#that they arent affecting trans people by supporting her

[bowsersforeskin]

i just saw an ad for some new h*rry p*tter media and I just want to make it painfully clear that if i am reminded of its existence in any capacity i'm blocking your braindead ass

[offbranddrpepsi]

Hello! I'm not sure if you do this so feel free to just ignore this request if you don't :]! Could I request a Reyna X trans! Male reader that already had his surgery but some people were mean to him saying his still a female (how would Reyna react to them, comfort reader, etc) have a great day/night!

I am always open for asks like this because I know how much comfort they can give people as well as it just feels nice to have something like this sometimes. I hope you enjoy it and will be writing it as both top and bottom surgery (though the focus will be top surgery for obvious reasons). This is not proof read as im still a bit sick and finished a book recently so rereading anything makes my brain soup so i apologize for any mistakes.

Reyna is no stranger to being different though she doesn't understand why it is such a big deal for some. As such she is as well read as she can be when it comes to queer issues, especially if they involve her partner or someone close to her. She may not be perfect but she is always willing to listen and understand. Since day one when you introduced yourself she had asked for your pronouns, a habit Gekko had gotten her into, and didn't ask any questions past that. At that point you had obvious defined hips, despite trying to hide them, and a notable bump in your chest as binders weren't perfect but she never questioned it. You called yourself a man so she did and when you came out to her you could tell the dots connecting in her brain as you spoke. If someone misgendered you she would just very bluntly correct them with a "he." then stare at them with those vibrant eyes until you folded. Reyna was like having a guard dog that, even if they disregarded your identity, made it hard for anyone to disrespect you to your face in her presence. As you two grew closer and became a pair she would get a little intrusive but well meaning. She would ask you about physical things ranging from affection to more intimate ones. How you wanted her to handle you or refer to you, if you were comfortable with her seeing you in certain clothing or ways etc. Reyna is a woman who likes to establish clear boundaries and does so with you so she can be the best girlfriend she can be while also making sure you are comfortable. If permitted she can be found at times stealing your clothes like most girlfriends would, favoring anything oversized or jackets. She never stops gushing about her partner and boyfriend, even talking about how her sister would adore you and probably see you as a brother. At the end of the day who you are at the surface doesnt matter to her as she cares more about whats under it all, appearances be damned.

Post surgery shes adorable and overbearing as you heal. She helps change bandages, drains, even helps you shower if needed. Her radiance lets her monitor your heart rate and body temp so at the first sign of any infection or inflammation shes right on top of it making you take medicine and rest. Once you're healed enough she is the first to nuzzle herself into your chest and sit in silence as she hears your heart beat, you breath, just you exist as a more full version of yourself thats hopefully happier being in your own skin. Given how supportive and loving she is she absolutely takes it HORRIBLY when people are still mean and cruel to you. She makes sure to over talk them with your pronouns and correct name, throwing compliments at you in there as well to make them feel absolutely smothered by her. Of course thats when you're there, when you arent shes snarling and threatening them in the way shes best at. Teeth bared shes asking them to repeat themselves, seeing how dedicated they are to their bigotry before tearing into them. If theres one things Reyna is good at its being scary and damn does she scare them into at least being politely silent. When it comes to comforting you shes your biggest fan already but shes admittedly a tad bad at it because she doesn't really get why they have to be like that. Before it made sense because maybe they slipped up or just weren't thinking but now that you've taken steps to masculinize yourself more she sees absolutely zero excuse. Reyna holds you against her and promises to make sure you don't have to hurt again, to weed out those that would treat you this way. She makes threats of ripping tongues out but calms herself to turn her attention to you. You're the one that was hurt by people to small minded to be accepting, being vengeful won't fix that right now. For as long as you need she is there, holding you and talking to you. She talks you into setting up a date where she introduces you to her family that accept you just as she had. She arranges shopping trips to get you more masculine clothes and even helps you donate your old binders to other trans youth. Reyna even pulls Gekko in to "help his big brother out" as theres just some things about being a man that she doesn't understand but knows having someone like him around would be helpful

[skykittywhatchamahcallit]

ive seen your posts, and saying that radfems believe literally every single man ever is Wicked and Not Oppressed In Any Way (and therefore we completely disregard any other axis of oppression such as race, sexuality and class) is quite the strawman.

i have met some pretty dreadful women and girls and relatively decent boys. radfems do not believe men are intrinsically evil or other sex essentialist bs.. there is nuance in oppression as sex is not the only way to be oppressed, but even rich (in the few cases where its the women own money and not her husband/father/male relatives) western, white, straight, feminine women experience misogyny; in fact its literally the only way a woman so privileged can experience oppression, in the form rape (96% of rapists are men including men who rape men), domestic abuse, wage gap, glass ceiling, harassment at work, etc... all problems faced by women disportionately/solely, and who even the most oppressed man alive would not face, and when men face violence, it is mostly carried out onto them by men.

the majority of serial killers and rapists and domestic and animal abusers are overwhelmingly men and in a system and culture that protects violent men and fosters antisocial behaviour in men... (its almost like... a system of male violence?? caused by male socialisation and privileges under patriarchy that makes it easier for men to gather together and do deplorable things) and women face fgm and sexual violence and honour killings and are unwanted by their families and coerced into prostitution or forced to give birth its very clear to me that sex based oppression is real and affects our lives like a lot.

and being nicer to men wont fix any of these things.

and women and teenage girls who play in a 16 to 1 male dominated hobby have been sent letters with sperm in them and women have been shown to play less aggressively when they think theyre playing against a man online... idk suddenly it think its okay. to not include trans women in female only chess tournaments... its a 16:1 hobby there'd probably be a lot of them and usually these places want to include nonbinary people as well and then its just a queer space i suppose. so its not even those who id as women only anymore; then theres no place for young girls to play chess anymore.

im going to reread will to change this evening. It's been like a long time (6 am here sorry to bother you) but idk probably not gonna change my mind on an entire millennia spanning structure designed to subjugate female people or whatever... you probably arent going to either. change your mind, that is. you will likely not even read this, and people are going to continue to mischaracterise radical feminism, and i will lie on the floor,.. why

I’m not mischaracterizing radical feminism at all, I’m afraid. The essentialism comes down to “all women victims, all men oppressors” whether it’s ever meant to or not. We see irl white women weaponize their sex and their race to oppress black men(who are seen as predators for being black and for being men).

The mere fact there is no framework and minimal sources and support group for the reformation of men is what currently makes it difficult-er to move forward. As bell hooks succinctly put it “in order to have loving men, we must love men.”

When we forget that the enemy is the patriarchy(the framework that puts men and women into seperate, distinct categories with rigid gender roles) and instead believe the root(as radical is meant to be used as in the terms of Radical Feminism) is men. We forget, brush over, ignore how women add into the patriarchal landscape by making patriarchal men and women.Yes, this is our work to do as well, even as females, as social women. To unpack and recognize how we may be contributing to this system of oppression. Misogyny is not solely a male problem, and it is everyone’s job to learn and teach how to unpack it.

[foxgirlintestines]

(Abuse mention tw)

hi, thank you so much for taking your time to answer my question, i appreciate a lot. So, i asked because i got abused by this person that i mentioned (they have a history of other 2 sexual abuses), they behave like sex is the main reason for their life and do everything possible to manipulate people around them to have sex with them (i talked to other people that they go out and we discovered that he lies his entire personality diferently to every one of them to be more appealing and to have sex with them, if people don't want to have sex by like the 3rd date maximum, he stops going out). I tought that they could be lying about being trans, even publicaly because they arent attractive as a male and they are kind of an asshole (they assumidly says they have bad intentions on their behaviours), so if sex is everything that matters to them i tought it would be possible for them to take all this effort and risk by becoming trans. I tought that people wouldn't accept much they behavior if they were a cis man. Lgbt alt people are usually more inclusive, and accept people too. They said stuff like that they are cis during the day (what i tought that could mean they just "perform" femininty at night, to hook up), but they take hormones and are openly trans at work so idk what to think... They said they "love his penis so much", is this idea commom to a trans woman? Asking because i really don't know, im agender and i have body disphoria so i tought it was a bit confusing for me to hear that. I know it is really bad to sound like invalidating someone's sexuality and i've never would. Since a lot happened i was intrigued by this especific person and not trans women in general.

This person sounds like they are indeed a trans woman but they have a lot of things going on in their life that negatively affect them, and they might be using sex as an unhealthy coping mechanism. I am not saying lots of sex, being kink/sex positive, and seeking it is bad, but if they are valuing it that highly to the point it is disrupting the possibility of building healthy relationships, that's the point it is going too far. She seems like she may be having it rough somewhere, and it may indeed be due to her dysphoria because as you said she is not attractive. The thing about the penis differs from person to person, there are a lot of trans girls here on Tumblr who are very happy with their cock; even in my case I decided not to get bottom surgery, though in a perfect world I would be able to have both genitalia, but also many people do get gender reassignment surgery for a reason. "Being cis during the day" might be because they do not pass well and so instead of being seen as a failed trans woman (which is something they internalized) they can just be seen as a man which would hurt less and also save them from possible prejudice. It's also possible that they are genderfluid and like to feel masculine at times and feminine at others, or any other reason which is their choice and you should honor that.

However, and this is a big thing that abuse survivors need to understand, no matter how many problems someone has in their life they are not entitled to take it out on others. They can have the shittiest life possible, but they have no right to cause you or others pain for it, and you are under no obligation to endure them. If they're lashing out and abusing others you need to stand firm and show them that behavior is unacceptable and if they continue to act that way you will excise them from your life. If they are likely to confront you with violence, get a group to back you up, and carry a self-defense item like pepper spray or a taser. Abusers try to separate you from friend groups because it is really hard for them to do anything if you have the power to fight back and support to make sure you are safe.

While I like to encourage and support other trans people, there are harmful people in any group, even amongst vulnerable minorities. This person sounds like one of them. You should not disrespect her for being trans, because if she is on HRT and making all the effort to transition, she is definitely not faking it. Use her preferred pronouns, abide by the boundaries she needs with being cis during the day. However, take no shit for her sake, if she wants you in her life she has to treat you in a way that she is welcome near you. Do not go out of your way to accommodate her if it makes you uncomfortable or unsafe, pushing boundaries like that is a way abusers get the hooks in and make you concede your own needs so they have power in the relationship. She needs therapy, she needs healthy coping mechanisms, she does not need you as a punching bag or as a stress toy to manipulate to make herself feel better. Above all, do not let her apologize and absolve herself of her past wrongs without putting in the effort to show that she will treat you better. Respect her gender, but only respect her as a person and her actions when she deserves it. Finally, if you cannot forgive her actions, turn away and never look back. Even if she changes, if those old wounds are still too much then you do not deserve to have them exposed to the one who gave them to you regardless of any reason.

Now anon, I hope you and anyone else who has had similar experiences have learned some things from this one-sided chat, and that you will both not question a person's gender regardless of their behavior, but also that you will keep better company in the future and that even if they are some sort of minority their actions are a reflection of them as a person and not of their minority group.

[weirdlypersonalrpmemes]

sentence starters:  text posts from a generator i’ve bookmarked, part 5.   tw: body horror, some suggestive prompts.  

❝ (wearing a black and red corset with a black leather skirt and black fishnet stockings with combat boots) i fear bronies ❞

❝ i long for the day when i can finally flirt with light yagami? ❞

❝ hey everyone! admire my ass ❞

❝ excuse me but to be TRULY trans you have to disregard capitalism ❞

❝ there arent enough people at my school who support misery ❞

❝ dear diary....im embarrassed bc my crush heard about how i pretend to care about humans ❞

❝ there is no ethical consumption when you sell skin ❞

❝ i must try to ban misery ❞

❝ in times like this i ask myself... what would a dog do? it'd probably look like everything good in the world ❞

❝ ive made a lot of mistakes but at least i dont pretend to like reagan ❞

❝ welcome to the potion store. this potion makes you declare war against the president ❞

❝ im not like those other guys. i hide from the end of days ❞

❝ a little known fact is that there is a worm version of every holiday. for example on worm valentines day we celebrate worm love and romanticize friendship ❞

❝ i think hipsters are those people who go to whole foods and illegally torrent everything good in the world ❞

❝ it's finally time. i have completed my collection of 18000 small plastic shrimp and now i can cry over death ❞

❝ i am not a model i just buy perfume that smells like disease ❞

❝ aaa!! its time to discuss shrek ❞ 

❝ do you think shrek would kinkshame game of thrones ❞

❝ im gay for anyone who can enjoy the feelings of others ❞

❝ (sighing sadly) i dont romanticize love ❞

❝ is it a crime to kinkshame the president ❞

❝ i say my dog is perfect but she does have two flaws. 1. her paws smell like doritos and 2. she always tries to reblog superwholock ❞

❝ its hard to relax when all u wanna do is hide from my ass ❞

❝ i disregard gender ❞

❝ is it a crime to enjoy anime ❞

❝ (leading u on a secluded path thru the woods) yeah i guess you could say i fear adam sandler ❞

❝ i am not gentle or kind. i reject the agenda of heterosexuality ❞

❝ (sighing sadly) i guess i will trust capitalism? ❞

❝ i dont feel love or affection for humankind. i only pretend to care about fursonas ❞

❝ do NOT disregard sonic the hedgehog ❞

[gendieanonsideblog]

my dni and boundaries [ but its a separate post :O ] dni !! - racist , against equal rights movements [ blm , acab , sah ] , you make racist jokes that arent yours to make , support movements that are racist in nature [ bluelm , alm ] , xenophobic - islamphobic , antisemetic , against religion / arent critical of your religion [ ex : christian and homophobic ] - white suppremist , nazi , fascist , classist - use slurs you cant reclaim - lgbtphobic [ lesbiphobic , homophobic , biphobic , panphobic , transphobic , exclusionist , etc ) , you believe dysphoria is needed to be trans , against good faith identities - anti mogai , anti xenoidentities / neopronouns / nounpronouns / emojipronouns , anti neuroidentities , trans exclusionary radical feminist / t(w)erf / swerf / any branches that are against trans people , super straight / gay / lesbian etc - aspec exclusionist / aphobe / arophobe / acephobe , believe that aspec means acespec , aspec / arospecs inherently cant feel any attraction whatsoever , lump all aromantic people in with asexual people - think only acepecs can use the split attraction model , that the split attraction model is inherently harmful / useless / etc - pronoun policer [ against he / him lesbians , she / her vincians ] - mock terms like " aplatonic " " queerplatonic " etc - pedophile , map / no map / aam , zoophile , lolicon / shotacon , etc , supporters of these - fujoshi / fundashi , fetishize any lgbtq+ relationships / pairings / etc , romanticize abuse / toxic relationships / mental illnesses - ableist , against researched self - dx , demonize mental disorders , you fakeclaim/invalidate did/osdd or any other disorder/mental illness , believe in the ideal that plurality is a disorder and not a structure - anti anti whether it be ship / sys / etc course - arent critical of the content you consume - dont disconnect paraphiles from their disorder , you think theyre all bad because of their disorder , demonize them [ explaination : im not necessarily full on pro para , i just hate seeing beings believe that being a paraphile makes the being bad its like saying beings with npd are bad ] - pro shipper , believe fiction doesnt affect reality , cosang / incestuous , etc , supporter [ if you are a para and use proship to cope i do understand that however i dont want to see any 18+ x minor so itd be better if you didnt interact :[ /lh ] - have a history of causing drama -  against the use tone indicators [ if you cant use tone tags for any reasons like neurodivergency then you can still interact , just be weary i might ask /lh ] - under 13   - danganronpa/yandere simulator/genshin impact main [ unless i interact first ] - anti furry - talk a lot about discourse [ unless i interact first ] - you don't like pineapples on pizza /j - nsfw account , nsfw littlespace / agereg acc / supporter - use or support terms like transrace / transabled [ hesitant on transage , preferred to use a different term /lh ] boundaries !! - i dont mind compliments as long as it applies to my enpronouns !! - please utilize the ask me / anon when talking to me !! - blatantly asking me " can we be friends ?? " is something im very uncomfortable with - that being said only dm for business purposes or if were close - i dont use the tw tags only cw 

[wlw-lovestruck-fiction]

This is the last ask ill send because im honestly tired of this whole thing

I dont know why you brought up the anon hate you got when that’s no part of the discussion. Even if it isnt your intention, you’re making yourself out of to be the victim when you arent. You say you want to get better but each time something gets pointed out you get on the defensive. I dont know why you decided to bring it up, but now that you have: Piama is indeed whitewashed on your drawing. “Warm lighting” doesnt change peoples undertones like that. Compare it to Piama’s last two cgs if you really don’t believe me.

Even if you aren’t affected, you need to be able to recognize it without poc having to tell you in order to be a good ally. I wouldn’t want a straight friend that lets people make homophobic comments about me in their presence and then hear them say “it doesn’t affect me so i couldnt tell it was homophobic so thats why i didnt defend you”. If you aren’t able to recognize it then you’ll inevitably repeat the same rhetoric. Racist rhetoric is everywhere and spewed every single day so you cant expect poc to be with you all the time and take you by the hand to tell you whats racist or not. Those are the reasons why you need to learn how to identify it by yourself, be listening to poc, by developing critical thinking skills, by not surrounding yourself with only white people. If not there’ll be more unchallenged asks such as one i saw recently that pinned poc that complained about yet another white route “stupid because they dont get that lovestruck releases routes by demand”. As if we have no concept of nuance.

No one is obliged to accept an apology, especially after what happened. I dont know where you got that idea from, especially when it concerns something that hurts people this deeply. And I didn’t point it out what happened just to be petty, I pointed it out because it isn’t an isolated event but a pattern of behavior of unchecked racist comments. That was simply the worst case: It was handled poorly, considering mod viv herself never apologized and again, swept it under the rug. The apology I saw from mod wrath was vague, didnt address the situation directly, was posted on this blog so no one knew what was going on, and was later deleted. So yeah she can apologize ten times and it still doesn’t mean we have to accept it. Especially if it’s that catastrophic because it looks like its more about saving face rather than feeling remorse, even if she did feel bad. You’re too eager to call it just “a mistake” and pin me as the unreasonable one.

And I want to ask you, have you truly seen with your own eyes an interaction where someone said to the other “if you like vinca you’re racist” and was completely serious?Or have you heard it from someone else saying that they were told that? Because considering that other anon watering down a woc’s criticism of lovestruck as “she doesnt like white people or this blog” then yeah i wouldn’t trust anything else coming from their mouths. People are getting too pressed over the millionth white woman in the app. Hell even if it happened, it’s probably what, one, two people? But you’re lumping all of us together as if its been a wave of saying that. The valid criticism surrounding Vinca is interconnected with Nahara’s release (one of the few dark-skinned women in the app) considering people kept saying they’d rather have a Vinca route when Nahara’s was announced. They’re not even willing to support it just because they want Vinca’s and that sends a message to voltage. So it simply doesnt boil down to “well its a difference in personalities”. Im gonna go as far as to say that if a woc had the same attitude as Vinca, people wouldnt be frothing at the mouth for her or they’d delve into the realm of fetishizing (as some people are bordering the line with Piama). But thats a whole other topic. And since people want to act stupid: all of the white characters in lovestruck are white because voltage made them that way. They could’ve quite easily made them a poc, but they rarely do. Think about what that means then, if youre really trying to defend yourself by saying “well they put out whats popular”

Lastly, you should really evaluate the content and beliefs you put out when racist people are still comfortable following and interacting with you. This is why i want this discussion to be public: your followers need to read this and apply it to themselves. Because considering the amount of anon hate you said you got yesterday towards the other blogger, theres a bunch of your followers who need to get off their phones and learn to care about other people and stop being racist assholes.

Believe me, I’m tired of it as well.

I brought up the anon hate because I didn’t want you to wonder why I was posting your asks in this form.

And no. Piama is not whitewashed. I took a dropper tool and took the color directly from her sprite, and if you’d looked at my blog, you would’ve seen that I sent screenshots as proof in response to that ask. But you obviously didn’t, so I’ll send them here again. (1. Without lighting. 2. With Lighting.)

If you still don’t believe me, you’re welcome to call me on Discord and I’ll share my screen and show you the entire process. And as an artist: You’d be fucking surprised what lighting does to colors.

Well, yes, I need to be able to recognize it indeed. The thing is: I can’t always. I try my best on this, and there will be moments and issues that will come up, mistakes I will make because I’m not perfect and not a machine. And in those moments, I’d love to have a friend that affectionately slaps me and says “JD, that was shit.” So I can apologize and notice it the next time. I have had multiple friends be transphobic to me in certain ways. I’ve informed them about it. They apologized and haven’t done it since. We’re still friends to this day. I do try to educate myself on racism and put in some work. I don’t expect POC to do all the work for me and explain to me how to be an ally correctly, and still - I hope they help me just as I help my cis friends with trans stuff. I can’t magically change all my behaviors and overcome internalized societal racism with the snap of a finger. If I could, I fucking would have already done it multiple times. The way it is, I’m working on it. Again - I’m sorry I didn’t point out the racist comment in the ask. I should’ve done that, and I’ll make sure to do it in the future.

You’re right no one is obliged to accept an apology. You’re right this hurts people deeply. And as I said - Mod Wrath apologized three times, including one on her personal blog which was a lot less vague. Mod Viv also apologized - to the person in question, in private. Just because you didn’t see it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. And the thing is - if you refuse to accept her apology, that’s one thing and fully your right. And the thing is: If an apology is not going to make you forgive her, if ten are not, what do you need in order to forgive? Will you never forgive? Will you always argue it’s going to be an apology to save face when you don’t know the fact she does feel remorse? How will you see that she does?

I did hear the Vinca thing from a friend of mine. Whom I trust. Because seriously, why would you make things like that up? Who would even get the idea? I’m against the idea of believing my friends would lie to me for attention or whatever. And yeah, the criticism of that anon was unfitting - I’ve visited the blog they claimed was doing that and I found nothing of the sorts, so that comment was unfitting unless I missed something. I never intended to say that it’s all of you saying that. I intended to say that some people are handling the issue wrong. I’m sorry it came off that way. I do believe though that it’s people’s full right to say they’d have preferred Vinca over Nahara. I would’ve preferred Vinca. I still read Nahara tho. However, it’s not yours to dictate which routes other people have to support and which not. I will however agree with you that people should give Nahara a chance - it’s quite the sweet story. And I for my part would enjoy a POC Vinca just as much as a white one. (Also, side note, you’re making it appear as if everyone would either fetishize or rage over her, which is very much putting all of the “white” fanbase into the same bag, the same thing you critizised me for earlier. It’s understandable from a psychological point of view, tho, so I’m not gonna comment further.)

Yeah, Voltage makes the characters white, and that’s an issue people can only fix by demanding more POC in the ask posts and comments. Which many do, btw. They put out what is popular indeed, they put out what is demanded, and I fucking demand more POC. I want it. They could’ve made so many LIs POC and they haven’t and I’m fucking unhappy about it too! I’m not even trying to say anything else.

Yes, making this public to arouse thinking is a good policy. The followers need to read this indeed. And we didn’t get anon hate for the other blogger. We got anon hate towards us. Tons. Comments that went as far as telling mods to kill themselves. And while I agree with lots of the things you say - some of the ways you’re acting actively spark this type of hate. There is being loud about the issues you face, and then there is calling people racist assholes based on a comment they made instead of talking to them personally and telling them that’s not okay, giving them the chance to improve themselves instead of always having them stamped as a racist. Just because you’re the one who’s hurt, the one who’s morally correct, does not mean anything you say or do is good behavior. 

You told me I whitewashed Piama when you, with a minute of research, could’ve found proof I didn’t. You obviously wanted the internet to see, maybe hoped I’d get exposed? Could I get an apology for that? And I promise, I’ll accept it because I’m willing to believe you’re a good person.

Summary of everything:

You’re right with lots of things.

I behaved wrong and I’m sorry.

Lovestruck has an issue with racism that we need to change together. 

Together. Without toxic behavior from any side.

- Mod JD

[nomenculture]

i have never been more afraid to be a radfem than i am rn. i dont know if jk rowling expected there to be an uprising of gender-critical support in the wake of her letter, or if she felt like she just had to say it for all the woman who can’t. but it’s been feeling more like an island every day. i wanted to write out a list of radfem tenets and scrupulously decide if i still want to consider myself one... maybe these words and labels are currently undergoing changed meanings and i need to take a break from labels until things suss out. . . .idk. i want my politics to be rooted in truth and compassion.

1. The fundamental difference between current, mainstream liberal feminism and radical feminism is that radical feminists believe gender is a social construct created by the patriarchy to oppress women. We see gender and gender roles as the exact same thing. that gender is a cultural script for socializing people of different sexes and that females are socialized to be submissive and to belong in the kitchen and to be inferior to men, etc etc etc, we are socialized via the complex concept of femininity. However, we are subject to oppression whether we are successful at performing femininity or not.

2. We do not believe one can (truly) change their sex (which is determined by chromosomes). However, we do believe that dysphoria is real and that hormone therapy and sex reassignment surgeries can make dysphoric people more comfortable with the body they were born into -- though, we defend that medical interventions should be a last resort and that therapies should be exhausted before transitioning. Many radfems are dysphoric females who have once ID’d as trans or even still do (in the very old "truscum" sense of the word).

3. Radfems believe that only an action that defies the patriarchy can be called feminist. In contrast, liberal feminism encourages a woman to call ANY decision that she makes “feminist” insofar as she calls herself a feminist. Radical feminists hard disagree… we do not believe that shaving our legs or wearing make up is feminist. Similar to gender being a social construct, the “choice” to wear make up is not made in a vacuum, and is compelled by cultural pressures and consequences. Anything that serves the patriarchy/male gaze cannot be called feminist. Many radfems are lesbians since straight women’s close relationships with men complicates their ability to commit to radical feminist praxis. that is not to say they are not feminists at all, they just arent radical feminists.

4. Radfems state that all sex work is assault since the exchange of money is a power dynamic that automatically precludes the possibility of uncoerced consent. Furthermore, women’s bodies are not commodities to be bought -- as NO one’s body or sexuality is a commodity that can be bought! radical feminists know that sex-based crimes disproportionately affect women and that girls' experiences in puberty are traumatizing because of this. our feminism focuses on un-traumatizing girlhood: the objectification, the body-shaming, the secrecy of periods, etc etc. and unteaching gender.

viola...

in addititon to these core beliefs, many radical feminists affiliate with environmentalism, anti-capitalism, anti-indivualism, and anti-nuclear family. which are concomitant causes to dismantling the patriarchy.

[lunarssong]

quick little summary/title: this started out as a rant but if you scroll down to the large bold, there’s a metaphor that should hopefully help explain why terfs are so god damn awful and dangerous

me? sending an ask off-anon to a terf because im both pissed and a fucking dumbass? its more likely than youd think

in fact! im not even gonna censor the word terf! if i dont feel like dealing with their bullshit replies and rbs then i literally just fucking wont!! yeah they might send in death threats but guess the fuck what?? im leaving my anon on fuckers, because honestly that shits gonna be funny to me! and if they try to doxx me (very unlikely, but i am trans and its not riskier to mention that because its already obvious, and ive never directly made a post about terfs before, so i really dont know whats gonna happen) or something then like! im a minor! we can sue those shitheads and hopefully bring more media awareness to how god damn shitty terfs are! literally dont even start, lmao.

have the damn ask because i wanna elaborate on it

“hi there! i wish you’d delete your tumblr, because you are dangerous. you are a violent misogynist, and make me ashamed to be a feminist.

you’re gonna attack me because i’m off anon, but you’d probably call me a coward if i was on it, lmao.

anyway! stop disguising your misogyny and transphobia with shitty ass ‘feminism’. i was raised by a feminist with a feminist mom who literally can’t believe y’all exist because your ideas are SO far from actual feminism.

just say you hate trans people and go.”

tbh? its so fucking wild to me how they literally spit out misogyny, transphobia, and lesbophobia but then get all pissy when someone calls them out on it,, but then have the nerve to accuse that person of being misogynistic and lesbophobic? like,, honey. honey, what? the fuck? how much of a dumbass are you?

because like. im a pretty big dumbass! like ive walked into a mirror before because i thought it was a door! im a dumbass!

but even i know that trans women literally cannot discriminate against cis women by saying that theyre (plural, but trans women can 100% use they and thats totally valid) women! because guess the FUCK what?? theyre fucking women! if yall shitheads (terfs) wanna call that misogyny then yall cant call yourselves women either!

if yall assholes wanna call a specific group of lesbians/wlw pointing out, “hey! we experience discrimination because of an entirely irrelevant physical feature we all happen to share that has literally no actual affect on whether or not we are women/wlw” lesbophobia or speaking over minorities then wow.

wow.

wow, are yall gonna be shocked when (if) you realize what the hell yall doing that qualifies as.

oppressors literally depicting and/or committing fucking hate crimes, sometimes even as serious as murder, rape, etc. (this is referring to terfs, i should never have to point that out) is NOT comparable to an oppressed as hell minority saying that people who literally want them dead should not be in safe spaces intended for people of a community they both happen to belong to.

to put this into perspective for yall out there literally worse than garbage (terfs)! imagine this scenario.

youre in a community of women. trans women may or may not be a part of this particular community, shut the fuck up, thats irrelevant. a group of straight women pop up, and start saying that being wlw is misogynistic and harmful to women. this is bullshit. you know that immediately. why wouldn’t it be? you explain to them the obvious reasons why it is not. they ignore you.

they begin to spew utter bullshit, claiming things like “women should never marry other women. you’re ignoring the fact that a man’s place is as a woman’s wife, and basically trying to be men, which is like admitting that men are superior.” or, “as straight women, you flaunting your homosexuality,” the woman gestures to a lesbian couple who aren’t even holding hands and haven’t been touching the whole time theyve been there. one has a small rainbow heart sticker on her purse. “makes me feel threatened in my femininity. (insert plural of 4 letter slur against lesbians that i dont feel comfortable typing a single letter of) arent really women, their existence is heterophobia and misogyny. they shouldn’t be allowed in female-only spaces because they normalize masculinity.”

over time, this group of straight women grows. they call themselves feminists, claim theyre fighting for the rights of all women! unless those women happen to love other women and dont perfectly fit their (cisnormative too but terfs are awful so they like that) heteronormative idea of a woman. they protest at the very idea of saying “significant others”, “partners”, or even “wives and/or husbands” because it doesnt fit their idea of being a woman. because they think having a wife and loving women is only for men.

eventually, they start getting braver and braver. they start going to feminist rallies, and if they spot gay women, or even women they think look gay, theyll get up in their faces, threaten them, call them slurs. theyll try to record them, try to get them fired from their jobs or outed to unsupportive families. or even just expose them to the potential of assault in their day-to-day life. because theyre gay. and that doesnt affect the straight women at all, but they hate diversity and are homophobes. so they need an excuse.

sometimes theyll get their other gay-exclusive feminist friends to record them committing violent acts against wlw feminists, just to take stills from those videos out of context when the gay women defend themselves, and then go crying to the media, twisting the roles of victim and aggressor to paint a violent picture of wlw. they say that feminist rallies should be an event only for real women or allies to their cause—meaning, to them, no wlw, and certainly no mlm. they probably even try to turn all homophobia towards gay men into a sexism issue (they are sometimes tied, but not mostly). but they lose their shit when anyone tries to tell them to get out of these safe spaces for women, because by attacking wlw for literally nothing beyond existing, they are ruining the safe part.

people start to become ashamed to call themselves feminists, and are often lumped in with these homophobes. even if they themselves are gay. straight feminists who love, support, and fight for wlw begin to feel guilty for being straight. new labels for feminist ideology begin popping up, the gay-exclusive feminists strike them down and turn them into jokes.

their end goal is to reverse victories like gay marriage, remove gay representation both in the media and in history books (sometimes even arguing that famous wlw were ‘just close friends’ with their wives or girlfriends), and to send wlw right back to hiding and marrying men for fear of their lives.

all in the name of thinly veiled homophobia feminism!

but wait, you cry, that sounds nothing like feminism! it actually sounds like misogyny and homophobia!

exactly!

think about who yall are the real-life equivalent of in that scenario.

need a hint because youre so brainwashed? try changing ‘gay/wlw’ to ‘trans’, ‘straight’ to ‘cis’, and ‘gay-exclusive’ to ‘terf’.

i doubt any of them will actually read through this, let alone realize their flawed perspective due to it, but hey. maybe ill sway some people who’re on the fence about how horrible terfs are.

[nerdepic]

and whilst im on it and dont Really Fuckin Want to have to reiterate any more, heres a goddamn breakdown okay

i hate the way this fandom treats gay people. 

gay men are not written as human beings. they are written as sex toys. they are written to be abused and raped for sexual gratification. and honestly i find this fucking disgusting, that another human would see the abuse and think its hot. 

this applies doubly for fics sexualizing child abuse and childhood sexual assault.  

i sincerely hope you seek help as to why you find raping and abusing people (especially children) sexy, because its just... not healthy. 

the reason why im so against these types of things is because 

fanfic is usually gay kids first experiences with gay media, especially if theyre still in the closet. this can and will lead them into thinking abuse is normal and they should expect it from their partners. 

because of this, im also totally for protected and clean and safe sex in fics too, 

abusers will use this content to groom their victims. (it happened to me, i was sodomised at age 13 thanks to works like these). 

its a lame excuse to say “well, SANE people would understand its just fiction” because like. if you tell any adult of any disposition “this sexual act feels good” theyre likely to attempt it. 

“i didnt write this for abusers so its a misuse” well if you write content like this, you need to be ready to handle the consequences of it BEING misused. its your creation, you have to deal with the consequences that a kid got attacked because of your fic

if you look at kids being abused and find it sexy, thats so immoral and unethical i cant even begin. why do you sexualise kids. thats disgusting. 

“ive put an authors note and tagged correctly so i can do what i want” yeah because ~everyone knows~ abusers heed warnings and tags. its a cop out so you dont have to consider what it is youre actually writing. 

seeing these situations as sexually gratifying is fetishizing abuse. thats why i call it that, because thats what it is.

now, this isnt me saying you cant write “dark issues”. i just want ppl to think about the angle theyre portraying them at.

this is a BIG DIFFERENCE and this difference is IMPORTANT.

also, fic is in so way shape or form comparable to videogames, porn, or movies, since all three things are regulated and can be banned. if a porn actor loses one piece of documentation they arent allowed to act. movie and games have been banned before for intense violence. all three still depict graphic sexual violence from times to time, and this is CONSTANTLY battled against by activist groups. 

fic is much more open world and pretty much only taken down if its plagiarism. there are no restrictions and can be accessed by anyone, and thats why its important to talk about these issues.

as for why the “coping mechanisms” excuse doesnt work:

if youre reliving your abuse with these fics thats not healthy. especially if youre sexualizing and romanticizing it. all youre doing is justifying in your mind that you deserved it, or that it wasnt really abuse. 

i know it can be difficult to move past romanticizing your abuser (most victims do this), but its the best thing to do. otherwise youre putting yourself in danger of being abused again either by the same person or someone else. you need to understand that abuse is bad, and you need to understand how bad the extent of your abuse was in order to begin moving forward. this process wont happen if youre refusing to take off your rose tinted glasses. 

you cant write a detailed sexual fic of a minor being abused and say “fiction doesnt affect reality so writing this means nothing” and then in the same breath say its how you “cope”. thats hypocritical since youre literally saying it affects your reality. 

coping mechanisms can be unhealthy! i used to self harm to cope, and it was bad for me! i was hurting myself! if i said i dealt with my anger by beating up my boyfriend, that would be unhealthy and abusive! 

this fandom wrote a fic where 17 yearold link who is implied to have a mental handicap gets drugged and raped by 40+ year old rhett and the comments were saying it was hot when he cried out in pain. this fandom wrote and supported a fic where jewish link gets recused from nazi germany by rhett. this fandom wrote and supported a fic where stevie gets corrective raped by r&l. this fandom wrote and supported a fic where rhetts WIFE jessie dresses up and roleplays as link whilst rhett has sex with her. 

and away from fic, people ALWAYS oversexualise. on every post is a sexual comment. ive banned them on my own posts and i still get them, even after saying i dont consent to them. 

no one says anything because yall react poorly to ANY criticism and people are afraid of yall. 

 and anyway:

i namedropped because they namedropped me. calling me a little shit and an ass and a bully. ive been called homophobic slurs. ive had people tell me im not really gay because im trans as well as other transphobic bs. my friends have received asks calling me names because they dare to interact with me. 

the anon sending me bullshit left a trail on my statcounter so it was easy to point out who was sending me hate. if youre saying im stalking youre giving me too much credit for what was literally copy and pasting an ip address into google. i dont care that much about you to waste my time like that. im sorry for that but only that. 

[nepnops]

ok so @capriast asked me to do the bottom half of the all of the questions from the “questions for lgbt ladies #lgbtask” bc a bottom is what i am (her words not mine). so here we go. 

45. Have you and a girlfriend ever been mistaken for sisters?

nope,

46. Do you carry a purse?

nahh. i have a reebok side bag that i use often

47. Have you ever wished you were completely straight?

HAH no. i like women too much.

48. Do you watch any lesbian YouTubers?

strictly lesbian? ally hills on occasion. but an lgbt youtuber i really like is anima gaming.

49. Do you like wearing combat boots or Doc Martins?

i’d wear both if i owned them. 

50. Have you ever been hit on by another female?

its hard to tell, when a girl is hitting on me or not. being hit on could just be read as a simple compliment by me. so not sure. maybe. idk.

51. How athletic are you?

AH HA. this question just reminded me i should work out more. 

52. How many girlfriends have you had?

one. or uh two? its a lil complicated? 

53. What is your opinion of septum/bull nose piercings?

they’re ight. u do u. 

54. Do you have any opinions on LGBT people in the military?

not really. 

55. Do you believe in love at first sight?

no. infatuation at first sight, yes.

56. Have you ever shared clothes with a girlfriend?

i would have stole sweaters if my ex and i were not long distance.

57. Have you ever been on your period the same time as a girlfriend?

i think so.

58. How flirty are you?

nnnnn if the girl is flirty back i am a flirt machine

59. Are you a virgin?

.........yes

60. Do you listen to any LGBT musicians such as Tegan and Sara, Melissa Etheridge, or Chely Wright?

lmfao who r those ppl? never heard of them. i love hayley kiyoko tho. OH and pvris. p sure they count since lynn gunn is gay.

61. Have you ever been told that you are too pretty to be gay?

yea from my mom

62. Have you ever used or would you ever want to use a dildo?

sure i’d want to, why not

63. Have you ever used or would you ever want to use a strap-on?

sure again. listen. despite what @capriast said abt me being a bottom, i’d try wearin a strap on. i can be a switch if i WANNA. 

64. Is there such a thing as “good” lesbian porn?

ya

65. Have you ever had a one night stand?

no

66. Agree or disagree: Everyone is at least a little bit gay.

disagree. 

67. What personality trait are you most attracted to?

confidence, probs. or quirkiness. 

68. Boobs or butts?

uh. boobs i think. not like humongous ones tho. 

69. Beer or wine?

BEEEEEER

70. What is your favorite lesbian movie?

i dont think i’ve watched one. 

71. Have you ever been personally discriminated against because of your sexuality? If so, please explain.

dont think so. my father has strongly implied that if we knew i was gay he’d kick me outta the house. so theres that. 

72. From 1-10, how attractive are muscular women?

10000000 i love strong women holy shit, fuck me up

73. From 1-10, how attractive are women who wear glasses?

10, they cute

74. From 1-10, how attractive are women who are covered with tattoos?

9. hawt

75. From 1-10, how attractive are curvy/plus-size women?

im not too into curvy women tbh

76. From 1-10, how attractive are women with short hair?

8, v noice

77. From 1-10, how attractive are masculine butch women?

7, i’m more attracted to futch girls like me but butch gals r cool

78. Has a girl ever dumped you for a guy?

nope

79. Lesbian couples tend to look alike. Why do you think that is?

this concept goes for gay and hetero couples too, not just lesbian. but idk. i think theres some science behind it.

80. Do you have any LGBT relatives?

i have like, 4 gay aunts, a gay uncle, and gay cousin on my moms side lol.

82. Would you ever date a trans girl?

ye sure!

83. How has being out affected your relationship with women, in general?

not by much. i have good friends that accept me for who i am so not much has changed. just lotsa gay jokes. 

84. Have you ever had a crush on a woman who’s much older than you?

nah

85. Do you have any celebrity crushes?

they’re not crushes really. just woman that make my heart go “HHHFHFHGH” yknow? 

86. What does equality mean to you?

being, treated equality? is this supposed to be a trick question? 

87. If you could live your life all over again, would you still be attracted to other women?

probably

88. What stereotype about LGBT women do you disagree with the most?

that lgbt women tend to cheat a lot. what a horrible and negative thing to say abt a group of people. 

89. What advice would you give a girl who is struggling to figure out her sexuality?

u may hop from label to label from just tryna categorize ur sexuality. and thats completely okay. you will understand urself someday, no need to rush anything. find friends who will support u no matter what.

90. What advice would you give a girl who is struggling to come out?

dont come out if u arent sure you’ll be safe afterwards. if ur sure u will be ok after coming out, come out to the person one on one, while they’re driving a car. apparently thats better bc ur not forced to make eye contact with the person and the person has to keep their chill bc they’re driving a car. so yea. 

OK IM DONE @capriast not doing this many questions at once AGAIN

[rookiewithachance]

ok you know what this is getting its own post so tumblr doesnt delete half my tags and therefor half the shit i have to say about this like it did with the first version of this post

personal shit below the cut—nothing bad or graphic or triggering (unless you count minor gender dysphoria and parents not getting it...) just me ranting about my parents and the gender identity crisis im going through right now.... so read at your own discretion 

i knOW that this isn’t like a special or new issue.... this shit happens to lots of people, where they’re going through gender identity crises or what have you, and when they talk to their parents about it the parents just don’t fuckin get it. they’re not even like angry about it they just actively don’t understand, and they do it in a semi harmful way.

but listen okay l i s t e n

if i have to listen to my mom say “but why do you need to label it, why can’t you just be you” one more time im gonna mcfuckin lose it ok

she means well i know she does and she and my dad are from a very different time where labels were considered Bad but listen ma, i love you but a) why does what i choose to call myself bother you so damn much especially when you can see that im upset about it when i brought it up, and b) this??? IS me being myself????? that is exACTLY WHAT’S HAPPENING RN im trying!! to figure out who or what myself is!!! but thank you!!!!! for adding to my doubt and feeding the voice in my head that tells me that i’m just making shit up and that i’m taking away from the people who are actually going through gender stuff and that im just overthinking myself..................... because lowkey it feels like thats what im doing. and i know i kNOW that that’s probably not true because that’s exactly what i did with mental illness and boom would you look at that, and my mental health is probably affecting this as well, but...... mER

i dont even know if i can CALL this gender dysphoria... idk like that phrase carries such weight to me and this doesnt feel like its... at that level?? i dont feel like i was born into the wrong body or that i need to transition in any way bc to me my genitals dont have to define my gender. like look ok fuckin listen i have a fuckin vulva and a vagina and mammaries’r’w/e and shit but that doesnt have to mean im a girl. i dont need a dick to be masculine, just like i dont have to have a vulva to be feminine. which side tangent why do i even care masculinity and femininity are both social constructs and are complete bullshit in my opinion so whY DOES THIS EVEN MATTER TO ME??? @my brain what the actual fuck why are you like this

anyways

its not even like.... being referred to as female is what bothers me. i don’t mind she/her pronouns, i dont really care about what pronouns people use for me, but it’s just................. when someone uses female-coded or even male-coded language in reference towards me. things that started as gendered but became more neutral like dude or babe and other shit dont bother me its just...... like listen every time one of my parents calls me baby girl it lowkey actually makes me want to cry, and i dont know why i just feel so shitty being called that

i also just sometimes.... feel more masculine or more feminine than other times and wanna present differently. like im considering looking into getting a binder because i really feel like that would help with the presentation stuff but also!!! theres that doubt again!!!!! ahahahahaha silly kelli ur not trans binders arent For You and if you buy them that’s appropriation or something, either way its bad and you should feel shitty for considering it :)

is this like................ idk, is this genderfluid???? is that what this is??????? idk idk ive just been saying gender nonconforming bc that covers the gist of it and lets me sort my shit out without the pressure of needing to “””stay true””” to whatever label or thing i use..... again, another irrational anxiety but h e y thats me for ya

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa this is getting long but heres the thing: i love my parents. i really fucking do. they have their shortcomings of course because being the perfect parent is literally impossible, but all in all im pretty fortunate to have such loving parents. but theyre just. theyre a lot right now. i get it okay i do, they miss me and theyre going through separation stuff and they feel like theyre losing me or whatever but like...... i dont........ want to video chat every night, like we did my freshman year. i needed that then, and what i need now is...... space. some space to figure out how to be a singular entity doing shit for myself and having time to be alone with my thoughts yknow. my mental health is in the goddamn sewers and i havent been sleeping as well as i should be and im feeling overwhelmed with schoolwork and clubs and then of course all this gender stuff started happening :) so yeah sorry if im not very talkative when you chat with me every single night. i dont have much to talk about, and the stuff you guys talk about???? sorry but.... i dont really care. its shitty to say but i just. i dont. i love you guys but i have better shit to be doing than talking about who you saw in the coffeeshop this morning or what happened at work

and see, normally i would talk to them about this. but i just... dont think that would do anyone any good. they wont understand it, and then when i explain it theyre just gonna feel dumb, and theyre gonna forget and slip up and never remember and then just go around feeling guilty about it without ever changing their language...... and their guilt is gonna make me feel like shit too. so whats even the point of telling them about it?? of getting them to actually sit down and listen instead of bringing it up in the middle of sobbing my way through my woes and my parents asking me well meant but upsetting questions and then moving on as if nothing happened 

sigh........... idk. thats about it i guess. congrats if you got this far, im sending you digital hugs. words of support are of course appreciated but not at all necessary, i aint fishin for anything im just here to lay it all out in one place. hopefully i get some of all this mess sorted out. if i had more money id just go ahead and buy a binder but im a bit strapped for cash. not broke per se but i have very limited funds and those have to carry me through the entire semester, so....... trying not to make any unnecessary purchases and my brain refuses to justify a binder as something worth the money.......... which again, is probably not true, but.... we’ll see.

much love to you all, im gonna head to bed and try to sleep cause i got class in the morning and i still havent finished the readings ;3

[diamantcowboy]

nobody gives a FUCK what you think bc you support conversion therapy and corrective rape. males cannot be lesbians bc lesbian is the word for a female homosexual and a homosexual is someone exclusively attracted to the opposite sex. i do not protect males and bisexual women appropriating the term lesbian to harass lesbians for not being attracted to the opposite sex. get a new word. make your own spaces. sexual orientation is based on biological sex and you're an ignorant homophobe.

TW!! RAPE MENTION AND CURSING

congrats on being my first anon hate!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! glad to know I’m popular!!

for future reference all anon hate must be written in a proper public forum debate case format so it may be easier to rebut. Organizing your argument into contentions makes everything so much better, and I will be happy to provide you with an example. 

Contention 1-  Conversion Therapy and Corrective Rape.

Conversion therapy and corrective rape are horrible monsters that  affect the entire LGBTQ+ community and it is an unfair to suggest that trans women do not experience these things and are worse involved in the rape and torture of innocent members of the community. This is a mentality that not only supports the idea that Trans people are “evil” but the idea that trans people are rapists, when in reality, one in two trans women will be sexually harassed or raped at some pint in her lifetime. I would also like to point out that you are accusing a 14 year old Nonbinary lesbian of being pro conversion therapy, when I have many friends who were forced into conversion therapy.

Contention 2- Sex and Gender and why the TERF mentality is inherently misogynistic.

To put it bluntly the TERF mentality is that Vagina = Woman and the vagina is inherently a feminine tool used for sex specifically with said TERF. A woman with a Penis confuses a TERF. “if woman have no vagina how do woman have sex with me? Woman with penis is not woman”. Same goes ofr trans men. A Man with a Vagina confuses a TERF because the terf only enjoys the company of a woman and women “enjoy” the TERFs company. because to a TERF Woman= Vagina and this man has a Vagina “Terf is Angry Terf want sex with vagina” Essentially a TERF views her dating pool as a bunch of vaginas. This is not what you should want in a pardner and this is not the pardner you want to be. Women come in many different forms and each on is beautiful and unique. The Terf mentality also erases Lovely intersex people.

Contention 3-.Don’t tell people what they can and cannot fucking call themselves Linda.

If I am comfortable with being Non Binary and comfortable in the  fact that I almost exclusively love women then I am allowed to call myself a non binary lesbian. All of us beautiful trans sisters and Nonbinary buddies who are also lesbians will not stop because some shitty Terf on the internet is uncomfortable with having acknowlenge the fact that women arent just vaginas told them that they her invading her community. News flash asshole, this commuity is for alll different kinds of LGBTQ friends and we dont really need further bullying in our lives to remind us that we belive you are shitty and kinda gross/ thx!!

in conclusion fuck you