#the gender non-conformity of the '80s

[wahbegan]

If i could give the trans community advice, it would honestly be that y'all motherfuckers need to start gatekeeping way harder. Like, deny it all you want, but trans isn't like black or gay. It ain't something that you just is or isn't. It's a state of mind. You don't wanna call it like a mental illness, but it's definitely a state of mind. It's okay to look at some 50-year-old dude straight dude who has never had any shred of gender non-conformity before suddenly walking into the trans support group whose appearance makes every nerve in your gut scream DIDDLER VIBES in shoddy make-up squeezed into a dress making inappropriate comments and be like "You know what? No. You don't get it. This is not for you." In fact i'd argue it's imperative for the success of the movement.

Remember, back in the good old days? Like in Silence of the Lambs, when the FBI profilers were like "Oh, yeah, Buffalo Bill ain't a trans woman, he's a violent autogynephile, it's a completely different psychology"? Why don't y'all go back to that?

Again, not to sound Machiavellian, but i want to stress that rights movements that want to be all-inclusive and for everyone and are more concerned with being good people than getting shit done are destined to fail

[celluloidrainbow]

毛皮のマリー | LA MARIE-VISON (1983) dir. Kenichiro Suzuki The perversely fascinating tale of Marie, a prostitute who lives in elegant squalor with her dedicated servant. Every day, for eighteen years, Marie releases an exotic butterfly into the open fields of the living room. Every day for eighteen years a beautiful boy, imprisoned in her den, catches and kills it. A play by Shūji Terayama. (link in title)

[hard--headed--woman]

Happy Pride Month 🏳️‍🌈

In one of my last posts, I talked about how I wished people used real lgb people to celebrate our culture and history instead of using straight celebs and calling them "queer icons 😍😍", and it made me decide to do something : everyday, I am gonna post about a real same sex attracted celebrity, or tell the real story of real lgb people in history.

For this first day I am just going to talk about my favourite singer ! She's very famous, so you probably already know her, but all opportunities to talk about how amazing she is are good haha.

Yes, that's Tracy Chapman !

Born on 30 March 1964 in Cleveland, Tracy Chapman is a singer and song writer, whose musical style combines blues, folk and soul. She is known for her pure, beautiful voice, as well as for her strongly protesting and committed lyrics - and for her wonderful music in general ! Although she always refused to talk about her sexual orientation in public, which is totally valid, we know she had romantic relationships with women, like the writer Alice Walker.

Her songs are deeply feminist, and also denounce poverty, inequality, discrimination, and so on. For example, one of her best songs, a song lasting less than two minutes, entirely a capella, called "Behind the Wall" evokes violence against women. The entire song is a masterpiece, her voice is absolutely breathtaking and the lyrics get me everytime.

"Last night I heard a screaming

Loud voices behind the wall

Another sleepless night for me

It won't do no good to call

The police

Always comes late

If they come at all"

She has performed at concerts in support of various causes. She supports Amnesty International and in 1988, she played at a concert organized by Amnesty International to celebrate the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. In 2004, she took part in a bicycle race against AIDS.

She is an amazing woman and an amazing artist ! Here are some lyrics from some of her other songs, (that you should all listen to!) :

"Why do the babies starve

When there's enough food to feed the world

Why when there're so many of us

Are there people still alone

Why are the missiles called peace keepers

When they're aimed to kill

Why is a woman still not safe

When she's in her home"

-- Why, 1988

"Some claim to have crowned her

A queen

With cities of concrete and steel

But there is no glory no honor

In what results

From the rape of the world

Mother of us all

Place of our birth

We all are witness

To the rape of the world

She has been clear-cut

She has been dumped on

She has been poisoned and beaten up

And we have been witness

To the rape of the world"

-- The rape of the world, 1995

"While they're standing in the welfare lines

Crying at the doorsteps of those armies of salvation

Wasting time in the unemployment lines

Sitting around waiting for a promotion

Don't you know

Talking about a revolution?

It sounds like a whisper

Poor people gonna rise up

And get their share

Poor people gonna rise up

And take what's theirs"

- Talkin' Bout a Revolution, 1988

She's also written songs about love, relationships, sorrow, feelings, and a lot of other things!

Remember her next time you want to talk about female lgb icons (instead of using Taylor Swift for I don't know what reason)

(Tracy Chapman is amazing and so so so talented and beautiful and oh my god her songs are wonderful and her voice is so so magnificent!!!! i love her i love her i love her)

See you tomorrow for the next lgb icon/history 🏳️‍🌈

[enby-ralsei]

thinking about Kian stone and wanting to cry over him. as my queer ass is ought to do

[lizardsfromspace]

Enjoy that genre of post that takes a screencap from a 80s movie or of a famous rich man in the 80s dressing in a way that not's how men dress now and then springs from that to seriously implying people were like, more comfortable with non-gender-conforming back then

"Back in the day, people were just allowed to like things and do what they want" Did back in the day people exhibit a willingness to let people enjoy what they want when they drove a music genre aimed at people of color and queer people into extinction through harassment & blowing up records in baseball stadiums and turned it into a punchline for three decades

[autistic-and-radical]

My thoughts on "LGB drop the TQ+"

As a bisexual woman, I fully support the LGB drop the TQ+ movement. Being lesbian, gay and bisexual is rooted in biology. If you're a lesbian, you're a female attracted to other females, if you're gay, you're a male attracted to other males and if you're bisexual then you're attracted to both males and females. And what is TQ+ about? TQ+ is about identity, self-expression and labels. The definitions are loose, too vast and fluid. Nothing is clear, nothing is simple, but everything is offensive. Our generation is so deep in an identity crisis and self-hate that they need a thousand labels and definitions to feel themselves. They don't focus on who they are as a person. In the 80s and 90s when teenagers were figuring out who they are and looking for an identity, they joined subcultures. Also, in that time all gays and lesbians and bisexuals were gender non-conforming and it didn't change their identity. The TQ+ is still growing, teenagers nowadays need labels to feel valid, heard and accepted, but it only confuses them more and instead of helping them find themselves. I know that, because I've been there, done that. A year ago I identified as a fem-aligned non-binary, abrosexual person. Now, when I find the root of my problems and self-hate? I realized that I'm just a bisexual woman. And I feel a lot better like this.

here's a really cool video essay on this topic:

[gendiebrainrotreceipts]

https://www.tumblr.com/butch-king-frankenstein/717879305459384320/butch-king-frankenstein-grabbing-like-80-percent?source=share

uhhhhhh lesbians you have to give men a Chance. Or youre bigoted because you make them uncomfy ❤️ or whatever

Like yes gender roles are bad obv but that isn’t why lesbians don’t like men 😭 they don’t like men because men treat them like shit and actively oppress them(and there’s obviously no sexual/romantic attraction)…and why do they think lesbians taking testosterone is a good progressive thing that should be encouraged tf. And why do they think butch lesbians’ gender non conformity=more acceptance of men?

[sundrop-writes]

Announcing my new fic: Heaven's Gate

Heaven's Gate is a long oneshot starring Daryl Dixon and a gender neutral reader character, featuring angst, hurt and comfort, and some fluff.

NOW POSTED!!!!!

In this fic, you and Daryl get separated when the prison is attacked by the Governor, and though you both believe the other person is dead, you two end up finding each other at the most unexpected time. This fic is about hope, the human connection, and how love is about more than romance - it's about how people take pieces of each other and grow with them, never truly able to forget each other.

This fic is going to be a longer oneshot that is currently about 15k long - and will likely be longer by the time it has gone through editing. It is 80% of the way done in my drafts (not including editing), and I hope to have it posted by April 30th - which is a tentative date that may change. If you want to know for certain when the fic is posted, you can follow me here and turn on notifcations or you can subscribe to me on AO3 to get an email notification when the fic is posted. I am really excited to share this fic with all of you 💖.

Below is a short preview of the fic - so if you wanna get a better sense for the upcoming fic you can read it. If you enjoy this preview and you're excited for what the fic holds, please let me know!

Also an important note: with my gender neutral reader fics, I don't use any references to gender whatsoever (this is not a 'GN afab' fic). And in this fic in particular, I didn't use any pronouns (other than you/yours) or gendered terms for the reader - and at points where the terms they/them were used, I made it purposefully vague so that the dialogue could be referring to the whole group as 'they' or just the reader. I want my gender neutral fics to be enjoyed by everyone - cis women, cis men, gender non conforming people, trans people - every kind of fanfiction reader.

I am making this post for two major reasons - one, I want to generate as much excitement for oneshots as there is for series. Especially for oneshots that are longer than 10k because those take a lot of time and effort. If a series is like a TV show, then long oneshots are like a feature film. And two - nobody seems to read my pinned post where I announce new upcoming fics anyway, so I might as well make posts like these so that people can know what to expect from me. And hopefully you guys will get excited about my upcoming fics this way. And when I tag these posts with the relevant tags, people interested in those topics can follow me to anticipate the fic if they want to read it.

Heaven's Gate (Daryl Dixon x GN!Reader) - Preview

Preview Word Count: 1,800

Warnings: no pronouns used for the reader other than you/yours; there are major plot spoilers for The Walking Dead if you are watching the show for the first time - spoilers for Season 2 all the way up through Season 5; typical warnings for TWD - mentions of death, emotional despair; all of these themes and emotions are expanded upon in the full fic.

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“Daryl!” 

You called out his name as you jogged up toward the stables, and he stopped in his tracks, waiting for you to catch up with him. 

“Daryl, hey.” You greeted him with a small smile. “Rick told me you’d be up here.” 

He grunted in reply. “Yeah. ‘m gonna take a horse out. Make better ground t’ look for the girl.” 

Your stomach clenched at him mentioning her. 

The group was supposed to be headed out towards Fort Bennet - supposed to be finding refuge at the hopefully safe military base. Instead, you were all setting up camp at the very reluctant Hershel Greene’s farm, not straying too far from where you had lost one of your own in the hopes of finding her. 

But that was why you had come to talk to Daryl in the first place. 

Sophia had become like a sister to you in the few short months that you had known her, and though it was unlikely, you were hopeful that she was alive - that she would be found. And you did believe that Daryl would be the one to find her. 

“How’s the trail?” You asked. “Do you think you know which way she headed? You - you can be honest with me.” 

You hesitated on the last part. But you did want his honesty more than anything. And you knew that he was never one to sugar-coat things. Even if you hadn’t told him that, he would have given you the truth anyway. 

“Trail’s a little muddy.” He said, doling out that honesty. “‘m gon follow the river. It’s her biggest landmark out there, so she’ll probably be somewhere around it.” 

You smiled at him. And then, you remembered - 

“I brought you something.” You noted, reaching for the back pocket of your jeans. 

Daryl watched with quiet curiosity as you pulled out a piece of paper - when you showed it to him, he quickly realized that it was a half-used set of stickers. 

“These are some of the stickers that I got for Sophia,” You explained. “My mom always used to tell me that cardinals are good luck.” 

You peeled off a sticker of a bright red bird - as much of a nature man as he was, Daryl was never one for bird watching. He didn’t care about identifying certain species of birds unless he could shoot and eat them. But he quickly reasoned that this must be the cardinal that you spoke of. 

“Give me your bow.” You said, shoving the rest of the sticker sheet into your back pocket again and holding out your hand expectantly. 

“I don’t need no luck.” He replied, voice full of snark. 

“Just give it.” You replied - equally snarky, equally stubborn. 

Daryl sighed and tugged his bow’s strap over his head, presenting it to you. You placed the sticker on the bow’s handle, in one of the places where it wasn’t as worn down from him holding it. 

“There,” You said, giving it back to him with a smile. “Now you’re all set.” 

It was more for you than it was for him - a token of good faith and protection. The idea that you could do something to bring Sophia home when you felt so powerless. 

Daryl let out a harsh sound - somewhere between a laugh and a sarcastic snort as he walked away. “Thanks.” 

“You’re welcome,” You replied brightly, edging on sarcastic once again. 

… 

When the prison was attacked, Daryl got out with Beth. 

He almost couldn’t stand her bright eyes, big eyes staring at him, waiting for answers - her chirpy little voice, prodding at him, demanding that they ‘follow the trail’ and go look for everyone else. Telling him that he was a tracker, that he could find them. As if it was his damn responsibility just because he had the skills to get it done. 

It was all too reminiscent of you, telling him that he could find Sophia. That it wasn’t an ‘if’ - it was a ‘when’. 

Perhaps that was what got him off his ass and doing what he did best - reading the dirt. 

“What’re you doin’?” He asked, staring at the girl curiously as she went to one of the bushes and rushed to pick berries from branches. Had she not gotten enough to eat that morning? 

“They’ll be hungry when we find them.” Beth told him confidently. 

Of course. That undefeatable streak of optimism. 

Daryl knew that blueberries weren’t your favorite - but he should have something to give you. He would be too busy tracking the footprints to properly hunt for squirrels or rabbits and clean them for you. So, he found himself pulling a large bandana from his back pocket and offering it to Beth - something to hold the berries in to keep them safe as an offering for you. 

“Here.” He grunted at her. 

Beth smiled at him. 

It was one of the last smiles she gave him for a long time. 

When they came across those bodies splayed out beside the tracks - any sense of hope was crushed inside of him. The picture you had gifted him was heavy inside his breast pocket, and he hated that tears threatened his eyes - even if he knew that none of those bodies belonged to you. There was no trace of you there. 

The days started to blur into each other, and Daryl couldn’t get you off his mind. 

One hazy evening, as they both stared into the fire with dead looks on their faces, he took the drawing out of his pocket and unfolded it. 

For good luck. 

He didn’t believe in luck - because it didn’t exist. The world was fucked. Nobody was lucky. You and your good luck were dead. 

He tossed the drawing into the fire, and it was only a moment, when the corner of it had barely caught, when Beth snatched it out. She stomped on it with her boot, successfully saving it. 

“Don’t do that.” She hissed at him. 

Daryl snatched it from her, and crumbled it up, tossing it aside. He let out a grunt, but refused to look at her. 

“That was from Y/N, wasn’t it?” She posed. 

He could feel her imposing stare as she waited for an answer. 

He didn’t give her one. 

“You can’t burn them just because you think they’re dead.” Beth sighed. “You can’t burn up memories. We’re gonna find them. Y/N, and Maggie, and Michonne, and - and everyone.” 

Daryl scoffed. “Yeah. Cause that’s gon’ happen.” 

Beth rolled her eyes, but didn’t speak any further on the subject. 

After she had fallen asleep - when the fire was dull, Daryl picked up the crumbled ball and smoothed it out again. The charred corner hadn’t even touched your bird. He felt like a fool doing it, just as much of a fool as he accused you of being, but he folded it neatly - well, as neatly as he could - and then put it back into his breast pocket again. 

But that was the thing - Daryl wished that he could. He wished he could burn up those memories. 

That you would stop haunting him. Then he wouldn’t have to feel like this anymore.

… 

“Can I see it again?” Beth asked, suddenly changing the subject. 

Again, this was a confusing little whip for Daryl - something that clearly only made sense to Beth in her own drunken mind. 

“See what?” Daryl replied. 

“The picture.” Beth answered. “The one you tried to burn.” 

Daryl felt a pinch of guilt surge over him at the thought. Oddly enough, this was the one time he would be willing to admit that Beth was right - you can’t burn up memories. 

“It was Y/N, wasn’t it? That drew it.” Beth added on, her words slurring slightly - she lifted the mason jar of booze to her lips again and Daryl was tempted to snatch it away from her. 

Instead, he found his hand drifting to his breast pocket and reaching to take the picture out. He presented it to Beth, who put down her drink to unfold it - she stared at the picture fondly under the brightness of the moonlight, tracing a finger over the slightly faded details. 

“You know… my daddy used to tell me that a cardinal is like an angel.” Beth said, recognizing the bird from her father’s teachings on the farm. “Someone - someone you loved who passed away, watching over you from heaven.” 

“Y/N said they was good luck.” Daryl replied. 

Beth shrugged. “Same thing.” 

It was this thought that kept Daryl going for a long time. The idea that even if you were dead, you were watching over him somehow. He sure as hell didn’t believe that someone like Merle would be an angel - but you, you definitely were. And even if it was a waste of your eternal life, you would be determined to watch over Daryl - to make sure that he was safe, well-guided. 

You would make sure that he was lucky. 

That thought alone carried him through the long journey to D.C. 

It was something that lingered in his mind as the group hunkered down in a random barn - as he spotted something carved into one of the wooden beams holding the place up. Even though it wasn’t colored, he could have sworn that the long tail and pointed head of the silhouette indicated that the carving was meant to be cardinal. Of course. 

Who knows who had stayed in the barn before them - if it had been left there by a weary traveler, or even put there by someone who had used the barn before the turn. But Daryl could have sworn that you - your ghost, your angelic hand - had led him to this very spot. 

It was a thought that gave him strength as he held the doors up - helped to keep them from caving in while the storm raged outside. 

Your luck, and your damn bird - you would keep him safe. 

When they reached Alexandria, and they were forced to give up their weapons - Daryl spotted your bird perched on the fence. Bright red, with its pointy head cocked sideways at him. All too knowing, staring at him like it wanted to say something. Just like it had been when he had fallen off the cliff out in the woods when he had been looking for Sophia. 

Oddly enough, it made him feel safe giving up his crossbow - perching it on top of the fully loaded cart of weapons before the awkward, bespeckled woman wheeled it away. 

Rick was still weary of this new place after Terminus, and Daryl understood. He followed Rick’s lead. Especially because he couldn’t tell Rick that he had a good feeling about this place because he saw a damn bird. 

But even if it was just in spirit, he felt you there. He knew that it was the home you had chosen for them.

[bylerpolls]

Is Mike gender non-conforming?

A) Yes, for the 80s

B) Yes, for today

C) Yes, for today and the 80s

D) No

E) Other/Nuance

[self-loving-vampire]

Transphobes: We can't trust all of these studies that say the detransition rate is extremely low. There's not enough good evidence so we just don't know the true detransition rate.

Transphobes: So I am just going to assume that it's over 80% by favoring this one study by a conversion therapist who conflated people who wanted to transition with people who were just gender non-conforming or gay over all others, even though it doesn't even focus on the same age group I want to legislate against.

[xxx-ang3l-w1th-a-sh0tgun-xxx]

THE LABRYS FLAG - a quick queer history lesson & my flag redesign

so I've been doing a lot of research into the labrys flag (below - these two versions are the most popular) and i feel that it needs a quick redesign. first though, lets start with the current labrys flag and it's history...

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basic history - the labrys symbol & the creation of the flag:

this flag was originally a symbol for the lesbian feminist community

the symbol, the labrys, is an Ancient Greek double-headed axe and it has been used as a symbol of lesbianism since the 1970s

the labrys symbol represents strength and empowerment

back in the mid-70s to mid-80s, wearing a small silver labrys on a chain was a way to self-identify to other lesbians (similar to how carabiners are used nowadays in the same way)

the actual flag was officially created in 1999 by graphic designer Sean Campbell and published in June 2000 in the Palm Springs edition of the Gay and Lesbian Times Pride issue

the colour violet (the background colour of the flag) became associated with lesbians through the representation of the violet (the flower) as a symbol of lesbian love, which originates from a poem by Sappho about a lost love wearing a garland of "violet tiaras, braided rosebuds, dill, and crocus"

it's the oldest lesbian flag by a decade

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discourse, discomfort & TERF association:

the flag was invented by a man, not a lesbian, which has created some discourse among lesbians

the purple on the flag is sometimes said to represent only cisgender women, while the black triangle symbolizes lesbians

this flag didn't represent lesbian transgender women or non-binary lesbians

the black triangle symbol is a reference to the Holocaust, and the antisemitism claims are essentially discourse about whether lesbians are 'allowed' to reclaim it. while lesbians were targeted under the 'asocial' label, they weren't explicitly targeted in the same way gay men were

it's also gained a lot of popularity among TERFs (trans exclusionary radical feminists) and various exclusionist groups

although it's the oldest lesbian flag, there's various reasons for people to be uncomfortable with it, instead sticking with newer, less problematic lesbian flags, such as the sunset flag

many people choose not to use the labrys flag because it's popular among bigots (mostly TERFs), so only bigots end up using it, reinforcing the association

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the sunset flag:

the sunset flag seems to be the most universally understood and least problematic lesbian flag (below)

the 5 stripe flag (right) is just the simplified version of the 7 stripe flag (left)

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reclaiming the labrys flag:

many lesbians wish to reclaim the labrys flag, ignoring the TERFs who use it to exclude trans lesbians

the colours and symbolism are important in lesbian/queer history and for a while, the labrys flag seemed like a good and accurate representation of the lesbian community - it empowered lesbians and acted as a symbol of love and reminded people of queer history

many lesbians who still use the labrys flag are assumed to be TERFs/transphobic, so many are afraid to reclaim the flag or even just use the labrys symbol for fear of judgement or misunderstanding

the labrys symbol alone isn't problematic and it is not a TERF symbol

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my opinion & my new flag designs:

as someone who is trans, gender non conforming, a lesbian and a feminist, i feel that the labrys flag does have some problematic elements to it but i still feel that the flag could be redesigned to be more inclusive

i have decided to experiment with creating a new lesbian flag which combines the unproblematic elements of the labrys flag with the current inclusive sunset lesbian flag

these are the flag designs i have made so far:

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explanation/description:

top left - the sunset lesbian flag with the violet labrys symbol in the middle

top right - the triangle from the progress flag, (to represent people of colour, trans and non binary identities and intersex people) and the sunset lesbian flag, with the violet labrys symbol on the right side

bottom left - the transgender flag with the violet labrys symbol in the middle

bottom right - a half and half design with the sunset lesbian flag and transgender flag, with the labrys symbol in the middle

i have used the labrys symbol on all of these flags as the symbol itself is not problematic. it represents strength and empowerment

(the white outline on the labrys symbol is just to make it stand out more against the backgrounds)

i made the labrys symbol violet - violets have been linked to lesbian love for over two and a half thousand years. i felt that using the colour violet represents the history of lesbians

i have also included the transgender flag in some of the designs to represent the trans community, specifically including trans people to deter TERFs

i included part of the progress flag in one design to be even more inclusive of marginalised groups

i have decided not to include the triangle symbol in my designs

overall, my flag designs are supposed to be as inclusive as possible, whilst still referencing the original labrys symbol and its unproblematic meanings. my flag versions specifically include the transgender community and marginalised groups

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this redesign is just an idea and my historical research may not be 100% accurate

if my research is incorrect, please let me know and i can edit parts of this post to make my research more accurate

and if anyone has any suggestions or ideas for anything i can change/add to my designs please let me know!!

if any symbols/colours/imagery i have used in my redesigns have problematic meanings, this is completely unintentional, so please let me know

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feel free to use my designs with credit!

do NOT use this flag as a TERF/radical feminist/transphobic symbol as that completely defeats the whole idea of the redesign

[echofromtheabyss]

I notice that women and men in AI art, are two different demographics. It's largely the men getting the job offers, but... IMO, part of that is because the men are actually more normie passing and more conventionally employable. Women in AI art seem to be old, trans, disabled, or sex workers. Women in the peak employable demographics are not getting AI jobs - and they're not even in the AI community. Just as they've never been in many of the spaces I've been in until that thing goes relatively mainstream.

I have long felt that there is some kind of social taboo against women being early adopters, and the thing is, I don't even think this taboo has existed for my entire life. It starts to really show up in the 80s when PCs are being marketed specifically to families with boys.

I am going to generalize that in normie gender culture, which has swallowed up nerd culture and all the spaces that gender-non-conforming women used to have, women aren't allowed to do a thing or be a fan of a thing until large numbers of women agree that it's Safe and Morally Unobjectionable. The praxis of right wing women and left wing women here is exactly the same, using different words.

It has to have some kind of modern cultural equivalent of the Good Housekeeping Seal of Approval. Must be declared Godly or Non-Problematic. Must be what your friends are passing around.

You are only allowed to engage with content that's broadly approved of. Nothing intellectually challenging or creatively edgy.

There must be some kind of "Women in Tech" initiative broadly saying It's Okay Now. It must be coupled with stock photography and Photo Day at Megacorp showing HOW it's okay and for WHOM. Women techies have to be product mommies and not autistic hacker girls, and it's largely women enforcing this.

It's Mad Men sexism with a different gender policing it, and with diversity initiatives

Until you get over your early adopter taboo, you will get left behind in every industry by men

And also while you're getting over your early adopter taboo, get over the whole idea of NLOGs and PickMes even being a thing, because absolutely you would consider any female early adopter both of these things if you're the kind of sexist who can't imagine women doing things that don't have the Good Housekeeping Seal of Approval

[theyjustadmitthathuh]

Okay, so, I was born with XX chromosomes and normal female organs, and I transitioning medically; I don't care if you don't want to think of me as a man, I really don't care about the label, all I know is that whatever I'm doing makes me able to function and without it I get depressed and nonfunctional. Now that that's clear, I will say I feel solidarity with radfems more often than the trans community.

Especially with the insanity I see on tumblr from the trans community. Absolute dogma that trans women are oppressed by trans men, that so-called "transmisogyny" is the greatest social burden any person can take - gaping holes in their own arguments that they fill with misogyny

On the other hand you have idiots trying to call blatant misogyny "transandrophobia" just because it happens to those of us who prefer to be called men. It's still fucking misogyny.

I'm also glad you talk about how the "trans community" is the "trans women community". I disagree with you that there's more transitioning AFABs than AMABs, but the fact that this trans solidarity/community only really extends to the bio-males and not the bio-females happens everywhere

I have so much to rant about how in many regions of the world, AMABs in the trans group historically and culturally have their own communities and safety nets which is unimaginable for AFABs due to the level of objectification + being treated like property + isolation of females, from the level of family (birth family -> married family) to society, which is something AMABs do not experience!

Anyways, this is getting long and incoherent, to sum it up I'm tired of the trans community, so tired I'm coming to radfem blogs for relief

I dont blame you at all for transitioning to relieve your issues. I dream about it all the time and am just on the edge of doing it at all times. Ive binded since i was in high school, I have short hair that I claim is for ease but is truly because long hair makes me feel like a drag queen and so does dressing feminine. It’s really just my understanding that transitioning would make me a transitioned female and not a male that keeps me from going full on with it (and the fact that I have high t levels naturally which already cause me health issues.)

I empathize with you a lot on that front.

Im glad you can find some afab solidarity here on the rad side of tumblr. I know there can be some nasty people, still, more worried about being rude to trans people than they are worried about helping afabs deal with and fight their oppression.

My claim that there are more transitioning afabs than amabs was from a stat I saw from a gender clinic claiming 80% female, but I have no way of knowing if that stat was accurate or is still accurate. We also have no idea how many of those afabs are still living transitioned and how many stopped treatment, since those stats usually arent recorded and these clinics usually dont follow up with patients who dont return BUT with the up rise in diy hrt, there could very well be a very large number of males who are transitioning without contributing to those stats. I have searched out diy hrt for ftms and it’s either illegal, sketchy, or both. Im sure the same is true of the sketchy-ness of mtf hrt, but the illegality is not a hurdle they have to jump for diy, so all we know for sure is that our stats are skewed.

I do believe that since the trans community has been spotlighted by celebrities, transphobia has made itself anew. Before, transphobia and the oppression associated with gender non-conforming people was one and the same.

Now, even tho I’m gnc af and could be a trans man as far as anyone would know or care, if I were to ask to switch pronouns or names (or god forbid ask my employer to call me by anything other than “girl”), I would most likely be fired. I would be fired because, even though I am already doing everything it would even take to be trans, trans people now have a stereotype of being self-absorbed, lazy, and volatile. My years long history working with that company most likely would not outweigh the ferocity of those stereotypes. I know there are some prominent figures creating these stereotypes from top down, but people need to learn that trans people are just people who have transitioned, theyre not monsters and they all have a reason why.

That being said, misogyny benefits males at the expense of females, and there is nothing that can be done on an individual level to change this fact. I am currently doing a reread of Invisible Women. It’s probably my favorite feminist book, and it outlines every way in which misogyny is ingrained into our lives and highlights just how much work and how many years it would take to reverse this bias, but the problem is not many people are working on it.

If you’d like access to a copy (i prefer the audiobook version) dm me and I’ll send you the link I use. I think I’ve posted it around here before but I’ll post it again after this as well bc I love it.

But I only bring it up to say that transitioning cannot change one’s relativity to sex-based oppression. There are, of course, nuanced cases but for 99% of the population you are either born on one side or the other of sex-based oppression. You’re either the sex that cars, stoves, ppe, public transit, healthcare, hand tools, etc are made for or you’re not. Transadrophobia is misogyny+transphobia. Transmisogyny is transphobia(if it’s not about the manipulative “cis women need to fuck me but they wont #cottonceiling” bs claiming to be transmisogyny that I’ve seen)

I really wish that trans women could say “wow. Im going through so much just from being perceived as female. I should boost women’s voices and trans people’s voices” instead of what’s usually said. I know that some of them do, and I’ve had the pleasure of speaking with one or two of them on here. I guess I just wish that we had a way to choose our representation. So that it’s not just whoever shows their ass on camera the most who gets listened to.

I think I’m also starting to get long and incoherent. Im gonna try not to ramble and just close this off by saying that it’s so much more important to have female solidarity as a radical feminist than it is to hate men or oppose trans ideology. Female solidarity is the base level that all of our work must sprout from. Without it, our work will wither and turn fruitless.

(In the above text, female, afab, woman, and girl all hold the same meaning while male, amab, man, and boy all hold the same meaning.)

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queer (lesbian and grayromantic), gender non conforming (they/them), teenager, riot grrrl, 80s movies, celebrities, culture, fashion, and music obsessed, new wave, matt dillon lover

i'm allison reynolds in the flesh

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i love the debate of whether Mike should have long or short hair in s5! but i'll be a die hard defender of the long hair because

1.) it looks good okay, it suits him and the possibility of ponytails or Will brushing a hairstrand behind his ear are killing me in concept alone. but that's just personal preference, for me it's mainly 2.) it'd follow the Wheeler theme So Well, guysssss

bc i do like the concept of him cutting it in response to Eddies death. but listen, listen: the Wheeler's consistent themes with hair styling on the show okay.

Nancy's hair journey is a complete reflection of her personal growth as attested by the costume department. as she grows to be more independent and rejects the suburban cul-de-sac life her hair gets progressively shorter in every season while Also getting curlier. reject tradition and all, the haircut she had in s1 is Nothing like the one she has now

and Mike on the other hand goes in the opposite direction on the show. he starts s1 with your typical 80s-boy almost bowlcut but not 100% committed hairstyle and clothes his mom bought him. that's how his mom dressed and styled him - even commented on in universe with his little outfits from the GAP. and it's just like how Nancy also dressed to fit in the family. and then Mike's hair gets floofier and messier over the seasons, by s3 he still has the same haircut but it's overgrown and doesn't fall neatly or flat anymore. and then by season 4 where he finally starts to commit and rejects expectations for the first time and joins hellfire he has Long hair and it's length also makes it the waviest and curliest it's ever been

guys their hair journeys literally parallel each other in terms of character growth as of now. they both have less and less of the hairstyle they had in s1 as they reject their family's and the town's values. short neat haircut for boy and long wavy locks for girl were their starting points. classic nuclear family, gender roles, Reagan years. and now they're donning the shoulder length wavy hair for Mike and the short and crazy curly hair for Nancy. the Wheeler fashion seem to have a direct correlation between non-conformity and their hair defying the ideal conservative expectations of the time. and i love all possibilities i've seen suggested for Mike's hair, but following this pattern Mike should either have a similar hair length to s4 or longer/curlier to show him fully rejecting the expectations placed on him

because this hair showing development phenomena is Such a big thing even Karen fits that family styling 😭

from wavy brunette, to suddenly bleach blonde and then BAM curls out of nowhere. and all over her independence/cheating/plot relevancy story line

growing your hair to a style that's not alligned with what's seen as "tidy" or "ideal" is literally a Wheeler family moment and it's HILARIOUS

(maybe if Ted finally grew his mane out he would stop catching bad dad allegations)

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★ SOLAR - 23 YEARS OLD - QUEER - POLYAM - CLOSED - AUTISTIC - GNC TRANS GUY - ALTERHUMAN - WHITE - BRITISH - HE / IT ★

Hey there! My name's Cody, but I generally tend to go by Solar, Ray or Sunny online. That said, you can call me pretty much whatever you want. I'm not too picky. I'm a hobbyist artist, occasional writer and professional dog who's had the misfortune of being on this miserable hellsite (do people still call Tumblr that?) since 2014. I was around before then, but I didn't make an account until that point. My blog isn't strictly NSFW, but I do reblog posts with dirty humour and references to sex. So if you're a minor or someone who doesn't want to see that kind of thing? I wouldn't recommend following me. Want to know more about me or about this blog? You can find more info under the cut! ✌️

The dividers in this post were made by @chocoperrito and you can find them here! ❤

》 WHAT'S THIS BLOG ABOUT, DOG MAN?

I'm glad you asked! This is my main blog so it's generally just a mish mash of all sorts. Anything and everything pertaining to my interests goes here, it's a total free-for-all. That said, you can mostly expect reblogs about queer topics, political and social issues, different media that I like, shitposts and furry art. Lots and lots of furry art. I may occasionally post my own art here and possibly my own writing in the future if I feel confident enough.

》 WHAT ARE YOU INTERESTED IN?

I am, in fact, a human person with nuance so you can argue that no matter how many things I tell you that I like? None of this will even come close to conveying the full spectrum of who I am, so please keep that in mind. I'm more than my interests. That said, it doesn't mean I can't at least give you an idea of the things I enjoy so to name a few things offhandedly: I really enjoy art, writing, reading, poetry, photography, filmmaking, animation, cartoons, video games, RPGs, 3D platformers, visual novels, folk punk music, ska music, 80 and 90s visual aesthetics, bright colours, primary colours, breakfast foods, thrifting, kitsch, antiques, tacky button-ups, animatronics, toy restoration, early 2000s internet, xenofiction, medieval fantasy, lost media, queer history, TV history, film history, furry history (namely the funny animal era and 2000s era), cooking, horror movies, folklore, cryptids, musicals, storytelling, worldbuilding, history, psychology, archaeology, zoology, etymology and space!

》 WHAT MEDIA DO YOU LIKE?

I like a lot of different media and the ones I actively choose to engage with fluctuates pretty frequently, but currently the ones of note are... Pokémon, Warriors, Watership Down, Animal Crossing, The Lion King, Ginga Nagareboshi Gin, Beastars, The Legend of Zelda, Bugsnax, Banjo Kazooie, Viva Pinata, Spyro, Crash Bandicoot, Sonic The Hedgehog, Zero Escape, Ace Attorney, Another Code, Welcome To Nightvale, Little Shop Of Horrors, Ride The Cyclone, Starkid, Be More Chill, Heathers, Cats, Waitress, In The Heights, Silent Hill, Resident Evil, A Nightmare On Elm Street, Child's Play, The Gregory Horror Show, The Owl House, Steven Universe, Portal, Half Life, TF2, HLVRAI, What We Do In The Shadows, Our Flag Means Death, Interview With The Vampire, Doctor Who, Red Dwarf, Scott Pilgrim, Sam And Max, The Good Place, Gravity Falls, My Little Pony, Night In The Woods, Slay The Princess, Dragon Age, Fable and Good Omens! Hyperfixations are bolded, because like it or not I am autistic and that does affect which of these wretched things will get a stranglehold on my attention at any given time 👍

》 YOU'RE QUEER? WHAT ARE YOUR LABELS?

I'm a gender non-conforming trans man. I go by he/him and it/its pronouns and I mostly use masculine terms (man, dude, guy, etc.) or non-gendered ambiguous terms (thing, mutt, dog, etc.) to refer to myself. That said, all this does vary whenever I feel like it and I've got no intentions of trying to mirror cis men. I see myself as a man in the same way Bugs Bunny is a man, masculine in theory but pretty malleable in practice. A man but tilted a bit too much to the left so it doesn't quite fit on the "pallatable for cis people" gender shelf.

My gender is pretty intertwined with my non-human identity; All genders feel like a costume but ambiguously fruity man is the most comfortable one for me personally. I'm a vaguely man-shaped dog thing that's just trying to resemble a person above all else, if we're being entirely honest here.

I use the labels pansexual and queer pretty interchangeably. Gender doesn't really play a part in who I'm attracted to, it's pretty irrelevant and just kind of a neat bonus more than anything. That said? Overall I'm predominantly attracted to other queer people! I do class myself as acchillean because of my attraction to other men but in a non-committal handwave kind of way, considering how weird my relationship with my own gender currently is.

I consider myself as polyamorous. I can comfortably exist in both monogamous and polyamorous relationships but between the two? Up to now I've found the latter is my preference.

Also, I know I don't owe anyone an explanation about my identity. I'm talking about this because I'd like to (queer expression is fun to talk about yippeeee) and not because I feel obligated to. People aren't owed your life story, especially people on the internet ✌️

》 DO YOU HAVE A BYF / DNI?

No, I don't have a DNI. I've come to realise that the culture surrounding DNI lists in online spaces isn't healthy and I'd far rather just curate my own spaces however I feel like it! Not that I wasn't doing that before now but given that? A DNI feels like an unnecessary step that just serves to perpetuate that culture which I don't want to do. The block button exists to be used, I block people wherever I need to for the sake of my own comfort and I recommend you do the same 🤷 That said: I'm a queer neurodivergent leftist. So I have the exact kind of opinions you'd probably expect with those descriptors in mind. All good faith identities are valid, any kind of queer exclusion is bad, bigotry towards any marginalised group is bad. Fascism and capitalism are both poison, cringe culture is dead, do what you want forever so long as it's not hurting anything or anyone and everyone deserves kindness unless they themselves don't show it. Truly some never before heard takes here on Tumblr dot com.

》 WHAT ABOUT A TAGLIST?

Not yet, but I'm slowly working on it. In the meantime? Here's what you mainly need to know. You can find my talking and general shitposts under solar talks, or my art under dog draws. I do have content warning tags! I try to be conscientious and tag anything that I know is a common trigger for people (blood, gore, bones, bright colours, insects, etc) as and where I can. I format all of my content warning tags as "cw //" and then whatever the content of the post is that needs tagged. So for example, if you don't want to see insects? You can blacklist them on my blog using cw // insects and that should stop you from seeing anything with a number of legs you aren't comfortable with. This same format applies to all of my content warning tags. If there's anything more specific you need tagged? Don't be afraid to let me know. I'm happy to accommodate you wherever you need so long as it doesn't infringe upon my right to exist; If it's something that triggers you? Then it warrants being taken seriously.

》 WHO'S THE GUY IN YOUR ICON?

That would be my fursona, Circuit! He is me, I am him, I love showing him off to people so although the art may change? He's usually the face of my online pressence. Here's his current (slightly outdated, whoops) reference sheet that I made for him:

If you're curious, the art of him I have as my Tumblr icon currently (as of February 4th 2024) was a commission I got and is drawn by Pawtastic!

》 WOW, YOU TALK A LOT.

Sure do bud. Thank you for noticing! Want to hear me talk more? Then I have some sideblogs you can check out if you feel like it. fuzzypath is my Warriors sideblog (active) funky-fella is my Bugsnax sideblog (semi-active) canid-canon is my writing sideblog (WIP, inactive) I also have a NSFW sideblog dedicated to outright hornyposting, but respectfully I'm not sharing that here. If for whatever reason you'd like to see that? PM me privately to ask for it and if you're both 18+ (have your age clearly stated somewhere on your blog) and someone I trust to see it then I'll most likely give it to you!