#the post was about how 2-year-olds and 3-year-olds don't have a concept of gender yet because they're too little

[dimonds456]

hey tumblr, thanks for recommending me a TERF post "based on my likes." I hope the hour I spent blocking as many people as I could bear in the notes is enough of a hint for you.

[texanmarcusdavenport]

Mighty Med Headcanons

Gus

Gus is secretly a Perry. They have a lot in common: weird side character that shows up at the most (in)opportune moments, has an unrealistic variety of skills and resources, a past that's WAY too storied to be true yet somehow it is??, and obsessive behavior over their romantic interests (Perry with Douglas & Gus with Jordan). If they're not related, they'd 100% get along like a house on fire if they did meet.

Gus and Oliver are childhood friends of the "our parents forced us to hang out" variety. Oliver is GOBSMACKED that both his parents like Gus better than Kaz. Like. How??

Jordan

Jordan!! I <3 her. There’s a post going around on here that says she should've been in Elite Force instead of AJ & I 100% agree. She does seem like the type that'd be a surprisingly good hacker... and honestly I just really miss her :(

Her & Daniel(le) would get along. I have no proof I just know it. Troublemakers Inc(TM)

Kaz(imieras)

Pansexual & polyamorous. As long as everyone's having fun he's down for whatever

Transfem genderfluid, he/she/it. Starts by calling itself a woman/girl casually until Oliver's like. Kaz is there anything you want to tell me. & Kaz is like pfffft what no that's ridiculous ha ha Oliver I think I'd know if I was transgender. Then Kaz thinks about it & it's like. Damn it.

It/its pronouns also happen via jokes, she's just like. I'm like if a girl were a bug :) or perhaps a small mammal. Until someone calls her 'it' and she's like. Hm. Kinda slaps.

Doesn't even realize she has dysphoria, just starts acting & dressing more feminine when it suits her & 2 years later she's like. Huh. I haven't been avoiding mirrors lately. Wonder what that's about?

Combined-type ADHD

Dyslexic & dysgraphic. Only got through English by the Grace of God (Oliver). But I headcanon that other than spelling & syntax errors he's actually a great writer when he puts the effort in. He'd kill in public speaking but he'd never do that lol.

If she had a Normo job, it'd be firefighter

Oliver

Trans guy, he/him. He & Kaz are transmasc/transfem solidarity. His mom is more supportive than his dad.

OCD, anxiety, autistic. Gets all 3 from his parents which is part of the reason it took so long to get a diagnosis (both of them just thought getting crippling bouts of anxiety was normal).

Aroallo, specifically cupioromantic bisexual... this is so important to me you don't understand. Oliver is a very codependent character and I think learning to live on his own & not be jealous of his friends would be a great character arc for him.

He & Kaz r so fucking queerplatonic don't even get me started. Do Not Seperate Them.

Skylar Storm

Ace lesbian

She's an alien so I don't think she prescribes to human gender roles like. At all. So she's not really "trans" or "cis", but she does use she/xhe pronouns & mostly describe herself as a woman.

Futch Skylar... futch Skylar supremacy!! Has a sort of complicated relationship with presentation and whatnot, human femininity is sort of the norm for Skylarkind as a fashion trend. Xhe and Experion actually were both ostracized for their presentation (butch/trans Experion my beloved <3). I think xhe prefers more masculine dress but in fun styles and colors because, in her words, "practicality doesn't have to be boring".

Skylar Storm is essentially just a stage name, it started as anickname based on a very loose translation of xyr actual name.

Alan Diaz

Trans guy, any pronouns. Mostly because they're confused by language as a concept.

You know how its a running gag in MM that Horace never taught him how to count past eighty? That, but with language. Horace speaks Arabic, Old Castilian, & Mexican Spanish interchangeably so Alan grew up thinking that's just how people talk. Mix that with random alien languages &, well, they're incomprehensible on the best of days.

Doesn't know they're trans. Like they're trans obviously but if you told her that she wouldn't really understand.

Oliver: so you were, uh, born a girl but you're a boy now?

Alan: no, I'm a boy.

Oliver: yeah, obviously, but like, physically--

Alan: What Normo nonsense are you on about.

And it continues like that.

Polysexual, and if xe were married xe'd be a Wife Guy (positive).

[barrenclan]

for your next music recs post i got a few:

1. “rabbit heart (raise it up)” by florence + the machine is a good one for rainhaze imo. it might work a little better if he was a girl just bc the singer refers to herself as such in the song but other than that it’s a pretty good fit

for the next two, i remember someone tried to recommend an ethel cain song for corm that ended up not being a good fit, BUT i feel like her music in general does match up with the vibes so here’s a couple songs off that same album (preacher’s daughter, def give it a listen if you get the chance) that i feel would fit:

2. “thoroughfare” would be a good one for hush puppy, wild rose, or even slugpelt depending on the context you take it in; lyrically it’s about a girl who falls in love with a smooth-talking guy and they plan to go on the run together. however, if you take it in the greater context of the album (bc it’s a concept album), the guy later turns out to be a serial killer/cult leader sooo you can imagine how that turns out

3. “ptolemaea,” which is a couple songs after the previous one, and sort of serves as the climax of the album; while i’m not sure if there’s a specific character it fits, it ABSOLUTELY fits the overall mood/themes of the story. i wish there was more i could say about it, but this is one of those songs where it’s best if you go in blind. trust me

Eh, I never care too much about the gender of lyrics unless it's actually relevant to the character's meaning. I like it with Redpelt, too, though! Since Rainhaze and Redpelt did have a relationship to each other, maybe they can both be singing the song.

"Here I am, a rabbit hearted girl Frozen in the headlights It seems I've made the final sacrifice" (Redpelt)

"This is a gift, it comes with a price Who is the lamb and who is the knife? Midas is king and he holds me so tight And turns me to gold in the sunlight" (Rainhaze)

2. I did listen to a bit of the Ethel Cain album, though it's not really my taste.

The specific song sounds really great to work with Wild Rose, in the context of the rest of the album. I have described her as a character with wanderlust before, so I imagine she'd want to leave Defiance with Deepdark.

"I met you there in Texas, somewhere on the thoroughfare On the side of the road in some torn up clothes with a pistol in my pocket I didn't trust no one but you said, "Baby, don't run, I'll take you anywhere"

"And then you turned to me and stared into me deep And said, "Well, maybe not, 'cause look at what I've got You might not be my love, but baby, I doubt it"

3. Oh, what an intersting song this is. If I had to assign a character to it I'd say Deepdark, with certain other lyrics in the song as victims of his throughout the years. Specifically the phrasing of "I am the white light" and "[the] wolf, crawling to thee" are very relevant to some imagery surrounding him.

Good old The Moss! I like this song.

"Well, we can all learn things, both many and a-few From that old hunched-up woman who lived inside a shoe Or the girl that sang by day and by night she ate tear soup Or the man who drank too much and he got the brewers' droop"

"Come listen, all ye fair maids, to how the moral goes Nobody knew and nobody knows"

If that song's not on Rainhaze Hell, it prolly should be. He's got a couple of NIN there already I believe. Any angry, edgy, upset song is very Rainhaze. I like the motif of the days feeling like a constant endless drag in this one.

"I think I used to have a purpose Then again, that might have been a dream"

"I can feel their eyes are watching In case I lose myself again Sometimes, I think I'm happy here Sometimes, yet I still pretend"

Never Love an Anchor is actually Slugpelt's theme song, which you can find on the official PATFW playlist! It fits her terribly well.

I could see I Bet on Losing Dogs as a representation of her and Cashew's relationship, where she's continually convincing herself that he'll stay despite knowing in her heart he won't.

"Will you let me, baby, lose On losing dogs I know they're losing and I'll pay for my place"

"My baby, my baby You're my baby, say it to me Baby, my baby Tell your baby that I'm your baby"

Aw, yeah, good call.

"If the rashes sprang to life, would you just let me down? Would you leave those kids again and kick 'em outta town? I guess we'll never know, I'll just be here wondering What made you choose to go? The day you went down to Mexico"

"Now there's time to mend, every broken heart that you left In your gust of wind, no more little ghost I keep around"

[doctor-looneys-remedy]

Related to the last post but on a different tangent:

When I was a kid I ended up wearing the hand-me-downs of every kid in our family. If it was gender-neutral enough to pass, I wore clothes intended for boys also. One of these was a sweater with a college football mascot on it.

I think I was about 7-8 when I was wearing it. I remember the kids at school asking me about it. I didn't watch football at that age and I didn't really even care much about it. I just wore it because it was a sweater, and in my mom's mind, it got her out of buying something for me.

If you have parents that can't or won't buy clothes for you a good chunk of the time, you end up wearing some odd shit and making it work as best you can. Between this and my older cousins introducing me to heavy metal and the whole Satanic Panic of it all, I wasn't really a big symbol respecter to begin with.

Being in the later end of Gen X did nothing to help this. If you were to transport us all to the dark ages, a good significant portion of us would die-- not from disease or being labeled a witch, but by disrespecting people's religious icons and wearing someone's coat of arms upside down and finding it hilarious to paint Bart Simpson over an image of the king.

I think modern society though is getting to the level of dark ages/medieval society with the symbol thing though. Every time I turn around someone has invented a new thing that means a thing that they could have easily just spelled out. A large portion of the time its a meaning that only five percent of other people know about, and then they get offended or act self-righteous and make it a whole thing.

Let me introduce you to a concept: It's called a sign. With words on it.

Signs and words are real things that get your point across clearly. Signs and words aren't going to make you mad because an 85-year-old grandmother doesn't know what that purple spinach leaf means and you somehow assume she would and she should.

I'm being silly here, of course, but it feels like that sometimes. As far as I know there is nothing with a purple spinach leaf as its symbol. YET.

Before you create a symbol about a thing-- ask yourself if it is needed. Or - whether the creation of it is going to result in people in Walmart buying a t-shirt on clearance with something on it, and ultimately, with you huffing about how they should be screening all symbols through google before buying anything. Because, people don't have time to do that, by and large.

Unless of course, you are the kind of psychopath that wants to create symbols so that you can purposefully deride people or look down your nose on them in some future setting for not knowing what it is. Because I ABSOLUTELY believe those people DEFINITELY exist.

When you assume someone is down with a symbol they are wearing or have around in some way, you are making a few assumptions:

1-that they know what the symbol means.

2-they made a choice to have that thing, and didn't have it simply because someone gave it to them and now they have to use it, or they are poor and it was what was easily obtained for free or cheap, or that they had to borrow it from someone else for some reason

3-they care about it one way or the other. I have been stuck in places where I got something spilled on my clothes and purchased a $10 t-shirt that I wouldn't wear regularly. I would think by now we have all seen an exchange where someone says "Did you know that is for... " and the other person just shrugs.

What if you own something that didn't have a meaning when you bought it, but now it does? The multi-colored pumpkins for Halloween come to mind. I have a purple ceramic pumpkin that I bought 15 years ago. Is it supposed to be on me to investigate the meaning of things I already own that have been given meaning years after the fact? I'm not calling out people's causes-you should do whatever good you can in the world. I'm calling out the incessant symbol creation.

And I have to say- pop culture isn't making it better.

Pop stars have teams of PR people who drop Easter eggs on their behalf and coach them into these dangling thread behaviors for their fans to figure out. The cutesy clues about who they are dating or their next video. It's fine for them. They want to keep fans engaged and tapped into their lives, eager for the next project.

Pixar and Disney are pros and inserting Easter eggs into movies, and some other franchises have also done similar things.

Religions don't help.

I was raised in a religion where everyone was always looking for the thing that meant judgement day was at hand.

It doesn't help that a remarkable amount of the adults I grew up around never made it past the middle school levels of maturity about adult romantic relationships (or even teen romantic relationships, if I'm perfectly honest).

I guess all this is to say, it almost feels suffocating. If you are around people who assume that everything you do/say/wear/own MEANS a THING that they are supposed to draw some kind of deep interpretation from, what the hell can you do? How can you just exist? And then society just keeps inventing new shit that means a thing that could easily just be a damn sign.

I'm not autistic. I'm not asocial. I'm not anti-social.

Every society has symbols that mean things. And yes, its necessary for the ongoing functioning of a society. Its important to respect some things. But why is it every SINGLE THING?

And why does every single thing I do have to be taken as having some weird hinty-poo meaning? Why are you as a human being looking for drama and soap opera levels of shit where there probably is none?

Most of us, unless we are really waayaaayyy convinced we are social media important (and trust me, YOU AREN'T) are just paying the bills and making lunch. We aren't doing a thing that means a thing. We are just surviving. We are just exhausted from work and people and things and problems.

Someone wiser and far more respected in history probably has a warning about a society that is too steeped in symbols and symbol creation, and seeing (ahem, creating and spreading around) meaning in every little thing all the damn time. But nothing springs to mind at the moment.

I'll just end with Freud: "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar."

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

(1/6) In advance, sorry if this sounds clipped but I'm rewriting an 11 part ask because that's just too much and it feels like it would be rude to send such a long question. Somehow it's still long. So my background is: mostly used to aro and ace communities, don't have much experience with the lgbt+ community at large (trying to work on that), the way the aro/ace communities break concepts like attraction down really helped me figure out what my orientation was. Questioning my gender now and

(2/6) having a hard time finding resources that help me clarify my feelings instead of making me even more confused. I started researching thinking that they would be similar to aro and ace resources, going to the root of things and saying “What even is attraction, let’s define it” and breaking it down into chunks instead of trying to tackle the whole thing at once (see the split attraction model). Instead I found many lists of labels and pronouns, trans 101 that was at the same time too basic (3/6) and not basic enough, and “Gender is a feeling, masculinity/femininity/androgyny/etc are feelings too, no one can tell you what your gender is but you”. My request isn’t for anyone to tell me what my gender is, I’ll figure that out myself. But I feel I’m lacking the tools to do it. So does anyone have any resources, be they articles/blogs/life experiences and stories written by trans people/etc that breaks things like the feelings of gender as a whole, masculinity, femininity, androgyny,(4/6) agender, and dysphoria down (not coded behaviors or presentation, but what they actually FEEL like. These are the things that I’m most confused about and most want some sort of answer or definition for) in the style aro/ace resources do for attraction/orientation? To figure this out I need some sort of starting point or foothold or anchor for this instead of “it’s a feeling” when I don’t know what that feeling could be. But “Nobody can tell you what you are” sounds much more like defeat(5/6) than freedom to me rn. I’ve heard it said that gender is experienced differently by everyone, and if it’s really just some nebulous unidentifiable feeling that literally cannot be put into words then I can learn to live with the fact I’ll just never understand it, but… it just seems like there HAS to be some sort of commonality in the feeling of gender, the feeling of femininity/masculinity/all the rest that could be prevalent enough to say what that feeling IS and used to help people (6/6) figure out better who they are and who they want to be. For the ones like me who don’t even know what they’re feeling or what they want to be, just that they don’t want to feel like they do now.

Kii says:You’ve got a lot here, and you’re right. Gender is really confusing, and it really is something that 100 different people will give you 100 different answers about. Some people do feel their gender is best described by more visible aspects, such as behaviors, clothing, desired body, hobbies, etc, but some people don’t, and for them, it is just a feeling that isn’t describable, they just know internally what gender they are and can’t always explain why. 

However, just because there are feelings doesn’t mean that everyone’s feelings are the same, like the commonality you’re mentioning. You know the old “how do we know that your green is the same as my green?” Two people could be seeing the exact same item, both agree that it’s green, but how does anyone know that if I saw the same item through your eyes, I would still call it green? Your eyes might be structured completely differently than mine. Your green might be my purple, etc. I think the same goes for the words “masculine” and “feminine”- I can give you words that I associate with each, but a lot of people might disagree. 

Think of a person that you consider to be very masculine (whether they ID as a man or not)- why do you see them as masculine? Is it because of how they dress? What their body looks like? Because they like cars, sports, etc? How they act or other elements of their personality? Do the same for someone who you feel is very feminine (whether they ID as a woman or not). How is your “masculine” person different than your “feminine” person?

Androgyny is usually described as the intersection or mix of masculinity and femininity, so to figure out what you associate with androgyny, you kind of have to figure that out first.

We have a whole page about dysphoria, since that’s a more concrete concept. There are lots of descriptions there on how different people describe dysphoria and how it feels.

We also have this post, which a lot of people have tried to make helpful to questioning people, as well as this ask where various mods described what gender feels like to them.

Harper Says:I would also suggest a broader understanding of gender (and sexuality). You’re looking for a commonality that is not found uniformly in lived/expressed experiences - perhaps you might find it fleetingly, strangely, but I doubt it will come with much uniform clarity. The assumption that there has to be a commonality, a universality, is one that potentially assumes a (purely) medical/psychological account of gender and sexuality. Experiences of gender will necessarily intersect with other forms of systematic oppression: race, disability, and so on; and so each account of gendered experience has to be uncommon.Try instead understanding gender as part of a wider system of oppression rigged to benefit white cis men. In this, bodies, activities, sexualities, (and many other things) are codified and performed within a system of oppression. This is the way as far as I, and many other thinkers, understand gender. When you ask for gender as “not coded behaviors or presentation, but what they actually FEEL like” I think you misunderstand that gender is easily and always both. The performances, the risks, the transgressions, that commonly make up transgender experiences are inescapably coded behaviours - we don’t live in a society that isn’t oppressive. That is why there is such fear and thrill in a trans woman shaving her legs for the first time, or a trans man using the men’s bathroom for the first time. The emotion and feeling wouldn’t be there if such transgressions weren’t coded in a system of oppression that frowns upon such behaviours. Gender is always on some level something that is done and the doing is bound up with being. To strive for a definition that reduces one to the other or excludes one or the other is as far as I understand it, a misunderstanding, and this is perhaps where your confusion comes from.With this understanding I would then say that it is not very surprising that you’re finding dead-ends and confusion by trying to parse an understanding of gender through split-attraction model type thinking. This is a relatively recent way of thinking about sexuality within the LGBT community, (one that I personally find no stock in), butting up against around thirty years of queer feminist thought, and a whole history of LGBT lives and experiences. You will probably find that trying to think through gender in ace/aro modes of thought is an impossible task without this appreciation of transgender history or an understanding of heterosexuality as the oppressive action of gender.I’m not surprised then, that you find defeat instead of freedom; for many, gender is something that is survived. Freedom can only come with the abolition of gender, that is the end of the “material, social, and economic dominance of men and exploitation of women” (Escalante). So to speak of a commonality, perhaps start reading about how these oppressive systems work. Understanding all of this is not an easy task. Below I’ll feed a few pointers on a theoretical level, and as such can throw up inaccessible language. My hope is that if you do struggle with any of it, from here you can google keywords and hopefully find more sources that suit you better.For the theoretical exploration of such see: Judith Butler’s Gender Trouble, and Monique Wittig’s The Straight Mind and Other Essays (see One is Not Born a Woman - I haven’t yet managed to find a pdf for the whole book). Or key words: material feminism, Butler, gender performance, heterosexuality, the straight mind. CW: (this will be quite broad but I know Wittig talks about:) pornography, sexual harassment, slavery.For an account of gender which explores these concepts see Susan Stryker’s My Words to Victor Frankenstein…. In this Stryker mixes a lived personal experience with gender as a trans woman alongside theoretical musings. Key words: transfeminism, transgender studies, transgender rage. CW: surgery, suicide, TERF stuff, pregnancy, birth.I would also recommend investing yourself in transgender voices and histories, so you can see how a varied approach to gender throughout history has been undertaken and lived. How complexities and contradictions have been embodied and embraced complexly by trans individuals. See Paris is Burning for what has become an important moment in LGBT cinema and history. CW death, accounts of violence, mentions of surgery, talk about sex.Also check out One From the Vaults a trans history podcast by Morgan M. Page. (Also available on iTunes, etc. I think.) In this engrossing podcast, Page tells the stories of various trans - or at least gender transgressive - people throughout history, including clips of them, letters, interviews, etc.. It comes with “all the dirt, gossip, and glamour from trans history” and so shows the variety of our trans ancestors throughout history, good and bad, happy and sad; encompassing all different ways of doing gender and different ways of being.In terms of your own personal questioning of gender, I would do as I advised here. Do gender: evoke man, evoke woman, evoke neither. Try things out, see what you feel. Explore yourself and your own embodiment and explore the feelings that arise out of this. At the end of the day, gender isn’t something that originates from books and articles, it is lived and done out in the world.I wish you the very best on your journey!

[it-is-whaat-it-is]

You Don't Have To Be A Big Corporation To Start Profitable Business Ideas To Start With Little Money

As a press reporter at CNBC Keep it who's covered a few of the most extraordinary ways people have made cash online-- including a 28-year-old whose firm has made millions getting points at Walmart and re-selling them on Amazon.com and also a business owner who began marketing board video games out of his living area-- I was curious to discover if it was as easy as they made it seem. Could somebody like myself without any previous experience really start an effective organisation with little time to spare and even less cash? With a budget plan of much less than $1,000, 2 weeks time to introduce something and also a strategy to give away all profits to charity, I laid out to locate the answer. In week one of the experiment, I landed on the idea of marketing crypto-themed apparel. In week two, I bought a domain, created designs to publish on t shirts and set up a Shopify account related to print-on-demand solution Printful to minimize the quantity of labor I 'd have to do as soon as business was up as well as running. I won't have to accomplish, print or ship anything myself. Setting up the entire company-- from site, to styles, to LLC to financial institution accounts-- took about 50 hrs of job and also cost me much less than $600. With the very first 2 components of my challenge complete, I set my eyes on the 3rd and looked to increase advertising and marketing efforts in order to optimize revenues. The first post that increased in the/ r/Bitcoin subreddit a day after launch gathered over 5,000 views. The website traffic brought about one sale, after that 2, after that nine by day's end. After checking the website with sales from friends as well as family on launch day, true sales gathered after uploading on Reddit. And to be fair, it did seem like a dream. Every hr approximately after uploading, an additional Shopify alert would turn up on my phone clarifying that a human someplace on the planet wished to pay $20 for among my t shirts. I also woke up to sales that closed while I was sleeping-- one more $20 in earnings. The dream didn't last long, however. I wore my welcome in other subreddits that weren't as responsive to what was viewed as an advertising ploy. One user commented, "it's getting aggravating, to the stage I do not desire to sustain it lol." One more Redditor, business owner Mubashar Iqbal, even provided to assist profile my shop on Product Search, a website committed to showcasing noteworthy start-ups. It received some attention, but eventually just led to one sale. Checking a very early organisation concept with your target market on sites like Reddit and also Item Search makes feeling when launching, yet it does not contrast to the sustainability and also automation of Facebook's platform, according to Chapman. "Facebook is fantastic to acquire consumers due to the fact that you can sharpen down so hugely well," he states. "The information on each person is impressive. ... Prior to, this type of customer targeting would certainly have cost hundreds of millions of dollars." It's a large component of what Chapman shows in his on the internet advertising and marketing program, Academy of Arbitrage. The initial point that struck me about making use of Facebook Business's advertisement system was that it's remarkably economical. At a minimum price of $1 a day, I might target those who had an interest in cryptocurrency, then better restrict age ranges, gender, income levels and also, you guessed it, political affiliation. Utilizing photos of some of my bestsellers, I had the ability to introduce ads that track when as well as just how frequently individuals click through to my site in just a matter of hrs. It was additionally rather simple to replicate those advertisements over to Instagram. The simplicity of usage might be one reason in a CNBC survey, greater than four in 10 small-business retailers (42 percent) said they had marketed on Facebook within the past few months. Utilizing both, I established a budget of just $3 a day and allow Facebook look after the rest. Unfortunately, the Facebook ads I evaluated weren't consulted with almost the exact same success as the Reddit posts as well as no sales have yet can be found in as an outcome. Chapman ensures me that repeating on advertisements to discover what works is all part of the process. "Let the market decide what t-shirt they wish to put on, reduce all the rest and after that focus on that one driving item," he claims, including that a perfect goal would certainly be returning 3 times the complete amount I invest on ads in earnings. That much at the beginning appears like a soaring objective. After that again-- taking into consideration the reality that three weeks ago all I had was a concept, maybe, simply maybe, there's hope CryptoCrow.co can proceed in its pursuit to deliver the internet's finest crypto garments.

In week one of the experiment, I landed on the idea of marketing crypto-themed clothing. Every hr or so after uploading, one more Shopify alert would certainly pop up on my phone explaining that a human somewhere in the globe wanted to pay $20 for one of my shirts. Making use of pictures of some of my bestsellers, I was able to release advertisements that track when and exactly how frequently individuals click with to my website in simply a matter of hrs. The convenience of use may be one reason why in a CNBC survey, more than four in 10 small-business merchants (42 percent) said they had actually marketed on Facebook within the previous few months. The Facebook ads I evaluated weren't met with virtually the very same success as the Reddit blog posts and no sales have actually yet come in as a result.