#the space i would normally go to 3 years ago is infested with misogynists

[sappho-knight]

i need you all to know. im going insane without a space to talk about my fandom/otp like frfr

[anotherfauxredhead]

The Anniversary

Exactly one year ago, my fallopian tubes were yeeted out for good. My decision to go permanently childfree through sterilization was complete. Twelve things I've realized and noticed in the 12 months since I've gone tubeless:

--on me, the incision scars are now faint. Not completely faded, but you have to look up close to find them. Given that I'm still sporting loose skin from all the weight I've lost over the years, you really don't want to see my stomach. Shame that the docs couldn't perform surgery to remove my loose skin at that same time while I was under lol

--my menstrual cycle did not get wonky post-surgery. There have been a couple months where the cramps were more hellish than I've been used to, and Shark Week's been coming a couple days early the past three months (booooo). But the Red Tide has been manageable. For the record, I haven't been on any birth control (recently) prior to my Bisalp.

--for those wanting to get a Bisalp and are wondering how much time to take off from work, it all depends on the kind of work you do. I work an in-person physical job, so I took 3 1/2 weeks off. (When I was reading up on this on Reddit last year, I kept seeing replies on how the WFH crowd didn't have to take so much time off from work. And I'm all, y'all that WFH don't represent meeeeeeee!!!)

--incels, misogynists, and breeders continue to be mad mad over seeing more women choosing the childfree life (and the bear, too)

--speaking of incels, Harrison Butker is a waste of a wankstain

--BBLs are gross and ugly AF like them Cybertrucks. I know this has nothing to do with kids and the childfree life; I just wanted to get that off my chest and clown all y'all who own either or (even worse) both of them.

--Project 2025 can become a harsh reality if some of you will still choose to protest vote against "gEnOciDe Joe" while ignoring what that convicted felon will do if re-elected (so get out and Vote Blue)

--another reason why I'm (now permanently) childfree: I can shop in peace. No dealing with a whiny brat who'll throw a tantrum on a germ-infested floor when they don't get that video game they want me to buy. No taking up all the space when I roll my shopping cart-sized stroller down an aisle. No needing to buy things for my kids since I don't have 'em and thus I spend my shopping money on mahself!

--another reason why I'm childfree part 2: the perverted uses of AI and how my would-be child could be a victim of a disgusting deepfake. Fake porn has already been made with the likenesses of Megan Thee Stallion and Taylor Swift, and while they have the resources to take legal action, us normal women who could be a target of it may not be so lucky.

--you know the old saying: better to regret getting sterilized than regret having a child.

--someone on Reddit (I know, I know) said that the reason why they're childfree is because they're a woman. It's such a concise statement, but it tells a lot. For us childfree women, not only do we get shit from misogynists and incels for simply being women, we also get shit from breeders who pressure us into having kids so we can also be miserable AF as them. And then there are the politicians who want to control our bodies with their bullshit laws, and the delulu billionaires demanding future wage slaves from us so that their pockets stay fat.

--finally, if you're wondering, I still have NO regrets in doing my Bisalp. I didn't want children before the Supreme Court struck down Roe v Wade and even during the Trump years. Hell, even during the Bush Jr years 20 years ago when many from my generation were dying in a pointless war. It's still satisfying knowing that the Bible-thumping breeders in politics and their draconian ideologies can never trap me. Getting my tubes out was the ultimate "fuck you" to those vile six SC judges who ruled that my body was their choice two years ago. Fuck that noise. I made it MY choice, and those SC judges, the breeders, and the Harrison Butker-types can't do jack shit about it bwahahaha

Anyway, Happy Anniversary to my Bisalp and status of being permanently childfree! 🥳🥂

ETA: oh cool this also my 200th post here yaaay