#the gay women channel

[moonstarsandspacedust]

I just started the fires of heaven and I’m obsessed with how Rand:

1) shows next to no interest in the various women coming onto him

2) sees a naked woman and his only thought is “wow she’s sunburned”

3) has multiple homoerotic encounters

And then describes a man as “probably attractive to women”. In conclusion: Robert Jordan was a coward.

[biblicalhorror]

Aroace Riz real but also Fabian is SO clearly in love with him and Riz has no idea

[britneyshakespeare]

wait james somerton sounds a lot like some people on tumblr when they start spouting off about queer history or supposed controversies within it. is that where you guys are getting your stuff? is it james somerton brain poisoning?

[gideonisms]

I feel like there should be a week where I just get to live life as a cis guy no explanation to see if it feels better or worse. then go back to my own beautiful hips & tits and other people's horrible assumptions that I can cook. and no one has a memory of any of it. I want like an ice cream sample of different genders

[dragoninahumancostume]

My favorite part of being alive is that I've never felt welcome in any space except for that one year when I thought I was a non-binary bisexual asexual girl when I was 13 :)

[theersatzcowboy]

But I'm a Cheerleader (1999)

This gay romcom classic uses arch production and set design to parody hetero culture and gender norms, with a plucky Natasha Lyonne — the closest thing we have to a real-life Bugs Bunny — serving as its adorable, closeted centerpiece.

Director: Jamie Babbit

Cinematographer: Jules Labarthe

Starring Natasha Lyonne, Clea DuVall, Cathy Moriarty, RuPaul, Mink Stole, Bud Cort, Melanie Lynskey

[shamebats]

The theory that trans people can share more lived experiences with cis people of their real gender than their AGAB really resonates with me and it's helped me gain more empathy for women, something I struggled with for a long time.

There were so many things the girls & women in my life went through that I just couldn't relate to. I was often dismissive of their anxieties, because to me all of that "girl stuff" was something you could just not do, so why complicate your life? Just opt out. See? I'm doing it right now.

My older sister was always chasing fashion trends, meticulously straightening her hair, keeping boxes full of makeup, jewelry and cosmetics in our shared bathroom and her room, using anti-aging creams from her early 20s on, tanning, getting her nails done...and I looked down on her for it. To me it was all vanity for vanity's sake. I didn't understand.

I fully believed that it wasn't I who was different, it was the other women who were making their lives complicated on purpose by choosing to project an exaggerated (in my eyes) form of femininity in the same way that rich people flaunt their wealth by dressing head to toe in designer brands, setting these high standards for themselves and capitulating to all the pressures of womanhood due to some innate weakness that I don't seem to possess.

It goes way beyond makeup and fashion too. There were so many pressures I seemed to be inexplicably immune to. People liked me because I was down to earth, uncomplicated, not like other girls. I'm certain nobody ever saw me as a guy back then, but they picked up on my "masculine attitude" and due to misogyny, that pretty much always put me in a better light.

I've now made a conscious decision to listen to women's voices more. It'll do me good to gain some perspective and I feel like it'll be much easier for me now that I know where my negative feelings towards femininity come from and understand that my inability to relate to women in a lot of aspects doesn't make their lived experiences less valid.

[tinolqa]

just kind of shouting out into the abyss because my brain has been trying and failing to gnaw on this particular bone

but I think a part of my experience as a trans man that I’ve managed to talk to one other person about is the unpleasant dance of performing attraction/lack thereof to cultivate a version of yourself that is gendered correctly by other people

as an adult who socially transitioned 10+ years ago and passes fairly consistently, I can be relatively open about being bi. this was not the case when I was still in the closet and it was so much more difficult in the early years.

I knew from a pretty early point that I was attracted to girls and to guys. I also knew I had some Gender Business long before I had the words and knowledge to know that trans men /existed/. And the third thing I knew was that if I wanted my masculinity to “count” and for people to treat me and react to me in a way vaguely consistent with my gender identity, I had to vehemently deny my interest in men.

So I accidentally backed myself into toxic masculinity and internalized homophobia before I had the vocabulary to even articulate that I was a man. It was like this: I knew if I had a boyfriend, he would expect me to be a girlfriend, and I would rather have boiled myself alive than be in that dynamic. It was easier on me to act like One Of The Guys and vehemently deny feelings, to lean harder into claiming exclusively I had no interest in relationships or only interest in girls. Of course it was the 00s and I was going to be treated like a weird little freak for it, but that was the point. Being treated like a weird little overly-masculine freak was closer to “me” than being seen as Clearly Normal And Feminine Gender-Conforming Because Look, A Relationship With A Boy. Being in middle school and high school in that era, people could barely conceive of trans identity let alone the idea that being trans wasn’t just the Extreme version of being gay.

So my baseline was, basically up until the point that I was both out and starting to be treated as a guy by online friends, that I wouldn’t admit attraction to irl men or pursue relationships until they’d treat me as a man and see the relationship as a queer one.

I wonder if I was self-sabotaging or protecting myself. This is still hard to talk about, because I worry that the importance to my identity that my sexuality has makes it seem like my attraction to women was a “beard.” But that’s the thing. It’s not. I’m bi, I’ve been bi the entire time! I’m just also a bi dude who knew from early on that I had to play up my attraction to women and downplay my attraction to men if I wanted my gender identity to not be totally ignored.

Probably, there’s a timeline where I got further trapped in that by the “support” of others invested in me being sexually available to them. It nearly happened with my ex, and it’s why I’m extremely fucking wary of a lot of discourse on here. It just seems like a counterpart to the scenario I avoided, of scorning men I was interested in because I could not survive being seen on a fundamental level as “girlfriend” instead of as me. It’s no better coming from a woman or from a transmasc who refuses to be separated from an orientation label, y’know?

It just kind of sucks that I had to use such a maladaptive survival strategy because I had absolutely no support or information until I was in my mid/late teens.

[fappellmoan]

i feel like i’m crazy i’m in love with her!!

[cssastu]

https://youtu.be/4oD0JetgaVo?si=p11bWOto0adlAW72 #experience #Atlanta #MARTA #ATLDOT #GDOT #ATL #sissy #faggot

[pyroselkie]

EVERYTHING IN MY LIFE I OWE TO TRANS WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU TRANS WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[scarlettfevor]

I honestly struggle to imagine any group of men who have ever allied with women, not out of attraction of because they were getting something I return but because they actually supported women and wanted to be their allies. Even men who are marginalized because of their race, ethnicity, sexuality...etc will still treat women like shit. Which is why my ultimate #contriversial opinion is that I honestly don't think that lesbians should expect gay men to be our allies, it's in our best interest to ally with other women.

[uh-mxtx]

Modern-au Binghe who inherits Tianglang-jun’s massive fuck off mansion with like 4000 rooms after living on the streets/foster system after his adoptive mom died (idk i just need him to have big house) and he goes “what the hell am I supposed to do with this” and Meng mo (cant be a demon here ive decided he’s a weird homeless guy who gives him advice. That or a schizophrenic hallucination) goes “fill it with women” and binghe who knows he is gay goes “no”

But then he hears some girls complaining about the safety of some of the campus housing/thier boyfriend or parents kicked them out/ect and he’s like “well, i can fix that” and offers his mcmansion up as apartments. He’s loaded so he barely asks for rent and he just keeps inviting women in hard times, like his mother used to be.

But his real calling is cooking so he keeps feeding his tenants and asking what they like. He’s got a youtube cooking/home ec channel and they’re his taste testers. And they start inviting their freinds over like “hey wanna meet our big gay himbo landlord who feeds us” and their freinds are like “boy do I”

Binghe is absolutely gleefull about this. More people to feed. Fuck yeah he gets to be housewife. The gossip sessions are unmatched. He ends up making a full banquet every night and you can either show up in your pj’s or a ballgown to match the decor.

And eventually all this snowballs and hes got a whole sorority in his mcmansion. and they casually call him husband/boyfreind/sugar daddy as a joke bc Binghe is JACKED and they can get rid of men real fast if they pull their six foot seven guard dog out of the crowd. For the sign off/video end the taste testers on Binghe’s show kiss his cheeks as thanks. Binghe doesn’t know half the people in his house. Some girl he never met (came out of SHL’s room and is COVERED in hickeys) just smacked his ass and stole a stack of pancakes. He doesn’t even react he just makes more. This is the best for his touch starvation.

And oblivious people(you know who) dont realize most of them are lesbians using him as a beard, (ignoring the makeouts and pride flags in the background of some videos) and they absolutely believe Luo Binghe seduced a crowd of women into a harem by the power of cooking, cleaning, and great sex.

Cough cough, Shen Yuan

[lemurchick]

Today russian government banned "childfree propaganda" with the law fining non-complying citizens up to equivalent of 4k dollars and non-complying organizations up to 51k dollars.

This law prohibits any public (for now; soon it could be used even for DMs) statements where childless life seen as a better or even equal lifestyle to having children. It forbids saying that it's okay for women to have abortions. It bans any advices to not have children if women don't have enough space, money, health (!) or any other reasons (like going-on war hello?) except when you're talking about monkhood celibate.

This is in line with Putin's signed order "to save and protect traditional values" which already led to banning any mention of LGBT people and had people arrested and sentenced just for organising private gay events or heavily fined for posting a photo of you with your same-sex partner holding hands or screenshot of tv characters kissing. Two female police officers friends were fired because they left messsages under each other photos "showing simpathy" (not even flirting).

And now this. Of course it's not going to affect men who proudly say online how women with children are second sort or calling mothers protecting their children crazy "butI'mAMother"s (popular derogatory term), or advocate to cancel child support, or doing anything else that actually turning women away from considering motherhood. It's going to affect feminists first and foremost because it is us who relentlessly advocate how marrying men and having children in this society is a trap.

And they plan to ban feminism next (they were tryng to do this for years at this point) and also... eh... egoistical lifestyle propaganda whatever this means.

Crazy times but I think we will prevail. Soviet feminists refused to keep silent and were called dissidents and extradited. For now not one feminist channel, podcast, page or community I know is planning to close.

[sarasade]

One of the most generally useful things to come out of Hbomberguy's plagiarism video and Todd in the Shadows' similar video on misinformation is how they bring transparency to the internet phenomenon of "I made up a guy to get mad at".

Seriously, I've seen people make up a lot of stupid shit on the internet over the years and it's often just a manipulative attempt to paint a group of marginalized people in a bad light.

That's the TL;DR version of this post. 

ANYWAY here is the long version

Those videos are mostly about James Somerton's plagiarism of other queer people's work. However I'd like to talk about that 20-30% of Somerton's original writing- and oh boy. It's mostly about complaining about White Straight Women and misgendering well-known trans creators such as Rebecca Sugar and calling Becky Albertalli a straight woman while it's pretty common knowledge that she was forced to out herself as bi because she received so much harassment over "being a cishet woman who appropriates LGBT+ stories".

One thing that irks me especially is how in his Killing Stalking and Gay Shipping videos Somerton brings up how straight women/ teen girl shippers exploit gay men for their personal sexual fantasies. This gets brought up several times in his videos.

Being all up and arms about Somerton being a "White Cis Gay Who Hates Women and Queer People tm" is not that useful because the kind of rhetoric he's using is extremely common in fandom and LGBT+ spaces on Tumblr, TikTok and Twitter. We really don't need to bring Somerton's identity to this since he is in no way an unique example.

It's hypocritical to make this about an individual person when I've seen A TON of posts, tweets and videos where queer people talk about these Sinister Straight Women who are supposedly out there fetishizing and exploiting queer men. It's pretty clear to me that this is just an excuse to shit on women and queer people for having any sexual interests. At worst these comments are spreading misinformation about BL, a form of media that has been excessively studied by both Asian feminists and Asian queer women.

This all sounds really familiar and I think it's good that people are calling it out as what it is: misogyny and transphobia. I'd also point out the potentially racist motives behind being this hypervigilant about Asian media.

People can absolutely be misogynist regardless of gender or orientation. I really don't know why we need to create some kind of made up enemy to get mad at. I actually think it's almost sinister how "anti-fujoshi" people call Slash shippers and fujoshi misogynists or claim that they have internalised misogyny while being dismissive about women's interests and creative pursuits under Japanese obscenity laws, China's censorship, book bans in American schools and various other disadvances that are part of being a queer and/or female creator.

I think we shouldn't be naive about the bad faith actors who want to turn queer people against each other. For example Fujoshi.info mentions anti-gender (TERF, GC etc) movement using this kind of rhetoric as well.

Anyway if you want to read more:

- about the false info around BL fandom fujoshi.info

-There is the scholar Thomas Baudinette who studies gay media in Japan. Here is a podcast with him and the scholar Khursten Santos

-James Welker is a BL scholar as well. Here is a podcast interview about the new international BL article collection he edited.

-I've already talked about this Youtube channel by KrisPNatz and his great Killing Stalking video that actually engages with the themes of the manhwa

- There is also HR Coleman's thesis DO NOT FEED THE FETISHIZERS: BOYS LOVE FANS RESISTANCE AND CHALLENGE OF PERCEIVED REPUTATION where she interviews 36 BL fans and actually breaks down why fetishization has become such a huge talking point in the fandom discourse. Spoilers, it's mostly about young queer people and women being worried that they will get judged and pathologized for their interest in anything sexual.

-Great podcast about Danmei and censorship with Liang Ge

[ot3]

heres my pitch. i feel like it speaks for itself but i'll explain my reasoning.

making larry a girl: biggest bang for your buck in terms of girlifying a member of the ace attorney cast. i think if phoenix and edgeworth had a dirtbag lesbian friend who tried to make herself go bi but couldnt and keeps showing up to be a general nuisance that would be hysterical.

godot and blackquill: being a girl wouldn't fix the absolute dogshit narrative contrivances that prevent either of them from having the capability to be good characters but it would win them a huge amount of grace i am not presently willing to grant.

i dont think i need to elaborate on this one.

lang and van zieks also are already hysterical not as women but i think if you girled them it would really just bring an entire new level to it. although part of what makes lang funny is the gay shit he has going on with edgeworth i think a girl lang would look insanely dykey which would add a completely different angle to the humor there. van zieks white girl wasted in the courtroom self explanatory.

gumshoe apollo and ryuunosuke are all characters i like but i honestly dont think being girls would significantly shift the way i feel about them

clearly if you make one of narumitsu a girl you have to make them both girls because making this dynamic het ruins it for me.

finally we have klavier who i think is more fun as a boy. i think making him into a girl would lose a little bit of the disney channel original movie love interest vibes that are absolutely critical to peak klavierism. also if we have girl klavier but boy apollo that's also unacceptable to me because im categorically against hot women caring about lameass dudes. not that apollo being lame is a point against him as a character its one of his most important traits. but its not something women should be concerned with.