#the stages of grief theory

[bird-butch]

it kind of destroys me that kim is the one who's more outwardly affected by chuck's death than jimmy. and it's not because she cared about him more than his own brother did, chuck was never much more to her than her boss (and her partner's brother who was pretty rude to both of them). i'm sure she is sad that he's dead, but she's not really grieving that as much as she's grieving the way jimmy is so clearly in pain but won't allow himself to express it or even admit to it. not even to himself. when she breaks down crying as jimmy reads chuck's letter, it's not about the letter itself. it's the absolute lack of emotion jimmy displays as he reads it. the total disregard for his brother's last words to him. she's breaking down because she's realizing how broken he is in a way that can't be fixed. because he won't even try. won't even admit there's something wrong. and it's not like she's ever viewed him as something to be fixed, like so many others have, she just desperately wants to help him be okay. because she loves him. but she can't.

and then at his reinstatement hearing, she cries again, but this time because he does sound sincere, and genuine. she thinks, here he is. he's finally letting himself grieve. he's finally letting himself move on, by acknowledging the past and the hurt instead of ignoring it. here he is. he's himself again. but then he reveals it was all a performance. he has never been less himself. he's changing his name even. running again, from his past, from himself, from chuck. and he reveals that he thinks of her as a sucker for falling for any of it.

[add1ctedt0you]

Sucker for pain

That's for all the writers who look at jiang cheng and decide to put him through other unimaginable woes. <3 As if his life wasn't rough enough lol.

[swan2swan]

There's a lot to talk about here...

[lexa-ocean]

I have just watched The Amazing Digital Circus ep 2. Got a theory re: Jax

Ok so ppl have been pointing out that Jax seems more 'violent' this episode. However, I want everyone to consider this v brief expression he pulled when hearing about Kaufmo's funeral

I think it's clear he did care about Kaufmo, even if he didn't show it.

My thoughts? He's going throught the 5 stages of grief rn.

Ep 1 was denial, him acting like it was all fine and ignoring the situation

This ep was anger. Him wishing for violence on everyone, dissapointed there was no bloodshed, willing to let the Fudge kill the whole kingdom... yeah, man was pissed tf out

If we're going by that logic, next eps will be bargaining, depression and acceptance. Considering Gooseworx on twitter issued warnings for the whole series, which included "references to suicide"... yeah.

That was all basically bye-

[juliaboudewijn]

I have a completely unhinged theory regarding Dain's signet and it's 90% based on delusion. Let's just dive right in, shall we?

So, I was thinking of a scenario where Dain and Sloane are talking to each other. At some point, Sloane is wondering if she could've saved Liam if she had been there and had her signet already (classic rumination). I don't know if she could tbh, she would have to replace the magic of an entire dragon, and well, I mean, maybe she could get that magic from somewhere, siphoning from multiple people and herself maybe? But naturally, I started wondering if Dain could've saved him with his signet if he had been there. And lo and behold, I found a way.

Dain can read memories, and even though he hasn't done that yet, I believe he would also be able to make people relive their memories. But could he also physically bring them back to one of their memories? Let me explain. Liam died because of the sudden loss of power from Deigh and the emptiness that resulted from that, right? But what I'm wondering is: before he bonded Deigh, he also lived without that power, and his body was fine with it. So, could Dain make him relive a memory from before he bonded Deigh and physically bring him back to that memory, so that his body will revert to a state of being okay without power? In this, Liam would not lose any memories from after that moment, he would still have the same experiences and everything, it's just the mental state of his body that goes back. Or something like that. Idk if this makes sense. Can Dain resurrect people through their memories???? (Well... I mean, they wouldn't be dead yet, so I don't know if this counts as 'resurrection'. I do also believe this theory was related to the idea that resurrection had never been possible. As soon as I read that in book one, I figured it would become a thing.)

Now I don't know if it is realistic to say Dain could've saved Liam (at least I tried...), but maybe just generally bringing people back into their memories for whichever purpose. I mean, I couldn't think of any other reasons why that would be useful, but... idk. Some sort of time travel through memories; sending people back into a past version of themselves in the present (without losing the memories of said present). Kinda like bringing the memories to life. Can we do something with that?

Also, lastly, my reaction when I first thought of this theory was this: "Oh brilliant. Oh it's brilliant. I got tears in my eyes when I thought of it." Thought people might liked to hear that 🤪. I then I wrote it in my notes starting with: "So, his signet is basically useless, right?" XDD To be fair, I did follow that up with an "At least in battle."

I also have some more serious thoughts about Dain's signet, but I'll share that in a separate post.

UPDATE: Part two of my theories is now live! And so is part three.

[i-belong-in-a-retirement-home]

FUCK 2024

THIS YEAR IS S H I T

[notasecrettelepath]

Update!

In this chapter, Eddie starts to Lose It™ (not that he would admit it (it also for sure has nothing to do with buck having a new boyfriend btw)), Buck gets a new couch, and the word "Fine" is repeated 34 times.

Chapters: 5/20 Fandom: 9-1-1 (TV) Relationships: Evan "Buck" Buckley/Eddie Diaz (9-1-1 TV) Rating: M | Words: 36k (slow burn babey)

Chapter Snippet:

Once, at Buck's request, Eddie had watched a documentary about a tribe deep in the Amazon rainforest. When the boys of the tribe reached twelve years old, they could go through a rite of passage to become men. For the rite, they had to put their hands inside gloves filled with Bullet Ants, one of the most painful insect bites on the entire planet. They kept their hands in the gloves as they danced and the ants stung. And Eddie was horrified. As a father, as a son, as a man himself. But he kept wondering about it. Wondering what it’d feel like for him — to earn his manhood through one single ritual. Not having to slowly learn and muddle his way through it. Not having to be repeatedly punched in the face by his failures at it. Thrown into the Texas dirt, dragged through the Afghanistan desert, crushed by 40 feet of Californian earth. The thought made him at ease. Attaining manhood by trading in a few days of semi-unbearable pain. Eddie had had quite a few of those already. But they didn’t make him feel more like a man. He just kept fucking failing.

Read Chapter 5 on AO3.

[crappy-cat-the-tabby-cat]

absolutely reading too far into it but what if the circus gang are going through different stages of grief? Pomni is obviously in denial at first assuming this is a dream, later falling into insanity Ragatha is trying to be hopeful and kind in a hopeless situation probably in bargaining or denial depending on how much she's aware of the situation We really haven't seen Gangle in her comedy mask but with her drama mask she's prone to bouts of despair, kind of in a depressive funk Zooble feels just frustrated and done with everything, no fucks to give but seemingly easily irritated and angry Jax is difficult to classify for me since we don't entirely know what is going on in his head, Jax could be depressed and fucking with everyone else as a way to cope with it all, or he could be angry with the situation and everyone else or completely accepting of what's happening and he does this just cuz similarly i can't really figure out Kinger, he's not exactly sane but from what we've seen he's not really in acceptance or angry with the situation, hope we see more of his backstory later on really

[veinsglisten]

The folklore love triangle

as the ultimate folklore girl, I refuse to believe the folklore love triangle is indeed taylor, joe and potential “augustine”, whoever that is…

I’m in denial

I mean taylor has changed how we view her discography over the past few days

but this just subverts my worldview and hits my core

my mind is fucked, my heart is broken

watching some videos of the long pond session gives you so much context now

like how taylor explained betty and james would end up together despite the cheating but “james really put her through it” and the side eye from aaron dessner says it all, as if he knew what she was going through and was empathizing with her

she genuinely believed they could sustain the relationship at that time but now betty is in the denial playlist…

and in another video she emphasized that james was a fool

and a line from it’s time to go: “or that moment again, he’s insisting that friends look at each other like that”

that speaks volume as to what possibly happened…

and hoax

if you don’t count the lakes, hoax is the closing track

and it is just the saddest

“my best laid plan, your sleight of hand”

“sleight of hand”

“you knew it still hurts underneath my scars

from when they pulled me apart

but what you did was just as dark

darling, this was just as hard”

I can’t…

[iwatcheditbegin]

5 stages of grief and variants with corresponding colors is the new lover house theory

[ru5t]

Tech + Style

[miirshroom]

Marika's Grief and the Shattering

Age of Fracture = Denial

Blessing of Despair = Anger

Age of Order = Bargaining

Age of the Duskborn = Depression

Age of Stars = Acceptance

[monkeymeghan]

So I’m sitting in the recliner, super comfy and settled in, and watching the yankee game. Then all of a sudden out of nowhere the memory hit me of hearing my brother walking up the front steps behind me (the chair is near the door) after 11pm to tell me about mom. Knowing what those footsteps meant. I physically felt my heart drop. I opened the door, looked in his eyes, and fell into his arms sobbing. We were in the doorway and it was freezing outside and he eventually asked if he could come in. He made a comment that “ye golden girls” was on the tv, which it was. Then we sat at the kitchen table and talked and cried. I remember it all so clearly, it’s strange. I was just totally blindsided by this memory, I felt it viscerally in my gut, like it was happening again.

Shoutout to @shortstorylonger for recently introducing me to the ball and box theory of grief. I read up on it and it made a ton of sense. Something in my head clicked with this. Much better than Kübler-Ross’ DABDA, which is factual, but not necessarily helpful. It made me see how this intense pain won’t be so constant forever, even though it feels like it will be.

[vicneedstherapy]

you guys.....HEAR ME OUT-

[psychicbluebirdmiracle]

So matpat...

[squiddlysquoo]

Just heard the news about the Murderbot tv show. I suppose the books will always be there !