe I'm being a bitch but I roll my eyes so hard when people make US Queer history out as some universal thing and make some 80's pride march their header etc and treat marsha p johnson as some kind of figure of redemption for transmisogyny ("trans women of colour threw the first bricks at stonewall so I don't need to unpack anything or stop reblogging weird transmisogynists").

I'm glad ur having fun in Ur imaginary better past but that wasn't actually a better time, especially if you're black and/or transfem. same with like riot grrl nostalgia. like just come on now we all know why *you* think it was a better era.

"know your roots, by which i mean california in the 70's"

[tinogiehd]

I get your point and Dream has reacted in very stupid ways before that were seriously eye-roll inducing even as a fan, but I don’t think he’s ever or would ever immediately and publicly cut off a friend without privately reaching out first. She added so much fuel to an already out of control fire, against a guy she called her brother. I think they’re wildly different situations and I think we need to stop trying to play the misogyny card when people are criticising women. It’s how we’ve got braindead twitter kids thinking women can do no wrong now.

I don’t think Hannah has to apologise or that she’s some terrible person or that it’s any of our business if she wants to be friends with them again or not. But to act like any criticism of how she publicly handled it on her platform is wrong because she’s a woman is kind of crazy. And I usually support your takes.

we can stop pulling the misogyny card when people stop being misogynistic about her. like it’s not misogyny to criticize her I think her reaction was abhorrent I think she could have done so much better but to be harping on it weeks and weeks down the line as some indicator of moral compass and acting as if she owes us an apology is strange as hell. like she should have done something differently for sure and you don’t need to pretend like she had a perfect response because she’s a woman, her being a woman doesn’t mean her response wasn’t shitty. but I just don’t think you can separate the response to her response Weeks down the line from her being a woman in an industry where woman have historically caught more heat for breathing than 99% of men will for legitimately heinous crimes and that mindset being consciously or unconsciously absorbed by audiences even adjacent to it, like the social contexts of an entertainer will project onto the audience and that’s just how it works and I’ve seen in the three years I’ve been here how women are cracked down on way harder than men are. misogyny is baked into this community because that’s how people are socialized in the real life and the online space. I’m not saying women are free from criticism but I am saying that I think some people would benefit from thinking Hey why am I so angry at her and so ready to rant and rave about this weeks and weeks later? half of what im seeing on my dash rn isn’t even criticism of her conduct also it’s literally invisible demons about her not having a leash on the maybe 50 dedicated hannah stans on twitter despite her being pretty offline and saying she’s promoting terf rhetoric ? Like what are you people even talking about at this point. I’m not saying disliking her response is misogynistic but I’m saying the heat she’s still catching for it is driven by closet misogyny like just move the fuck on

[arginnit]

sometimes I think back on this classmate I had who was the complete ideological opposite to me and despite that her and I ended up getting paired together pretty much every time in account of being the only 2 girls in the class, we had out fair share of interesting conversations, she was studying me as much as I was studying her

she directly told me one time, "talking to you is entertaining cus you don't know anything about current stuff (she kept talking about Netflix shows ) but you also know a lot of random shit and we always disagree "

which. I guess was true, still an interesting character, I should one day make a compilation of shit shes said to me cus it's all very revealing to the thought process of a very specific kind of terf adjacent online normie mentality

[poolboyservice]

Hii!!!!!!!!!! ^^ We collectively respond to Umbrella, and this is our pinned!

We'll have our DNI and our interests put in here, but for the sake of keeping it organized, and more positive, we'll put the DNI under the cut. Without further ado, here are our interests, and the things we do!

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Hobbies/Skills:

Drawing, both traditional and digital, mostly 'vanilla' but we like to add some blood and gore. Not too much though.

Writing fanfiction and original story, we love writing zombie and vampire stories/fanfics

Overanalyzing our special interests and favorite things, like MatPat levels of overanalyze

100%ing video games we like, we nearly 100%ed Five Nights at Candy's 3 in less than two days

Rambling about our beliefs and things we like (Do not get us started on the End Poem from Minecraft)

Collecting action figure sized things to play 'dolls' with

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Interests:

My Chemical Romance (given)

The Umbrella Academy (obviously but still)

The Sims 4

Mermaids, fairies, ghosts, and other supernatural creatures

Doctor Nowhere (kind of, we have a lovehate relationship w the Boiled One)

Psychology!

CallMeKevin

FusionZGamer

TheGameSalmon

Five Nights at Freddy's

Portal (PLEASE TALK TO US ABOUT PORTAL)

Horror movies, Analog horror, and just horror as a whole

Skullgirls

Godzilla, Mothra, and basically any and all Kaijus plus the Monsterverse

Doki Doki Literature Club

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Now that we got all the cool stuff outta the way, let's talk about the DNI

TERFs, SWERFs, and any other form of belief adjacent to Radical Feminism and TERFism

follow up to this: If you genuinely hate men, do not interact.

Zionists

Anish Kapoor

Endos, Pro-Endos, and anyone who claim to be in the Endogenic System Spectrum, Endo-Neutrals are okay

If you post on SystemsCringe and FakeDisorderCringe, I do not care if you just exclusively post endos, I do not trust you.

Proshippers

Radqueers AND Transmeds

If you think Transandrophobia isn't real, or that trans men are way more priviledged than trans women

ED and SH blogs

'Girlblogging' accounts

and finally, If you think humans are parasitic and everyone should be killed

[legallyacceptibleurl]

@/pinkish-girl regularly posts and says racist anti palestine things on their blog and is often in kahoots with tradcaths, neo nazis, and terfs. i believe this says more than enough about them

see, someone like @pinkish-girl isn’t someone i’d usually feature on this blog. my main goal here is to be a resource for blogs to block and urls to content filter for the people in the left-adjacent queer tumblrsphere. as well as to undermine the integrity of the people spreading harmful misinformation in my area of tumblr.

with @pinkish-girl it takes like two second of scrolling her blog to see that she’s an islamophobic proana radfem, and that’s usually more than enough proof to anyone. besides, islamophobic radfem/terf proana tradcath neonazi blogs are a dime a dozen, and anyone who doesn’t immediately suss out she’s Like That isn’t going to be convinced by anything i can provide.

ID: @pinkish-girl: “Oh how I hate tankies, marxists, commies, leninists, socialists and all other variations of that evil mindset. #political #personal” END ID.

but oh? oh but what’s this? is that a familiar face i see?

ID: a post reblogged by @pinkish-girl. the post is hidden and instead there is text saying “this post contains filtered content: david-goldrock”. END ID.

it couldn’t be, could it?

ID: a post in hebrew, which i put through machine translation. @pinkish-girl: “I have to get up tomorrow at six 👍🏻” @david-goldrock: “Me too. Good luck <3” @pinkish-girl: “Thanks, I need it 😔 Same to you.” END ID.

inch resting

ID: a screenshot of @david-goldrock’s blog, showing they follow @pinkish-girl. END ID.

well that changes things, doesn’t it?

@david-goldrock is someone who frequently shows up on the blogs of the liberal zionists who are (unfortunately) mainstays in the left-adjacent queer tumblrsphere

ID: @prismatic-bell reblogged @edenfenixblogs. @silly-little-zio: “your criticism of israel needs to be more than just tik tok buzzwords and al jazeera quotes for me to take you seriously” @david-goldrock: “If you say "genocide ethnostate apartheid" bs, and then I ask you to explain any of these terms, and you need to google an example, you, my friend, are way too exposed to propaganda” END ID.

so let’s see what kind of person @david-goldrock is buddy-buddy with

average israeli zionist compilation under the cut

ID: @pinkish-girl: “Israel is a nation of 10 million people, who aren't going anywhere. Tankies, muslims and unintelligent radical leftists can cry and whine all they want, we aren't leaving our home ever again. #Israel #I/p #politics #personal” END ID.

ID: first image is a post @pinkish-girl reblogged. it is in hebrew, second image is the text run through machine translation. @bnncat: “"IDF kills children" Okay, so explain to me why I just saw an officer lying on the grass curled up with a kitten” @pinkish-girl’s tags: “#IDF #Hebrew #Israel” END ID.

ID: @pinkish-girl: “I wish I could get a dollar for every spam ask from "Gaza" I get. Like even if they were real I wouldn't gaf. It's ridiculous, I'm a Zionist and a proud Israeli, can't they at least bother their own crowd? #personal #I/p” END ID.

ID: @pinkish-girl reblogged @mademoiseli. Anonymous asked: “Do you support a Palestinian state?” @libertarirynn-deactivated202006: “You mean that thing that never really existed?” @pinkish-girl’s tags: “#Imfaoooo #politics #I/p” END ID.

plus a million proana posts and radfem posts etc. and i do find it extra disgusting for an israeli to be bragging about how little they eat, all the while their state actively starves people like a stone’s throw away

[professional-writher]

Intro post

I know I’ve done an intro post in the past, but I’m remaking it bc I feel like it.

My pronouns are he/him and I’m a trans gay man. Please do not call me she or they. It as a pronoun is not preferred, but is fine. I’m also on the aroace spectrum. I think I’m Demi in both regards but that is subject to change.

Probably autistic? I’m not allowed to get tested so I don’t know for certain, but my family has told me I was Autistic my whole life 🤷‍♂️

I consider myself goth adjacent or just generally alternative.

This user supports 'contradictory' lables and queer identities!

Not any real DNI criteria except for Zionists, TERFs, and generally hateful people (homo/transphobes, racists, antisemitists, etc)

I generally don’t tend to post about political things, but I’m very left leaning and a lot of my ideologies line up with socialism soooo…. Also I do reblog posts about the genocide happening in Palestine so if you don’t want to see that, block me because I don’t want to see you, either.

On that note, FREE PALESTINE 🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸

I’m also a pagan, but I don’t really post about that aside for the occasional “happy Litha!” Or “Blessed Yule!”

Asks are welcomed as well as DMs 👍

On to the more interesting stuff; my fandoms/interests!

(in the general order of how interested I am in them)

The Magnus Archives/Protocol

Will Wood

Baldur's gate 3 (my bg3 sideblog is @gale-dekarios-enjoyer )

Stardew Valley (my sdv side blog is @stardewmorelikeuhhhidkiforgot check it out for some EPIK STARDEW ART fire emoji fire emoji)

Legends of Avantris, specifically OUaW

Good Omens

Musicals. currently very fixated on The Scarlet Pimpernel and Jekyll and Hyde in particular

Music of any kind tbh I'll listen to pretty much anything except for artists i morally don't agree with. I just feel so bad listening to them but idk if mymutals like them (stuff like MSI Aesha Erotica etc)

The Odyssey and relating literature. Specifically the Robert Fagles or Emily Wilson version

Classical Literature in general. My fave rn is either Frankenstein or Jekyll and Hyde. I'm basic I'm sorry I'm trying to branch out more.

The Legend of Zelda (specifically BotW)

Smiling Friends (this one I’m quite ashamed of tbh)

Besides my fandoms, I have a large interest in Language and Linguistics as well as Classical studies.

I’m also currently learning 2 languages in school (French and Latin) and am self teaching myself a handful of others (Irish, Polish, Ancient Greek (praise be to the r/languagelearning resource page.))

I do art a lot and post it on here if I think it’s good enough to share.

I also play the guitar (and have for over half my life) and I sing which is cool I think