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turtely's OTP challenge
read day 25 "That Familiarity, That Femininity" on Ao3!
prompt: trying to seduce one another
summary: Sherlock knows just the trick to get John to be more open to dating men. More specifically, dating Sherlock.
T, 894 words, Getting Together. Developing Relationship, Drinking, Lipstick & Lip Gloss, Kissing, Mutual Pining, Resolved Sexual Tension
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Sherlock was laying on the couch, hands steepled underneath his chin. He was thinking. About John Watson – as so often. John went on many dates. He didn’t seem too happy about them. Or, yes he did, but there were never many dates with the same woman, which he then complained about until he found a new woman to go out with.
That’s when Sherlock opened his eyes widely. It was clear as water all of the sudden: John just needed to go out with a man for once. He knew John was bisexual. He never told him that, but the signs were clear. Well, and since it would take a while to find a candidate, he would gladly suggest himself.
He got up to take a shower.
He went to put on fresh clothes… Black shirt, one more button open than necessary. Tight, black trousers, the ones that flattered his arse exceptionally nicely. He styled his hair into a perfect curly mess. He put on cologne and… hesitated. He looked very masculine… maybe if he gave John something familiar – something feminine – John would more easily get over the fact that Sherlock was a man. It didn’t take long to find just what he was looking for. Sherlock smiled cheekily.
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John was frustrated. Sexually frustrated. He loved sex, hell, he would go so far and say he needed sex. He was grumpy and agitated when he hadn’t had sex in a while. Was it a bad thing to like sex that much, need it, even? John didn’t know and quite frankly didn’t care. He just knew he wanted it.
So today John would go out, take Stamford with him. Wear his best smiles, use his best jokes and get laid. John nodded at himself. As good as done.
When he got home he immediately took a shower. As he walked out of the bathroom, only wearing his towels low on his hips, he noticed Sherlock was laying on the couch. He greeted him, then headed upstairs to change into better clothes.
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Breathe in (Sherlock breathed in), breathe out (Sherlock breathed out). He didn’t know why he was freaking out, but he was. That wasn’t entirely true: He knew he was freaking out because he saw some skin. That really shouldn’t be that special. He had seen lots of skin before, lots of naked bodies even. However, Sherlock didn’t expect John to come out of the shower showing off that much of naked skin, practically radiating sexual energy at him, as if he was some kind of sex god. Sherlock groaned and sank deeper into the couch, the images rushing into his mind.
Finally he heard John coming down. He wore nothing special really. A button up, dark jeans, his best cologne.
“I am going out. I will go pick up Mike,” John declared.
Sherlock sat up. “There’s no need.”
“How do you-“ John stopped. Stared. Opened his mouth, “What happened to your lips?”
Sherlock wanted to smile, wanted to squeal and jump, when John stared at him. Eyes fixated on Sherlock’s lips. He had him. Right there, that was the familiarity, that femininity John needed. He stood up and walked over to John. “Lipstick, John. Lipstick happened to my lips,” he said. Sherlock scanned John’s face, categorised his reaction. Smirked, “You are going out with me tonight.”
John still glared at his mouth. When he finally realised he had been staring he breathed in deeply, raised his gaze to Sherlock’s eyes. And bravely, like the closeted bisexual, ex-army doctor he was asked, “Where to?”
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Now, John was sitting at a bar, which name he had already forgotten and glared at the smear of lipstick on Sherlock’s glass. It was stupid, really. But seeing dark red lipstick on Sherlock’s face… he took another gulp from his third drink (or was it the fourth?).
He had tried to look at women, even checked out some guys, but his attention always fell back to his best friend. And that goddamn lipstick. They were talking about… he didn’t even know what. He looked down, surprised. How had his hand landed on Sherlock’s forearm? Didn’t matter. His eyes found Sherlock’s. He surprised himself, when he asked, “Do you want to dance with me?”
Sherlock’s face was full of questions for second. Then he said, “Let’s.”
So John got up, took Sherlock’ hand because hell, he was drunk and he wanted to. When they were on the dance floor John stood there for a second. Then started giggling. “Sherlock, I forgot that I have no idea how to dance!”
Sherlock stepped closer. “I’ll teach you,” his deep voice kindling something inside of John . The detective took John’s hands in his, put them on his shoulders. And as they stood there - John’s arms around Sherlock’s shoulders, the tall man’s lips dark red at John’s eye level – intoxicated as he was, he leaned in. Not to dance, no. To kiss. Immediately Sherlock responded – he stepped closer, put his hand on John’s neck, his thumb caressing the space behind his ear. The kiss was careful at first, but with every second it grew more rough. Leaving almost no room to breathe.
“I think we should take this dance lesson to Baker Street” John groaned between kisses. Sherlock, whose lipstick was now smeared, searched John’s eyes, then nodded.
It was a nice ‘dance lesson’ indeed.
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Some easy witch tips
#witchcraft#witchblr#witches#witchy#dark academia#witch aesthetic#witch#witch community#witchcore#green witch#coven#Wicca#pagan#eclectic witch#eclectic wicca#easy witchcraft#on a budget#easy tips#dark feminine energy#cats familiar#sea witch#wandering witch#witch coven#witchy tips#witchythings#witchy home#witchyvibes#lilith goddess#hecate goddess#witchy woman
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I remember when I started to watch The Dragon Prince and went to YouTube to find reviews of the show. I saw several people expressing confusion around Viren’s character. Like what’s his role in the story. Is he a good guy or a bad guy? People saying his character and motivations are confusing etc.
Like damn, you’ve never met a man like Viren??
You aren’t familiar with the type of guy who tries to live up to the unattainable or downright destructive ideals of hegemonic masculinity. A man who buys into those ideals so much that he dehumanises himself and by extension others and becomes completely unfeeling while also acting like he’s the victim when people push back on the injustices his ideals enforce? A person who sees himself as the hero and gets offended when others don’t buy into his narrative of individualistic heroism that reduces other people into props to be used and controlled in his story of greatness and self-sacrifice.
Hmmm I think this show might have something to say about masculinity here.
#preeetty familiar with the type of guy he is#I get that people only watch a thing once and then post their first reactions but#if you're confused by something maybe it's for a reason#viren#lord viren#tdp meta#yum yum the parallers to Aaravos#kinda interesting that TDP has lot to say about deconstructing masculinity but not femininity#not that it has to just observing#watch Utena for that I guess
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cruz (he/she/they) ✦ eva (she/her)
courtney (she/her) ✦ kimimila (they/them)
rong mei (she/her) ✦ priyanka (she/her)
pavot (he/him) ✦ nasrin (she/her)
#sims 4#sims showcase round 2!!!!#these are all older sims that i made using reference (except courtney)#nasrin i made for my friend haven!!! pavot is my wifes [redacted]s bf (idk if it was ever revealed hehe)#kimimila i also made for her but i dont remember what for and they never made it to her#the others are all just randos i felt like making#but theyre now being used to populate my world n im so happy#nasrin and courtney are going to be connies neighbors!!!#re kimimilas name: if anyone is familiar w lakota names just know that i am aware its meant to be a feminine name. its their chosen name#that they picked to reconnect w a culture they grew up away from#also say hi to pavots hickey. its a cult classic
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Also while I'm here:
YES you can call me Emry as casually as you like, we are FRIENDS now and I will do my best to get your names (just pls stay respectful, I've been extremely lucky to only have wonderful people in my anons)
And I will take any honorific or descriptor you think fits/is funny, I've been called miss emry and I've been called mr stars and I did a happy little laugh at both
I don't offend easily at all and i love talking to you all, so in case you've been wondering about approaching me: here u go, please do 💕
#i know some people have the stance of 'you dont know me dont act over familiar'#which is incredibly valid of them#bc that usually means theyve been approached inappropriately or someone jumps straight to actual insults#without an actual boundary of what counts as 'joking'#but that hasnt been my experience so far!#im not big enough yet to get real hate or anything and also im just v fortunate#to have only wonderful people around#so we are Friends. as long as youre nice to me 💋#though i do love a good banter#and if youre really worried about referring to me#you can err on the side of neutral or feminine 💕#not art sorry guys#about me#now that we've all started talking for realsies lol
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yes, fuck cops. but also if you think you understand WHY cops are bad, you should probably dig more into why. if you're completely self assured that you know the full breadth of why the system of policing is so rotten, you have failed yourself.
#exoticbutterstxt#i still have a lot of books i need to read about this topic#and theres a lot i still dont understand#and/or will never be intimately familiar with#however i make an effort to learn about this and other injustices#i've had bad experiences with police but because i have the benefit of white feminine perceived fragility#i am shielded from the brunt of what people of color experience#and all i can do to try and understand is continue to be open to learning#instead of assuring myself i get the gist and therefore dont need to learn any more#and you should be doing the same
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NGL I think if you're writing RGU analysis and you call Utena's gender nonconformity sexist you may not be writing good RGU analysis
#cipher talk#RGU#Girl has long pink hair and wears lipstick and she's too butch for you#The problem in RGU isn't masculinity its patriarchy. The problem with Utena trying to be a prince isn't because she's not acting like a gir#(The show is rather direct in this by having Touga degrade Utena to the point where she dresses 'like a girl' and is obviously depressed#While doing so and once she's reclaimed her self worth by kicking his ass dressing masculinely again#And by having Akio comment on how 'girlish' Utena looks after he rapes her)#Her masculinity does not imply other girls are lesser#The problem is that being a prince REQUIRES you to deny agency to others and requires the creation of a villain and a victim for you to#Perform the act of being a prince. In this case a witch and a princess. This is system is still bad when the genders change but in its form#Is a vehicle of patriarchy#The prince is not masculinity itself. It is toxic masculinity/patriarchal masculinity#How ugly RGU would be if Utena's failure to save both Anthy and herself was because of her masculinity!#And not because when confronted by her rapist she tried to claim the language of abuse and power to distance herself from being a victim!#Subsequently casting the girl she loves- another victim- into an objectified role as a tool for Utena to reclaim a sense of power#In the moment of confrontation with the man who abused them both they both slide into toxic but familiar behaviors#Which have little to do with Utena's masculinity or Anthy's femininity and everything to do with abuse
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#my name is that fun level of unique where no one knows what it is and no one knows the cultural origin#so they very rarely have any preconceived notions#meaning i get the standard “tell me the story! ” response which i have refined over the years#to a tidy three sentences and also an optional joke fourth sentence when i really wanna set the mood#kenposting#tumblr polls#ken lore time: my actual real name is the name of a mountain named after a bastardization of a cherokee word#which my mother further altered to give a more ~feminine~ spelling so like#if you dont know the area where the mountain is or have familiarity with cherokee language then. it just sounds made up#(which technically it was. see aforementioned “bastardization of cherokee word”)
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How I sleep understanding my favorite villain's personality and backstory and why they work so well while also throwing key aspects of it away for the benefit of my own indulgences btw ^_^
#📡 incoming transmission 📡#once again talking about frieza. mostly. their backstory and direct mirroring of goku's is the strongest in the series#they never had to life a finger for anything ever and thats the point#but.... sometimes a guy has certain needs and urges#i also mess with buu and cell but thats after they died so i can do whatever. like introducing a character for them to bounce off of#is one thing but changing their backstory is another. do you see it? i dont think i need to do that to tell a meaningful story#for frieza however i do not want them 'going soft' for anyone ever. i want them to have been soft from the very beginning#that's a lot stronger to me. what if they cared? what if they cared so much. what then.#any other changes i make to characters i like esp villains is more... well. where can we go from here buddy?#and less What would happen if your backstory was a moved a little bit to the left. it just genuinely depends on what works best ^^#self insert#selfshipping#f/o#selfship#self ship#also bc its driving me up the wall:#me whenever i tell you that frieza cannot be enjoyed separately from their femininity and poise so frieza with a square jaw means nothing#and cell was hard for me to grasp but the truth is that the more human she became the scarier she got.#like another false sense of familiarity almost#and buu is all over the place because buu is buu and makes little to no logical sense#this has nothing to do with the post. sometimes i just like to sound smart#and as a proof that i do know frieza plenty well i just love to fuck with them and make them care for someone
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A friend of mine gave me an article she wrote about her illness and it mentioned the caretakers around her. She mentioned her husband's coworkers who will cover for him when he goes to the hospital with her. And that's not what comes to mind when one thinks of "caretaker (of a disabled person)".
It made me think of the time I was being too much of a caretaker for everyone around me and decided that I had to take care of myself too. So I looked up "how to care for a caretaker" and it was disappointing. Most of the things I found were like "remember to do something you enjoy, try to find someone to cover for you for an hour or so so you can rest" and it's like... So somebody who is 24h caring for a family member should also be responsible for finding someone to give her some rest or to make time for her own enjoyment. Right. Sure. Nobody will take care of her and she has to take care of herself and someone else. Noted.
I also thought of that theory of sharing worries. It was something like "when someone has cancer, the worries around it have to go outwards: the patient will tell their partner, the partner will tell a friend, the friend will tell someone outside of this circle, etc." This way, the people more affected by the situation are not charged with the extra load of having to emotionally manage the worries of someone who is not going through it. The cancer patient doesn't have to console their friend about how they feel when seeing them in the hospital on top of dealing with the chemo effects, for instance. The friend will share those feelings outside of the patient's life while being available for the patient to complain about the hospitalisation.
In situations when the government fails to provide support for the sick person and their caretaker, it's up to them and the money they might or might not have to find a solution. People like to help but depending on the demands of the situation, it may be outside of what most people can do or are willing to do for love. If, for whatever the reason, the family lives isolated or far from other people, who cares for the caretaker? When do they get a break?
And sometimes, giving someone a break in these circumstances looks a lot like the co-workers covering your shift, the neighbours stopping by to see if you need groceries, or any other seemingly small task that will already reduce the things to do for the caretaker.
Notice how the worries go outwards but the help goes inwards. I let you know I'm tired because I spent the night up caring for my child, you or another acquaintance bring me a Tupperware with food so I don't have to cook today.
It is difficult sometimes to know how to care for a caretaker, particularly if they are caring for an elderly relative, a child or a disabled person with high needs. Where do you start? Well, just lending your ear to listen to their worries and complains, helping out with small everyday tasks related groceries, cooking or cleaning, covering the first hour in the mornings at work so they can sleep a bit longer...
It feels like the only useful help in some cases is actually giving free time from the caretaking by doing it ourselves. And that is certainly a huge help. You are a caretaker by directly taking care. But releasing from other duties, not creating extra layers of work already gives some rest. If the only hour I don't have to be checking on the person I care for I have to spend cooking for the day, there is no rest for me. However, if food had magically appeared, I can just lay down and rest, read a book or watch tv.
My friend's comment made me realise that there are many ways of caretaking and that it is actually a chain. When it breaks, then there is only one caretaker isolated from the world, responsible for her own well being. When it works, there are several caretakers and it is less lonely for both the person who needs care and for their direct caretaker. It takes a village.
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Blessed Sunday witches 🖤
#witchcraft#witchblr#witches#witchy#dark academia#witch aesthetic#witch community#witchcore#green witch#witch#old ways#tradition wicca#eclectic witch#witch coven#wichy vibes#wicca aesthetic#whimsical#wiccalife#spooky#spooky corner#witch core#coven#lilith#hecate#dark feminine energy#dark femininity#dark goddess#whimsy#gothic#cats familiar
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I sure have a lot of complex gender/sexuality feels for a cishet person. Like give it up already. You got it in one, you’re fine
#cj#autism moment#sorry that I don’t have the clarity of purpose to make a huge daunting change#and I don’t like ANY of these gendered expectations#so the ones I’m most familiar with are okay I guess#but I’m fascinated by femininity in an ‘outside looking in’ way#like I want to get closer to it. but not in the way I’m supposed to#what am I even saying I lost myself
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making sure i can still draw from all that gamign (sims based doodles + tadpole steppy and HOLY FUCK XANDRE FROM FANTROLLS?)
#gem art#sgt frog#keroro gunso#xandre lerant#<- i'd say real ones remember him but if anyones still following me from my homestuck era im scared of them#kamomo came from keroro and tamama shiroro came from dororo and giroro#shes called kemama in game because funny and i thought it was more feminine but actually gender isnt real in keronian names. i see this now#also as you can see keronian kuruclone has given herself a designer tail :) its curled up like a shiba tail you see#i have no idea what existing symbol i probably subconsciously copied on shiroro btw#it seems familiar but idk
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every so often i catch myself thinking “but am i really nb” and then i remember how dysphoric italian classes make me feel
#german gendered terms don’t bother me as much but i think some of it is i’m more familiar with like#the Options there if i wanted to not use feminine terms#i do not have that for italian unless i only use masculine instead which i. also do not want to do
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is there a story behind your url?:]/nf
Yes. Have you ever heard of homestuck-
#the askers#okay the actual story is. I was 13 and reading homestuck#and i dunno if you're familiar with it or not but tldr homestuck characters have urls that always have two words (usually in latin) and they#begin with letters C A G or T (or U)#i misremebered this and made a funky handle for myself using letters T and F. cause I thought F was one of them#the handles usually implied something about the characters so I chose mine based on my struggle with masculine feminine presentation#at that time#I tried to change it years later but I got too attached and now it's practically my surname I'm Jade Feminetomboy forever
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#no accident to me that so many of the people in bojack's life are casually queer and he never bats an eye idk#casually queer here to me means that the character's queerness is not their sole or most important trait or the focus of their plotline#sharona is the first one to come to mind she was clearly not straight#and like yeah you can make the argument that working in film/theatre means you're going to be surrounded by gays 24/7#but also there are still some incredibly cishet people in the industry who don't really extend outside their bubble lmfao#i always think abt how bojack's reaction to todd coming out is so indicative of him either being super open minded and chill#or already being familiar w the community and the nuances of different identities etc#ALSO. the fact that he was usually dressed in a sailor's uniform as a child#something something gay signaling but especially how traditionally sailor uniforms were seen as feminine#and were only acceptable for very young boys so after a certain age it's no longer appropriate dress#makes you think.#bojack horseman#chatter
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