#the idea of a world where gender doesnt impact anyone or mean anything

[technicolorxsn]

going thru a terf blocking spree and it hurts seeing these somewhat intelligent women throw logic and reason out the window purely to hate people

[nonspector]

𝐑𝐎𝐌𝐀𝐍𝐂𝐄 𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐃𝐂𝐀𝐍𝐎𝐍𝐒

NAME: kougami shinya  ALIAS: kou , hound 3 , shepherd 2 , guarding 2 GENDER: cis male ORIENTATION: bisexual PREFERRED PET NAMES: he doesn’t really give nicknames. he’s more likely to refer to his S/O by their last name or their title (inspector/enforcer, for example) than he is to give a nickname. after becoming comfortable with someone, either platonically or romantically, he might shorten up their name (for example, gino instead of ginoza). and there’s always the rare potential that he might give someone a nickname with some specific incident tied to it, but really... nicknames are pretty rare. that isn’t to say he’ll mind if his S/O has one for him. he’ll probably enjoy it, and think it’s cute.

RELATIONSHIP STATUS: main-verse, single. but has a canon based ship with akane @enspector (he’s in love w her in p much every verse tho.. her impact). also a ship w sasayama (@sasayamas)  FAVORITE CANON SHIP( S ): kougami / akane (@enspector) . kougami / sasayama (@sasayamas)  .  FAVORITE NON-CANON SHIP( S ):  omg ship w me cowards OPINION ON TRUE LOVE: it isn’t really something he’s considered a lot. he’s always had something else on his mind, and hasn’t really formed a solid opinion on love in general. he’s willing to indulge the idea of true love, and definitely believes love is real (neurological con job or not), but he doesn’t have a strong opinion on it one way or another outside of that. he’s Busy. he doesn’t spend his time pondering the concept of true love. love will come when it comes, if it comes, and he’s content with that. he’s not concerned with it, either.  OPINION ON LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT: he believes in lust at first sight, or even infatuation at first sight. he believes you can find someone interesting after only knowing them for a few minutes. but love at first sight? no. love is too deep and emotional and he would honestly think that anyone who Does believe in love at first sight is probably very......... flimsy HOW ‘ROMANTIC’ ARE THEY: because he has such a distant idea of love in general, he’s not really romantic in the traditional sense. all of his affection, his signs of love, his “romantic” gestures, tend to be pretty subdued if they happen, and are only obvious to the person who he’s being romantic with. big romantic gestures aren’t really his thing. he enjoys the quiet moments where you can talk with someone for hours, or sit comfortably in silence. he likes the quiet little shows of affection. the brush of hands in the hallway. the little smile he reserves only for that one person. the look he shares with someone when everyone else is busy. private jokes, little but important moments. in private, he can be much more physical with his affection, but it’s still not necessarily...... Romantic? it is, in his own way, but it’s not Wooing. by that point, the emotional connection between him and that person should be deep enough that these little moments Mean something. anything more than that, he doesn’t really participate in. he wouldn’t mind it if he received it, i guess, but its just?? not smth he does. but just because it’s a subdued and quiet kind of romance, doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. he just shows it in ways that are private, and reserved only for the person he cares about. he’s not showy. IDEAL PHYSICAL TRAITS: physical traits are secondary to personality, and it’s not something he really concerns himself with. (he does like thicc girls tho)  IDEAL PERSONALITY TRAITS: intelligence , sense of justice , open mind , “ability to keep up a conversation” , kind ( that doesnt necessarily mean nice ) , rational but passionate . secondary :  a little mystery sometimes , a fiery nature , willingness to break the rules if it means doing the right thing . he likes a puzzle , or someone who surprises him   UNATTRACTIVE PHYSICAL TRAITS: bad hygiene . UNATTRACTIVE PERSONALITY TRAITS: destructive ( like makishima ) , cruelty for cruelty’s sake , ignorance ( especially willful ignorance ) , irrationality , unjust , unkind 

IDEAL DATE: he likes private dates . usually in a calmer atmosphere , so he can actually get to know the person .  while he doesn’t necessarily mind a crowd ,  it’s not what he would prefer if he was on a date with someone that he actually wants to know better and be with .  staying in with dinner is more ideal than going out to a club , for example .  DO THEY HAVE A TYPE:  people who want to do the right thing . interesting people who keep him on his toes . people who have similar goals / values to himself . the occasional stupid bitch who covers up everythin with humor :pensive:  AVERAGE RELATIONSHIP LENGTH: there aren’t any “canon” relationships that i can really think of , though i headcanon sasayama ( his first real long term relatonship ) and him to have lasted about 10 months to a year before they broke it off . outside of that, i think he’s only been in casual relationships without much emotion involved .  PREFERRED NON-SEXUAL INTIMACY: NAPPING , simply being in the same room together comfortably , doing different things but still Together , or sitting close and doing something together , discussing any number of topics , working out / sparring tbh , laying together and jus Chilling  COMMITMENT LEVEL:  whewwww.... see hes got the Potential for commitment but??? He Built Another Wall? He Built Another Wall. but once u’ve got him, u’ve got him forever (unless his arch enemy gets in the way first and he goes after him and has to go into hiding, But) OPINION OF PUBLIC AFFECTION: ehhhhhhhh... he doesn’t really initiate it, and it’s not his favorite thing in the world . he prefers to keep that private . he wont complain, but he wont start it either. like i said above, little hand brushes, shared looks, standing a little closer to the person than he would otherwise. he prefers That. PAST RELATIONSHIPS: kougami and sasayama are canon to this blog (it explains a lot, like kougami’s strong reaction to sasayama’s death when undoubtedly he’s faced tough cases before, his obsession with revenge, etc.), and akane ( @enspector ) and kougami...... Had Something. they might not have been together, together, but there was tension and something building there ( hes in lov w her n u can fight me on tht one ). TAGGED BY: @enspector I LOVEE UUUUUUUUU

TAGGING: anyone tht wants to im tired

[sorin-sunchild]

You were trying to be funny but it's actually super rude the way you trashed peoples rights to invent whatever au they want who actually gives a fuck if eds and his wife had a daughter or kids and saying that it being a daughter makes it a self insert is also really rude and makes huge assumptions just because your a girl doesnt mean that everyone here is a girl you should just keep your opinions to yourself if youre going to gatekeep the fandom

Wow.  Okay. First of all, I guess I did say ‘come at me’ but I didn’t expect y’all to be so rude.  I’ve said it many many times, but fiction DOES impact us. It impacts our thoughts, how we see certain groups and situations and how the world is shaped around us. It shows us the writers thoughts and peoples reacts and consumption of it can show us what they think about certain things. For example, Eddie’s queer coding and it’s significance actually outweighs an individuals ‘rights’ to ‘do whatever they want’. It’s presented in a very particular way that people identify with. Also, I’m a dude. I know this fandom is full of all genders, but it also has a large female fanbase because surprise surprise, a LOT of fanbases have a huge female following and a LOT of the these fandoms are almost run by these girls in terms of such art, fanfiction, cosplay and inventing AU’s. When a person invents an AU where the gender matches their gender, it’s not always a self insert but usually is. I made that post because the few times I saw this AU and yeah a few is enough to give me an opinion, the poster or reblogger was an girl. I wasn’t trying to be ‘funny’ in my post, but in a self aware kind of way was getting my opinion out whilst releasing and knowing that I have no power over what people do and that there was a glimmer of goodness in there (exploring various situations of coming out late in life) that just doesn’t fit Eddie and glosses over the importance of the way he displayed his own queerness for the sake (for some) or just feeling a bit more included.  Self inserts are important to the individual and can even write a whole story. Heck, King himself has over half his stories in which the main character or one of is just Stephen King version This One and it’s really obvious.  So again, I can’t stop anyone doing anything and I’d never bring it to them, but I’m allowed to say I don’t like a particular AU and the reasons that I don’t like it in any format I wish just as much as you’re allowed to come into my anons and say your piece. So I hope by the end of us, both of us are equally fulfilled because honestly the post isn’t even that serious or popular so you must have really been pissed about someone not agreeing with you.  I repeat also. Media is not meaningless. Some things are improved by the ideas of others, especially negative aspects. Some things are better left well alone. Everyone differs and should be allowed to differ. Disagree politely. 

[lilietsblog]

this post is going to get 0 notes i know and am not bitter about it at all. anyway fuck all of you im not putting it under the cut

...so reblogging that post about Chinese culture has brought my thoughts back around to my own individualism ideal

it's this romantic image stuck in my head ever since i first started getting my own interests and aesthetic and social circle and music taste (so, ~14)

like. it's not All That I Think Is Good In Life, in fact i have another romantic image, more recent, that... well, not opposes, but complements it to a whole world? anyway that's a different thing

this one is older and sometimes I feel like its an immaturity thing for me but also the more i grow up and analyze it the more i understand how important the core of it is to me

it's an image that comes from songs. russian 'minstrel' songs. filk? folk rock? whatever. they are a thing. and in them there's a thing - a romantic image of a 'minstrel'. obviously these girls (almost excusively girls) are talking about themselves (and grammatical gender wise the minstrel is usually male but also they absolutely mean themselves and its one part sexism one part breaking down gender boundaries I M H O bc just because the world minstrel is male doesnt mean the person it refers to has to be... ANYWAY)

...so yeah, a minstrel. its actually a pretty extensive and specific image. im not sure if its accurate to anything historically, and obviously its not accurate to anything about these people in real life. its a romantic ideal like i said and i have 2 separate OCs based on it with love and care as a deeply secondary but still important part of their design

The Minstrel is a wanderer. He (imma use he for now bc grammatical Russian gender and im gonna slip into it anyway. just imagine its a gender neutral he) doesn't stay anywhere for long. He does not have permanent employment. He does not own property other than what he can carry on his back. He usually doesn't even have a horse or any other means of transportation because he's pretty much dirt poor.

The Minstrel earns money by performing - making up fiction, retelling existing fictional stories, retelling existing historical tales, fictionalizing recent history, etc. If he performs for the wealthy, in castles and stuff, he is usually treated like dirt. Always -this- close to being killed for rudeness towards his hosts. He does not have a permanent patron. If he performs in front of the general public, he's usually able to make ends meet much better, and will often be universally beloved. He will often spread revolutionary ideas, put himself in danger via political stuff in various other ways, spread truth where it is suppressed. Tell the tales of people who aren't normally remembered, tell the other side of the story. One very particular variation probably based on a specific story that I just don't know is a minstrel who inspired a rebellion, then it was quashed with extensive cruelty, then the minstrel was cursed by the people for bringing all that about and must now wander forever, mute. Or something. I know it from like three separate songs, they are very beautiful but not very specific.

An important part of The Minstrel archetype is that he is like this by choice. He might have a home, property, everything, and then just spontaneously abandon it and go be poor. (Obviously the minstrel is able-bodied and able-minded enough to afford to do that. Although historically at least some people the archetype was based on were blind / otherwise disabled, and earned money by singing because they didn't have any other way. Never said this archetype was unproblematic) A minstrel might abandon his lute (or another musical instrument, personally I favor the guitar, sometimes a flute is featured, but the lute is archetypical) and go fight in a war to defend his country. This is a tragedy and a great unfairness. Usually the minstrel will die because he is a musician and not a soldier. It's a conscious sacrifice, nobody can CONSCRIPT a minstrel. Like, he just won't come and there's nothing you can do about it. (A more cynical variation is a young silly minstrel who is TRYING to die a beautiful death and succeeds, except nobody things it's beautiful they just facepalm and go 'well that was tragic and useless')

I have heard like... one whole song about multiple minstrels travelling together. I think the basic idea is that they meet people, then part again, then maybe meet again, like waves, from time to time. Randomly running into each other, spending like a whole week together, then parting until next time is the name of the game here.

All those are surface attributes. They are easy to gather, and I'm not a particular fan of all of them... it's harder to talk about the core of it, the thing that makes me love this despite everything that is wrong with it.

The Minstrel is an individual who is, for the most part, entirely without attachments in all the new places he goes. He does not have friends waiting, he does not have anyone waiting. Nobody knows his name until he introduces himself. Like, okay, maybe they've heard of him, but they won't know it's him until he tells them, and they might not believe him if he does. (A minstrel whose face is actually well known, who is relatively well off and can afford to travel with like... a bodyguard - he's a separate thing, he's not this trope)

There are many stories that imply that when people are utterly alone, when nobody is there to know about their existence, the reality sort of cracks under them, and they fall through, and they might as well have never existed. This trope takes that and says a hard NO. If a tree falls in the woods and nobody is there to hear the sound, the tree itself is still an observer. The Minstrel is somewhere alone, on his own, with nobody's viewpoint to support his existence other than his own, and it's good enough. It's valid. In fact, The Minstrel EARNS HIS LIVING by being just that - a living viewpoint. He tells stories, he shares his perspective. HIS PERSONAL knowledge and understanding is what he brings to the world, and it is valuable. He bears witness. Sure, he can have personal relationships, friendships, but he will leave them and go further forward in a heartbeat. His primary relationship with the world is that he /knows/ the world, and that he /tells/ about it. And the reciprocal relationship is that people know HIS STORIES. If he goes to a new country and hears his own song sung by people there, that is reciprocation, that is validation. He as a physical body does not need to be acknowledged, his presence in other people's minds is via the impact he made, and he himself might as well be a ghost.

(Yet, his physical body doesn't 'not matter'. It matters to HIM, and that is enough. He is a thing in himself, a complete entity, and he doesn't need to see his reflection in mirrors to know himself.)

(The Minstrel can very well be too vain, conceited, or alternatively, filthy and uncouth. In stories that feature echoes of this archetype, it might very well be a conflict that he is All That yet entirely unpleasant to interact with as a person. AND THAT IS OKAY. You might in fact want to try and murder him, and you might even be absolutely justified in doing just that, but you've still just killed a unique person, snuffed out a valuable existence. Hope it was worth it, you murderer.)

The story of The Minstrel is, to me, a story of self-worth. A story of your own story being valuable, no matter who you are, no matter how you are. Just existing, just experiencing things, it already makes you someone of worth. And yeah, the minstrel /tells/ his stories to make his living, but the only reason it works is because HIS STORIES HAVE WORTH. The service he performs is not so much that he sits and talks all day, it's that he travels, that he /listens/, that he /watches/. That he hears others' stories and gathers material for his own. Just being an observer is his profession.

It's... I don't know. I think this is an important ideal to have in mind, an important extreme to acknowledge, no matter how flawed particular incarnations of it might be.

It deserves to be a thing.

[ryanjamessalmon]

16/01/2018 - 3:42am - beautiful

how do you make a difference in a Life. how do you possibly fulfil such a futile desire to change the world

i dont think im that different from other people. we’re all organs held together by muscle and bone with blue blood that keeps us all alive. I remember when i found out that blood is actually blue and its only when you get cut and the blood reacts with the oxygen in the open air that it turns red. The explanation was cool i remember, but i wasnt surprised by it bc there were plenty of times where i could see the subtle blue lines on the inside part of my wrist where my arm becomes my hand. so when i heard that the blood thats inside of our bodies is blue it made sense. My blood is the same color as whoever may be reading this. different dna, different blood types, different a lot of shit but when it comes down to it how different are we? All of us, i mean. Man, short for human, not indicative of any kind of gender or whether or not you have a dick. When i say man, i mean human, so all of you who are sitting with you finger on the trigger ready to say how my perspective is flawed based off of irelevent by-thoughts in this post, chill.

Do you want to be somebody or do you want to die without anyone remembering who you are after youre gone? there are people that have the world’s attention and you sit at home on youre computer watching other people’s lives because youres is exceptionally unextrodinary. I dream of people looking at me and deciding that they can do anything. I see myself as someone other kids watch interviews of and feel as if I am the only one who sees what they mean. How do you reach that kind of notoriety? what do you have to do to be somebody? If youre looking for the answer youre looking in the wrong place, but i feel like the fact that you stumbled across this post is a good sign. I cant tell you what you have to do to quench the longing for an impactful Life, but i can tell you that youre only gonna find it looking inward.

Theres a lot going on in the world these days is what it seems like, but at the same time when is there not a lot going on? 100 years ago cars were revolutionizing travel, black people couldnt sit in certain locations if white people didnt want them to, Women were “seen as equals” but they weren't allowed to have a say in any kind of decision on a national scale. I’m not about to research the late 1910′s to paint a vivid picture of what was going on, but the point is that the feeling of being a very small fish in a world sized pond was probably not that far off from what im feeling now. If you let me sit until i think of something i can do to be somebody on a global scale then I’ll die before i stand. Jesus did it. DaVinci did it. Its possible, ya know. but to be honest to impact the world is overrated. No one ever appreciates you until you die and even though lots of people will be impacted by your Life, you never get to meet these people. You dont get to know them and know how there Life was before compared to how their Life was after you came into it.

Its the connection, the feeling of being something more than a common face that people want. The chance to give someone else what they might not ever know by themselves. But you dont have to be famous to be somebody. you dont have to do anything extraordinary for humanity, or create something that changes culture. The man that gives the 25 year old an investment so he can start his own business is somebody to that 25 year old. the grocery store clerk who doesnt ring up the 5 packages of diapers for a struggling single mother is somebody to that mom. because theres more than one way to make an impact and be somebody. you dont have to have any skill. no special talent required. A single gesture can make you a main character in somebody’s Life. To change the world is an often sought dream that is never the journey anticipated. but to change a Life; to give another living person, no different from yourself, something that they wouldnt have otherwise can make a difference in their Life. It wont be as glorifying as the feeling that youre after but its better because it real. Its a real feeling of making a difference. this isnt the feeling of working at a nonprofit or a soup kitchen. The kind of impact im talking about it personal connection. Human to human, raw emotion. being the savior of someone’s Life. Just by being there for someone when they are burning out at rock bottom, you have the power to change the course of someone’s Life. and this isnt a feel good empowerment speech with the intention of getting you to go donate all your clothes to a thrift store or any disney hypebeast bs. Its not a simple answer, its not me pushing the idea that a simple kind gesture can change someone’s Life, becasue thats not the truth. Even if i could perfectly itterate into one sentence what im trying to say 99% of people wouldnt be paying attention when they read it so my intention isnt to give you a solution or change of heart. When it boils down to it this is my thoughts on a monday night when i should be sleeping. Its 4:30am now. so when i close my laptop and plug it in for the night and i get back in bed, as i lay down waiting for my mind to slow its roll, i’ll be thinking about what Lives ive impacted in the 21 years ive been here. who have i really made a difference to? 

even if its to just one person, i wanna be somebody