#the makeup i'm wearing feels super heavy and gross

[klara-rosa]

on all levels except physical I am a clown 🤡🤡🤡

[weabooweedwitch]

Nah, man, sorry to say that but your mom is straight up blind. That dark lipstick goes super well with your dark hair and light complex. Don’t listen to your mother, and be proud of that fancy and great look you got there! 💅✨

THANK YOU because, ok, there are multiple reasons I'm kind of overly pissed lol. For one, personal opinions aside, it's like critiquing the main core of the idea? It's like, idk, going to a Glass Animals concert and saying "it would have been better without the stoner music" like girl thats the point? Am i phrasing this correctly 🤦‍♀️ its like someone asking how you like their job grooming a dog and you say "oh it would just be better if it wasnt a dog" and adding nothing else

Second, like, this is my first attempt doing a full look all on my own so im already nervous but also all the time and effort? I'm talking cleanser, toner, primer, eyeshadow primer, tinted moisturizer (found one that has like natural medium coverage in my exact shade and I feel like it might be good for my skin vs a foundation? Also just general testing what works for my oily skin), eyeshadow, mascara, a little eyebrow pencil wing for flavor lol, tried and failed at some contour and will have to try that again lol, and the main piece for me at least, the dark lipstick which is transfer proof by the way!! Which is a big win for me because lip products that come off your lips when you do anything are so temporary and just feel, weird? I had to scrub with micelluar water to get this off! (I think it's called Maybelline super stay matte ink lipstick. You have to wait for it to dry but goddamn I literally drank water and hit a bong after putting it on and it stayed soooo well, virtually nothing came off)

But yeah! It's. I think I've mentioned it before but a big part of this is like, I feel like I'm actually legitimately going through a combination quarter life crisis but also a maybe more positive significant shift in how I live my life idk? For the longest time i felt too ugly and heavy and gross and just subhuman to wear makeup and now that I've gotten older and more I guess life experienced and have lost weight I've started getting into it and it's been fun! It's like art you know, and it can be entertaining to find a makeup artists or influencer you like (I like Robert Walsh and his brother James, they're twins, a pro MUA and a dermatologist respectively). They also go from funny to educational so it's just idk, fun to scroll through the sheer mass of content. Also it's kind of just like art and painting when you think about it!

And like I did talk to her and she said I kind of misinterpreted what she said but it's still like, girl, please just lie and say it looks good next time. Like she thought I looked really good but she kept saying "the lipstick is just darker than I was expecting", which, yeah I could have gone more dark red, but I kinda just wanted to try something really dark but not black? I like the look and, ha, my male friend who's approval I've been a little gaga for said it looked good too so ❤️

I hope to make more looks in the future because it was fun, collect all sorts of nice pictures of different colors and styles. This whole deal today that I even put makeup on for was literally just to run errands, like get food and go to a smoke shop, because I don't get out much, but that's also part of the journey is that I hope to get out more and do more activities and wearing makeup during so will be a fun social thing you know? I'm being kind of wordy but you probably get it.

Also! I was inspired by like, this sort of color theory aesthetic video/clip I was seeing where they were showing "dark femininity vs light femininity" so it's like, pronounced brows, sharp/bold/dakr lipstick, bronzer contour, dark or smoky eyes, versus pink blush, lighter colors, glitters and shimmers, highlighted cheeks, you know? So my mom was kind of expecting light femininity when I was doing dark femininity. So her "main complaint" is actually for a look I want to do next 😅 but hey thanks for the support, this is actually so like, fascinating but complicated and nervewracking and also so much is subjective and I'm so unused to seeing myself like this that even though, realistically I looked good, I felt like a painted clown and like, a poser? A loser, idk. But the journey continues on :)

[megan-loves-surveys]

#37.

Do you have a laptop or desktop? Laptop, it's a MSI gaming one.

Do you own any television series box sets? I'm sure I do somewhere.

When did you last receive a hug and who was it from? My Dad, cos I haven't seen my boyfriend today, he's having a boys night with his friends haha.

Do you plan your outfits ahead of time? Sometimes, yeah. I think of something I feel like wearing and plan what day I'm gonna wear it.

Have you ever spent the night in jail? No.

Do you have long hair or short hair? In between, but more on the long side.

How much makeup do you wear on a daily basis? I don't wear it.

Do you have weak upper body strength? Definitely. Not my fault though, I broke my shoulder and ever since, one side of me has been weak. I can't lift anything heavy whatsoever.

Do you think hugs are awkward? Nah.

Do you think facial hair is gross? I LOVE facial hair on guys! Beards are super sexy.

Would you ever dye your hair an unnatural color? My hair is purple and blue :P

What is your favorite band of all time? Five. Love those guys forever <3

Are there any paintings on your wall? Not in my room, but there's a few in the lounge and at the top of the stairs.

What do you think is the best smell in the world? Fresh bread.

How old is your oldest sibling? I'm an only child.

Do you enjoy dancing? Sure.

Can you handle scary movies? Depends.

Would you date someone 5 years older than you? Of course. My boyfriend is 18 years older than me :P

Have you ever been to California? Did you like it? Yep, I've been to LA (twice), San Jose and San Fran. I loved San Jose (the Winchester Mystery House is there, one of the best tourist spots in the USA), LA was fun and San Fran wasn't my thing tbh.

Do you like deviled eggs? Dunno if I've ever tried them.

What is your favorite horror movie? The Ring.

Has a little kid ever fallen asleep on your lap before? No.

What foods can you absolutely not eat? Onions. The texture of them makes me nauseous as fuck, one piece of onion in a meal ruins the entire thing. Also parmesan cheese and all berries except strawberries, cos they give me migraines.

Do you like hot, cold, or lukewarm showers? Hot, but I should stop doing that cos it dries out my skin badly. But in summer, you can't beat a cold shower.

Have you ever taken part in a threesome? Yep lol.

What is your oldest sibling’s middle name? -

Have you ever been to Disneyland or Disney World? No.

Have you ever been the victim of a crime? Yep. Above mentioned broken shoulder was caused by a hit and run from a drunk driver - she hit me in broad daylight and drove off. Police caught her though, she was so drunk she could barely function and didn't even know where she was (it was midday btw). Her license was already suspended, she shouldn't have even been behind the wheel. I didn't attend any court hearings or anything, but I did provide a statement to be read out to the court. She went to court mandated rehab and after that, not sure what happened to her.

What colour are your brother’s eyes? -

Have you ever played a drinking game? Which ones? Yep. Circle of Death is the most remembered one lol.

How many friends do you have on Facebook? 317.

Do you regularly check anyone’s profile online? Nah. Not even my boyfriend xD

Is there anything unusual about your house? We're the last house in a long row of 11, so only us and the one at the other end have a window at the top of our stairs. Unfortunately, the only view we have is to the courtyard of the complex next door xD

What is your favourite type of cookie? I love chewy cookies, and my fave one is chocolate chip.

Have you ever taken care of a newborn baby? No.

Do you snore when you sleep? No.

Who do you (romantically) love? My boyfriend, obviously lol.

Do you wish you could go back and change anything about your childhood? Not really. Maybe not break my femur, lol.

What would your mom do if you told her you were pregnant? Be surprised, cos she knows I don't want kids LOL.

Do you think you have nice feet? Not really.

Where did you get your name? My parents just liked it. It's a variation of my Mum's name, but they didn't know that when they picked it, they found out later on. So it's like I'm named after her, but not really xD

What’s the most unique or exotic food you’ve tried? Dunno.

Who was your first online friend? The first one I'd actually consider a proper friend is Zoe from Manchester, we met on a Blue fanfiction website xD

What’s a condition you have that you haven’t been officially diagnosed with? None.

Do people tell you you have cold hands? Yes. And I do lol.

When was the last time you held an umbrella? The other week, but it was too windy so I put it down pretty much immediately.

Do you feel that the shape of the pasta alters the taste? No.

In games, do you like to roleplay as good or bad? Depends.

Is there an instrument you don’t like the sound of? Anything super screechy xD

Would you rather be a kangaroo or a sea turtle? Kangaroo.

Do you like to get ready in the bathroom or the bedroom? Bedroom.

What’s your favourite Coldplay song? None.

Do you have a favourite insect? Butterfly.

What colour is your ceiling? Grey, like my walls.

Do you own a scooter? No.

When did you last play a Mario game? Who knows.

Are your bedroom curtains long or short? In between.

Have you ever attempted to sculpt something from ice? No.

Have you ever had to wear an oxygen mask? Yes.

What’s your favorite thing you own that YOU made? A mask that I painted when we went to Mardi Gras World in New Orleans, lol. I made it Wrestlemania themed cos that's why we went lol.

[TW: EATING DISORDERS/SIMILAR] Have you ever starved yourself? No.

Has anyone ever had to physically restrain you from doing something? No.

Do you like the pretzel M&Ms? Yes.

Have you ever been accused of thinking you’re too good for something? Dunno.

Have you ever stolen someone’s boyfriend? No.

Do you have a locket? What’s the picture inside of it? No.

How do you react when you feel embarrassed about something? I just laugh it off as best I can, so if I suddenly am just like "hahaha... ha... ha" lol then you know I'm embarrassed.

Have you ever tried to “fix” someone? No.

When’s the last time you were carried by someone? My boyfriend does that all the time, he likes to show off how "strong" he is lmfao.

Are you in possession of any currency that isn’t used in your country? Yes, I found some Australian money the other day and I'm sure some US dollars are around too.

Did anyone witness your last kiss? No.

Do you have any younger siblings? No.

Are you cool with them, or do they annoy you to no end? -

Last person you flipped off? A wrestler xD

Anyone who’s way over-protective of you? Yes.

Have you ever been to a rave? No.

x. What colour are your bedroom walls? Grey.

x. What's in the top drawer of your dresser? There's two top drawers - the left one has underwear, the right one has bras lol.

x. Do you have a rug or hardwood floor? Carpet, but I also have a cute purple rug, it's so soft.

x. What kinds of pictures are on the walls? It's all posters of The Shield guys, both together and solo. There's also a big USA map lol.

x. Is your computer in the bedroom? I have a laptop, so yes.

x. Did you make your bed today? Yes.

x. Are there clothes all over the place? No, they're either on a chair or in the laundry basket.

x. What colour are your sheets? Blue atm.

x. When you walk in the bedroom what's the first thing you smell? Nothing.

x. Do you have a TV in your room? Yes.

x. Are there any full-length mirrors in plain view? No.

x. What's on the table next to the bed? I don't have one.

x. What covers the windows curtains or mini blinds? Curtains, they're grey.

x. What's piled up under your bed? Nothing, my bed goes to the floor.

x. Is your bed brass or wood framed? I don't have a frame.

x. Are the lights bright or dim in the room? Bright but not blinding.

x. Do you use a little plug in night-light? No, I just have a regular lamp.

x. Do you have Buzz Light-year pillowcases? No lol.

x. Do you drink or smoke in your bedroom? Neither of those if you mean booze for drinking lol.

Currently:

x. What are you wearing? Yoga pants, a striped sweater, winter socks and ugg boots.

x. Who are you talking to? Nobody.

x. How is the weather? It's cold and it was raining before, but it's stopped now.

x. What are you listening to? A YouTube video playing in another tab lol.

x. What/Who are you thinking about? I wonder if my boyfriend is having a good time xD

x. What are you eating/drinking? I have my water bottle on the desk, and soon I'll have some chips.

x. What are you looking forward to? Picking up my new glasses & sunglasses on Monday after work! WOO

x. What are you dreading? Going back to work lol

x. How are you feeling? Pretty good, but I'm tired.

x. How is your hair? It's up in two ponytails and is in pretty good shape considering I've used dry shampoo 3 days in a row now lol.

x. What are you annoyed by? I'm in a good mood really lol.

Emotions:

x. What emotion do you feel the most? Content I guess haha. x. What emotion is the best? Happiness of course.

x. Worst? Sadness.

x. What songs make you cry/feel emotional? Oh, loads and loads.

x. What movies make you cry? None.

x. What always cheers you up? Watching funny wrestling moments.

x. What makes you madder than anything? Hypocrites and double standards.

x. What hurts you the most? Lots of things.

x. Who makes you happy? My boyfriend, my friends, my parents, wrestlers etc.

x. Depressed? Hmm...

x. Are you a really emotional person? I can be.

x. What song do you think was written about your life? Dunno.

When Was The Last Time You:

x. Went to the movies? 2022 lol. There's never any movies I wanna see lol.

x. Went out to eat? Yesterday.

x. Cried? The other day.

x. Threw up? I legit don't remember.

x. Peed? A few hours ago.

x. Went skating? A long time ago.

x. Went for a walk? Does walking on the treadmill at the gym count hahaha.

x. Ate ice cream? Yesterday when I had a McFlurry.

x. Got into a fight? Never, if you mean physical fights.

Who was the last person you:

x. Talked to? My Mum.

x. Kissed? My boyfriend.

x. Flirted with? My boyfriend xD

x. Talked to on the phone? My boss.

x. IMed? My Dad.

x. E-Mail? Someone from work.

x. Got flowers from? My boyfriend.

x. Danced with? My boyfriend.

x. Cried over? Hmm...

x. Thought about? Lots of people.

Do you:

x. Do you drink [alcohol]? Yes.

x. Do you party a lot? Not anymore.

x. How often do you use the word "like" in an average hour? I don't keep count.

x. Do you skip classes? -

x. Do you wear inappropriate clothing? Depends what you consider inappropriate.

x. Do you drool over celebrities? Definitely.

x. Do you watch a lot of TV? Not really, I only watch wrestling and soap operas xD

x. Do you ever watch the News? No.

x. Do you read books often? Not as much as I used to.

x. Do you spend most of your time with your friends? As much as I can.

x. Do you hang out a lot in malls? Yes.

x. Do you often find yourself with a crush on someone? Sure.

x. Do you cuss a lot? Too much probably xD

x. Do you spend a lot of time on your appearance? Depends.

x. Do you wear make-up? No.

x. Do you wear low-cut tops? Yes.

x. Do you flip your hair when you talk, even if you don't realize it? No.

x. Giggle a lot? Sure.

In the last 24 hours, have you:

x. Cried: No.

x. Bought something: Yes.

x. Gotten sick: No.

x. Eaten: Yes.

x. Been kissed: Yes, cos I did see my boyfriend yesterday.

x. Wanted to tell someone you loved them, but didn't: No.

x. Met someone new: No.

x. Moved on: No.

x. Talked to someone you have a crush on: Yes.

x. Had a serious talk: No.

x. Missed someone: Yes.

x. Hugged someone: Yes.

x. Fought with your parents: No.

x. Dreamed about someone you can't be with: No.

Personal:

x. What are some of your pet peeves: Hypocrites, double standards, slow internet, badly written wrestling storylines, migraines, cold weather etc.

x. Have you ever liked someone you had no chance with: Yes.

x. Have you ever cried over the opposite sex: Yes.

x. Do you have a "type" of person you always go after: Not at all.

x. Want someone you don't have right now: No.

x. Ever liked your best guy friend: Yes.

x. Do you want to get married: No.

x. Do you want kids: No.

x. Do you believe you know the person whom you will marry at this point in time: -

x. Are you happy with yourself: Mostly.

x. Are you happy with your life: Mostly.

x. Nose or tongue piercing? Neither.

x. Serious or be funny? Funny.

x. Do you have a crush? Yes.

x. Who is it? My boyfriend :P

[rant-2-me]

My mental state has just worsened over the days, though I'm not sure why, and I just feel so unmotivated and lacking any energy to practice any self care other than napping, and also feel anxious because I'm not studying enough.. feel like I'm just 1/4th assing my responsibilities.. And when someone asks me how I'm doing, sometimes I blurt out that I'm not fine, and the guilt I feel afterwards for making them worry, so I find myself withdrawing from initiating conversation with them, even though I really want to, and this makes them worry about me more.. I just don't know anything anymore, everything feels too much, yet I can't rant in a clear conscience without feeling guilty for bothering them, and thinking how I don't deserve to complain because they have had so much worse (yes I know pain is relative, but I feel so horrible, like a whiny child, who doesn't know how to be content with her blessings)......

Sorry I know it's a lot.. feel free to delete it if it's triggering or making you uncomfortable in any way... I just needed to get it out..

My lovely nonnie, im so, so glad you sent this ask. and got it all out of your system. yeah this sounds cheesy but like ive been there, with not knowing how to reach out—im proud you had the courage to send this ask. girlboss vibes.

also this ask took a while to answer and im so so sorry about that, but I didnt want to do anything less than the best for you, so let's just jump right in <[:)

Lacking motivation, god I've been there, but doing self care is super super important so here is a how-to, hon.

How to do selfcare when you’re not motivated to:

1. Be a little “gross.”

Gross is in quotes because it’s so subjective, but you undoubtedly have a few behaviors you consider kind of gross regardless. Now’s the time to do them without judgment. For me, that’s meant showering less, eating weird food combos (sometimes in bed), and letting my brows and mustache grow magnificently unruly. For you, it could mean doing something you normally judge yourself for or cutting back on activities you only do for the benefit of others. Now is not the time to allow “socially acceptable” behaviors to rule you.

2. Eat whatever the hell you want.

This should be a rule always, but I’m not going to pretend there aren’t societal, social, and personal pressures that go into why we eat what we eat. Try to shut down the voice that judges or polices what you’re eating right now. We’re in the middle of a goddamn pandemic. If dinner has to be some slices of cheese and deli meat eaten in front of the open fridge, so be it. If you have a lot of cravings and are snacking more than you normally would, cool. If pre-pandemic you decided you were going to stick to a certain meal plan and it’s just not happening anymore? Don’t beat yourself up.

Yes, what we eat is connected to our mental health, and I don’t want to discount that—but if the stress of eating healthfully is making you feel like crap anyway, whether that’s because you can’t fathom cooking or don’t have the means to shop for certain foods during isolation, just eat the sleeve of Oreos and try again another day. It’s okay.

3. And wear whatever you want.

Or, more realistically, wear whatever you can. Even if it means wearing the same ratty sweatpants for a whole week. Or month. Maybe you started all this out aspiring to get dressed every day to work from home productively, or maybe you have a whole collection of comfortable loungewear you feel guilty for not utilizing. Whatever arbitrary rules and expectations you’ve set for yourself, you can throw them out.

On the other hand, maybe you need to quiet the voice that tells you there’s no point in getting dressed or feeling presentable. If it helps, by all means, play with your look, wear awesome or weird outfits, do your hair and makeup or whatever activity might feel a little silly given your current reality. In the middle of a pandemic, nothing is a waste of time if it makes you feel good.

4. Use shortcuts to avoid creating chores.

In my first week or so of working entirely from home, I was baffled by just how messy my apartment got. How on earth were so many messes piling up when I wasn’t even doing anything but working, sleeping, and eating? I hadn’t realized it, but a lot of my small tidying routines had become casualties to the pandemic. And, it turns out, slacking on the little ways I pick up after myself every day (such as doing the dishes right after I use them) added up quickly.

Instead of forcing myself to stick to the same levels of tidiness that I used to maintain, I’ve found shortcuts. For example, I use paper plates and plastic cutlery when I feel too fatigued to wash dishes so they don’t sit in the sink for days on end. Or I stick to the same two “outfits” to avoid clothes piling up when I’m too depressed to put them away every day. If you can find a small way to go easy on yourself, even if it feels a little wasteful or indulgent or gross, it’s okay to tap into those shortcuts right now.

5. Be kind to yourself if your place is messy or dirty.

I won’t lie: I’m someone whose space impacts my mental health a lot. Typically, keeping my apartment clean helps keep my mental health in check and letting my apartment get gross makes me feel worse. That’s still true in a lot of ways, but to adapt I’ve been trying to be mindful and accepting of where I’m at. And it’s…helped?

It turns out that taking the pressure off does a lot to mitigate the guilt and some of the other negative mental health effects I usually experience. In practice, it involves a lot of talking to myself. Instead of seeing my apartment turning into a depression cave and immediately thinking, “Oh, God, I need to clean up, this is so disgusting, I’m a monster for living like this, of course I feel depressed,” I go for kindness. I think (or even say out loud because, well, desperate times), “Of course my apartment is a mess right now. I’ll get to it when I get to it. I can handle the mess for now.”

6. Accept your new sleep schedule.

idk anyone whose sleep hasn’t been screwed in some way by all of this. Anxiety, depression, fatigue, pent-up energy from sheltering in place, tech use, new work responsibilities, screwy schedules…pretty much every aspect of our new reality can impact our sleep. Some people are sleeping a lot more, some are sleeping a lot less, and some are cycling through both extremes. Oh, and the temptation of naps! It’s all there.

Trying to maintain a healthy sleep schedule during all of this is a worthy endeavor—and more power to you if you’ve figured out how—but there’s a good chance that it feels impossible.

By “accepting” your new sleep schedule, I don’t mean pretending it doesn’t suck; I mean doing what you can to be gentle on yourself about it. For me, acceptance has looked like watching some comfort tv and reading my favourite books at 2 a.m. instead of staying in bed and anxiety-spiraling about how I can’t sleep. Is it ideal? No way. But I’m not going to waste energy stressing about something I currently can’t control.

7. Give yourself plenty of room to do absolutely nothing.

I’ve given myself permission to do a whole lot of nothing. That includes getting rid of the pressure to be productive and practice self-care, yes, but in a broader sense, it also means not forcing myself to actively “adjust” every day.

Some days, I just need to do nothing but feel my feelings. Or avoid feeling my feelings. Or stare at the ceiling. Give yourself space to do (or not do) whatever you need to.

also, nonnie? my love?

Never feel guilty about telling someone who cares about you when you don’t feel okay.

People who genuinely care about you—and I’m sure they are many—will care if you aren’t feeling good, there are always going to be people who care about you, who want you to be okay, that’s why they ask, why people make rant, why “how are you?” is such a common question.

But if you do need to talk, but you feel like you’ll “burden” people who you do talk to, here’s a guide to ranting.

Guide to ranting:

1. Pick the right person. Someone who’s in the right headspace to listen to you, you could also pick someone who cares about you—if you’re anxiety tells you nobody cares about you, pick someone who “should” care about you in your relationship, e.g: a friend you’ve had for a long time, a friend who’s told a few of their problems, or friend you might not feel close with, but seems very kindhearted and a good listener.

2. Pick the right time to talk to them, so you can have their undivided attention. If they are busy—as most people will be with something—they’ll have a hard time giving you good advice and listening to you. Ask them when they are free, and then ask them:

3. “hey, can we talk? I’m not mad or you or anything, it’s just that I have been not feeling great, and I just want to rant to someone about it.” and “No pressure to say yes, you might have your own stuff to do deal with.” to make sure they are the right person to talk to.

4. It’s ok to test the waters. Start slowly, you don’t have to share everything at once if you don’t want to.

5. You never know how your friend will react to what you say.While you can’t know how they’ll react, just remember that sometimes people’s initial reactions may come from a place of shock, surprise or not knowing what to say. Their initial reaction isn’t always their longerterm reaction, it may just take them a little time to process.

6. Look for ways to take action. Don’t get me wrong, ranting can be amazing for you, but on its own may not solve your problem.

But maybe venting to people isn’t for you. No matter! There are other ways to get out emotions:

Ways to rant without talking to anyone

1. Cry it out— simple and rewarding. When the baggage is just too heavy to carry cry it out. It can help you ease the pressure and ease your mind to think straight after days of holding that frustration in.

2. Work out — easy and fun. tire yourself out and release all the frustration in working out! This is going to be so satisfying for you as you try and punch, kick, balance, lift, and breathe those frustrations away.

3. Clean & rearrange — practical and can be fun. we get frustrated by so many things and one thing that can truly help clear our minds is to have a clean place where we can stay and live for the moment to breathe. Clean your room, rearrange your things and you’ll be surprised by the satisfaction this brings — a signal of a new beginning.

4. Scribble — simple and fun. Make scribbles, doodles, drawings, take a pen or a pencil, and let go. It does not have to be “good” art or professional at all. Just draw whatever comes to heart, sunflowers or clouds or rainbows—anything.

5. Write it down — fun and simple. Let those words out of your head and just live in the moment.

How to fight the lack of motivation.

1. Don't fight the lack of motivation.

If you feel down or unable to muster tons of energy, let it be ok. Be easy on yourself and acknowledge that it's ok to have a dip, especially at this time of the year.

2. Once you have accepted your slump, get to the bottom of it.

Ask yourself, "What is the root cause of this sluggish feeling?" Go deeper than the obvious reasons. Is it related to work? Your personal life? Relationships? It might also just be the weather. Get clear on what areas of your life you're feeling the most resistance.

3. Dig into that area. What is not ideal about this aspect of your life? What would make it better?

Make a list of how you'd like your current situation to improve--and be specific. If you truly can't find a reason to be less than enthusiastic, then accept your feelings and let them pass with time.

4. Take your list of what is missing and go through it.

What is holding you back from being able to create the things that are missing in your life?

5. Get support for creating the life you want.

Do some research and find an expert to help you. Even though they love you, friends and family aren't objective enough, and they tend to give advice that is a reflection of their own life and insecurities.

6. Think of current habits that are contributing to a less-than-ideal life.

Maybe it's fear, laziness, or not having enough confidence. Pick one to focus on.

7. Address this habit over the next 2 months.

They say it takes 28 days to create a new habit, but this varies from person to person. If you focus on it for two months, you are sure to build the neural pathways needed to call it a new way of being.

8. Buy a book, read articles or do some research on this particular behavior or feeling.

Read about the common causes of this habit as well as the proven ways to bust through and work around it.

9. Create a plan around shifting your current habit.

Make sure that changing this habit ultimately helps you move forward in the area of your life that is not ideal. The energy from clarity, awareness and then action will immediately get you feeling more motivated, no matter what.

10. When all else fails: make a list of activities that excite you, and do one of them right now.

Talk to a fun friend, dance around at home, workout, watch a funny YouTube video, tackle something on your to-do list. Accomplishing something will give you a hit of dopamine in your brain. If you're too overwhelmed by your day, sit for five minutes and meditate. Put on some soothing music and breathe.

okay, that's all nonnie, I hope you feel the lust for life in your lungs, please have all my love, i hope this helped, this ask took a while, but it was worth if it helps

and if you need to dont worry to send another ask, if you like spam the inbox!! queen!!!

take care, much love my sweet honey, bye <3

—*putting daisies in your hair as they leave* mod peppermint <[:)

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my skin has been freaking out lately and i'm fairly certain it's just cause of PMS/hormones but nothing I do seems to be calming it down and it's such a shitty feeling being this out of control because my skin is usually low maintenance and i take good care of it. any advice or tips of what you'd do if your skin was being angry and sensitive and gross? like at this point, i'm just moisturizing but even that doesn't seem to be appeasing the skincare gods.

Hi, anon! all the usual not-an-expert disclaimers aside, I do have some basic advice. Also keep in mind that the seasonal change is notorious as well for wreaking havok on skin. 

So my skin has a tendency towards angry bc it’s super dry and also sensitive and occasionally it just loses its mind for no reason I can ascertain. 

So I got you. You generally want to avoid actives and scents at this time. You want a very gentle cleansing and toning routine and a very neutral moisture and sunscreen and leave it alone otherwise. 

I am a real fan of the double-cleanse bc I *know* you use sunscreen and double-cleansing, at least at night after sunscreen, is kind of a must if you want to fully cleanse that out. 

So I recommend a gentle oil/balm cleanser. My current beloved is Heimish’s all clean. (x) It runs about $14 a tub and if you don’t do a heavy night routine you can use it at night only and only do a second cleanser (or just water) in the morning. It is dynamite on all makeup, including waterproof and eye makeup and matte lipsticks, too. But it feels so nice on the skin and is amazing at clearing out the day’s ugh and sunscreen and sebum. 

During night and day, your second (or only in the morning) cleanse can be Ceravé’s Hydrating Facial Cleanser which you can get in a truly huge pump for under $20 at Target and is super super gentle and effective. 

For gentle skin care, I strongly recommend Pyunkang Yul’s essence toner. Buy the 200 ml bottle; it’s a much better deal. It’s super hydrating and plumps up the skin and makes it feel much less stressed. My mom was hooked in one day and swears by it and she is the most skeptical of skincare people. $14 (x). This entire line is extremely soothing, and has no scents or frills likely to mess with your skin’s balance, so no skintertainment but all good stuff. I find their creams a bit heavy but maybe good for going into the harsh winter. Their moisture serum is good but feels more like a light moisturizer than a serum to me which makes their dropper application a bit awkward. But if you want a super light moisturizer, that works. 

If you want a nice lightweight but true moisturizer that isn’t going to trip your skin up, Nature Republic’s super aqua max, at $11 is great  (x) and comes in versions for combo, oily (fresh) or dry (moisture) skin types. If you just want to go to Target and pay a bit more for a really nice product with a similar gel moisturizer feel, make p:rem’s hydrate me ($29) is pretty great and super gentle. 

And for a sunscreen with no white cast that actually feels like skincare, I’m putting in a huge plug for bioré’s aqua rich watery essence 50spf PA++++. it’s $16 for 155ml and honestly feels like a moisturizer and wears like a primer under makeup. It’s amazing. (x)

Less is more when your skin is losing it, so I’d stick to a basic routine like this. After it equalizes for a week or so maybe slowly start working your usual stuff back in or if you find you like this routine, stick to it. 

I hope you find this useful!